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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I once went to an adult ballpit. That was quite cool.
Went to a candlelit string quartet recital.
Old/independent bookshop tour. Oh and the graveyard social which sounds weird now I type it down.
Went foraging with one. There's a lot more than Starbucks (although not much more than PSL).
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over a year ago
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I actually went somewhere the other day with my husband and thought this would be a perfect place for a fab social. It's actually in your neck of the woods OP.
Check out (if you haven't already) God's own Junkyard. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There’s an adult crazy golf near me, always thought that would make a fun social!
I had a similar thought at crazy golf the other night.
There’s one in Sheff called “Glory Holes”  "
Perfect but may give some the wrong idea if you suggest a social at the glory holes. |
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My meets have been discreet Flashing of my Stocking Tops and upper thighs and letting the guys take photos up my Skirt or Dress (with my prior consent), then going for a coffee while we look though the photos. |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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I’ve done some long walks, museums, art galleries, bowling, dinner, sculpture park, stately homes, movies, shopping trips…
It’s fun to do something different from ‘the usual’ and whilst it’s nice to go for coffee, that’s very repetitive. I’d much rather do something that makes an impression |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’ll save this thread for some ideas for my future socials. It would be nice to do something different than having a drink "
Honestly you should some of my best socials have been just wondering around or going for a walk. The only problem I have encountered when suggesting something other than a coffee or a dris I have been told " You do know this isn't a date right" |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’ll save this thread for some ideas for my future socials. It would be nice to do something different than having a drink
Honestly you should some of my best socials have been just wondering around or going for a walk. The only problem I have encountered when suggesting something other than a coffee or a dris I have been told " You do know this isn't a date right""
Yeah I might suggest something different there are a few new places opened here that do all the mini games like crazy golf and axe throwing |
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"I once went to an adult ballpit. That was quite cool.
Went to a candlelit string quartet recital.
Old/independent bookshop tour. Oh and the graveyard social which sounds weird now I type it down.
Went foraging with one. There's a lot more than Starbucks (although not much more than PSL).
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I've done these (graveyard social was cool!), but swap candlelit string quartet recital for a trampoline park, which was ace.
Probably not the best idea for me to be around open flames anyways.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It never occurred to me to suggest something more alternative. I've got a coffee date Thursday and now I feel boring AF.  "
I think if you do too much it takes away from the getting-to-know-someone aspect
I had a 2nd date that was axe throwing, good fun but we hardly chatted! |
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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago
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"I've got a coffee date Thursday and now I feel boring AF. "
Nothing wrong with coffee if you can carry a conversation.
The other ideas are good because they provide lots of breaks and prompts for reactions. |
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Had a secret agent roll play going on with a series of clues that led us around different landmarks around Newcastle city centre. Lots of fun and actually very informative. We enjoyed being FWB for years. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've got a coffee date Thursday and now I feel boring AF.
Nothing wrong with coffee if you can carry a conversation.
The other ideas are good because they provide lots of breaks and prompts for reactions. "
I can carry a conversation. Not as sure about him! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It never occurred to me to suggest something more alternative. I've got a coffee date Thursday and now I feel boring AF.
I think if you do too much it takes away from the getting-to-know-someone aspect
I had a 2nd date that was axe throwing, good fun but we hardly chatted! "
If it gets to a second date, I will think about crazy golf |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I recommend a bank robbery to both add a frisson to proceedings and done well the social pays for itself.
Don’t try this at a post office. Standing in horrendous queues in a balaclava while Mabel sorts out a post order for her nephew in Basingstoke isn’t a good look. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think things other than coffee/drinks are good as sitting 1-1 at a table can be pretty intimidating socially, no escape from scrutiny  . Bit high pressure, high stakes.... must be impressive.
Or like an interview.... or an interrogation lol
Can be better if the focus is diverted like on a walk. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It never occurred to me to suggest something more alternative. I've got a coffee date Thursday and now I feel boring AF.
I think if you do too much it takes away from the getting-to-know-someone aspect
I had a 2nd date that was axe throwing, good fun but we hardly chatted!
