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Writing Sex Stories from a females perspective as a guy
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Well, as the title states.
I’m a guy who has always played around with the idea of writing sex stories but from a females perspective.
How do you think that would go down with women? |
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It depends how well you do it I think. I (f) recently wrote one from a man's perspective that was well received.
Men write from a woman's perspective all the time and vice versa. Personally I don't have a problem with it |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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If you read the erotica on here in which men write from the female perspective, it goes down very well with the men.
On a personal note (and avoiding being too disparaging) I can read when it's a man's voice speaking as a woman and it's jarring and not particularly arousing to read or convincing. It might be different for you though OP! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I have always taken the approach that the sexual desires men and women have aren’t that different. It’s just the approach each sex takes to satisfy their sexual needs is different. But at times not that much as well.
Historically and even now Male authors have always found it difficult to write female characters in general fiction. So I wanted to try and take a different approach to not looking at a woman as how I see them but thinking. What would a woman do in this situation. |
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"I have always taken the approach that the sexual desires men and women have aren’t that different. It’s just the approach each sex takes to satisfy their sexual needs is different. But at times not that much as well.
Historically and even now Male authors have always found it difficult to write female characters in general fiction. So I wanted to try and take a different approach to not looking at a woman as how I see them but thinking. What would a woman do in this situation."
Your success or otherwise will depend on how accurately you can imagine what a woman would do in any given situation. Not all women will react in the same way. Do you build a character before you start writing or let them develop as the story unfolds? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Your success or otherwise will depend on how accurately you can imagine what a woman would do in any given situation. Not all women will react in the same way. Do you build a character before you start writing or let them develop as the story unfolds?"
I build the character first, give her a life, personality in terms of what she is doing in the present. The build the characters of the people on her life. Family, friends, boyfriend, coworkers. Something like building the world around her after I’m happy with the foundational aspects of her.
Then I would look at how things unfold for her day to day life.
Maybe throw her world ajar and see how she would react. Disturb her routine and her perception of what is normal. |
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Your success or otherwise will depend on how accurately you can imagine what a woman would do in any given situation. Not all women will react in the same way. Do you build a character before you start writing or let them develop as the story unfolds?
I build the character first, give her a life, personality in terms of what she is doing in the present. The build the characters of the people on her life. Family, friends, boyfriend, coworkers. Something like building the world around her after I’m happy with the foundational aspects of her.
Then I would look at how things unfold for her day to day life.
Maybe throw her world ajar and see how she would react. Disturb her routine and her perception of what is normal."
That's a fairly solid foundation for most stories |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can only write in the first person as if I'm writing directly to someone else - not a "story" as such.
I guess if you're a guy and want to write from a woman's PoV it purely depends how good a writer you are. Stephen King is good at writing as a woman in the 1st person... but then he's one of the most prolific and successful authors of the last 50 years. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I think so as well.
I guess I will start by penning down the general idea of the character and see where it leads me.
Even starting something that may not be perfect would be a good learning experience. |
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Your success or otherwise will depend on how accurately you can imagine what a woman would do in any given situation. Not all women will react in the same way. Do you build a character before you start writing or let them develop as the story unfolds?
I build the character first, give her a life, personality in terms of what she is doing in the present. The build the characters of the people on her life. Family, friends, boyfriend, coworkers. Something like building the world around her after I’m happy with the foundational aspects of her.
Then I would look at how things unfold for her day to day life.
Maybe throw her world ajar and see how she would react. Disturb her routine and her perception of what is normal."
Do you research by asking women how they'd react in certain circumstances or go on observation?
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I tended to do my nails and check my Facebook while a man slid himself in and out of me. I found the doggy position was best for this and most men didn't seem to mind. They always took my 'aaahhhs' over cute cat videos as an expression of the pleasure they assumed I was feeling." |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Your success or otherwise will depend on how accurately you can imagine what a woman would do in any given situation. Not all women will react in the same way. Do you build a character before you start writing or let them develop as the story unfolds?
I build the character first, give her a life, personality in terms of what she is doing in the present. The build the characters of the people on her life. Family, friends, boyfriend, coworkers. Something like building the world around her after I’m happy with the foundational aspects of her.
Then I would look at how things unfold for her day to day life.
Maybe throw her world ajar and see how she would react. Disturb her routine and her perception of what is normal.
Do you research by asking women how they'd react in certain circumstances or go on observation?
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I go more from observation and from my experience with the women in my life.
