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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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.... really struggle to find a woman's clit?
All the comments on the clit thread got me thinking. Obviously the whole men don't know how to find a clit is a stereotype and most stereotypes have some kind of cause. So, women of Fab, are there really enough men who don't know where a clit is to justify this stereotype?
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over a year ago
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Erm... well... I mean there have been a few times... where they've been diddling a bit lower. To the left. Or right of where it is. I either start wanking to show them where it is or say something. Politely. Make a joke. Awkwardly. |
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".... really struggle to find a woman's clit?
All the comments on the clit thread got me thinking. Obviously the whole men don't know how to find a clit is a stereotype and most stereotypes have some kind of cause. So, women of Fab, are there really enough men who don't know where a clit is to justify this stereotype?
Mr"
It’s not true you know, there is no such thing as the female clitoris 
It’s a fable like fairies and stuff.
What’ll be next? There’ll be a rumour that women have a spot on the inside that also gives heightened pleasure curls their toes and contracts a little when you find it.
It’s all rubbish if you ask me
Now, dragons, themes dragons are real! Toothless was a great example of a nightfury
I used to have cake, but not any more………… |
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Not sure if you've seen the internet clip. Essentially they approach men with a diagram of the clit, urethra, vagina and anus and then ask them which is the clit. It was rather worrying how many got it wrong. So I'm going to base my assumptions on that video and say many don't have a clue. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I thought it was the gspot they can never find
Even Wikipedia says that it's existence is yet to be proven. Deffo a myth
Mr
I don’t think I’ve got one  "
In that case I'm never gonna find it. That and the beard thing. And the distance. And ... I give up.
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By (user no longer on site)
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".... really struggle to find a woman's clit?
All the comments on the clit thread got me thinking. Obviously the whole men don't know how to find a clit is a stereotype and most stereotypes have some kind of cause. So, women of Fab, are there really enough men who don't know where a clit is to justify this stereotype?
Mr
It’s not true you know, there is no such thing as the female clitoris
It’s a fable like fairies and stuff.
What’ll be next? There’ll be a rumour that women have a spot on the inside that also gives heightened pleasure curls their toes and contracts a little when you find it.
It’s all rubbish if you ask me
Now, dragons, themes dragons are real! Toothless was a great example of a nightfury
I used to have cake, but not any more…………"
I see what you are doing!!!!!
Sneaking Frickin cake into another thread ya deviant  |
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"I thought it was the gspot they can never find
Even Wikipedia says that it's existence is yet to be proven. Deffo a myth
Mr
I don’t think I’ve got one
In that case I'm never gonna find it. That and the beard thing. And the distance. And ... I give up.
Mr"
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Not sure if you've seen the internet clip. Essentially they approach men with a diagram of the clit, urethra, vagina and anus and then ask them which is the clit. It was rather worrying how many got it wrong. So I'm going to base my assumptions on that video and say many don't have a clue. "
To be fair, if you go by those type of clips the entire world is made up of people who are utterly thick and clearly either didn't go to school or learnt absolutely nothing there.
Actually ... you've probably got a point
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In my experience women are terrible communicators
We might think we are on the clit and they moan and say it’s the best head ever and fake orgasms
Then they surprised they don’t get better
I was luckily enough quite young to have an extremely good partner that wasn’t afraid to tell me, and show me, what made her feel good. So I don’t struggle
That’s rare though |
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"Not sure if you've seen the internet clip. Essentially they approach men with a diagram of the clit, urethra, vagina and anus and then ask them which is the clit. It was rather worrying how many got it wrong. So I'm going to base my assumptions on that video and say many don't have a clue.
To be fair, if you go by those type of clips the entire world is made up of people who are utterly thick and clearly either didn't go to school or learnt absolutely nothing there.
Actually ... you've probably got a point
Mr"
Lol, but how many men are really taught exactly where it is? And that's not an actual criticism of men. If you look on here the amount of willy shots compared to close ups of clits is disproportionate. Women are taught not to flaunt our bits and bobs where men aren't as much. So it's not really surprising that many don't really know. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"In my experience women are terrible communicators
We might think we are on the clit and they moan and say it’s the best head ever and fake orgasms
Then they surprised they don’t get better
I was luckily enough quite young to have an extremely good partner that wasn’t afraid to tell me, and show me, what made her feel good. So I don’t struggle
That’s rare though "
Well of course it must be women's fault.  |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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Surely a bit of porn, even unintentionally, gives it away... While not the best in terms of expectations of sex, porn is a fairly good source of information when it comes to a quick road map of the location of such things |
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"In my experience women are terrible communicators
We might think we are on the clit and they moan and say it’s the best head ever and fake orgasms
Then they surprised they don’t get better
I was luckily enough quite young to have an extremely good partner that wasn’t afraid to tell me, and show me, what made her feel good. So I don’t struggle
That’s rare though
Well of course it must be women's fault. "
Well what can I say.