If it gets to a second date, I will think about crazy golf "
Crazy golf brings out the rage in me lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It never occurred to me to suggest something more alternative. I've got a coffee date Thursday and now I feel boring AF.
I think if you do too much it takes away from the getting-to-know-someone aspect
I had a 2nd date that was axe throwing, good fun but we hardly chatted!
If it gets to a second date, I will think about crazy golf
Crazy golf brings out the rage in me lol "
I can be a leeeetle competitive, come to think of it  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It never occurred to me to suggest something more alternative. I've got a coffee date Thursday and now I feel boring AF.
I think if you do too much it takes away from the getting-to-know-someone aspect
I had a 2nd date that was axe throwing, good fun but we hardly chatted!
If it gets to a second date, I will think about crazy golf
Crazy golf brings out the rage in me lol
I can be a leeeetle competitive, come to think of it "
Just think of it as showing him all the aspects of your personality |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
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Our socials have tended to be typical things we would do anyway, that way if they show up its a bonus and if they don’t we haven’t wasted the day.
Food festivals, vegan food markets, days out at tourist attractions, wandering around towns and cities (especially if they have a lego shop), lunch/dinner etc.
We rarely, if ever, do the coffee shop meet up.
We wouldn’t want to do anything unusual that put pressure on a first meeting (such as crazy golf) as I think that would increase the chance if them bailing.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It never occurred to me to suggest something more alternative. I've got a coffee date Thursday and now I feel boring AF.
I think if you do too much it takes away from the getting-to-know-someone aspect
I had a 2nd date that was axe throwing, good fun but we hardly chatted!
If it gets to a second date, I will think about crazy golf
Crazy golf brings out the rage in me lol
I can be a leeeetle competitive, come to think of it
Just think of it as showing him all the aspects of your personality "
I think he'd run a mile |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"giving dogs a bath for a local animal rescue charity was fun, going to a free outdoor circus performance, getting asked to go to watch a football match was good fun as it was a 9 goal thriller."
The doggies and the footie sound good to be fair! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It never occurred to me to suggest something more alternative. I've got a coffee date Thursday and now I feel boring AF.
I think if you do too much it takes away from the getting-to-know-someone aspect
I had a 2nd date that was axe throwing, good fun but we hardly chatted!
If it gets to a second date, I will think about crazy golf
Crazy golf brings out the rage in me lol
I can be a leeeetle competitive, come to think of it
Just think of it as showing him all the aspects of your personality
I think he'd run a mile "
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"giving dogs a bath for a local animal rescue charity was fun, going to a free outdoor circus performance, getting asked to go to watch a football match was good fun as it was a 9 goal thriller.
The doggies and the footie sound good to be fair! "
the dog bathing was a scream. i couldn't stop laughing |
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"giving dogs a bath for a local animal rescue charity was fun, going to a free outdoor circus performance, getting asked to go to watch a football match was good fun as it was a 9 goal thriller.
The doggies and the footie sound good to be fair!
the dog bathing was a scream. i couldn't stop laughing"
I really want to do this now, someone take me for a dog bathing social |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’d feel uncomfortable doing anything other than drinks on a first date because I want to be able to finish a drink and leave if I need to. I don’t wanna have to finish 18 holes "
Same. I like it to be fairly brief too for similar reasons. Can always stay on if things click well |
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I’m a regular social dude. Coffee or a drink, and the offer of those t don’t seem to work. So imagine ‘hey girl, fancy coming catching crabs with me?’ How do you think that would go down?
But I’m open to someone else trying to mix it up though. |
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"I’d feel uncomfortable doing anything other than drinks on a first date because I want to be able to finish a drink and leave if I need to. I don’t wanna have to finish 18 holes
Same. I like it to be fairly brief too for similar reasons. Can always stay on if things click well"
Plus, is anything better than planning a short meet for coffee, then it goes so well you spend hours out and about just doing whatever is around?
I made the mistake when I was younger if planning a mini golf date and realising I didn’t like her by hole 2. It’s awful |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’m a regular social dude. Coffee or a drink, and the offer of those t don’t seem to work. So imagine ‘hey girl, fancy coming catching crabs with me?’ How do you think that would go down?
