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I would do buy I don't want to. I like to relate things to my personal experiences. I hope that you understand my point of view on this matter as it is important to me to know you understand where I am coming from.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I would do buy I don't want to. I like to relate things to my personal experiences. I hope that you understand my point of view on this matter as it is important to me to know you understand where I am coming from.
I hope I have answered your question "
I’m not talking about personal experiences, I’m talking about people who are so completely self absorbed that every topic some how comes back to them. |
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"I would do buy I don't want to. I like to relate things to my personal experiences. I hope that you understand my point of view on this matter as it is important to me to know you understand where I am coming from.
I hope I have answered your question
I’m not talking about personal experiences, I’m talking about people who are so completely self absorbed that every topic some how comes back to them. "
Aren't they all tho? I mean, even if we're asking people how they feel about something, what they want or anything else, it's because the OP wants to either spread some joy, gain knowledge or perspective, start a barny.
They all come back to the OP somehow. |
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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago
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I quite like personal threads. I think we learn from each other and our shared experiences and they often turn into opportunities for everyone to pipe up and bring their own thoughts and experience into it.
It's ok to have diva moments or to take the limelight every now and then.
If Im not in the mood for listening to someone's personal thread.. I'll just go elsewhere.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Would you take it as a slight or compliment if I renamed myself to Town_Trousers? "
I’d feel indifferent, how would you feel if I called myself Dissolute_Cornwall ? |
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"I’m really avoid those threads….irksome 
It’s very predictable, woe is me type of threads, it’s very tedious."
Everyone’s different though. Some people find support and comfort in those type of threads. Like “I need a hug” “cheer me up” type thing.
I get where you’re coming from in a way but different folks different strokes. |
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"Would you take it as a slight or compliment if I renamed myself to Town_Trousers?
I’d feel indifferent, how would you feel if I called myself Dissolute_Cornwall ?"
I’d recommend you chose Carnal_Cornwall
How about Village_Slacks? |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"Aren’t all threads self referential in part? "
Yup.
No one starts a thread because they want to stay out of the limelight and every thread has a bit of the OP in it, some more so than others though |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I would do buy I don't want to. I like to relate things to my personal experiences. I hope that you understand my point of view on this matter as it is important to me to know you understand where I am coming from.
I hope I have answered your question
I’m not talking about personal experiences, I’m talking about people who are so completely self absorbed that every topic some how comes back to them.
Aren't they all tho? I mean, even if we're asking people how they feel about something, what they want or anything else, it's because the OP wants to either spread some joy, gain knowledge or perspective, start a barny.
They all come back to the OP somehow."
I probably didn’t explain it very well, it’s more the self pitying aspect that irks me, if people are talking about themselves to include everyone and their experiences that’s fine, it’s when it’s only about themselves and we have to discuss them solely, I see it more and more recently. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I have a problem or a situation and I want peoples opinions, is the thread really about myself and wanting to talk about myself or is it just me saying right this is what’s happened blah blah blah now over to the forum what would you do, what do you think, what’s your interpretation?
Yeah the original post is about myself but it’s other peoples opinions and views I’m looking for. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Are you running a thread about what irks you OP?
…..but to be serious for a moment, I understand what you mean but some of these people have no outlet, no one to turn to and the threads are their means to ‘talk’, be heard, be seen. That’s all. It isn’t necessarily a call for attention or sympathy. Just a listening ear or a shoulder to lean on.
What may seem irksome and perhaps trifling to many is an enormous help, or call for one, for them. |
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Are we talking about narcissism here OP? Or someone who is a bit self absorbed maybe?
I think plenty on here like talking about their own life experiences though, and found many a thread uplifting when everyone shares their experiences so you don't feel so alone in your struggles. |
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I miss the old days with threads such as
“Sit on my face Saturday”
“Smurfette was in a toxic relationship….discuss”
And that old forum favourite
How many donuts can you fit on your cock (or up your chuff, for the ladies).
Still there’s no going back, eh?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If I have a problem or a situation and I want peoples opinions, is the thread really about myself and wanting to talk about myself or is it just me saying right this is what’s happened blah blah blah now over to the forum what would you do, what do you think, what’s your interpretation?
