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I'm going out out
Aside from going to a gig with my son in September I haven't been out other than work, essential shopping and visiting my platonic friends in their home for almost 2 years.
This changes tomorrow.
Am I nervous? A little.
I've chunked on a ton of weight and dislike the reflection I see in the mirror, but I'm doing it. I'm facing some demons and going to a club. A club club. You know, one where rudies happen.
I may, or may not engage in said rudies. Very likely to be a not, but that's not the point.
I'm taking a step in finding the confidence I've lost since, well, you all know since when.
Go me.
I'm not looking for pats on the back (well maybe the odd few) but mainly I'm posting for others who's confidence has fucked off with no sign of returning to say.... I believe in you. |
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"Wicked mate. Hope you have an awesome time. You really really deserve it. "
Honestly wish I'd never taken him with me when we were together, coz the place has the memories of him attached now and that's something I'm hoping to wipe out. New memories not old fears. |
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over a year ago
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Good on you. As others have said it starts with one small step. You will have nothing to worry about either you are a beautiful woman and funny as f@&k. Hope you have a great night. |
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"Wicked mate. Hope you have an awesome time. You really really deserve it.
Honestly wish I'd never taken him with me when we were together, coz the place has the memories of him attached now and that's something I'm hoping to wipe out. New memories not old fears."
Maybe going there now will help even more.
I couldn’t listen to Paul Oakenfold ~ Southern Sun for years cos of the bad memories it brought of my ex but now I can listen to it fine. |
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"Wicked mate. Hope you have an awesome time. You really really deserve it.
Honestly wish I'd never taken him with me when we were together, coz the place has the memories of him attached now and that's something I'm hoping to wipe out. New memories not old fears.
Maybe going there now will help even more.
I couldn’t listen to Paul Oakenfold ~ Southern Sun for years cos of the bad memories it brought of my ex but now I can listen to it fine. "
I'm all eeewwww in case people ask about him or us. Don't wanna make a cunt of myself and fall apart if I get questioned or have people feel sorry for me. Fuck that shit. |
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"I'm going out out
Aside from going to a gig with my son in September I haven't been out other than work, essential shopping and visiting my platonic friends in their home for almost 2 years.
This changes tomorrow.
Am I nervous? A little.
I've chunked on a ton of weight and dislike the reflection I see in the mirror, but I'm doing it. I'm facing some demons and going to a club. A club club. You know, one where rudies happen.
I may, or may not engage in said rudies. Very likely to be a not, but that's not the point.
I'm taking a step in finding the confidence I've lost since, well, you all know since when.
Go me.
I'm not looking for pats on the back (well maybe the odd few) but mainly I'm posting for others who's confidence has fucked off with no sign of returning to say.... I believe in you."
Go for it. Confidence is a habit not an attribute. If its any help (prob not) I'm a bag of nerves and self doubts every time I walk into a club. |
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I'm so pleased to read this. You deserve a great night out.
Be kind to yourself and remember you have the power to create many new memories.
Go be you and remember how few f**ks you give about the opinions of people who don't matter.
You rock xx |
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I'm all eeewwww in case people ask about him or us. Don't wanna make a cunt of myself and fall apart if I get questioned or have people feel sorry for me. Fuck that shit."
You don’t need to answer it just change the subject with a question back at them |
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"I'm going out out
Aside from going to a gig with my son in September I haven't been out other than work, essential shopping and visiting my platonic friends in their home for almost 2 years.
This changes tomorrow.
Am I nervous? A little.
I've chunked on a ton of weight and dislike the reflection I see in the mirror, but I'm doing it. I'm facing some demons and going to a club. A club club. You know, one where rudies happen.
I may, or may not engage in said rudies. Very likely to be a not, but that's not the point.
I'm taking a step in finding the confidence I've lost since, well, you all know since when.
Go me.
I'm not looking for pats on the back (well maybe the odd few) but mainly I'm posting for others who's confidence has fucked off with no sign of returning to say.... I believe in you.
Go for it. Confidence is a habit not an attribute. If its any help (prob not) I'm a bag of nerves and self doubts every time I walk into a club. "
I used to go at least monthly, would go on my own no problem. Then I fell apart when my heart got busted and lost faith in anything and everything sex related and saw it all as the devil in disguise.
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over a year ago
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"Wicked mate. Hope you have an awesome time. You really really deserve it.
Honestly wish I'd never taken him with me when we were together, coz the place has the memories of him attached now and that's something I'm hoping to wipe out. New memories not old fears.
