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 thank you for shareing and well done for have the strength to do it
your so brave and strong
I really do hope you find your happy everafter
As the lasting effects off things like that can brake people for good and leave them a shell off they former self lost in the dark
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Amazing courage not only to end it 5 years ago but to also share your story.
Hope the future keeps getting brighter | |||
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"I don't really listen to pop music as most of you probably know, but I owe this song some serious kudos. I shit you not I had this fucker on repeat the day I woke and could finally breathe. I took inspiration and encapsulated the sentiment https://youtu.be/CevxZvSJLk8" Fuckin love that tune as well  | |||
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totally get where you're coming from, mine is just over two years since I left my emotionally abusive relationship. Nowhere near the extent of yours as he was never physically abusive but what you say about being able to breath again rings so true. Much love xx | |||
"I don't really listen to pop music as most of you probably know, but I owe this song some serious kudos. I shit you not I had this fucker on repeat the day I woke and could finally breathe. I took inspiration and encapsulated the sentiment https://youtu.be/CevxZvSJLk8" " I went from zero, to my own hero" And a hero is exactly what you are | |||
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You're such a strong woman xxx | |||
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"To those who have friends you suspect are or have outright told you they're in an abusive relationship. (Some don't actually realise as it's drip fed over such a long time. They know things aren't right but don't see just how bad they are) Please don't give up on your buddy. It must be sooooo frustrating listening to them, knowing each day they're being treated like crap, listening to them moaning about their partner, followed with "they'd had a bad day" or "I'll get out soon" They're trying. They're trying so hard to get through each day. It ain't as easy as "just leave". The mental control and manipulation your buddy is suffering is far more deep rooted than you could ever imagine. " That made me blub a bit I've been on the receiving end of some " you should have just left" comments I wished those people could have walked a mile in my shoes Well, I didnt. But ykwim | |||
"Happy anniversary! I don’t know what to write here that won’t seem glib but you’re absolutely right to be celebrating. I will also say that abuse and control takes many forms, some insidious that leave marks that aren’t as obvious as bruises but still leave scars. If you feel concerned that you might be being abused, please seek help" Absolutely. I went to write he only hit me about 10 times or so over the years, then thought "fuck sake woman" Only! I'll leave it in though to show the fact my brain thought that off the bat, that the mental side was far more impactful to me personally than the physical side. | |||
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"To those who have friends you suspect are or have outright told you they're in an abusive relationship. (Some don't actually realise as it's drip fed over such a long time. They know things aren't right but don't see just how bad they are) Please don't give up on your buddy. It must be sooooo frustrating listening to them, knowing each day they're being treated like crap, listening to them moaning about their partner, followed with "they'd had a bad day" or "I'll get out soon" They're trying. They're trying so hard to get through each day. It ain't as easy as "just leave". The mental control and manipulation your buddy is suffering is far more deep rooted than you could ever imagine. " I'd like to add... "just leave" can make the person you say it to feel worse. Stupid, and like they're boring you and can't talk to you. So please don't say it. Find other words. We don't mean to bore you. We don't mean to not be strong enough. And your support and love means more to us than you can know. | |||
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"Happy anniversary! I don’t know what to write here that won’t seem glib but you’re absolutely right to be celebrating. I will also say that abuse and control takes many forms, some insidious that leave marks that aren’t as obvious as bruises but still leave scars. If you feel concerned that you might be being abused, please seek help Absolutely. I went to write he only hit me about 10 times or so over the years, then thought "fuck sake woman" Only! I'll leave it in though to show the fact my brain thought that off the bat, that the mental side was far more impactful to me personally than the physical side. " I couldn't agree me. It's coming up to 2 years shortly since I left an abusive relationship, there was physical abuse even when I was pregnant but the mental side has been far more damaging. I've suffered from depression and anxiety but I think now I'm in the best place mentally since I left. You're amazing Peach! | |||
