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Scenario: I have noticed that say around 98% of my meets are with people who don't use the forums (a couple have slipped through who do) as it's my preference....however
I've recently been told that this is "double standards" as I use them.....
Question: Is it really double standards?? |
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Coz people like to throw "double standards" about in an effort to make the person feel guilty/ashamed/bad in any way or reconsider their choices.
Heaven forbid they saw it as what someone else prefers to do for their own reasons and bitching about it gets them nowhere.
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"Scenario: I have noticed that say around 98% of my meets are with people who don't use the forums (a couple have slipped through who do) as it's my preference....however
I've recently been told that this is "double standards" as I use them.....
Question: Is it really double standards??"
Not at all. Meet who you want. Although if you’d make an exception  |
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"No it's not. You do who you want to do, forum user or not.
Did you say something negative about forum users? Maybe that's what makes the person think it's double standard. "
I just said that there seems to be less drama revolving around non forum users than ones who do as some people can get a bit touchy if you get overly friendly with a fellow forum poster. I don't need nor want to court any drama. I've been there and done it x |
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"No it's not. You do who you want to do, forum user or not.
Did you say something negative about forum users? Maybe that's what makes the person think it's double standard.
I just said that there seems to be less drama revolving around non forum users than ones who do as some people can get a bit touchy if you get overly friendly with a fellow forum poster. I don't need nor want to court any drama. I've been there and done it x"
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"The minute you stop giving a shit about other peoples opinion of what you do, is the first time you take a breath of the free air. "
Might even discover a use for diaphragm! Liberating muscles and mind. |
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"Scenario: I have noticed that say around 98% of my meets are with people who don't use the forums (a couple have slipped through who do) as it's my preference....however
I've recently been told that this is "double standards" as I use them.....
Question: Is it really double standards??"
I see no double standards… I chat to many on the forums, some I would like to meet, some I wouldn’t… Who you meet is up to you, How you use the forums is also up to you. The two things can be completely separate |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"No it's not. You do who you want to do, forum user or not.
Did you say something negative about forum users? Maybe that's what makes the person think it's double standard.
I just said that there seems to be less drama revolving around non forum users than ones who do as some people can get a bit touchy if you get overly friendly with a fellow forum poster. I don't need nor want to court any drama. I've been there and done it x
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Yep, that's definitely true. 
I can see why the other person would cry "double standards" to a certain degree (not saying they are right) but honestly - there is a lot more drama around forum users. There are members who exist out of the forum who are decent humans and know how to have sex. I don't blame you OP. |
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By *imbobaMan
over a year ago
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"Scenario: I have noticed that say around 98% of my meets are with people who don't use the forums (a couple have slipped through who do) as it's my preference....however
I've recently been told that this is "double standards" as I use them.....
Question: Is it really double standards??"
Does this mean I have to leave the forums  |
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"The minute you stop giving a shit about other peoples opinion of what you do, is the first time you take a breath of the free air. "
To be honest, what other people think is no concern of mine. I do who I want when I want.
It was just a question to gain insight as to why someone would think its 'double standards' |
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over a year ago
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"How is it double standards?
I've no idea. That's why I asked the question to see if someone could enlighten me  "
At the end of the day as long as your happy with how things are surely what other people say/do
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"No it's not. You do who you want to do, forum user or not.
Did you say something negative about forum users? Maybe that's what makes the person think it's double standard.
I just said that there seems to be less drama revolving around non forum users than ones who do as some people can get a bit touchy if you get overly friendly with a fellow forum poster. I don't need nor want to court any drama. I've been there and done it x
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Yep, that's definitely true.
I can see why the other person would cry "double standards" to a certain degree (not saying they are right) but honestly - there is a lot more drama around forum users. There are members who exist out of the forum who are decent humans and know how to have sex. I don't blame you OP."
Exactly, the forum is just a very small part of this place x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I get what you mean about the drama. Could be ones who won't bring that but I guess you just never know.
But anyways, it's your life and you live it how you want, to make yourself happy! No double standards at all! |
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What a bizarre question? A few men seem to grab on any reason why you might reject them. I live in Reading does that mean it's double standards if a lover is from Bagshot?
There's something in the water today. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't get the question
Is what double standards??
Not really sure but I was told it's because I usually don't meet forum users but yet I use the forums"
Then this again is your choice sparkle do what ever makes you happy |
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"I don't get the question
Is what double standards??
Not really sure but I was told it's because I usually don't meet forum users but yet I use the forums
Then this again is your choice sparkle do what ever makes you happy "
Oh believe me, I do  |
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"I don't get the question
Is what double standards??
