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I don't think we should see eachother anymore
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By *agic.M OP Man
over a year ago
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So you are having dinner in a restaurant with someone you've been seeing (romantically) for the past 3 months...everything is progressing well (from your POV) and than all of a sudden they hit you with "I don't think we should see eachother anymore..."
What would your reaction/response be?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends whos saying it only one woman has ever or will ever make me feel that vulnerable to care enough for a reaction anyone else id be ok cool but remember when you fuck the next guy its not my fault if sex is now broken for you its all down hill from here bye bye |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Inner head me
Say ok proceed to the nearest bar pull any old random
Let them take me home and rail me all night
Nice person me
Ask why and see it’s maybe something I have done maybe we can work it out
If not thank them for the time together
Pay the bill and wish them well
Go home cry my eyes out |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It would depend on my hunger levels.I would probably come out in a stress rash whilst I say they're thinking about how to react and whether I would be getting any tea. So I would just sit there all red.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It would depend on my hunger levels.I would probably come out in a stress rash whilst I sat there thinking about how to react and whether I would be getting any tea. So I would just sit there all red. "
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"I would have to ask why
Really, what if they say something that wasn't nice about you, it would be in your head forever.
I'd rather not give them that power "
Yea i get that but if i really liked someone i don't think i could just walk away without some sort of explanation |
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"It would depend on my hunger levels.I would probably come out in a stress rash whilst I sat there thinking about how to react and whether I would be getting any tea. So I would just sit there all red.
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If there is a rash involved glad it's over. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would have to ask why
Really, what if they say something that wasn't nice about you, it would be in your head forever.
I'd rather not give them that power
Yea i get that but if i really liked someone i don't think i could just walk away without some sort of explanation"
I'd be interested in hearing the other person's perspective...and then decide if I thought they were talking bollocks or not
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"So you are having dinner in a restaurant with someone you've been seeing (romantically) for the past 3 months...everything is progressing well (from your POV) and than all of a sudden they hit you with "I don't think we should see eachother anymore..."
What would your reaction/response be? "
Ok. Then leave. Meh!  |
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By *agic.M OP Man
over a year ago
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"It would depend on my feelings towards him, but I would ask why we had to go to dinner for him to tell me.
A phone call would have been sufficient. "
You wouldn't be offended and think they are cowardly, because they "didn't have the courage to say it to your face" ?  |
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Finish the meal off as its got to be paid for anyway.
Might not enjoy the company but if the foods good why not.
Then pay half the bill and say.
I wish you all the best and say good bye then walk away. |
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 literally had this exact thing recently. I just said “Oh, ok. Bit of a dick move choosing this particular moment but I’m not going to try and change your mind” got up and left.
I don’t think he expected that reaction as he’s been telling me he got it wrong and ‘chasing’ me since |
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"I would have to ask why
Really, what if they say something that wasn't nice about you, it would be in your head forever.
I'd rather not give them that power
Yea i get that but if i really liked someone i don't think i could just walk away without some sort of explanation
I'd be interested in hearing the other person's perspective...and then decide if I thought they were talking bollocks or not
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Exactly, which they probably would be.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So you are having dinner in a restaurant with someone you've been seeing (romantically) for the past 3 months...everything is progressing well (from your POV) and than all of a sudden they hit you with "I don't think we should see eachother anymore..."
What would your reaction/response be? "
I must say OP, you’ve got a cracking body. Good work  |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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"So you are having dinner in a restaurant with someone you've been seeing (romantically) for the past 3 months...everything is progressing well (from your POV) and than all of a sudden they hit you with "I don't think we should see eachother anymore..."
What would your reaction/response be?
I must say OP, you’ve got a cracking body. Good work "
That's a strange response to being dumped. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m trying to work out why anyone would arrange to take someone out for a meal to finish with them, especially if they’ve only been dating for 3 months. It would mean they have to sit through a meal with someone knowing they’re going to dump them at the end of it because they’re not going to dump them before or during the meal surely. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So you are having dinner in a restaurant with someone you've been seeing (romantically) for the past 3 months...everything is progressing well (from your POV) and than all of a sudden they hit you with "I don't think we should see eachother anymore..."
What would your reaction/response be?
