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Fishing for compliments..

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

You know when people go humf well I’m not gonna do this now because you’ve said that, but deep down you know they wanna and you know they’re gonna.

Or the people that slag off their own features or attributes so people can go aww noo you’re not you’re amazing.

Call me a cunt yes but I never ever fish for compliments I’ll give myself that. I even say do not blow smoke up my arse. I don’t need it.

Mad isn’t it for someone who’s supposed to be insecure, you’ll never catch me putting myself down to get compliments.

Always find it strange how people are more comfortable with people who don’t think highly of themselves than those who do. Why is that?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Take it your bedroom is tidy now OP

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By *ora the explorerWoman over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

I do know what you mean. I’ve put weight on and hate it when people say nah you look amazing. No I fucking don’t and that’s not why I said it!

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By *ora the explorerWoman over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Even the negative stuff on threads. Like in a game or something.

“Nobody will message me”

“Nobody fancies me” blah blah.

Makes me not want to wink or message. I just see it as attention seeking.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think a bit of self deprecation can be charming.

I have been known to compliment fish a teeny bit. On occasion.

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By *ad NannaWoman over a year ago

East London

It's all in the delivery.

I'm a fat cunt, there's no getting away from that, and I'll quite happily say it.

I'm not putting myself down, I'm telling it how it is.

What gets me is people saying nooo you're not fat at all.

Oh come on, if I'm not fat what's all this lard I'm lugging around?

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

People do it often, whether it's learned behaviour or they genuinely believe that they're not x,y or z. It does make me eyeroll slightly when people post it on certain threads because you know they're fishing and that gets awarded by welldo'ers.

I think there's a line between being honest in how you view yourself, being full of yourself and putting others down and constantly seeking outside approval.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You know when people go humf well I’m not gonna do this now because you’ve said that, but deep down you know they wanna and you know they’re gonna.

Or the people that slag off their own features or attributes so people can go aww noo you’re not you’re amazing.

Call me a cunt yes but I never ever fish for compliments I’ll give myself that. I even say do not blow smoke up my arse. I don’t need it.

Mad isn’t it for someone who’s supposed to be insecure, you’ll never catch me putting myself down to get compliments.

Always find it strange how people are more comfortable with people who don’t think highly of themselves than those who do. Why is that?"

Love fishing Annie won’t lie but not that many on here know what I look like!

Regardless I still push buttons and look for compliments !!!

It’s simple who doesn’t like a compliment?

What’s up with you today you know this

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Can you imagine the uproar if someone said aww I’m really fat and I said yeah actually you are. I’d be called all the nasty pasty names under the sun.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I do know what you mean. I’ve put weight on and hate it when people say nah you look amazing. No I fucking don’t and that’s not why I said it! "

Nora you look foooooking amazing !!!

I mean it tho

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Can you imagine the uproar if someone said aww I’m really fat and I said yeah actually you are. I’d be called all the nasty pasty names under the sun. "

I’ve done this

I thought they were joking. They were not

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By *ora the explorerWoman over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I do know what you mean. I’ve put weight on and hate it when people say nah you look amazing. No I fucking don’t and that’s not why I said it!

Nora you look foooooking amazing !!!

I mean it tho

Nob

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's ok to love yourself but sometimes it's clear there is nothing but arrogance. And it's ok to dislike yourself but sometimes it's uncomfortable to be around when you know it's not genuine.

I don't particularly feel more comfortable around those who are loudly insecure and I don't dislike those who are confident in themselves. I think there's a fine line somewhere.

I'm not sure if that makes sense.

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By *ora the explorerWoman over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Can you imagine the uproar if someone said aww I’m really fat and I said yeah actually you are. I’d be called all the nasty pasty names under the sun. "

Exactly. So it means fuck all anyway! Who’s gonna say yeah you’ve put loads on ya lardarse?!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Can you imagine the uproar if someone said aww I’m really fat and I said yeah actually you are. I’d be called all the nasty pasty names under the sun. "

You could loose a bit of weight ??

Then I’m sure you be more attractive?

I’m kidding !!!!!

You look alright regardless

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There’s plenty of fishing on these Forums. Not always for compliments.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sometimes I'll mention something I don't find so great to show my acceptance of it, not looking for compliments. Eg. I'm going grey and I can't be bothered dying it. I don't need anyone to say they love greying hair for me to be ok with it. I used to be paranoid about having a big nose but then realised some people like it, and everyone knows big nose.. Big tissues

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By *nly4funMan over a year ago

Nottingham

A lot of people are insecure and will feel uncomfortable in the presence of people who they perceive who possess attributes they wish they had, whether that be confidence, a better figure, etc.

It’s a normal thing since we all like to feel good about ourselves. Unfortunately due to the way that society tends to work, that is all too often through comparison with others. Or if you aren’t so nice, through putting others down. Being a normal thing doesn’t make it right, just normal.

Be your best self. Own who you are. Accept others for who they are and avoid comparing!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Can you imagine the uproar if someone said aww I’m really fat and I said yeah actually you are. I’d be called all the nasty pasty names under the sun. "

Jesus you wont believe ive actually been roasted for deliberately trying to be polite when i spoke to a girl once, saying she was curvy was apparently insensitive of me and i shouldve just called her fat

What kind of a mind fuck is that?!

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By *rincess peachWoman over a year ago

shits creek

"I do know what you mean. I’ve put weight on and hate it when people say nah you look amazing. No I fucking don’t and that’s not why I said it! "

Same here. What I may look like to *you* and what I feel like to me are totally different.

I'm a short arse with small saggy tits and cellulite, a goofy tooth and I'm hairy like a wookie. Wear goggles if ya want but that's the truth and I can take the piss outta myself for it.

I do however recognise the qualities about me that I like, it's about balance. I'm human, we all are and no cunt is perfect.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Take it your bedroom is tidy now OP

Haha yes! Just need to wash my bedding but I’ll do that tomorrow day. Ready for my Polish prince

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" and no cunt is perfect."

