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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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no, we aren't talking balls here people 
so ive sat through eight hours of lectures today, and the last four hours were extremely heavy.
we're talking trying to be strong and stomach it and sit through it, but ultimately sobbing your way out of uni type heavy 
i am a strong person, sometimes.
but the things i've been privvy to today, which will ultimately become part and parcel of my career, are sitting on my mind.
i can't seem to switch off from it.
so i ask you, forum members new and not-so-new;
after a draining day, what do *YOU* do to make yourself feel better and warm and fuzzy and wholesome again.
what do *YOU* do to forget about things, and bring yourself back to some semblance of normal?
i know it's all well and good to be aware of certain issues and hold an appriciation of them, so you can be best equipped to deal with future situations.. but i want to smile again this evening.
so all answers, both helpful or riddled with innuendo.. pop them down below 
peace and love  Px  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I need a distraction, either time spent with my best friend or some flirting with some sexy people on here can distract my mind away from things that can get stuck in replay there  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Let it out.. write about it to a friend/call another student/debrief/then fill that emptiness with positive read/mindfulness session/self massage/soothing music.
Wraparound.. holistic self care.. that is what I usually go for.
Hugs P. X
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"I find embroidery and walking calm my mind.
Obviously, not at the same time..."
Ultimately, it's about learning to switch off and not take it home with you. If you can't, it could be mentally damaging.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Dear Slutie!!!
Im sorry to hear you had an awful draining day at uni, I totally can relate as I done a degree I totally hated and was very difficult for me to get it over with . I hated it so much I ended up not wanting that career for myself .. and I remember being down and crying at projects they were that effing difficult for me
SOOOO, Ur slutie sister understands totally and I’m sending u big hugs
Best way to decompress for me is yoga. Like lots of it, I hate the meditation side but being able to focus on breathing while transitioning between puppy pose and warrior 1/2/3 really is amazing.
Also, talk to friends ! I love chatting to my besties and have them over when I’m down … if I need me time, then I’ll try listen to music and dance.
When I’m really really angry, then I clean.. clean everywhere like a maniac and sometimes that gets me not to think x
Hope this helps you x
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Eight hours seems a long time Quack, no wonder you’re knackered!
I’ve just finished a ten hour shift, I will be heading to the pub shortly, then ordering a curry from the best curry house in the area. I’ll be asleep on the sofa about an hour later!  |
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Music. Catchy, jiggle about, up-tempo dance music that you can’t sit still while listening to. Turn it up loud, and dance your arse off. If you catch sight of yourself in the mirror, all the better - you’ll be smiling in no time (hopefully)!
I really hope you can switch off, then process it later and leave it locked in a box somewhere accessible until you need it xx |
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I practice mindfulness and other techniques which harden myself to the horrors, If I can't be calm and keep my shit together when a vulnerable person needs me, I'd leave my career
To empty the negativity I use meditation and chop logs to balance out my equilibrium
Maybe have a chat with your tutor, they should have a support network in place for you to gain guidance from x |
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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago
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"no, we aren't talking balls here people
so ive sat through eight hours of lectures today, and the last four hours were extremely heavy.
we're talking trying to be strong and stomach it and sit through it, but ultimately sobbing your way out of uni type heavy
i am a strong person, sometimes.
but the things i've been privvy to today, which will ultimately become part and parcel of my career, are sitting on my mind.
i can't seem to switch off from it.
so i ask you, forum members new and not-so-new;
after a draining day, what do *YOU* do to make yourself feel better and warm and fuzzy and wholesome again.
what do *YOU* do to forget about things, and bring yourself back to some semblance of normal?
i know it's all well and good to be aware of certain issues and hold an appriciation of them, so you can be best equipped to deal with future situations.. but i want to smile again this evening.
so all answers, both helpful or riddled with innuendo.. pop them down below
peace and love Px "
Shower hot as I can, treat myself to something might be a purchase of something, eat ice cream, my puss is always affectionate and no matter how bad my day stroking pussy always makes me smile.
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By *anae21Woman
over a year ago
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Debriefing verbally is the best way, but if you can't do that, then exercise helps.
I go for a long walk, or put headphones on and sing loudly. Watching daft videos, a classic comedy or a favourite film are good uplifting distractions, too. Cat videos on YouTube work for me! |
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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago
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8 hours is such a long day for learning. I usually have a hot bath, watch trashy tv and journal the nonsense out of my head but I can understand why you might not want to write in a journal after a day like this.
Sending hugs & hope the weekend makes things better for you  |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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I guess it needs to affect you enough to want to and be able to do something about it but not so much you feel hopeless and can’t.
So Id just go with it, don’t try and forget , get your peace from knowing you’re (going to be) part of the solution. Not everyone is cut out for tough careers. Good luck |
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I love my job but it has a heavy safeguarding element and at times I feel this!