But I’m open to someone else trying to mix it up though. "
"catch crabs with me" - please please ask someone to do that. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"I’d feel uncomfortable doing anything other than drinks on a first date because I want to be able to finish a drink and leave if I need to. I don’t wanna have to finish 18 holes "
This. 
I get that it's good to do something different and slightly off the wall at times if it's someone you've spent a long while getting to know online, over the phone or via video chat. Or if you're meeting someone that a friend has also met and vouched for as not being an axe murderer/JW recruiter/Sun journalist.
But for someone new who you technically know very little about?
Keep it simple and public, nothing for safety's sake and to hive you the option of walking away at any point. So a coffee or pub garden meet is perfect.
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This is a great thread. We went for a walk around a public garden and then had a coffee. It was easier, as someone said above, takes away from it feeling like an interview and nice things to talk about along the walk. |
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Whilst shopping in their local supermarket
They didnt have any pictures on here to share with me as they wanted discretion so they told me what they would be wearing and that if i like what i saw then i should approach them.
I like and we walked around the shop collecting what we needed for about 30 mins together while laughing and joking
Was fun |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’m a regular social dude. Coffee or a drink, and the offer of those t don’t seem to work. So imagine ‘hey girl, fancy coming catching crabs with me?’ How do you think that would go down?
But I’m open to someone else trying to mix it up though.
"catch crabs with me" - please please ask someone to do that. "
Don’t dare me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’m a regular social dude. Coffee or a drink, and the offer of those t don’t seem to work. So imagine ‘hey girl, fancy coming catching crabs with me?’ How do you think that would go down?
But I’m open to someone else trying to mix it up though.
"catch crabs with me" - please please ask someone to do that.
Don’t dare me. "
Dare you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There’s an adult crazy golf near me, always thought that would make a fun social!
There is an indoor crazy golf and bar venue in London called....."Swingers" "
There is indeed. We keep meaning to check it out. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’ve done some long walks, museums, art galleries, bowling, dinner, sculpture park, stately homes, movies, shopping trips…
It’s fun to do something different from ‘the usual’ and whilst it’s nice to go for coffee, that’s very repetitive. I’d much rather do something that makes an impression "
Long walks and museums sounds like a good idea! Haha I would love a climbing social or just a beach trip |
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By *r_PinkMan
over a year ago
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"There’s an adult crazy golf near me, always thought that would make a fun social!
I had a similar thought at crazy golf the other night.
There’s one in Sheff called “Glory Holes”
Perfect but may give some the wrong idea if you suggest a social at the glory holes. "
Can you imagine! There would have to be at least one dumb male (probably me) who would get his cock out while playing and saying “I want my whole in one!!!!” |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’d feel uncomfortable doing anything other than drinks on a first date because I want to be able to finish a drink and leave if I need to. I don’t wanna have to finish 18 holes
Same. I like it to be fairly brief too for similar reasons. Can always stay on if things click well
Plus, is anything better than planning a short meet for coffee, then it goes so well you spend hours out and about just doing whatever is around?
I made the mistake when I was younger if planning a mini golf date and realising I didn’t like her by hole 2. It’s awful "
Exactly, plan for a short "hi, how d'you do" but keep an hour or two up your sleeve |
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By (user no longer on site)
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See I'd love to go for a long walk in the countryside, see the donkeys, cows, sheeps and lambs, all the views and good shit.
It just comes across a bit serial killery from the off |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'd send the chauffer to collect you about mid day. He'd drive you to the airport and you board a plane.
About an hour later you land in Paris and another car drives you to Le Boudoir in the Champs Elysees where we meet for the first time. Enjoy the meal and a good chat watching the world go by.
I've planned a visit to Roulin Mouge for an evenings entertainment.
We retire to Maison Souquet hotel for the night (separate rooms of course). Morning breakfast on the terrace. A morning in the Spa and then a flight back home. Nothing more complicated than that....I WISH! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There’s an adult crazy golf near me, always thought that would make a fun social!
I had a similar thought at crazy golf the other night.
