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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"in your marriage. When you have to share your husband or wife with someone else. Breaking your marriage vows to God."
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"in your marriage. When you have to share your husband or wife with someone else. Breaking your marriage vows to God."
depends on which God you are referring to I guess?
we share together, it's not deceitful... every couple work out their boundaries for themselves, nobody's right to judge. |
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People don't HAVE to share their OH
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I did think it was a choice based on communication between the couple, who knew it was a requirement eh?!
OP, there will be some folks in relationships that aren't exactly healthy, and one part will apply pressure to share, making the other person feel as though they have to, to keep their partner (some peeps are master manipulators) but ultimately no... nobody HAS to do anything.
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Leviticus 19:28—"Ye shall not make any cuttings in your flesh for the dead, nor print any marks upon you"
well that's all of us with tattoos going straight to hell ?? |
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"Leviticus 19:28—"Ye shall not make any cuttings in your flesh for the dead, nor print any marks upon you"
well that's all of us with tattoos going straight to hell ?? "
Poly cotton is also right out. |
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By *hesblokeMan
over a year ago
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"Leviticus 19:28—"Ye shall not make any cuttings in your flesh for the dead, nor print any marks upon you"
well that's all of us with tattoos going straight to hell ??
Poly cotton is also right out."
Go through the book and we're all buggered. Well, not buggered, because I don't think that's allowed. Fucked. As long as you're married. In most cases.
I thought my tax credits form was complicated, Sheesh! |
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"Leviticus 19:28—"Ye shall not make any cuttings in your flesh for the dead, nor print any marks upon you"
well that's all of us with tattoos going straight to hell ??
Poly cotton is also right out.
Go through the book and we're all buggered. Well, not buggered, because I don't think that's allowed. Fucked. As long as you're married. In most cases.
I thought my tax credits form was complicated, Sheesh!"
Give unto Caesar that which is Caesar's.
Also fuck fig trees, and flip tables |
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By *hesblokeMan
over a year ago
Derbyshire village |
"Leviticus 19:28—"Ye shall not make any cuttings in your flesh for the dead, nor print any marks upon you"
well that's all of us with tattoos going straight to hell ??
Poly cotton is also right out.
Go through the book and we're all buggered. Well, not buggered, because I don't think that's allowed. Fucked. As long as you're married. In most cases.
I thought my tax credits form was complicated, Sheesh!
Give unto Caesar that which is Caesar's.
Also fuck fig trees, and flip tables"
As a kid, I quite liked some of the songs, so it's got that going for it. And they do good architecture.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Surely though you are not breaking vows if both are in agreement?"
Some people have the 'forsaking all others' bit in their vows so, technically, you are breaking them. However, you've agreed to do that so it's no one's business but yours |
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"Leviticus 19:28—"Ye shall not make any cuttings in your flesh for the dead, nor print any marks upon you"
well that's all of us with tattoos going straight to hell ??
Poly cotton is also right out.
Go through the book and we're all buggered. Well, not buggered, because I don't think that's allowed. Fucked. As long as you're married. In most cases.
I thought my tax credits form was complicated, Sheesh!
Give unto Caesar that which is Caesar's.
Also fuck fig trees, and flip tables
As a kid, I quite liked some of the songs, so it's got that going for it. And they do good architecture. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"in your marriage. When you have to share your husband or wife with someone else. Breaking your marriage vows to God."
God can do one, as long as both parties are happy so what |
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By *hesblokeMan
over a year ago
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"Surely though you are not breaking vows if both are in agreement?
Some people have the 'forsaking all others' bit in their vows so, technically, you are breaking them. However, you've agreed to do that so it's no one's business but yours "
Can't remember ours, but mine were basically "love you, and I'll never make you do owt you don't want to, and I'll do owt you want". Then lots of tears, 'cos I'm a wuss. - Mr. |
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By *hesblokeMan
over a year ago
Derbyshire village |
"in your marriage. When you have to share your husband or wife with someone else. Breaking your marriage vows to God.
God can do one, as long as both parties are happy so what "
If he pops round for a coffee and complains about it, I'll let you all know. Until that day... |
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By *rsPricklePantsWoman
over a year ago
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"in your marriage. When you have to share your husband or wife with someone else. Breaking your marriage vows to God."
Funny question for someone that wants to join in with a couple
When I married my husband we didn't actually vow to be only with eachother as neither of us thought it was right as swingers |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"in your marriage. When you have to share your husband or wife with someone else. Breaking your marriage vows to God.
God can do one, as long as both parties are happy so what
If he pops round for a coffee and complains about it, I'll let you all know. Until that day..."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Surely though you are not breaking vows if both are in agreement?