Yeah the original post is about myself but it’s other peoples opinions and views I’m looking for. "
I like your threads. They’re open and honest. As you’ve said, the threads are about you but in that, I glean a little from each one that I may find familiar in myself or those I know.  |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"Are we talking about narcissism here OP? Or someone who is a bit self absorbed maybe?
I think plenty on here like talking about their own life experiences though, and found many a thread uplifting when everyone shares their experiences so you don't feel so alone in your struggles. "
Everyone’s favourite subject is themselves and most people on here are trying to put themselves ‘out there’ to be seen, so want to talk about their thoughts and opinions.
I don’t see an issue with it, it’s just people making connections.
The forums would be a weird place if people didn’t express themselves from their own experiences or thoughts |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I miss the old days with threads such as
“Sit on my face Saturday”
“Smurfette was in a toxic relationship….discuss”
And that old forum favourite
How many donuts can you fit on your cock (or up your chuff, for the ladies).
Still there’s no going back, eh?
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Halcyon days indeed. |
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By *aekaeWoman
over a year ago
Between a cock and a soft place |
"Or only comment about themselves.
Why don’t you try mixing things up and talk about other things, it will make you far more interesting!
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I think I know what you mean.
Like when a thread gets turned from its original intent, by someone who just wants people to notice them and isn't really interested in the thread topic.
Anyhow, could could someone rate my ass?   |
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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago
STOKE ON TRENT |
"Or only comment about themselves.
Why don’t you try mixing things up and talk about other things, it will make you far more interesting!
I think I know what you mean.
Like when a thread gets turned from its original intent, by someone who just wants people to notice them and isn't really interested in the thread topic.
Anyhow, could could someone rate my ass? "
10 |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Or only comment about themselves.
Why don’t you try mixing things up and talk about other things, it will make you far more interesting!
I think I know what you mean.
Like when a thread gets turned from its original intent, by someone who just wants people to notice them and isn't really interested in the thread topic.
Anyhow, could could someone rate my ass? "
It’s lovely and I am available to feed your need for attention. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's a forum, it attracts many personality types for various reasons.
People will use it as they wish.
We're not all the same, some will focus mainly upon themselves, others will focus mainly upon others, and all those in between.
Some seek attention and validation by speaking of themselves, others do it in other ways.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nah. Variety drives the forum. I like all threads - some are more interesting to me than others. But if an answer to post pops into my head on any thread then I'm happy.
Stay within forum rules. Skip those threads which don't interest you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"That’s me then the threads I’ve started this last year are boings and drawing, both self satisfying but hopefully others get pleasure from it to from participating "
And for that we thank you ! |
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By *aekaeWoman
over a year ago
Between a cock and a soft place |
"Or only comment about themselves.
Why don’t you try mixing things up and talk about other things, it will make you far more interesting!
I think I know what you mean.
Like when a thread gets turned from its original intent, by someone who just wants people to notice them and isn't really interested in the thread topic.
Anyhow, could could someone rate my ass?
10"
Is that out of 10? |
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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago
STOKE ON TRENT |
"Or only comment about themselves.
Why don’t you try mixing things up and talk about other things, it will make you far more interesting!
I think I know what you mean.
Like when a thread gets turned from its original intent, by someone who just wants people to notice them and isn't really interested in the thread topic.
Anyhow, could could someone rate my ass?
10
Is that out of 10? "
.it is x |
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By *aekaeWoman
over a year ago
Between a cock and a soft place |
"Or only comment about themselves.
Why don’t you try mixing things up and talk about other things, it will make you far more interesting!
I think I know what you mean.
Like when a thread gets turned from its original intent, by someone who just wants people to notice them and isn't really interested in the thread topic.
Anyhow, could could someone rate my ass?
It’s lovely and I am available to feed your need for attention. "
Feed me, feed me nowwwwww! |
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By *aekaeWoman
over a year ago
Between a cock and a soft place |
"Or only comment about themselves.
Why don’t you try mixing things up and talk about other things, it will make you far more interesting!
I think I know what you mean.
Like when a thread gets turned from its original intent, by someone who just wants people to notice them and isn't really interested in the thread topic.
Anyhow, could could someone rate my ass?
10
Is that out of 10? .
it is x"
Bless you, that's so kind.
