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How to get more meets ??
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi everyone been on and off fab for a little while and had a few fantastic meets but it’s seems so hard for genuine guys to get anywhere as there seems to be a very large ratio of men to ladies on here so how can you stand out of the crowd ??  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Your profile is your way to stand out. Is it the best it can be? If many are like me they look at profiles before opening messages and if the profile doesn’t entice the message gets deleted without reading! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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‘Genuine guys’
Stick that in your bio for a start.
Second, try the forums. We’re all sleeping together on here.
Third, have you considered that maybe you just have to be a certain level of attractive to get lots of meets? I accepted that and fab became a lot better.
finally, before they tell you about socials and clubs, don’t consider those if you don’t *want* to (that’s the only genuine bit of advice you’ll get from me).
 hope this thread provides more help than I  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"‘Genuine guys’
Stick that in your bio for a start. "
Haha
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"Third, have you considered that maybe you just have to be a certain level of attractive to get lots of meets? I accepted that and fab became a lot better. "
This right here ….
 and I remember a guy (from real life) and this might sound mean, but he wasn’t what you’d say was good looking or a ‘hottie!’ He just oozed something the women were into. His confidence and the way he was was enough to turn a lot of stunners his way. Most guys thought he was a lucky guy.
But this is fab, and it’s a catalogue. They look at the pictures first op.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I must admit fab has gone down hill in the last year or so it’s changed a lot "
I’m not in anyway trying to defend the website. It’ll still survive after you and I leave.
But what do you mean ‘down hill?
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"Why do people always suggest clubs and socials?
They’re not even a better way to get meets? Especially if you have anxiety? They can be cliquey. Some people use online websites and apps to meet people because it’s easier to talk to people on there and then 1-1.
I went to my first social and if it wasn’t for meeting a lovely forum person who knew a few people then I would’ve left pretty soon and not spoken to many people because it was way too overwhelming.
It just seems like too much of an obvious suggestion- if someone could do them surely they’d already have done them?
This isn’t an attacking comment by the way, just genuinely get confused at how many people this is the solution to finding a fwb or getting more meets. "
For some clubs and socials work (obviously not for all) I've only attended small socials where it has been easy for everyone to chat and meet. The hosts have been fantastic at getting everyone involved and making sure no-one is left feeling like a spare part. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"Why do people always suggest clubs and socials?
They’re not even a better way to get meets? Especially if you have anxiety? They can be cliquey. Some people use online websites and apps to meet people because it’s easier to talk to people on there and then 1-1.
I went to my first social and if it wasn’t for meeting a lovely forum person who knew a few people then I would’ve left pretty soon and not spoken to many people because it was way too overwhelming.
It just seems like too much of an obvious suggestion- if someone could do them surely they’d already have done them?
This isn’t an attacking comment by the way, just genuinely get confused at how many people this is the solution to finding a fwb or getting more meets. "
I think it's because... generally men are pretty crap at taking photos of themselves. I'm sorry. I'm generalising I know. But in real life a man comes alive, you can see their smile, the way their body moves under their clothes. The way they interact with people. Even if they're not the most classically attractive, in person some people just have this animal magnetism. Like a sexual energy that's hard to resist.
So I guess it's an easy go to that's well meant but not considering how another feels about them.
Op, look at your profile. Make that the best it can be. If you don't want to go to clubs or socials, don't. But you'll have to be proactive in getting attention in other ways, whether that's via marketing through the fora, your profile or chat rooms. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Be taller + better looking + tattoos
Failing that, go to social + clubs where your personality can do the talking "
ha ha. I work on it every day.
absolutely socials and clubs to allow your personality to shine through |
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"I must admit fab has gone down hill in the last year or so it’s changed a lot "
I have said the same myself. The forums used to be a great place to come and have a laugh, these days they are worse than a school playground..people get jumped on and ridiculed for the slightest thing which is quite sad to see x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I must admit fab has gone down hill in the last year or so it’s changed a lot
I have said the same myself. The forums used to be a great place to come and have a laugh, these days they are worse than a school playground..people get jumped on and ridiculed for the slightest thing which is quite sad to see x"
I’d like to jump on you …  |
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"I must admit fab has gone down hill in the last year or so it’s changed a lot "
Definitely !, the slippy slope began before covid. Almost no genuine and well mannered 'local' folk on here anymore, even for a couple ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Your profile is your way to stand out. Is it the best it can be? If many are like me they look at profiles before opening messages and if the profile doesn’t entice the message gets deleted without reading! "
I do exactly the same, but then I’ll get another message asking why I never read… I never respond to a blank profile |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I must admit fab has gone down hill in the last year or so it’s changed a lot "
Turning up to things that used to be better is the story of my life! "Oh it used to be great here, we went on work do's all paid for by the company...... Not any more!" |
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Stop making excuses.
