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over a year ago
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Ok so I know it’s 2022 and I understand all about equality and that not all stereotypes are true etc…
I’m quite old school in some of my thoughts of what it is to be a good Man. Very much into chivalry and good manners.
I’m a provider and protector and feel that’s a role a Man should play when in a relationship.
What “Gender Roles” do you like to upkeep and maintain |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I kill the meat as Hunter Gatherer. The woman cooks it (then washes up afterwards) as her place is in the kitchen *
Am I doing this right? 
(* calm your horses, feminists, I’m JOKING )
All jokes aside : I’m OUT.
I can see this thread turning into another battle of the sexes so I’ll watch from the sidelines please  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I kill the meat as Hunter Gatherer. The woman cooks it (then washes up afterwards) as her place is in the kitchen *
Am I doing this right?
(* calm your horses, feminists, I’m JOKING)
All jokes aside : I’m OUT.
I can see this thread turning into another battle of the sexes so I’ll watch from the sidelines please "
It will now you’ve started it. Lol
I hope not as it’s a genuine question but I know how Fab Forum is so I’m ready to clarify if needs be  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To hell with the gender roles, as long as something is good for the both genders i see no reason to conform with gender specific roles
Id have no issue with being in a relationship where the woman wears the trousers, while i cook and clean, likewise im happy to be the provider, display chivalry and take the lead. Whatever dynamic makes us happy regardless of what anyone else thinks or expects us how to act |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"To hell with the gender roles, as long as something is good for the both genders i see no reason to conform with gender specific roles
Id have no issue with being in a relationship where the woman wears the trousers, while i cook and clean, likewise im happy to be the provider, display chivalry and take the lead. Whatever dynamic makes us happy regardless of what anyone else thinks or expects us how to act"
Totally agree and each to their own  |
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I don't think of gender really having roles anymore in the sense that they used to.
I do however think that self ascribed labels are incredibly helpful for mental health and finding your place in the world. If that label happens to coincide with one of those stereotypes then so what.
I as a Trans Woman lean into very femme stereotypes because it affirms me.
I also very much act like a "mamma bear" (a friends term not mine" to the people in my life. Which is also quite the stereotype gender role.
As long as no-one is forcing it on another and it isn't hurting anyone, apply whatever gender role / stereotype you like to yourself and be your best you!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I looooooveeee being in the kitchen 
Tho he better iron, cos I can’t do it all, so that’s HIS chore "
Tbh I’ve been a better cook than the majority of women I’ve been with and love getting busy in the kitchen. Funnily enough I actually prefer to iron and hoover as I know it’ll be done properly. Lol |
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"To hell with the gender roles, as long as something is good for the both genders i see no reason to conform with gender specific roles
Id have no issue with being in a relationship where the woman wears the trousers, while i cook and clean, likewise im happy to be the provider, display chivalry and take the lead. Whatever dynamic makes us happy regardless of what anyone else thinks or expects us how to act"
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Ignore him, he drives a Vauxhall Cørsã. |
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"I don't think of gender really having roles anymore in the sense that they used to.
I do however think that self ascribed labels are incredibly helpful for mental health and finding your place in the world. If that label happens to coincide with one of those stereotypes then so what.
I as a Trans Woman lean into very femme stereotypes because it affirms me.
I also very much act like a "mamma bear" (a friends term not mine" to the people in my life. Which is also quite the stereotype gender role.
As long as no-one is forcing it on another and it isn't hurting anyone, apply whatever gender role / stereotype you like to yourself and be your best you!
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The archetypal maternal role, mum friend. 
It’s incredibly empowering |
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"I kill the meat as Hunter Gatherer. The woman cooks it (then washes up afterwards) as her place is in the kitchen *
Am I doing this right?
(* calm your horses, feminists, I’m JOKING)
All jokes aside : I’m OUT.
I can see this thread turning into another battle of the sexes so I’ll watch from the sidelines please "
. I’ll grab some beers and sit on your lap and we’ll just watch |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I don't think of gender really having roles anymore in the sense that they used to.
I do however think that self ascribed labels are incredibly helpful for mental health and finding your place in the world. If that label happens to coincide with one of those stereotypes then so what.
I as a Trans Woman lean into very femme stereotypes because it affirms me.
I also very much act like a "mamma bear" (a friends term not mine" to the people in my life. Which is also quite the stereotype gender role.
As long as no-one is forcing it on another and it isn't hurting anyone, apply whatever gender role / stereotype you like to yourself and be your best you!
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Well said
I agree with the attributing whatever “labels” you see fit for yourself for many different reasons but touching on the mental health aspect of it makes it even more important to do so, I my humble opinion.
Ok so now I’m intrigued as to what “mamma bear” is? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I kill the meat as Hunter Gatherer. The woman cooks it (then washes up afterwards) as her place is in the kitchen *
Am I doing this right?
(* calm your horses, feminists, I’m JOKING)
All jokes aside : I’m OUT.
I can see this thread turning into another battle of the sexes so I’ll watch from the sidelines please
. I’ll grab some beers and sit on your lap and we’ll just watch "
Promise to wriggle a bit?  |
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"I kill the meat as Hunter Gatherer. The woman cooks it (then washes up afterwards) as her place is in the kitchen *
Am I doing this right?
