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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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There's a thread on here about oral,a good one I might say, my question is,either sex, how would you feel if someone said you weren't doing it right and "told/asked" you how to do it,seriously would you be offended, be truthful with your answers |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No I wouldn’t be offended because I’m not arrogant enough to assume I can please every woman in the world.
Having said that, I’ve only ever had very positive reviews like literally every other man on here so |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No actually. First I’ve never been told and ami just always assumed the moans ‘yes, right there!!!’ Etc we’re a good guide that whatever I was doing was good enough for her.
But doing it right? I’d there an actual set or standard way I’m supposed to work it?
But sure, give me detailed instructions and I’ll get down with it  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Of course not, I'm not a mind reader and while I may think I know what feels good, ultimately only he can know for sure, I'd absolutely welcome directions.... Provided they wasn't straight out of the room lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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On the flip side I’ve never had the strength to tell a woman that uses too much teeth that I don’t enjoy her BJs for that reason. And my reluctance to be that honest with someone that bites my cock should be understandable tbf. But yeah. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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(Jane typing)
Personally I much prefer to be aware if there's something in the way I'm doing it that the recipient is not liking and they point it out politely then that's fine.
Also I'd rather know if there's a particular technique that turns them on, then I'll try it.
Generally in life, things are more mutually beneficial if both are enjoying whatever the activity is.
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
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When I receive oral I am vocal in what I like and direct them and offer suggestions.
When I have given oral I was happy to receive feedback, either through their words or how they responded!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It wouldn’t bother me at all in fact I would prefer to be told as I understand communication is the key
And I understand that by what the person is telling me I am doing wrong and how and ware gets them off
Will make the sex better for them and me
Also if they see I can take gudns and criticism on bord without spitting the dummy and a wellness to learn the maybe incline to meet again |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I'd really like to say I'd gracefully acknowledge feedback but... it's really situational. If I'm pmting and someone said something I'd either cry silently, full bosom heaving or silently plot their death.
But other times, if it's well meant and I'm normal me, it kind of flips a switch for me. Deep down I'm quite competitive, even with myself. And a bit of a high achiever. So I'd think right, need to get this sorted. Buy a dildo to start working on my poor technique. You know, all that stuff. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'd really like to say I'd gracefully acknowledge feedback but... it's really situational. If I'm pmting and someone said something I'd either cry silently, full bosom heaving or silently plot their death.
But other times, if it's well meant and I'm normal me, it kind of flips a switch for me. Deep down I'm quite competitive, even with myself. And a bit of a high achiever. So I'd think right, need to get this sorted. Buy a dildo to start working on my poor technique. You know, all that stuff."
Just grab the honey and you'll be fine |
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How my partner said it would have a lot of bearing on how I took the advice.
I mean, obviously I’d pay attention and change or stop what I was doing. I’m not an idiot.
But if it was phrased “You’re doing it wrong” I think I’d be a bit put off. That doesn’t sound like a person I’d be wanting to jump into bed with in the first place really.
There is no ‘wrong’, there’s just what works for each person/pairing. And if I’m not picking up what a girl wants from her reactions and body language, then a bit of “slower” or “over there, not there” or “use your fingers, pleeeeease” would be very welcome. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How my partner said it would have a lot of bearing on how I took the advice.
I mean, obviously I’d pay attention and change or stop what I was doing. I’m not an idiot.
But if it was phrased “You’re doing it wrong” I think I’d be a bit put off. That doesn’t sound like a person I’d be wanting to jump into bed with in the first place really.
There is no ‘wrong’, there’s just what works for each person/pairing. And if I’m not picking up what a girl wants from her reactions and body language, then a bit of “slower” or “over there, not there” or “use your fingers, pleeeeease” would be very welcome."
Yes totally. |
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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago
Beyond the shadows. |
"There's a thread on here about oral,a good one I might say, my question is,either sex, how would you feel if someone said you weren't doing it right and "told/asked" you how to do it,seriously would you be offended, be truthful with your answers "
Wouldn't be offended at all , every days a school day as they say  |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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I wouldn’t be offended as such but it’s not really how I communicate sexually , kind of makes it very transactional and less intimate and organic so I’d figure we were just not sexually compatible.
It’s happened once or twice with dominant and over analyser types. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"But other times, if it's well meant and I'm normal me, it kind of flips a switch for me. Deep down I'm quite competitive, even with myself. And a bit of a high achiever. So I'd think right, need to get this sorted. Buy a dildo to start working on my poor technique. You know, all that stuff.
Just grab the honey and you'll be fine "
Foolhardy!  I'm going to find a volunteer for that fantasy. They'd have to be comfortable with being filmed. And honey.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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But surely the reason you’re doing it is for their pleasure? So would it not make sense for them to be enjoying it? Nothing wrong with a little guidance …. Everyone loves to improve their skills and be better no?
