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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Take a ticket....
Not really but this saying 'free sex' is a bit weird isnt it. Sex isnt a monied transaction anyway is it in general, so thinking you can join the site for 'free sex' is just missing the mark by a mile. |
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sadly there are a growing number of people expecting money or gifts for agreeing to meet, I've heard it from several people I know here so it must be true.
It's not what fab was set up for and I'm sure the Mods and Admin here will be all over it, but it is sad that life has come to that for many I guess.
I can't knock those officially in the sex trade as my own GrandMother ran a house of ill repute during the war years and clients paid in silk stockings lol
But if somebody offered me money for swinging with them I would be offended as it's not why I am here and I'm pretty sure the majority of us would say same. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"sadly there are a growing number of people expecting money or gifts for agreeing to meet, I've heard it from several people I know here so it must be true.
It's not what fab was set up for and I'm sure the Mods and Admin here will be all over it, but it is sad that life has come to that for many I guess.
I can't knock those officially in the sex trade as my own GrandMother ran a house of ill repute during the war years and clients paid in silk stockings lol
But if somebody offered me money for swinging with them I would be offended as it's not why I am here and I'm pretty sure the majority of us would say same."
That's not a new thing, it's always been like that.
Couples demanding meets bring 'gifts'.
People having to pay money to attend parties that don't just cover the cost of the room. - A nice little earner where men pay large amounts of money to attend on the 'promise of sex' and the women and couples are oblivious that they are sex bait. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maybe it's the free loving hippy in me but I understand it as meaning sex is gifted with no expectation of needing anything more than good sex back  
Except maybe cuddles. And a small snack.  "
Love this |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"sadly there are a growing number of people expecting money or gifts for agreeing to meet, I've heard it from several people I know here so it must be true.
It's not what fab was set up for and I'm sure the Mods and Admin here will be all over it, but it is sad that life has come to that for many I guess.
I can't knock those officially in the sex trade as my own GrandMother ran a house of ill repute during the war years and clients paid in silk stockings lol
But if somebody offered me money for swinging with them I would be offended as it's not why I am here and I'm pretty sure the majority of us would say same.
That's not a new thing, it's always been like that.
Couples demanding meets bring 'gifts'.
People having to pay money to attend parties that don't just cover the cost of the room. - A nice little earner where men pay large amounts of money to attend on the 'promise of sex' and the women and couples are oblivious that they are sex bait. "
My experience of swinging is in the real world, so I came here to keep my experience going, on seeing the amounts of cash being asked for, I won't say what my first thoughts were as it would offend.
but as a single guy I have felt if I pay I am being and exploiting others for money, with sex as the hook. |
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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago
Beyond the shadows. |
"Take a ticket....
Not really but this saying 'free sex' is a bit weird isnt it. Sex isnt a monied transaction anyway is it in general, so thinking you can join the site for 'free sex' is just missing the mark by a mile. "
Very little in life is free, even if it may seem so on the face of it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People benefit having sex with me. Not because they get to have sex with me, but because I have to give them money to go through with the act and pretend like they're enjoying themselves without having an emotional breakdown. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For me it is not about money, its feeling exploited even though this is a swingers site and from what I have read shouldn't be confused with money, but money is the main advert here, or is it only me. |
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By *batMan
over a year ago
Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales) |
"There are some people who think if they pay for a hotel and drive there they are paying for sex."
Well I suppose they are paying to have sex rather than paying for sex. But that's what most of us have been doing for years.
Buy a nice outfit.
Get a good hair cut.
Go to a club.
Buy someone a meal or drinks.
Rent a room.
Pay for membership of Fab.
Many of the above things will be done in pursuit of sex, but I still wouldn't consider that as paying for sex.
Gbat
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"People benefit having sex with me. Not because they get to have sex with me, but because I have to give them money to go through with the act and pretend like they're enjoying themselves without having an emotional breakdown. "
That's a true gift. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maybe it's the free loving hippy in me but I understand it as meaning sex is gifted with no expectation of needing anything more than good sex back
Except maybe cuddles. And a small snack. "
And don’t forget the cake |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
Maldon and Peterborough |
"Maybe it's the free loving hippy in me but I understand it as meaning sex is gifted with no expectation of needing anything more than good sex back
Except maybe cuddles. And a small snack.
And don’t forget the cake "
Cuddles, a snack and cake????
Pffffft
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Erm….. I’ve just checked my ticket (after sitting here patiently, WiTHOUT playing with myself), to discover it says “please change ticket roll”, shouldn’t there be a number? 
Confused of Devon. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Who, when, and where? 
I could give you the answer but it will cost ya "
*checks wallet*
Bugger, it’s full of mothballs.
Will a voucher for free Costa be sufficient? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maybe it's the free loving hippy in me but I understand it as meaning sex is gifted with no expectation of needing anything more than good sex back
Except maybe cuddles. And a small snack.