I like to wind down by watching feel good films (often animated with singing in them like happy feet or ice age) and snuggle under a blanket with a hot chocolate. An early night can help too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not from my job but voluntary work there are occasional times I've seen and done things I'd rather not have had to. Not sure I can articulate how I get past it, I guess I'm fortunate that days like that are rare, it sounds like you may be heading for a career where it will be every day. I hope you find your answers. Sending a hug.
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Films and TV is my go to in order to take my mind to another place and get engrossed in someone else's shit instead of my own.
Or I like to write.
Or if I was prinny, I'd probably play with my boobs. |
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Watch scary films. It’s like a fear and anxiety overload that balances you out.
Like stirring into the skid when you hit ice in your car. I’m not sure if this makes sense or not but it definitely helps me |
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"Watch scary films. It’s like a fear and anxiety overload that balances you out.
Like stirring into the skid when you hit ice in your car. I’m not sure if this makes sense or not but it definitely helps me "
It's steering actually, tut... |
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Op I totally relate to this, I found my uni work load piling up on me recently between uni and placement I am swamped.
Sometimes going for a run or a workout work, but those days when things are really bad my bed, a blanket and one of my favourite movies.
We all have a film that makes us feel warm and safe, that!
Tomorrow is a new day x
Elle xx |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
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Hi op
Mines not uni, but work that can be v draining, I do palliative care work.
I sometimes struggle to switch off, especially as a nightshift worker.
I do colour, read quite a bit and I find keeping a journal helps me get things off my chest too. I also find relaxing in a hot bubble bath can help me wind down and chill a bit.
I hope you're ok x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Either go for a run or (hear me out…!) I have a stress busting colouring book that I tend to do. You get lost in both and before you know it your mind is clear and refreshed. |
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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago
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lI can relate xx i had such a bad tension headache yesterday, so drained from my job- emotionally exhausted.
I put my fluffy onesie on last night when I got home (I think there’s a photo of it in my pics) and it really helped!
Hope you feel better soon x |
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"Either go for a run or (hear me out…!) I have a stress busting colouring book that I tend to do. You get lost in both and before you know it your mind is clear and refreshed."
I think it’s called mindfulness, activities like colouring etc are great for it. Or paint by numbers.
Personally, Exercise, a run, walk, swim is great to take your mind off things and makes you feel good. Sex is also good for that but I don’t have that luxury!
But then I would say talk about it with someone about it at some stage to help you cope with it long term.
Hope all is ok pickle x |
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By *essie.Woman
over a year ago
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I find it helpful to talk it through with a colleague, as my job can be draining at times. Sharing experiences gets us through it and is a way of downloading the difficult stuff from our minds. We do this both in person and virtually at the moment.
Then I read as it takes me off somewhere else entirely. |
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I tend to compartmentalise when I encounter things like this. It gets shoved in a box in a deep dark cupboard of my brain somewhere. I'll usually try to switch off with some TV or a film, playing video games works for me because I have to actively interact with them and so my mind isn't necessarily wandering anywhere.
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"no, we aren't talking balls here people
so ive sat through eight hours of lectures today, and the last four hours were extremely heavy.
we're talking trying to be strong and stomach it and sit through it, but ultimately sobbing your way out of uni type heavy
i am a strong person, sometimes.
but the things i've been privvy to today, which will ultimately become part and parcel of my career, are sitting on my mind.
i can't seem to switch off from it.
so i ask you, forum members new and not-so-new;
after a draining day, what do *YOU* do to make yourself feel better and warm and fuzzy and wholesome again.
what do *YOU* do to forget about things, and bring yourself back to some semblance of normal?
i know it's all well and good to be aware of certain issues and hold an appriciation of them, so you can be best equipped to deal with future situations.. but i want to smile again this evening.
so all answers, both helpful or riddled with innuendo.. pop them down below
peace and love Px "
8 hours of lectures?
Scheduled, or recorded and you’re catching up?
To answer the question, I go to the gym / swim / cycle / walk in countryside.
I like a beer as much as the next guy, but don’t use it to de-stress.
But vanilla but there you go. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Usually prosecco and friends. If no one is available, a nice edging wank
Prosecco. That's my girl "
Oh you like the bubbles too! I'm sure we'll have a few tonight xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Usually prosecco and friends. If no one is available, a nice edging wank
Prosecco. That's my girl
Oh you like the bubbles too! I'm sure we'll have a few tonight xx"
It's a dangerous one in my mouth see you soon x |
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comfy loose warm clothes, plumped up cushions on the sofa, nice hot comforting drinks, nice bit of music to listen to or a nice thing to watch on the lap top, music vids especially, some snack food or lush dinner, a few fruit ciders or a rum and pepsi
or maybe some boddice ripping gut crunching sex
whatever it takes. |
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