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A thread for the lonely.
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"There are so many of us who are currently feeling lonely. It might be because you’re isolating or living alone. It might be that you’re surrounded by people but still feeling alone. Join this thread and get chatting to each other. Doesn’t have to be sexual, just finding out about each other and offering some mutual support.
No need to comment if you don’t have anything positive to say "Great Post and full of positivity, I hope lots of people join in and take something away from it. | |||
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"My penis is available for warm hugs any time Incie "Thank you for that kind offer | |||
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"My penis is available for warm hugs any time Incie
Thank you for that kind offer "And if your other hand is feeling left out then give mine a hug too | |||
"My penis is available for warm hugs any time Incie "I would hug your penis | |||
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"This is something that's pissing me off at the moment. I know it's a sex site. I know 99% want fun. But sometimes some of us are stuck in hell and completely loose the energy to care. There's plenty of threads to flirt and play on." Let’s try and make this one different? | |||
"This is something that's pissing me off at the moment. I know it's a sex site. I know 99% want fun. But sometimes some of us are stuck in hell and completely loose the energy to care. There's plenty of threads to flirt and play on." I know exactly what you mean and I was having this conversation with incandescent earlier...I will admit I am struggling at the moment. | |||
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"Was thinking about starting a thread of inspirational quotes but this seems a good place to post. Japanese proverb: 'One kind word will see you three months of Winter.' Be kind, especially when it's cold inside and out ! "Have you ever been to Japan? | |||
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"Was thinking about starting a thread of inspirational quotes but this seems a good place to post. Japanese proverb: 'One kind word will see you three months of Winter.' Be kind, especially when it's cold inside and out !
Have you ever been to Japan?". No, but I'm attracted to a lot of Asian philosophy and thinking. | |||
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"My inbox is always open for virtual hugs and talking bollocks about stuff and things "I seem to be good at talking bollocks  | |||
"Not sure if I feel lonely or whether I have become overly adapted to solitary confinement. Besides work, my only real 'conversations' consist almost entirely of forum postings. Any Fab messages relate solely to my forum contributions which aren't at all about me. My WhatsApp conversations consist of people sending me pics of the snow, supermarket queues, their children learning to walk/talk/eat, memes and... Actually that's it. I think I feel very disconnected and I'm filling the void with other people's lives. " Can associate with this. The only face to face conversations I have are with the checkout person. All human contact is via whatsapp and these forums. I've got used to it so much I may have to work to get my gregarious self back. Sure it won't take long. | |||
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"I'm certainly struggling. I'm in that wonderful circle of wanting to totally withdraw (which is impossible due to work and being a mum) and then feeling utterly alone. The Valentines aisle actually made me cry last week. Ridiculous. And I feel angry a lot, which is because I don't feel in control of what is going on. I've had to distance myself from a lot of friends who moan about their other halves because I just wish they knew how tough it is to be a single parent right now. Then I beat myself up for not being supportive of their struggles. So, erm, yeah....." Think I can kind of relate. Caring for my terminally ill mother, I wouldn't say I feel suffocated, but there's certainly a tension within me at times. Yesterday I needed to get some milk and instead of driving I walked to a supermarket further away in the slippery ice and lied about doing so and said there were roadworks which delayed me. I felt bad but almost instantaneously that feeling subsided and the tension returned. I returned to my laptop to do work where I don't even bother to hide my irritable disposition whenever my boss calls. Meanwhile I receive more WhatsApp videos of toddlers spooning yoghurt into their faces followed by a row of emojis. | |||
"I struggle at times and the tears seem to fall from my eyes way to easily for no apparent reason. I’m not totally alone as I have my two youngest at home but I have still felt very very lonely at times. I’m luckier than some as I have some wonderful friends, my family and a man I love but at times I’ve never felt so loved yet so alone I miss human contact " This is exactly how I feel I've my wife at home and have wonderful family and friends and work colleagues but quite often for no apparent reason feel like I'm standing in the antartic so lonely and cold no idea why. | |||
