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Which is more important...
What you say or how you say it?
Words can take on different meanings depending on the context, inflection, facial expressions, body language, and countless other factors. Is it the content which matters, or how the content is portrayed? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Words are so powerful OP. This is a great question when it comes to communication.
The words that are used can make sure of clarity and some sign of EQ but also values and beliefs.
They way they are delivered is also just as important as this can show passion amongst other things.
I’m not sure that you can deliver what you want to say without having the words to start with |
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over a year ago
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"Which is more important...
What you say or how you say it?
Words can take on different meanings depending on the context, inflection, facial expressions, body language, and countless other factors. Is it the content which matters, or how the content is portrayed?"
Both are vital, on which context and circumstances it is being said.
If girl friend is saying Yes without smile than man knows the real meaning of Yes.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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But if I had to chose its how things are said.. I prefer challenging conversations over phone or in person not texting. Lots gets lost in translation/interpretation. |
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"Actions and words go hand in hand.
That’s why social media messaging has to be taken with a pinch of salt.
Impossible to judge the context……"
So what do you do when the actions dont match the words?? |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"For me, what you do rather than what/how you say something.
Mrs TMN x"
I'd agree with this. Words can carry a lot of meaning, of course. The intent and the actions that match are the most important. If there's a disparity between the two I'd either politely reference it or distance myself depending on how frequently the disparities happen. |
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"Actions and words go hand in hand.
That’s why social media messaging has to be taken with a pinch of salt.
Impossible to judge the context……
So what do you do when the actions dont match the words??"
Address the issue if it means something to you, ignore if it doesn’t.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Both, to the point I’d never have a sensitive conversation over messages as they always come across the wrong way "
Agreed. Its depends on the subject of discussion and who the convo is with x |
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"Actions speak louder then words x
They certainly do, some people forget that though x
I don't always back up wot I say I can do x
Why not? x"
Ment it 2 say I don't forget ..I always back up wot I say x |
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"Actions speak louder then words x
They certainly do, some people forget that though x
I don't always back up wot I say I can do x
Why not? x
Ment it 2 say I don't forget ..I always back up wot I say x "
Always?? x |
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"Actions speak louder then words x
They certainly do, some people forget that though x
I don't always back up wot I say I can do x
Why not? x
Ment it 2 say I don't forget ..I always back up wot I say x
Always?? x"
Only 1 way 2 find out lol x |
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"Which is more important...
What you say or how you say it?
Words can take on different meanings depending on the context, inflection, facial expressions, body language, and countless other factors. Is it the content which matters, or how the content is portrayed?"
Context in terms of who the person is to you should be factored in.
You can say “your a cunt” in the nicest way possible to a stranger, it’s still not gonna go over well. It’s almost a compliment between friends though |
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"Actions speak louder then words x
They certainly do, some people forget that though x
I don't always back up wot I say I can do x
Why not? x
Ment it 2 say I don't forget ..I always back up wot I say x
Always?? x
Only 1 way 2 find out lol x "
Sounds like a challenge x |
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"Which is more important...
What you say or how you say it?
Words can take on different meanings depending on the context, inflection, facial expressions, body language, and countless other factors. Is it the content which matters, or how the content is portrayed?"
I'd say a mixture of both.
The content matters, as well as how it is portrayed.
This means, never take words at their face value. Always read the body language as well.
For example, I could say "I don't want to go out to dinner". But I could casually look at the door.
My verbal intent is clear. But what about my body language. It belies my real intent. I do want to go out. I just don't want to vocalise it. The glance to the door is a visual cue to you to say "Oh come on, it will be fun, let's go eat".
So much of human communication is not spoken. It's subtle and needs careful reading.
The real masters of non-verbal communication are those who actively use it to lead others where they want them to be led. This takes a lot of practice, but can be done.
Spend an hour with a partner, without verbalising, just using body language.