"Anniversary to me. Today marks 5 years since I found the strength to end the abusive relationship I had been in for over a decade. I just wanted to give some hope and strength to those who have been through similar or are struggling in one now. The road is a difficult one, I won't tell you lies. I cried 2 days almost solid when he went, not because I was sad but because I was relieved and thought the fight was over. Little did I know I had been left with CPTSD and would find myself getting triggered into anxiety attacks and a full on breakdown 15 months later, when the CPTSD was diagnosed. This all sounds rather shit and you're probably thinking "where's the strength and hope?" I'm alive aren't I! I'm doing the things he said I was never capable of. He told me I'd have lost the house within 3 months without him here..... 5 years later I've not only still got the roof over my head but it's in 100x better condition than when he was here. It's not my cage anymore, it's not the place where bad things happen - it's my sanctuary, my safe space. I don't weep myself to sleep anymore, I don't dread waking up anymore because my first waking thought for years was "is today the today he's gonna kill me?" I can't make anybody leave an abusive relationship. I can't wave a magic wand and make things alright. What I can tell you though is they're lying to you when they tell you "you're worthless" and if you believe one thing today, please make it that. You don't have to suffer in silence "Reading that just made me cry
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"To those who have friends you suspect are or have outright told you they're in an abusive relationship. (Some don't actually realise as it's drip fed over such a long time. They know things aren't right but don't see just how bad they are) Please don't give up on your buddy. It must be sooooo frustrating listening to them, knowing each day they're being treated like crap, listening to them moaning about their partner, followed with "they'd had a bad day" or "I'll get out soon" They're trying. They're trying so hard to get through each day. It ain't as easy as "just leave". The mental control and manipulation your buddy is suffering is far more deep rooted than you could ever imagine. That made me blub a bit I've been on the receiving end of some " you should have just left" comments I wished those people could have walked a mile in my shoes Well, I didnt. But ykwim" The most relief I felt as far as "someone who gets it" was one of my old managers. She knew what was happening, she had been through it herself and could see it in me. We were in the office one night and she said we needed to talk. She just told me her story. This strong independent woman who I admired and thought completely had her life together told me something that would ring true 2 years later. She told me how she slept with a knife under her side of the mattress coz she just didn't know if she would need it. She told me she could give me all the advice in the world, the way people did to her, but it probably wouldn't make much of a difference. The change would come from within and one day I would wake up or something would happen and that would be that. I'd know. And it did. I had no more fear days left in me. I had no more fight left in me as far as he went. I had indifference. I had grieved already for the relationship that once was. It took 2 years but that day came when I told him he had to be gone by the time I got home from work or I'd have the police remove him and I thought about that convo. She had long gone as my manager but I sent her a text saying "it happened. I just knew" | |||
"Happy anniversary! I don’t know what to write here that won’t seem glib but you’re absolutely right to be celebrating. I will also say that abuse and control takes many forms, some insidious that leave marks that aren’t as obvious as bruises but still leave scars. If you feel concerned that you might be being abused, please seek help Absolutely. I went to write he only hit me about 10 times or so over the years, then thought "fuck sake woman" Only! I'll leave it in though to show the fact my brain thought that off the bat, that the mental side was far more impactful to me personally than the physical side. " That's the thing some of the violence is mental abuse. I can't properly explain, but I think they know not to hit you too often else you'd leave, but hit you enough so you comply to their will. | |||
"To those who have friends you suspect are or have outright told you they're in an abusive relationship. (Some don't actually realise as it's drip fed over such a long time. They know things aren't right but don't see just how bad they are) Please don't give up on your buddy. It must be sooooo frustrating listening to them, knowing each day they're being treated like crap, listening to them moaning about their partner, followed with "they'd had a bad day" or "I'll get out soon" They're trying. They're trying so hard to get through each day. It ain't as easy as "just leave". The mental control and manipulation your buddy is suffering is far more deep rooted than you could ever imagine. " Sometimes the mental control can be the worst and leave lasting scars Being told no one will ever love you I a leave you Being told you will die old and Lonely if you don’t stay Some times your so in love with the person that you don’t even see it till it’s all over It can brake people for the rest off they lives | |||
"Happy anniversary! I don’t know what to write here that won’t seem glib but you’re absolutely right to be celebrating. I will also say that abuse and control takes many forms, some insidious that leave marks that aren’t as obvious as bruises but still leave scars. If you feel concerned that you might be being abused, please seek help Absolutely. I went to write he only hit me about 10 times or so over the years, then thought "fuck sake woman" Only! I'll leave it in though to show the fact my brain thought that off the bat, that the mental side was far more impactful to me personally than the physical side. That's the thing some of the violence is mental abuse. I can't properly explain, but I think they know not to hit you too often else you'd leave, but hit you enough so you comply to their will. " Mine used to say "plenty of disused mineshafts round here when nobody would find a body or hear the screams". He never actually threatened ME with that, saying that's where I was gonna end up but would look me dead eye whilst saying it and a "knowing" look. | |||