Ahem.

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By *rincess peachWoman over a year ago

shits creek

" and no cunt is perfect.

Ahem.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don’t blow smoke up peoples arses. I just rim them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Tbh Annie, I'm not really sure what your point it question is?

Is it you can't be insecure because you don't put yourself down.

Or that others are mean to you because you think highly of yourself.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Alot of ppl who look at my pics think I'm confident but alot of the time it's because my confidence is so low I try to put up a new pic just for compliments as an ego boost.

3 months and 2 fabs later I realise its a waste of time lol

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By *osta del sol KinkytimesMan over a year ago

Campanillas, Spain

Talking as someone who loves having someone sat on his face, a bit of junk in the trunk is fantastic. So if I say someone with a juicy arse looks gorgeous I mean it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'll keep my feelings to myself from now on.

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS over a year ago

Carlisle

"I don’t blow smoke up peoples arses. I just rim them

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Hilarious! God it's lovely too.

hahahaha

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Tbh Annie, I'm not really sure what your point it question is?

Is it you can't be insecure because you don't put yourself down.

Or that others are mean to you because you think highly of yourself. "

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"I don’t blow smoke up peoples arses. I just rim them

Yum

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Baits hook

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Tbh Annie, I'm not really sure what your point it question is?

Is it you can't be insecure because you don't put yourself down.

Or that others are mean to you because you think highly of yourself.

You wanna seriously big lamp shape for me Annie

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Paying compliments if genuine are always nice

Keep it real

# yawn

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Tbh Annie, I'm not really sure what your point it question is?

Is it you can't be insecure because you don't put yourself down.

Or that others are mean to you because you think highly of yourself.

"You don't need to dull anyone else's light" yet that's exactly what you're doing with this thread. And this mornings cringe thread.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's about attitude not confidence. Confident people know who they are and don't feel the need to convince people of that. These people don't shout from the rooftops their greatest qualities because they don't need acceptance from others.

People who see theirselves as superior and put others down to bring theirselves up. Those are the people not to be comfortable around.. not because they tell people how great they are, it's because their arseholes.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Tbh Annie, I'm not really sure what your point it question is?

Is it you can't be insecure because you don't put yourself down.

Or that others are mean to you because you think highly of yourself.

I have insecurities I think most people do. But mine can’t be triggered by anything on here because they’re childhood abandonment issues. I’m not worried if any forum people are gonna leave. Yet it’s banded about that I say certain things or put others down because I’m insecure. I don’t need to dull anyone else’s light to try and make mine shine brighter. For some reason I believe I am bright enough on my own and that sometimes I just say things cos I make myself laugh or they’re true or it’s just a thought I’ve had and wonder if people feel the same. "
okay, gotcha. You rile some ppl up here (and irl? Be interesting know). You could be the innocent party and it's all their issues. Or it could be you are doing something you are unaware of. It appears you are pretty confident it's the former. Question is, how open are you to considering it could be something you are doing?

(That's my thoughts. Will leave that there as these threads can become a mob hunt!)

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Tbh Annie, I'm not really sure what your point it question is?

Is it you can't be insecure because you don't put yourself down.

Or that others are mean to you because you think highly of yourself.

"You don't need to dull anyone else's light" yet that's exactly what you're doing with this thread. And this mornings cringe thread.

I’m making a factual statement actually.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Tbh Annie, I'm not really sure what your point it question is?

Is it you can't be insecure because you don't put yourself down.

Or that others are mean to you because you think highly of yourself.

"You don't need to dull anyone else's light" yet that's exactly what you're doing with this thread. And this mornings cringe thread.

I’m making a factual statement actually. "

Sure you are

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Even the negative stuff on threads. Like in a game or something.

“Nobody will message me”

“Nobody fancies me” blah blah.

Makes me not want to wink or message. I just see it as attention seeking. "

I remember a few years ago seeing someone posting on the face pic Friday, or snog marry avoid threads, "moaning" that no one ever picked her.

After a while she became popular, a fixture on the Forums.

Now she treats forumites with utter contempt.

Funny how a bit of inclusion and flattery can expand the ego.

Winston

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

well im impressed hanging candy rock from your nips, they must be like welders rivets

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By *ensuallover1000Man over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

Can I say that your Christmas tree is looking awesome Annie

(I did look at the tree……)

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By *odgerMooreMan over a year ago

Nowhere

I’m comfortable in myself - i think that’s all you need to be. If you are then nothing anyone else says really matters because your self worth is what matters. There are plenty here that sadly arent that confident and what is said can have devastating effects on their self confidence. For my part I always try to see The positives in people without being insincere. If someone is having a tough day and there are several posts today which are like this - I think trying to be positive with them can only help - be who you are - it’s good enough.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS over a year ago

Carlisle

"It's about attitude not confidence. Confident people know who they are and don't feel the need to convince people of that. These people don't shout from the rooftops their greatest qualities because they don't need acceptance from others.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Annie you are lovely ty. Xxx

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"[Removed by poster at 19/11/21 14:40:42]"

You fishing

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Tbh Annie, I'm not really sure what your point it question is?

Is it you can't be insecure because you don't put yourself down.

Or that others are mean to you because you think highly of yourself.

You wanna seriously big lamp shape for me Annie

Not sure what people's childhood has to do with your behaviour. Reverse psychology doesn't work on me! I can throw lampshades if you need to lighten up if that's what you want. Hahaha "

Only peppa pig lamp shades will do

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By *parkle1974Woman over a year ago

Leeds

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

When I pay a compliment I mean it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"[Removed by poster at 19/11/21 14:40:42]

You fisting

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"[Removed by poster at 19/11/21 14:40:42]

You fisting

You fasting

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"When I pay a compliment I mean it"

Thats why you have never complimented me then!

