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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So knowing what you know that’s if you know about the last time I slept with someone I worked with, do you think I’d be okay to do it again.
The difference with the last guy he worked the same shifts as me in the same department I was seeing him for 40 hours during work, going back to his after work and seeing him on our nights off. It was romantic, he told me that it was an ongoing thing with no expiry date. That I was the only person he was sleeping with and interested in which was bollocks. He hurt my feelings deeply we had a massive fall out but now we’re civil and friends. He does try it on all the time but that ship has sailed, I’ll never give myself to him again.
Anyway the other guy. He works in a different department, much higher pay grade so completely different jobs, I see him here and there but could easily avoid him altogether if being around him in work (after sleeping together) made me feel awkward or anything other than nice, normal friendly vibes. So I don’t have to see what he’s up to or if he’s trying it on with every other bird there not that that bothers me because I don’t have feelings for him other than pure lust.
I’ve had one off fucks before and been fine because the men have been upfront about it and haven’t tried to kiss my cheek to finger my arse.
So do you think I’d be alright? Just want a bit of reassurance cos it’s so close to Xmas now and don’t want anything to bring my mood down. I haven’t had sex since August, before that it was March. Feel horny af lately and this guy is beautiful and his mannerisms and the way he holds himself makes me think that he would be quite in charge during sex which I’m all over that.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Totally up to you but personally I wouldn't fuck anyone I worked with. I have in the past, and now just wouldn't go there. I'd view my work place as somewhere where I leave everything else outside the door once I step inside. It's less complicated. The politics that go on in work places and groups of friends etc is enough to deal with at times. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The fact you're questioning if you'll be ok, and mentioning you don't want anything to bring your mood down so close to Christmas makes me think just swerve this one.
Good luck with which ever you decide though x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Totally up to you but personally I wouldn't fuck anyone I worked with. I have in the past, and now just wouldn't go there. I'd view my work place as somewhere where I leave everything else outside the door once I step inside. It's less complicated. The politics that go on in work places and groups of friends etc is enough to deal with at times. "
This too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Bit of a long read but if he got he got a few quid and you think he will fuck the shit out of you I say go for it.
You got nothing to lose and the very least get a nice meal and few drinks |
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"So knowing what you know that’s if you know about the last time I slept with someone I worked with, do you think I’d be okay to do it again.
The difference with the last guy he worked the same shifts as me in the same department I was seeing him for 40 hours during work, going back to his after work and seeing him on our nights off. It was romantic, he told me that it was an ongoing thing with no expiry date. That I was the only person he was sleeping with and interested in which was bollocks. He hurt my feelings deeply we had a massive fall out but now we’re civil and friends. He does try it on all the time but that ship has sailed, I’ll never give myself to him again.
Anyway the other guy. He works in a different department, much higher pay grade so completely different jobs, I see him here and there but could easily avoid him altogether if being around him in work (after sleeping together) made me feel awkward or anything other than nice, normal friendly vibes. So I don’t have to see what he’s up to or if he’s trying it on with every other bird there not that that bothers me because I don’t have feelings for him other than pure lust.
I’ve had one off fucks before and been fine because the men have been upfront about it and haven’t tried to kiss my cheek to finger my arse.
So do you think I’d be alright? Just want a bit of reassurance cos it’s so close to Xmas now and don’t want anything to bring my mood down. I haven’t had sex since August, before that it was March. Feel horny af lately and this guy is beautiful and his mannerisms and the way he holds himself makes me think that he would be quite in charge during sex which I’m all over that.
Is that phrased better for the pc parade? "
I read the last one!
Honestly my lovely - if you genuinely feel you can do NSA without getting hurt then go for it!!
Sex is fucking marvellous.
I have no problem with nsa when the guy is totally honest and upfront about what he’s looking for.
The only time I’ve been hurt on here has been when people pretend they’re open to something serious when they’re not!
May you go for it - and May you be grinning from ear to ear for days afterwards!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So knowing what you know that’s if you know about the last time I slept with someone I worked with, do you think I’d be okay to do it again.
The difference with the last guy he worked the same shifts as me in the same department I was seeing him for 40 hours during work, going back to his after work and seeing him on our nights off. It was romantic, he told me that it was an ongoing thing with no expiry date. That I was the only person he was sleeping with and interested in which was bollocks. He hurt my feelings deeply we had a massive fall out but now we’re civil and friends. He does try it on all the time but that ship has sailed, I’ll never give myself to him again.
Anyway the other guy. He works in a different department, much higher pay grade so completely different jobs, I see him here and there but could easily avoid him altogether if being around him in work (after sleeping together) made me feel awkward or anything other than nice, normal friendly vibes. So I don’t have to see what he’s up to or if he’s trying it on with every other bird there not that that bothers me because I don’t have feelings for him other than pure lust.