If a chef served you up a steak that’s over cooked but you said it’s perfect, is it the chefs fault if he keeps doing it that way?
I should preface it with “some women”. But in my experience most women will lie about their partners sexual performance because they want to spare his feelings or find talking about it too awkward/weird
Sex is a 2 way thing. If your not grown up enough to tell your partner what you like, you can’t expect them to automatically know.
And it’s exactly the same with men. If your girl is giving you awful blowjobs and you say it’s the best ever, that’s on you |
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"Surely a bit of porn, even unintentionally, gives it away... While not the best in terms of expectations of sex, porn is a fairly good source of information when it comes to a quick road map of the location of such things"
True but not that I've watched loads. But they tend to be quite prominent ones, which certainly isn't. So I can see why if that was used as a road map things may not work terribly well. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"In my experience women are terrible communicators
We might think we are on the clit and they moan and say it’s the best head ever and fake orgasms
Then they surprised they don’t get better
I was luckily enough quite young to have an extremely good partner that wasn’t afraid to tell me, and show me, what made her feel good. So I don’t struggle
That’s rare though
Well of course it must be women's fault.
Well what can I say.
If a chef served you up a steak that’s over cooked but you said it’s perfect, is it the chefs fault if he keeps doing it that way?
I should preface it with “some women”. But in my experience most women will lie about their partners sexual performance because they want to spare his feelings or find talking about it too awkward/weird
Sex is a 2 way thing. If your not grown up enough to tell your partner what you like, you can’t expect them to automatically know.
And it’s exactly the same with men. If your girl is giving you awful blowjobs and you say it’s the best ever, that’s on you"
So nothing about men in your response? Nothing men could do, should do? Just women are terrible communicators etc. I don't suppose men could possibly do some communicating, could they? You've just straight away put it all on women. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Surely a bit of porn, even unintentionally, gives it away... While not the best in terms of expectations of sex, porn is a fairly good source of information when it comes to a quick road map of the location of such things"
Really? I've never seen porn where men do anything other than finger blast if that. The focus isn't on pleasuring women rather than using them. |
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"Erm... well... I mean there have been a few times... where they've been diddling a bit lower. To the left. Or right of where it is. I either start wanking to show them where it is or say something. Politely. Make a joke. Awkwardly. "
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I usually ask them to place a wafer thin slice of cake in the general proximity of where it is.
I then go foraging. |
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"In my experience women are terrible communicators
We might think we are on the clit and they moan and say it’s the best head ever and fake orgasms
Then they surprised they don’t get better
I was luckily enough quite young to have an extremely good partner that wasn’t afraid to tell me, and show me, what made her feel good. So I don’t struggle
That’s rare though
Well of course it must be women's fault.
Well what can I say.
If a chef served you up a steak that’s over cooked but you said it’s perfect, is it the chefs fault if he keeps doing it that way?
I should preface it with “some women”. But in my experience most women will lie about their partners sexual performance because they want to spare his feelings or find talking about it too awkward/weird
Sex is a 2 way thing. If your not grown up enough to tell your partner what you like, you can’t expect them to automatically know.
And it’s exactly the same with men. If your girl is giving you awful blowjobs and you say it’s the best ever, that’s on you
So nothing about men in your response? Nothing men could do, should do? Just women are terrible communicators etc. I don't suppose men could possibly do some communicating, could they? You've just straight away put it all on women. "
My view is that if your unhappy, it’s your job to say so
Guy can’t find your clit? Show him. Don’t sit there suddenly expecting things to change and assuming no men know where the clit is.
Take some action instead of complaining |
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"Erm... well... I mean there have been a few times... where they've been diddling a bit lower. To the left. Or right of where it is. I either start wanking to show them where it is or say something. Politely. Make a joke. Awkwardly.
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I usually ask them to place a wafer thin slice of cake in the general proximity of where it is.
I then go foraging."