(See .... that is a baited hook right there)

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By *annaBeStrongMan over a year ago

wokingham

"When I pay a compliment I mean it"

Prove it

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By *umalotagainMan over a year ago

a town called malice

Don’t think I have ever had a compliment on this site

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"[Removed by poster at 19/11/21 14:40:42]

You fisting

You farting

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It’s a social media site with pics and write ups . Attractions to people and online Persona . No harm in giving someone a nice compliment. Equally no harm if ya don’t or take a bit of flack

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"When I pay a compliment I mean it"

You definitely have a crush on me so

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"When I pay a compliment I mean it

Thats why you have never complimented me then!

(See .... that is a baited hook right there)"

I always pay you compliments when I can find you x

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"When I pay a compliment I mean it

You definitely have a crush on me so "

I don't love I don't drink

Alcohol

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By *rHotNottsMan over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Always find it strange how people are more comfortable with people who don’t think highly of themselves than those who do. Why is that?"

Some people are, not everyone, maybe they think they are easier targets & it’s gets them into their knickers ? I find it tiresome tbh. But then overconfidence is just as bad, just be authentic , good days, bad days.

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"When I pay a compliment I mean it

Prove it "

How

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Even the negative stuff on threads. Like in a game or something.

“Nobody will message me”

“Nobody fancies me” blah blah.

Makes me not want to wink or message. I just see it as attention seeking.

I remember a few years ago seeing someone posting on the face pic Friday, or snog marry avoid threads, "moaning" that no one ever picked her.

After a while she became popular, a fixture on the Forums.

Now she treats forumites with utter contempt.

Funny how a bit of inclusion and flattery can expand the ego.

Winston"

Well that wasn’t me if thats what you’re implying. Those threads are shit. Wouldn’t catch me in a snog marry avoid thread.

Also I’ve been NOTICED from day dot, ego has always been sizeable, nobody can say I ain’t consistent even 11 years later.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

In the immortal words of Chief Brody -

'You're gonna need a bigger boat'

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS over a year ago

Carlisle

"Tbh Annie, I'm not really sure what your point it question is?

Is it you can't be insecure because you don't put yourself down.

Or that others are mean to you because you think highly of yourself.

You wanna seriously big lamp shape for me Annie

Not sure what people's childhood has to do with your behaviour. Reverse psychology doesn't work on me! I can throw lampshades if you need to lighten up if that's what you want. Hahaha

Only peppa pig lamp shades will do "
Unicorn ones i think a trip to Narnia is needed hahahaha

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"When I pay a compliment I mean it"

I've found this to be true, Yasmeen. You seem genuine to me. Pity I can't say the same for the thread.

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"When I pay a compliment I mean it

I've found this to be true, Yasmeen. You seem genuine to me. Pity I can't say the same for the thread. "

Thanks sweetheart xxxx

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By *nfin8yWoman over a year ago

Newcastle-under-Lyme

I’m not particularly interested in how other people see me it’s how I feel in myself that matters. If I feel like a fat arse then it’s up to me do something about it. I don’t need someone to give me false compliments or to tell me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"When I pay a compliment I mean it

I've found this to be true, Yasmeen. You seem genuine to me. Pity I can't say the same for the thread. "

I’m very genuine I’m not here to please anyone but have good crack with everyone!

“ except _asmeen” that comment cut deep

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'll keep my feelings to myself from now on."

Share them

You're gorgeous

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Different people

Different opinions

We all are Unique

Some very Opinionated

Some really lovely

Some well

Some love Attention

Then we have Rex holes

One big dysfunctional family

Xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Different people

Different opinions

We all are Unique

Some very Opinionated

Some really lovely

Some well

Some love Attention

Then we have Rex holes

One big dysfunctional family

Xxx"

Poor Rex

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Different people

Different opinions

We all are Unique

Some very Opinionated

Some really lovely

Some well

Some love Attention

Then we have Rex holes

One big dysfunctional family

Xxx"

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"Different people

Different opinions

We all are Unique

Some very Opinionated

Some really lovely

Some well

Some love Attention

Then we have Rex holes

One big dysfunctional family

Xxx

Poor Rex

"
oops

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well you may not be fishing but I'm gonna need a bigger boat to hold all the compliments I could give

Every single woman on this thread is gorgeous,and love and fun.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By *ora the explorerWoman over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I'll keep my feelings to myself from now on.

Share them

You're gorgeous

That’s different SD. If I think someone is genuinely struggling I’ll message them privately, as you know. I won’t do it in public. I meant the people who do it just to get attention. x

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By *ora the explorerWoman over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I’m not particularly interested in how other people see me it’s how I feel in myself that matters. If I feel like a fat arse then it’s up to me do something about it. I don’t need someone to give me false compliments or to tell me. "

Yes I agree

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Can people stick to the topic and stop filling the thread with pointless shit and personal conversations between themselves, there’s a pm service for that.

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By *punkymonkey40Man over a year ago

derby

When I first saw the post I thought it said 'fisting for compliments' lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i dont fish for compliments

im me ,a big girl what you see is what you get

if you dont like pics ,am i bothered

im i hell

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

That’s fine. Carry on. You’ll get timeouts for purposely derailing and spamming peoples threads. It’s unfair because there’s a limit and despite being asked not to you’re continuing to do it. It’s pathetic.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Blimey what’s going on!

Well from what I can gather all the buzzards have flocked together to spam my threads to close them down which I believe comes under 7 or 8 in the rules. Deliberate or malicious disruption of the forum.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Always find it strange how people are more comfortable with people who don’t think highly of themselves than those who do. Why is that?"

It's not that way for me, you can only answer for yourself.

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman over a year ago
Forum Mod

My Own Little World

Can we get this thread back on track please guys.

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By *parkle1974Woman over a year ago

Leeds

Well that escalated quickly....naughty people

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By *iscean_dreamMan over a year ago

Llanelli

I was going to write something long and meaningful but then I didn't see the point.