Mwah |
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By *tue555Man
over a year ago
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"Or only comment about themselves.
Why don’t you try mixing things up and talk about other things, it will make you far more interesting!
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Why? Is it that forums could become a place of adult social, conversation and interaction about interesting subjects.
Not oh woe is me, who's hot and who's not god forbid, threads that aren't about attention.
Whatever next, alians landing, people getting along
Could the forums cope or would they crash and burn.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Or only comment about themselves.
Why don’t you try mixing things up and talk about other things, it will make you far more interesting!
I think I know what you mean.
Like when a thread gets turned from its original intent, by someone who just wants people to notice them and isn't really interested in the thread topic.
Anyhow, could could someone rate my ass?
10
Is that out of 10? "
I would have thought it will be 10 spanks on each cheeks would
Love to see your belly dance outfit in action |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would do buy I don't want to. I like to relate things to my personal experiences. I hope that you understand my point of view on this matter as it is important to me to know you understand where I am coming from.
I hope I have answered your question
I’m not talking about personal experiences, I’m talking about people who are so completely self absorbed that every topic some how comes back to them.
Aren't they all tho? I mean, even if we're asking people how they feel about something, what they want or anything else, it's because the OP wants to either spread some joy, gain knowledge or perspective, start a barny.
They all come back to the OP somehow.
I probably didn’t explain it very well, it’s more the self pitying aspect that irks me, if people are talking about themselves to include everyone and their experiences that’s fine, it’s when it’s only about themselves and we have to discuss them solely, I see it more and more recently. "
I feel I should be apologising for my ‘transition’ threads now  |
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"I would do buy I don't want to. I like to relate things to my personal experiences. I hope that you understand my point of view on this matter as it is important to me to know you understand where I am coming from.
I hope I have answered your question
I’m not talking about personal experiences, I’m talking about people who are so completely self absorbed that every topic some how comes back to them.
Aren't they all tho? I mean, even if we're asking people how they feel about something, what they want or anything else, it's because the OP wants to either spread some joy, gain knowledge or perspective, start a barny.
They all come back to the OP somehow.
I probably didn’t explain it very well, it’s more the self pitying aspect that irks me, if people are talking about themselves to include everyone and their experiences that’s fine, it’s when it’s only about themselves and we have to discuss them solely, I see it more and more recently.
I feel I should be apologising for my ‘transition’ threads now "
Absolutely not. I enjoy reading those! This is what I don’t like about threads like these. I see no need for them and it makes people think “ I wonder if I do that” etc and therefore people are more reluctant to post x |
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"I would do buy I don't want to. I like to relate things to my personal experiences. I hope that you understand my point of view on this matter as it is important to me to know you understand where I am coming from.
I hope I have answered your question
I’m not talking about personal experiences, I’m talking about people who are so completely self absorbed that every topic some how comes back to them.
Aren't they all tho? I mean, even if we're asking people how they feel about something, what they want or anything else, it's because the OP wants to either spread some joy, gain knowledge or perspective, start a barny.
They all come back to the OP somehow.
I probably didn’t explain it very well, it’s more the self pitying aspect that irks me, if people are talking about themselves to include everyone and their experiences that’s fine, it’s when it’s only about themselves and we have to discuss them solely, I see it more and more recently.
I feel I should be apologising for my ‘transition’ threads now
Absolutely not. I enjoy reading those! This is what I don’t like about threads like these. I see no need for them and it makes people think “ I wonder if I do that” etc and therefore people are more reluctant to post x"
I already worry hence the last of those threads began: “ At the risk of getting boring, I thought I’d share my next step on my journey…” |
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"I would do buy I don't want to. I like to relate things to my personal experiences. I hope that you understand my point of view on this matter as it is important to me to know you understand where I am coming from.
I hope I have answered your question
I’m not talking about personal experiences, I’m talking about people who are so completely self absorbed that every topic some how comes back to them.
Aren't they all tho? I mean, even if we're asking people how they feel about something, what they want or anything else, it's because the OP wants to either spread some joy, gain knowledge or perspective, start a barny.
They all come back to the OP somehow.
