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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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I'm talking dead horses here.....
Do you know when it's time to quit or do you carry on past the time you feel like you probably should give up?
And if you are a flogger, why do you carry on? Is it hope?
By the way.... sorry for the total clickbait  |
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over a year ago
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I know when something is no longer right for me so give it up on the reserve side I know why something needs working on because it’s worth saving.
That may seem selfish to some but love yourself first is the message we all need to hear |
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Its like you are in my mind today Posh...
I am a fixer and love fixing people, however I have come to realise today that after everything, in the end some people just want to stay in the comfort zone even if it is detrimental to them and nothing I can do will change them...
So in answer to your question no I don't know when to stop, but luckily I have some awesome friends who will tell me to x |
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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago
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I've probably carried on longer than I should, probably because of the hope that things may change. I've slowly learned that I need to not do that and just move on if something is no longer worth it |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I know when something is no longer right for me so give it up on the reserve side I know why something needs working on because it’s worth saving.
That may seem selfish to some but love yourself first is the message we all need to hear"
I'd say can you shoit it at me a couple times.... but I think we did that already  |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I know when something is no longer right for me so give it up on the reserve side I know why something needs working on because it’s worth saving.
That may seem selfish to some but love yourself first is the message we all need to hear
I'd say can you shout it at me a couple times.... but I think we did that already "
Fixed it! |
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By *yronMan
over a year ago
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I recently met someone who has decided to ghost me. According to them, everything's fine and they want more, but they've decided to lock me out.
That being said, I still want to see them and have tried phoning a couple of times, but they won't answer. I've given up now, but it felt like I was trying to flog the proverbial horse there. |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"The famous witticism by Albert Einstein; ‘Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.’
Yep….I am a bit of a flogger in some areas of life therefore  "
Which areas? Or should I know this? |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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It depends. I try and see the good in people and hate hurting others deliberately... so maybe sometimes I do because I feel a bit like I'm saying I give up someone. And I don't like doing that. Not sure it's flogging a dead horse, more self flagellation.  |
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"The famous witticism by Albert Einstein; ‘Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.’
Yep….I am a bit of a flogger in some areas of life therefore
Which areas? Or should I know this? "
Relationships for one  |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Its like you are in my mind today Posh...
I am a fixer and love fixing people, however I have come to realise today that after everything, in the end some people just want to stay in the comfort zone even if it is detrimental to them and nothing I can do will change them...
So in answer to your question no I don't know when to stop, but luckily I have some awesome friends who will tell me to x"
You actually even listen to your friends don't you C.... you're a clever bean |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I've probably carried on longer than I should, probably because of the hope that things may change. I've slowly learned that I need to not do that and just move on if something is no longer worth it"
See what I said to BG up there? Same..... |
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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago
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"I've probably carried on longer than I should, probably because of the hope that things may change. I've slowly learned that I need to not do that and just move on if something is no longer worth it
See what I said to BG up there? Same....."
And it has been  |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Can I sit on the fence and say in some aspects I flog if I think it’s worth trying to do so.
But equally I can be quite decisive and move on if something isn’t right "
I get to that point eventually..... can take years! |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I recently met someone who has decided to ghost me. According to them, everything's fine and they want more, but they've decided to lock me out.
That being said, I still want to see them and have tried phoning a couple of times, but they won't answer. I've given up now, but it felt like I was trying to flog the proverbial horse there."
I have to say, that does sound like it I'm afraid. Sorry to hear that. |
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"Its like you are in my mind today Posh...
I am a fixer and love fixing people, however I have come to realise today that after everything, in the end some people just want to stay in the comfort zone even if it is detrimental to them and nothing I can do will change them...
So in answer to your question no I don't know when to stop, but luckily I have some awesome friends who will tell me to x
You actually even listen to your friends don't you C.... you're a clever bean"
Ahhh the borrowers
My close inner circle are the only ones who can tell me things and I believe them as there is no hidden agendas, I trust them with my life x |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"It depends. I try and see the good in people and hate hurting others deliberately... so maybe sometimes I do because I feel a bit like I'm saying I give up someone. And I don't like doing that. Not sure it's flogging a dead horse, more self flagellation. "
I think flogging the proverbial horse is always self flagellation really. It's not like the horse knows or cares after all.... |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"The famous witticism by Albert Einstein; ‘Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.’