Some people like compliments, others think so highly of themselves they don't need them at all and others couldn't care either way.

If you go both ends of the scale, both can be difficult to be around because one already thinks the sun shines out of her arse and the other can be like trying to make fire in space.

This makes sense in my head, hope this helps

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Always find it strange how people are more comfortable with people who don’t think highly of themselves than those who do. Why is that?

It's not that way for me, you can only answer for yourself. "

It's not that way for me either. I like people who are honest, open and genuine. There's a difference between those who practice self-love and arrogance.

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By *eroLondonMan over a year ago

Mayfair

"I do know what you mean. I’ve put weight on and hate it when people say nah you look amazing. No I fucking don’t and that’s not why I said it! "

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There's nothing worse than 'faux-flattery'. It's disingenuous.

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By *affron40Woman over a year ago

manchester

I respect people who are comfortable in their own skin and don’t need to constantly beg for affirmation or tell everyone how great they are. Beauty is very much a bigger picture, not simply the skin you’re in. True beauty is the soul.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I do know what you mean. I’ve put weight on and hate it when people say nah you look amazing. No I fucking don’t and that’s not why I said it!

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There's nothing worse than 'faux-flattery'. It's disingenuous."

I think those on the receiving end know it's false too.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

A comment in regards to the topic at hand, It's kind of hard to fish for compliments when the water is so shallow.

you can't delete that one it's well on topic.

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS over a year ago

Carlisle

"I respect people who are comfortable in their own skin and don’t need to constantly beg for affirmation or tell everyone how great they are. Beauty is very much a bigger picture, not simply the skin you’re in. True beauty is the soul.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Beauty is very much a bigger picture, not simply the skin you’re in. True beauty is the soul.

Love this

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By *iscean_dreamMan over a year ago

Llanelli

Agreed

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By *yclindaveMan over a year ago

Leicester

Those are lovely words.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I never block people but had to today to remind myself what happened on this day.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Can you imagine the uproar if someone said aww I’m really fat and I said yeah actually you are. I’d be called all the nasty pasty names under the sun. "

I prefer people who will say yeah I'm fat as fuck or I look like shit. Smarmy bullshit makes me itch.

At least I know when I do look ok because I can trust them to be honest.

Huuuge bumper of a woman I am. I want a man to say so as he grabs me- then I know he really wants to.

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By *ad NannaWoman over a year ago

East London

"Can you imagine the uproar if someone said aww I’m really fat and I said yeah actually you are. I’d be called all the nasty pasty names under the sun.

Exactly. So it means fuck all anyway! Who’s gonna say yeah you’ve put loads on ya lardarse?! "

I would prefer that to people treating me like a princess and saying awww no you're not, you're just short for your weight

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It says you posted 7 minutes ago Annie but it's not here.

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By *emorefridaCouple over a year ago

La la land

I think people look for reassurance in numerous different ways. Be it about the way they look, their intellect how they react to different situations they encounter in life.

I may seek reassurance about my looks at times, but my decision making never, occasionally my intelligence from people I deem far more bright than me.

We all have different things we are confident or not about. If some reassurance helps people let them crack on it doesn't harm anyone.

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By *rLucky777Man over a year ago

Leeds

If it isn’t my favourite crazy arse tonguing Welsh pocket rocket??? Must’ve been over 1000 days.

You’re looking incredible but probably still trouble

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"You know when people go humf well I’m not gonna do this now because you’ve said that, but deep down you know they wanna and you know they’re gonna.

Or the people that slag off their own features or attributes so people can go aww noo you’re not you’re amazing.

Call me a cunt yes but I never ever fish for compliments I’ll give myself that. I even say do not blow smoke up my arse. I don’t need it.

Mad isn’t it for someone who’s supposed to be insecure, you’ll never catch me putting myself down to get compliments.

Always find it strange how people are more comfortable with people who don’t think highly of themselves than those who do. Why is that?"

That was a lot of different things all in one post!

I do the first one a lot, especially of its my mum telling me to do things lol dunno why, just my petulant child coming out.

I only slag myself off when I know it's true. I know I'm not a beautiful person, I know I am fat (or have fat if you will). I'm clever to know when people are blowing smoke up my arse.

Insecurities aren't always about how you portray yourself. It's often how you project on to others, for instance feeling embarrassed when they do a popular dance on a major social media app feeling alsorts of good about themselves

For the last one I guess it gives them a feeling of superiority.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Take it your bedroom is tidy now OP

Haha yes! Just need to wash my bedding but I’ll do that tomorrow day. Ready for my Polish prince

Mr sheen

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Even the negative stuff on threads. Like in a game or something.

“Nobody will message me”

“Nobody fancies me” blah blah.

Makes me not want to wink or message. I just see it as attention seeking.

I remember a few years ago seeing someone posting on the face pic Friday, or snog marry avoid threads, "moaning" that no one ever picked her.

After a while she became popular, a fixture on the Forums.

Now she treats forumites with utter contempt.

Funny how a bit of inclusion and flattery can expand the ego.

Winston

Well that wasn’t me if thats what you’re implying. Those threads are shit. Wouldn’t catch me in a snog marry avoid thread.

Also I’ve been NOTICED from day dot, ego has always been sizeable, nobody can say I ain’t consistent even 11 years later. "

It wasn't you.

Winston.

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By *uriousscouserWoman over a year ago

Wirral

"Can you imagine the uproar if someone said aww I’m really fat and I said yeah actually you are. I’d be called all the nasty pasty names under the sun.

I prefer people who will say yeah I'm fat as fuck or I look like shit. Smarmy bullshit makes me itch.

At least I know when I do look ok because I can trust them to be honest.

Huuuge bumper of a woman I am. I want a man to say so as he grabs me- then I know he really wants to.

Fellow huuuge bumper of a woman.

I don't need fake "oh no you aren't" compliments - I have mirrors and great eyesight thanks.