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"I'm certainly struggling. I'm in that wonderful circle of wanting to totally withdraw (which is impossible due to work and being a mum) and then feeling utterly alone. The Valentines aisle actually made me cry last week. Ridiculous. And I feel angry a lot, which is because I don't feel in control of what is going on. I've had to distance myself from a lot of friends who moan about their other halves because I just wish they knew how tough it is to be a single parent right now. Then I beat myself up for not being supportive of their struggles. So, erm, yeah..... Think I can kind of relate. Caring for my terminally ill mother, I wouldn't say I feel suffocated, but there's certainly a tension within me at times. Yesterday I needed to get some milk and instead of driving I walked to a supermarket further away in the slippery ice and lied about doing so and said there were roadworks which delayed me. I felt bad but almost instantaneously that feeling subsided and the tension returned. I returned to my laptop to do work where I don't even bother to hide my irritable disposition whenever my boss calls. Meanwhile I receive more WhatsApp videos of toddlers spooning yoghurt into their faces followed by a row of emojis. " I hope you are getting support caring for your mum - that is tough in 'normal' times, let alone in a pandemic. I keep thinking about that old cliché that 'you can't pour from an empty cup' and that carers - whether parents or adults caring for someone ill - need to make sure we are stocked with the resilience it takes to ensure we can look after others. I feel like I'm running on empty 99% of the time. | |||
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"I'm certainly struggling. I'm in that wonderful circle of wanting to totally withdraw (which is impossible due to work and being a mum) and then feeling utterly alone. The Valentines aisle actually made me cry last week. Ridiculous. And I feel angry a lot, which is because I don't feel in control of what is going on. I've had to distance myself from a lot of friends who moan about their other halves because I just wish they knew how tough it is to be a single parent right now. Then I beat myself up for not being supportive of their struggles. So, erm, yeah....." I hear ya! Completely same boat, only other human contact I have is my mum who pops by when she can as shes in my bubble. Even worse since I was furloughed again, at least working I had a bit of change from just being on my own and being mum, now it's just mum sat in on my own. And the valentine's thing just dumps even more on top. | |||
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"I'm certainly struggling. I'm in that wonderful circle of wanting to totally withdraw (which is impossible due to work and being a mum) and then feeling utterly alone. The Valentines aisle actually made me cry last week. Ridiculous. And I feel angry a lot, which is because I don't feel in control of what is going on. I've had to distance myself from a lot of friends who moan about their other halves because I just wish they knew how tough it is to be a single parent right now. Then I beat myself up for not being supportive of their struggles. So, erm, yeah..... Think I can kind of relate. Caring for my terminally ill mother, I wouldn't say I feel suffocated, but there's certainly a tension within me at times. Yesterday I needed to get some milk and instead of driving I walked to a supermarket further away in the slippery ice and lied about doing so and said there were roadworks which delayed me. I felt bad but almost instantaneously that feeling subsided and the tension returned. I returned to my laptop to do work where I don't even bother to hide my irritable disposition whenever my boss calls. Meanwhile I receive more WhatsApp videos of toddlers spooning yoghurt into their faces followed by a row of emojis. I hope you are getting support caring for your mum - that is tough in 'normal' times, let alone in a pandemic. I keep thinking about that old cliché that 'you can't pour from an empty cup' and that carers - whether parents or adults caring for someone ill - need to make sure we are stocked with the resilience it takes to ensure we can look after others. I feel like I'm running on empty 99% of the time. " I was just about to post the same. I have nothing to give. All my energies are conserved and utilised to simply to get on with stuff. But funnily enough I am able to post on Fab every ten minutes before I return to my duties. Yet if friends and family want to share their daily humdrum with me, I switch off. Can't work that one out yet. | |||
"There are so many of us who are currently feeling lonely. It might be because you’re isolating or living alone. It might be that you’re surrounded by people but still feeling alone. Join this thread and get chatting to each other. Doesn’t have to be sexual, just finding out about each other and offering some mutual support.
No need to comment if you don’t have anything positive to say "Aww definitely agree, chatting online helps helps just a nice message checking in see how we are | |||
"My penis is available for warm hugs any time Incie
I would hug your penis "Really? How would you hug it?  | |||
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"There are so many of us who are currently feeling lonely. It might be because you’re isolating or living alone. It might be that you’re surrounded by people but still feeling alone. Join this thread and get chatting to each other. Doesn’t have to be sexual, just finding out about each other and offering some mutual support.
