Not sure if this is bmneggung but couldn't think of another term for it but....
Anyone noticed the trend where guys message you saying something along the lines od
'I know I'm not what you're looking for but I had to write to you to say how fantastically sexy you are.....'
If you know I'm not what you're looking for then don't message 
If you want to pay me a compliment then just do that |
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By *rder66Man
over a year ago
Tatooine |
"Not sure if this is bmneggung but couldn't think of another term for it but....
Anyone noticed the trend where guys message you saying something along the lines od
'these aren't the droids you're looking for'
If you know I'm not looking for those droids then don't message
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By *imbobaMan
over a year ago
Glasgow |
"Not sure if this is bmneggung but couldn't think of another term for it but....
Anyone noticed the trend where guys message you saying something along the lines od
'I know I'm not what you're looking for but I had to write to you to say how fantastically sexy you are.....'
If you know I'm not what you're looking for then don't message
If you want to pay me a compliment then just do that "
I’m not what you’re looking for (but if you thought about it you’d change your mind).
That’s what going through their heads.
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"If you want to pay me a compliment then just do that "
Maybe that's what they're doing:
"I know you aren't going to be interested in me so I just wanted to say I think you're gorgeous, and there is no ulterior motive to this message. Have a good day."
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It's like going to a job interview and saying......... I know I don't fulfill any of the criteria and I haven't got any of the experience and I don't stand a fucking chance but can I have the job please ?????
Oh go on please ???
Just a little go ....... go on. |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
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Do you mean they say you aren’t what they are looking for, or that they aren’t what you are looking for?
If its the later then its just people taking a chance.
If its the former then yes, its a form of negging where you are then meant to take up the challenge and prove that yes you are what they are looking for!
People will do what they can to get a reply/message in the hope it may lead somewhere |
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"That isn't really negging though, that's them trying their luck despite knowing you're not interested in someone like them. "
Yeah I couldn't think of the right term but it's them using a negative to try and get a response was my thinking. |
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"It's like going to a job interview and saying......... I know I don't fulfill any of the criteria and I haven't got any of the experience and I don't stand a fucking chance but can I have the job please ?????
Oh go on please ???
Just a little go ....... go on."
Apparently something that contributes to the gender pay gap is that men actually do this and sometimes it works  . Women only tend to apply for jobs they totally meet the criteria for. |
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"That isn't really negging though, that's them trying their luck despite knowing you're not interested in someone like them.
Yeah I couldn't think of the right term but it's them using a negative to try and get a response was my thinking. "
Negging is like the guy in uni who told me I wasn't typically attractive but he thought I was (lucky me right!?) |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
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"That isn't really negging though, that's them trying their luck despite knowing you're not interested in someone like them.
Yeah I couldn't think of the right term but it's them using a negative to try and get a response was my thinking.
Negging is like the guy in uni who told me I wasn't typically attractive but he thought I was (lucky me right!?) "
Or my favourite phrase unconventionally pretty? 
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Yes Op, I've noticed the trend. I think it's because... well god loves a trier. All the shmuck about nothing ventured, nothing gained. Maybe they'll be the one anomaly in your preferences*?
*and yes, I know it does happen. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Women never do this, it’s more like ‘Look, I think you’re an idiot, but I’m willing to give you a try, I want you to do exotic things to me and expect nothing in return, don’t get your hopes up though, I will continue to ignore you on the forums, I can’t be seen commenting on your low blow threads!’ |
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"Women never do this, it’s more like ‘Look, I think you’re an idiot, but I’m willing to give you a try, I want you to do exotic things to me and expect nothing in return, don’t get your hopes up though, I will continue to ignore you on the forums, I can’t be seen commenting on your low blow threads!’"
You're not supposed to quote my messages directly on the forums...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Women never do this, it’s more like ‘Look, I think you’re an idiot, but I’m willing to give you a try, I want you to do exotic things to me and expect nothing in return, don’t get your hopes up though, I will continue to ignore you on the forums, I can’t be seen commenting on your low blow threads!’