Maybe going there now will help even more.
I couldn’t listen to Paul Oakenfold ~ Southern Sun for years cos of the bad memories it brought of my ex but now I can listen to it fine.
I'm all eeewwww in case people ask about him or us. Don't wanna make a cunt of myself and fall apart if I get questioned or have people feel sorry for me. Fuck that shit."
Once you get back in there you’ll be fine. People there know and love you and if anyone asks any questions just say you don’t want to talk about it. It’s great you’re being brave and taking that step. You were there first so take back what’s yours. Hope you have a fabulous night, I’m sure you will. I wish I could get my act together enough to emulate you.  xx |
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"If dancing like a toddler please no falling over....  "
This is no lie, there's photo evidence. The club I'm going to has a small dance floor. One night, I decided to rub from the door and do a knee slide on said dance floor (all cool like, coz I'm a rock chick innit)
My knees hit the floor as intended. And that was that. No slide. I stopped dead on the NON SLIP FLOOR and flew head first forward. My poor knees were shredded  |
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"Wicked mate. Hope you have an awesome time. You really really deserve it.
Honestly wish I'd never taken him with me when we were together, coz the place has the memories of him attached now and that's something I'm hoping to wipe out. New memories not old fears.
Maybe going there now will help even more.
I couldn’t listen to Paul Oakenfold ~ Southern Sun for years cos of the bad memories it brought of my ex but now I can listen to it fine.
I'm all eeewwww in case people ask about him or us. Don't wanna make a cunt of myself and fall apart if I get questioned or have people feel sorry for me. Fuck that shit.
Once you get back in there you’ll be fine. People there know and love you and if anyone asks any questions just say you don’t want to talk about it. It’s great you’re being brave and taking that step. You were there first so take back what’s yours. Hope you have a fabulous night, I’m sure you will. I wish I could get my act together enough to emulate you. xx"
Darling you, I just know I cannot go on like this. I want me back. I miss me. I know I'll not be the same me but I'm sick and fucking tired of hating everyone and distrusting everyone. Sure I'll still be a cynical cunt with a "fuck you prick" attitude but I just want to laugh again. |
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"I'm going out out
Aside from going to a gig with my son in September I haven't been out other than work, essential shopping and visiting my platonic friends in their home for almost 2 years.
This changes tomorrow.
Am I nervous? A little.
I've chunked on a ton of weight and dislike the reflection I see in the mirror, but I'm doing it. I'm facing some demons and going to a club. A club club. You know, one where rudies happen.
I may, or may not engage in said rudies. Very likely to be a not, but that's not the point.
I'm taking a step in finding the confidence I've lost since, well, you all know since when.
Go me.
I'm not looking for pats on the back (well maybe the odd few) but mainly I'm posting for others who's confidence has fucked off with no sign of returning to say.... I believe in you."
This is totally the best thing I've read all year... make way ya'll, PP coming through  |
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over a year ago
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This is great to read OP, after all your trials and tribulations of the past, this is excellent. Go and have a ball.
But don't start going soft now, I've become quite fond of your raw honesty and humour |
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"This is great to read OP, after all your trials and tribulations of the past, this is excellent. Go and have a ball.
But don't start going soft now, I've become quite fond of your raw honesty and humour "
Fucking soft! You're cruising for a bruising son! The cheek  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Good for you! Go and have an amazing time!
I have a bit more chub on the hub but who cares! That is the great thing, you can go to a club and nobody judges |
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"Wicked mate. Hope you have an awesome time. You really really deserve it.
Honestly wish I'd never taken him with me when we were together, coz the place has the memories of him attached now and that's something I'm hoping to wipe out. New memories not old fears.
Maybe going there now will help even more.
I couldn’t listen to Paul Oakenfold ~ Southern Sun for years cos of the bad memories it brought of my ex but now I can listen to it fine.
I'm all eeewwww in case people ask about him or us. Don't wanna make a cunt of myself and fall apart if I get questioned or have people feel sorry for me. Fuck that shit.
Once you get back in there you’ll be fine. People there know and love you and if anyone asks any questions just say you don’t want to talk about it. It’s great you’re being brave and taking that step. You were there first so take back what’s yours. Hope you have a fabulous night, I’m sure you will. I wish I could get my act together enough to emulate you. xx
Darling you, I just know I cannot go on like this. I want me back. I miss me. I know I'll not be the same me but I'm sick and fucking tired of hating everyone and distrusting everyone. Sure I'll still be a cynical cunt with a "fuck you prick" attitude but I just want to laugh again."
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