See how "in tune" you are with each other  |
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"Actions speak louder then words x
They certainly do, some people forget that though x
I don't always back up wot I say I can do x
Why not? x
Ment it 2 say I don't forget ..I always back up wot I say x
Always?? x
Only 1 way 2 find out lol x
Sounds like a challenge x"
1 I except lol x |
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"Actions speak louder then words x
They certainly do, some people forget that though x
I don't always back up wot I say I can do x
Why not? x
Ment it 2 say I don't forget ..I always back up wot I say x
Always?? x
Only 1 way 2 find out lol x
Sounds like a challenge x
1 I except lol x "
Shouldn't I be the one accepting the challenge? x |
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"Actions speak louder then words x
They certainly do, some people forget that though x
I don't always back up wot I say I can do x
Why not? x
Ment it 2 say I don't forget ..I always back up wot I say x
Always?? x
Only 1 way 2 find out lol x
Sounds like a challenge x
1 I except lol x
Shouldn't I be the one accepting the challenge? x"
Of course .sorry got carried away with myself x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Actions supporting said words take a precedence over what and how. "
This everytime! Talk is cheap, following up on it is the hard part & being consistent!
Still a nice compliment or pick me up is always nice |
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"Actions supporting said words take a precedence over what and how.
This everytime! Talk is cheap, following up on it is the hard part & being consistent!
Still a nice compliment or pick me up is always nice "
They can be but some are hard to believe x |
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"Actions supporting said words take a precedence over what and how.
This everytime! Talk is cheap, following up on it is the hard part & being consistent!
Still a nice compliment or pick me up is always nice
They can be but some are hard to believe x"
If you know the person you can judge the sincerity based on past behaviour and either acknowledge and move on without giving it a 2nd thought or take it at face value |
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"Actions supporting said words take a precedence over what and how.
This everytime! Talk is cheap, following up on it is the hard part & being consistent!
Still a nice compliment or pick me up is always nice
They can be but some are hard to believe x
If you know the person you can judge the sincerity based on past behaviour and either acknowledge and move on without giving it a 2nd thought or take it at face value "
Guess I'm just to cynical |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Actions supporting said words take a precedence over what and how.
This everytime! Talk is cheap, following up on it is the hard part & being consistent!
Still a nice compliment or pick me up is always nice
They can be but some are hard to believe x
If you know the person you can judge the sincerity based on past behaviour and either acknowledge and move on without giving it a 2nd thought or take it at face value
Guess I'm just to cynical "
Probably a reflection of someone or someone's not being good to you in the past. I hope it's not but as hard as it is it's best to look forward, act in good faith and hope to receive that in return (and learn the lessons from those who burned you).
We can always be better people, it's just hard work so never give up and let other ppl do what they need to do |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think it’s both, I think the right words said in the right way can be a powerful action… yet the same words in a message read in a different way as they rolled off your younger as you write them can be interpreted in a completely different way.
I’ve used my words as actions do many times
A few well chosen words said to someone that you care about dearly can have an amazing response. Especially if they know you and believe you.
Yet I’ve also used my words in completely volatile situations where my use of words as a direct response as talked down people to my way of thinking and de escalated situations.
And at times it’s me who’s needed to back down in situations where I’ve used banter, cheek and respect to talk down people too.
Words snd the way they are spoken go hand in hand for me OP
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"Actions supporting said words take a precedence over what and how.
This everytime! Talk is cheap, following up on it is the hard part & being consistent!
Still a nice compliment or pick me up is always nice
They can be but some are hard to believe x
If you know the person you can judge the sincerity based on past behaviour and either acknowledge and move on without giving it a 2nd thought or take it at face value
Guess I'm just to cynical
Probably a reflection of someone or someone's not being good to you in the past. I hope it's not but as hard as it is it's best to look forward, act in good faith and hope to receive that in return (and learn the lessons from those who burned you).
We can always be better people, it's just hard work so never give up and let other ppl do what they need to do "
Definitely a reflection. That's why I now take anything said with a pinch of salt until I'm proven differently, unfortunately that hasn't happen yet but who knows... |
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I think it’s both, I think the right words said in the right way can be a powerful action… yet the same words in a message read in a different way as they rolled off your tongue as you write them can be interpreted in a completely different way.
I’ve used my words as actions so many times
A few well chosen words said to someone that you care about dearly can have an amazing response. Especially if they know you and believe you.
Yet I’ve also used my words in completely volatile situations where my use of words as a direct response as talked down people to my way of thinking and de escalated situations.
And at times it’s me who’s needed to back down in situations where I’ve used banter, cheek and respect to talk down people too.
Words and the way they are spoken go hand in hand for me OP  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Actions supporting said words take a precedence over what and how.