I probably didn’t explain it very well, it’s more the self pitying aspect that irks me, if people are talking about themselves to include everyone and their experiences that’s fine, it’s when it’s only about themselves and we have to discuss them solely, I see it more and more recently.
I feel I should be apologising for my ‘transition’ threads now
Absolutely not. I enjoy reading those! This is what I don’t like about threads like these. I see no need for them and it makes people think “ I wonder if I do that” etc and therefore people are more reluctant to post x
I already worry hence the last of those threads began: “ At the risk of getting boring, I thought I’d share my next step on my journey…”"
Please do carry on. Like people always say, if they’re not interested they can scroll on x |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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"I would do buy I don't want to. I like to relate things to my personal experiences. I hope that you understand my point of view on this matter as it is important to me to know you understand where I am coming from.
I hope I have answered your question
I’m not talking about personal experiences, I’m talking about people who are so completely self absorbed that every topic some how comes back to them.
Aren't they all tho? I mean, even if we're asking people how they feel about something, what they want or anything else, it's because the OP wants to either spread some joy, gain knowledge or perspective, start a barny.
They all come back to the OP somehow.
I probably didn’t explain it very well, it’s more the self pitying aspect that irks me, if people are talking about themselves to include everyone and their experiences that’s fine, it’s when it’s only about themselves and we have to discuss them solely, I see it more and more recently.
I feel I should be apologising for my ‘transition’ threads now
Absolutely not. I enjoy reading those! This is what I don’t like about threads like these. I see no need for them and it makes people think “ I wonder if I do that” etc and therefore people are more reluctant to post x"
To be fair CJ did clarify a bit more further down from his OP on what he means. |
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"I would do buy I don't want to. I like to relate things to my personal experiences. I hope that you understand my point of view on this matter as it is important to me to know you understand where I am coming from.
I hope I have answered your question
I’m not talking about personal experiences, I’m talking about people who are so completely self absorbed that every topic some how comes back to them.
Aren't they all tho? I mean, even if we're asking people how they feel about something, what they want or anything else, it's because the OP wants to either spread some joy, gain knowledge or perspective, start a barny.
They all come back to the OP somehow.
I probably didn’t explain it very well, it’s more the self pitying aspect that irks me, if people are talking about themselves to include everyone and their experiences that’s fine, it’s when it’s only about themselves and we have to discuss them solely, I see it more and more recently.
I feel I should be apologising for my ‘transition’ threads now "
No! No one should apologise for a thread. Your personal experience is as valid and interesting as anyone elses.
Let your audience find you don't try to find the audience. |
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"I would do buy I don't want to. I like to relate things to my personal experiences. I hope that you understand my point of view on this matter as it is important to me to know you understand where I am coming from.
I hope I have answered your question
I’m not talking about personal experiences, I’m talking about people who are so completely self absorbed that every topic some how comes back to them.
Aren't they all tho? I mean, even if we're asking people how they feel about something, what they want or anything else, it's because the OP wants to either spread some joy, gain knowledge or perspective, start a barny.
They all come back to the OP somehow.
I probably didn’t explain it very well, it’s more the self pitying aspect that irks me, if people are talking about themselves to include everyone and their experiences that’s fine, it’s when it’s only about themselves and we have to discuss them solely, I see it more and more recently.
I feel I should be apologising for my ‘transition’ threads now
Absolutely not. I enjoy reading those! This is what I don’t like about threads like these. I see no need for them and it makes people think “ I wonder if I do that” etc and therefore people are more reluctant to post x
To be fair CJ did clarify a bit more further down from his OP on what he means."
Did he. I tend to the read the title and maybe the last few comments when I comment. If he did then fair enough. Although I’m sure not everyone reads whole threads, I rarely do so I stick by what I said. |
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"Or only comment about themselves.
Why don’t you try mixing things up and talk about other things, it will make you far more interesting!
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Depends on how interesting the person is. Someone who expresses their genuine personal experiences is usually far more interesting than someone who gropes for original topics or tries to be funny all the time. |
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"Or only comment about themselves.
Why don’t you try mixing things up and talk about other things, it will make you far more interesting!
Depends on how interesting the person is. Someone who expresses their genuine personal experiences is usually far more interesting than someone who gropes for original topics or tries to be funny all the time."