I am at home in my skin and thankfully don't need validation in the form of fake flattery from internet strangers

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By *agneto.Man over a year ago

Bham

I don't think self depreciation is all just to get someone to complement them. Some people just have a downer on things about themselves.

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By *ea monkeyMan over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

Personally I don’t talk myself down to get compliments, they make me uncomfortable. It’s because I see myself, faults and all, and it would be disingenuous to not acknowledge that.

I might be slim and athletic now but I wasn’t always and it can be hard to shake that self image as well at times.

It’s easy to be derisory towards those that don’t share a positive self image, especially if we don’t understand their thought process but dismissing it out of hand as intentionally ‘fishing’ can be just as toxic as the fishing itself.

Confidence is sexy, yes but arrogance isn’t. Confidence is a quiet assurance and arrogance is a loud assertion.

Confidence is usually born from self awareness of ones abilities and limits, with a touch of humility. Owning your limits isn’t fishing, it’s being humble

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think a bit of self deprecation can be charming.

I have been known to compliment fish a teeny bit. On occasion."

Well of you don’t take the piss out of yourself some other fucker’s going to beat you to it, and it’ll be relentless! So might as well

(mr).

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'll keep my feelings to myself from now on."

You absolutely don't have to and people shouldn't make you feel like you needs to.

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By *rHotNottsMan over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I only compliment someone’s tits if they are fake, I mean unless you chose and paid for them is just luck isn’t it ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Can you imagine the uproar if someone said aww I’m really fat and I said yeah actually you are. I’d be called all the nasty pasty names under the sun.

Exactly. So it means fuck all anyway! Who’s gonna say yeah you’ve put loads on ya lardarse?! "

My Mother in law!! Always greeted with “aw, you’re looking very well. Have you put on weight?”

(I’ve never had the courage to retort, not as much as you)…. Just nod and smile. Nod and smile

(Mr).

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'll keep my feelings to myself from now on.

Share them

You're gorgeous

That’s different SD. If I think someone is genuinely struggling I’ll message them privately, as you know. I won’t do it in public. I meant the people who do it just to get attention. x "

How do you know that somebody is doing it for attention and who is genuinely struggling? Surely we don't know who is genuinely struggling. We all have different ways of wording things and I guess it can come across differently to each person. In my opinion anybody that is deliberately seeking attention and affirmation is probably struggling in one way or another.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"When I pay a compliment I mean it"

I just make random shit up for shits and giggles

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There’s a lot of people that don’t wanna hurt someone’s feelings I suppose as people can feel uncomfortable by telling the truth….which does lead to complications later down the line…but the then and now can be awkward situations that some people don’t like to be in!

And let’s face it when you’re saying these things about yourself you’re obviously in a shit head space so a compliment from a stranger might have a positive impact on the mental well-being!

The truth hurts sometimes and not many people are willing to give it or take it!

Insecurities are a part of everyone….some want to show them…others hide behind bravado and confidence!

There’ll always be those that fish and there’ll always be those that don’t….people are different and I think we have to accept that!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I only compliment someone’s tits if they are fake, I mean unless you chose and paid for them is just luck isn’t it ? "

Can’t wait to have mine done

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By *ad NannaWoman over a year ago

East London

"I only compliment someone’s tits if they are fake, I mean unless you chose and paid for them is just luck isn’t it ? "

No Siree, I grew my huge knockers myself by feeding them bars and bars of chocolate.

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By *ora the explorerWoman over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I'll keep my feelings to myself from now on.

Share them

You're gorgeous

That’s different SD. If I think someone is genuinely struggling I’ll message them privately, as you know. I won’t do it in public. I meant the people who do it just to get attention. x

I just did a massive reply but I’m not in the mood. I gave my opinion earlier in the thread. If I think someone is genuinely struggling I often message them (not on a thread). If I think it’s just woe is me and negativity then that doesn’t appeal to me. Sorry.

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By *asilyled1Man over a year ago

ogmore valley

"I'll keep my feelings to myself from now on.

Share them

You're gorgeous

That’s different SD. If I think someone is genuinely struggling I’ll message them privately, as you know. I won’t do it in public. I meant the people who do it just to get attention. x

I can vouch for that,and that’s why you’re one of the good ones on here

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By *toC Thats MeWoman over a year ago

Sheffield

Off topic but love the Christmas tree

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I wouldn’t say I fish for compliments on here. I’m pretty self-deprecating for a gorgeous fucker

Nah, the other day I posted about having nits and I’ve spoken of my wobbly mum tum. Keeping it real!

I tend not to do the woe is me thing either, but don’t mind if others do. Fab is a pretty good outlet for folks.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Think there's a presumption from a negative starting point here. Why assume they're fishing for compliments? It could be a comment without that intention. Misanthropy at its finest.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Ahh I saw my Polish friend earlier in work. It is on for tomorrow! Had a sneaky squeeze of his knob through his shorts!

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By *good-being-badMan over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

If you need to fish for compliments from strangers on an internet forum you really are aiming low.

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By *ora the explorerWoman over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I'll keep my feelings to myself from now on.

Share them

You're gorgeous

That’s different SD. If I think someone is genuinely struggling I’ll message them privately, as you know. I won’t do it in public. I meant the people who do it just to get attention. x

I can vouch for that,and that’s why you’re one of the good ones on here "

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By *ora the explorerWoman over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Ahh I saw my Polish friend earlier in work. It is on for tomorrow! Had a sneaky squeeze of his knob through his shorts! "

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By *atnip make me purrWoman over a year ago

Reading

Sometimes it's lucky that those who love themselves do because I'm not sure many others do.

Confidence is most appealing to me when it's quiet because that feels so much more genuine.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ahh I saw my Polish friend earlier in work. It is on for tomorrow! Had a sneaky squeeze of his knob through his shorts! "

I hope he will pay you plenty of compliments. During that time, will the number of new threads plummet and we'll have to go cold-turkey?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yeah, I hear you. What is sad to see though is when you can see someone struggling and because they are not a regular or they are new they get very few replies....

