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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
After a little chat that I had yesterday, it got me thinking as to what puts people off another person. Most of us are here to meet others and will flirt or try to put the best foot forward in terms of ourselves, so that others see us in a positive light, is that the best approach though?
I’m aware that I’m a contrary sod at times and I’m prone to speak (or write) my mind which has precluded folks meeting me, however I see that as just an indicator that we weren’t compatible and I enjoy meeting people who I can disagree with but understand there’s a respect there.
So what would put you off meeting people? Do you prefer folks to be agreeable and flirty? Would politics or religious views make you rethink?
I realise that attraction is a difficult beast to pin down but what would be a deal breaker? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Very poor grammer/text talk.
I can handle the typos or some not being able to spell so well but sometimes it is just painful to read.
Crudeness too, being on a sex site doesn't mean I want to sext with you or help you wank off.
Finally, non profile readers, or worse, those who read and see they are not your type but still try it anyway. |
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Oh, so many things...I'm a pernickety bugger  
Some of the biggies are hypocrisy, lying, being false, not having the mental agility to debate and respect different opinions, being too serious.
On here, specifically with regards to meeting...if I don't fancy them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Very poor grammer/text talk.
I can handle the typos or some not being able to spell so well but sometimes it is just painful to read.
Crudeness too, being on a sex site doesn't mean I want to sext with you or help you wank off.
Finally, non profile readers, or worse, those who read and see they are not your type but still try it anyway."
Faf?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Very poor grammer/text talk.
I can handle the typos or some not being able to spell so well but sometimes it is just painful to read.
Crudeness too, being on a sex site doesn't mean I want to sext with you or help you wank off.
Finally, non profile readers, or worse, those who read and see they are not your type but still try it anyway.
Faf? "
You see, more non profile reading right there. I am female dear! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Very poor grammer/text talk.
I can handle the typos or some not being able to spell so well but sometimes it is just painful to read.
Crudeness too, being on a sex site doesn't mean I want to sext with you or help you wank off.
Finally, non profile readers, or worse, those who read and see they are not your type but still try it anyway."
This xx
And telling lies, been on a year - fill in later, not picture verified, wants to see my friends gallery but has no pictures. Is on the other side of the country x
Guess I’m also picky xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've stopped thinking I'm here to impress or show myself in the 'best' light. It's not so much put me off but if conversation in messaging feels like 'work' or I'm doing all the 'heavy lifting' then my enthusiasm and mind will drift away from it. |
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By *hesblokeMan
over a year ago
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Apart from the not-reading-profile stuff, which everyone find frustrating, surely?
Being overly crude, demanding, airing political views to get a reaction (if the discussion isn't about it) and just generally people not being nice.
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I blocked my neighbour from what's app cos I got sick of getting 'red neck' videos regarding immigrants.
People who think they are superior leave me cold.
Men who think they can 'persuade' you to perform a sex act that you don't want to.
Men who think women who have intellect and opinions are feminist , lesbian , bitches ( yes it still does happen )
Men who patronise and speak to women as if they are children or lesser humans.
( it is men I promise. I 'm not a misandrist )
Lack of hygiene will put me off men or women.
Women who bitch behind others backs.
Men who do the same......
Shit stirrers, Liars, Freeloaders
People who lack the ability to reason.
People who are easily persuaded to join in unsubstantiated rants about individuals and societies.
Buying Gold Wallpaper and Fuck off expensive chairs.
Kier Starhmer
That bloke from the Asda Advert.
Bad mannered kids in adverts....
That fucking kid in the Robinsons Adverts...
Ageists, Racists, Anything ists..... Fucking apologists better be sorry!
Woke people. Non Woke people. The word woke.....
Anyone who thinks that P.C. is a police officer
Anyone who doesn't like Line of Duty ....
That'll do for now |
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A Few things really! Different opinions is a big thing if it's something I'm passionate about! For instance I had a coffee meet with bloke from pof few years back! And he was very opinionated he was loudly racist! About a man on next table! And about a baby crying! Was so embarrassing! Then he got onto transgender people! That was last straw as have a transgender daughter which I told him! Then got up and walked out! Was so arrogant! He continued to shout after me he could get any woman he wanted! Was deffo my worst experiance!  ! X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I blocked my neighbour from what's app cos I got sick of getting 'red neck' videos regarding immigrants.
People who think they are superior leave me cold.
Men who think they can 'persuade' you to perform a sex act that you don't want to.