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I'm always amused by the threads started about narcissists and people detail how they have suffered but without even a hint of irony they then jump on other threads and tell their tale at every opportunity and they can relate to everything that others have gone through. Every bad experience pales in comparison to theirs. |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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"I would do buy I don't want to. I like to relate things to my personal experiences. I hope that you understand my point of view on this matter as it is important to me to know you understand where I am coming from.
I hope I have answered your question
I’m not talking about personal experiences, I’m talking about people who are so completely self absorbed that every topic some how comes back to them.
Aren't they all tho? I mean, even if we're asking people how they feel about something, what they want or anything else, it's because the OP wants to either spread some joy, gain knowledge or perspective, start a barny.
They all come back to the OP somehow.
I probably didn’t explain it very well, it’s more the self pitying aspect that irks me, if people are talking about themselves to include everyone and their experiences that’s fine, it’s when it’s only about themselves and we have to discuss them solely, I see it more and more recently.
I feel I should be apologising for my ‘transition’ threads now
Absolutely not. I enjoy reading those! This is what I don’t like about threads like these. I see no need for them and it makes people think “ I wonder if I do that” etc and therefore people are more reluctant to post x
To be fair CJ did clarify a bit more further down from his OP on what he means.
Did he. I tend to the read the title and maybe the last few comments when I comment. If he did then fair enough. Although I’m sure not everyone reads whole threads, I rarely do so I stick by what I said. "
Yeah not always helpful, I've done similar myself, found I need to add more to explain my op better.
Its another reason why we need an edit post feature to help avoid situations like this. But also why careful consideration at times is critical to making a post. |
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"I quite like personal threads. I think we learn from each other and our shared experiences and they often turn into opportunities for everyone to pipe up and bring their own thoughts and experience into it.
It's ok to have diva moments or to take the limelight every now and then.
If Im not in the mood for listening to someone's personal thread.. I'll just go elsewhere.
It's all good. "
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"I would do buy I don't want to. I like to relate things to my personal experiences. I hope that you understand my point of view on this matter as it is important to me to know you understand where I am coming from.
I hope I have answered your question
I’m not talking about personal experiences, I’m talking about people who are so completely self absorbed that every topic some how comes back to them.
Aren't they all tho? I mean, even if we're asking people how they feel about something, what they want or anything else, it's because the OP wants to either spread some joy, gain knowledge or perspective, start a barny.
They all come back to the OP somehow.
I probably didn’t explain it very well, it’s more the self pitying aspect that irks me, if people are talking about themselves to include everyone and their experiences that’s fine, it’s when it’s only about themselves and we have to discuss them solely, I see it more and more recently.
I feel I should be apologising for my ‘transition’ threads now
Absolutely not. I enjoy reading those! This is what I don’t like about threads like these. I see no need for them and it makes people think “ I wonder if I do that” etc and therefore people are more reluctant to post x
To be fair CJ did clarify a bit more further down from his OP on what he means.
Did he. I tend to the read the title and maybe the last few comments when I comment. If he did then fair enough. Although I’m sure not everyone reads whole threads, I rarely do so I stick by what I said.
Yeah not always helpful, I've done similar myself, found I need to add more to explain my op better.
Its another reason why we need an edit post feature to help avoid situations like this. But also why careful consideration at times is critical to making a post. "
An edit post feature would allow you to completely change the question once you have a set of answers though. Open to abuse. |
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"I would do buy I don't want to. I like to relate things to my personal experiences. I hope that you understand my point of view on this matter as it is important to me to know you understand where I am coming from.
I hope I have answered your question
I’m not talking about personal experiences, I’m talking about people who are so completely self absorbed that every topic some how comes back to them.
Aren't they all tho? I mean, even if we're asking people how they feel about something, what they want or anything else, it's because the OP wants to either spread some joy, gain knowledge or perspective, start a barny.
They all come back to the OP somehow.
I probably didn’t explain it very well, it’s more the self pitying aspect that irks me, if people are talking about themselves to include everyone and their experiences that’s fine, it’s when it’s only about themselves and we have to discuss them solely, I see it more and more recently.