Yep….I am a bit of a flogger in some areas of life therefore
Which areas? Or should I know this?
Relationships for one "
Definitely the definition of insanity that! |
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By *yronMan
over a year ago
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"I recently met someone who has decided to ghost me. According to them, everything's fine and they want more, but they've decided to lock me out.
That being said, I still want to see them and have tried phoning a couple of times, but they won't answer. I've given up now, but it felt like I was trying to flog the proverbial horse there.
I have to say, that does sound like it I'm afraid. Sorry to hear that."
Feels a bit shit, to be honest. |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I've probably carried on longer than I should, probably because of the hope that things may change. I've slowly learned that I need to not do that and just move on if something is no longer worth it
See what I said to BG up there? Same.....
And it has been "
I'm waiting for voice notes to wing their merry way shouting it from both of you |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"Its like you are in my mind today Posh...
I am a fixer and love fixing people, however I have come to realise today that after everything, in the end some people just want to stay in the comfort zone even if it is detrimental to them and nothing I can do will change them...
So in answer to your question no I don't know when to stop, but luckily I have some awesome friends who will tell me to x
You actually even listen to your friends don't you C.... you're a clever bean
Ahhh the borrowers
My close inner circle are the only ones who can tell me things and I believe them as there is no hidden agendas, I trust them with my life x "
I have those people. Probably not the same people as your people.
I'm just crap at actually listening  |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I recently met someone who has decided to ghost me. According to them, everything's fine and they want more, but they've decided to lock me out.
That being said, I still want to see them and have tried phoning a couple of times, but they won't answer. I've given up now, but it felt like I was trying to flog the proverbial horse there.
I have to say, that does sound like it I'm afraid. Sorry to hear that.
Feels a bit shit, to be honest. "
It does when that happens. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"It depends. I try and see the good in people and hate hurting others deliberately... so maybe sometimes I do because I feel a bit like I'm saying I give up someone. And I don't like doing that. Not sure it's flogging a dead horse, more self flagellation.
I think flogging the proverbial horse is always self flagellation really. It's not like the horse knows or cares after all...."
But it's not a horse, it's a relationship. With people. Who have feelings, that I said up there ^ I'm too Aspie for proverbial probably, realising as I type that. No need to reply! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I used to be much more of a flogger, but I’ve toughened up a lot.
I flogged a dead horse for a while and got hurt in the process, and learnt “when people show you who they are, believe them the first time”
Now, I give one chance, fuck that up and you’re gone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’m trying not to but I too am a people fixer. Or I try to
You're lovely. Don't ever change unless you want to x"
My friends, and even my daughters, want me to be a bit more selective and stop picking the damaged goods |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Almost always know when it's game over but it depends on the person and circumstances whether it's a clean break or long goodbye. In either case though I've already moved on in my mind. |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I used to be much more of a flogger, but I’ve toughened up a lot.
I flogged a dead horse for a while and got hurt in the process, and learnt “when people show you who they are, believe them the first time”
Now, I give one chance, fuck that up and you’re gone."
But what if they're just having a bad time? |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I’m trying not to but I too am a people fixer. Or I try to
You're lovely. Don't ever change unless you want to x
My friends, and even my daughters, want me to be a bit more selective and stop picking the damaged goods "
That's probably a healthier thing....
But don't abandon me please x |
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I’m 100% a flogger and most recently I really hate that about myself.
Hope it always what keeps me carrying on. For what?? Maybe that want for change or maybe just maybe, I get to have it go my way for once. |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"Almost always know when it's game over but it depends on the person and circumstances whether it's a clean break or long goodbye. In either case though I've already moved on in my mind."
If you've moved on, why the long goodbye? |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I’m 100% a flogger and most recently I really hate that about myself.
Hope it always what keeps me carrying on. For what?? Maybe that want for change or maybe just maybe, I get to have it go my way for once. "
Hope is an evil mistress isn't she. I get that 100%.
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"I’m trying not to but I too am a people fixer. Or I try to
You're lovely. Don't ever change unless you want to x
My friends, and even my daughters, want me to be a bit more selective and stop picking the damaged goods
That's probably a healthier thing....
But don't abandon me please x"
Never.
Have you filed off that hitchy bit on your nail yet though? |
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"I’m 100% a flogger and most recently I really hate that about myself.
Hope it always what keeps me carrying on. For what?? Maybe that want for change or maybe just maybe, I get to have it go my way for once.