(* calm your horses, feminists, I’m JOKING)
All jokes aside : I’m OUT.
I can see this thread turning into another battle of the sexes so I’ll watch from the sidelines please
. I’ll grab some beers and sit on your lap and we’ll just watch
Promise to wriggle a bit? "
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"I don't think of gender really having roles anymore in the sense that they used to.
I do however think that self ascribed labels are incredibly helpful for mental health and finding your place in the world. If that label happens to coincide with one of those stereotypes then so what.
I as a Trans Woman lean into very femme stereotypes because it affirms me.
I also very much act like a "mamma bear" (a friends term not mine" to the people in my life. Which is also quite the stereotype gender role.
As long as no-one is forcing it on another and it isn't hurting anyone, apply whatever gender role / stereotype you like to yourself and be your best you!
Well said
I agree with the attributing whatever “labels” you see fit for yourself for many different reasons but touching on the mental health aspect of it makes it even more important to do so, I my humble opinion.
Ok so now I’m intrigued as to what “mamma bear” is?"
The archetypal maternal figure but to the entire found family, not just my flesh and blood. |
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By *agic.MMan
over a year ago
Orpington |
I'm so God damn manly I can cook my own food, clean my own house, wash my own clothes and iron my own shirts...I'm am so God damn manly I can even fold my own socks and tighty whities ...I'm so God damn manly I could even water my own flowers if I had any flowers...God damn I'm so manly |
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"I'm so God damn manly I can cook my own food, clean my own house, wash my own clothes and iron my own shirts...I'm am so God damn manly I can even fold my own socks and tighty whities ...I'm so God damn manly I could even water my own flowers if I had any flowers...God damn I'm so manly "
You lost me at tighty whities |
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I suppose the only one I’m a stickler for is ensuring she’s safe. So walk her back to her car, taxi or home. Obviously if she really insists she’s fine, then I’ll say my goodbyes. But would request that she lets me know she’s home safe. |
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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago
Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds |
"Ok so I know it’s 2022 and I understand all about equality and that not all stereotypes are true etc…
I’m quite old school in some of my thoughts of what it is to be a good Man. Very much into chivalry and good manners.
I’m a provider and protector and feel that’s a role a Man should play when in a relationship.
What “Gender Roles” do you like to upkeep and maintain"
Chivalry is a battle code.
I don't upkeep any percieved gender roles. As a couple, we both work together and cover for and protect the other.
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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago
Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds |
"I looooooveeee being in the kitchen
Tho he better iron, cos I can’t do it all, so that’s HIS chore "
Damn. I love being in the kitchen myself but I hate cleaning. I hate ironing as wel.
C |
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By *agic.MMan
over a year ago
Orpington |
"I'm so God damn manly I can cook my own food, clean my own house, wash my own clothes and iron my own shirts...I'm am so God damn manly I can even fold my own socks and tighty whities ...I'm so God damn manly I could even water my own flowers if I had any flowers...God damn I'm so manly
You lost me at tighty whities"
I'm so God damn manly I am not even offended ... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Might not be the correct way of thinking but i do like the more traditional roles of men and women, i will always drive, always pay, and prefer the dynamic of been the provider and protector, that said i enjoy cooking and more than happily do the more traditional jobs around the house so suppose im in the middle. |
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"Might not be the correct way of thinking but i do like the more traditional roles of men and women, i will always drive, always pay, and prefer the dynamic of been the provider and protector, that said i enjoy cooking and more than happily do the more traditional jobs around the house so suppose im in the middle."
Preferring traditional roles isn't "wrong think" in the slightest. And living by those roles isn't problematic either as long as all involved are on the same page
imho It would only be "wrong think" if you were trying to enforce them on others, which I doubt you are |
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I very think there are "pink" jobs and "blue jobs" around the house lol
I don't hate the " roles " thing if call it that but not as in the "she must stay home" oldie way but if that's what makes some happy then why not. We play a role in every relationship in life, just as long as your happy and want that part. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To hell with the gender roles, as long as something is good for the both genders i see no reason to conform with gender specific roles
Id have no issue with being in a relationship where the woman wears the trousers, while i cook and clean, likewise im happy to be the provider, display chivalry and take the lead. Whatever dynamic makes us happy regardless of what anyone else thinks or expects us how to act
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Ignore him, he drives a Vauxhall Cørsã. "
If only I knew where you lived so i could make my race exhaust howl outside your house at 3am |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Wording and terminology can sometimes be misunderstood in these threads, but glad people kinda get what I was going for.
“Pink” and “Blue” roles, traditional, etc is what I was getting at.
Providing: emotional security, financial security, comfort and reassurance, etc
Protecting: her dignity, from physical threats, mental state and wellbeing, her vulnerabilities, etc
I guess all good relationships comes down to good communication and respect for the individual you’re with and allowing them to be them in whatever they see fit |
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"To hell with the gender roles, as long as something is good for the both genders i see no reason to conform with gender specific roles
Id have no issue with being in a relationship where the woman wears the trousers, while i cook and clean, likewise im happy to be the provider, display chivalry and take the lead. Whatever dynamic makes us happy regardless of what anyone else thinks or expects us how to act
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Ignore him, he drives a Vauxhall Cørsã.