Not really sure but I was told it's because I usually don't meet forum users but yet I use the forums"
But theres not that many guys on the forum.Im not usually attracted to forum guys its a small pool |
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"I don't get the question
Is what double standards??
Not really sure but I was told it's because I usually don't meet forum users but yet I use the forums
Then this again is your choice sparkle do what ever makes you happy
Oh believe me, I do "
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"I don't get the question
Is what double standards??
Not really sure but I was told it's because I usually don't meet forum users but yet I use the forumsBut theres not that many guys on the forum.Im not usually attracted to forum guys its a small pool"
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"The minute you stop giving a shit about other peoples opinion of what you do, is the first time you take a breath of the free air.
To be honest, what other people think is no concern of mine. I do who I want when I want.
It was just a question to gain insight as to why someone would think its 'double standards'"
You'd be better to ask the person that said it |
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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago
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It doesn't really make sense to me, I don't understand how it's double standards. If you were on two lifestyle sites and met people from both sides would that make it double standards?
I can't get my head around it |
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over a year ago
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'A double standard is the application of different sets of principles for situations that are, in principle, the same.'
I am presuming the 'double standard' is you are treating forum users differently to non-forum users. But because all users are on Fab they should all be given equal consideration. |
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"The minute you stop giving a shit about other peoples opinion of what you do, is the first time you take a breath of the free air.
To be honest, what other people think is no concern of mine. I do who I want when I want.
It was just a question to gain insight as to why someone would think its 'double standards'
You'd be better to ask the person that said it"
I did ask why and the answer I got was "its double standards because I use the forum |
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"I don't get the question
Is what double standards??
Not really sure but I was told it's because I usually don't meet forum users but yet I use the forumsBut theres not that many guys on the forum.Im not usually attracted to forum guys its a small pool"
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"'A double standard is the application of different sets of principles for situations that are, in principle, the same.'
I am presuming the 'double standard' is you are treating forum users differently to non-forum users. But because all users are on Fab they should all be given equal consideration."
I'm not treating them differently. I speak to everyone the same. I just prefer the drama free side of Fab x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Saves on you having to bleach the smell of piss on the lamp post.
Best answer yet...thanks for that giggle, very much needed x"
My pleasure. A bit more graphic than I would normally post but hey we have all been on the end of it |
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"You might not want everyone knowing your business, and let's be honest, sometimes forum people can't have a shit without it being common knowledge before you've finished wiping "
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"'A double standard is the application of different sets of principles for situations that are, in principle, the same.'
I am presuming the 'double standard' is you are treating forum users differently to non-forum users. But because all users are on Fab they should all be given equal consideration.
I'm not treating them differently. I speak to everyone the same. I just prefer the drama free side of Fab x"
I'm not saying it is a double standard. I'm just trying to work out the possible logic behind the stated double standard.
The treating differently would be not giving forum users an oppurtunity to meet you based on whatever criteria you use to meet non-forum users.
But by that logic you could say a straight man has double standards by meeting only women and not affording the same consideration to men. |
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"Scenario: I have noticed that say around 98% of my meets are with people who don't use the forums (a couple have slipped through who do) as it's my preference....however
I've recently been told that this is "double standards" as I use them.....
Question: Is it really double standards??"
There is a lot of people throwing around the phrase "double standards" on these forums lately. Be it talking about people who wont meet Bi men but will meet bi women, people who wont meet married whilst being married, etc etc. It is becoming a constant in these forums and it's very unpleasant. What right does a stranger have to decide on who you do or do ot meet or on what terms?
You do you and ignore everyone but the person or people you choose to spend your time with.
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"How is it double standards?
I've no idea. That's why I asked the question to see if someone could enlighten me "
Not really! It's entirely up to you how you manage your life and meets! |
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By *imbobaMan
over a year ago
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"You might not want everyone knowing your business, and let's be honest, sometimes forum people can't have a shit without it being common knowledge before you've finished wiping
So true and the backroom bitching is rife! "
I do get your reasoning and totally get it’s your choice and it’s not double standards BUT if a meet with an non-forum meet went south for what ever reason and the person decided they wanted to vent or be a pest, then it would be easy for them to do so. In here. |
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"Scenario: I have noticed that say around 98% of my meets are with people who don't use the forums (a couple have slipped through who do) as it's my preference....however
I've recently been told that this is "double standards" as I use them.....
Question: Is it really double standards??
