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By *acey_Red OP Woman
over a year ago
Liverpool |
How do you feel about women being quite specific about what pleases them sexually?
Are you happy for the information and happy to accommodate? Do you think she's demanding? Does it maje you feel a bit put out not to show off your signature moves if that's not what she likes? Am I even likely to get an honest response on here?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Crikey, half the job done for us, where do we sign up? As long as the man does what the woman is asking properly too, if she likes being devoured then devoured it is, if she likes firm hands then firm hands, I’m all for this |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just my opinion.
While it is fun experimenting and looking at various different methods in order to explore the levels of sexuality stimulation.
It does require communication as many people on not just this site but also in general populous. Have different levels of experience. What is pleasurable for one is not always pleasurable for the other. I do think it needs honesty about the sort of sexual stimulation and fantasy type play people want to engage with.
From a personal point of view. I prefer to engage with less experienced women. As I find it more enjoyable for not just myself. But, also the woman to slowly and methodically explore different elements of satisfaction. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Excellent I say, if I can help in anyway facilitate a good time then I am all for it. I might chuck in a few special moves to see how they react but more than willing to please they way they want it. |
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What a wonderful question. I'm a great advocate for spontaneity when it comes to sex. Sex which is devoid of any strict agenda so that it's not too prescriptive.
However, for me, it goes hand-in-hand with any useful guidance or information from my playmate on what she would like.
It's all about mutual pleasures and fulfillment. |
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By *acey_Red OP Woman
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"Crikey, half the job done for us, where do we sign up? As long as the man does what the woman is asking properly too, if she likes being devoured then devoured it is, if she likes firm hands then firm hands, I’m all for this "
I'm just so done with unsatisfying sex but I feel like I'm being selfish or demanding by being too specific. |
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I’m happy to know and I’m happy to tell. It’s just communication at the end of the day it’s not about competition. Though I will feel very put out if they said when person x did this it was amazing because then I would feel like I was competing.
I do have personal boundaries and I would not cross them for anyone.
Marc |
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By *lexV16Man
over a year ago
Welling |
"How do you feel about women being quite specific about what pleases them sexually?
Are you happy for the information and happy to accommodate? Do you think she's demanding? Does it maje you feel a bit put out not to show off your signature moves if that's not what she likes? Am I even likely to get an honest response on here? "
It’s absolutely fine and could be a huge turn on if it appears from innocent flirt. |
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By *yesgreenMan
over a year ago
north and south |
"How do you feel about women being quite specific about what pleases them sexually?
Are you happy for the information and happy to accommodate? Do you think she's demanding? Does it maje you feel a bit put out not to show off your signature moves if that's not what she likes? Am I even likely to get an honest response on here?
It’s absolutely fine and could be a huge turn on if it appears from innocent flirt."
I like to tell them what I want too , Gets me no where lol  |
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It's much better to know in advance.
what turns on one woman can turn off another.
Also, if it's a couple, they might have their personal boundaries agreed between them eg no kissing.
It's all about mutual respect.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I need this information! If it's not working for the lady I need to know what does. People are different, and unsatisfactory sex is a waste of time and effort...never mind disappointing.. |
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By *acey_Red OP Woman
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"I’m happy to know and I’m happy to tell. It’s just communication at the end of the day it’s not about competition. Though I will feel very put out if they said when person x did this it was amazing because then I would feel like I was competing.
I do have personal boundaries and I would not cross them for anyone.
Marc "
No I mean more liking things done a certain way rather than anything relating to specific people or anything particularly unusual. |
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"I’m happy to know and I’m happy to tell. It’s just communication at the end of the day it’s not about competition. Though I will feel very put out if they said when person x did this it was amazing because then I would feel like I was competing.
I do have personal boundaries and I would not cross them for anyone.
Marc
No I mean more liking things done a certain way rather than anything relating to specific people or anything particularly unusual. "
Then I see no issue whatsoever
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This is not straightforward - in the context of a committed relationship, one should always be willing to listen their partner(s) and adjust to please them - and vice versa.
Where it's a hook-up, the main driver is often the novelty of a new body and the rush that goes with that. The mood could easily be spoiled by being too prescriptive in that situation.
However, the beauty of Fab is that if you wanted a meet that involved, for example, having your pussy eaten for hours, you can ask for exactly that and dictate terms. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Way i see sex is its my job to create the perfect sexual experience for who im with every time
So to do that i need to gather information desires fantasies wanted experiences if those things are something i can accommodate that i will do my best to do it
It makes me feel good to create great sex |
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I like a lady who knows what she likes and gives guidance. But if it is prescriptive it can be restrictive.
She may have had bad experiences in the past but they weren't with me. If she dislikes oral, let me have a bit of fun giving her some. If she dislikes it we can stop.
Anal is another thing that I have done with ladies who said they didn't like it...but they allowed me to gently play and got into it.