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"I often find that this place magnifies my loneliness. " I hear you. I find it harder at the moment too. | |||
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"I'm certainly struggling. I'm in that wonderful circle of wanting to totally withdraw (which is impossible due to work and being a mum) and then feeling utterly alone. The Valentines aisle actually made me cry last week. Ridiculous. And I feel angry a lot, which is because I don't feel in control of what is going on. I've had to distance myself from a lot of friends who moan about their other halves because I just wish they knew how tough it is to be a single parent right now. Then I beat myself up for not being supportive of their struggles. So, erm, yeah..... Think I can kind of relate. Caring for my terminally ill mother, I wouldn't say I feel suffocated, but there's certainly a tension within me at times. Yesterday I needed to get some milk and instead of driving I walked to a supermarket further away in the slippery ice and lied about doing so and said there were roadworks which delayed me. I felt bad but almost instantaneously that feeling subsided and the tension returned. I returned to my laptop to do work where I don't even bother to hide my irritable disposition whenever my boss calls. Meanwhile I receive more WhatsApp videos of toddlers spooning yoghurt into their faces followed by a row of emojis. I hope you are getting support caring for your mum - that is tough in 'normal' times, let alone in a pandemic. I keep thinking about that old cliché that 'you can't pour from an empty cup' and that carers - whether parents or adults caring for someone ill - need to make sure we are stocked with the resilience it takes to ensure we can look after others. I feel like I'm running on empty 99% of the time. I was just about to post the same. I have nothing to give. All my energies are conserved and utilised to simply to get on with stuff. But funnily enough I am able to post on Fab every ten minutes before I return to my duties. Yet if friends and family want to share their daily humdrum with me, I switch off. Can't work that one out yet. " Yes, exactly this! I can talk to people on here, yet don't answer the phone to my friends. Its so odd but I'm glad I'm not the only one. | |||
"I often find that this place magnifies my loneliness. I hear you. I find it harder at the moment too. " Definitely an issue. Sparkle said earlier that a crowded room can be a lonely place and Fab can be a virtual version of that, plus added beautiful bodies that don’t always help with our self esteem. Trying to limit my time here and concentrate on chats and laughs with the few Fab people I hope I’ve made a good connection with. Amplify the positive, limit the negative. | |||
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"Coming up to the anniversary of losing my husband, this time of year is always tough. Chose family bereavement just before Christmas too, been feeling quite blue "Virtual hugs and we'll wishes, please if you feel down, reach out for support... to anyone x | |||
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"Coming up to the anniversary of losing my husband, this time of year is always tough. Chose family bereavement just before Christmas too, been feeling quite blue "That's hard. Anniversaries are tough and more so at the moment x | |||
"Coming up to the anniversary of losing my husband, this time of year is always tough. Chose family bereavement just before Christmas too, been feeling quite blue "It is not easy is it? I find it takes you by surprise at times, that unexpected thump in the chest of reality is tough. Take some care | |||
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"Spent my 21st birthday in lockdown. Cant meet my friends. Had to move home to my grumpy parents lol Cant see my friends from uni. Locked away life in my bedroom is so excitingggggggggggg lol "In two months we all have had our birthdays in lockdown. Its been horrendous ive almost forgotten how to interact with other people | |||
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"Spent my 21st birthday in lockdown. Cant meet my friends. Had to move home to my grumpy parents lol Cant see my friends from uni. Locked away life in my bedroom is so excitingggggggggggg lol
In two months we all have had our birthdays in lockdown.
Its been horrendous ive almost forgotten how to interact with other people "But 21st is meant to be a big one not a crap boring nasty one on your own lol x | |||
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that’s been the biggest wrench.
I miss hugs and laughter!
