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I have noticed that often the views on many things that I read in the forums are at odds with what people say on meets. The vast majority of people I meet rarely, if ever, say they use the forums.
Are there two almost completely separate fab communities that rarely interact? |
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over a year ago
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"I have noticed that often the views on many things that I read in the forums are at odds with what people say on meets. The vast majority of people I meet rarely, if ever, say they use the forums.
Are there two almost completely separate fab communities that rarely interact?"
The majority of guys who message me never use the forums. Lots don’t even know they exist.
So yes, maybe  |
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"I have noticed that often the views on many things that I read in the forums are at odds with what people say on meets. The vast majority of people I meet rarely, if ever, say they use the forums.
Are there two almost completely separate fab communities that rarely interact?"
I think some are perhaps a bit over reliant on the forums as a way of becoming known on here and that takes precedence over actually meeting people |
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over a year ago
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I think there’s a lot of browsers, back in the day when I was on here before and actually met people, it was probably a 50:50 mix of forum users and non-forum users, but the non-users were browsers who messaged me after seeing me on there..
In terms of what people say in public on the forums vs what goes on in private, then honestly, take EVERYTHING people say on the forums with a huge pinch of salt.
Particularly the bits about never cheating or meeting marrieds! |
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"I think there’s a lot of browsers, back in the day when I was on here before and actually met people, it was probably a 50:50 mix of forum users and non-forum users, but the non-users were browsers who messaged me after seeing me on there..
In terms of what people say in public on the forums vs what goes on in private, then honestly, take EVERYTHING people say on the forums with a huge pinch of salt.
Particularly the bits about never cheating or meeting marrieds!"
And a few of the other forum “favourite” convos  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It definitely feels like it. I know if I couldn't use the forums, I'd probably leave the site because there's no way in hell I'd log in to just browse and message women in the hope it gets read and the hope they like me. Sure I've probably become over-reliant on the forums for interaction, but I wouldn't have it any other way |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It’s a hard one. When you read the answers of people asking for profile advice much of it says use the forums. Become known.
But then you get called more of a socialite than a meeting swinger |
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"I think there’s a lot of browsers, back in the day when I was on here before and actually met people, it was probably a 50:50 mix of forum users and non-forum users, but the non-users were browsers who messaged me after seeing me on there..
In terms of what people say in public on the forums vs what goes on in private, then honestly, take EVERYTHING people say on the forums with a huge pinch of salt.
Particularly the bits about never cheating or meeting marrieds!"
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"I have noticed that often the views on many things that I read in the forums are at odds with what people say on meets. The vast majority of people I meet rarely, if ever, say they use the forums.
Are there two almost completely separate fab communities that rarely interact?
I think some are perhaps a bit over reliant on the forums as a way of becoming known on here and that takes precedence over actually meeting people "
I don’t care about being known but I have no intention of meeting any more, just here for the forums. You’re right, it does become a comfort blanket |
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I was unaware of the forum longer than I’ve been on them. Meeting folks was much nicer back then because it was way simpler.
I’ve shagged my quota of forum men and it’s been a blast. But it’s social only now. The ponds too small.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve found more success with getting replies from messages I’ve sent since I’ve started using the forums to chat on. Have even had women messaging me first which had never happened before so for me, going on the forums is very important. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have met both forum people and non forum people. But if they behave like a right knob on the forums I'd never agree to meet them outside of fab. "
Exactly this. |
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"I have met both forum people and non forum people. But if they behave like a right knob on the forums I'd never agree to meet them outside of fab.
I feel honoured then  "
You're my favourite female knobhead |
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"I have met both forum people and non forum people. But if they behave like a right knob on the forums I'd never agree to meet them outside of fab.
I feel honoured then
You're my favourite female knobhead "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have met both forum people and non forum people. But if they behave like a right knob on the forums I'd never agree to meet them outside of fab.
I feel honoured then
You're my favourite female knobhead
Awwwww "
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I use the forums as another filter. I don't meet very often due to work and time constraints so the forums are really the only part of the site I use.