I’ve had one off fucks before and been fine because the men have been upfront about it and haven’t tried to kiss my cheek to finger my arse.
So do you think I’d be alright? Just want a bit of reassurance cos it’s so close to Xmas now and don’t want anything to bring my mood down. I haven’t had sex since August, before that it was March. Feel horny af lately and this guy is beautiful and his mannerisms and the way he holds himself makes me think that he would be quite in charge during sex which I’m all over that.
Is that phrased better for the pc parade? "
Go for it Annie, enjoy it xx |
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The other guy played too many games with you and despite your tough, no bullshit, facade you let him in and he fucked you over.
If you are more on the same page with this guy and both are just in it for sex then go for it but be ready to pull away when you feel you need to. |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
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If you think you can mentally handle it and are that starved for sex, go for it. He's been upfront in not wanting anything else.
Of course if his taste of honey is intoxicating he might want to come back for more and not keep it to a one off. It'll then be on you to control your impulses especially if he's a good shag.
Have him dirty talk in his native language when he bangs you  |
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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago
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This says it all for me
‘So I don’t have to see what he’s up to or if he’s trying it on with every other bird there not that that bothers me because I don’t have feelings for him other than pure lust’
You don’t want to see him with anyone else, it does bother you if you were to find him chatting someone else up and the likelihood of this happening in the workplace is high - whether you see it or just hear it through the grapevine it will have an effect on your feelings based on your past in a similar situation.
To procrastinate this much over sleeping with someone makes me feel like you have more doubts than good reasons to go there.
Your mental health should come first - I wouldn’t under estimate the power lust has to make you feel like shit
Go with your gut though OP just my thoughts x |
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Go for it, you are only young once! When you are hungry you eat, when you're thirsty you drink, when you're horny you fuck. If he is doing it for you go for it. Personally though I never start a potential long term relationship on the run up to Christmas. With all the celebrations etc it can be euphoric, New Year's Eve etc, but heads stay buried in the sand with good old Valentine's day only six weeks later, and then the maxed out credit cards one or other might have run up, have to be paid by the 1st of March and it all goes belly up when the real world hits you in the face. So it kinda depends on what you want out of the game how you play the game. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The other guy played too many games with you and despite your tough, no bullshit, facade you let him in and he fucked you over.
If you are more on the same page with this guy and both are just in it for sex then go for it but be ready to pull away when you feel you need to. "
He was very manipulative I think. He genuinely messed with my mess cos my gut was telling me things but he was denying them and saying it was all in my head then admitted it all at the end anyway. I don’t like being nasty to people but I’d be lying if I didn’t say it feels good to say no to this first guy every time he asks me to come back to his or asks to come down on my nights off. He’s relentless.
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"The other guy played too many games with you and despite your tough, no bullshit, facade you let him in and he fucked you over.
If you are more on the same page with this guy and both are just in it for sex then go for it but be ready to pull away when you feel you need to.
He was very manipulative I think. He genuinely messed with my mess cos my gut was telling me things but he was denying them and saying it was all in my head then admitted it all at the end anyway. I don’t like being nasty to people but I’d be lying if I didn’t say it feels good to say no to this first guy every time he asks me to come back to his or asks to come down on my nights off. He’s relentless.
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I don't think it's being nasty. I think it's more making sure he really wants you and that it's what you want as well. Nothing wrong with wanting to be wanted x
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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To be honest the fact he has the cheek to lift your mask in work when you’re supposed to wear them, would be enough to put me off him.
If he thought that much of you he’d be a bit more fucking considerate to you!
He just wants a shag? So as long as you keep your sensible head on and don’t go off on one all half cocked cos he doesn’t pay you any attention till the next time he wants a shag, then yeah, go for it.
I hope I’m wrong and this could be the next 50 shades instalment.
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"I'd say it depended on what industry you are in.In some jobs nobody cares who you are shagging, in others they actually have a company policy about it."
She's gradually going through different departments and working her way up |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Go for it if it makes you happy that’s all that matters!! If you don’t have to be around eachother all day there shouldn’t be a problem! just fuck and go! Haha   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not sure some of you lot know what this site is with all the Mills and boons love and romance stuff  "
This site is for everything. Romance can be part of it.
If all you want is a shag behind the bins at Aldi then just meet people who also want that. |
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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago
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"Not sure some of you lot know what this site is with all the Mills and boons love and romance stuff "
Oh I’m sure we do know what it is. A swinging site that sometimes develops relationships. Does that clear it up for you???? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Shag him on Saturday but make it clear you won't shag him again until next year. It's too close to Christmas if it goes tits up.