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"Happy anniversary! I don’t know what to write here that won’t seem glib but you’re absolutely right to be celebrating. I will also say that abuse and control takes many forms, some insidious that leave marks that aren’t as obvious as bruises but still leave scars. If you feel concerned that you might be being abused, please seek help Absolutely. I went to write he only hit me about 10 times or so over the years, then thought "fuck sake woman" Only! I'll leave it in though to show the fact my brain thought that off the bat, that the mental side was far more impactful to me personally than the physical side. That's the thing some of the violence is mental abuse. I can't properly explain, but I think they know not to hit you too often else you'd leave, but hit you enough so you comply to their will. Mine used to say "plenty of disused mineshafts round here when nobody would find a body or hear the screams". He never actually threatened ME with that, saying that's where I was gonna end up but would look me dead eye whilst saying it and a "knowing" look." That bloody look, mine used to punch doors and walls and then say well I'm not hitting you. I need to vent I'm not violent. Or shove me into walls especially corners because apparently he had shit spacial awareness. Only took me years to realise he can reverse park a car better than me | |||
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"Happy anniversary! I don’t know what to write here that won’t seem glib but you’re absolutely right to be celebrating. I will also say that abuse and control takes many forms, some insidious that leave marks that aren’t as obvious as bruises but still leave scars. If you feel concerned that you might be being abused, please seek help Absolutely. I went to write he only hit me about 10 times or so over the years, then thought "fuck sake woman" Only! I'll leave it in though to show the fact my brain thought that off the bat, that the mental side was far more impactful to me personally than the physical side. That's the thing some of the violence is mental abuse. I can't properly explain, but I think they know not to hit you too often else you'd leave, but hit you enough so you comply to their will. Mine used to say "plenty of disused mineshafts round here when nobody would find a body or hear the screams". He never actually threatened ME with that, saying that's where I was gonna end up but would look me dead eye whilst saying it and a "knowing" look." Mine told me I "should be under the ground" Narcissistic rage is a sight to behold. Especially when you stand up to it | |||
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"A quick shoutout here for NCDV. A charity than can give advice and practical help to those trapped in abusive or violent domestic circumstances." Perfect | |||
"Happy anniversary! I don’t know what to write here that won’t seem glib but you’re absolutely right to be celebrating. I will also say that abuse and control takes many forms, some insidious that leave marks that aren’t as obvious as bruises but still leave scars. If you feel concerned that you might be being abused, please seek help Absolutely. I went to write he only hit me about 10 times or so over the years, then thought "fuck sake woman" Only! I'll leave it in though to show the fact my brain thought that off the bat, that the mental side was far more impactful to me personally than the physical side. That's the thing some of the violence is mental abuse. I can't properly explain, but I think they know not to hit you too often else you'd leave, but hit you enough so you comply to their will. Mine used to say "plenty of disused mineshafts round here when nobody would find a body or hear the screams". He never actually threatened ME with that, saying that's where I was gonna end up but would look me dead eye whilst saying it and a "knowing" look. Mine told me I "should be under the ground" Narcissistic rage is a sight to behold. Especially when you stand up to it" Oh fuck me, you cannot win if you attempt to stand up to it. He would contradict himself so bad when on one. "But you just said....." I was either stupid and he didn't say that or... this one is great.... "so fucking gullible you should have a carer, you really shouldn't believe everything people say" | |||
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"Happy anniversary! I don’t know what to write here that won’t seem glib but you’re absolutely right to be celebrating. I will also say that abuse and control takes many forms, some insidious that leave marks that aren’t as obvious as bruises but still leave scars. If you feel concerned that you might be being abused, please seek help Absolutely. I went to write he only hit me about 10 times or so over the years, then thought "fuck sake woman" Only! I'll leave it in though to show the fact my brain thought that off the bat, that the mental side was far more impactful to me personally than the physical side. That's the thing some of the violence is mental abuse. I can't properly explain, but I think they know not to hit you too often else you'd leave, but hit you enough so you comply to their will. Mine used to say "plenty of disused mineshafts round here when nobody would find a body or hear the screams". He never actually threatened ME with that, saying that's where I was gonna end up but would look me dead eye whilst saying it and a "knowing" look. Mine told me I "should be under the ground" Narcissistic rage is a sight to behold. Especially when you stand up to it Oh fuck me, you cannot win if you attempt to stand up to it. He would contradict himself so bad when on one. "But you just said....." I was either stupid and he didn't say that or... this one is great.... "so fucking gullible you should have a carer, you really shouldn't believe everything people say" " Princess, if i had a quid for everytime i have heard "i didnt say that" you and me would be on a yacht in Monaco I heard it so much i started to doubt my own sanity | |||