As far as public and private thoughts being different, that seems to be a thing on here especially when it comes to the sharing of info which is why I always look for consistency in profiles, pics, forum comments and private messages before I would consider meeting anyone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Most guys I met literally have no idea what the forum is and what I’m on about
They are missing out. Having said that sexually, I’d rather be with somebody who’s not a forumite!
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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No, they're not completely separate communities but it's fun to meet people away from the forums and those who post crap in it. Like anywhere, people talk nonsense - on here it's just a bit more public.
As for views being different, it could be a myriad of things - people might not want to share their views, different mindset and approach to "swinging"...
Anyway, I like meeting forum users. They're not a bad bunch really. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
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Are there two almost completely separate fab communities that rarely interact?"
It's always been estimated that less than 1% of the site's members use the forums.
But they do interact.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I find those that don't use the forum are more compatible with my ideas of meeting. The forum is in no way representative of the fab majority. Thank goodness. |
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We’ve also found most people we’ve met don’t use the forums. As mostly we want to meet local people I don’t use the forums to look for potential meets. For me the forums are for entertainment and social. I’ve made a lot of friends through the forums and met most of them.
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"I find those that don't use the forum are more compatible with my ideas of meeting. The forum is in no way representative of the fab majority. Thank goodness. "
I agree they are not representative. |
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I find forums more interesting and the messages from guys who've checked out my profile due to forums are more interesting and intelligent. I don't base anything on looks maybe I should start but my perfect image guy I'd be pissed if he was an asshole but finding a super intellectual guy that got me sexually who's a 5 is far hotter to me!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Beware the off site Fab Forum chat groups, by the way, and gossip / rumour mill. I presume that’s still there, it was apparently rife back in the day 
Oh its very much still there "
How do people not part of this know? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Beware the off site Fab Forum chat groups, by the way, and gossip / rumour mill. I presume that’s still there, it was apparently rife back in the day "
Now that is sad. Poor fuckers need to get a life  |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"I should have guessed this would become a slightly ironic forum users are Satan thread. "
Met plenty. Shagged a few. Bunch of egomaniacs, nutters and opinionated muppets if you ask me.
But I'd still rather meet one over much of the Fab general population if I'm honest.
You get a much more interesting class of weirdo...... 
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"We've met a fair few people recently at clubs recently who aren't on fabs at all. A few people we know use the forums, but not many."
I am surprised there are many club goers who are not fab members. I can imagine there are some but would have thought it was a minority. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Most of the people I meet are non forum users.
The ones I’ve met socially is via the Manchester social. Most of the London social goers aren’t forum users, with the odd exception. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I only really try and meet people off the forum. I find I feel like I already know them, so when we meet it’s like seeing an old friend.
This can be achieved without the forum. I know many of you don't believe that people chat before meeting away from the forum, but *whispers* it does happen. 
I think it can be quite different, but that’s just my opinion from experience, meeting both that use it and don’t "
Having only ever met one forum user I really can't say I noticed a difference. I've just never seen anyone that I like that is suitable and in meeting distance on the forum. |
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By *KloganMan
over a year ago
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"Some people who use the forums, meet.
Some people who meet, use the forums.
Imagine a Venn diagram....
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I like this analogy, I sometimes post in a topic that I might have an opinion on or a story to add, but I’m in no way a regular poster. So maybe there’s another dynamic that bridge the gap? Maybe the occasional poster lies somewhere inbeteeen.
People who I’ve talked to online and met is a 50/50 split I guess but I get a few more messages from people who have seen me on the forum and have read my profile so there’s a better chance of carrying on the conversation.
What I would echo is just how important the forum is, from the nocturnal threads, the advice on the lifestyle, the fun introduction games.. all help relative new comers find a way to talk..
Maybe the forum could do with signposting a little better? |
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"I have noticed that often the views on many things that I read in the forums are at odds with what people say on meets. The vast majority of people I meet rarely, if ever, say they use the forums.
