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Am I as Unpopular as you can get!
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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago
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Awwwww how old is that little boy in you who feels rejected and needs some attention!?
Those feelings are hard to feel. And probably your wounded child, not really what adult you thinks.
When I get those feelings I do something to nurture my inner child like have a bath with bubbles, watch a kids movie or eat some treat food.
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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"Well that's how it feels at times.
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Nah, you just get overlooked on here at times, like some of the rest of the forumites do.
You are also held in affection by a lot of regulars, so, swings and roundabouts PP.
One minute you’re top of the pops, the next you’re top of the flops. Ebbs and flows on here. Chin up lovely.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I feel like that.
Chin up op
Is that both of you?
Red the female, Dick rarely posts. "
Im surprised - a kayaking redhead who likes heels, corsets and stockings - whats not to like   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It’s all relative I think OP, set against our own standards for recognition and the need to be liked / popular.
From where I’m sitting (you’ll be pleased to hear I’m currently on the sofa and not the toilet!  ) you are one of the most “interacted with” men on here. You start a lot of threads and they tend to be popular ones with positive, friendly replies.
I’ve seen some blokes start threads that you could argue are equally as thought provoking or populist and they literally bomb down the page unanswered, or they get very short thrift as they’re not one of the “well known” forumites so in that respect I would say you are very lucky and very popular.
What I don’t know though is the level of your need / desire to be liked.. some of us have larger egos than others (not saying that you have - I don’t know you - I’m talking generically) and no level of popularity will be enough and they’ll always feel ‘unloved’ irrespective of the level of popularity they get.
What makes you say you’re unpopular? How are you measuring it against other users of the site? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think all of us feel like this at times, and actually, a lot of the time it’s about how we’re feeling about ourselves, and our perception of what’s going on.
Don’t let it get you down, you’re a big part of the forum. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like our morning chats PP, you’re a really nice guy, we all feel down at times, it’s about having a little time out to re gather your thoughts abd senses… hope you’re ok OP? |
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"I like our morning chats PP, you’re a really nice guy, we all feel down at times, it’s about having a little time out to re gather your thoughts abd senses… hope you’re ok OP? "
Also what Tom said!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Stay away from certain threads - they are a killer on the ego.
I would agree with this.
In life you are easily forgotten, "
What did Piers Morgan used to have on his Twatter? (I blocked him months ago so not sure if it’s still there! ) “one day you’re the cock of the walk, the next day you’re a feather duster” .. it’s true on here, people come and go and the dynamic changes and the big cheese today is a cheese toastie tomorrow...
Hopefully the OP will see all of the love on this thread and get some validation that he’s well liked |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Awwwww how old is that little boy in you who feels rejected and needs some attention!?
Those feelings are hard to feel. And probably your wounded child, not really what adult you thinks.
When I get those feelings I do something to nurture my inner child like have a bath with bubbles, watch a kids movie or eat some treat food.
Sending love "
Love this. And it’s spot on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well that's how it feels at times.
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I think your pretty ok....you seem a decent chap...dont remember you being a troublemaker....I've enjoyed a lot of your threads,probably dont mean Jack coming from me but keep foruming |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In real life or on here. If it’s on here step up and demand to be noticed or acknowledged that’s what I do. When people ignore my comments pull them up on it and say don’t ignore my shit.
Lately though I’ve noticed I’m not bothered anymore of my comments are skipped over but I think that’s to do with my counselling. I would recommend counselling to everyone even if they don’t think they need it cos when you reach that point where you genuinely don’t want anything from anyone, don’t expect anything, don’t care about what other people think of you, I can’t even put into words how peaceful and content you feel. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"In real life or on here. If it’s on here step up and demand to be noticed or acknowledged that’s what I do. When people ignore my comments pull them up on it and say don’t ignore my shit.
Lately though I’ve noticed I’m not bothered anymore of my comments are skipped over but I think that’s to do with my counselling. I would recommend counselling to everyone even if they don’t think they need it cos when you reach that point where you genuinely don’t want anything from anyone, don’t expect anything, don’t care about what other people think of you, I can’t even put into words how peaceful and content you feel. "
That’s great to great you’re reaching that point  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"In real life or on here. If it’s on here step up and demand to be noticed or acknowledged that’s what I do. When people ignore my comments pull them up on it and say don’t ignore my shit.
Lately though I’ve noticed I’m not bothered anymore of my comments are skipped over but I think that’s to do with my counselling. I would recommend counselling to everyone even if they don’t think they need it cos when you reach that point where you genuinely don’t want anything from anyone, don’t expect anything, don’t care about what other people think of you, I can’t even put into words how peaceful and content you feel.
That’s great to great you’re reaching that point "
It’s been an up and down process Rach but I wish I done it years ago. You look lush as well btw |
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I think some people pay way too much attention to the reaction they get on the forum and keep a close eye on whether people have responded to them. The trick is not to give a fuck and to not follow up to see if you have been responded to. Not always easy to do and I've been guilty of scanning a thread. DONT DO IT. Post and let it go. |
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"In real life or on here. If it’s on here step up and demand to be noticed or acknowledged that’s what I do. When people ignore my comments pull them up on it and say don’t ignore my shit.
Lately though I’ve noticed I’m not bothered anymore of my comments are skipped over but I think that’s to do with my counselling. I would recommend counselling to everyone even if they don’t think they need it cos when you reach that point where you genuinely don’t want anything from anyone, don’t expect anything, don’t care about what other people think of you, I can’t even put into words how peaceful and content you feel.
That’s great to great you’re reaching that point
It’s been an up and down process Rach but I wish I done it years ago. You look lush as well btw "
I can actually tell that you are a changed woman, you're most definitely more chilled and relaxed in your responses than awhile ago |
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"Well that's how it feels at times.
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I know how you feel, sometimes I think why do I bother when there are so many other ways to meet like minded people. Have a look at what you actually want from the site. I enjoy the banter and some of the infighting over pics and fabs, but it's just one of many sites. I visit it most days but don't expect a lot. I have friends on here I have met up with and friends who wouldn't be seen dead on here who I also meet. Don't give up on yourself. |
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I’m pretty unpopular, particularly with the ladies and MF couples. Can’t even get to chat with them. One couple did message a couple of weeks ago and I got all excited. Then in their next message they said they’d sent it to the wrong person. Well pissed off |
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