Men who think women who have intellect and opinions are feminist , lesbian , bitches ( yes it still does happen )
Men who patronise and speak to women as if they are children or lesser humans.
( it is men I promise. I 'm not a misandrist )
Lack of hygiene will put me off men or women.
Women who bitch behind others backs.
Men who do the same......
Shit stirrers, Liars, Freeloaders
People who lack the ability to reason.
People who are easily persuaded to join in unsubstantiated rants about individuals and societies.
Buying Gold Wallpaper and Fuck off expensive chairs.
Kier Starhmer
That bloke from the Asda Advert.
Bad mannered kids in adverts....
That fucking kid in the Robinsons Adverts...
Ageists, Racists, Anything ists..... Fucking apologists better be sorry!
Woke people. Non Woke people. The word woke.....
Anyone who thinks that P.C. is a police officer
Anyone who doesn't like Line of Duty ....
That'll do for now"
And ... breathe ... |
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Holy fuck so much.
Inconsistencies.
Are they in demand? If so, I'll pass. Too much aggy stuff goes on behind the scenes for me to get involved.
Do I need to make an effort? Yes? Urgh, can't be arsed. No? Urgh, they've got no standards the skank.
Racial stuff? Fuck off.
Cheating? Don't even start me.
Don't like dogs? Hmmm, is it because they can sniff out the evil lurking? Pass.
Dirty? Go have a wash ffs
My list goes on like Ariston |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some people are married to their misery. They need something in their lives to make it more interesting or sad or dramatic and they complain and moan to get the correct responses. I have to avoid the emotional vampires.
Not people with real problems or real issues. They are different.
I also don't like hypocrisy.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I blocked my neighbour from what's app cos I got sick of getting 'red neck' videos regarding immigrants.
People who think they are superior leave me cold.
Men who think they can 'persuade' you to perform a sex act that you don't want to.
Men who think women who have intellect and opinions are feminist , lesbian , bitches ( yes it still does happen )
Men who patronise and speak to women as if they are children or lesser humans.
( it is men I promise. I 'm not a misandrist )
Lack of hygiene will put me off men or women.
Women who bitch behind others backs.
Men who do the same......
Shit stirrers, Liars, Freeloaders
People who lack the ability to reason.
People who are easily persuaded to join in unsubstantiated rants about individuals and societies.
Buying Gold Wallpaper and Fuck off expensive chairs.
Kier Starhmer
That bloke from the Asda Advert.
Bad mannered kids in adverts....
That fucking kid in the Robinsons Adverts...
Ageists, Racists, Anything ists..... Fucking apologists better be sorry!
Woke people. Non Woke people. The word woke.....
Anyone who thinks that P.C. is a police officer
Anyone who doesn't like Line of Duty ....
That'll do for now"
But apart from that you're easy? |
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"People meeting/looking to meet during Covid/lockdown. Rude, arrogant people. Poor grammar & spelling. Cheats. Blank profiles, crude messages. The list goes on! "
Pretty much this, any hate speech on the forums and people who are too close too home.
Is there a limit to the number of people you can block?...  |
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"If the toe next to their big toe is longer than their big toe or if they can’t lick their own elbow.
My poor toe!!
You are so toeist  "
We could have had something beautiful but my prejudice won’t allow it.
I wish you and the toe all the best |
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"People meeting/looking to meet during Covid/lockdown. Rude, arrogant people. Poor grammar & spelling. Cheats. Blank profiles, crude messages. The list goes on!
Pretty much this, any hate speech on the forums and people who are too close too home.
Is there a limit to the number of people you can block?... "
Nope
My list is probably in the tens of thousands |
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Bad manners...Lack of Respect.....Lack of Social skills...Constant Beeping etc etc of Their phone...Constant looking at their phone ..Talking to us whilst looking at their phones and non matching under wear on a female (mrs4)...pushy types..Celeb/reality/talent tv show fans..ones who declare they read as they are on" Face Book" ( mr4)..people who ask mr4 why he has so many books and people who ask what we are after ???  |
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"Drama!! I don’t want it thank you, I’ve been put off by people I’ve met many times who then ask me not to mention it if it so-and-so was around or online  seriously they are welcome to you has always been my response to that  "
Yeah I've had this. I never will be someone's dirty little secret just so they can keep in with the crowd. |
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" Bad manners...Lack of Respect.....Lack of Social skills...Constant Beeping etc etc of Their phone...Constant looking at their phone ..Talking to us whilst looking at their phones and non matching under wear on a female (mrs4)...pushy types..Celeb/reality/talent tv show fans..ones who declare they read as they are on" Face Book" ( mr4)..people who ask mr4 why he has so many books and people who ask what we are after ??? "
Fuck those non matching underwear types ...!! bitches.