I’m always happy to chat here or Kik with anyone I can help. Please shout me. I would PM you Hippy but can’t | |||
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"Thank you for starting this thread Incandescent. Loneliness can often be such a taboo topic and one which many are wary of admitting to because there's still quite a lot of judgement attached to feeling that way. As in, if you're lonely you only have yourself to blame, that you're not making the 'effort' or, simply, you must be some unappealing weirdo that no one would want to be friends with anyway.. " Sorry for snipping the quote, just want to say this was such an insightful and empathetic post. I know you said you feel socially awkward, but you seem a beautiful soul. I don't think I've ever felt as lonely in my life as I do now and I am someone who loves days by myself. I've found myself shutting out friends and family because they all have someone to go home to and I feel guilty for being jealous of that. I had quite a horrendous relationship breakdown during 'Lockdown v.1' and I feel like I've just had to deal with it all on my own, which makes me feel like superwoman some days, and then other days I cry on the bus | |||
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"House full of animals, partner And a 25 Yr old son and extremely lonely in it I'm glad when I go to work people talk to me. " I expect a lot of people are like this  | |||
"Outside of work I am unfortunately fairly alone." As am I. I am lucky in that I still see my children twice a week but, outside of those times if I am at home I am there alone. At work we frequently work alone anyway and being single as well I do find myself trying to start conversations with the staff in Tesco! In itself that's not a bad thing but it's the mild desperation of loneliness that's causing it and that's not good. So, yes, I have quite recently realised that I am, essentially, lonely. It's wearing me down, over time. | |||
"I often find that this place magnifies my loneliness. " Sending you love Hope. When you feel like that you can always message me. If you're up to it that is! x | |||
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"Unfortunately I’m always in my own company.. Not always a bad thing but it is a lot more difficult these days.. I just look forward to the weekends I have my sprouts and get daddy cuddles... roll on Friday " 'Sprouts' is the cutest description, I might nick that from now on! | |||
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"I’m glad to see that this thread has provided a place for people to share their feelings. A big thank you to those who have offered to listen too. I’d like to suggest one thing. Choose someone from the thread who’s story had resonated with you and either pm them or leave them a message here. It could lead to a beautiful friendship or at least a support line. Something a lot of us seem to need atm.. " | |||
"I’m glad to see that this thread has provided a place for people to share their feelings. A big thank you to those who have offered to listen too. I’d like to suggest one thing. Choose someone from the thread who’s story had resonated with you and either pm them or leave them a message here. It could lead to a beautiful friendship or at least a support line. Something a lot of us seem to need atm.. "Fine idea. I might drop a few of you a line. But all are welcome to message me too if anybody feels inclined to. I promise I'll try not to be annoying  | |||
"I’m glad to see that this thread has provided a place for people to share their feelings. A big thank you to those who have offered to listen too. I’d like to suggest one thing. Choose someone from the thread who’s story had resonated with you and either pm them or leave them a message here. It could lead to a beautiful friendship or at least a support line. Something a lot of us seem to need atm.. "I’d like to say thanks to the OP for starting the thread. Happy to be contacted by anyone who want to chat or feels lonely atm. | |||
"I’m glad to see that this thread has provided a place for people to share their feelings. A big thank you to those who have offered to listen too. I’d like to suggest one thing. Choose someone from the thread who’s story had resonated with you and either pm them or leave them a message here. It could lead to a beautiful friendship or at least a support line. Something a lot of us seem to need atm.. " | |||
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"You need to honestly ask yourself why you feel lonely. It's not just because you are living alone in lockdown. You can be lonely in a crowded room. It's not always about being an introvert. The most outgoing of people can be desperately lonely. Until you accept why you feel that way, you won't know how to might be able to address it." I should imagine there are 1001 different answers to that depending on who you ask! Personally, I have felt some degree of loneliness for much of my adult life regardless of whether or not I was living on my own. Sometimes loneliness will feel exacerbated at a particular time if your resilience levels are low - such as poor mental or physical health - even if your social situation hasn't changed. And sometimes you feel lonely for a particular sort of connection regardless of having other types if that makes sense? I have lost almost all the members of my family I was close to for example and it's been a very long time since I had a close female friend which I really miss (and need). I've never found it easy to either make friends or socialise, I often find the process both bewildering and exhausting because I rarely 'click' with others and usually feel very much on the outside looking in. I don't do small talk, although of course I know the theory of it but just don't seem able to glide from that to more interesting topics as you must to get to know someone. I'm quite wary of people (which probably does me no favours) and I can be uncomfortable opening up but several past experiences of having my trust broken and being let down in different ways no doubt unfortunately contributes to that which doesn't help either. I can recognise at least some of the traits within myself that have possibly/probably led to being lonely and in ideal world I'd have had far more counselling than I ever did to try to tackle some of them and perhaps find some coping techniques but sadly that's a luxury beyond my means. Although lockdown etc hasn't altered my loneliness level too much what it has done of course is remove the things which could be a distraction *from* loneliness in normal times. Just something as simple as going for a non essential drive to somewhere different or visiting an attraction of some description. Hell, even going for a walk somewhere pleasant that's not your home town. Not that any of that solves loneliness as such but it can help you not to dwell on it quite so much. Hence I've been thinking more and more lately about being lonely which of course always seems to strike worst of all in the middle of the bloody night when the dark and the quietness makes you feel like the only person on the planet. I know I'm not alone ... I know lots are struggling with similar feelings ... but despite knowing that, ironically, I still feel lonely. Gah. It's hard because I can't even properly blame lockdown for the way I feel. | |||
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"There are so many of us who are currently feeling lonely. It might be because you’re isolating or living alone. It might be that you’re surrounded by people but still feeling alone. Join this thread and get chatting to each other. Doesn’t have to be sexual, just finding out about each other and offering some mutual support.