The 'be kind' brigade is nowhere to be seen then

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By *emorefridaCouple over a year ago

La la land

"Yeah, I hear you. What is sad to see though is when you can see someone struggling and because they are not a regular or they are new they get very few replies....

The 'be kind' brigade is nowhere to be seen then"

Do you think maybe it's because it's done in private? If it's someone i haven't seen on the forum much, I tend to reply privately as I'm not sure if they want to discuss things on a thread.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"Think there's a presumption from a negative starting point here. Why assume they're fishing for compliments? It could be a comment without that intention. Misanthropy at its finest.

How is it misanthrope?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Think there's a presumption from a negative starting point here. Why assume they're fishing for compliments? It could be a comment without that intention. Misanthropy at its finest.

How is it misanthrope? "

This is a word I’m gonna have to google.

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By *ora the explorerWoman over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Think there's a presumption from a negative starting point here. Why assume they're fishing for compliments? It could be a comment without that intention. Misanthropy at its finest.

How is it misanthrope? "

I thought that. Wrong word

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Think there's a presumption from a negative starting point here. Why assume they're fishing for compliments? It could be a comment without that intention. Misanthropy at its finest.

How is it misanthrope? "

Because I think it confirms to the definition.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Think there's a presumption from a negative starting point here. Why assume they're fishing for compliments? It could be a comment without that intention. Misanthropy at its finest.

How is it misanthrope?

I thought that. Wrong word "

Just googled it and a picture of Ebeneezer Scrooge came up. I’m nothing like him. I’m skint!

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By *ora the explorerWoman over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Think there's a presumption from a negative starting point here. Why assume they're fishing for compliments? It could be a comment without that intention. Misanthropy at its finest.

How is it misanthrope?

I thought that. Wrong word

Just googled it and a picture of Ebeneezer Scrooge came up. I’m nothing like him. I’m skint! "

. It’s people who dislike and distrust other people and don’t want any interaction with them at all. I have phases of it!

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By *eroLondonMan over a year ago

Mayfair

"Think there's a presumption from a negative starting point here. Why assume they're fishing for compliments? It could be a comment without that intention. Misanthropy at its finest.

How is it misanthrope?

I thought that. Wrong word "

It Is the wrong word.

Speculatively fishing for compliments is (sometimes) a type of approbation and narcissism rolled into one.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Think there's a presumption from a negative starting point here. Why assume they're fishing for compliments? It could be a comment without that intention. Misanthropy at its finest.

How is it misanthrope?

I thought that. Wrong word

It Is the wrong word.

Speculatively fishing for compliments is (sometimes) a type of approbation and narcissism rolled into one."

What about the underlying premise?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Think there's a presumption from a negative starting point here. Why assume they're fishing for compliments? It could be a comment without that intention. Misanthropy at its finest.

How is it misanthrope?

I thought that. Wrong word

It Is the wrong word.

Speculatively fishing for compliments is (sometimes) a type of approbation and narcissism rolled into one.

What about the underlying premise? "
not sure it's misanthropy necessarily. Possibly projection? "If I did x it would mean it was because y" and not considering other perspectives.

(Caveat: terrible English skills)

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By *eroLondonMan over a year ago

Mayfair

"Think there's a presumption from a negative starting point here. Why assume they're fishing for compliments? It could be a comment without that intention. Misanthropy at its finest.

How is it misanthrope?

I thought that. Wrong word

It Is the wrong word.

Speculatively fishing for compliments is (sometimes) a type of approbation and narcissism rolled into one.

What about the underlying premise? "

•

Do you mean the underlying rationale for why that person is asking/expecting compliments?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Think there's a presumption from a negative starting point here. Why assume they're fishing for compliments? It could be a comment without that intention. Misanthropy at its finest.

How is it misanthrope?

I thought that. Wrong word

It Is the wrong word.

Speculatively fishing for compliments is (sometimes) a type of approbation and narcissism rolled into one.

What about the underlying premise?

•

Do you mean the underlying rationale for why that person is asking/expecting compliments?"

I read IS's comment about misanthropy to be about the OP, not those "fishing for compliments".

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Everyone deals with life differently unless you know someone you don't know their life

some people don't have much confidence and need other people's acceptance and attention to help them build selves up

If they need to fish for them why should that bother other people? If it makes that person feel better about themselves and isn't hurting anyone one else

Some people are full of confidence and don't need compliments also nothing wrong with that as long as it not used to push other people down

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Everyone deals with life differently unless you know someone you don't know their life

some people don't have much confidence and need other people's acceptance and attention to help them build selves up

If they need to fish for them why should that bother other people? If it makes that person feel better about themselves and isn't hurting anyone one else

Some people are full of confidence and don't need compliments also nothing wrong with that as long as it not used to push other people down

This is a very good point and personally not one I (mr) had thought about. Certainly food for though.

I suppose equally not all that have confidence are comfortable discussing things so openly either. It is a thin line. And as a ‘society’ having the ability to discuss things in wide public forums still relatively new (past few decades only) so some stills see it as ‘showing off’ whether it is saying ‘look at me I’m at no1’ here or acknowledging a professional award on linkedin. Modesty and self consciousness about some aspects might cloud how we view those using publicity or seeking validation for other reasons. And I’m sure confidence is not universal either. Some can be confident in certain speck (e.g public speaking) but would cringe at a beach photo!

There’s certainly not one size fits all approach.

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By *partharmonyCouple over a year ago

Ruislip

Didn't you start a thread a day or two ago simply informing everybody you were no. 1 in Hot Photos?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Didn't you start a thread a day or two ago simply informing everybody you were no. 1 in Hot Photos?

If I made it to number one I’d make a thread too

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Didn't you start a thread a day or two ago simply informing everybody you were no. 1 in Hot Photos?