This everytime! Talk is cheap, following up on it is the hard part & being consistent!
Still a nice compliment or pick me up is always nice
They can be but some are hard to believe x
If you know the person you can judge the sincerity based on past behaviour and either acknowledge and move on without giving it a 2nd thought or take it at face value
Guess I'm just to cynical
Probably a reflection of someone or someone's not being good to you in the past. I hope it's not but as hard as it is it's best to look forward, act in good faith and hope to receive that in return (and learn the lessons from those who burned you).
We can always be better people, it's just hard work so never give up and let other ppl do what they need to do
Definitely a reflection. That's why I now take anything said with a pinch of salt until I'm proven differently, unfortunately that hasn't happen yet but who knows..."
Give yourself a break & you will be better for it. It's mentally tough to always be switched on, if you can work on switching off a bit and going with the flow sometimes you will be better for it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Which is more important...
What you say or how you say it?
Words can take on different meanings depending on the context, inflection, facial expressions, body language, and countless other factors. Is it the content which matters, or how the content is portrayed?"
Both are equally important, but not as important as actions. |
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By *ibonacciMan
over a year ago
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"Which is more important...
What you say or how you say it?
Words can take on different meanings depending on the context, inflection, facial expressions, body language, and countless other factors. Is it the content which matters, or how the content is portrayed?"
You're asking a question that is generational now. Millennials by and large have only learned to communicate via apps and so all the nuance of personal contact is lost.
Throw in lockdowns over the past 18 months where more people are using online video calling and interpersonal communication is fast becoming a dying art..  |
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"Which is more important...
What you say or how you say it?
Words can take on different meanings depending on the context, inflection, facial expressions, body language, and countless other factors. Is it the content which matters, or how the content is portrayed?"
I'd say both, but just think how easy it is for something written on here, or in a DM or text, to be taken out of context because you can't hear the writer's inflection on the words
Got me into trouble several times in the past, that  |
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"Which is more important...
What you say or how you say it?
Words can take on different meanings depending on the context, inflection, facial expressions, body language, and countless other factors. Is it the content which matters, or how the content is portrayed?
I'd say both, but just think how easy it is for something written on here, or in a DM or text, to be taken out of context because you can't hear the writer's inflection on the words
Got me into trouble several times in the past, that "
You're not the only one |
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Out of the two for me it is What I say
I can say Stop in 20 different ways and not be heard
But if I say Help once instead all attention is on me
People will take words in different contexts so having the ability to get through with the massive choice of words we have is empowering |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Actions supporting said words take a precedence over what and how.
This everytime! Talk is cheap, following up on it is the hard part & being consistent!
Still a nice compliment or pick me up is always nice "
Of course they are. Never too much of that as long as genuinely meant |
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"Actions supporting said words take a precedence over what and how.
This everytime! Talk is cheap, following up on it is the hard part & being consistent!
Still a nice compliment or pick me up is always nice
Of course they are. Never too much of that as long as genuinely meant "
Your lips are very fine 
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Actions supporting said words take a precedence over what and how.
This everytime! Talk is cheap, following up on it is the hard part & being consistent!
Still a nice compliment or pick me up is always nice
Of course they are. Never too much of that as long as genuinely meant
Your lips are very fine
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Only the top one is fine. The bottom is nice and full. thanks |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Actions supporting said words take a precedence over what and how.
This everytime! Talk is cheap, following up on it is the hard part & being consistent!
Still a nice compliment or pick me up is always nice
Of course they are. Never too much of that as long as genuinely meant
Your lips are very fine
Only the top one is fine. The bottom is nice and full. thanks "
Only way to truly know is to take them for a test drive 
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By *tue555Man
over a year ago
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"Which is more important...
What you say or how you say it?
Words can take on different meanings depending on the context, inflection, facial expressions, body language, and countless other factors. Is it the content which matters, or how the content is portrayed?"
What is written, how its written and what's not written tells a story.
Women and guys have a different way of expressing themselves, the choices of words and the way they write. If you understand this.
Both in profiles and forum posts especially with couples, you can easily tell within a few words whether a post was writen by the male or female. Just because they sign it mr or mrs or names. You know which party has written it.
Can easily spot when the male is pretending to be female, can think of at least 3 or 4 currently.
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