There is a lot of people throwing around the phrase "double standards" on these forums lately. Be it talking about people who wont meet Bi men but will meet bi women, people who wont meet married whilst being married, etc etc. It is becoming a constant in these forums and it's very unpleasant. What right does a stranger have to decide on who you do or do ot meet or on what terms?
You do you and ignore everyone but the person or people you choose to spend your time with.
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I've seen it loads lately too, getting right on my tits.
People hold themselves to individual "standard", they do what works and feels comfortable for them.
I serve fish at work but don't eat it myself, it ain't to my taste but it is to some other people. Who gives a shit, my mouth, I choose what I'm putting in it, their mouth they choose what they put in it, and if I don't wanna kiss them coz they taste like fish so be it, if they don't wanna kiss me coz I taste like fags and shame, again... so be it. |
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"You might not want everyone knowing your business, and let's be honest, sometimes forum people can't have a shit without it being common knowledge before you've finished wiping
So true and the backroom bitching is rife!
I do get your reasoning and totally get it’s your choice and it’s not double standards BUT if a meet with an non-forum meet went south for what ever reason and the person decided they wanted to vent or be a pest, then it would be easy for them to do so. In here. "
Lucky for me then none have went south then |
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By *imbobaMan
over a year ago
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"You might not want everyone knowing your business, and let's be honest, sometimes forum people can't have a shit without it being common knowledge before you've finished wiping
So true and the backroom bitching is rife!
I do get your reasoning and totally get it’s your choice and it’s not double standards BUT if a meet with an non-forum meet went south for what ever reason and the person decided they wanted to vent or be a pest, then it would be easy for them to do so. In here.
Lucky for me then none have went south then "
Oops. I go south on occasions  |
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"You might not want everyone knowing your business, and let's be honest, sometimes forum people can't have a shit without it being common knowledge before you've finished wiping
So true and the backroom bitching is rife!
I do get your reasoning and totally get it’s your choice and it’s not double standards BUT if a meet with an non-forum meet went south for what ever reason and the person decided they wanted to vent or be a pest, then it would be easy for them to do so. In here.
Lucky for me then none have went south then
Oops. I go south on occasions "
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"Scenario: I have noticed that say around 98% of my meets are with people who don't use the forums (a couple have slipped through who do) as it's my preference....however
I've recently been told that this is "double standards" as I use them.....
Question: Is it really double standards??
There is a lot of people throwing around the phrase "double standards" on these forums lately. Be it talking about people who wont meet Bi men but will meet bi women, people who wont meet married whilst being married, etc etc. It is becoming a constant in these forums and it's very unpleasant. What right does a stranger have to decide on who you do or do ot meet or on what terms?
You do you and ignore everyone but the person or people you choose to spend your time with.
I've seen it loads lately too, getting right on my tits.
People hold themselves to individual "standard", they do what works and feels comfortable for them.
I serve fish at work but don't eat it myself, it ain't to my taste but it is to some other people. Who gives a shit, my mouth, I choose what I'm putting in it, their mouth they choose what they put in it, and if I don't wanna kiss them coz they taste like fish so be it, if they don't wanna kiss me coz I taste like fags and shame, again... so be it."
Exactly this. A is not equal to B.so.people.need to stop acting like it is.
Weird you should use the fish analogy though. We where litteraly just discussing about how it's getting on these forums and I acctually said to.my wife " I'll eat cod but wont touch shellfish but in their eyes, theyd make out your a hypocrite or worse, your persecuting the shellfish". That is litterally the point its getting to.
I'd like to say the mods should step up their game but everyone is entitled to their own opinions, no matter how ridiculous they are.
A lot of people really need to take a step back on these forums and think about what they are saying. It isnt all about them and their wants and needs. |
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"Scenario: I have noticed that say around 98% of my meets are with people who don't use the forums (a couple have slipped through who do) as it's my preference....however
I've recently been told that this is "double standards" as I use them.....
Question: Is it really double standards??"
That’s all type of strange !? What’s the issue with you shooting the shit on here and meeting new people ?
You get a glimpse of what people are really like on the threads as opposed to just hitting someone up cause they look good |
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"No it's not. You do who you want to do, forum user or not.
Did you say something negative about forum users? Maybe that's what makes the person think it's double standard.
I just said that there seems to be less drama revolving around non forum users than ones who do as some people can get a bit touchy if you get overly friendly with a fellow forum poster. I don't need nor want to court any drama. I've been there and done it x"
Understand this completely. You meet someone off the forum, someone else could have their eye on him or her, people get jealous people start messaging people shit. It can be drama. |
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"No it's not. You do who you want to do, forum user or not.
