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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago

For example, my inbox in the last hour or so goes as follows..

Message from forum user I chat to- Respond, message ping pong, quite nice.

Message from Graphic- type of username- Delete Unopened

Message from Avatar with a Dickpic- Delete Unopened.

Message from Avatar with a Dickpic- Delete Unopened.

Message from Forum User, with whom I have a rapport- Respond.

Message from Avatar with a Shadow- Delete Unopened.

Message from Avatar with a Shadow, but pic enclosed, opened. Then looked at profile blurb- "Will Fill in Later" - Delete Message.

Message from Avatar with Face pic, half decent message, nice face, go to profile- doesn't fit my preferences- Delete Message.

Message from Graphic- type of username- Delete Unopened.

Message from a Friend- Respond!

Can anyone see a pattern here!

Put some effort in, get better results!!

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By *ustfortheforumsWoman  over a year ago

no


"For example, my inbox in the last hour or so goes as follows..

Message from forum user I chat to- Respond, message ping pong, quite nice.

Message from Graphic- type of username- Delete Unopened

Message from Avatar with a Dickpic- Delete Unopened.

Message from Avatar with a Dickpic- Delete Unopened.

Message from Forum User, with whom I have a rapport- Respond.

Message from Avatar with a Shadow- Delete Unopened.

Message from Avatar with a Shadow, but pic enclosed, opened. Then looked at profile blurb- "Will Fill in Later" - Delete Message.

Message from Avatar with Face pic, half decent message, nice face, go to profile- doesn't fit my preferences- Delete Message.

Message from Graphic- type of username- Delete Unopened.

Message from a Friend- Respond!

Can anyone see a pattern here!

Put some effort in, get better results!!

"

What about the women on the site what messages have they sent you

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Doesn't your last sentence contradict the "half decent message" example?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I have blocked men from messaging. If I want to chat to one I will message them instead, then they can delete and block me instead

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By *ensuallover1000Man  over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

A man’s inbox example is a tad different:

Message from literally anyone: Open immediately in amazement

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"Doesn't your last sentence contradict the "half decent message" example? "

You lost me, sorry?

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"For example, my inbox in the last hour or so goes as follows..

Message from forum user I chat to- Respond, message ping pong, quite nice.

Message from Graphic- type of username- Delete Unopened

Message from Avatar with a Dickpic- Delete Unopened.

Message from Avatar with a Dickpic- Delete Unopened.

Message from Forum User, with whom I have a rapport- Respond.

Message from Avatar with a Shadow- Delete Unopened.

Message from Avatar with a Shadow, but pic enclosed, opened. Then looked at profile blurb- "Will Fill in Later" - Delete Message.

Message from Avatar with Face pic, half decent message, nice face, go to profile- doesn't fit my preferences- Delete Message.

Message from Graphic- type of username- Delete Unopened.

Message from a Friend- Respond!

Can anyone see a pattern here!

Put some effort in, get better results!!

What about the women on the site what messages have they sent you "

Well I am straight, so not many!

They are usually from friends or forum users responding to something on the forum x

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

This comes across as incredibly patronising, or is it just me ?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Maybe Its best never to send a message in the first place.

All I see is complaints it's pointless trying

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By *arciocialWoman  over a year ago

Leicester


"Doesn't your last sentence contradict the "half decent message" example?

You lost me, sorry?"

They put effort in and you still deleted it

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"For example, my inbox in the last hour or so goes as follows..

Message from forum user I chat to- Respond, message ping pong, quite nice.

Message from Graphic- type of username- Delete Unopened

Message from Avatar with a Dickpic- Delete Unopened.

Message from Avatar with a Dickpic- Delete Unopened.

Message from Forum User, with whom I have a rapport- Respond.

Message from Avatar with a Shadow- Delete Unopened.

Message from Avatar with a Shadow, but pic enclosed, opened. Then looked at profile blurb- "Will Fill in Later" - Delete Message.

Message from Avatar with Face pic, half decent message, nice face, go to profile- doesn't fit my preferences- Delete Message.

Message from Graphic- type of username- Delete Unopened.