And don’t forget the cake
Cuddles, a snack and cake????
Pffffft
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I always like a nibble after sex. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Take a ticket....
Not really but this saying 'free sex' is a bit weird isnt it. Sex isnt a monied transaction anyway is it in general, so thinking you can join the site for 'free sex' is just missing the mark by a mile. "
Agreed |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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As in its just sex we are after, not free sex. If we pull in a pub and get lucky we dont go woohoo free sex, so by coming here you are also just looking for sex, free doesnt enter into it. Im quite possibly just overthinking the saying |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
Maldon and Peterborough |
"Maybe it's the free loving hippy in me but I understand it as meaning sex is gifted with no expectation of needing anything more than good sex back
Except maybe cuddles. And a small snack.
And don’t forget the cake
Cuddles, a snack and cake????
Pffffft
I always like a nibble after sex."
Yes, but what about the cake? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Take a ticket....
Not really but this saying 'free sex' is a bit weird isnt it. Sex isnt a monied transaction anyway is it in general, so thinking you can join the site for 'free sex' is just missing the mark by a mile. "
Nothing is free.
Technically sex can and will cost time, emotions, money and feelings and many more things. I was just keeping it simple.
Some might say water is free as it falls from the sky, well it is at that stage but once made drinkable it costs you.
About the only thing that is free is air and I imagine the government will at some stage try and put a tax on that. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Maybe it's the free loving hippy in me but I understand it as meaning sex is gifted with no expectation of needing anything more than good sex back
Except maybe cuddles. And a small snack. "
Id love a free loving hippy in me too |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
Maldon and Peterborough |
"Maybe it's the free loving hippy in me but I understand it as meaning sex is gifted with no expectation of needing anything more than good sex back
Except maybe cuddles. And a small snack.
Id love a free loving hippy in me too "
Hey, make love not war. That's what I say.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Erm….. I’ve just checked my ticket (after sitting here patiently, WiTHOUT playing with myself), to discover it says “please change ticket roll”, shouldn’t there be a number?
Confused of Devon. "
Magic ink. The number will only be revealed after a finger tracing of pre cum. Commence wanking |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"There are some people who think if they pay for a hotel and drive there they are paying for sex.
Well I suppose they are paying to have sex rather than paying for sex. But that's what most of us have been doing for years.
Buy a nice outfit.
Get a good hair cut.
Go to a club.
Buy someone a meal or drinks.
Rent a room.
Pay for membership of Fab.
Many of the above things will be done in pursuit of sex, but I still wouldn't consider that as paying for sex.
Gbat
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Petrol is bloody expensive too to get there |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Take a ticket....
Not really but this saying 'free sex' is a bit weird isnt it. Sex isnt a monied transaction anyway is it in general, so thinking you can join the site for 'free sex' is just missing the mark by a mile.
Nothing is free.
Technically sex can and will cost time, emotions, money and feelings and many more things. I was just keeping it simple.
Some might say water is free as it falls from the sky, well it is at that stage but once made drinkable it costs you.
About the only thing that is free is air and I imagine the government will at some stage try and put a tax on that. "
I didnt see you write it, was more thinking of the grumpies who mumble on about it being just being a free sex site. Dont give the government any ideas about our air. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Free can also mean without restraint or restrictions, doesn't need to have monetary meaning
To run free
Free reign
Free thinking
Free sex - could also mean liberal attitudes - to have sex freely
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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago
Nr Leicester |
Really!?!?
Gift's/money for meeting? Get the potential thrill of an exchange in terms of a fantasy as CNC/S&M play.. Anyone suggesting this would be blocked in an instance!!
Yeah we all know nothing is technically free you pay for a hotel, outfit, drinks and maybe a meal..
But if you applied that logic you're paying to meet friends and family!
Our 'attention's' or those from others won't be bought or sold and the very thought actually diminishes the lifestyle imo.. |
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"Erm….. I’ve just checked my ticket (after sitting here patiently, WiTHOUT playing with myself), to discover it says “please change ticket roll”, shouldn’t there be a number?
Confused of Devon.
Magic ink. The number will only be revealed after a finger tracing of pre cum. Commence wanking"
Do you have a copy of Razzle?
#askingforafriend |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maybe it's the free loving hippy in me but I understand it as meaning sex is gifted with no expectation of needing anything more than good sex back
Except maybe cuddles. And a small snack.
And don’t forget the cake
Cuddles, a snack and cake????
Pffffft
I always like a nibble after sex.
Yes, but what about the cake? "
rum please. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maybe it's the free loving hippy in me but I understand it as meaning sex is gifted with no expectation of needing anything more than good sex back
Except maybe cuddles. And a small snack.
And don’t forget the cake
Cuddles, a snack and cake????