You're not supposed to quote my messages directly on the forums... "
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I’m not sure what that would be (apart from “chancer”), but it isn’t negging. Negging is when they say something disparaging about you, either to then say they’ll give you a go anyway (you’re supposed to be grateful at that point ), or in hopes that you’ll then do anything to prove that you’re not whatever they said (uptight or whatever). All completely gross and I block everyone who tries it with me. |
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I cant see how paying a compliment is 'negging' or be being negative.
Is it possible that they are genuinely just being nice? There are still people like that in the world.
Perhaps the bit about knowing they are not what you're looking for is to show that its a compliment and they dont expect anything back.
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"I cant see how paying a compliment is 'negging' or be being negative.
Is it possible that they are genuinely just being nice? There are still people like that in the world.
Perhaps the bit about knowing they are not what you're looking for is to show that its a compliment and they dont expect anything back.
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Ibalrwdy said I wasn't sure negging was the right word lol
I just feel its some sort of mind game tactic to make me feel sorry for them and then interact with them (which I do cos I'm nice). |
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"I cant see how paying a compliment is 'negging' or be being negative.
Is it possible that they are genuinely just being nice? There are still people like that in the world.
Perhaps the bit about knowing they are not what you're looking for is to show that its a compliment and they dont expect anything back.
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I think that saying they know they're not what you're looking for means they don't expect an answer. At least they acknowledge the fact I like those who quite clearly aren't but ask to meet anyway. |
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"I cant see how paying a compliment is 'negging' or be being negative.
Is it possible that they are genuinely just being nice? There are still people like that in the world.
Perhaps the bit about knowing they are not what you're looking for is to show that its a compliment and they dont expect anything back.
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it's sad that in this day and age it's getting more difficult to be nice to someone without it being misconstrued. |
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‘I know that your profile implicitly states no cock pics but if I send you about twenty of mine taken over my dirty toilet in various states of flaccidity, you’ll hopefully see the error of your ways and allow me entrance into your front bottom.’ |
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"I cant see how paying a compliment is 'negging' or be being negative.
Is it possible that they are genuinely just being nice? There are still people like that in the world.
Perhaps the bit about knowing they are not what you're looking for is to show that its a compliment and they dont expect anything back.
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I agree. I think sometimes it's genuinely meant as just a compliment and they are apologising for messaging.
However sometimes when I reply thanks they assume that means I want to ride their face.
I do not. |
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I don't like the defeatist attitudes, you can pay me a compliment regardless of if you're my type of not.
And how would you know unless you actually struck up a conversation?
I feel like it's a bit of a "feel sorry for me" thing. |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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It’s not negging, it’s self deprecating. They’re putting themselves down in the hope that you’ll feel sympathy and offer them attention.
Negging is to put you down or target your self esteem to manipulate you into sleeping with them.
To be honest, they’re both manipulative behaviours |
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"I don't like the defeatist attitudes, you can pay me a compliment regardless of if you're my type of not.
And how would you know unless you actually struck up a conversation?
I feel like it's a bit of a "feel sorry for me" thing."
I dont mind compliments either |
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By *imbobaMan
over a year ago
Glasgow |
"It’s not negging, it’s self deprecating. They’re putting themselves down in the hope that you’ll feel sympathy and offer them attention.
Negging is to put you down or target your self esteem to manipulate you into sleeping with them.
To be honest, they’re both manipulative behaviours "
This is valid but if you think about it this entire site rotates around manipulative behaviours. “Marketing” yourself via a photo or profile or cam chat or form post - in most cases this it to attract attention. Which is manipulation. Not necessarily negative as seems to be the case with negging. Which is new to me also.
If you read the above consider yourself manipulated. |
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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago
Peterborough |
"It's like going to a job interview and saying......... I know I don't fulfill any of the criteria and I haven't got any of the experience and I don't stand a fucking chance but can I have the job please ?????
Oh go on please ???
Just a little go ....... go on."
Worked for Trump, didn't it? |
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