I did this thing a few weeks ago listing every woman I’ve dated (15 on total) and realised that I didn’t have a type as their where all really different from each other but I changed through each relationships. I didn’t sleep with all of them but they were relationships that changed me from when I met the next person. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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""I tended to do my nails and check my Facebook while a man slid himself in and out of me. I found the doggy position was best for this and most men didn't seem to mind. They always took my 'aaahhhs' over cute cat videos as an expression of the pleasure they assumed I was feeling.""
Haha, that sounds like a fun character. But I don’t think I know enough yet to build her. I was leaning towards a coming of age character but a bit older who thought the world was one thing but learns that it isn’t. Her world is bigger than what she built it to be. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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""I tended to do my nails and check my Facebook while a man slid himself in and out of me. I found the doggy position was best for this and most men didn't seem to mind. They always took my 'aaahhhs' over cute cat videos as an expression of the pleasure they assumed I was feeling."
Haha, that sounds like a fun character. But I don’t think I know enough yet to build her. I was leaning towards a coming of age character but a bit older who thought the world was one thing but learns that it isn’t. Her world is bigger than what she built it to be."
Thank you 
I think years ago I wrote an erotic story from a woman's perspective called 'Peeping Tamara' (might still have it bouncing around somewhere).
The only advice I can think of is to read some erotica written by women (and not just aimed at women). Then write something and show it to some women friends and ask them to critique it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Thank you
I think years ago I wrote an erotic story from a woman's perspective called 'Peeping Tamara' (might still have it bouncing around somewhere).
The only advice I can think of is to read some erotica written by women (and not just aimed at women). Then write something and show it to some women friends and ask them to critique it."
Thanks! Appreciate the advice. If you do find your story do share it. It would be interesting to see how you faired. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Thank you
I think years ago I wrote an erotic story from a woman's perspective called 'Peeping Tamara' (might still have it bouncing around somewhere).
The only advice I can think of is to read some erotica written by women (and not just aimed at women). Then write something and show it to some women friends and ask them to critique it.
Thanks! Appreciate the advice. If you do find your story do share it. It would be interesting to see how you faired."
I'll have a look. If I find it I'll post it in the stories section and let you know. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I think it depends on your target audience too. I find Bridget Jones intensely annoying so a character similar to her would alienate me but lots of women identify strongly with her."
I'd say women have come a long way from relating to Bridget Jones. The character of Bridget just won't work anymore as I find it hard to believe women aren't as forthcoming as they where before.
They way I see it she was never grounded in reality and the character was too farfetched. |
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"I think it depends on your target audience too. I find Bridget Jones intensely annoying so a character similar to her would alienate me but lots of women identify strongly with her.
I'd say women have come a long way from relating to Bridget Jones. The character of Bridget just won't work anymore as I find it hard to believe women aren't as forthcoming as they where before.
They way I see it she was never grounded in reality and the character was too farfetched. "
And yet many women identified with her... |
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By *ad NannaWoman
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"I think it depends on your target audience too. I find Bridget Jones intensely annoying so a character similar to her would alienate me but lots of women identify strongly with her.
I'd say women have come a long way from relating to Bridget Jones. The character of Bridget just won't work anymore as I find it hard to believe women aren't as forthcoming as they where before.
They way I see it she was never grounded in reality and the character was too farfetched. "
I wouldn't associate Bridget Jones with erotic sex. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think it depends on your target audience too. I find Bridget Jones intensely annoying so a character similar to her would alienate me but lots of women identify strongly with her.
I'd say women have come a long way from relating to Bridget Jones. The character of Bridget just won't work anymore as I find it hard to believe women aren't as forthcoming as they where before.
They way I see it she was never grounded in reality and the character was too farfetched.
I wouldn't associate Bridget Jones with erotic sex."
That would be a challenge to make a 'real' sex scene erotic. |
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"I think it depends on your target audience too. I find Bridget Jones intensely annoying so a character similar to her would alienate me but lots of women identify strongly with her.
I'd say women have come a long way from relating to Bridget Jones. The character of Bridget just won't work anymore as I find it hard to believe women aren't as forthcoming as they where before.
They way I see it she was never grounded in reality and the character was too farfetched.
I wouldn't associate Bridget Jones with erotic sex."
 neither would I but I believe you can only write any character if you know all about them. Bridget Jones is just a stereotype really |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"You will have to know exactly how a woman's body reacts to a man's touch.
I've found that men tend to describe what's happening rather than how the woman feels.
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That is quite insightful. Something for me to explore. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Something like: ‘She removed her red Prada shoes sensually for which she had a perfectly matching handbag which incidentally also exactly matched the shade of nail polish she was wearing…’"
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