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"I’m glad to see that this thread has provided a place for people to share their feelings. A big thank you to those who have offered to listen too. I’d like to suggest one thing. Choose someone from the thread who’s story had resonated with you and either pm them or leave them a message here. It could lead to a beautiful friendship or at least a support line. Something a lot of us seem to need atm.. "This is a great idea!!! | |||
"Thanks for this! I was taken into A&E a few weeks ago with palpitations and got admitted, it was really scary - still don’t know what it was (not a heart attack thankfully) I moved from Scotland just before lockdown 1 to Hampshire, and I hadn’t noticed how in auto pilot I was until I went to hospital. I felt so lonely, there was no one to pick me up, or even take me there - I was so far away from my family. I was also dealing with unrequited emotional feelings for someone who seen things as just sex and I had misread - so I really found the last few weeks quite difficult. So it’s really nice OP that you’ve opened up the dialogue! Hope I don’t sound too “poor me!” It’s just been a bit a of a bummer of a time x " I’m sorry this happened to you. | |||
"Thanks for this! I was taken into A&E a few weeks ago with palpitations and got admitted, it was really scary - still don’t know what it was (not a heart attack thankfully) I moved from Scotland just before lockdown 1 to Hampshire, and I hadn’t noticed how in auto pilot I was until I went to hospital. I felt so lonely, there was no one to pick me up, or even take me there - I was so far away from my family. I was also dealing with unrequited emotional feelings for someone who seen things as just sex and I had misread - so I really found the last few weeks quite difficult. So it’s really nice OP that you’ve opened up the dialogue! Hope I don’t sound too “poor me!” It’s just been a bit a of a bummer of a time x " Panic attack? | |||
"Thanks for this! I was taken into A&E a few weeks ago with palpitations and got admitted, it was really scary - still don’t know what it was (not a heart attack thankfully) I moved from Scotland just before lockdown 1 to Hampshire, and I hadn’t noticed how in auto pilot I was until I went to hospital. I felt so lonely, there was no one to pick me up, or even take me there - I was so far away from my family. I was also dealing with unrequited emotional feelings for someone who seen things as just sex and I had misread - so I really found the last few weeks quite difficult. So it’s really nice OP that you’ve opened up the dialogue! Hope I don’t sound too “poor me!” It’s just been a bit a of a bummer of a time x I’m sorry this happened to you. "Aww thanks. I’m sorry to hear everyone’s stories, what a rough time for people but nice they can share their feelings here x | |||
"Thanks for this! I was taken into A&E a few weeks ago with palpitations and got admitted, it was really scary - still don’t know what it was (not a heart attack thankfully) I moved from Scotland just before lockdown 1 to Hampshire, and I hadn’t noticed how in auto pilot I was until I went to hospital. I felt so lonely, there was no one to pick me up, or even take me there - I was so far away from my family. I was also dealing with unrequited emotional feelings for someone who seen things as just sex and I had misread - so I really found the last few weeks quite difficult. So it’s really nice OP that you’ve opened up the dialogue! Hope I don’t sound too “poor me!” It’s just been a bit a of a bummer of a time x Panic attack? " Possibly yeah - lots just building up! I’m normally fine on my own, but I dunno I think the combination of rejection and just sitting in a taxi coming back to my empty house after going through that kind of stress made me a little gloomy! Just wanted a pizza and a film haha cuddled up with a friend or partner x | |||
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"Thanks for this! I was taken into A&E a few weeks ago with palpitations and got admitted, it was really scary - still don’t know what it was (not a heart attack thankfully) I moved from Scotland just before lockdown 1 to Hampshire, and I hadn’t noticed how in auto pilot I was until I went to hospital. I felt so lonely, there was no one to pick me up, or even take me there - I was so far away from my family. I was also dealing with unrequited emotional feelings for someone who seen things as just sex and I had misread - so I really found the last few weeks quite difficult. So it’s really nice OP that you’ve opened up the dialogue! Hope I don’t sound too “poor me!” It’s just been a bit a of a bummer of a time x Panic attack? Possibly yeah - lots just building up! I’m normally fine on my own, but I dunno I think the combination of rejection and just sitting in a taxi coming back to my empty house after going through that kind of stress made me a little gloomy! Just wanted a pizza and a film haha cuddled up with a friend or partner x " I think we all have stress points. It's unrealistic to think we are impervious to all pain or worries. When we are living like how we are with everything stripped back we have nowhere to hide. We're all alone in our individual struggles but hopefully, we can find solace in each other x | |||