I respect anyones boundaries sexually and you can sense if what you are doing is well received or not. But to be told how and what to do...and only that...would put me off.
Let's see where the mood takes us and just enjoy each other. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I will tell people beforehand the things that I don't like, I think the things you do like tend to come up in conversation naturally but I don't give people a specific "you must do this" list |
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By *acey_Red OP Woman
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"I like a lady who knows what she likes and gives guidance. But if it is prescriptive it can be restrictive.
She may have had bad experiences in the past but they weren't with me. If she dislikes oral, let me have a bit of fun giving her some. If she dislikes it we can stop.
Anal is another thing that I have done with ladies who said they didn't like it...but they allowed me to gently play and got into it.
I respect anyones boundaries sexually and you can sense if what you are doing is well received or not. But to be told how and what to do...and only that...would put me off.
Let's see where the mood takes us and just enjoy each other. "
I don't really necessarily mean that there's lots of things off bounds or that I'm against anything that isn't my ultimate things. I'm more than happy to do things that aren't limits for me or that don't cause me any unfun kinds of pain for someone elses enjoyment. I mean more that I know what is going to get me off and what makes sex uncomfortable for me. Waiting for someone to figure that out through exploring alone can lead to a number or unsatisfying, uncomfortable or even painful encounters for me until we know each other well enough. |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
Communication is so very important.
I think that some might be put off by an individual expressing their needs and how they enjoy being touched, as if they’re not capable and able of hitting the spot themselves without guidance (ego).
For me I’d much rather know that they’re enjoying themselves, that I’m touching them how and where they want and I’d be happy that they were comfortable enough to communicate openly with me about that.
Every woman has faked an orgasm at least once but no guy ever thinks that it’s them. That’s because communication breaks down and egos get in the way |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'll definitely try to accommodate and being pushed in the right direction (not the total direction, I mostly know where I'm going!) but if it feels like a rigid process, it can take away some of the sensuality of it all and I don't want to have the moment lost as a result. If she were to tell me beforehand then I'd be well up for it
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No issue with it, I'd rather know of things they don't like up front and feedback on what I'm doing is always good. Certainly don't think it comes across as demanding. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How do you feel about women being quite specific about what pleases them sexually?
Are you happy for the information and happy to accommodate? Do you think she's demanding? Does it maje you feel a bit put out not to show off your signature moves if that's not what she likes? Am I even likely to get an honest response on here? "
no, I'd rather her tell me, that way I don't make a fool myself |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Lol signature moves wish I knew what they where. Personally I’ve found that things just work if there isn’t any bravado. I remember certain connections with woman because we connected. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How do you feel about women being quite specific about what pleases them sexually?
Are you happy for the information and happy to accommodate? Do you think she's demanding? Does it maje you feel a bit put out not to show off your signature moves if that's not what she likes? Am I even likely to get an honest response on here? "
I think it’s great, because it will increase both party’s enjoyment and connection. I think that guys like to think that we’re born just naturally knowing how to be sex gods, but our egos are a massive hindrance to learning together with our partners, to achieve something that’s ultimately much better, much more connected, and sexier |
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"How do you feel about women being quite specific about what pleases them sexually?"
Happy for them to say, but most of the time it's just a guide. Just coz they enjoyed something specific with someone last Tuesday doesn't mean it's what they want tonight. |
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Like most things, a balance is best. If you're in bed with Mister-you-don't-want-to-do-it-like-that it could get a bit annoying.
But you want her to have a good time and who doesn't like cheating on the test?! So her feedback and direction is welcome.
But equally she shouldn't just be my way or the highway, being open minded and trying things is fun. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How do you feel about women being quite specific about what pleases them sexually?
Are you happy for the information and happy to accommodate? Do you think she's demanding? Does it maje you feel a bit put out not to show off your signature moves if that's not what she likes? Am I even likely to get an honest response on here? "
I absolutely totally 100% love it and welcome and relish it!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How do you feel about women being quite specific about what pleases them sexually?
Are you happy for the information and happy to accommodate? Do you think she's demanding? Does it maje you feel a bit put out not to show off your signature moves if that's not what she likes? Am I even likely to get an honest response on here? "
when shes says I just want a good pounding no fucking about |
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By *ammo89Man
over a year ago
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"How do you feel about women being quite specific about what pleases them sexually?
Are you happy for the information and happy to accommodate? Do you think she's demanding? Does it maje you feel a bit put out not to show off your signature moves if that's not what she likes? Am I even likely to get an honest response on here? "
Communication is key - knowing what they like is really important for everyone to enjoy themselves |
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"How do you feel about women being quite specific about what pleases them sexually?
Are you happy for the information and happy to accommodate? Do you think she's demanding? Does it maje you feel a bit put out not to show off your signature moves if that's not what she likes? Am I even likely to get an honest response on here? "
Happy to hear it as long as it doesn't become a demand, but more of a coaching |
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