Message from a Friend- Respond!

Can anyone see a pattern here!

Put some effort in, get better results!!

"

Nailed it!

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By *nimaginativeUsernameMan  over a year ago

Rochester, Kent


"A man’s inbox example is a tad different:

Message from literally anyone: Open immediately in amazement "

….only to find it’s Admin telling me my site membership is due to expire

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"I have blocked men from messaging. If I want to chat to one I will message them instead, then they can delete and block me instead "

I trndcto drop my filters for forum things, and forget, and then this is what happens so I put them back up again usually!

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"For example, my inbox in the last hour or so goes as follows..

Message from forum user I chat to- Respond, message ping pong, quite nice.

Message from Graphic- type of username- Delete Unopened

Message from Avatar with a Dickpic- Delete Unopened.

Message from Avatar with a Dickpic- Delete Unopened.

Message from Forum User, with whom I have a rapport- Respond.

Message from Avatar with a Shadow- Delete Unopened.

Message from Avatar with a Shadow, but pic enclosed, opened. Then looked at profile blurb- "Will Fill in Later" - Delete Message.

Message from Avatar with Face pic, half decent message, nice face, go to profile- doesn't fit my preferences- Delete Message.

Message from Graphic- type of username- Delete Unopened.

Message from a Friend- Respond!

Can anyone see a pattern here!

Put some effort in, get better results!!

"

I do try

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"Doesn't your last sentence contradict the "half decent message" example?

You lost me, sorry?

They put effort in and you still deleted it "

Because if they had bothered to read my profile, they would have known that they don't fit my preferences.

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"A man’s inbox example is a tad different:

Message from literally anyone: Open immediately in amazement

….only to find it’s Admin telling me my site membership is due to expire "

Ahh bless! Beats an enforced holiday though!

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By *olden PoleMan  over a year ago

Kent


"For example, my inbox in the last hour or so goes as follows..

Message from forum user I chat to- Respond, message ping pong, quite nice.

Message from Graphic- type of username- Delete Unopened

Message from Avatar with a Dickpic- Delete Unopened.

Message from Avatar with a Dickpic- Delete Unopened.

Message from Forum User, with whom I have a rapport- Respond.

Message from Avatar with a Shadow- Delete Unopened.

Message from Avatar with a Shadow, but pic enclosed, opened. Then looked at profile blurb- "Will Fill in Later" - Delete Message.

Message from Avatar with Face pic, half decent message, nice face, go to profile- doesn't fit my preferences- Delete Message.

Message from Graphic- type of username- Delete Unopened.

Message from a Friend- Respond!

Can anyone see a pattern here!

Put some effort in, get better results!!

"

What a load of old bollocks....

Send well thought out message that’s clearly taken into account the profile likes and requirements and guess what......deleted and sometimes blocked.

At least us men are trying to engage and connect rather than bitching about cock pics, no pics, some pics, face pics, avatar pics, bad spelling, bad grammar, one liners, to much information.

Fuck me it’s a wonder anyone is getting any with the barrage of shit to deal with.

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"For example, my inbox in the last hour or so goes as follows..

Message from forum user I chat to- Respond, message ping pong, quite nice.

Message from Graphic- type of username- Delete Unopened

Message from Avatar with a Dickpic- Delete Unopened.

Message from Avatar with a Dickpic- Delete Unopened.

Message from Forum User, with whom I have a rapport- Respond.

Message from Avatar with a Shadow- Delete Unopened.

Message from Avatar with a Shadow, but pic enclosed, opened. Then looked at profile blurb- "Will Fill in Later" - Delete Message.

Message from Avatar with Face pic, half decent message, nice face, go to profile- doesn't fit my preferences- Delete Message.

Message from Graphic- type of username- Delete Unopened.

Message from a Friend- Respond!

Can anyone see a pattern here!

Put some effort in, get better results!!

I do try "

Yes, you do! And Forum user- tick!

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By *ixedDevilMan  over a year ago

Bootyville


"Doesn't your last sentence contradict the "half decent message" example? "

Im sure if OP clicked the profile and they met her preferences, she would respond. She cant do anything about not fancying the person who messages her I guess

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By *arciocialWoman  over a year ago

Leicester

What one female requests doesn't speak for us all.

