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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Not entirely fussed on the matter as i have a million more important things going on than using this site, but i'm a little confused
I've had this for about 6 months now and i haven't recieved a single message, or a reply, now understandably us males can come across a bit of a shady bunch, not all of us but a large number tend to make all of us look a bunch of dicks haha, but do dudes ever get sent a message first? If not, what am i doing wrong? How can i step my game up? 
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"Not entirely fussed on the matter as i have a million more important things going on than using this site, but i'm a little confused
I've had this for about 6 months now and i haven't recieved a single message, or a reply, now understandably us males can come across a bit of a shady bunch, not all of us but a large number tend to make all of us look a bunch of dicks haha, but do dudes ever get sent a message first? If not, what am i doing wrong? How can i step my game up?
Much appreciated"
Advice from another Male ....
Put some personality into it 
I haven’t read the dictionary  but imagine it’s a boring read I’m not putting you down but the dictionary would be more appealing so far .
Mix it up drop a few one line jokes and it only says what you’re looking for not what you bring to the party
I don’t mean like jelly and ice cream I mean like what can you offer a lady or couple
Hope you take this light heartedly and your luck changes 
All the breast |
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Not being entirely fussed could be part of your problem if your profile and messages project a similar attitude.
You get out what you put in and saying that other guys ruin it for the rest of us is a lazy way of saying it's someone else's fault. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Not entirely fussed on the matter as i have a million more important things going on than using this site, but i'm a little confused
I've had this for about 6 months now and i haven't recieved a single message, or a reply, now understandably us males can come across a bit of a shady bunch, not all of us but a large number tend to make all of us look a bunch of dicks haha, but do dudes ever get sent a message first? If not, what am i doing wrong? How can i step my game up?
Much appreciated
Advice from another Male ....
Put some personality into it
I haven’t read the dictionary but imagine it’s a boring read I’m not putting you down but the dictionary would be more appealing so far .
Mix it up drop a few one line jokes and it only says what you’re looking for not what you bring to the party
I don’t mean like jelly and ice cream I mean like what can you offer a lady or couple
Hope you take this light heartedly and your luck changes
All the breast "
This is worded perfectly and helps a lot, thanks bud! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I didn't and don't find it easy or successful with messages on here but since men are extremely small fish in a very large pond you've got to persevere and must, must read people's profile thoroughly.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm awful at striking up conversation so had no success on here. I then started joining in the forums and relaxing more. From 1 thread I was active on, I messaged one person and another messaged me. I am unlikely to meet either because of distance but we chat a lot. Just be you |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Totally agree. There will be very few females and couples who are going to have the need or time to look at and message guys unless they are looking for something very specific. Your going to have to do the hard work. Work on the profile make it show your personality and wants and if you message make sure it shows you are interested in the person you are messaging. Also dont take any no replies to heart. Everyone is allowed to be selfish on here and wait for what they want. Good luck. |
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"Not entirely fussed on the matter as i have a million more important things going on than using this site, but i'm a little confused
I've had this for about 6 months now and i haven't recieved a single message, or a reply, now understandably us males can come across a bit of a shady bunch, not all of us but a large number tend to make all of us look a bunch of dicks haha, but do dudes ever get sent a message first? If not, what am i doing wrong? How can i step my game up?
Much appreciated"
The 420 friendly is an instant no from us. Wouldn't read further |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Certain things are off putting... The 420 friendly title. The "I didn't fuck around in college so I need to catch up" comment, jeez that's off putting. And also the "kinky shit" - makes you sound like you've no idea.
Just a few tips x |
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"Certain things are off putting... The 420 friendly title. The "I didn't fuck around in college so I need to catch up" comment, jeez that's off putting. And also the "kinky shit" - makes you sound like you've no idea.
Just a few tips x"
And the fact that most of that has been added since starting this thread |
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Key for us is being a bit different and imaginative with it.
We like a profile that stands out as the effort put into it generally tends to translate well into actual conversation with that person.