If only I knew where you lived so i could make my race exhaust howl outside your house at 3am "
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He lives in Bridgend-er. ^ |
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"Wording and terminology can sometimes be misunderstood in these threads, but glad people kinda get what I was going for.
“Pink” and “Blue” roles, traditional, etc is what I was getting at.
Providing: emotional security, financial security, comfort and reassurance, etc
Protecting: her dignity, from physical threats, mental state and wellbeing, her vulnerabilities, etc
I guess all good relationships comes down to good communication and respect for the individual you’re with and allowing them to be them in whatever they see fit "
The last paragraph yes. The rest of it. No. |
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"Wording and terminology can sometimes be misunderstood in these threads, but glad people kinda get what I was going for.
“Pink” and “Blue” roles, traditional, etc is what I was getting at.
Providing: emotional security, financial security, comfort and reassurance, etc
Protecting: her dignity, from physical threats, mental state and wellbeing, her vulnerabilities, etc
I guess all good relationships comes down to good communication and respect for the individual you’re with and allowing them to be them in whatever they see fit
The last paragraph yes. The rest of it. No. "
Agree
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I guess in some ways we are gender stereotypical - I cut the grass, here ladyship is far more likely to do housework. That said, I do make a reasonable effort when I'm not working long hours to do if not my fair share then a decent amount. I think the biggest difference between us (and again this conforms to gender roles) is that in far more able to ignore household chores when I'm tired while her ladyship is incapable of doing so.
I used to consider my skill at DIY as being gender typical but more recently being to think that it's actually more rare in men than I realised.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Wording and terminology can sometimes be misunderstood in these threads, but glad people kinda get what I was going for.
“Pink” and “Blue” roles, traditional, etc is what I was getting at.
Providing: emotional security, financial security, comfort and reassurance, etc
Protecting: her dignity, from physical threats, mental state and wellbeing, her vulnerabilities, etc
I guess all good relationships comes down to good communication and respect for the individual you’re with and allowing them to be them in whatever they see fit
The last paragraph yes. The rest of it. No.
Agree
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After rereading I’m sticking to the last paragraph but think I could of reworded the first bit. Lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We tend to share chores indoors but my wife brushes our 4 year old daughter’s hair as I’m bloody useless at it. I maintain the chivalry thing such as opening doors where I can and of course giving up my seat if on public transport |
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"We tend to share chores indoors but my wife brushes our 4 year old daughter’s hair as I’m bloody useless at it. I maintain the chivalry thing such as opening doors where I can and of course giving up my seat if on public transport "
How would you feel if someone politely declined ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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A few weeks back, at about 3am, someone was banging on our back door to get in (wheeey) as there was a fight nearby that spilled across a few streets. A young girl had been trying to escape and jumped our fence for protection.
As the man, it fell on me to go and investigate, and take the appropriate action while Becky called the police.
I didn't mind at all. It's a privilege to have the strength and size to protect my woman and those weaker than me who may need it.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We tend to share chores indoors but my wife brushes our 4 year old daughter’s hair as I’m bloody useless at it. I maintain the chivalry thing such as opening doors where I can and of course giving up my seat if on public transport
How would you feel if someone politely declined ?"
I wouldn’t feel anything, that would be their choice, no harm done. |
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"We tend to share chores indoors but my wife brushes our 4 year old daughter’s hair as I’m bloody useless at it. I maintain the chivalry thing such as opening doors where I can and of course giving up my seat if on public transport
How would you feel if someone politely declined ?
I wouldn’t feel anything, that would be their choice, no harm done."
Respect !
Do you give your seat up for everyone who hasn't got one ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Women are here to serve their men, it's the only way.
What if I haven't got a man ? Who do I serve then ?"
if a man isnt available then you serve your cat if a neither a man or a cat isnt available then all is lost... |
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"What are the traditional roles ?
What does 'protect' mean ?
Traditional roles are the way they lived for a very long time with out change.
Thank you.
Who are they ?
How long ago ?
Where ?"
Its not a specific date. Something that is done continuously by a large number of people over a long space of time. Tradional wedding, traditional roast, traditional clothing like in say India, traditional Xmas tree, traditional trifel, traditional mass. .so can be anyone, anywhere, anything. Have you not started any family traditions? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m AFAB Non-Binary but even when I identified as a woman I didn’t hold gender roles…maybe it’s growing up with brothers? Idk…I do pretty much everything on my own; the chores, the cooking, the DIY. Independence or negligence on my parents behalf? Lmao |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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I wouldn’t say I’m old school or anything , I’d class myself as a feminist. But I do have a preference to take care of things in a crisis, make the decisions etc.
if a woman wants me to make small decisions for her & take care of her I like that.
Manners I use when it makes sense too , I prefer actions than words and gestures with no substance.
Chivalry is bollocks, hold the door for whoever is coming through , whatever their gender, it’s basic humanism. |
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