Hope is an evil mistress isn't she. I get that 100%.
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Evil yet why do we hold on |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I used to be much more of a flogger, but I’ve toughened up a lot.
I flogged a dead horse for a while and got hurt in the process, and learnt “when people show you who they are, believe them the first time”
Now, I give one chance, fuck that up and you’re gone.
But what if they're just having a bad time?"
I mean men, in a sexual sense.
Friends, it’s totally different, I’m there . |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"I’m trying not to but I too am a people fixer. Or I try to
You're lovely. Don't ever change unless you want to x
My friends, and even my daughters, want me to be a bit more selective and stop picking the damaged goods
That's probably a healthier thing....
But don't abandon me please x
Never.
Have you filed off that hitchy bit on your nail yet though? "
I have. Just for you |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Almost always know when it's game over but it depends on the person and circumstances whether it's a clean break or long goodbye. In either case though I've already moved on in my mind.
If you've moved on, why the long goodbye?"
Sometimes practical circumstances. Sometimes to avoid the emotional damage of a brutal sudden break. Sometimes to give a relationship time to develop into something else. |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"I’m 100% a flogger and most recently I really hate that about myself.
Hope it always what keeps me carrying on. For what?? Maybe that want for change or maybe just maybe, I get to have it go my way for once.
Hope is an evil mistress isn't she. I get that 100%.
Evil yet why do we hold on "
Oh sweetheart.... I want to say something profound and supportive but right now I just feel like a total dickhead. So that's why I do, cos I'm a dickhead.
You do because you're a beautiful optimist |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"I used to be much more of a flogger, but I’ve toughened up a lot.
I flogged a dead horse for a while and got hurt in the process, and learnt “when people show you who they are, believe them the first time”
Now, I give one chance, fuck that up and you’re gone.
But what if they're just having a bad time?
I mean men, in a sexual sense.
Friends, it’s totally different, I’m there . "
I meant both..... |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Almost always know when it's game over but it depends on the person and circumstances whether it's a clean break or long goodbye. In either case though I've already moved on in my mind.
If you've moved on, why the long goodbye?
Sometimes practical circumstances. Sometimes to avoid the emotional damage of a brutal sudden break. Sometimes to give a relationship time to develop into something else."
Sensible fella you are.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Never have i been more disappointed ... Prancing up, expecting a good flogging... Pppffttt  "
There's still time... 
Although in the spirit of the thread I am probably flogging the proverbial... |
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"I used to be much more of a flogger, but I’ve toughened up a lot.
I flogged a dead horse for a while and got hurt in the process, and learnt “when people show you who they are, believe them the first time”
Now, I give one chance, fuck that up and you’re gone.
But what if they're just having a bad time?"
I do tend to think this, some say I make excuses for others behaviours, but what if they are….. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’m trying not to but I too am a people fixer. Or I try to
You're lovely. Don't ever change unless you want to x
My friends, and even my daughters, want me to be a bit more selective and stop picking the damaged goods
That's probably a healthier thing....
But don't abandon me please x
Never.
Have you filed off that hitchy bit on your nail yet though?
I have. Just for you "
I await your next appeal to the menfolk of fab to get their muscles out so we can snuggle in for a flick while we go through their pictures |
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"I used to be much more of a flogger, but I’ve toughened up a lot.
I flogged a dead horse for a while and got hurt in the process, and learnt “when people show you who they are, believe them the first time”
Now, I give one chance, fuck that up and you’re gone.
But what if they're just having a bad time?
I mean men, in a sexual sense.
Friends, it’s totally different, I’m there .
I meant both..... "
It depends I guess. I’m totally accepting that friends have hard times, that they need space/support/space holding, whatever. My friends know that I do that, I don’t consider that flogging. I mean, if someone is a dick to you, they treat you badly, they fuck you over. That’s when I will cut them off. |
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"I am not a flogger, and won’t take the crumbs from anyone’s table. I’d rather walk away sooner than later, dignity intact."
See, she said it well in two sentences , I’m still waffling ten minutes later |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Never have i been more disappointed ... Prancing up, expecting a good flogging... Pppffttt
There's still time...
Although in the spirit of the thread I am probably flogging the proverbial... "
Totally see what you did there.... |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I used to be much more of a flogger, but I’ve toughened up a lot.