Sell yourself better online.
If you can’t do that then go to socials/clubs and sell yourself.
On here you are a product…either sell yourself or pray that the perfect woman loves FAB bingo lingo and one pic profiles…
Or change your ways so you stand out more and appeal to more
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Stop making excuses.
Sell yourself better online.
If you can’t do that then go to socials/clubs and sell yourself.
On here you are a product…either sell yourself or pray that the perfect woman loves FAB bingo lingo and one pic profiles…
Or change your ways so you stand out more and appeal to more
K"
Oooo savage  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well, I mean, be better? Yeah?
Literally threads asking this on the daily, answered over and over.
Better profile, pics, engagement, messages, approach, patience etc etc.
So yeah I was right, be better. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"Stop making excuses.
Sell yourself better online.
If you can’t do that then go to socials/clubs and sell yourself.
On here you are a product…either sell yourself or pray that the perfect woman loves FAB bingo lingo and one pic profiles…
Or change your ways so you stand out more and appeal to more
K"
K! That's so direct. Fuck. You're so hot right now. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ll just add, read profiles and make sure you fit what they’re looking for.
The amount of messages I get from short men, or meet today or how filthy can you get messages is insane when a read of my profile would show that I’m not interested in any of these. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi everyone been on and off fab for a little while and had a few fantastic meets but it’s seems so hard for genuine guys to get anywhere as there seems to be a very large ratio of men to ladies on here so how can you stand out of the crowd ?? "
Make sure you read profiles and match their requirements before messaging. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’ll just add, read profiles and make sure you fit what they’re looking for.
The amount of messages I get from short men, or meet today or how filthy can you get messages is insane when a read of my profile would show that I’m not interested in any of these."
By the way, meet tomorrow? How clean can you really get? Like is the smell of bleach, sexy? |
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The greige men here will always struggle. If you're not greige, you have to show your full colours, to give yourself a reasonable chance.
What were your expectations? How realistic were they? It's reasonable to expect that most people you engage with will not be mutually compatible, so chats will peter out to nothing. It means investment of huge amounts of time and effort to get anywhere. |
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"Hi everyone been on and off fab for a little while and had a few fantastic meets but it’s seems so hard for genuine guys to get anywhere as there seems to be a very large ratio of men to ladies on here so how can you stand out of the crowd ?? "
Well you’ve had a 4 meets in 10 months so not bad. A good start might be to display your veris and perhaps have some other pics. Failing that keep starting forum threads |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I must admit fab has gone down hill in the last year or so it’s changed a lot
I have said the same myself. The forums used to be a great place to come and have a laugh, these days they are worse than a school playground..people get jumped on and ridiculed for the slightest thing which is quite sad to see x"
When has this honestly not been the case....
It's always been a bit cutthroat on the forums |
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"Hi everyone been on and off fab for a little while and had a few fantastic meets but it’s seems so hard for genuine guys to get anywhere as there seems to be a very large ratio of men to ladies on here so how can you stand out of the crowd ?? "
You're first two paragraphs are very off putting.
Your photo is meh.
We're always very very suspicious of people who are verified and don't show verifications. We presume they say "met this guy and he was an absolute twat, do not meet him" |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Here is the thing OP.
There will be contradictory advise the whole way through the thread.
All you can do is present yourself as well as you can, while still being true to yourself.
More/better pics will help bit only put up what your comfortable with etc....
In the end its only fab don't let it get to you too much |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi everyone been on and off fab for a little while and had a few fantastic meets but it’s seems so hard for genuine guys to get anywhere as there seems to be a very large ratio of men to ladies on here so how can you stand out of the crowd ??
You're first two paragraphs are very off putting.
Your photo is meh.