I feel I should be apologising for my ‘transition’ threads now
Absolutely not. I enjoy reading those! This is what I don’t like about threads like these. I see no need for them and it makes people think “ I wonder if I do that” etc and therefore people are more reluctant to post x
I already worry hence the last of those threads began: “ At the risk of getting boring, I thought I’d share my next step on my journey…”"
You haven't done an update for a while. I like your transition threads. |
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"Aren’t all threads self referential in part?
Yup.
No one starts a thread because they want to stay out of the limelight and every thread has a bit of the OP in it, some more so than others though"
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"I would do buy I don't want to. I like to relate things to my personal experiences. I hope that you understand my point of view on this matter as it is important to me to know you understand where I am coming from.
I hope I have answered your question
I’m not talking about personal experiences, I’m talking about people who are so completely self absorbed that every topic some how comes back to them.
Aren't they all tho? I mean, even if we're asking people how they feel about something, what they want or anything else, it's because the OP wants to either spread some joy, gain knowledge or perspective, start a barny.
They all come back to the OP somehow.
I probably didn’t explain it very well, it’s more the self pitying aspect that irks me, if people are talking about themselves to include everyone and their experiences that’s fine, it’s when it’s only about themselves and we have to discuss them solely, I see it more and more recently.
I feel I should be apologising for my ‘transition’ threads now
Absolutely not. I enjoy reading those! This is what I don’t like about threads like these. I see no need for them and it makes people think “ I wonder if I do that” etc and therefore people are more reluctant to post x
I already worry hence the last of those threads began: “ At the risk of getting boring, I thought I’d share my next step on my journey…”
You haven't done an update for a while. I like your transition threads. "
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"Are we talking about narcissism here OP? Or someone who is a bit self absorbed maybe?
I think plenty on here like talking about their own life experiences though, and found many a thread uplifting when everyone shares their experiences so you don't feel so alone in your struggles.
Everyone’s favourite subject is themselves and most people on here are trying to put themselves ‘out there’ to be seen, so want to talk about their thoughts and opinions.
I don’t see an issue with it, it’s just people making connections.
The forums would be a weird place if people didn’t express themselves from their own experiences or thoughts"
I hear what you are saying. But I do think there is a difference between those who only speak of themselves Vs those who speak of themselves and listen and converse about a subject, if that makes sense? |
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I don’t quite understand where this is supposed to be going but if I was asking for advice or an opinion on something I’d be more inclined to listen to someone that says yeah that’s happened to me, this was my experience of it, this was how I dealt with it etc.
So when someone posts a thread asking for advice or an opinion I’ll think if I’ve personally experienced what they are describing and talk about my experience of it and how I dealt with a situation and then apply it to them or see if they can do anything with what I’ve said.
If that makes me vile or narcissistic I don’t give a fuck.
Like when I wanted to know how to do the best roast potatoes and miss honey said she sprinkled plain flour on them I did it and it gave me perfect crispy roasts. Did I think she was narcissistic because she said well actually this is how I do my roast potatoes, no I didn’t I took her advice on how she deals with the situation and then applied it to my situation.
Is that not how Wes the supposed to learn? By taking advice from people who have already experienced whatever is being discussed and then applying it to ourselves?
Fucking hate these types of threads. |
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"I would do buy I don't want to. I like to relate things to my personal experiences. I hope that you understand my point of view on this matter as it is important to me to know you understand where I am coming from.
I hope I have answered your question
I’m not talking about personal experiences, I’m talking about people who are so completely self absorbed that every topic some how comes back to them.
Aren't they all tho? I mean, even if we're asking people how they feel about something, what they want or anything else, it's because the OP wants to either spread some joy, gain knowledge or perspective, start a barny.
They all come back to the OP somehow.
I probably didn’t explain it very well, it’s more the self pitying aspect that irks me, if people are talking about themselves to include everyone and their experiences that’s fine, it’s when it’s only about themselves and we have to discuss them solely, I see it more and more recently.
I feel I should be apologising for my ‘transition’ threads now
Absolutely not. I enjoy reading those! This is what I don’t like about threads like these. I see no need for them and it makes people think “ I wonder if I do that” etc and therefore people are more reluctant to post x
I already worry hence the last of those threads began: “ At the risk of getting boring, I thought I’d share my next step on my journey…”"
Please doesn’t think that. I find your transition journey fascinating |
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"I would do buy I don't want to. I like to relate things to my personal experiences. I hope that you understand my point of view on this matter as it is important to me to know you understand where I am coming from.
