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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I tend to think of ego in terms of Freudian theory but I think you're talking about someone's ego as in how they see themselves. Like someone having a big ego, a bruised ego. I don't see ego as being wholly good or bad, it's person dependent and even then it fluctuates/changes over time.
I think it's good to have a healthy ego, it means we're not wallowing in self loathing nor Dunning-Krugering through life. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We all have one. It only becomes a bad thing if we use it as a stick to beat others with or try to convince others that our ego is better or more important then theirs. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think you have to have some to an extent or you can feel worthless but then you could go the other way and have to much of an ego which in my opinion is not likeable |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We all have one. It only becomes a bad thing if we use it as a stick to beat others with or try to convince others that our ego is better or more important then theirs. "
Or manipulating others into feeding yours. A parasite ego. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I tend to think of ego in terms of Freudian theory but I think you're talking about someone's ego as in how they see themselves. Like someone having a big ego, a bruised ego. I don't see ego as being wholly good or bad, it's person dependent and even then it fluctuates/changes over time.
I think it's good to have a healthy ego, it means we're not wallowing in self loathing nor Dunning-Krugering through life. "
Why do you think I’m talking about ego as in how they see themselves?
I’m not adding my opinion yet, but I’m not talking about the ego in terms of shallowness etc |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I tend to think of ego in terms of Freudian theory but I think you're talking about someone's ego as in how they see themselves. Like someone having a big ego, a bruised ego. I don't see ego as being wholly good or bad, it's person dependent and even then it fluctuates/changes over time.
I think it's good to have a healthy ego, it means we're not wallowing in self loathing nor Dunning-Krugering through life. "
Ah the good old psychoanalytical theory. Makes some level of sense even nowadays considering how much of a pig the man was back in those days |
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By *3nsesMan
over a year ago
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It's always a word that's seems to have a more negative conation to it from my experience.
"They have a big ego" is nearly always said in a negative way about someone. "They have a lot of self confidence" is often said in a positive way.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's always a word that's seems to have a more negative conation to it from my experience.
"They have a big ego" is nearly always said in a negative way about someone. "They have a lot of self confidence" is often said in a positive way.
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That’s one of the reasons I’ve done this post. I’m interested in peoples perception of ego. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I tend to think of ego in terms of Freudian theory but I think you're talking about someone's ego as in how they see themselves. Like someone having a big ego, a bruised ego. I don't see ego as being wholly good or bad, it's person dependent and even then it fluctuates/changes over time.
I think it's good to have a healthy ego, it means we're not wallowing in self loathing nor Dunning-Krugering through life. "
I tend to think the same way, and how ego fits in within id and super-ego with Freud’s psychoanalytic theory.
I have no issue with people having an ego as long as it’s not accompanied by a chip on the shoulder. As someone mentioned earlier, ego can make people strive to be better. |
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I see it as neither really.. to me it’s a set of scales where people balance their self worth with the needs and wants of others. Some people value themselves above all else, others are affected by others and place other people before themselves.. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"I tend to think of ego in terms of Freudian theory but I think you're talking about someone's ego as in how they see themselves. Like someone having a big ego, a bruised ego. I don't see ego as being wholly good or bad, it's person dependent and even then it fluctuates/changes over time.
Ah the good old psychoanalytical theory. Makes some level of sense even nowadays considering how much of a pig the man was back in those days "
It does doesn't it? And hard agree on the pig comment. I was trying to avoid a large waffle on how the ego couldn't be good or bad and then realised the OP was probably referring to the more commonly used definition. But I'm loving that more are talking about the psychoanalytic perspective.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I tend to think of ego in terms of Freudian theory but I think you're talking about someone's ego as in how they see themselves. Like someone having a big ego, a bruised ego. I don't see ego as being wholly good or bad, it's person dependent and even then it fluctuates/changes over time.
Ah the good old psychoanalytical theory. Makes some level of sense even nowadays considering how much of a pig the man was back in those days
It does doesn't it? And hard agree on the pig comment. I was trying to avoid a large waffle on how the ego couldn't be good or bad and then realised the OP was probably referring to the more commonly used definition. But I'm loving that more are talking about the psychoanalytic perspective.
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Why do you think that, surely you know me better than that by now? |
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"It's always a word that's seems to have a more negative conation to it from my experience.
"They have a big ego" is nearly always said in a negative way about someone. "They have a lot of self confidence" is often said in a positive way.
That’s one of the reasons I’ve done this post. I’m interested in peoples perception of ego. "
My perception of ego is exactly that, perception.
The question to me is "who are you?"
And my answer is..... I am my values |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You need a bit for your self-esteem. So you can believe you are good enough, in work or love. But as with most things moderation is key. Go to excess and it becomes arrogance and a problem. |
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For me, it's a question of balance. Ego unchecked puts you out of balance. Ego squashed down puts you out of balance. I think ego has a bad press and is commonly associated with arrogance.
What do you think, OP?
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By (user no longer on site)
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There are levels to it. The right level is where you have self respect and respect for others too. Anything below makes you miserable and anything above(lacking respect for others) makes you a douche bag. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What does this mean to you?
Is ego a good thing, or a bad thing?"
They can be fragile. I don't think they're good or bad, they just need a little managing. Or sometimes a lot... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think it’s healthy to have an ego to some degree. It can carry you through various things and benefit you. It becomes a bad thing when you start looking down on others or you believe you are too special to talk to someone or do certain things. |
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"It's always a word that's seems to have a more negative conation to it from my experience.
"They have a big ego" is nearly always said in a negative way about someone. "They have a lot of self confidence" is often said in a positive way.