We're always very very suspicious of people who are verified and don't show verifications. We presume they say "met this guy and he was an absolute twat, do not meet him" "
Nobody writes that in a veri ffs |
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"I must admit fab has gone down hill in the last year or so it’s changed a lot
I have said the same myself. The forums used to be a great place to come and have a laugh, these days they are worse than a school playground..people get jumped on and ridiculed for the slightest thing which is quite sad to see x
When has this honestly not been the case....
It's always been a bit cutthroat on the forums"
Not as bad as it is now. The amount of people who seem to take joy in belittling others is paramount these days. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I must admit fab has gone down hill in the last year or so it’s changed a lot
I have said the same myself. The forums used to be a great place to come and have a laugh, these days they are worse than a school playground..people get jumped on and ridiculed for the slightest thing which is quite sad to see x
When has this honestly not been the case....
It's always been a bit cutthroat on the forums
Not as bad as it is now. The amount of people who seem to take joy in belittling others is paramount these days."
I don't know I honestly rambert comments like this 3 years ago and 3 years before that and 3 years.... you get the point. I think at times we all just suffer fatigue of Internet forums.
Or maybe I've been desensitised to it instead |
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Nobody writes that in a veri ffs
Obviously. But it may say something like "fucked me bareback" or "was really rough and dominant" but they are presenting themselves to us as a sub.
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Yep if all veris hidden first assumption is something not right. Maybe unfair in some cases but given the number of men here easy to stick to those who have good veris on display. |
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"Hi everyone been on and off fab for a little while and had a few fantastic meets but it’s seems so hard for genuine guys to get anywhere as there seems to be a very large ratio of men to ladies on here so how can you stand out of the crowd ?? "
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A 'quick win' and a starter-for-ten would be to add some parenthesis. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"And probably not best to copy and paste someone’s profile…. Especially mine
*I’m calling you out on that one fella.
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Stand out of the crowd…by copying someone verbatim? Novel approach. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Or just copy someone else's bio word for word, lol
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He took you quite literally!!!....
I forgot he’d said that lol guessing OP doesn’t get sarcasm! "
Haha. That’s funny.
He should have picked someone who’s got women dripping from their cock rather than mine. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Or just copy someone else's bio word for word, lol
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He took you quite literally!!!....
I forgot he’d said that lol guessing OP doesn’t get sarcasm!
Haha. That’s funny.
He should have picked someone who’s got women dripping from their cock rather than mine. "
Yours is a good bio though! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Or just copy someone else's bio word for word, lol
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He took you quite literally!!!....
I forgot he’d said that lol guessing OP doesn’t get sarcasm!
Haha. That’s funny.
He should have picked someone who’s got women dripping from their cock rather than mine.
Yours is a good bio though! "
And yet …….? …… |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Or just copy someone else's bio word for word, lol
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He took you quite literally!!!....
I forgot he’d said that lol guessing OP doesn’t get sarcasm!
Haha. That’s funny.
He should have picked someone who’s got women dripping from their cock rather than mine.
Yours is a good bio though!
And yet …….? …… "
And yet what? Lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Or just copy someone else's bio word for word, lol
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He took you quite literally!!!....
I forgot he’d said that lol guessing OP doesn’t get sarcasm!
Haha. That’s funny.
He should have picked someone who’s got women dripping from their cock rather than mine.
Yours is a good bio though!
And yet …….? ……
And yet what? Lol"
Ask the op how many woman he has chasing him. |
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"Or just copy someone else's bio word for word, lol
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He took you quite literally!!!....
I forgot he’d said that lol guessing OP doesn’t get sarcasm!
Haha. That’s funny.
He should have picked someone who’s got women dripping from their cock rather than mine.
Yours is a good bio though!
And yet …….? …… "
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....and yet you're a Champion Lover Extraordinaire! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Or just copy someone else's bio word for word, lol
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He took you quite literally!!!....
I forgot he’d said that lol guessing OP doesn’t get sarcasm!
Haha. That’s funny.
He should have picked someone who’s got women dripping from their cock rather than mine.
Yours is a good bio though!
And yet …….? ……
And yet what? Lol
Ask the op how many woman he has chasing him. "
A good bio is only half the battle though lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Or just copy someone else's bio word for word, lol
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He took you quite literally!!!....
I forgot he’d said that lol guessing OP doesn’t get sarcasm!
Haha. That’s funny.
He should have picked someone who’s got women dripping from their cock rather than mine.
Yours is a good bio though!
And yet …….? ……
And yet what? Lol
Ask the op how many woman he has chasing him.