Some people have the 'forsaking all others' bit in their vows so, technically, you are breaking them. However, you've agreed to do that so it's no one's business but yours
Can't remember ours, but mine were basically "love you, and I'll never make you do owt you don't want to, and I'll do owt you want". Then lots of tears, 'cos I'm a wuss. - Mr."
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"If there is a god can you ask him to stop covid before asking him if its a sin. Lol
Also, have a word about childhood cancers?"
I think childhood cancer may be a disease and nothing to do with what people believe in,but I stand to be corrected. |
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By *hesblokeMan
over a year ago
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"If there is a god can you ask him to stop covid before asking him if its a sin. Lol
Also, have a word about childhood cancers?
I think childhood cancer may be a disease and nothing to do with what people believe in,but I stand to be corrected."
Sorry I thought He created the Bally lot. Apologies. |
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We are not religious at all and we have been together 27 years so we must be doing something right in our marriage . If having a happy marriage where we can discuss anything and everything is wrong then I’m glad I’m wrong .
What about those that get married in front of god and then lie and cheat .. |
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"If there is a god can you ask him to stop covid before asking him if its a sin. Lol
Also, have a word about childhood cancers?
I think childhood cancer may be a disease and nothing to do with what people believe in,but I stand to be corrected.
Sorry I thought He created the Bally lot. Apologies."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"in your marriage. When you have to share your husband or wife with someone else. Breaking your marriage vows to God."
well I'm an atheist so it doesn't what "god" thinks cos he's mythical to me.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"in your marriage. When you have to share your husband or wife with someone else. Breaking your marriage vows to God. well I'm an atheist so it doesn't what "god" thinks cos he's mythical to me. "
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So, just for completeness, if you're a Christian then the commandments are rewritten by Jesus to:
1) Honour the Lord with all your heart, soul and mind
2) Love your neighbour as yourself
Therefore, if I share my wife I'm actually following half of the above commandments. So it's heaven for me!
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By *ubwife4uCouple
over a year ago
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In answer to the original post. We, Like all those who had a traditional marriage, perhaps even in a church of all places, made vows to each other. We didn’t make them TO God. Just in his presence allegedly, although I don’t recall seeing him in the crowd and he definitely isn’t in any photos!
We said traditional vows, so in context, perhaps we are breaking one. BUT we are both in agreement with this change in our views. Neither is lying, cheating or doing so involuntarily . We are still joined as one in matrimony.
Getting divorced Breaks the whole “till death do is part” bit where usually only one person wants it and it causes immense psychological pain to many.
(Not digging at those who are divorced for any reason and not wanting to cause a riot. Just making a point). But is the OP suggesting then that those in abusive relationships should grin and bare it just because many years ago they said they would be with that person until death. |
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By *hesblokeMan
over a year ago
Derbyshire village |
"In answer to the original post. We, Like all those who had a traditional marriage, perhaps even in a church of all places, made vows to each other. We didn’t make them TO God. Just in his presence allegedly, although I don’t recall seeing him in the crowd and he definitely isn’t in any photos! ...
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No gift either, then? Not even a toaster? |
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By *ubwife4uCouple
over a year ago
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"Devoutly religious people probably wouldn't have sex with other people."
And yet, in my experience, they can be the most two faced, judgemental and self righteous people on earth.
Oh and let’s not forget all the stories in the past about priests and choir boys! |
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By *ubwife4uCouple
over a year ago
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"In answer to the original post. We, Like all those who had a traditional marriage, perhaps even in a church of all places, made vows to each other. We didn’t make them TO God. Just in his presence allegedly, although I don’t recall seeing him in the crowd and he definitely isn’t in any photos! ...
No gift either, then? Not even a toaster?"
 and when the vicar told us our marriage included god, I kid you not, my wife said “ so where’s he going to sleep?” |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Leviticus 19:28—"Ye shall not make any cuttings in your flesh for the dead, nor print any marks upon you"
well that's all of us with tattoos going straight to hell ?? "
Yah, that's us and all the living together BDSM couples hot on your heels...
Hell is going to be an amazing party  |
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By *hesblokeMan
over a year ago
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"In answer to the original post. We, Like all those who had a traditional marriage, perhaps even in a church of all places, made vows to each other. We didn’t make them TO God. Just in his presence allegedly, although I don’t recall seeing him in the crowd and he definitely isn’t in any photos! ...
No gift either, then? Not even a toaster?
and when the vicar told us our marriage included god, I kid you not, my wife said “ so where’s he going to sleep?” "
"I'll make up the guest room, with the good carafe..." |
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By *ubwife4uCouple
over a year ago
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"In answer to the original post. We, Like all those who had a traditional marriage, perhaps even in a church of all places, made vows to each other. We didn’t make them TO God. Just in his presence allegedly, although I don’t recall seeing him in the crowd and he definitely isn’t in any photos! ...