I flogged a dead horse for a while and got hurt in the process, and learnt “when people show you who they are, believe them the first time”
Now, I give one chance, fuck that up and you’re gone.
But what if they're just having a bad time?
I do tend to think this, some say I make excuses for others behaviours, but what if they are….. "
Exactly! Glad it isn't just me. |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"I’m trying not to but I too am a people fixer. Or I try to
You're lovely. Don't ever change unless you want to x
My friends, and even my daughters, want me to be a bit more selective and stop picking the damaged goods
That's probably a healthier thing....
But don't abandon me please x
Never.
Have you filed off that hitchy bit on your nail yet though?
I have. Just for you
I await your next appeal to the menfolk of fab to get their muscles out so we can snuggle in for a flick while we go through their pictures "
I got a demand later.... but it's not muscles.... |
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"Never have i been more disappointed ... Prancing up, expecting a good flogging... Pppffttt
There's still time...
Although in the spirit of the thread I am probably flogging the proverbial...
Totally see what you did there...."
Not going to help though is it?.. |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I am not a flogger, and won’t take the crumbs from anyone’s table. I’d rather walk away sooner than later, dignity intact."
You're my hero.
One of them anyway. The others are either up there ^^ or will be along shortly no doubt. |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I used to be much more of a flogger, but I’ve toughened up a lot.
I flogged a dead horse for a while and got hurt in the process, and learnt “when people show you who they are, believe them the first time”
Now, I give one chance, fuck that up and you’re gone.
But what if they're just having a bad time?
I mean men, in a sexual sense.
Friends, it’s totally different, I’m there .
I meant both.....
It depends I guess. I’m totally accepting that friends have hard times, that they need space/support/space holding, whatever. My friends know that I do that, I don’t consider that flogging. I mean, if someone is a dick to you, they treat you badly, they fuck you over. That’s when I will cut them off. "
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"I’m trying not to but I too am a people fixer. Or I try to
You're lovely. Don't ever change unless you want to x
My friends, and even my daughters, want me to be a bit more selective and stop picking the damaged goods
That's probably a healthier thing....
But don't abandon me please x
Never.
Have you filed off that hitchy bit on your nail yet though?
I have. Just for you
I await your next appeal to the menfolk of fab to get their muscles out so we can snuggle in for a flick while we go through their pictures
I got a demand later.... but it's not muscles.... "
I don’t mind a helicopter or a boing either but I’m not financing the site at the moment so I’ll miss out on those |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I am not a flogger, and won’t take the crumbs from anyone’s table. I’d rather walk away sooner than later, dignity intact.
See, she said it well in two sentences , I’m still waffling ten minutes later "
True story..... |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Never have i been more disappointed ... Prancing up, expecting a good flogging... Pppffttt
There's still time...
Although in the spirit of the thread I am probably flogging the proverbial...
Totally see what you did there....
Not going to help though is it?.. "
Dunno.... you'll have to ask midnight! |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I’m trying not to but I too am a people fixer. Or I try to
You're lovely. Don't ever change unless you want to x
My friends, and even my daughters, want me to be a bit more selective and stop picking the damaged goods
That's probably a healthier thing....
But don't abandon me please x
Never.
Have you filed off that hitchy bit on your nail yet though?
I have. Just for you
I await your next appeal to the menfolk of fab to get their muscles out so we can snuggle in for a flick while we go through their pictures
I got a demand later.... but it's not muscles....
I don’t mind a helicopter or a boing either but I’m not financing the site at the moment so I’ll miss out on those "
No video requests.... check! |
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Grr thought this was a thread on floggers and I got a really lovely one.
But to answer the OP I'm somewhere in the middle. Sometimes I don't walk away when I should especially friendship I'm a twat for it. But other things I'll literally throw a match and walk away while it explodes behind me.
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Grr thought this was a thread on floggers and I got a really lovely one.
But to answer the OP I'm somewhere in the middle. Sometimes I don't walk away when I should especially friendship I'm a twat for it. But other things I'll literally throw a match and walk away while it explodes behind me.
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Got some spare matches for a friend?
(And sorry about the flogger.... I'll do that thread instead soon) |
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"Never have i been more disappointed ... Prancing up, expecting a good flogging... Pppffttt "
Tell me about it, I was reaching for the handle and everything! |
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I have an absolute horror of encroaching. I'd hate to push myself in where I'm not wanted, so as soon as I get the slightest hint that the person I'm interacting with is less interested than I am I will turn tail and vanish.
