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By *shley79 OP Man
over a year ago
Peterborough |
Had a meet set up for tonight.
Been chatting for weeks, met in person 2 days ago and got on very well.
Been communicating all day and drove an hour to meet at the hotel I booked and she’s blocked me on here and by phone and not responding!
Anyone else had a similar experience?
I feel shell shocked |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Wow, no, but that's probably one of the most extreme I have heard of so far. Especially since she met you 2 days ago and still continued chatting right up until the meet... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes several and it's horrible thats happened to you
Did she seem off at all at the social not trying to justify her behaviour just trying to tell cause there are people on here who I call “hunters” who basically waste your time and have no intention of hooking up. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Very cold and calculating.
I had similar last year. Met one day, came round a couple days later, stayed over, texted ALL the time, he was supposed to be coming back that night, even texted to say he was on his way…… 3 hours later I texted him to ask where he was as it doesn’t take 3hrs to get from one side of the city to the other….. still waiting on the reply. Never take anything for granted. Never trust anyone. It’s guys like him who break my trust and confidence a little more each time. |
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"Had a meet set up for tonight.
Been chatting for weeks, met in person 2 days ago and got on very well.
Been communicating all day and drove an hour to meet at the hotel I booked and she’s blocked me on here and by phone and not responding!
Anyone else had a similar experience?
I feel shell shocked "
And you're left thinking... What did I do? Was it me? Could I have done anything different? Etc... |
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I had a similar experience where the woman who I was supposed to meet at a hotel ghosted me, didn't reply to my messages and completely stood me up.
Luckily, two friends of mine came to my rescue after hearing what happened and invited me to come along with them to the Gatehouse in Farnworth so ended up having a great night in the end. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I got ghosted by a guy that I was meant to meet, ignored my messages then later on that evening a nice new veri appeared on his profile.
Then had the cheek to message me a week later asking to meet! |
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By *uke OzadeMan
over a year ago
Ho Chi Minge City |
"Totally get cold feet
But I don’t know why she didn’t just say so..."
If she took the time to block you then a simple apology or explanation could’ve sufficed. Cold feet or not, that’s just inexcusable behaviour. Sorry that happened to you OP |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Totally get cold feet
But I don’t know why she didn’t just say so..."
If its as your describing I believe you don’t worry
She probably just got scared and decided to cut off contact is all.Some men (not you) take rejection far too far
Don’t beat yourself up about it she wasn’t right for you |
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By *shley79 OP Man
over a year ago
Peterborough |
That’s my sentiments yes
I get people change their minds
And I’m totally cool with that
I don’t want to be with someone if it’s forced
But just say ‘look I’m sorry, I’ve changed my mind’
For all the mistrust I get on here for being a single male it’s a real slap in the face |
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Oh I certainly would if I could! She sounds like a total idiot! It’s an awful thing to do to someone, especially after a face to face. If the chemistry wasn’t there, she should have let you know, not gone ahead and allowed a hotel booking to be made. Sorry you’re there alone, but be comforted perhaps that there are many more worthy ladies who will turn up in the future x |
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"Had a meet set up for tonight.
Been chatting for weeks, met in person 2 days ago and got on very well.
Been communicating all day and drove an hour to meet at the hotel I booked and she’s blocked me on here and by phone and not responding!
Anyone else had a similar experience?
I feel shell shocked "
Report her.
People cwn get cold feet and change their mind (happened to us) and I can respect that as long as you tell us. But wasting peoples time and money like that, nah. Not on.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I got ghosted by a guy that I was meant to meet, ignored my messages then later on that evening a nice new veri appeared on his profile.
Then had the cheek to message me a week later asking to meet! "
I have sort if done similar I will admit call me what you will.
But I never ghost or waste anyones time or ignore them intentionally do I make a shitty excuse yes I do but thats to try to avoid harming people.
What an arse!!
Especially with the veri feels like he was trying to rub it in |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Had a meet set up for tonight.
Been chatting for weeks, met in person 2 days ago and got on very well.
Been communicating all day and drove an hour to meet at the hotel I booked and she’s blocked me on here and by phone and not responding!
Anyone else had a similar experience?
I feel shell shocked
Report her.
People cwn get cold feet and change their mind (happened to us) and I can respect that as long as you tell us. But wasting peoples time and money like that, nah. Not on.
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 This. There is an option for "Arranged a meet. Didn't turn up". x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Had a meet set up for tonight.