Pffffft
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So you’d rather go straight to the cake? |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
Maldon and Peterborough |
"Maybe it's the free loving hippy in me but I understand it as meaning sex is gifted with no expectation of needing anything more than good sex back
Except maybe cuddles. And a small snack.
And don’t forget the cake
Cuddles, a snack and cake????
Pffffft
So you’d rather go straight to the cake? "
I'll settle for a cuddle.  |
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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago
Hull |
"I think when some people say it's a free sex site, I feel like they're basically saying, I'm looking for a free sex worker  "
From the messages I get and the status updates I see, I think a lot of them are. They get offended if you suggest that to them though!
I thought it meant the site was free not the sex |
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By *.L.0460.Woman
over a year ago
Bognor Regis |
I think traditionally, men have expected to 'pay' in one form or another to be allowed to get sex- that might be a coffee, a bunch of flowers or a few drinks, maybe even actual cold hard cash in a straightforward transaction. I reckon people who find Fab have also found other sites where money is involved, so it must be quite a revelation that women enjoy sex enough to engage in it for free!!! Maybe that's why the phrase has crept in on here? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maybe it's the free loving hippy in me but I understand it as meaning sex is gifted with no expectation of needing anything more than good sex back
Except maybe cuddles. And a small snack.
And don’t forget the cake
Cuddles, a snack and cake????
Pffffft
So you’d rather go straight to the cake?
I'll settle for a cuddle. "
It’s 2022 - I think you need to aim higher |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
Maldon and Peterborough |
"Maybe it's the free loving hippy in me but I understand it as meaning sex is gifted with no expectation of needing anything more than good sex back
Except maybe cuddles. And a small snack.
And don’t forget the cake
Cuddles, a snack and cake????
Pffffft
So you’d rather go straight to the cake?
I'll settle for a cuddle.
It’s 2022 - I think you need to aim higher "
I'm a bloke on fab - that is aiming high. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Free can also mean without restraint or restrictions, doesn't need to have monetary meaning
To run free
Free reign
Free thinking
Free sex - could also mean liberal attitudes - to have sex freely
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Can you free up your timetable please and fit me in it |
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Slight tangent, but I find a lot of people on here expect me to be a sex worker they don't have to pay.
My pleasure and my experience are meaningless to them as long as they get off and somehow there is an obligation on me to please them. That's what I understand when someone talks about free sex - effort free sex.
There is a price to have sex with me, but it's a price of effort, not a financial cost. If I'm putting considerable energy into providing pleasure I expect no less from my partner- it's not free. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Slight tangent, but I find a lot of people on here expect me to be a sex worker they don't have to pay.
My pleasure and my experience are meaningless to them as long as they get off and somehow there is an obligation on me to please them. That's what I understand when someone talks about free sex - effort free sex.
There is a price to have sex with me, but it's a price of effort, not a financial cost. If I'm putting considerable energy into providing pleasure I expect no less from my partner- it's not free."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Slight tangent, but I find a lot of people on here expect me to be a sex worker they don't have to pay.
My pleasure and my experience are meaningless to them as long as they get off and somehow there is an obligation on me to please them. That's what I understand when someone talks about free sex - effort free sex.
There is a price to have sex with me, but it's a price of effort, not a financial cost. If I'm putting considerable energy into providing pleasure I expect no less from my partner- it's not free."
Very well put |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Free can also mean without restraint or restrictions, doesn't need to have monetary meaning
To run free
Free reign
Free thinking
Free sex - could also mean liberal attitudes - to have sex freely
Can you free up your timetable please and fit me in it "
I can try...You might be too big, I could put you in my diary but that might be too small for you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"People benefit having sex with me. Not because they get to have sex with me, but because I have to give them money to go through with the act and pretend like they're enjoying themselves without having an emotional breakdown.
That's a true gift. "
I don't like to see people upset and money seems to work |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Slight tangent, but I find a lot of people on here expect me to be a sex worker they don't have to pay.
My pleasure and my experience are meaningless to them as long as they get off and somehow there is an obligation on me to please them. That's what I understand when someone talks about free sex - effort free sex.
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Sadly I am unsurprised to hear that is your experience, even as a real and lovely woman greatly in demand on here. People like me (imitation/honorary women, to be blunt!) seem to be generally regarded by men as so desperate for sex that we will come running at any time of day or night and do whatever they want with no consideration for what we may want, or more importantly not want, and they can get quite annoyed or even nasty if you won't go along with their wishes unquestioningly, and are pathetically surprised even if your profile makes your limits quite clear (remarkably few seem to read profiles, especially on Fabguys).
I don't think that I could make a living having sex for money, but plenty of men behave as if they are paying you - if they were at least they would be less likely to fall to turn up, or to disappear having chatted for ages and asked you to meet. Perhaps I should start asking for a fully refundable deposit, paid in advance, to out the time wasters!???? |
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