I'll never be one to flog a dead horse. |
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over a year ago
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"I used to be a sadomasochistic necrophiliac into beastiality until I realised I was just flogging a dead horse
Is a good thing I think you're great "
Is this not what you were talking about? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have all too often blindy refused to believe the horse actually died.
I'm stubborn like that too.... is it hope or being blinkered do you think?"
I'm going to side with Gobby, it's hope |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Never have i been more disappointed ... Prancing up, expecting a good flogging... Pppffttt
Tell me about it, I was reaching for the handle and everything!"
Fine. Flog away.
Can you all do me first please cos it'll make me smile. |
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"Grr thought this was a thread on floggers and I got a really lovely one.
But to answer the OP I'm somewhere in the middle. Sometimes I don't walk away when I should especially friendship I'm a twat for it. But other things I'll literally throw a match and walk away while it explodes behind me.
Got some spare matches for a friend?
(And sorry about the flogger.... I'll do that thread instead soon)"
Have plenty of matches, want to burn some bridges? Sometimes people are idiots and no amount of wishing they weren't is going to change it.  |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"I have an absolute horror of encroaching. I'd hate to push myself in where I'm not wanted, so as soon as I get the slightest hint that the person I'm interacting with is less interested than I am I will turn tail and vanish.
I'll never be one to flog a dead horse."
I've been that way before and been told I walked away too soon. I can't find a balance I think. |
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"I’m trying not to but I too am a people fixer. Or I try to
You're lovely. Don't ever change unless you want to x
My friends, and even my daughters, want me to be a bit more selective and stop picking the damaged goods
That's probably a healthier thing....
But don't abandon me please x
Never.
Have you filed off that hitchy bit on your nail yet though?
I have. Just for you
I await your next appeal to the menfolk of fab to get their muscles out so we can snuggle in for a flick while we go through their pictures
I got a demand later.... but it's not muscles....
I don’t mind a helicopter or a boing either but I’m not financing the site at the moment so I’ll miss out on those
No video requests.... check!"
fanks m8 |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I used to be a sadomasochistic necrophiliac into beastiality until I realised I was just flogging a dead horse
Is a good thing I think you're great
Is this not what you were talking about? "
Utter spanner |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Never have i been more disappointed ... Prancing up, expecting a good flogging... Pppffttt
There's still time...
Although in the spirit of the thread I am probably flogging the proverbial...
Totally see what you did there....
Not going to help though is it?..
Dunno.... you'll have to ask midnight!"
I really don't.. |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"I have all too often blindy refused to believe the horse actually died.
I'm stubborn like that too.... is it hope or being blinkered do you think?
I'm going to side with Gobby, it's hope"
You guys can have hope and optimism. I'll take stubbornness and being an idiot |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"Grr thought this was a thread on floggers and I got a really lovely one.
But to answer the OP I'm somewhere in the middle. Sometimes I don't walk away when I should especially friendship I'm a twat for it. But other things I'll literally throw a match and walk away while it explodes behind me.
Got some spare matches for a friend?
(And sorry about the flogger.... I'll do that thread instead soon)
Have plenty of matches, want to burn some bridges? Sometimes people are idiots and no amount of wishing they weren't is going to change it. "
Yes please. |
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"I have all too often blindy refused to believe the horse actually died.
I'm stubborn like that too.... is it hope or being blinkered do you think?
I'm going to side with Gobby, it's hope"
It’s what gets us through my dear friends |
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"I have all too often blindy refused to believe the horse actually died.
I'm stubborn like that too.... is it hope or being blinkered do you think?
I'm going to side with Gobby, it's hope
You guys can have hope and optimism. I'll take stubbornness and being an idiot "
That you surely are not |
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"I’m 100% a flogger and most recently I really hate that about myself.
Hope it always what keeps me carrying on. For what?? Maybe that want for change or maybe just maybe, I get to have it go my way for once.
Hope is an evil mistress isn't she. I get that 100%.
Evil yet why do we hold on
Oh sweetheart.... I want to say something profound and supportive but right now I just feel like a total dickhead. So that's why I do, cos I'm a dickhead.
You do because you're a beautiful optimist "
I would hug you a million time right now if I could.
You’re far from a dickhead…far far from it.
Being an optimist has too many downfalls… |
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"Grr thought this was a thread on floggers and I got a really lovely one.