I know I'm in a minority when I say I don't give a hoot what your profile pic is, what your profile states or what message you send as long as theres a face pic added I'll respond. Because at the end of the day, like pointed out here, you can send a half decent message with a face pic and still be ignored. So, I don't expect a man to go through so much effort in an initial message when people tend to just delete them once read- I know I wouldn't bother if it was me.

Send whatever polite message you like and if there's an attraction let the following messages show.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Please stop reply and quoting the OP, I’ve had to scroll 4 miles for 8 comments.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I actually agree with Testarossa, pointless opening or dealing with messages from clamfucks...

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Doesn't your last sentence contradict the "half decent message" example?

You lost me, sorry?

They put effort in and you still deleted it

Because if they had bothered to read my profile, they would have known that they don't fit my preferences. "

On the double standards thread you posted op.

Men will want to get laid and will lower their standards to do so.

I never had you down as one of the male bashing mob

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"For example, my inbox in the last hour or so goes as follows..

Message from forum user I chat to- Respond, message ping pong, quite nice.

Message from Graphic- type of username- Delete Unopened

Message from Avatar with a Dickpic- Delete Unopened.

Message from Avatar with a Dickpic- Delete Unopened.

Message from Forum User, with whom I have a rapport- Respond.

Message from Avatar with a Shadow- Delete Unopened.

Message from Avatar with a Shadow, but pic enclosed, opened. Then looked at profile blurb- "Will Fill in Later" - Delete Message.

Message from Avatar with Face pic, half decent message, nice face, go to profile- doesn't fit my preferences- Delete Message.

Message from Graphic- type of username- Delete Unopened.

Message from a Friend- Respond!

Can anyone see a pattern here!

Put some effort in, get better results!!

What a load of old bollocks....

Send well thought out message that’s clearly taken into account the profile likes and requirements and guess what......deleted and sometimes blocked.

At least us men are trying to engage and connect rather than bitching about cock pics, no pics, some pics, face pics, avatar pics, bad spelling, bad grammar, one liners, to much information.

Fuck me it’s a wonder anyone is getting any with the barrage of shit to deal with.

"

Well you Are entitled to your opinion!

Its bullshit, but you are ebtitled nevertheless!

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By *ensuallover1000Man  over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…


"A man’s inbox example is a tad different:

Message from literally anyone: Open immediately in amazement

….only to find it’s Admin telling me my site membership is due to expire "

Just such an anticlimactic event results in what can only be truly, the very epitome of the term, Crestfallen

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Please stop reply and quoting the OP, I’ve had to scroll 4 miles for 8 comments. "

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By *aughtyandhandsomeMan  over a year ago

button moon

Does FAF not cut it then Tess!

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"Doesn't your last sentence contradict the "half decent message" example?

You lost me, sorry?

They put effort in and you still deleted it

Because if they had bothered to read my profile, they would have known that they don't fit my preferences.

On the double standards thread you posted op.

Men will want to get laid and will lower their standards to do so.

I never had you down as one of the male bashing mob"

Anyone who knows me, knows that I adore men, I am not male bashing, I am "Stupid"-bashing!

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By *olden PoleMan  over a year ago

Kent


"For example, my inbox in the last hour or so goes as follows..

Message from forum user I chat to- Respond, message ping pong, quite nice.

Message from Graphic- type of username- Delete Unopened

Message from Avatar with a Dickpic- Delete Unopened.

Message from Avatar with a Dickpic- Delete Unopened.

Message from Forum User, with whom I have a rapport- Respond.

Message from Avatar with a Shadow- Delete Unopened.

Message from Avatar with a Shadow, but pic enclosed, opened. Then looked at profile blurb- "Will Fill in Later" - Delete Message.

Message from Avatar with Face pic, half decent message, nice face, go to profile- doesn't fit my preferences- Delete Message.

Message from Graphic- type of username- Delete Unopened.

Message from a Friend- Respond!

Can anyone see a pattern here!