I hope I have answered your question
I’m not talking about personal experiences, I’m talking about people who are so completely self absorbed that every topic some how comes back to them.
Aren't they all tho? I mean, even if we're asking people how they feel about something, what they want or anything else, it's because the OP wants to either spread some joy, gain knowledge or perspective, start a barny.
They all come back to the OP somehow.
I probably didn’t explain it very well, it’s more the self pitying aspect that irks me, if people are talking about themselves to include everyone and their experiences that’s fine, it’s when it’s only about themselves and we have to discuss them solely, I see it more and more recently.
I feel I should be apologising for my ‘transition’ threads now
Absolutely not. I enjoy reading those! This is what I don’t like about threads like these. I see no need for them and it makes people think “ I wonder if I do that” etc and therefore people are more reluctant to post x
I already worry hence the last of those threads began: “ At the risk of getting boring, I thought I’d share my next step on my journey…”
Please doesn’t think that. I find your transition journey fascinating "
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"Or only comment about themselves.
Why don’t you try mixing things up and talk about other things, it will make you far more interesting!
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Some people are just a bit self absorbed, Mr Jeans.
But enough about you, back to me |
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"Or only comment about themselves.
Why don’t you try mixing things up and talk about other things, it will make you far more interesting!
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I've started two that aren't about me, will that help?
PW |
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"Or only comment about themselves.
Why don’t you try mixing things up and talk about other things, it will make you far more interesting!
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You mean they’re attention seeking on a site where they need to be noticed in order to achieve their goal? That will be a turn off to some, myself included. Everyone plays the game differently or they have their own agenda and they do what works for them |
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"For my next thread: ‘Rate my haemorrhoids.’
You'll get piles of replies
ive just spat my yoghurt all over my desk "
It wasn’t that exciting
Shame I wasn’t there to catch your ‘yoghurt’
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"For my next thread: ‘Rate my haemorrhoids.’
You'll get piles of replies
ive just spat my yoghurt all over my desk
My yoghurt’s just spat in my face as I opened it  "
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"For my next thread: ‘Rate my haemorrhoids.’
You'll get piles of replies
ive just spat my yoghurt all over my desk
My yoghurt’s just spat in my face as I opened it
Are we all talking about the same type of yogurt? "
This is Fab so probably not but I’m definitely talking about yoghurt  |
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"For my next thread: ‘Rate my haemorrhoids.’
You'll get piles of replies
ive just spat my yoghurt all over my desk
My yoghurt’s just spat in my face as I opened it
Are we all talking about the same type of yogurt?
This is Fab so probably not but I’m definitely talking about yoghurt "
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"For my next thread: ‘Rate my haemorrhoids.’
You'll get piles of replies
ive just spat my yoghurt all over my desk
My yoghurt’s just spat in my face as I opened it
Are we all talking about the same type of yogurt?
This is Fab so probably not but I’m definitely talking about yoghurt
Me too "
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"I would do buy I don't want to. I like to relate things to my personal experiences. I hope that you understand my point of view on this matter as it is important to me to know you understand where I am coming from.
I hope I have answered your question
I’m not talking about personal experiences, I’m talking about people who are so completely self absorbed that every topic some how comes back to them.
Aren't they all tho? I mean, even if we're asking people how they feel about something, what they want or anything else, it's because the OP wants to either spread some joy, gain knowledge or perspective, start a barny.
They all come back to the OP somehow.
I probably didn’t explain it very well, it’s more the self pitying aspect that irks me, if people are talking about themselves to include everyone and their experiences that’s fine, it’s when it’s only about themselves and we have to discuss them solely, I see it more and more recently.
I feel I should be apologising for my ‘transition’ threads now
Absolutely not. I enjoy reading those! This is what I don’t like about threads like these. I see no need for them and it makes people think “ I wonder if I do that” etc and therefore people are more reluctant to post x
I already worry hence the last of those threads began: “ At the risk of getting boring, I thought I’d share my next step on my journey…”
You haven't done an update for a while. I like your transition threads.