That’s one of the reasons I’ve done this post. I’m interested in peoples perception of ego.
My perception of ego is exactly that, perception.
The question to me is "who are you?"
And my answer is..... I am my values "
And eventually I'll be nothing and everything all at once. Light and love.
Part of one.... And I can't bloody wait.
I don't have a soul. I AM a soul, a soul inhabiting a 44 year old body. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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While I think an ego is mostly a superiority that can be a negative quality in a person. I also believe that sometimes it can be a reflection on how we see ourselves. If someone makes us feel vulnerable or insecure, we might see it as an ego but they might just be a confident person. Confidence and arrogance is a fine line, ego usally pushes arrogance to the front of their personality. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's always a word that's seems to have a more negative conation to it from my experience.
"They have a big ego" is nearly always said in a negative way about someone. "They have a lot of self confidence" is often said in a positive way.
That’s one of the reasons I’ve done this post. I’m interested in peoples perception of ego.
My perception of ego is exactly that, perception.
The question to me is "who are you?"
And my answer is..... I am my values
And eventually I'll be nothing and everything all at once. Light and love.
Part of one.... And I can't bloody wait.
I don't have a soul. I AM a soul, a soul inhabiting a 44 year old body."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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An ego is something I’ve always tried not to have. Being a musician you tend to deal with some of the biggest egos and I can’t be doing with them but! As the above poster says. It can be a bad thing not having one. I’m always working against myself |
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By (user no longer on site)
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The greatest trick ever pulled was to convince you that they are you…. And the greatest enemy you will ever face will hide in the last place you ever look…. Your ego is the enemy, you don’t need it, it’s merely an extension of your conscious imagination, if you act on it to be better than others then you are deceiving yourself, you can only be better than you were yesterday, competing against others in caveman times meant survival, anyone who thinks competing against others nowadays is either a waste of a lifetime or mere subjective entertainment |
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"I think it’s healthy to have an ego to some degree. It can carry you through various things and benefit you. It becomes a bad thing when you start looking down on others or you believe you are too special to talk to someone or do certain things. "
Agree with this.
A guy with an ego and confidence is my biggest attraction. Particularly in the clubs.
Arrogance and rudeness isn’t. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It’s a nuisance thing. Ego loves drama, it’s the ego that won’t let things settle. If you have an issue with the opposite sex and they ghost you or reject you or anything similar, it’s ego that wants closure and explanations or even revenge if they’ve hurt you.
Kill the ego to quiet the self. |
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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago
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Ego is the Latin word for ‘I’ if someone starts all conversations with ‘I’ it can be perceived as they have a large ego. An inflated sense of pride or self importance leading them to believe they are superior to others.
However it could simply be an assurance of one’s worth or being self aware, a consciousness of your own identity.
Ego tends to be a problem when you never ask for feedback, or when you do your instantly offended or ignore it by being too wrapped up in yourself that you see it as ok to dismiss other opinions or view points.
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By *ack688Man
over a year ago
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Jumping on the back of other peoples comments about the Freudian theory. The id is our primal drives and instincts, including aggression and sex drive, whereas the ego strives to control the id to be more acceptable, Freud used the example of the id being a powerful horse and the ego being a rider trying to control it, so you could say that overbearing, aggressive and sexually intimidating people actually don’t have enough of an ego, or not enough to control their id, rather than thinking they have too big an ego. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It can be a good thing. I do have some type of ego, leads back to my Drama /theatre /performing days and the applause that you received. So yes, I like my ego it’s a nice thing for me.
I don’t like seeing arrogant egos on others, and that’s a thing. |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
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"What does this mean to you?
Is lego a good thing, or a bad thing?"
Lego is amazeballs.
Its fun, educational, creative, immersive and wondrous.
Its so much more than your parent’s lego now a days, with all the licensing bringing new themes.
The introduction of lego aimed at adult collectors and fans, massive sets requiring hours to build that result in some fantastic ornaments and talking pieces.
In short lego is awesome, while ego is just a term most people don’t understand. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Lack of ego can also be a negative thing.
I’m curious as to why?"
I think ego is about a person's self esteem. So if they have none it can be a bad thing if they feel the world is against them. A crushed ego. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Lack of ego can also be a negative thing.
I’m curious as to why?
I think ego is about a person's self esteem. So if they have none it can be a bad thing if they feel the world is against them. A crushed ego. "
That to me, is confidence/esteem and is different to ego. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Lack of ego can also be a negative thing.
I’m curious as to why?
I think ego is about a person's self esteem. So if they have none it can be a bad thing if they feel the world is against them. A crushed ego.
That to me, is confidence/esteem and is different to ego."
You asked what it means to us |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's been used so much in a negative light that people think any kind of ego is bad. Really, you need your ego to know your worth and it can prevent people taking advantage of you because your ego can tell you what you should and shouldn't do.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Lack of ego can also be a negative thing.
I’m curious as to why?
I think ego is about a person's self esteem. So if they have none it can be a bad thing if they feel the world is against them. A crushed ego.
That to me, is confidence/esteem and is different to ego.
You asked what it means to us "
Yes, you’re right, I did. I’m just curious |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think it's healthy to have one as long as it's kept in check. There will always be 101 people out there ready to take a pop or have a dig and try to knock you down. Shoulders back, tits out and walk tall like you have some self worth...That's what it means to me anyway. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What does this mean to you?
Is ego a good thing, or a bad thing?"
From experience I say Egos are bad and egos in many guys are very fragile and easily shattered and can result in not a good way. This is not an anti-male it is just observation just my observations.  |
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