Been chatting for weeks, met in person 2 days ago and got on very well.
Been communicating all day and drove an hour to meet at the hotel I booked and she’s blocked me on here and by phone and not responding!
Anyone else had a similar experience?
I feel shell shocked "
Yes had similar experience. all ok night before went to hotel as planned early in am and once there no response about where he was... I did make use of my time and had some fun! But was kinda shocked as you say..hes still on here so not like hes dropped deid! It's a swing site tho so I guess nothing really is "odd". I have manners though, I couldn't just do that to anyone but that's me. Really hope doesnt deter you + fab brings u loads of fun OP x |
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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago
cognito |
That’s shitty behaviour in her part. I’m sorry you’re on the receiving end of it. Maybe you can have a nice night at the hotel and chill out and turn it into a lovely self care night? A bath and raid room service  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've just been blocked by the person who called off a meet last sunday at the last minute, had arranged tomorrow but blocked me when i asked if we were still on. 
Not even vaguely surprised. But its a bit annoying when I'd got the toys all spotless and ready, clean bedding ready etc.  |
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Yes had it happen several times on here.
Guys who think they know what they want, but then change their minds.
The worse thing is the Ghosting and the unanswered calls.
Just wish that if guys changed their minds they would have the decency to say so.
I am sure you would be upset if she had messaged to say she was not coming, but would have understood at least.
I feel your pain, confusion and anger. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m sorry for the position you find yourself in OP, ghosting anyone is a dick - especially after you’ve actually had a social - would have been easy to drop you a text to say can’t made it. Hopefully you enjoyed the champtnr. L x |
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By *illanelleWoman
over a year ago
Ryde, Isle of Wight |
Hey OP. That's so rude and shitty and unnecessary. So sorry you've had such a horrid experience. Try not to overthink it but I know it's hard not too; I'm the best/worst overthinker ever. Drink the minibar dry and say bollocks a lot  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So sorry that happened to you. It's heartless, cold, selfish behaviour and totally disrespectful. Some people care about no one but themselves. Please don't spend anymore time questioning yourself why. People like her aren't worth a second thought. Hope the champagne went down well. |
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This is why I always have a back up activity (cinema, shopping etc, not a meet) when meeting someone new(ish) a distance away, you never know what could crop up last minute to scupper plans 
Don't think twice on it OP, it's not you. Block and move on and I hope you had a nice night in the hotel. I will say that needing closure is a funny old emotion and it can creep up on you... |
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By *trawberry MojitoWoman
over a year ago
over the hill & far away, like Princess Fiona. |
I too have been ghosted on here, I was actually sat outside the pub waiting when I message him to say I was here and he had blocked me on kik and on fab, all he had to do was say he couldn't make it. Oh well |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think most of us can relate in some way, been ghosted etc but not someone I’ve already met and still chatting too and arranging to meet that day. Sadly It seems to happen a lot. Everyone is allowed to change their minds and total respect to them for that, but it does sting a little |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"She’s online on fab now
Like wtf
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Can you see when someone is online when you are blocked? Not a good blocking system lol. Block her and don't give her anymore of your time. |
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Some people just change their minds, but I honestly think for a few other people it's a game and a bit of a thrill to them .
They enjoy messing people around and having them fork out for hotels when they fully have no intention of turning up.
Some people are just shit, I'm sorry. |
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"Had a meet set up for tonight.
Been chatting for weeks, met in person 2 days ago and got on very well.
Been communicating all day and drove an hour to meet at the hotel I booked and she’s blocked me on here and by phone and not responding!
Anyone else had a similar experience?
I feel shell shocked "
I recognise this. Similar happened to me years ago. Except we'd been chatting a bit longer and all the conversations and vibe seemed great. Although she did say its the first time she'd done anything like this after here break up. Then come the night in question she didn't come and went to ground. To be fair as a single parent of a 4 year old and 6 month old baby at the time I just made best use of the hotel room and being away from the kids. Had a nice bath, Ordered room service and watched TV, then fell asleep. So luckily for me the night wasn't a complete waste.