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Alternatively I just go the local labiary and look it up under the book section titled "cliterature". |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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"Surely a bit of porn, even unintentionally, gives it away... While not the best in terms of expectations of sex, porn is a fairly good source of information when it comes to a quick road map of the location of such things
Really? I've never seen porn where men do anything other than finger blast if that. The focus isn't on pleasuring women rather than using them. "
There is plenty of porn out there that is so much more than that. Some amazing amateur stuff, and some professional stuff too.
There is even a dude (not the only one) that is dedicated to (but not limited to) pussy licking.
Point being, if somebody has ever watched even half decent porn they should easily have an idea of where it is, otherwise they have little clue to any part of the vulva or general area anyway |
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"Surely a bit of porn, even unintentionally, gives it away... While not the best in terms of expectations of sex, porn is a fairly good source of information when it comes to a quick road map of the location of such things
Really? I've never seen porn where men do anything other than finger blast if that. The focus isn't on pleasuring women rather than using them.
There is plenty of porn out there that is so much more than that. Some amazing amateur stuff, and some professional stuff too.
There is even a dude (not the only one) that is dedicated to (but not limited to) pussy licking.
Point being, if somebody has ever watched even half decent porn they should easily have an idea of where it is, otherwise they have little clue to any part of the vulva or general area anyway "
I only usually watch porn for research |
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"Erm... well... I mean there have been a few times... where they've been diddling a bit lower. To the left. Or right of where it is. I either start wanking to show them where it is or say something. Politely. Make a joke. Awkwardly.
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I usually ask them to place a wafer thin slice of cake in the general proximity of where it is.
I then go foraging.
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Alternatively I just go the local labiary and look it up under the book section titled "cliterature"."
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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"Surely a bit of porn, even unintentionally, gives it away... While not the best in terms of expectations of sex, porn is a fairly good source of information when it comes to a quick road map of the location of such things
True but not that I've watched loads. But they tend to be quite prominent ones, which certainly isn't. So I can see why if that was used as a road map things may not work terribly well. "
Okay, fair enough not just any porn of course, a close up is needed but that happens in most decent porn these days anyway. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"In my experience women are terrible communicators
We might think we are on the clit and they moan and say it’s the best head ever and fake orgasms
Then they surprised they don’t get better
I was luckily enough quite young to have an extremely good partner that wasn’t afraid to tell me, and show me, what made her feel good. So I don’t struggle
That’s rare though
Well of course it must be women's fault.
Well what can I say.
If a chef served you up a steak that’s over cooked but you said it’s perfect, is it the chefs fault if he keeps doing it that way?
I should preface it with “some women”. But in my experience most women will lie about their partners sexual performance because they want to spare his feelings or find talking about it too awkward/weird
Sex is a 2 way thing. If your not grown up enough to tell your partner what you like, you can’t expect them to automatically know.
And it’s exactly the same with men. If your girl is giving you awful blowjobs and you say it’s the best ever, that’s on you
So nothing about men in your response? Nothing men could do, should do? Just women are terrible communicators etc. I don't suppose men could possibly do some communicating, could they? You've just straight away put it all on women.
My view is that if your unhappy, it’s your job to say so
Guy can’t find your clit? Show him. Don’t sit there suddenly expecting things to change and assuming no men know where the clit is.
Take some action instead of complaining "
At no point did I say I assume men don't know where the clit is. I recounted my experience with men in an entirely neutral manner. I didnt complain. Men having no knowledge of women's anatomy is on men. If women are not satisfied with the pleasure they receive from men - yep, they should speak up. Because women are socialised from a young age to value their own sexual pleasure and take agency for it - society makes that a TOP priority doesn't it? |
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"In my experience women are terrible communicators
We might think we are on the clit and they moan and say it’s the best head ever and fake orgasms
Then they surprised they don’t get better
I was luckily enough quite young to have an extremely good partner that wasn’t afraid to tell me, and show me, what made her feel good. So I don’t struggle
That’s rare though
Well of course it must be women's fault.
Well what can I say.
If a chef served you up a steak that’s over cooked but you said it’s perfect, is it the chefs fault if he keeps doing it that way?
I should preface it with “some women”. But in my experience most women will lie about their partners sexual performance because they want to spare his feelings or find talking about it too awkward/weird
Sex is a 2 way thing. If your not grown up enough to tell your partner what you like, you can’t expect them to automatically know.