A good bio is only half the battle though lol"
And the other half? |
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"Or just copy someone else's bio word for word, lol
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He took you quite literally!!!....
I forgot he’d said that lol guessing OP doesn’t get sarcasm!
Haha. That’s funny.
He should have picked someone who’s got women dripping from their cock rather than mine.
Yours is a good bio though!
And yet …….? ……
And yet what? Lol
Ask the op how many woman he has chasing him.
A good bio is only half the battle though lol
And the other half? "
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You have to beg. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Or just copy someone else's bio word for word, lol
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He took you quite literally!!!....
I forgot he’d said that lol guessing OP doesn’t get sarcasm!
Haha. That’s funny.
He should have picked someone who’s got women dripping from their cock rather than mine.
Yours is a good bio though!
And yet …….? ……
And yet what? Lol
Ask the op how many woman he has chasing him.
A good bio is only half the battle though lol
And the other half?
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You have to beg. "
But only half begging |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Or just copy someone else's bio word for word, lol
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He took you quite literally!!!....
I forgot he’d said that lol guessing OP doesn’t get sarcasm!
Haha. That’s funny.
He should have picked someone who’s got women dripping from their cock rather than mine.
Yours is a good bio though!
And yet …….? ……
And yet what? Lol
Ask the op how many woman he has chasing him.
A good bio is only half the battle though lol
And the other half?
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You have to beg. "
Nooooooo lol begging is not sexy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think where Woody went wrong was that he failed to put a Sydney University legal dicklaimer at bottom of his profile.
That usually has the plagiarists running for the hills!"
Haha. |
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"Get out more?
Network?
Be present?
If I wanted a KFC, I'd go to KFC, not just look at an online menu.
Now I want corn on the cob"
I'm fucking famished. Should have got some food on the way home from work but didn't realise how hungry I was gonna be. Boooooo |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Get out more?
Network?
Be present?
If I wanted a KFC, I'd go to KFC, not just look at an online menu. deliveroo init
DeliverWho? "
I actually encourage him. I’m interested to see if he has better luck than I do with his profile. … or my profile??!?! I’m confused who has intellectual rights to it now.
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By (user no longer on site)
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Second, try the forums. We’re all sleeping together on here...
Are we??!! ... I didn't get that memo "
It was on the Teams meeting.
Did you not get the link? |
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"Hi everyone been on and off fab for a little while and had a few fantastic meets but it’s seems so hard for genuine guys to get anywhere as there seems to be a very large ratio of men to ladies on here so how can you stand out of the crowd ?? "
you need to be good looking mate lol. My profile stands out but as I'm not good looking no one wants to meet me unless I was gay/bi then I'd be inundated |
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"Get out more?
Network?
Be present?
If I wanted a KFC, I'd go to KFC, not just look at an online menu. deliveroo init
DeliverWho?
I actually encourage him. I’m interested to see if he has better luck than I do with his profile. … or my profile??!?! I’m confused who has intellectual rights to it now.
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He does. Unfortunately, you didn't ™ and © and ® in time. It's a long protracted affair to get it back.
He's already had a meet. He's got a new verification, the insolent little pup. |
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By *mily36CWoman
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Second, try the forums. We’re all sleeping together on here...
Are we??!! ... I didn't get that memo
It was on the Teams meeting.
Did you not get the link?"
Damn it ... think I was on annual leave for that meeting 
...I always miss out on the fun stuff |
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"I must admit fab has gone down hill in the last year or so it’s changed a lot
I have said the same myself. The forums used to be a great place to come and have a laugh, these days they are worse than a school playground..people get jumped on and ridiculed for the slightest thing which is quite sad to see x"
Unfortunately, a few of the more recent joiners have decided to form a little gang and collectively shout down anyone they don’t agree with- it’s pretty much becoming unbearable some days |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Set up a market stall
Roll up roll up
Come get my winky up your pooper if ur really lucky il mot you out too
Come get your annual rodding ladies "
I haven't heard that word for years winky |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Set up a market stall
Roll up roll up
Come get my winky up your pooper if ur really lucky il mot you out too
Come get your annual rodding ladies I haven't heard that word for years winky "
i say it quite a lot |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Set up a market stall
Roll up roll up
Come get my winky up your pooper if ur really lucky il mot you out too
Come get your annual rodding ladies I haven't heard that word for years winky i say it quite a lot "
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