And it doesn’t mean you’re all bad… just maybe not the way they like it?
Learn & progress? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"But surely the reason you’re doing it is for their pleasure? ……..
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And it doesn’t mean you’re all bad… just maybe not the way they like it?
Learn & progress? "
Not just for their pleasure. Even the thought of doing that for a woman I’m into gets my heart racing. Yes it is for them, so I do agree, letting someone know what you like should be easy to say to someone who’s into it.
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"I’ve not cum from oral since 2014 
Direction offered too. Maybe I’ve got an awkward clit 
I always ask how they like it beforehand too. Got to make sure I’m giving pleasure! x
I’ll have a go! "
How can I refuse you Nora |
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"I’ve not cum from oral since 2014
Direction offered too. Maybe I’ve got an awkward clit
I always ask how they like it beforehand too. Got to make sure I’m giving pleasure! x
I’ll have a go!
How can I refuse you Nora "
On my way! |
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"There's a thread on here about oral,a good one I might say, my question is,either sex, how would you feel if someone said you weren't doing it right and "told/asked" you how to do it,seriously would you be offended, be truthful with your answers "
Only way you get better is to listen to others needs isn’t it |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"But other times, if it's well meant and I'm normal me, it kind of flips a switch for me. Deep down I'm quite competitive, even with myself. And a bit of a high achiever. So I'd think right, need to get this sorted. Buy a dildo to start working on my poor technique. You know, all that stuff.
Just grab the honey and you'll be fine
Foolhardy! I'm going to find a volunteer for that fantasy. They'd have to be comfortable with being filmed. And honey. "
I'm sure you'll find a plethora of willing men. And if not, just tie 'em down |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’ve not cum from oral since 2014
Direction offered too. Maybe I’ve got an awkward clit
I always ask how they like it beforehand too. Got to make sure I’m giving pleasure! x"
Just curious but do you cum from masturbation, either through toys or a wand? How would you say it differs? Other than men not having a vibrating tongue  |
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I guess it depends how they went about it.... guidance, telling you what they really enjoy etc is great, helps you learn what they like and makes every experience between you better.... rude or mean criticism probably wouldn't be taken quite as well if im totally honest
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"I’ve not cum from oral since 2014
Direction offered too. Maybe I’ve got an awkward clit
I always ask how they like it beforehand too. Got to make sure I’m giving pleasure! x
Just curious but do you cum from masturbation, either through toys or a wand? How would you say it differs? Other than men not having a vibrating tongue "
Wouldn’t it be great if men did have a vibrating tongue though! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I enjoy giving and receiving oral, and always listen to what the guy I'm with says, usually they don't say alot, just lot's of moaning which is a turn on, but I'm always embarrassed to tell them what I want as year's ago I asked someone to do it a bit different, he didn't like to be "told", he thought he was doing it right, sadly that was the end of that meet |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There's a thread on here about oral,a good one I might say, my question is,either sex, how would you feel if someone said you weren't doing it right and "told/asked" you how to do it,seriously would you be offended, be truthful with your answers "
I'd happily take the advice, if I'm expecting please from a meet then why shouldn't they tell me how they like it ?? |
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"I’ve not cum from oral since 2014
Direction offered too. Maybe I’ve got an awkward clit
I always ask how they like it beforehand too. Got to make sure I’m giving pleasure! x
Just curious but do you cum from masturbation, either through toys or a wand? How would you say it differs? Other than men not having a vibrating tongue "
I cum easily with toys, it’s quite intense, but I love the tongue
The teasing beforehand, the tongue flicks, switching things up, cheeky finger etc
Plus having someone down there who loves what they’re doing, hair for me to grab onto. Doesn’t compare to toys |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"There's a thread on here about oral,a good one I might say, my question is,either sex, how would you feel if someone said you weren't doing it right and "told/asked" you how to do it,seriously would you be offended, be truthful with your answers
Only way you get better is to listen to others needs isn’t it "
See my last comment |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’ve not cum from oral since 2014
Direction offered too. Maybe I’ve got an awkward clit
I always ask how they like it beforehand too. Got to make sure I’m giving pleasure! x"
Hugs and also ooo god mail box going to explode with people saying they can help out |
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"Extremely offended.
I’d most probably get up, wipe my mouth on her curtains and be off on my heels and toes.
How dare she question my cunni prowess 
The video.  "
That’s more of a case of not having much say on how your doing it
Chin grind  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’ve not cum from oral since 2014
Direction offered too. Maybe I’ve got an awkward clit
I always ask how they like it beforehand too. Got to make sure I’m giving pleasure! x
Just curious but do you cum from masturbation, either through toys or a wand? How would you say it differs? Other than men not having a vibrating tongue
Wouldn’t it be great if men did have a vibrating tongue though!"
