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By *erroca OP Woman
over a year ago
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Do you find it easy to reach climax?
Are there certain positions that get you there quicker?
Does it really matter to you, if you cum or not?
Does it take you a while to be comfortable in someone's company to reach them heights of ecstasy, or does it not matter who you're with?
I understand that sexual pleasure isn't always about getting to that explosion and there are lots of ways to have fun.
**answer as much or a little as you like.
Merry Monday to all. X |
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over a year ago
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While playing with others I have rarely cum but at times not an issue for me
It may come when I get more comfortable but not the end game
I just like to explore and enjoy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It truly depends on who I am with I guess...and the situation mood etc...although have to say its been a while since I have cum very quickly by another lady  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The more I get to know someone and get comfortable with them, the easier and quicker it happens. So I can struggle the fist time, this is why I'm not great at ONS and prefer repeats.
Id like to say it doesn't matter if I don't, but that would be a lie.... I'd be disappointed and as there's more than one way to make it happen I'd say a good unselfish lover wouldn't leave it one sided. But I'm pretty good at saying what I need or want.
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"Do you find it easy to reach climax?
Are there certain positions that get you there quicker?
Does it really matter to you, if you cum or not?
Does it take you a while to be comfortable in someone's company to reach them heights of ecstasy, or does it not matter who you're with?
I understand that sexual pleasure isn't always about getting to that explosion and there are lots of ways to have fun.
**answer as much or a little as you like.
Merry Monday to all. X"
Interesting thread xxxx |
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I have on occasion struggled to reach climax.
I think it can happen for a number of reasons, often I try to delay a climax, no one wants to cum too soon. An once I’m over that initial overly sensitive period of play I find my ability to delay orgasm improves. I can then pretty much continue indefinitely. Problem is that sometimes I get to the point where I have delayed that long i can’t actually reach climax without a lot of effort.
It doesn’t happen that offer but when it does I’m happy to just not climax during that session. |
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Not easy and not great unless I'm with someone that knows me and I can feel at ease with. I need them to have some understanding of how my gender difficulties interact with my sexuality and my bodies response to stimulus... Masturbation sort of works but brings with it a host of emotional baggage and is very seldom particularly gratifying. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not easy and not great unless I'm with someone that knows me and I can feel at ease with. I need them to have some understanding of how my gender difficulties interact with my sexuality and my bodies response to stimulus... Masturbation sort of works but brings with it a host of emotional baggage and is very seldom particularly gratifying."
Do you feel it's more mental than physical? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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There are certain positions that I climax in. But generally speaking I can’t do it rushed the idea of a quickie isn’t for me. I like foreplay & kissing that helps me reach my climax… |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I find it quite difficult to come with someone especially when they are new. I don’t like one offs for that reason. I much prefer regular meets. The more you get to know someone and the more comfortable you are with them the better the sex is I think  |
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I orgasm very easily unless I'm on top, when I just can't relax into an orgasm.
I would feel short-changed if I had sex and didn't climax, since my orgasm isn't exactly setting the bar high - shove a finger in and off I go. Classy, I know.
It is a concern sometimes if my partner doesn't cum; I worry that they aren't enjoying it and that it's all one-sided with me just taking pleasure and not giving any.
In theory I know it's not all about the orgasm, but since it is so easy for me to get off I can't envisage being satisfied without at least one. |
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not always, I'm much more a giver than a taker so I prefer to make it happen for the other person.
But sometimes it does, with the right person, in the right circumstances, when they do the right things.
Lots of other ways to enjoy playtime besides cumming.   |
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I rarely cum unless I’m with my husband. It doesn’t bother me though, especially because when I’ve cum once the physical pleasure disappears for me so I lose interest really, nothing worse than sex that goes on when you’re not really getting anything from it! |
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"Not easy and not great unless I'm with someone that knows me and I can feel at ease with. I need them to have some understanding of how my gender difficulties interact with my sexuality and my bodies response to stimulus... Masturbation sort of works but brings with it a host of emotional baggage and is very seldom particularly gratifying.
Do you feel it's more mental than physical? "
It's definitely mental and emotional. All tied up with my gender dysphoria. I don't really want to go into much more detail here in the open, but feel free to message me if you are interested in discussing further. |
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By *erroca OP Woman
over a year ago
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Thank you for all the replies.
So it's a lot more common than I originally thought.
I personally find it very difficult to reach that place, unless I'm with someone that I trust.. Or do the job myself.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thank you for all the replies.
So it's a lot more common than I originally thought.
I personally find it very difficult to reach that place, unless I'm with someone that I trust.. Or do the job myself.