"Happy anniversary! I don’t know what to write here that won’t seem glib but you’re absolutely right to be celebrating. I will also say that abuse and control takes many forms, some insidious that leave marks that aren’t as obvious as bruises but still leave scars. If you feel concerned that you might be being abused, please seek help Absolutely. I went to write he only hit me about 10 times or so over the years, then thought "fuck sake woman" Only! I'll leave it in though to show the fact my brain thought that off the bat, that the mental side was far more impactful to me personally than the physical side. That's the thing some of the violence is mental abuse. I can't properly explain, but I think they know not to hit you too often else you'd leave, but hit you enough so you comply to their will. Mine used to say "plenty of disused mineshafts round here when nobody would find a body or hear the screams". He never actually threatened ME with that, saying that's where I was gonna end up but would look me dead eye whilst saying it and a "knowing" look. Mine told me I "should be under the ground" Narcissistic rage is a sight to behold. Especially when you stand up to it Oh fuck me, you cannot win if you attempt to stand up to it. He would contradict himself so bad when on one. "But you just said....." I was either stupid and he didn't say that or... this one is great.... "so fucking gullible you should have a carer, you really shouldn't believe everything people say" Princess, if i had a quid for everytime i have heard "i didnt say that" you and me would be on a yacht in Monaco I heard it so much i started to doubt my own sanity" Voice recorders on phones are an amazing invention. Saved my sanity as it gave me something to go back to. Actual evidence of what really happened | |||
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never fail to make me smile and giggle so all the love and happiness to you  Xx | |||
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"{x.{x.{x.~Peach~.x}.x}.x} Vertchual Ug xxx" Fook. A public hug from granny 
Wow Peach | |||
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"{x.{x.{x.~Peach~.x}.x}.x} Vertchual Ug xxx" My life is complete! Thank you Crumpster | |||
"To those who have friends you suspect are or have outright told you they're in an abusive relationship. (Some don't actually realise as it's drip fed over such a long time. They know things aren't right but don't see just how bad they are) Please don't give up on your buddy. It must be sooooo frustrating listening to them, knowing each day they're being treated like crap, listening to them moaning about their partner, followed with "they'd had a bad day" or "I'll get out soon" They're trying. They're trying so hard to get through each day. It ain't as easy as "just leave". The mental control and manipulation your buddy is suffering is far more deep rooted than you could ever imagine. Sometimes the mental control can be the worst and leave lasting scars Being told no one will ever love you I a leave you Being told you will die old and Lonely if you don’t stay Some times your so in love with the person that you don’t even see it till it’s all over It can brake people for the rest off they lives " This was completely my situation, two years on and I still feel nowhere near ready to let anyone close to me to have a relationship, there's the constant self doubt of if I'm good enough, then the fear of what if I let myself fall and they're just the same as he was. It's gonna be a long road before I can let someone in again | |||
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"A quick shoutout here for NCDV. A charity than can give advice and practical help to those trapped in abusive or violent domestic circumstances." I'm trapped. I will be for years. They didn't help me. | |||
"To those who have friends you suspect are or have outright told you they're in an abusive relationship. (Some don't actually realise as it's drip fed over such a long time. They know things aren't right but don't see just how bad they are) Please don't give up on your buddy. It must be sooooo frustrating listening to them, knowing each day they're being treated like crap, listening to them moaning about their partner, followed with "they'd had a bad day" or "I'll get out soon" They're trying. They're trying so hard to get through each day. It ain't as easy as "just leave". The mental control and manipulation your buddy is suffering is far more deep rooted than you could ever imagine. Sometimes the mental control can be the worst and leave lasting scars Being told no one will ever love you I a leave you Being told you will die old and Lonely if you don’t stay Some times your so in love with the person that you don’t even see it till it’s all over It can brake people for the rest off they lives This was completely my situation, two years on and I still feel nowhere near ready to let anyone close to me to have a relationship, there's the constant self doubt of if I'm good enough, then the fear of what if I let myself fall and they're just the same as he was. It's gonna be a long road before I can let someone in again" Awww big hugs as I am the same 10 years later and her mean toxic words ring in my head ever night so can fully understand how hard a road it can be I have shut so meny good wonderful people out my life for fear that it happens again | |||
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It’s 17 months since I left an emotionally abusive relationship, and as you say, when you’re in it, you can’t always see it. You’re drowning in it. My friends helped me see it, and gave me the support to leave. As Peach says, you might be that friend to someone else | |||
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You're incredible Peach, you really are.