A boring profile tends to lead to a boring conversation |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"To me you sound as young as your age. Sex, drugs, parties......
Nothing wrong with that, its just not what I seek."
I thought the same his profile sounds like a proper youngster, but then his age range is up to 30 so maybe appropriate for some his own age I guess |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Understandably some of you are a little older, different things work for different people, i can only respect that, thanks for the feedback, whether it was condescending or not, it helped |
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"To me you sound as young as your age. Sex, drugs, parties......
Nothing wrong with that, its just not what I seek.
I thought the same his profile sounds like a proper youngster, but then his age range is up to 30 so maybe appropriate for some his own age I guess"
Oh yes, it wasn't a criticism, just how it read to me |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"dress up like a woman; your 'who looked at me' will go through the fuckin' roof! 
I fucking love this, nearly made me spit out my porridge ?? "
Can't be wasting porridge!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Make sure you completely read profiles and see if you have similar interests and mindset as the people your contacting, also remember how many massages they receive, couples and single ladies mailboxes must be mind numbing to read sometimes we either stand out or just blend in unfortunately. Spend more time on the forums and you’ll soon connect with decent people if your a decent bloke
Good luck OP |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"dress up like a woman; your 'who looked at me' will go through the fuckin' roof!
I fucking love this, nearly made me spit out my porridge ??
Can't be wasting porridge!!! "
I know, I did say nearly so didn't waste. |
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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago
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I get that you are a young man, but in truth from a competing single guys perspective, it's pretty bland, it doesn't really say who you are, you choice of words and phrases don't really set you apart from anyone else, it doesn't zing, there is no spark if creativity or personality |
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It’s definitely difficult but as a lot say there’s a lot of guys on here so you will just have to bide your time and just have fun and message the right ones and I’m sure your luck will change, just think positive and you will find one x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Understandably some of you are a little older, different things work for different people, i can only respect that, thanks for the feedback, whether it was condescending or not, it helped "
It helped? Does that mean you have had a reply already?
There are those on here who will get your vibe completely and you'll be exactly what they are looking for; it takes time and a little bit of effort reading through profiles and identifying a similar mind set. You'll get a feel of who is more likely to respond and what type of message will work for them. Luckily, most profiles dictate in varying forms of eloquence, what they expect in a message
Failing that, try cuckold evenings at a club. Dress to impress and bring your best chat focusing on the couples and females without falling into the budding up with the other single men trap and coming across as lads lads lads.
You'll meet people and build up a reputation and hopefully some flattering verifications; whether that's a good or bad one is up to you
The very best of luck Elle x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Understandably some of you are a little older, different things work for different people, i can only respect that, thanks for the feedback, whether it was condescending or not, it helped
It helped? Does that mean you have had a reply already?
There are those on here who will get your vibe completely and you'll be exactly what they are looking for; it takes time and a little bit of effort reading through profiles and identifying a similar mind set. You'll get a feel of who is more likely to respond and what type of message will work for them. Luckily, most profiles dictate in varying forms of eloquence, what they expect in a message
Failing that, try cuckold evenings at a club. Dress to impress and bring your best chat focusing on the couples and females without falling into the budding up with the other single men trap and coming across as lads lads lads.
You'll meet people and build up a reputation and hopefully some flattering verifications; whether that's a good or bad one is up to you
The very best of luck Elle x "
...and he's gone. I'll copy and paste this into notes and save it for the next one Elle x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"And then he was gone…. Poooof like smoke
He'll reappear like a phoenix rising from the ashes...and dressed like a woman Elle x"
Haha yes Elle, may even come back with a partner who is never available as she is out collecting money trees :p xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"And then he was gone…. Poooof like smoke
He'll reappear like a phoenix rising from the ashes...and dressed like a woman Elle x
Haha yes Elle, may even come back with a partner who is never available as she is out collecting money trees :p xx"
Hahaha most certainly x |
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