Are there two almost completely separate fab communities that rarely interact?
I think some are perhaps a bit over reliant on the forums as a way of becoming known on here and that takes precedence over actually meeting people "
Tin hat time but.
When asked the question on threads, I’m often surprised by how rarely forumites actually meet despite being all of the forum “like a rash”.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have noticed that often the views on many things that I read in the forums are at odds with what people say on meets. The vast majority of people I meet rarely, if ever, say they use the forums.
Are there two almost completely separate fab communities that rarely interact?
I think some are perhaps a bit over reliant on the forums as a way of becoming known on here and that takes precedence over actually meeting people
Tin hat time but.
When asked the question on threads, I’m often surprised by how rarely forumites actually meet despite being all of the forum “like a rash”.
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How does forum use and frequency of meets correlate? Are you saying that people who use the forums should meet more?
Lots are only here to use the forums and aren’t interested in meeting at all. |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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I’ve met a fair few forum users over time.
In my experience though, far more just read and lurk than post.
I’ve met quite a few people at socials that don’t engage but enjoy observing interactions on here.
I think that it’s a very small site and anyone who says that they don’t at least look or know that they’re here is telling porkies. The tab is on the home screen! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I talk on the forums, do I have meaningful conversations here? Maybe not. But Dms, maybe.
But I do know those that don’t use the forums are more likely to show there hand quicker to what they want. They are more direct, and open to talking more. Which is odd really, as they don’t feel the need to use forums. 
So maybe there are two kinds of people here.
It in the words of Yoda….there is another!  |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
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Our better meets (social and otherwise) have been from connections made on the forum.
It is fun to see how some people act on here to project one kind of image, yet are different in reality, including the oft used “we don’t meet forumites” |
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"I must admit that I find it amusing how so many regular forum users are scornful of other forum users!
Like posting on the forums is a bad thing "
I don't think anyone said it's a bad thing. |
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I must admit to preferring the forums, I dont post often but do enjoy following threads and contributing where I can.
Some days I never look at profiles only ever view the forums. I feel its slightly more civilised, perhaps thats and unfair assessment but certainly less chance of chatting with a fake, or so I think.
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By (user no longer on site)
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When I first came here I rarely used the forums, apart from posting the odd fantasy story.
I have got into the habit of engaging a bit more, and even starting some threads.
Don't think I have met anyone I came across on the forums and using them does not put me off meeting. It's just sometimes fun to engage and interact. |
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"I have noticed that often the views on many things that I read in the forums are at odds with what people say on meets. The vast majority of people I meet rarely, if ever, say they use the forums.
Are there two almost completely separate fab communities that rarely interact?
The majority of guys who message me never use the forums. Lots don’t even know they exist.
So yes, maybe "
Only found you be of forums praise the lord |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I’ve met lots of forumites socially, and I love doing that, it’s fascinating to put faces ti names and personalities.
I’ve made loads of lovely connections, but it’s rare I will meet a forumite for anything more these days, purely because it just feels a bit more ‘public’ |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I must admit that I find it amusing how so many regular forum users are scornful of other forum users!
Like posting on the forums is a bad thing "
Well I can’t speak for anyone else, but I for one regularly use the forums and I’m a right c*nt. So maybe they’re onto something! |
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"I’ve met lots of forumites socially, and I love doing that, it’s fascinating to put faces ti names and personalities.
I’ve made loads of lovely connections, but it’s rare I will meet a forumite for anything more these days, purely because it just feels a bit more ‘public’"
I'd be rare for you |
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We fish for meets outside of the forums.
We use the forums for chatting rubbish and keeping in touch with friends.
On occasions we combine the both.
We met each other on the forums so we are hardly going to say it’s a rubbish place to meet
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I must admit that I find it amusing how so many regular forum users are scornful of other forum users!
Like posting on the forums is a bad thing
Who is being scornful? "
People see what they want to see. |
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