Why do you have so many books ? |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
Anybody who does not genuinely respect fellow human beings - this includes not awarding others the same privileges you expect for self.
Other than that, by and large, Granny's list will do... minus a couple of points.  |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
Newcastle |
"Add on, any hint of racism, homophobia or transphobia
Bigotry. Yup."
This
as it's very annoying we are in 2021 yet still exists, plus prefer to find a connection to see if any chemistry rather than how great the sex might be. So being direct |
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Mr4 has the joy of dealing with all this and so when they get "Pushy" or imply it's him making up the "Rules" all he's doing is saving them the pain and misery of meeting mrs4 really ?? as her one big thing is "Idiots" and although seeing her "Play" with them they way a cat plays with a mouse ..he thinks life is to short ??  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Political, self righteous types put me off, 'towie' types business obsessed types that cant leave work alone and enjoy life!-(ive met too many of those types)
I like someone layed back and fun. Im not fussed how intelligent someone is, but i do find the talk of travel turns my cogs so well traveled is a bonus. |
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" I like looking "intelligent" plus when the zombies take over ?? we'll never ever run out of toilet roll??? "
Toilet Leaf....... You'll never run out of toilet pages.
Pretty clever.... but when the computers die you'll wish you wiped your arse on facebook. |
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On the forum rudeness. I like a debate can totally be on a different page to each other that's brill. What I don't like is one word answers I mean what is the actual point? You wouldn't walk into a room and say No for example. And those who can't disagree without respect. |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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"Political, self righteous types put me off, 'towie' types business obsessed types that cant leave work alone and enjoy life!-(ive met too many of those types)
I like someone layed back and fun. Im not fussed how intelligent someone is, but i do find the talk of travel turns my cogs so well traveled is a bonus. "
I like hearing of others' travels too.
I can be there without having to sit on a plane for hours.
I like photos too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If there was a reasonable attraction and connection in chat then I'd prefer to meet in person before jumping to too many conclusions. People's persona and behaviour online can be very different from the real world so outside of extremes such as racism I'd be open minded about them in person. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"After a little chat that I had yesterday, it got me thinking as to what puts people off another person. Most of us are here to meet others and will flirt or try to put the best foot forward in terms of ourselves, so that others see us in a positive light, is that the best approach though?
I’m aware that I’m a contrary sod at times and I’m prone to speak (or write) my mind which has precluded folks meeting me, however I see that as just an indicator that we weren’t compatible and I enjoy meeting people who I can disagree with but understand there’s a respect there.
So what would put you off meeting people? Do you prefer folks to be agreeable and flirty? Would politics or religious views make you rethink?
I realise that attraction is a difficult beast to pin down but what would be a deal breaker? "
Pretty much any type of discrimination or putting down previous meets, assuming I will meet now in the first sentence, asking me to wear certain things. |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
I'm put off by people who can cause arguments in empty rooms, or who have totally opposing views to mine. I'm not sating they're wrong and I'm right just that we're not compatible.
Also liars, if someone lies once, I'll never believe a word they say again. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Political, self righteous types put me off, 'towie' types business obsessed types that cant leave work alone and enjoy life!-(ive met too many of those types)
I like someone layed back and fun. Im not fussed how intelligent someone is, but i do find the talk of travel turns my cogs so well traveled is a bonus.
I like hearing of others' travels too.
I can be there without having to sit on a plane for hours.
I like photos too."
Me too. I got chatting to a couple last week at my local, they spent 11 years travelling the world i could have chatted for a year |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Besides the obvious which have been listed up there ^^
Any hint of manipulation or game playing to get what they want and I end the chat. Ie "I asked X and they said they were totally cool with Y so we can do Z", when nothing of the sort happened and X has no idea that Z is happening.
This sort of bullshit happens surprisingly frequently.
My favourite was "I wanted to tell you I was in a relationship but your Asperger's means you wouldn't have been able to process it properly". Amazing. |
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A bad communicator would be a no for us. Not as in doesn't stay in touch enough. I mean people with nothing to say and can't hold a conversation. If somebody wants sex but no conversation then that ain't going to happen.