And it’s exactly the same with men. If your girl is giving you awful blowjobs and you say it’s the best ever, that’s on you
So nothing about men in your response? Nothing men could do, should do? Just women are terrible communicators etc. I don't suppose men could possibly do some communicating, could they? You've just straight away put it all on women.
My view is that if your unhappy, it’s your job to say so
Guy can’t find your clit? Show him. Don’t sit there suddenly expecting things to change and assuming no men know where the clit is.
Take some action instead of complaining
At no point did I say I assume men don't know where the clit is. I recounted my experience with men in an entirely neutral manner. I didnt complain. Men having no knowledge of women's anatomy is on men. If women are not satisfied with the pleasure they receive from men - yep, they should speak up. Because women are socialised from a young age to value their own sexual pleasure and take agency for it - society makes that a TOP priority doesn't it? "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Surely a bit of porn, even unintentionally, gives it away... While not the best in terms of expectations of sex, porn is a fairly good source of information when it comes to a quick road map of the location of such things
Really? I've never seen porn where men do anything other than finger blast if that. The focus isn't on pleasuring women rather than using them.
There is plenty of porn out there that is so much more than that. Some amazing amateur stuff, and some professional stuff too.
There is even a dude (not the only one) that is dedicated to (but not limited to) pussy licking.
Point being, if somebody has ever watched even half decent porn they should easily have an idea of where it is, otherwise they have little clue to any part of the vulva or general area anyway "
I haven't watched porn for a few years but I've never got the impression men are watching it for education. And clearly I didn't watch the half decent stuff anyway! (Could be my own kinks getting in the way there...  ) |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"In my experience women are terrible communicators
We might think we are on the clit and they moan and say it’s the best head ever and fake orgasms
Then they surprised they don’t get better
I was luckily enough quite young to have an extremely good partner that wasn’t afraid to tell me, and show me, what made her feel good. So I don’t struggle
That’s rare though
Well of course it must be women's fault.
Well what can I say.
If a chef served you up a steak that’s over cooked but you said it’s perfect, is it the chefs fault if he keeps doing it that way?
I should preface it with “some women”. But in my experience most women will lie about their partners sexual performance because they want to spare his feelings or find talking about it too awkward/weird
Sex is a 2 way thing. If your not grown up enough to tell your partner what you like, you can’t expect them to automatically know.
And it’s exactly the same with men. If your girl is giving you awful blowjobs and you say it’s the best ever, that’s on you
So nothing about men in your response? Nothing men could do, should do? Just women are terrible communicators etc. I don't suppose men could possibly do some communicating, could they? You've just straight away put it all on women.
My view is that if your unhappy, it’s your job to say so
Guy can’t find your clit? Show him. Don’t sit there suddenly expecting things to change and assuming no men know where the clit is.
Take some action instead of complaining
At no point did I say I assume men don't know where the clit is. I recounted my experience with men in an entirely neutral manner. I didnt complain. Men having no knowledge of women's anatomy is on men. If women are not satisfied with the pleasure they receive from men - yep, they should speak up. Because women are socialised from a young age to value their own sexual pleasure and take agency for it - society makes that a TOP priority doesn't it?
My reply wasn’t aimed at you. Don’t take it so personally "
I wasn't. But I don't see women complaining on the thread? It's not a black and white issue like most. |
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"In my experience women are terrible communicators
We might think we are on the clit and they moan and say it’s the best head ever and fake orgasms
Then they surprised they don’t get better
I was luckily enough quite young to have an extremely good partner that wasn’t afraid to tell me, and show me, what made her feel good. So I don’t struggle
That’s rare though
Well of course it must be women's fault.
Well what can I say.
If a chef served you up a steak that’s over cooked but you said it’s perfect, is it the chefs fault if he keeps doing it that way?
I should preface it with “some women”. But in my experience most women will lie about their partners sexual performance because they want to spare his feelings or find talking about it too awkward/weird
Sex is a 2 way thing. If your not grown up enough to tell your partner what you like, you can’t expect them to automatically know.
And it’s exactly the same with men. If your girl is giving you awful blowjobs and you say it’s the best ever, that’s on you
So nothing about men in your response? Nothing men could do, should do? Just women are terrible communicators etc. I don't suppose men could possibly do some communicating, could they? You've just straight away put it all on women.