But to answer the OP I'm somewhere in the middle. Sometimes I don't walk away when I should especially friendship I'm a twat for it. But other things I'll literally throw a match and walk away while it explodes behind me.
Got some spare matches for a friend?
(And sorry about the flogger.... I'll do that thread instead soon)
Have plenty of matches, want to burn some bridges? Sometimes people are idiots and no amount of wishing they weren't is going to change it.
Yes please."
Hugs lovely and I'll bring the flame thrower sounds like we need it  |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"I’m 100% a flogger and most recently I really hate that about myself.
Hope it always what keeps me carrying on. For what?? Maybe that want for change or maybe just maybe, I get to have it go my way for once.
Hope is an evil mistress isn't she. I get that 100%.
Evil yet why do we hold on
Oh sweetheart.... I want to say something profound and supportive but right now I just feel like a total dickhead. So that's why I do, cos I'm a dickhead.
You do because you're a beautiful optimist
I would hug you a million time right now if I could.
You’re far from a dickhead…far far from it.
Being an optimist has too many downfalls…"
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"Grr thought this was a thread on floggers and I got a really lovely one.
But to answer the OP I'm somewhere in the middle. Sometimes I don't walk away when I should especially friendship I'm a twat for it. But other things I'll literally throw a match and walk away while it explodes behind me.
Got some spare matches for a friend?
(And sorry about the flogger.... I'll do that thread instead soon)
Have plenty of matches, want to burn some bridges? Sometimes people are idiots and no amount of wishing they weren't is going to change it.
Yes please.
Hugs lovely and I'll bring the flame thrower sounds like we need it "
Sounds ideal! |
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By *yronMan
over a year ago
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"I have all too often blindy refused to believe the horse actually died.
I'm stubborn like that too.... is it hope or being blinkered do you think?
I'm going to side with Gobby, it's hope"
I'd say hope as well. You hope that there's not a problem and you hope that they feel the same about you. |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"Yes I am, I stayed way too long in a past relationship, almost destroyed my self worth. Struggling to find my own value and walk away from bad things x "
It's not an easy thing. Well done for walking away |
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By *eardybobMan
over a year ago
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Jeez - late to the thread as usual!
My apologies
I'm a flogger OP. Always have been, and I'm pretty sure I know where you are at...
Here for you any time you want to chat - as are better than half of the forum it seems.
Hang in there lovely - sending hugs |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Jeez - late to the thread as usual!
My apologies
I'm a flogger OP. Always have been, and I'm pretty sure I know where you are at...
Here for you any time you want to chat - as are better than half of the forum it seems.
Hang in there lovely - sending hugs "
Any chance you could bring the hugs rather than sending them please? |
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"I used to be a sadomasochistic necrophiliac into beastiality until I realised I was just flogging a dead horse
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At least one person appreciates my joke Poshy!! |
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By *eardybobMan
over a year ago
the Goldilocks Zone |
"Jeez - late to the thread as usual!
My apologies
I'm a flogger OP. Always have been, and I'm pretty sure I know where you are at...
Here for you any time you want to chat - as are better than half of the forum it seems.
Hang in there lovely - sending hugs
Any chance you could bring the hugs rather than sending them please? "
One extra large portion of hugs... check...
Be right there! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Never have i been more disappointed ... Prancing up, expecting a good flogging... Pppffttt
Tell me about it, I was reaching for the handle and everything!
Fine. Flog away.
Can you all do me first please cos it'll make me smile."
Am I going to have to line you all up?  |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I used to be a sadomasochistic necrophiliac into beastiality until I realised I was just flogging a dead horse
At least one person appreciates my joke Poshy!! "
She's totally stealing that! |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"Jeez - late to the thread as usual!
My apologies
I'm a flogger OP. Always have been, and I'm pretty sure I know where you are at...
Here for you any time you want to chat - as are better than half of the forum it seems.
Hang in there lovely - sending hugs
Any chance you could bring the hugs rather than sending them please?
One extra large portion of hugs... check...
Be right there! "
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No. Why water dead flowers? I was a flogger for 7 years and it was extremely exhausting and ended badly.
From that experience, I’ve learned that taking care of myself mentally and physically was a priority .
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"I used to be a sadomasochistic necrophiliac into beastiality until I realised I was just flogging a dead horse
At least one person appreciates my joke Poshy!!
She's totally stealing that! "
Might do |
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