I think some people get carried away with the fantasy and then get cold feet at the end when they realise the fantasy outstretches their comfort zone. After that I started to speak to women over the phone before I made any serious plans or bookings. You do get a better idea of chemistry and able to put both of your minds at ease after a chat or a social meet. Once I went for a social in another city but booked a room (as its just nice to get away from the kids). It was just ment to be a social. She said strictly social first meet, always. However we met, got on really well and she asked to go see what my room was like. I also started to go to clubs after that. Because of the flakiness of the online world me and My Girl generally do all our finding and meeting people in clubs or just out and about in town. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I arranged a last minute meet last Friday and after chugging a shed load of equipment through to the hotel she didn't show up - thqt was a bummer, but chalked it up as experience. I got a message on the Sunday saying she got nervous - again fair enough, but a message to that effect at the time would bave been more polite than ghosting me! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So sorry that happened to you.
Ghosting is cruel and she should of had the bollocks to tell you why she didn't want to meet.
Delete and block, she's not worth the headspace
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By *.R.MMan
over a year ago
Norfolk |
"So sorry that happened to you.
Ghosting is cruel and she should of had the bollocks to tell you why she didn't want to meet.
Delete and block, she's not worth the headspace
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^^ this, I’ve had it happen (twice) if they don’t want to meet all they need to do is say, not let you spend money on hotels etc |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was in Edinburgh and had planned to visit the club there with someone I'd been chatting too for a while.
The day came still chatting that morning, I got ready then messaged to say I was about to book my Uber and would see him in half an hour....he messaged saying that he was now going with someone else and he might see me there.
Um no thanks
Ironically he messaged an hour later asking if I still wanted to go because his date never showed up I never bothered replying to that, my silence said more than words ever could
At least he told me the reason, it still stings but better than not knowing |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm so sorry for those this sort of thing has happened to. This is cowardly and selfish behaviour. There seems to be some fantasists on here who enjoy stringing people along and don't care how they hurt them. It hasn't happened to me but I've heard some horror stories. |
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By *host63Man
over a year ago
Bedfont Feltham |
"People get cold feet and call it off. Or maybe circumstances changed and they’re not comfortable to communicate it. It’s a shit situation."
Yep happend to me more tines I care to count.
Got to the point that I virtually expect it to happen. Its one of the reasons I have pretty much given up and tend to stick to the forum these days |
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By *host63Man
over a year ago
Bedfont Feltham |
"She’s online on fab now
Like wtf
Block her and walk away, she’s clearly not worth it
I agree with this 
Let it be, there will be other meets x "
For a man on here it's pretty rare to get a meet |
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By *1bttmMan
over a year ago
Shoreditch east London |
"Not from what she’s told me.
Like I said been speaking for weeks
She has an ex, maybe something happened
I don’t know "
Stop making excuses for her bad behaviour n way she's treated you. Regardless if she's has an ex, so what. That should not stop her from just saying "sorry, I can't meet you".
Ignoring, ghosting is just unacceptable on every level at this point. People should be held more accountable for their actions. If she's from here I'd still report her. I honestly feel sometimes these kinda people n games they play should be called out. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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That’s absolutely crap to not tell you from the beginning that she didn’t want anything else.
Letting you drive and book a hotel just to block you is just really rude indeed.
Sorry to hear this OP |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some people just change their minds, but I honestly think for a few other people it's a game and a bit of a thrill to them .
They enjoy messing people around and having them fork out for hotels when they fully have no intention of turning up.
Some people are just shit, I'm sorry."
Yeah I’ve had a couple like this a few where we clearly just didn’t hit things of and I’m fine with that I always ask at the end if she wants to go further.Luckily I didn’t fork out for a hotel either time.
Know it happens to an awful lot of women perhaps more than men think its a power trip especially when its a woman since no offence and I get why but you ladies are hard to get on here.
Agree some people are pieces of crap |
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"Had a meet set up for tonight.
Been chatting for weeks, met in person 2 days ago and got on very well.
Been communicating all day and drove an hour to meet at the hotel I booked and she’s blocked me on here and by phone and not responding!
Anyone else had a similar experience?
I feel shell shocked "
Yes mate, it happens to the best of us. Even worse for me was when she posted a veri from another guy for the same night. Seems I was ‘Plan b’ Hey-ho, we’re still breathing |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sugar that’s just totally shit. I’d mitigate it by only doing a hotel meet someplace I know I’ve got options eg London.
I don’t accept the cold feet argument either. It doesn’t excuse simply ghosting and blocking. |
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I think ghosting someone is disgusting. If a person gets cold feet own it and tell them then block if felt necessary the situation doesn't have to escalate. Had the same situation a couple of times and ended up paying the bill. Won't do hotel meets now even though I've had good ones too. Ghosting should be against the rules of the site |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
Wow op that is absolutely horrible.