I must say OP, you’ve got a cracking body. Good work
That's a strange response to being dumped."
I didn’t know it had happened to him personally. Thought it was general discussion. He didn’t say (unless I’ve missed something further down).
I also thought it would be nice to hear from a fellow gym goer as I know the work that goes in.
I stand corrected. |
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"I’m trying to work out why anyone would arrange to take someone out for a meal to finish with them, especially if they’ve only been dating for 3 months. It would mean they have to sit through a meal with someone knowing they’re going to dump them at the end of it because they’re not going to dump them before or during the meal surely."
I have a feeling the person that booked the table and suggested the date in the first place was the one being made surplus to requirements.
I would question anyone's principles that would accept the offer of a date, get dressed and the rest and travel to the restaurant, sit down and then say "I think we shouldn't see eachother anymore". That's a lot of effort to see someone you don't want to see anymore when a simple "thanks for asking, but this isn't what I want so I think we should go our separate ways" way before the last date happened.
It would save everyone's feelings being hurt or ego being dented. |
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"I’m trying to work out why anyone would arrange to take someone out for a meal to finish with them, especially if they’ve only been dating for 3 months. It would mean they have to sit through a meal with someone knowing they’re going to dump them at the end of it because they’re not going to dump them before or during the meal surely.
I have a feeling the person that booked the table and suggested the date in the first place was the one being made surplus to requirements.
I would question anyone's principles that would accept the offer of a date, get dressed and the rest and travel to the restaurant, sit down and then say "I think we shouldn't see eachother anymore". That's a lot of effort to see someone you don't want to see anymore when a simple "thanks for asking, but this isn't what I want so I think we should go our separate ways" way before the last date happened.
It would save everyone's feelings being hurt or ego being dented. "
After three months though they might be in terms where they can still be friends, after deciding it wasn’t to continue romantically. |
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Thank you for telling me - in 5 mins I was just about to offer you a marriage proposal with a £2m Cartier engagement ring to the accompaniment of a 100 piece orchestra and a professionl film crew to capture the special moment. Think I’ll save it for someone else? Off you trot then dear - I’m staying to finish my dinner! That nice blonde over there might thank you for warming up the chair for her! Byeee! |
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"My response, “can I have your sister’s number?”
Good one 
Unless they are twins of course! "
I’ve actually got that T-shirt - except I already had it and made very good use of it, since the sister’s now my wife! |
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"My response, “can I have your sister’s number?”
Good one
Unless they are twins of course!
I’ve actually got that T-shirt - except I already had it and made very good use of it, since the sister’s now my wife! "
I need glasses as I read that as “my sister is now my wife”. I really must get laser |
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"I’m trying to work out why anyone would arrange to take someone out for a meal to finish with them, especially if they’ve only been dating for 3 months. It would mean they have to sit through a meal with someone knowing they’re going to dump them at the end of it because they’re not going to dump them before or during the meal surely.
I have a feeling the person that booked the table and suggested the date in the first place was the one being made surplus to requirements.
I would question anyone's principles that would accept the offer of a date, get dressed and the rest and travel to the restaurant, sit down and then say "I think we shouldn't see eachother anymore". That's a lot of effort to see someone you don't want to see anymore when a simple "thanks for asking, but this isn't what I want so I think we should go our separate ways" way before the last date happened.
It would save everyone's feelings being hurt or ego being dented.
After three months though they might be in terms where they can still be friends, after deciding it wasn’t to continue romantically."
So the conversation goes "before we do that though, I need to tell you that I don't want to be with you in a dating or sexual way anymore so inthink that relationship is now over. If you still want to be friends though, we can do that. We are adults after all"
Then they cam decide if the table should be cancelled |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So you are having dinner in a restaurant with someone you've been seeing (romantically) for the past 3 months...everything is progressing well (from your POV) and than all of a sudden they hit you with "I don't think we should see eachother anymore..."
What would your reaction/response be? "
First reaction would be to ask them if they are sure that's what they want .if they answered yes to that I would order the cheque pay for the meal, wish them all the best in there life going forward and leave .