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"Thank you so much to everyone who's commented and those who haven't but have read the thread and taken something from it. In the words of My Chemical Romance..... "I am not afraid to keep on living I am not afraid to walk this world alone" " " Defiant to the end" | |||
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"Princess Peach, I'm sending you so many hugs right now. To have the courage to stand up and say "no more, this ends now" is massive. Been there, done that. There will be times when something takes you back to a time you thought you'd forgotten. When that happens, be kind to yourself. He can no longer harm you and you know that. You are amazing. You deserve amazing. You will get more amazing than you ever imagine xxxxx Love doesn't hurt. You are not alone. You matter. No more week - take the pledge to stand against domestic abuse and sexual violence. " No more week? | |||
"Princess Peach, I'm sending you so many hugs right now. To have the courage to stand up and say "no more, this ends now" is massive. Been there, done that. There will be times when something takes you back to a time you thought you'd forgotten. When that happens, be kind to yourself. He can no longer harm you and you know that. You are amazing. You deserve amazing. You will get more amazing than you ever imagine xxxxx Love doesn't hurt. You are not alone. You matter. No more week - take the pledge to stand against domestic abuse and sexual violence. No more week?" From Cambridge Constabulary, for this week. It's as hashtag they're using to encourage people to take a stand against domestic abuse and sexual violence. | |||
Happy Anniversary Peach | |||
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"You may wanna batter me for this, but, on Monday, when we were discussing inspirational women, you were in my mind This OP kind of consolidates those thoughts I haven't read further than the OP, so excuse me if I am echoing the thoughts of others You've obviously had some crappy experiences (I know that is vastly understating them), but what I admire is how candid and honest you are about them, how they have affected you, shaped you, how you turn them round, manage the experiences and carry on, despite them being evidently painful You do this in a public forum where, in addition to support, you also lay yourself open to criticism, to cynicism and to people who think they might be able to exploit that chink of vulnerability You may, or may not, realise what effect this candid exposure may have on other folk who have been through similar This OP and others like it, might just give others the outlook, the headspace, the vision, the strength, to help themselves or, at least, seek out assistance in doing so To me, that is inspirational I'm not smoke blowing, I'm just saying what I see Too many times we are willing to celebrate the physical attraction and sexy aspects of other members, but seldom do we allow ourselves to celebrate them as women and men in all their wonderful layers I'm sorry if this post embarrasses, but sometimes, things just need laying out there x" Beautifully put, and echos what many of us think, I an sure. | |||
"You may wanna batter me for this, but, on Monday, when we were discussing inspirational women, you were in my mind This OP kind of consolidates those thoughts I haven't read further than the OP, so excuse me if I am echoing the thoughts of others You've obviously had some crappy experiences (I know that is vastly understating them), but what I admire is how candid and honest you are about them, how they have affected you, shaped you, how you turn them round, manage the experiences and carry on, despite them being evidently painful You do this in a public forum where, in addition to support, you also lay yourself open to criticism, to cynicism and to people who think they might be able to exploit that chink of vulnerability You may, or may not, realise what effect this candid exposure may have on other folk who have been through similar This OP and others like it, might just give others the outlook, the headspace, the vision, the strength, to help themselves or, at least, seek out assistance in doing so To me, that is inspirational I'm not smoke blowing, I'm just saying what I see Too many times we are willing to celebrate the physical attraction and sexy aspects of other members, but seldom do we allow ourselves to celebrate them as women and men in all their wonderful layers I'm sorry if this post embarrasses, but sometimes, things just need laying out there x" Absolutely agree Bussy | |||
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"This was completely my situation, two years on and I still feel nowhere near ready to let anyone close to me to have a relationship, there's the constant self doubt of if I'm good enough, then the fear of what if I let myself fall and they're just the same as he was. It's gonna be a long road before I can let someone in again" I could have written this, and was thinking about it until I saw you had put it so much better than I could | |||