Did you say something negative about forum users? Maybe that's what makes the person think it's double standard.
I just said that there seems to be less drama revolving around non forum users than ones who do as some people can get a bit touchy if you get overly friendly with a fellow forum poster. I don't need nor want to court any drama. I've been there and done it x
Understand this completely. You meet someone off the forum, someone else could have their eye on him or her, people get jealous people start messaging people shit. It can be drama. "
Exactly this. I don't mind having a laugh and joke with people on the forum but as you say 'jealously' rears it's head and I just think "fuck it" I'm not being dragged into a unneccesary bitch fight...you can have him |
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"Scenario: I have noticed that say around 98% of my meets are with people who don't use the forums (a couple have slipped through who do) as it's my preference....however
I've recently been told that this is "double standards" as I use them.....
Question: Is it really double standards??
That’s all type of strange !? What’s the issue with you shooting the shit on here and meeting new people ?
You get a glimpse of what people are really like on the threads as opposed to just hitting someone up cause they look good "
On the forum as someone said earlier it is mostly lamppost pissing.... |
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In all of my time on Fab (coming and going) I've not met anyone through the forums.
I've created online friendships through the forum but only had meets with none forum posters.
I'm not sure how double standards come into it
Maybe just a desperate attempt to sway your choice. |
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The few people I’ve met from here had never really heard of the Forum. That surprised me.
Perhaps the non Forum users have it right. They are all for meeting and having super sexy fun while we debate and put the world to rights. Or at least try to. |
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"In all of my time on Fab (coming and going) I've not met anyone through the forums.
I've created online friendships through the forum but only had meets with none forum posters.
I'm not sure how double standards come into it
Maybe just a desperate attempt to sway your choice. "
This lad is on point !
It’s fab what you do on here is nobody’s business unless your in a relationship |
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"No it's not. You do who you want to do, forum user or not.
Did you say something negative about forum users? Maybe that's what makes the person think it's double standard.
I just said that there seems to be less drama revolving around non forum users than ones who do as some people can get a bit touchy if you get overly friendly with a fellow forum poster. I don't need nor want to court any drama. I've been there and done it x
Understand this completely. You meet someone off the forum, someone else could have their eye on him or her, people get jealous people start messaging people shit. It can be drama.
Exactly this. I don't mind having a laugh and joke with people on the forum but as you say 'jealously' rears it's head and I just think "fuck it" I'm not being dragged into a unneccesary bitch fight...you can have him "
I hate being fought over like that. |
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"In all of my time on Fab (coming and going) I've not met anyone through the forums.
I've created online friendships through the forum but only had meets with none forum posters.
I'm not sure how double standards come into it
Maybe just a desperate attempt to sway your choice.
This lad is on point !
It’s fab what you do on here is nobody’s business unless your in a relationship "
. Are you saying we’re in a relationship now.  |
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"Scenario: I have noticed that say around 98% of my meets are with people who don't use the forums (a couple have slipped through who do) as it's my preference....however
I've recently been told that this is "double standards" as I use them.....
Question: Is it really double standards??"
No |
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"In all of my time on Fab (coming and going) I've not met anyone through the forums.
I've created online friendships through the forum but only had meets with none forum posters.
I'm not sure how double standards come into it
Maybe just a desperate attempt to sway your choice.
This lad is on point !
It’s fab what you do on here is nobody’s business unless your in a relationship . Are you saying we’re in a relationship now. "
Wer going steady the last 2 weeks you nut but it’s official now !
Congratulations x  |
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"In all of my time on Fab (coming and going) I've not met anyone through the forums.
I've created online friendships through the forum but only had meets with none forum posters.
I'm not sure how double standards come into it
Maybe just a desperate attempt to sway your choice.
This lad is on point !
It’s fab what you do on here is nobody’s business unless your in a relationship . Are you saying we’re in a relationship now.
Wer going steady the last 2 weeks you nut but it’s official now !
Congratulations x "
Congratulations to you too, I’m a fucking catch! |
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"In all of my time on Fab (coming and going) I've not met anyone through the forums.
I've created online friendships through the forum but only had meets with none forum posters.
I'm not sure how double standards come into it
Maybe just a desperate attempt to sway your choice.
This lad is on point !
It’s fab what you do on here is nobody’s business unless your in a relationship . Are you saying we’re in a relationship now.
Wer going steady the last 2 weeks you nut but it’s official now !
Congratulations x
Congratulations to you too, I’m a fucking catch! "
So I believe it’s a verbal contract your fucked now x |
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I have a feeling whoever said that doesn't understand what that means.