There’s one in Sheff called “Glory Holes” "
How weird! That’s exactly the place I was thinking of |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I once went to an adult ballpit. That was quite cool.
Went to a candlelit string quartet recital.
Old/independent bookshop tour. Oh and the graveyard social which sounds weird now I type it down.
Went foraging with one. There's a lot more than Starbucks (although not much more than PSL).
I've done these (graveyard social was cool!), but swap candlelit string quartet recital for a trampoline park, which was ace.
Probably not the best idea for me to be around open flames anyways. "
Oh unless you want the meet to inadvertently involve watersports trampoline park would be a definite no for me (the pelvic floor ain’t what it used to be!)  |
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"Some of these sound more like first dates than first socials for swinging. As somebody else said want to be able to cut and run fairly quickly - or get naked quickly if all good "
Some of us go on dates too... |
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"I’d feel uncomfortable doing anything other than drinks on a first date because I want to be able to finish a drink and leave if I need to. I don’t wanna have to finish 18 holes "
18 holes???? How many women are you meeting? |
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"Some of these sound more like first dates than first socials for swinging. As somebody else said want to be able to cut and run fairly quickly - or get naked quickly if all good
Some of us go on dates too..."
Don’t really think of those as “socials” but dates but maybe that is just too much time on swinging sites and none vanilla dating |
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"I’ve done a wander round an historic home looking at art.
River walk
Gym session which is always fun as well."
Gym session sounds interesting, how did the talking and flirting go whilst working up a sweat in a none sexual way…?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Tbf the gym session I had was a proper laugh…
We had built up rapport via chatting before we met.. and just did some weights.. spotting each other etc..
Followed by coffee afterwards.. |
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"Some of these sound more like first dates than first socials for swinging. As somebody else said want to be able to cut and run fairly quickly - or get naked quickly if all good
Some of us go on dates too...
Don’t really think of those as “socials” but dates but maybe that is just too much time on swinging sites and none vanilla dating "
You're a couple so don't imagine you're looking for more. |
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"Some of these sound more like first dates than first socials for swinging. As somebody else said want to be able to cut and run fairly quickly - or get naked quickly if all good
Some of us go on dates too...
Don’t really think of those as “socials” but dates but maybe that is just too much time on swinging sites and none vanilla dating
You're a couple so don't imagine you're looking for more. "
We still do socials though and we were both singles here before. Our first social together turned extremely social in about 10 mins |
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"I like cultural things to do like museums and other exhibitions. Got a nice one to look forward to this month  "
And it’s just a social. Doing stuff like that doesn’t have to be romantic. Just before anyone says that |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"I once went to an adult ballpit. That was quite cool.
Went to a candlelit string quartet recital.
Old/independent bookshop tour. Oh and the graveyard social which sounds weird now I type it down.
Went foraging with one. There's a lot more than Starbucks (although not much more than PSL).
I've done these (graveyard social was cool!), but swap candlelit string quartet recital for a trampoline park, which was ace.
Probably not the best idea for me to be around open flames anyways. "
Trampoline park is... brave. Good way of assessing a woman's pelvic floor though!
Because I tend to have spoken to people a lot, I like doing things we're both interested in. Coffee (which I've done before) feels more like an assessment to fuck or not, I prefer seeing it as just meeting a friend. Nothing more or less. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Cinema. I usually meet at the cinema but inside so I don’t to pay for her ticket !
Meet me inside, seat 3C
Maverick...F14? "
can’t wait to see you there x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Some of these sound more like first dates than first socials for swinging. As somebody else said want to be able to cut and run fairly quickly - or get naked quickly if all good
Some of us go on dates too...
Don’t really think of those as “socials” but dates but maybe that is just too much time on swinging sites and none vanilla dating
You're a couple so don't imagine you're looking for more.
We still do socials though and we were both singles here before. Our first social together turned extremely social in about 10 mins "
I meant dating, not Fab "socials". Unless you're poly |
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We've met for a social bike ride.
Around 40 miles
We've actually done this twice now with two different couples for first vanilla dates!
It worked well because it is so niche and there was a familiarity of a social bike ride with a group that we were all used to. |
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