Depends on the circumstances. For oral, sure. For kissing, maybe not |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’ve not cum from oral since 2014
Direction offered too. Maybe I’ve got an awkward clit
I always ask how they like it beforehand too. Got to make sure I’m giving pleasure! x
Just curious but do you cum from masturbation, either through toys or a wand? How would you say it differs? Other than men not having a vibrating tongue
I cum easily with toys, it’s quite intense, but I love the tongue
The teasing beforehand, the tongue flicks, switching things up, cheeky finger etc
Plus having someone down there who loves what they’re doing, hair for me to grab onto. Doesn’t compare to toys "
Well... *ahem* thank you for that rather descriptive explanation  |
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"I’ve not cum from oral since 2014
Direction offered too. Maybe I’ve got an awkward clit
I always ask how they like it beforehand too. Got to make sure I’m giving pleasure! x
Just curious but do you cum from masturbation, either through toys or a wand? How would you say it differs? Other than men not having a vibrating tongue
Wouldn’t it be great if men did have a vibrating tongue though!
Depends on the circumstances. For oral, sure. For kissing, maybe not "
Ah yeah true. That would be annoying. I didn’t think that through did i. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’ve not cum from oral since 2014
Direction offered too. Maybe I’ve got an awkward clit
I always ask how they like it beforehand too. Got to make sure I’m giving pleasure! x
Just curious but do you cum from masturbation, either through toys or a wand? How would you say it differs? Other than men not having a vibrating tongue
Wouldn’t it be great if men did have a vibrating tongue though!
Depends on the circumstances. For oral, sure. For kissing, maybe not
Ah yeah true. That would be annoying. I didn’t think that through did i. "
It's alright, you can just turn it off and stick it back in the drawer |
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"I’ve not cum from oral since 2014
Direction offered too. Maybe I’ve got an awkward clit
I always ask how they like it beforehand too. Got to make sure I’m giving pleasure! x
Just curious but do you cum from masturbation, either through toys or a wand? How would you say it differs? Other than men not having a vibrating tongue
I cum easily with toys, it’s quite intense, but I love the tongue
The teasing beforehand, the tongue flicks, switching things up, cheeky finger etc
Plus having someone down there who loves what they’re doing, hair for me to grab onto. Doesn’t compare to toys
Well... *ahem* thank you for that rather descriptive explanation "
You’re welcome |
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I think it’s all about how it’s put across than the telling.
I was put off blow jobs for many years because of the harsh way someone told me where I was going wrong for him years ago.
There’s a way and a manner to do things. |
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On our first ever meet I was getting sucked off I didn't want to just ram him in her mouth I didn't want to disrespect her but then she grab my ass and ramed him all the why in lol I don't mind if I get told lol I do love giving oral tho x J |
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I'd take note and do it how they prefer it to be done right is only right if it's mutually enjoyable. If their way of how they want oral isn't how you like to do it then they are not the dick in your mouth or pussy for you...
Not that difficult not that personal.
I love oral but if he needs me to vomit to get himself off he can find another chic that likes that . I'm not her and have zero desire to become her for him. |
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When i was a young man late teens many moons ago i was insturcted how to give oral by a lovely lady in her 30s and so glad i took notice of the do's and dont's and have had no complains since, but if i was asked to do something a certain way that would not be a problem but a pleasure to help and fulfill if you get my meaning |
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"There's a thread on here about oral,a good one I might say, my question is,either sex, how would you feel if someone said you weren't doing it right and "told/asked" you how to do it,seriously would you be offended, be truthful with your answers "
I would hope it wouldn't be expressed negatively ie: "you weren't doing it right". But positive feedback is very welcome ie: 'do this' or even better physical feedback moving your body or my head to get to the right place. |
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I just keep switching up what I’m doing until I get a positive reaction. I can’t get any pleasure if they aren’t getting any. I’m all for slow and sensual in that department but I know some want hard and fast. I’m just learning as I go |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When i was a young man late teens many moons ago i was insturcted how to give oral by a lovely lady in her 30s and so glad i took notice of the do's and dont's and have had no complains since, but if i was asked to do something a certain way that would not be a problem but a pleasure to help and fulfill if you get my meaning"
I truly don’t believe you can be ‘taught’ as each woman likes it differently! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When i was a young man late teens many moons ago i was insturcted how to give oral by a lovely lady in her 30s and so glad i took notice of the do's and dont's and have had no complains since, but if i was asked to do something a certain way that would not be a problem but a pleasure to help and fulfill if you get my meaning
I truly don’t believe you can be ‘taught’ as each woman likes it differently! "
Communication can be taught. She might just have clued him into being open to suggestion and reacting to what is working |
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