My view is that if your unhappy, it’s your job to say so
Guy can’t find your clit? Show him. Don’t sit there suddenly expecting things to change and assuming no men know where the clit is.
Take some action instead of complaining
At no point did I say I assume men don't know where the clit is. I recounted my experience with men in an entirely neutral manner. I didnt complain. Men having no knowledge of women's anatomy is on men. If women are not satisfied with the pleasure they receive from men - yep, they should speak up. Because women are socialised from a young age to value their own sexual pleasure and take agency for it - society makes that a TOP priority doesn't it?
My reply wasn’t aimed at you. Don’t take it so personally
I wasn't. But I don't see women complaining on the thread? It's not a black and white issue like most."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It’s a nightmare cos there is never anyone around you can ask directions
Maybe a sat-nav would be the solution or a dollop of ice cream on it. "
Someone said ask the owner….but asking a female for directions is about as useful as a one legged man in an arse kicking contest
I’m off!! *swift exit* |
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By *avie65Man
over a year ago
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"It’s a nightmare cos there is never anyone around you can ask directions
Maybe a sat-nav would be the solution or a dollop of ice cream on it.
Someone said ask the owner….but asking a female for directions is about as useful as a one legged man in an arse kicking contest
I’m off!! *swift exit*"
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"Normally grab them by the hair & direct them forcibly into position if they need a little help. "
This followed by moving your fufu to meet the exact spot you need. But tbf OP I'd say that only half of the men I've slept with have found mine and it's definitely not shy |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Most men that I have encountered don’t know where it is.
Lots of ladies don’t speak up.
A Google search could tell men it’s location in seconds. They don’t bother.
What can you do  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Most men that I have encountered don’t know where it is.
Lots of ladies don’t speak up.
A Google search could tell men it’s location in seconds. They don’t bother.
What can you do "
Last time I got my phone out mid session it was frowned upon, especially when it opened the satnav to show me how far away I was  |
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"Most men that I have encountered don’t know where it is.
Lots of ladies don’t speak up.
A Google search could tell men it’s location in seconds. They don’t bother.
What can you do
Last time I got my phone out mid session it was frowned upon, especially when it opened the satnav to show me how far away I was "
Has any woman had an issue finding your cock? |
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"Most men that I have encountered don’t know where it is.
Lots of ladies don’t speak up.
A Google search could tell men it’s location in seconds. They don’t bother.
What can you do
Last time I got my phone out mid session it was frowned upon, especially when it opened the satnav to show me how far away I was
Has any woman had an issue finding your cock?"
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"Most men that I have encountered don’t know where it is.
Lots of ladies don’t speak up.
A Google search could tell men it’s location in seconds. They don’t bother.
What can you do
Last time I got my phone out mid session it was frowned upon, especially when it opened the satnav to show me how far away I was
Has any woman had an issue finding your cock?
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No it's a local landmark, has one those AA signs pointing in the right direction |
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Honestly, a few times in the past people have been in the right general area, but haven't managed to find mine (this includes a woman, so not restricted to men. Mine is small though, so understandably can be a bit tricky to locate.
I'll happily direct them to it, either verbally or by placing my hand on theirs and guiding them. |
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"Honestly, a few times in the past people have been in the right general area, but haven't managed to find mine (this includes a woman, so not restricted to men. Mine is small though, so understandably can be a bit tricky to locate.
I'll happily direct them to it, either verbally or by placing my hand on theirs and guiding them. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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Watched a video where men were asked and I believe that a lot more men than you’d think might not know where the clit is. I mean, to be fair they do wear hoods. Lots of people don’t recognise me when I wear a hood.
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By (user no longer on site)
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To be fair, while the general topography is the same, women are all different. And if it's the first time with a woman then, unless it's quite visible, it can take a moment or two to locate. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Surely a bit of porn, even unintentionally, gives it away... While not the best in terms of expectations of sex, porn is a fairly good source of information when it comes to a quick road map of the location of such things
Really? I've never seen porn where men do anything other than finger blast if that. The focus isn't on pleasuring women rather than using them. "
To paraphrase an earlier answer, you're watching the wrong porn
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"Surely a bit of porn, even unintentionally, gives it away... While not the best in terms of expectations of sex, porn is a fairly good source of information when it comes to a quick road map of the location of such things
Really? I've never seen porn where men do anything other than finger blast if that. The focus isn't on pleasuring women rather than using them.