There's no excuse for that at all and there's not much I can say to make you feel better .
Some people are just nasty pieces of work ,please report her to admin . |
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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago
Paisley |
It happened to me. We’d met for a social and had arranged to meet to have some fun. I’d booked a hotel only for him to not turn up. He eventually messaged to say he was giving it another go with his wife!
Fortunately someone else from Fab came to my rescue and we had a great time. |
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"Had a meet set up for tonight.
Been chatting for weeks, met in person 2 days ago and got on very well.
Been communicating all day and drove an hour to meet at the hotel I booked and she’s blocked me on here and by phone and not responding!
Anyone else had a similar experience?
I feel shell shocked "
Ha ha frequently !. Booked a hotel twice for one young lady, luckily got most of the money back. We were ghosted by another days before a social and she even ignored a direct text message from Cherry  .. I wonder if admin would do anything about these tossers ? |
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"Make sure you sign in to the desktop version of the site, and counterblock her, just in case she runs out of options another time, and thinks you might welcome her back "
You can counterblock on the mobile version too... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes some sort of strike system on here would be good
Of negative feedback, but I could see that being abused "
It’s happened to me plenty of times with guys not turning up, even still txting saying they are 5 mins away, there are some absolute time wasters in here as well as bitter twisted peeps to, good luck in the future x |
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"I got ghosted by a guy that I was meant to meet, ignored my messages then later on that evening a nice new veri appeared on his profile.
Then had the cheek to message me a week later asking to meet! "
Who’s stupid enough to pass on you x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Had a meet set up for tonight.
Been chatting for weeks, met in person 2 days ago and got on very well.
Been communicating all day and drove an hour to meet at the hotel I booked and she’s blocked me on here and by phone and not responding!
Anyone else had a similar experience?
I feel shell shocked "
I feel for you , l had a similar experience but nothing compared to yours, l took time off work because it suited her best , drove for over an hour and nothing..had chatted before hand , chatted on the morning etc but had not met her like you had , l really don't know what to say other than it sucks .it really does,being ghosted . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Had a meet set up for tonight.
Been chatting for weeks, met in person 2 days ago and got on very well.
Been communicating all day and drove an hour to meet at the hotel I booked and she’s blocked me on here and by phone and not responding!
Anyone else had a similar experience?
I feel shell shocked
Ha ha frequently !. Booked a hotel twice for one young lady, luckily got most of the money back. We were ghosted by another days before a social and she even ignored a direct text message from Cherry .. I wonder if admin would do anything about these tossers ?"
They just come back with a different email and username if they have too, it doesn't matter , they're here to waste time nothing else , sad but that's the way it goes . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This is why I always have a back up activity (cinema, shopping etc, not a meet) when meeting someone new(ish) a distance away, you never know what could crop up last minute to scupper plans
Don't think twice on it OP, it's not you. Block and move on and I hope you had a nice night in the hotel. I will say that needing closure is a funny old emotion and it can creep up on you..."
Anything can come up , I don't doubt that for a second but if same said person wanted to truly meet then an explanation or a future date would be arranged not a block . |
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By *shley79 OP Man
over a year ago
Peterborough |
"Had a meet set up for tonight.
Been chatting for weeks, met in person 2 days ago and got on very well.
Been communicating all day and drove an hour to meet at the hotel I booked and she’s blocked me on here and by phone and not responding!
Anyone else had a similar experience?
I feel shell shocked
I feel for you , l had a similar experience but nothing compared to yours, l took time off work because it suited her best , drove for over an hour and nothing..had chatted before hand , chatted on the morning etc but had not met her like you had , l really don't know what to say other than it sucks .it really does,being ghosted ."
I just don’t understand everything going well up until the last minute and then them just disappearing
Was it planned?
If it was cold feet I don’t think they’d block and ghost but o don’t know
Lesson learned anyway |
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By *shley79 OP Man
over a year ago
Peterborough |
"This is why I always have a back up activity (cinema, shopping etc, not a meet) when meeting someone new(ish) a distance away, you never know what could crop up last minute to scupper plans
Don't think twice on it OP, it's not you. Block and move on and I hope you had a nice night in the hotel. I will say that needing closure is a funny old emotion and it can creep up on you...
Anything can come up , I don't doubt that for a second but if same said person wanted to truly meet then an explanation or a future date would be arranged not a block ."
Yes exactly |
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