Also Trump supporters can jog on. |
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"I blocked my neighbour from what's app cos I got sick of getting 'red neck' videos regarding immigrants.
People who think they are superior leave me cold.
Men who think they can 'persuade' you to perform a sex act that you don't want to.
Men who think women who have intellect and opinions are feminist , lesbian , bitches ( yes it still does happen )
Men who patronise and speak to women as if they are children or lesser humans.
( it is men I promise. I 'm not a misandrist )
Lack of hygiene will put me off men or women.
Women who bitch behind others backs.
Men who do the same......
Shit stirrers, Liars, Freeloaders
People who lack the ability to reason.
People who are easily persuaded to join in unsubstantiated rants about individuals and societies.
Buying Gold Wallpaper and Fuck off expensive chairs.
Kier Starhmer
That bloke from the Asda Advert.
Bad mannered kids in adverts....
That fucking kid in the Robinsons Adverts...
Ageists, Racists, Anything ists..... Fucking apologists better be sorry!
Woke people. Non Woke people. The word woke.....
Anyone who thinks that P.C. is a police officer
Anyone who doesn't like Line of Duty ....
That'll do for now"
All of that and anyone who calls someone else a ‘snowflake’ |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd say one of the biggest things that stops me messaging with a person is when there like over the top with the being constantly complementative or constantly go back every couple of messages to your just so pretty or whatever, like I'd all we have to talk about is how 'hot' you think I am then we have nothing to talk about and I'm bored now |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hypocrites, arrogant, rude and entitled type put me off. People who are always negative and thrive on drama. There’s a lot of things to list but those I certainly avoid ... |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"Besides the obvious which have been listed up there ^^
Any hint of manipulation or game playing to get what they want and I end the chat. Ie "I asked X and they said they were totally cool with Y so we can do Z", when nothing of the sort happened and X has no idea that Z is happening.
This sort of bullshit happens surprisingly frequently.
My favourite was "I wanted to tell you I was in a relationship but your Asperger's means you wouldn't have been able to process it properly". Amazing."
That’s pretty awful! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'd say one of the biggest things that stops me messaging with a person is when there like over the top with the being constantly complementative or constantly go back every couple of messages to your just so pretty or whatever, like I'd all we have to talk about is how 'hot' you think I am then we have nothing to talk about and I'm bored now "
This 
Complements are great at the start, not every third message |
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By *hloevtTV/TS
over a year ago
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"I'd say one of the biggest things that stops me messaging with a person is when there like over the top with the being constantly complementative or constantly go back every couple of messages to your just so pretty or whatever, like I'd all we have to talk about is how 'hot' you think I am then we have nothing to talk about and I'm bored now
This
Complements are great at the start, not every third message"
I'm guilty of this as your look is amazing and you're an inspiration, sorry x |
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People who are awful at making conversation. It takes 2 to have a conversation, not just me asking and you answering. It's not a damn interview! Other than that, people with loud personalities who try to make everything about themselves even when the topic has nothing to do with them. It reeks of insecurity |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m so fussy, and I get the ‘ick’ so easily.
Rude or crude, pushy or entitled are all turnoffs,
as are negativity and moaning.
Sending dick pics is a no obv.
I also had one who had sent me a few pics, but then he sent one, and he looked so much like my brother, it was an instant turnoff too |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'd say one of the biggest things that stops me messaging with a person is when there like over the top with the being constantly complementative or constantly go back every couple of messages to your just so pretty or whatever, like I'd all we have to talk about is how 'hot' you think I am then we have nothing to talk about and I'm bored now
This
Complements are great at the start, not every third message
I'm guilty of this as your look is amazing and you're an inspiration, sorry x "
But you have literally JUST DONE what I said above.
It can get too much when you follow on the forums doing it alot also. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'd say one of the biggest things that stops me messaging with a person is when there like over the top with the being constantly complementative or constantly go back every couple of messages to your just so pretty or whatever, like I'd all we have to talk about is how 'hot' you think I am then we have nothing to talk about and I'm bored now "
Yeah totally, I’m like can we just stop talking about my hotness and talk about the Renaissance arts or some shit. |
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At initial message stage, loads of things put me off, so I’ll answer based on what puts me off people I’ve started talking to. Any hint of bigotry, however faint; talking down to me or acting superior; being pushy, pressuring me, demanding photos; calling me babe; only messaging me with their dick in their hand; only ever wanting to talk about sex; there’s probably more, but those are the main things. |
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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago
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Pettiness, arrogance, dilutions of grandeur or people who paint one picture of themselves in a profile yet the message depicts a very different nature..I’ve no time for false people or entitlement x
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By *nfin8yWoman
over a year ago
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"Very poor grammer/text talk.