To paraphrase an earlier answer, you're watching the wrong porn
Mr"
Jeez I hope I don't get lots of recommendations via this thread  |
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I've had a think about this whilst I cooked dinner. If I'm pleasuring a man, I will look at his responses, listen to them and ask "like this? " too hard?". Because I want to provide pleasure with my mouth or hands. Why wouldn't men want to do the same? If you want to give to your partner, you experiment, you explore, you communicate? Press your finger down and ask "here?". And your partner should give you responses. Is that the wrong take? |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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All clits are not the same.
Some are very small with a big hood. Some protrude and are in your face.
I didn't know where mine was until years after I got married, as I'm not one for touching myself. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some men couldn't even find it even if it had a flashing neon arrow pointing right at it!
You told me yours was at the back of your throat!!
That was our secret "
Gloves are off since divorce |
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"I've had a think about this whilst I cooked dinner. If I'm pleasuring a man, I will look at his responses, listen to them and ask "like this? " too hard?". Because I want to provide pleasure with my mouth or hands. Why wouldn't men want to do the same? If you want to give to your partner, you experiment, you explore, you communicate? Press your finger down and ask "here?". And your partner should give you responses. Is that the wrong take? "
That’s how I’ve always done the sex . Reading this i think I’ve been very lucky with the people I’ve met! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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To summarise then. Most men know where it is or most men don't know where it is. If a man doesn't know it's his fault or it is the woman's fault, take your pick.
Who would have thought Fab would give such a unified answer?
Thank you all for your input.
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"I've had a think about this whilst I cooked dinner. If I'm pleasuring a man, I will look at his responses, listen to them and ask "like this? " too hard?". Because I want to provide pleasure with my mouth or hands. Why wouldn't men want to do the same? If you want to give to your partner, you experiment, you explore, you communicate? Press your finger down and ask "here?". And your partner should give you responses. Is that the wrong take? "
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I'm sorry but I don't believe a word of this! Total poppycock!
I mean, seriously, you...cooking dinner???? |
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"I've had a think about this whilst I cooked dinner. If I'm pleasuring a man, I will look at his responses, listen to them and ask "like this? " too hard?". Because I want to provide pleasure with my mouth or hands. Why wouldn't men want to do the same? If you want to give to your partner, you experiment, you explore, you communicate? Press your finger down and ask "here?". And your partner should give you responses. Is that the wrong take?
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I'm sorry but I don't believe a word of this! Total poppycock!
I mean, seriously, you...cooking dinner????"
Why do you doubt my culinary expertise,  face? |
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"To summarise then. Most men know where it is or most men don't know where it is. If a man doesn't know it's his fault or it is the woman's fault, take your pick.
Who would have thought Fab would give such a unified answer?
Thank you all for your input.
Mr"
Well summarised Mr |
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I wouldn't say it's a struggle to find but you never know in advance whether the woman will welcome you popping it out of the hood or not. Some are too sensitive or at least initially at any rate.
A surprisingly finely tuned instrument compared to the cock which can take rather more in the way of a pounding  |
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By *erces LetiferMan
over a year ago
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Maybe it's one of those generational things? Like, of course I heard all the jokes growing up about the "elusive" clitoris etc. But, I was also given some very basic sex ed in the last year of primary school and again in the first couple of years in high school. Part of which was a little booklet with anatomical diagrams of both sex's genitalia, that were annotated and labelled with all the words to all the parts - including the clitoris. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Most men don’t have a clue if clues are needed your deffo on to a winner in the garden with the rolling pin
Used to love that game as a kid! "
i still cant play it now i cant find it |
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".... really struggle to find a woman's clit?
All the comments on the clit thread got me thinking. Obviously the whole men don't know how to find a clit is a stereotype and most stereotypes have some kind of cause. So, women of Fab, are there really enough men who don't know where a clit is to justify this stereotype?
Mr"
There was a video circulating on social media a few weeks back & I was very surprised how many men didn’t know. I thought it was quite a common knowledge, I know every one will be slightly different but a bit of time & effort. |
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I always find lesbian porn so much more sensual and direct than hetero porn when it comes to female pleasure, probably not much good for straight ladies but as a guy I feel I’ve learned a lot from watching lesbians - particularly more amateur content
Sexual communication is really about intuition and connection and people get that in very different ways, I guess a combination of knowing your partners inner desires and reading their unspoken cues is more important and considerate than asking ‘what do you want?’ Or ‘how do you like it?’
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