Put some effort in, get better results!!

What a load of old bollocks....

Send well thought out message that’s clearly taken into account the profile likes and requirements and guess what......deleted and sometimes blocked.

At least us men are trying to engage and connect rather than bitching about cock pics, no pics, some pics, face pics, avatar pics, bad spelling, bad grammar, one liners, to much information.

Fuck me it’s a wonder anyone is getting any with the barrage of shit to deal with.

Well you Are entitled to your opinion!

Its bullshit, but you are ebtitled nevertheless! "

Thank you and yes your entitled to your bollocks and I’m entitled to my bullshit

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"Does FAF not cut it then Tess! "

Only if I think you are fuckable!

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By *ixedDevilMan  over a year ago

Bootyville


"Please stop reply and quoting the OP, I’ve had to scroll 4 miles for 8 comments. "

I knoww haha!

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"For example, my inbox in the last hour or so goes as follows..

Message from forum user I chat to- Respond, message ping pong, quite nice.

Message from Graphic- type of username- Delete Unopened

Message from Avatar with a Dickpic- Delete Unopened.

Message from Avatar with a Dickpic- Delete Unopened.

Message from Forum User, with whom I have a rapport- Respond.

Message from Avatar with a Shadow- Delete Unopened.

Message from Avatar with a Shadow, but pic enclosed, opened. Then looked at profile blurb- "Will Fill in Later" - Delete Message.

Message from Avatar with Face pic, half decent message, nice face, go to profile- doesn't fit my preferences- Delete Message.

Message from Graphic- type of username- Delete Unopened.

Message from a Friend- Respond!

Can anyone see a pattern here!

Put some effort in, get better results!!

What a load of old bollocks....

Send well thought out message that’s clearly taken into account the profile likes and requirements and guess what......deleted and sometimes blocked.

At least us men are trying to engage and connect rather than bitching about cock pics, no pics, some pics, face pics, avatar pics, bad spelling, bad grammar, one liners, to much information.

Fuck me it’s a wonder anyone is getting any with the barrage of shit to deal with.

Well you Are entitled to your opinion!

Its bullshit, but you are ebtitled nevertheless!

Thank you and yes your entitled to your bollocks and I’m entitled to my bullshit "

I haven't got bollocks, thats was just a filthy rumour and a bad camera angle!

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By *ea monkeyMan  over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

It’s this kind of thought process which is why I don’t send cold first messages.

The way that it’s written appears unsavoury but it’s probably a fairly common practice.

It’s not about trying harder though, the actual lesson is to make sure that you match preferences before you even start

The other lesson is don’t message Testarossa

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"This comes across as incredibly patronising, or is it just me ? "

No its not only you

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By *ixedDevilMan  over a year ago

Bootyville

OP would delete my message

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"For example, my inbox in the last hour or so goes as follows..

Message from forum user I chat to- Respond, message ping pong, quite nice.

Message from Graphic- type of username- Delete Unopened

Message from Avatar with a Dickpic- Delete Unopened.

Message from Avatar with a Dickpic- Delete Unopened.

Message from Forum User, with whom I have a rapport- Respond.

Message from Avatar with a Shadow- Delete Unopened.

Message from Avatar with a Shadow, but pic enclosed, opened. Then looked at profile blurb- "Will Fill in Later" - Delete Message.

Message from Avatar with Face pic, half decent message, nice face, go to profile- doesn't fit my preferences- Delete Message.

Message from Graphic- type of username- Delete Unopened.

Message from a Friend- Respond!

Can anyone see a pattern here!

Put some effort in, get better results!!

"

I don’t like marmite… delete

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Doesn't your last sentence contradict the "half decent message" example? "

What’s the point replying if he’s not her type. Regardless of the quality of the message and profile.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"This comes across as incredibly patronising, or is it just me ?

No its not only you "

Thank you.

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By *ugby 123Couple  over a year ago
Forum Mod

O o O oo

Another man bashing thread. Is it any wonder men feel hard done by on here sometimes

If you use your filters to block single males from mailing you you can then choose who to mail instead

https://www.fabswingers.com/my/filters

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