I can handle the typos or some not being able to spell so well but sometimes it is just painful to read.
Crudeness too, being on a sex site doesn't mean I want to sext with you or help you wank off.
Finally, non profile readers, or worse, those who read and see they are not your type but still try it anyway."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Besides the obvious which have been listed up there ^^
Any hint of manipulation or game playing to get what they want and I end the chat. Ie "I asked X and they said they were totally cool with Y so we can do Z", when nothing of the sort happened and X has no idea that Z is happening.
This sort of bullshit happens surprisingly frequently.
My favourite was "I wanted to tell you I was in a relationship but your Asperger's means you wouldn't have been able to process it properly". Amazing."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People who ignore me for days on end half way thru a conversation it just makes me think there a dog chasing cars if im so unimportant for 30 seconds worth of a message and people who bury there head when theres a challenge to overcome |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ppls, Inability to be there trueselves, I.e, craving attention but displaying thats not the case, if it is then stand in your truth n say that, as masks always slip n true colours come out in the end |
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"Besides the obvious which have been listed up there ^^
Any hint of manipulation or game playing to get what they want and I end the chat. Ie "I asked X and they said they were totally cool with Y so we can do Z", when nothing of the sort happened and X has no idea that Z is happening.
This sort of bullshit happens surprisingly frequently.
My favourite was "I wanted to tell you I was in a relationship but your Asperger's means you wouldn't have been able to process it properly". Amazing."
Nell, I got twitchy fists reading that last bit. I just .... *sigh* |
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"People who judge others before getting to know them.
Who is judging, if you feel judged Sparkle, why do you feel judged is what I'd be asking myself "
I don't feel judged. I couldn't care less what anyone thinks of me on here. If they want to play judge and jury then they can crack on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"People who judge others before getting to know them.
Who is judging, if you feel judged Sparkle, why do you feel judged is what I'd be asking myself
I don't feel judged. I couldn't care less what anyone thinks of me on here. If they want to play judge and jury then they can crack on."
Interesting retort, defensive much, the lady "doth protest to much" |
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"People who judge others before getting to know them.
Who is judging, if you feel judged Sparkle, why do you feel judged is what I'd be asking myself
I don't feel judged. I couldn't care less what anyone thinks of me on here. If they want to play judge and jury then they can crack on.
Interesting retort, defensive much, the lady "doth protest to much" "
Not defensive at all. I care about people's opinions that know me and care about me. The rest are irrelevant. If by me saying that makes me "protest" too much, then so be it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"People who judge others before getting to know them.
Who is judging, if you feel judged Sparkle, why do you feel judged is what I'd be asking myself
I don't feel judged. I couldn't care less what anyone thinks of me on here. If they want to play judge and jury then they can crack on.
Interesting retort, defensive much, the lady "doth protest to much"
Not defensive at all. I care about people's opinions that know me and care about me. The rest are irrelevant. If by me saying that makes me "protest" too much, then so be it."
Your defending your corner, if it was true that you truly didn't care,,what those who do not know you think about you, then why are you replying all all this shit |
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"People who judge others before getting to know them.
Who is judging, if you feel judged Sparkle, why do you feel judged is what I'd be asking myself
I don't feel judged. I couldn't care less what anyone thinks of me on here. If they want to play judge and jury then they can crack on.
Interesting retort, defensive much, the lady "doth protest to much"
Not defensive at all. I care about people's opinions that know me and care about me. The rest are irrelevant. If by me saying that makes me "protest" too much, then so be it.
Your defending your corner, if it was true that you truly didn't care,,what those who do not know you think about you, then why are you replying all all this shit "
I am being respectful by replying. You have said your piece and I've said mine. Done and dusted. |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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Quite a few things really. Some of them include:
I prefer chilled laidback types that send a message as and when. They’re not pushy, they’re happy to just go with the flow. I don’t like neediness in a man. However that has to be tempered with showing an actual interest.
I don’t like long emails, I lose interest and I start to think of replying as a chore and I feel guilty for not being enthused and heck Fab is supposed to be fun.