Yeah but I haven’t done another thread to say I’m number 1 again today. I’m just do it when I wanna wind people up.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Think there's a presumption from a negative starting point here. Why assume they're fishing for compliments? It could be a comment without that intention. Misanthropy at its finest.

How is it misanthrope?

I thought that. Wrong word

It Is the wrong word.

Speculatively fishing for compliments is (sometimes) a type of approbation and narcissism rolled into one.

What about the underlying premise?

•

Do you mean the underlying rationale for why that person is asking/expecting compliments?

I read IS's comment about misanthropy to be about the OP, not those "fishing for compliments"."

As did I, that it was in reference to the OP's cynicism in her presumption.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Didn't you start a thread a day or two ago simply informing everybody you were no. 1 in Hot Photos?

Yeah but I haven’t done another thread to say I’m number 1 again today. I’m just do it when I wanna wind people up.

Why do you feel the need to "wind people up", if you don't mind my asking?

I'm curious and not being facetious or sarcastic.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Didn't you start a thread a day or two ago simply informing everybody you were no. 1 in Hot Photos?

Yeah but I haven’t done another thread to say I’m number 1 again today. I’m just do it when I wanna wind people up.

You’re not a ‘Professional Shit Stirrer’ for nawt

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By *acey_RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

Honestly I don't really care of people are fishing for compliments. If they want them and people are happy to give them then so what? As long as they don't get the hump with me as I'm not very good at picking up on hints.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Didn't you start a thread a day or two ago simply informing everybody you were no. 1 in Hot Photos?

Yeah but I haven’t done another thread to say I’m number 1 again today. I’m just do it when I wanna wind people up.

Why do you feel the need to "wind people up", if you don't mind my asking?

I'm curious and not being facetious or sarcastic."

Because it makes me laugh, that’s it.

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By *iscean_dreamMan over a year ago

Llanelli

"Honestly I don't really care of people are fishing for compliments. If they want them and people are happy to give them then so what? As long as they don't get the hump with me as I'm not very good at picking up on hints. "

I quite like a compliment now and then, nudge nudge wink wink

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By *ora the explorerWoman over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

I quite like a compliment now and then, nudge nudge wink wink

Nice cock

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By *iscean_dreamMan over a year ago

Llanelli

I quite like a compliment now and then, nudge nudge wink wink

Nice cock "

I was about to say you can't see it but you still can and thank you

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I quite like a compliment now and then, nudge nudge wink wink

Nice cock

I was about to say you can't see it but you still can and thank you

Nice overall shape in general.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Some people can only feel good when they make others feel less good. People might not fish for compliments, but that doesn't stop them feeding off other negative energy.

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By *iscean_dreamMan over a year ago

Llanelli

I quite like a compliment now and then, nudge nudge wink wink

Nice cock

I was about to say you can't see it but you still can and thank you

Nice overall shape in general."

Thank you Annie and same to you

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By *acey_RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

I quite like a compliment now and then, nudge nudge wink wink

Nice cock "

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By *ora the explorerWoman over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

I quite like a compliment now and then, nudge nudge wink wink

Nice cock

I was about to say you can't see it but you still can and thank you

I didn’t even look. Pretty ones stay in my memory

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By *iscean_dreamMan over a year ago

Llanelli

I quite like a compliment now and then, nudge nudge wink wink

Nice cock

I was about to say you can't see it but you still can and thank you

I didn’t even look. Pretty ones stay in my memory

I cock stamped you

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By *ora the explorerWoman over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

I quite like a compliment now and then, nudge nudge wink wink

Nice cock

I was about to say you can't see it but you still can and thank you

I didn’t even look. Pretty ones stay in my memory

I cock stamped you

Oh that sounds fun!

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By *iscean_dreamMan over a year ago

Llanelli

I quite like a compliment now and then, nudge nudge wink wink

Nice cock

I was about to say you can't see it but you still can and thank you

I didn’t even look. Pretty ones stay in my memory

I cock stamped you

Oh that sounds fun!

It wouldn't sound fun for a guy though, well for most it wouldn't but some like that kind of thing

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By *ora the explorerWoman over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

I quite like a compliment now and then, nudge nudge wink wink

Nice cock

I was about to say you can't see it but you still can and thank you

I didn’t even look. Pretty ones stay in my memory

I cock stamped you

Oh that sounds fun!

It wouldn't sound fun for a guy though, well for most it wouldn't but some like that kind of thing

Oh no I meant stamp me with your cock. I’m not into stamping on genitals

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By *iscean_dreamMan over a year ago

Llanelli

I quite like a compliment now and then, nudge nudge wink wink

Nice cock

I was about to say you can't see it but you still can and thank you

I didn’t even look. Pretty ones stay in my memory

I cock stamped you

Oh that sounds fun!

It wouldn't sound fun for a guy though, well for most it wouldn't but some like that kind of thing

Oh no I meant stamp me with your cock. I’m not into stamping on genitals

I'm not into it either

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Didn't you start a thread a day or two ago simply informing everybody you were no. 1 in Hot Photos?

Yeah but I haven’t done another thread to say I’m number 1 again today. I’m just do it when I wanna wind people up.

Why do you feel the need to "wind people up", if you don't mind my asking?

I'm curious and not being facetious or sarcastic.

Because it makes me laugh, that’s it. "

Do you mean you like to laugh at others' expense? Do you feel empowered in some way by it, in that they are 'stupid' for being wound up so easily and you have the power to do that?

Is that the sort of feeling you get from it?

I'm not trying to belittle of challenge you. I'd really like to understand why some people do this and seeing as you're open about your feelings in general, I think you could give me some insight.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I quite like a compliment now and then, nudge nudge wink wink

Nice cock

I was about to say you can't see it but you still can and thank you

I didn’t even look. Pretty ones stay in my memory

I cock stamped you

I was cock stamped once. Was sleeping and my partner at the time slapped me across my cheek. Had a prominent red bell end shaped mark on my cheek.

