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By *rHotNotts OP Man
over a year ago
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In a traditional relationship , bringing up kids together it makes sense to have the same background and values on big things like education, finance , maybe even politics and hobbies but on here do you find those with the same viewpoints a little boring and are drawn towards something very different ? |
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I think opposites can seem exciting, but then that excitement can quite easily lead to the discovery you're on very different pages as far as the deeper stuff goes. That your visions and values clash on a core level. |
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over a year ago
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For me, most serious topics are best left out of the bedroom, especially politics. I don't want to have Boris Johnson on my mind when someone's hanging out the back of me  |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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There are some things that I’d expect to see eye to eye on, others that it doesn’t matter.
If I’m building a life together that’s very different from spending a few hours together for a meet.
I’d expect that person to be respectful, understand and maintain boundaries, be open minded and intelligent but beyond that I don’t need to be on the same page about holistic medicine, politics or religion. |
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Depends on what it is I guess. Bringing up children etc I believe you have to be to on the same page.
But me and M have completely different hobbies and interests. I've taken him to art galleries, which he wouldn't have done and he enjoyed it. I over analyse things he's more let's do it. Which for me is a good thing as I get to experience more things that I'd like. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"For me, most serious topics are best left out of the bedroom, especially politics. I don't want to have Boris Johnson on my mind when someone's hanging out the back of me "
I don’t even think Boris Johnson’s mrs has Boris Johnson on the mind when he’s hanging out the back of her! |
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As BeerHound said, I to believe that in the short term, opposites can indeed attract.
Certainly, the curiosity factor alone of someone so diametrically and polar opposite to oneself (in terms of lifestyle etc) can actually serve as a draw.
However, over time the differences invariably transmute to effective chasms and holding nothing or at least, very little in common with a partner is generally only going to lead to a feeling of isolation and unhappiness. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"For me, most serious topics are best left out of the bedroom, especially politics. I don't want to have Boris Johnson on my mind when someone's hanging out the back of me "
???? Couldn’t think of anything more off putting |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"For me, most serious topics are best left out of the bedroom, especially politics. I don't want to have Boris Johnson on my mind when someone's hanging out the back of me "
This may have made me give off a loud kakkle, but it would seem opposites do not attract as I'd love to have borris jhonson on my mind been hung out the back of....
"Shudders to the very core of himself"....... with pleasure  |
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"As BeerHound said, I to believe that in the short term, opposites can indeed attract.
Certainly, the curiosity factor alone of someone so diametrically and polar opposite to oneself (in terms of lifestyle etc) can actually serve as a draw.
However, over time the differences invariably transmute to effective chasms and holding nothing or at least, very little in common with a partner is generally only going to lead to a feeling of isolation and unhappiness."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I love opposites but I have to agree and say that ultimately, this is true but there has to be an open mindness to wanting to bridge the gap and make the extra step both ways to compromise and meet in the middle. Otherwise people who are at the polar opposite won’t work together in the long run |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Opposite in every way with my ex, biggest most expensive mistake of my life"
Gosh I wish things which my ex ruined were available in the market to buy as replacement, for example trust in people. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Opposite in every way with my ex, biggest most expensive mistake of my life
Gosh I wish things which my ex ruined were available in the market to buy as replacement, for example trust in people. "
Oh for sure I definitely meant more than materially expensive. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Opposite in every way with my ex, biggest most expensive mistake of my life
Gosh I wish things which my ex ruined were available in the market to buy as replacement, for example trust in people.
Oh for sure I definitely meant more than materially expensive."
Poor lads been gay ever since! |
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"Opposite in every way with my ex, biggest most expensive mistake of my life
Gosh I wish things which my ex ruined were available in the market to buy as replacement, for example trust in people. "
I thought yes! But then I second guessed myself instantly with the "it'll only be a waste of money so why bother?"
And that people is just how deep the damage goes. When even if you could replace something that could give you an opportunity, you wouldn't, because now you don't even trust trust! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Opposite in every way with my ex, biggest most expensive mistake of my life
Gosh I wish things which my ex ruined were available in the market to buy as replacement, for example trust in people.
Oh for sure I definitely meant more than materially expensive.
Poor lads been gay ever since!"
Kinda feels like I've been bent over and fucked in the arse |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Opposite in every way with my ex, biggest most expensive mistake of my life
Gosh I wish things which my ex ruined were available in the market to buy as replacement, for example trust in people.
Oh for sure I definitely meant more than materially expensive.
Poor lads been gay ever since!
Kinda feels like I've been bent over and fucked in the arse"
I hope that hole she left in you slowly begins to close up with time buddy! |
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"In a traditional relationship , bringing up kids together it makes sense to have the same background and values on big things like education, finance , maybe even politics and hobbies but on here do you find those with the same viewpoints a little boring and are drawn towards something very different ?"
Yes they do and no they don’t haha
My last girlfriend was completely opposite to me. She was as vanilla as they come, 10 years younger, liked partying with her friends, wasn’t a swinger, etc. It lasted 18 months.
My girlfriend before that, once again, completely opposite, 8 years younger, liked partying, wasn’t a swinger etc. This lasted 15 years.
It’s all about how you adapt to the person you’re with and how they adapt to you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Opposite in every way with my ex, biggest most expensive mistake of my life
Gosh I wish things which my ex ruined were available in the market to buy as replacement, for example trust in people.
Oh for sure I definitely meant more than materially expensive.
Poor lads been gay ever since!
Kinda feels like I've been bent over and fucked in the arse
I hope that hole she left in you slowly begins to close up with time buddy! "
Cheers man, living my best life |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I love opposites but I have to agree and say that ultimately, this is true but there has to be an open mindness to wanting to bridge the gap and make the extra step both ways to compromise and meet in the middle. Otherwise people who are at the polar opposite won’t work together in the long run "
I agree with the above^^. I think opposites can work if you both put the effort in and compromise - but then that would be true for any form of relationship that is going to go longer term.
Outside of Fab most of my relationships have been with women who are opposite to me in temperament. They've always been extroverted while I'm introverted.
On Fab I notice those who seem introverted more than the more seemingly extrovert. |
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