Contemplating another but not sure I have much more new material to share. "
Echo a lot of others, your Transition threads are fascinating and valuable for us who are interested in your journey. It’s a massive difference to what I think the Op is alluding to.
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Don’t really see it as a problem.
The forums are full of all different threads.
Some are predictably tedious from the usual suspects.
Some are insightful about serious issues.
Some are just a bit of fun.
Get involved in the ones you enjoy, and avoid those you don’t.
Life is often not as complicated as we would think.
But I do get your point CJ and tend too avoid those type of threads most of the time. |
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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago
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"Don’t really see it as a problem.
The forums are full of all different threads.
Some are predictably tedious from the usual suspects.
Some are insightful about serious issues.
Some are just a bit of fun.
Get involved in the ones you enjoy, and avoid those you don’t.
Life is often not as complicated as we would think.
But I do get your point CJ and tend too avoid those type of threads most of the time. "
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By *aekaeWoman
over a year ago
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"Or only comment about themselves.
Why don’t you try mixing things up and talk about other things, it will make you far more interesting!
I think I know what you mean.
Like when a thread gets turned from its original intent, by someone who just wants people to notice them and isn't really interested in the thread topic.
Anyhow, could could someone rate my ass?
10
Is that out of 10?
I would have thought it will be 10 spanks on each cheeks would
Love to see your belly dance outfit in action "
Spanking? Not for me thanks.
Now, if you'd said hair pulling...  |
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"And those Narcissistic vile types that turn every post/conversation into 'them'
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Confirmation bias....I'll say something vile to someone on a thread before starting another thread to justify it/look for affirmation from others therefore seeking approval from others to continue behaving like a twat |
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"And those Narcissistic vile types that turn every post/conversation into 'them'
Confirmation bias....I'll say something vile to someone on a thread before starting another thread to justify it/look for affirmation from others therefore seeking approval from others to continue behaving like a twat"
I've seen this so many times with work colleagues so it doesn't surprise me in here.
They try to justify their comments or actions by using their Daily Affirmation approach and announcing I'm a cunt and this is who I am and you need to accept me as I am!
Bullying takes many forms and claiming you are a survivor because no-one has succeeded in beating you down just shows a lack of understanding of any opinion apart from your own and proves only that you have a belligerent personality. |
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"And those Narcissistic vile types that turn every post/conversation into 'them'
Confirmation bias....I'll say something vile to someone on a thread before starting another thread to justify it/look for affirmation from others therefore seeking approval from others to continue behaving like a twat
I've seen this so many times with work colleagues so it doesn't surprise me in here.
They try to justify their comments or actions by using their Daily Affirmation approach and announcing I'm a cunt and this is who I am and you need to accept me as I am!
Bullying takes many forms and claiming you are a survivor because no-one has succeeded in beating you down just shows a lack of understanding of any opinion apart from your own and proves only that you have a belligerent personality. "
Absolutely agree....Especially when people say "oh you know what they're like" um I know that they are a grown adult who should be able to conduct themselves appropriately when at work home or in the pub or on Fab |
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It's a tricky one, sometimes I wonder if a conversation warrants just nodding at what the person is saying and asking questions, or if it enhances the conversation by linking it with a similair situation I may have had and talking about that too. If it's give and take from both parties then Im sure that makes for a good conversation, and excellent social skills rather than one dominating, but then think is it rude to not just comtemplate their experience with no input from me. Easier to talk to dogs or horses really when you think about it. Did I tell you about my dogs? ..... |
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"And those Narcissistic vile types that turn every post/conversation into 'them'
Confirmation bias....I'll say something vile to someone on a thread before starting another thread to justify it/look for affirmation from others therefore seeking approval from others to continue behaving like a twat
I've seen this so many times with work colleagues so it doesn't surprise me in here.
They try to justify their comments or actions by using their Daily Affirmation approach and announcing I'm a cunt and this is who I am and you need to accept me as I am!
Bullying takes many forms and claiming you are a survivor because no-one has succeeded in beating you down just shows a lack of understanding of any opinion apart from your own and proves only that you have a belligerent personality.
Absolutely agree....Especially when people say "oh you know what they're like" um I know that they are a grown adult who should be able to conduct themselves appropriately when at work home or in the pub or on Fab"
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