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I struggle even with my husband so a stranger has pretty much no chance unfortunately. We have been in the scene almost 5 years now and I’ve arrived twice on meets. Both occasions it’s been another woman. Don’t get me wrong I enjoy the journeys but I just haven’t arrived at the station with another gentleman as of yet. |
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I don’t find it easy, but as you say it’s more about the journey than the destination.
There’s also a fire line between wanting someone to orgasm and putting pressure on them which can make difficult turn into impossible.
Having said all that, it often happens that I feel a bit short changed from sex because she’s had lots of orgasms and I’ve had none or maybe one.
On a first meet that’s understandable but if it happens a few times it can feel a bit selfish |
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No, not easy at all and often don't at all even when trying to finish myself off.
It can be frustrating, but it does mean I have plenty of time to enjoy everything else and please the woman I'm with, so it's not the biggest issue. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thank you for all the replies.
So it's a lot more common than I originally thought.
I personally find it very difficult to reach that place, unless I'm with someone that I trust.. Or do the job myself.
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Thank you for the thread as it's actually reassuring to read that others find it tough too |
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It’s rare I cum just from penetration.
The more comfortable I feel with someone, and if they’re listening and watching to how your body reacts, the more likely I am to cum from clitoral stimulation |
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Sometimes easy, sometimes less so.
Some positions are easier but it can be different with different guys. Some positions it's always hard to cum in but they're still fun.
It's not essential to me enjoying myself but if I had sex with someone a fair few times and never did I would be dissapointed.
It definitely gets easier the more relaxed you are with someone and the more you get to know each other. |
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"It’s rare I cum just from penetration.
The more comfortable I feel with someone, and if they’re listening and watching to how your body reacts, the more likely I am to cum from clitoral stimulation "
Sounds amazing xxx |
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"Thank you for all the replies.
So it's a lot more common than I originally thought.
I personally find it very difficult to reach that place, unless I'm with someone that I trust.. Or do the job myself.
Lots of fun to be had without climaxing xxx
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"I find it quite difficult to come with someone especially when they are new. I don’t like one offs for that reason. I much prefer regular meets. The more you get to know someone and the more comfortable you are with them the better the sex is I think "
Couldn’t agree more xxx amazing pics by the way xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I just enjoy the moment. To cum is just an added luxury for me...although its normally a given for me.
I just want the person I'm with to enjoy the time with me. If I achieve that then I'm happy  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It’s rare I cum just from penetration.
The more comfortable I feel with someone, and if they’re listening and watching to how your body reacts, the more likely I am to cum from clitoral stimulation "
For the majority of women, they won't come from penetration - I'm sure there are stats on this. I've come about twice in my life that way. |
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"It’s rare I cum just from penetration.
The more comfortable I feel with someone, and if they’re listening and watching to how your body reacts, the more likely I am to cum from clitoral stimulation
For the majority of women, they won't come from penetration - I'm sure there are stats on this. I've come about twice in my life that way. "
I can but it's kinda rubbish. |
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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago
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It’d be difficult for me to orgasm during a first meet. That is why I prefer repeats/fwbs- it gets sooooo much better! 
I can orgasm vaginally only but it takes absolute ages. I had the patience when I was younger but not now so I always have a helping hand
And sometikes it doesn’t matter if I don’t cum. Seeing my partner’s pleasure gives me pleasure too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It’s rare I cum just from penetration.
The more comfortable I feel with someone, and if they’re listening and watching to how your body reacts, the more likely I am to cum from clitoral stimulation
For the majority of women, they won't come from penetration - I'm sure there are stats on this. I've come about twice in my life that way.
I can but it's kinda rubbish. "
So long for me I don't even remember but I can give myself multiple orgasms quite easily. So yeah probably the same. |
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"It’s rare I cum just from penetration.
The more comfortable I feel with someone, and if they’re listening and watching to how your body reacts, the more likely I am to cum from clitoral stimulation
For the majority of women, they won't come from penetration - I'm sure there are stats on this. I've come about twice in my life that way. "
Yep, only 20% of women can orgasm from penetration. Only a handful of times I have |
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I read some where and have also done my own research, that women’s orgasms are mostly caused by stimulation of the clit. We all know this right. But the interesting thing about this article was that it suggested when a woman cam through penetrative sex it was likely because there was some clit stimulation component.
This might just be that there is maybe some friction from the man’s pubic bone as he thrusts in and out.
I’ve tested this out and sure enough climaxes have occurred.
Obviously there is a lot more going on than this and a lot of it is in the mind. It’s a complicated subject. Talking about it and sharing experiences has got to help everyone |
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