What more is there to say and do they have made up there mind my action ive detailed above are about respecting there wishes and me not losing my dignity over another person's choice.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’m trying to work out why anyone would arrange to take someone out for a meal to finish with them, especially if they’ve only been dating for 3 months. It would mean they have to sit through a meal with someone knowing they’re going to dump them at the end of it because they’re not going to dump them before or during the meal surely."
Agree...
It's as though they want to witness your reaction & if you take it badly & get upset they will get a thrill from it. |
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As they have chosen a public moment to potentially avoid a scene...I've obviously made a shit choice in choosing to spend time with an incompatible so I'd take it on the chin, say thank you for the evening and just leave |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’d presume they picked a public place to avoid a reaction so I’d do the opposite of what they’d expect and continue as if nothing had happened, finish my meal and then thank them for a lovely evening and leave. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So you are having dinner in a restaurant with someone you've been seeing (romantically) for the past 3 months...everything is progressing well (from your POV) and than all of a sudden they hit you with "I don't think we should see eachother anymore..."
What would your reaction/response be? "
Ah the classic 3 month warranty period |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it depends on the restaurant. I'm walking out of any pub/carvery venue.
Nice restaurant that I've been looking forward to, I'd probably stay for desert.
Then check my fab messages. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Can be a " Shite test "
People words have way to many layers.
People work on emotions feelings. And those change every sec/min.
Don't most expresse and say.
Not the words used.
It's how you or they make themselves feel within!!
Totall minefield. Cocktail & mixtures.
Get up walk away. The sell buy date has exspired. Everything has a date. Don't look back. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd ask why obviously.
Then do the adult thing and say "Fuck you and your tiny dick!" before storming out of the restaurant. And though I may miss you, I'd never contact you again.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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But seriously, I would ask for the reason, but won't press too much for it. If she isn't interested, there is no point pestering. Ask for the bill soon to reduce the amount of awkward time spent. |
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By *agic.M OP Man
over a year ago
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"So you are having dinner in a restaurant with someone you've been seeing (romantically) for the past 3 months...everything is progressing well (from your POV) and than all of a sudden they hit you with "I don't think we should see eachother anymore..."
What would your reaction/response be?
I must say OP, you’ve got a cracking body. Good work "
Some parts of my body are definitely cracking ...definitely getting older |
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By *agic.M OP Man
over a year ago
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"I'd ask why obviously.
Then do the adult thing and say "Fuck you and your tiny dick!" before storming out of the restaurant. And though I may miss you, I'd never contact you again.
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Ah the classic shame his manhood in public...can't go wrong with that one |
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By *agic.M OP Man
over a year ago
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"Wait till there next loo trip and stir some hot chilli sauce in their meal and watch , obviously
Note to self, guard your meal at all times whilst out with Grumps...."
Take your meal with you to the toilet if necessary |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'd ask why obviously.
Then do the adult thing and say "Fuck you and your tiny dick!" before storming out of the restaurant. And though I may miss you, I'd never contact you again.
Ah the classic shame his manhood in public...can't go wrong with that one "
It's not big (my reaction, not his dick!) and it's not clever....but we all say and do silly things when we're angry. |
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By *agic.M OP Man
over a year ago
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"I'd ask why obviously.
Then do the adult thing and say "Fuck you and your tiny dick!" before storming out of the restaurant. And though I may miss you, I'd never contact you again.
Ah the classic shame his manhood in public...can't go wrong with that one
It's not big (my reaction, not his dick!) and it's not clever....but we all say and do silly things when we're angry."
What if he actually has a big penis? would you still mention the "tiny dick" part? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'd ask why obviously.
Then do the adult thing and say "Fuck you and your tiny dick!" before storming out of the restaurant. And though I may miss you, I'd never contact you again.
Ah the classic shame his manhood in public...can't go wrong with that one
It's not big (my reaction, not his dick!) and it's not clever....but we all say and do silly things when we're angry.
What if he actually has a big penis? would you still mention the "tiny dick" part? "
Course!
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By *agic.M OP Man
over a year ago
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"I'd ask why obviously.
Then do the adult thing and say "Fuck you and your tiny dick!" before storming out of the restaurant. And though I may miss you, I'd never contact you again.
Ah the classic shame his manhood in public...can't go wrong with that one
It's not big (my reaction, not his dick!) and it's not clever....but we all say and do silly things when we're angry.
