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Men: How long did it take you to get your first meet on here?
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"Does it count if I met a woman that was already on fab and she introduced me to the sits? Because in that case it was minus 5 days" Yeh I'd count that. And say it's unbeatable | |||
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"Personally still on 0 meets. Signed up about 4 years ago but didn't actually use it. Started actually using it for about 6 months but still not even got close. How long did it take you, if you've had one?" Don't mean to sound depressing, but there will be a lot of single chaps who never get a meet, simple maths. Just out of interest do you enjoy your time on fab without having met anyone yet? I haven't met anyone through fab in a while, I am not really looking for anything though, so I am just enjoying chatting to people and lurking, without much intent. | |||
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"Personally still on 0 meets. Signed up about 4 years ago but didn't actually use it. Started actually using it for about 6 months but still not even got close. How long did it take you, if you've had one? Don't mean to sound depressing, but there will be a lot of single chaps who never get a meet, simple maths. Just out of interest do you enjoy your time on fab without having met anyone yet? I haven't met anyone through fab in a while, I am not really looking for anything though, so I am just enjoying chatting to people and lurking, without much intent. " Now that I've found the forums I'm not as bothered as I was but still a big confidence dampner not getting any responses. Got pretty low self-esteem anyway so the rejections sort of reinforce my belief that I'm completely undesirable to the opposite sex | |||
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"On this profile about 3 months but we'd been chatting a while and covid delayed things. I'm all honesty, I think if people struggle initially that is unlikely to change unless people significantly change their approach " But surely the success of your approach relies on what you're offering at the end of the day. I've sent face pics to women and tried to tailor the message to get their interest, but end of the day I'm an ugly bastard and they don't like my face so just gets deleted or get a no thanks message. If someone's good looking they could send a face pic with just hey as a message and those same women would reply | |||
"2 days you stud you "im no stud hell back then i was clueless  just people make it out to be much harder than it is | |||
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"On this profile about 3 months but we'd been chatting a while and covid delayed things. I'm all honesty, I think if people struggle initially that is unlikely to change unless people significantly change their approach But surely the success of your approach relies on what you're offering at the end of the day. I've sent face pics to women and tried to tailor the message to get their interest, but end of the day I'm an ugly bastard and they don't like my face so just gets deleted or get a no thanks message. If someone's good looking they could send a face pic with just hey as a message and those same women would reply" I think if you think women will reply just because a man is good looking you probably don't understand the mindset of women on here. I'm okay looking, have a decidedly average body but have never struggled on here. | |||
"Personally still on 0 meets. Signed up about 4 years ago but didn't actually use it. Started actually using it for about 6 months but still not even got close. How long did it take you, if you've had one? Don't mean to sound depressing, but there will be a lot of single chaps who never get a meet, simple maths. Just out of interest do you enjoy your time on fab without having met anyone yet? I haven't met anyone through fab in a while, I am not really looking for anything though, so I am just enjoying chatting to people and lurking, without much intent. Now that I've found the forums I'm not as bothered as I was but still a big confidence dampner not getting any responses. Got pretty low self-esteem anyway so the rejections sort of reinforce my belief that I'm completely undesirable to the opposite sex" I've said it before on here, if it isn't an enjoyable experience, if it doesn't add anything to your life then probably best to step away. Not suggesting that is what you should do, I don't know enough about you, what you do or don't get from being on fab to pass the kind of judgment. More of a general comment, definitely not aimed at single chaps as a whole on fab either. But it does seem to be a breeding ground for a lot of pent up frustration, anger and resentment. I suspect in most cases it is down to unrealistic expectations. I should imagine the subscriber churn is pretty phenomenal, just a guess. It isn't for everybody, simply because of the numbers and some people just not being equipped to deal with the almost constant rejection that all but the most appealing 0.5 have to deal with. Over the years of being on fab, with this profile and a previous one, I have come to the conclusion, that for me personally, fab has very limited usefulness as a tool for actually meeting people. I don't enjoy sexting (apparently now an actual word) my sense of humour doesn't translate into text, which by the way is a massively lengthy and drawn out process, big fat thumbs! All in all I am not in my natural environment, is what I am saying I suppose. I don't expect anything though, so I am never disappointed. I am a great believer in meeting face to face, the less technology involved the better. Clubs, the way we always used to do it are the way forward. We will be back to coded classifieds in the back of the paper before we know it! | |||
" But surely the success of your approach relies on what you're offering at the end of the day. I've sent face pics to women and tried to tailor the message to get their interest, but end of the day I'm an ugly bastard and they don't like my face so just gets deleted or get a no thanks message. If someone's good looking they could send a face pic with just hey as a message and those same women would reply" If you've decided you're ugly, then I'm sure you can find people to agree with you. ...but the opposite will also apply. | |||
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"I'm an ugly bastard and they don't like my face so just gets deleted or get a no thanks " I don’t think you are ugly. Appreciate you didn’t ask for feedback so consider this friendly advice, but inject some fun and dynamism into your pics rather than passport pics in which you look like you’ve already given up hope of a meet. Also, stop putting yourself down publicly, confidence is a huge turn on. Good luck | |||
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oh and haunt the forum. | |||
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"Personally still on 0 meets. Signed up about 4 years ago but didn't actually use it. Started actually using it for about 6 months but still not even got close. How long did it take you, if you've had one?" Back in my single man days many moons ago, got a social meet the day I joined. On this profile, two hours after we created the profile.
Winston | |||
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That’s a lie | |||
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"3 minutes and 23 seconds and I was swimming
That’s a lie "What part was a lie ? The 3 min 23 secs , or the swimming. | |||
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It’s luck mixed with trying to stand out from the rest.
K | |||