"To those who have friends you suspect are or have outright told you they're in an abusive relationship. (Some don't actually realise as it's drip fed over such a long time. They know things aren't right but don't see just how bad they are) Please don't give up on your buddy. It must be sooooo frustrating listening to them, knowing each day they're being treated like crap, listening to them moaning about their partner, followed with "they'd had a bad day" or "I'll get out soon" They're trying. They're trying so hard to get through each day. It ain't as easy as "just leave". The mental control and manipulation your buddy is suffering is far more deep rooted than you could ever imagine. That made me blub a bit I've been on the receiving end of some " you should have just left" comments I wished those people could have walked a mile in my shoes Well, I didnt. But ykwim" From the outside, looking in, it's difficult to understand But from the inside, looking out, it is difficult to explain... | |||
"Anniversary to me. Today marks 5 years since I found the strength to end the abusive relationship I had been in for over a decade." I believe that the courage and strength people need to do this is within themselves they just need to find it which I appreciate is not that easy. It is admirable that you were able to take control of your life, and recognise that you do deserve better and that your lot in life isn’t to be the proverbial punching bag for someone else. | |||
"You may wanna batter me for this, but, on Monday, when we were discussing inspirational women, you were in my mind This OP kind of consolidates those thoughts I haven't read further than the OP, so excuse me if I am echoing the thoughts of others You've obviously had some crappy experiences (I know that is vastly understating them), but what I admire is how candid and honest you are about them, how they have affected you, shaped you, how you turn them round, manage the experiences and carry on, despite them being evidently painful You do this in a public forum where, in addition to support, you also lay yourself open to criticism, to cynicism and to people who think they might be able to exploit that chink of vulnerability You may, or may not, realise what effect this candid exposure may have on other folk who have been through similar This OP and others like it, might just give others the outlook, the headspace, the vision, the strength, to help themselves or, at least, seek out assistance in doing so To me, that is inspirational I'm not smoke blowing, I'm just saying what I see Too many times we are willing to celebrate the physical attraction and sexy aspects of other members, but seldom do we allow ourselves to celebrate them as women and men in all their wonderful layers I'm sorry if this post embarrasses, but sometimes, things just need laying out there x" Are you trying to make my eyes leak?  
I'm proper humbled.
Some of the worst feelings are loneliness and isolation (not covid isolation, but having things you don't feel you can talk about isolation) and if me laying things bare bones can make 1 person feel less alone then it's worth it all day long.
I also think the more we know about each other the more we understand the why behind passion or fears in some areas of their lives and can maybe be more supportive or forgiving of their behaviour at times. They become less of a name on a screen and more of a person.
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"You may wanna batter me for this, but, on Monday, when we were discussing inspirational women, you were in my mind This OP kind of consolidates those thoughts I haven't read further than the OP, so excuse me if I am echoing the thoughts of others You've obviously had some crappy experiences (I know that is vastly understating them), but what I admire is how candid and honest you are about them, how they have affected you, shaped you, how you turn them round, manage the experiences and carry on, despite them being evidently painful You do this in a public forum where, in addition to support, you also lay yourself open to criticism, to cynicism and to people who think they might be able to exploit that chink of vulnerability You may, or may not, realise what effect this candid exposure may have on other folk who have been through similar This OP and others like it, might just give others the outlook, the headspace, the vision, the strength, to help themselves or, at least, seek out assistance in doing so To me, that is inspirational I'm not smoke blowing, I'm just saying what I see Too many times we are willing to celebrate the physical attraction and sexy aspects of other members, but seldom do we allow ourselves to celebrate them as women and men in all their wonderful layers I'm sorry if this post embarrasses, but sometimes, things just need laying out there x Are you trying to make my eyes leak?
I'm proper humbled.
Some of the worst feelings are loneliness and isolation (not covid isolation, but having things you don't feel you can talk about isolation) and if me laying things bare bones can make 1 person feel less alone then it's worth it all day long.
I also think the more we know about each other the more we understand the why behind passion or fears in some areas of their lives and can maybe be more supportive or forgiving of their behaviour at times. They become less of a name on a screen and more of a person.
"You obviously very much loved by a lot of people.. It's all about shared experiences, we do through things in our lives, that teaches us a out self, this can then be passed on through the sharing of those experiences Keep on moving forward | |||