What if he actually has a big penis? would you still mention the "tiny dick" part?
Course!
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"Emotional damage!" |
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"So you are having dinner in a restaurant with someone you've been seeing (romantically) for the past 3 months...everything is progressing well (from your POV) and than all of a sudden they hit you with "I don't think we should see eachother anymore..."
What would your reaction/response be?
I must say OP, you’ve got a cracking body. Good work
Some parts of my body are definitely cracking ...definitely getting older "
Aren’t we all, unfortunately  |
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By *agic.M OP Man
over a year ago
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"So you are having dinner in a restaurant with someone you've been seeing (romantically) for the past 3 months...everything is progressing well (from your POV) and than all of a sudden they hit you with "I don't think we should see eachother anymore..."
What would your reaction/response be?
I must say OP, you’ve got a cracking body. Good work
Some parts of my body are definitely cracking ...definitely getting older
Aren’t we all, unfortunately "
Not Jared Leto...  |
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"So you are having dinner in a restaurant with someone you've been seeing (romantically) for the past 3 months...everything is progressing well (from your POV) and than all of a sudden they hit you with "I don't think we should see eachother anymore..."
What would your reaction/response be?
I must say OP, you’ve got a cracking body. Good work
Some parts of my body are definitely cracking ...definitely getting older
Aren’t we all, unfortunately
Not Jared Leto... "
Well, no |
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"I would have to ask why
Really, what if they say something that wasn't nice about you, it would be in your head forever.
I'd rather not give them that power "
exactly. I dont even want to know why. Wish you the best and im gone unbothered |
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Probably make a joke about it being undstandable as being seen in public with me isn't good for anyone's image and how to leave without it being awkard, but on the inside feel rejected and a bit of a dick.
Finish the meal and wish them well.
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Shrug shoulders and say 'ok'. I can be fully committed to a person but at the slightest chance they are not to me, I lose interest immediately. There is no going back on that. To be honest though I think I'd know the signs before it got to that stage. |
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"So you are having dinner in a restaurant with someone you've been seeing (romantically) for the past 3 months...everything is progressing well (from your POV) and than all of a sudden they hit you with "I don't think we should see eachother anymore..."
What would your reaction/response be? "
Having almost exhausted the opportunities for humour on this matter, my reply to the OP is:
I can't see a need for a dramatic reaction. It sounds like the woman is saying what many do when a discussion over a meal is called for rather than an abrupt ending there and then.
I would have replied something like, "I am sorry to hear that. I am sure we can talk about it and maybe now is a good time (to talk, rather than split) as things have turned out".
Quite often, anyway, that sort of conversation is just a test of commitment and later that evening you find yourself even more deeply involved and wondering whether you should have got out while the offer stood!
Only as a last resort do I part company with people for ever. Usually they keep in touch and sometimes we meet for old time's sake or, with luck for good time's sake. Only if they meet the obvious love of their life elsewhere do we make it final. At least one has moved on and still come back for an occasional reminder so never say 'never again'!
Only once have I seen finality as the best thing to do, in the interest of my own safety.
Going back to the humorous slant, a restaurant is only likely to feature at a very early stage of my involvement and even then a full stomach is best avoided if sexual athletics are also on the evening's agenda! |
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Say "I've been thinking the same thing for months, just didn't have the balls to say anything, cheers". Then go home and cry into a crystal cut glass full of J.D, and check out the women on Fab. |
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"So you are having dinner in a restaurant with someone you've been seeing (romantically) for the past 3 months...everything is progressing well (from your POV) and than all of a sudden they hit you with "I don't think we should see eachother anymore..."
What would your reaction/response be? "
Nae bother doll, plenty more gussets for Pablo to plunder.  |
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"I'd ask why obviously.
Then do the adult thing and say "Fuck you and your tiny dick!" before storming out of the restaurant. And though I may miss you, I'd never contact you again.
Ah the classic shame his manhood in public...can't go wrong with that one
It's not big (my reaction, not his dick!) and it's not clever....but we all say and do silly things when we're angry.
What if he actually has a big penis? would you still mention the "tiny dick" part?
Course!
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Oh wow! Remind me never to cross you sweetie! Hell hath no fury like a woman’s scorn! |
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