No gift either, then? Not even a toaster?
and when the vicar told us our marriage included god, I kid you not, my wife said “ so where’s he going to sleep?”
"I'll make up the guest room, with the good carafe...""
If we knew then what we know now, he could have just joined us. But like many men (presumably) on swinging sites, he promises to be there but is no where to be seen! |
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"in your marriage. When you have to share your husband or wife with someone else. Breaking your marriage vows to God."
Far from lol, trust is the key here
We all have fantasies just some are lucky enough to be able to explore them together
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By (user no longer on site)
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"in your marriage. When you have to share your husband or wife with someone else. Breaking your marriage vows to God."
Without the God reference this is actually a good point.
There are a lot of couples that aren't here to experience things together.
There are real problems like boredom with each other and ED
Or more often than not one of you is more enthusiastic than the other.
I haven't read the thread so sorry if I'm repeating someone else's thoughts. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"in your marriage. When you have to share your husband or wife with someone else. Breaking your marriage vows to God.
Far from lol, trust is the key here
We all have fantasies just some are lucky enough to be able to explore them together
Mr "
I'd have thought a lot of couples that swing have really good relationships. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes.
100%
But fuuuuck...
We have some amazing sex.
I mean, it’s like the most fantastical sex anyone has ever had since Adam first worked out what Eve’s slot was for |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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"in your marriage. When you have to share your husband or wife with someone else. Breaking your marriage vows to God.
Far from lol, trust is the key here
We all have fantasies just some are lucky enough to be able to explore them together
Mr
I'd have thought a lot of couples that swing have really good relationships."
I agree completely. And if a couple don't get on while being in the scene - chance are, they have had problems before they started. And... nothing really to do with any God. |
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"in your marriage. When you have to share your husband or wife with someone else. Breaking your marriage vows to God.
Far from lol, trust is the key here
We all have fantasies just some are lucky enough to be able to explore them together
Mr
I'd have thought a lot of couples that swing have really good relationships.
I agree completely. And if a couple don't get on while being in the scene - chance are, they have had problems before they started. And... nothing really to do with any God."
Yep we got involved because we had no issues although can’t speak for others x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"in your marriage. When you have to share your husband or wife with someone else. Breaking your marriage vows to God."
Seeing lives cut short in a instant.Wishing they could have lived it well. We choose to do so because if the vows where as important to be judged. Well thou shalt not kill is a judgement too. |
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"in your marriage. When you have to share your husband or wife with someone else. Breaking your marriage vows to God."
Neither of us have to share. We agreed together that we wanted to include others in our sex life.
God has no place in our marriag, as no vows were made to any deitt. We are atheist and chose to get married un a civil ceremony because we love each other. |
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"in your marriage. When you have to share your husband or wife with someone else. Breaking your marriage vows to God.
Neither of us have to share. We agreed together that we wanted to include others in our sex life.
God has no place in our marriag, as no vows were made to any deitt. We are atheist and chose to get married un a civil ceremony because we love each other. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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wow 
no, my husband broke his vows to me, when he had a long affair, all while i was pregnant with our youngest child. he then proceeded to make us homeless, to shack up with her, and ignore our children.
my other half and i have sex with whomever we like to, as an addition to our loving relationship, that's it.
the neck of you coming on a swingers site, and putting something like this up, is beyond me! P. |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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"Devoutly religious people probably wouldn't have sex with other people.
And yet, in my experience, they can be the most two faced, judgemental and self righteous people on earth.
Oh and let’s not forget all the stories in the past about priests and choir boys! "
I've found that with a lot of very religious Christians and JW I worked with.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I personally wouldn't want to be part of a swinging relationship. However from the people I've met over the years who do invite others in, their relationships are strong, loving, committed and happy. I can only hope one day I manage the same. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"in your marriage. When you have to share your husband or wife with someone else. Breaking your marriage vows to God."
Bit rich coming from someone that is looking for a couple to share, don't you think?? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"in your marriage. When you have to share your husband or wife with someone else. Breaking your marriage vows to God.
Bit rich coming from someone that is looking for a couple to share, don't you think?? "
I have been with couples, non-married couples. |
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"in your marriage. When you have to share your husband or wife with someone else. Breaking your marriage vows to God.
Bit rich coming from someone that is looking for a couple to share, don't you think??
I have been with couples, non-married couples. "
So what is the point of this thread OP,is it just to infuriate and wind people up? |
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"in your marriage. When you have to share your husband or wife with someone else. Breaking your marriage vows to God.
Bit rich coming from someone that is looking for a couple to share, don't you think??
I have been with couples, non-married couples. "
Not the point they were making... |
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