I don’t get on with men who take themselves too seriously or who take me and my forum humour too seriously, I’m aware I can be smutty and vulgar in some posts, but I’m not like that in person and don’t need a lecture on how a woman should behave.
Any form of abuse. If they name and shame folk or cause drama. If they declare undying love to another forumite publicly whilst trying to woo me privately.
I go with my gut instinct a lot and sometimes you just get a bad feeling about someone.
And sometimes you just don’t have chemistry, and there is no point in trying to flog a dead horse, even for a top notch shag.
I’m also incredibly moody so I need someone upbeat. Two moody folk together is just a disaster waiting to happen. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"People who judge others before getting to know them.
Who is judging, if you feel judged Sparkle, why do you feel judged is what I'd be asking myself
I don't feel judged. I couldn't care less what anyone thinks of me on here. If they want to play judge and jury then they can crack on.
Interesting retort, defensive much, the lady "doth protest to much"
Not defensive at all. I care about people's opinions that know me and care about me. The rest are irrelevant. If by me saying that makes me "protest" too much, then so be it.
Your defending your corner, if it was true that you truly didn't care,,what those who do not know you think about you, then why are you replying all all this shit
I am being respectful by replying. You have said your piece and I've said mine. Done and dusted."
Cool you can have the last word lol. |
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"Quite a few things really. Some of them include:
I prefer chilled laidback types that send a message as and when. They’re not pushy, they’re happy to just go with the flow. I don’t like neediness in a man. However that has to be tempered with showing an actual interest.
I don’t like long emails, I lose interest and I start to think of replying as a chore and I feel guilty for not being enthused and heck Fab is supposed to be fun.
I don’t get on with men who take themselves too seriously or who take me and my forum humour too seriously, I’m aware I can be smutty and vulgar in some posts, but I’m not like that in person and don’t need a lecture on how a woman should behave.
Any form of abuse. If they name and shame folk or cause drama. If they declare undying love to another forumite publicly whilst trying to woo me privately.
I go with my gut instinct a lot and sometimes you just get a bad feeling about someone.
And sometimes you just don’t have chemistry, and there is no point in trying to flog a dead horse, even for a top notch shag.
I’m also incredibly moody so I need someone upbeat. Two moody folk together is just a disaster waiting to happen. "
I started reading your post and then lost interest 
But seriously though I can be guilty of typing out long replies, I find it so much easier to carry out a conversation that way other than back and forth sentences. |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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"Quite a few things really. Some of them include:
I prefer chilled laidback types that send a message as and when. They’re not pushy, they’re happy to just go with the flow. I don’t like neediness in a man. However that has to be tempered with showing an actual interest.
I don’t like long emails, I lose interest and I start to think of replying as a chore and I feel guilty for not being enthused and heck Fab is supposed to be fun.
I don’t get on with men who take themselves too seriously or who take me and my forum humour too seriously, I’m aware I can be smutty and vulgar in some posts, but I’m not like that in person and don’t need a lecture on how a woman should behave.
Any form of abuse. If they name and shame folk or cause drama. If they declare undying love to another forumite publicly whilst trying to woo me privately.
I go with my gut instinct a lot and sometimes you just get a bad feeling about someone.
And sometimes you just don’t have chemistry, and there is no point in trying to flog a dead horse, even for a top notch shag.
I’m also incredibly moody so I need someone upbeat. Two moody folk together is just a disaster waiting to happen.
I started reading your post and then lost interest
But seriously though I can be guilty of typing out long replies, I find it so much easier to carry out a conversation that way other than back and forth sentences."
I do waffle  . But I hear you. Probably easier to just pick up the phone and have a chat, but I’m a bit too shy for all that until I’ve actually met someone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People who behave like nasty playground bullies to gain themselves attention especially on a forum thread and its usually always against someone they don't even know!!
No time for those people |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"To go off someone, implies that you already liked them.
That's not my default position "
That’s a fair assessment.
Perhaps the correct phrasing should be what would prevent your interest in a person.
Although I find that most people are like Schrödinger’s cat and exist in a position of being both yes and no until something happens to change it |
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"People who behave like nasty playground bullies to gain themselves attention especially on a forum thread and its usually always against someone they don't even know!!
No time for those people "
Agree |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've stopped thinking I'm here to impress or show myself in the 'best' light. It's not so much put me off but if conversation in messaging feels like 'work' or I'm doing all the 'heavy lifting' then my enthusiasm and mind will drift away from it."