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By *iscean_dreamMan over a year ago

Llanelli

I quite like a compliment now and then, nudge nudge wink wink

Nice cock

I was about to say you can't see it but you still can and thank you

I didn’t even look. Pretty ones stay in my memory

I cock stamped you

I was cock stamped once. Was sleeping and my partner at the time slapped me across my cheek. Had a prominent red bell end shaped mark on my cheek.

Is this an acceptable wake up?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I quite like a compliment now and then, nudge nudge wink wink

Nice cock

I was about to say you can't see it but you still can and thank you

I didn’t even look. Pretty ones stay in my memory

I cock stamped you

I was cock stamped once. Was sleeping and my partner at the time slapped me across my cheek. Had a prominent red bell end shaped mark on my cheek.

Is this an acceptable wake up?

Well he’d made me real chips with tesco mild chicken curry in a tin which was my favourite meal at that time. So it was kinda like a dinner bell (end)

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By *iscean_dreamMan over a year ago

Llanelli

I quite like a compliment now and then, nudge nudge wink wink

Nice cock

I was about to say you can't see it but you still can and thank you

I didn’t even look. Pretty ones stay in my memory

I cock stamped you

I was cock stamped once. Was sleeping and my partner at the time slapped me across my cheek. Had a prominent red bell end shaped mark on my cheek.

Is this an acceptable wake up?

Well he’d made me real chips with tesco mild chicken curry in a tin which was my favourite meal at that time. So it was kinda like a dinner bell (end)

So acceptable if it's a dinner bell, that's noted

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Didn't you start a thread a day or two ago simply informing everybody you were no. 1 in Hot Photos?

Yeah but I haven’t done another thread to say I’m number 1 again today. I’m just do it when I wanna wind people up.

Why do you feel the need to "wind people up", if you don't mind my asking?

I'm curious and not being facetious or sarcastic.

Because it makes me laugh, that’s it.

Do you mean you like to laugh at others' expense? Do you feel empowered in some way by it, in that they are 'stupid' for being wound up so easily and you have the power to do that?

Is that the sort of feeling you get from it?

I'm not trying to belittle or challenge you. I'd really like to understand why some people do this and seeing as you're open about your feelings in general, I think you could give me some insight."

As the OP is unable or unwilling to answer my question, is there anyone else with similar traits that could help me understand it, the need to belittle others and wind them up in order to have a laugh?

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By *eroLondonMan over a year ago

Mayfair

"As the OP is unable or unwilling to answer my question, is there anyone else with similar traits that could help me understand it, the need to belittle others and wind them up in order to have a laugh?"

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It's a plausible question and I too would be keen to know the answer.

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By *iscean_dreamMan over a year ago

Llanelli

"Didn't you start a thread a day or two ago simply informing everybody you were no. 1 in Hot Photos?

Yeah but I haven’t done another thread to say I’m number 1 again today. I’m just do it when I wanna wind people up.

Why do you feel the need to "wind people up", if you don't mind my asking?

I'm curious and not being facetious or sarcastic.

Because it makes me laugh, that’s it.

Do you mean you like to laugh at others' expense? Do you feel empowered in some way by it, in that they are 'stupid' for being wound up so easily and you have the power to do that?

Is that the sort of feeling you get from it?

I'm not trying to belittle or challenge you. I'd really like to understand why some people do this and seeing as you're open about your feelings in general, I think you could give me some insight.

She's unable to answer but she did ask if I could ask you to stop taking things out of context and stop trying to be psychotherapist.

That is all

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Didn't you start a thread a day or two ago simply informing everybody you were no. 1 in Hot Photos?

Yeah but I haven’t done another thread to say I’m number 1 again today. I’m just do it when I wanna wind people up.

Why do you feel the need to "wind people up", if you don't mind my asking?

I'm curious and not being facetious or sarcastic.

Because it makes me laugh, that’s it.

Do you mean you like to laugh at others' expense? Do you feel empowered in some way by it, in that they are 'stupid' for being wound up so easily and you have the power to do that?

Is that the sort of feeling you get from it?

I'm not trying to belittle or challenge you. I'd really like to understand why some people do this and seeing as you're open about your feelings in general, I think you could give me some insight.

She's unable to answer but she did ask if I could ask you to stop taking things out of context and stop trying to be psychotherapist.

That is all

It's not out of context though. And there is a good point made between the discrepancies of: I'm on top of hot pics thread and what this one states about not fishing.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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It's a plausible question and I too would be keen to know the answer."

OP said “wind up”. Belittling was never mentioned to be fair. It might be a bit peculiar - but I read it as ‘banter’ and nothing more sinister. The Welsh are known for darkish humour and relentless pisstake. Never ever fall asleep in a rugby tour bus!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You are what you are.....

Don't change !!

There may be people that don't like...

But for sure, there WILL be people that do like..

Everyone has different tastes..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

She's unable to answer but she did ask if I could ask you to stop taking things out of context and stop trying to be psychotherapist.

That is all

It's not out of context though. And there is a good point made between the discrepancies of: I'm on top of hot pics thread and what this one states about not fishing. "

Thank you for your comment by proxy.

The lady above has addressed the matter of its context, which answers the OP's comment about relevance and context.

I was asking the OP about a specific comment she made in a public post. She needn't have answered and as I had stated, if she was unable or unwilling to do so, would anyone else afflicted by the same behavioural trait be able to help me understand why they would take pleasure in winding others up, to have a laugh at others' expense.

The OP seems to have taken this rather personally, something she expects others not to do when, in her threads, she uses terms that demeans them rather than a more carefully phrased tone.

My apologies to the OP if she felt I was being a psychotherapist rather than merely trying to understand a behaviour that I find wholly unattractive. It is through understanding that we can begin a dialogue without belittling or demeaning another.

As someone else has said above, be who you are. I agree but it needn't be at the expense of another.

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