Deciding this in advance means the pressure is off even if he starts with the love stuff and trying to change your mind. (Hopefully it will just be an amazing no strings fuck)
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not sure some of you lot know what this site is with all the Mills and boons love and romance stuff
This site is for everything. Romance can be part of it.
If all you want is a shag behind the bins at Aldi then just meet people who also want that. "
The back of ASDA I have some class
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"Not sure some of you lot know what this site is with all the Mills and boons love and romance stuff
This site is for everything. Romance can be part of it.
If all you want is a shag behind the bins at Aldi then just meet people who also want that.
The back of ASDA I have some class
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It's the crisp aisle at M&S or I'm out  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not sure some of you lot know what this site is with all the Mills and boons love and romance stuff
This site is for everything. Romance can be part of it.
If all you want is a shag behind the bins at Aldi then just meet people who also want that.
The back of ASDA I have some class
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Apologies. That's well classy.  |
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"having affairs at work ..not always but usually ends up pretty awkward to say the least"
And attracts a bad reputation too if who you slept with discloses! Work sleeping arrangements are rarely ever favourable |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Yes. Saturday it is! Haven’t actually discussed sex via text though. In fact he’s said nothing sexual at all on WhatsApp just that we can watch a movie! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think you must have some doubts yourself that you've even asking the question. If in doubt, don't do it.
Your peace and happiness means more. Your horniness can be satisfied easily but your happiness can be harder to correct. Not sure thats the right wording but I hope you know what I mean. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Totally up to you but personally I wouldn't fuck anyone I worked with. I have in the past, and now just wouldn't go there. I'd view my work place as somewhere where I leave everything else outside the door once I step inside. It's less complicated. The politics that go on in work places and groups of friends etc is enough to deal with at times. "
I agree , like I think it’s a lot to handle even if it’s just sex and then it spreads into potential gossip, and whatever.
Personally, I’d rather stay clear from people from work and that you will see constantly.
Don’t shit where you eat basically |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Totally up to you but personally I wouldn't fuck anyone I worked with. I have in the past, and now just wouldn't go there. I'd view my work place as somewhere where I leave everything else outside the door once I step inside. It's less complicated. The politics that go on in work places and groups of friends etc is enough to deal with at times.
I agree , like I think it’s a lot to handle even if it’s just sex and then it spreads into potential gossip, and whatever.
Personally, I’d rather stay clear from people from work and that you will see constantly.
Don’t shit where you eat basically "
There’s 2000 people there at least. Loads of people hook up. It’s mainly men working there. Plus I’m not bothered. Also we’re different shifts and departments. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Totally up to you but personally I wouldn't fuck anyone I worked with. I have in the past, and now just wouldn't go there. I'd view my work place as somewhere where I leave everything else outside the door once I step inside. It's less complicated. The politics that go on in work places and groups of friends etc is enough to deal with at times.
I agree , like I think it’s a lot to handle even if it’s just sex and then it spreads into potential gossip, and whatever.
Personally, I’d rather stay clear from people from work and that you will see constantly.
Don’t shit where you eat basically
There’s 2000 people there at least. Loads of people hook up. It’s mainly men working there. Plus I’m not bothered. Also we’re different shifts and departments. "
Then do you as you know your work environment seems like you have found your answer
Mine used to be very gossip driven, but also mainly women dominated , so yeah, It makes me wanna gag at the thought because I am not a fan of rumours and whispers but that’s just me
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Tough one. I personally wouldn't shit where you eat. Who knows what this guy's like when he's had the vag, he might start stalking you and popping to see you where you wouldn't be able to avoid him.
If you want a no strings shag, just go get a shag where there are no actual strings. Working at the same place is a string. |
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At the end of the day you have to decide whats best for you, if its a one off and you can avoid later on its just like meeting someone from here.
After reading your last post i get where your coming from
In regard to last liason with someone from work he manipulated you, better off without him, move onwards and upwards gorgeous lady x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hmm I've come late to the party on this one..
I know I told you to bang him like a big bass drum in the last thread but actually reading what you wrote to start this thread and knowing a bit more about what you've experienced in the pass has made me u-turn (not that my opinion is super important).
It's been a little while since you had sex, you have the attached past memories of the "other guy who messed up badly", you have already hinted about not wanting to be on a downer for Christmas and this guy seems to evoke you chemically in a strong way..
If it was a different scenario I would think you'd be able to ice your heart and keep it in it's place but I think you may have too much to lose with all the factors..
Down to you in the end of course. But maybe look at him with a "how likely is he going to do me over" look on Saturday and maybe you might notice some qualities in him that may make you decide either way to go ahead or pause.
Just err on the side of caution, will be a bit crap if it ruins Christmas..
But maybe the good piping will be worth it! Your call! |
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