But then I have a mood disorder so I can easily put other people off if they catch me on the 'swing' (so to speak). |
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"Quite a few things really. Some of them include:
I prefer chilled laidback types that send a message as and when. They’re not pushy, they’re happy to just go with the flow. I don’t like neediness in a man. However that has to be tempered with showing an actual interest.
I don’t like long emails, I lose interest and I start to think of replying as a chore and I feel guilty for not being enthused and heck Fab is supposed to be fun.
I don’t get on with men who take themselves too seriously or who take me and my forum humour too seriously, I’m aware I can be smutty and vulgar in some posts, but I’m not like that in person and don’t need a lecture on how a woman should behave.
Any form of abuse. If they name and shame folk or cause drama. If they declare undying love to another forumite publicly whilst trying to woo me privately.
I go with my gut instinct a lot and sometimes you just get a bad feeling about someone.
And sometimes you just don’t have chemistry, and there is no point in trying to flog a dead horse, even for a top notch shag.
I’m also incredibly moody so I need someone upbeat. Two moody folk together is just a disaster waiting to happen.
I started reading your post and then lost interest
But seriously though I can be guilty of typing out long replies, I find it so much easier to carry out a conversation that way other than back and forth sentences.
I do waffle . But I hear you. Probably easier to just pick up the phone and have a chat, but I’m a bit too shy for all that until I’ve actually met someone. "
That's understandable, with longer messages, I can actually put thought into my replies too whereas on the phone, I may become a bit of a stuttering mess |
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By *nfin8yWoman
over a year ago
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"People meeting/looking to meet during Covid/lockdown. Rude, arrogant people. Poor grammar & spelling. Cheats. Blank profiles, crude messages. The list goes on! "
Ditto all the above plus any reference to something illegal |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"People who are glued to their phones."
My husband always has a go at our daughters for this...he told them if your brain was an APP you might start using it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't think messaging is a good form of communication full stop! Wouldn't be comfortable judging anyone via a message
If we can talk normally, about interesting things and laugh on here then I'll quick go to a phone call ... from there it's much easier! |
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People who can’t make conversation. We get so many people who message us first and we reply with a question that they just answer and not ask us anything ...we’ll then go back with another question and the same happens...we give up after that
Makes you wonder how some people meet |
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"People who are glued to their phones.
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Sent from iPhone
Totally agree
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Sent from ZX Spectrum
Aye
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Failed to send. Windows not responding "
A spectrum man. Keeping it real...old skool. Is that a 48k |
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"People who can’t make conversation. We get so many people who message us first and we reply with a question that they just answer and not ask us anything ...we’ll then go back with another question and the same happens...we give up after that
Makes you wonder how some people meet "
The wolf of Wall Street |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
East London |
"Political, self righteous types put me off, 'towie' types business obsessed types that cant leave work alone and enjoy life!-(ive met too many of those types)
I like someone layed back and fun. Im not fussed how intelligent someone is, but i do find the talk of travel turns my cogs so well traveled is a bonus.
I like hearing of others' travels too.
I can be there without having to sit on a plane for hours.
I like photos too.
Me too. I got chatting to a couple last week at my local, they spent 11 years travelling the world i could have chatted for a year "
I like people like that. I'm a very good listener |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
East London |
"Indecisiveness - when people say things like “I don’t mind” or “up to you”.
Get a fucking backbone, Jesus Christ. "
But I really don't mind, and if you choose something that turns out to be shit, then I still won't mind. |
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"People who can’t make conversation. We get so many people who message us first and we reply with a question that they just answer and not ask us anything ...we’ll then go back with another question and the same happens...we give up after that
Makes you wonder how some people meet
The wolf of Wall Street "
That annoys you? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Indecisiveness - when people say things like “I don’t mind” or “up to you”.
Get a fucking backbone, Jesus Christ.
But I really don't mind, and if you choose something that turns out to be shit, then I still won't mind."
I think you just triggered some type of PTSD for me with that one hahaha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ones that want to meet but have jobs so important they arent allowed to show their face?! Are they turning up in a balaclava?
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Nope we wear the masque de fer ?? |
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"People who can’t make conversation. We get so many people who message us first and we reply with a question that they just answer and not ask us anything ...we’ll then go back with another question and the same happens...we give up after that
Makes you wonder how some people meet
The wolf of Wall Street
That annoys you? "
Not in the slightest, I just particularly enjoyed your photo that reminded me of the film. |
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