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"This year has almost killed me, being alone and suffering with mental health issues is never good. But add to that the isolation of being stuck seeing the same 4 walls. I spend half my day in bits and the other half just trying to keep myself busy "Hello. Sorry to hear your situation. I've found gardening helped me. And i took up art again. From sketching to a landscape or even a fun collage has helped me. Why no give any of yhese a try? See how you go. X | |||
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"Thanks for this! I was taken into A&E a few weeks ago with palpitations and got admitted, it was really scary - still don’t know what it was (not a heart attack thankfully) I moved from Scotland just before lockdown 1 to Hampshire, and I hadn’t noticed how in auto pilot I was until I went to hospital. I felt so lonely, there was no one to pick me up, or even take me there - I was so far away from my family. I was also dealing with unrequited emotional feelings for someone who seen things as just sex and I had misread - so I really found the last few weeks quite difficult. So it’s really nice OP that you’ve opened up the dialogue! Hope I don’t sound too “poor me!” It’s just been a bit a of a bummer of a time x " I don't think anyone does. It's extremely hard to open up and say you are feeling lonely but clearly a lot of people are. I think someone made the point earlier on that loneliness can be seen as a stigma, that there is almost something wrong with you,if you are feeling this way. Clearly this isnt the case. | |||
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I may not be the most frequent visitor or post as much as some but the forums really do help to brighten my days sometimes.
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"Hi all Sorry to hear people are having such difficuly times - I’m always haopy to listen if people want to reach out. I’ve actually been in a very good place in recent times. I say this, not to rub it in, but because if I can get back from the place I was at tumes un recent years, I firmly believe others can. I’ve coped with the pandemic OK, But I do a job that makes me see just how serious and harrowing it is on a daily basis. Much as I can walk away from that, I do long to have someone there for a cwtch, a walk....and to take the p**s out of!" Sorry - out walking and hands are freezing. Terrible typing . | |||
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"I’m a good listener if anyone ever needs to chat or rant, it’s good to chat to people we don’t know. Could do with it myself going by the week I’ve had "Happy to chat and share experiences if you want. | |||
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"Can I just sit here and cry." I don't see why not | |||
"Can I just sit here and cry." This is permitted in here. *offers shoulder* | |||
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"Can I just sit here and cry." Absolutely *cuddles* | |||
"Can I just sit here and cry." Yes you can. In fact its positively encouraged. A good cry can be really cathartic x | |||
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"I live in a house with 2 partner and son. I have parents and a brother 15 min drive away. I'm working every other week and chat and see people there and never felt so lonely. Why I ask myself often. There are few reasons but can't do nothing about them.but it's hard (c, the female) " Are the reasons temporary which shall pass? | |||
"I live in a house with 2 partner and son. I have parents and a brother 15 min drive away. I'm working every other week and chat and see people there and never felt so lonely. Why I ask myself often. There are few reasons but can't do nothing about them.but it's hard (c, the female) Are the reasons temporary which shall pass? " They can be sorted out. Just need lockdown over to sort them | |||
"Can I just sit here and cry." Will someone bring me some tissues please. | |||
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"How can you share the house, dining table lounge same bed but feel totally like a stranger in your own home after 43yrs. Maybe it's the constant put downs, lack of physical contact, the constant rebuffs you get when you try for a simple hug or kiss, the utter look of disdain if you dare suggest anything intimate, and on the rare occasion you do get intimate them making no secret they think its a chore rather than something they want or like to do and being told to hurry up and get on with it! Or maybe it's being told there's not a problem and everything in the garden is rosy when you raise concerns or their stubborn refusal to discuss things because all is rosy! After many years it kind of wears you down and it could be one or more if these things which makes me feel lonely cold and worthless,, or maybe I just am worthless. " I totally get that. My ex and I were like that at the end of our 11 years marriage. In the end I couldn't take it anymore. I'm much happier now. You are not worthless bud | |||
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"Hey how we all doing today? Sending virtual hugs to anyone that needs it xx "OK, but done my back in .
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"Hey how we all doing today? Sending virtual hugs to anyone that needs it xx
OK, but done my back in .
I have a friend who’s had sad covid news. I really feel for people in that situation at the moment."Ah rest up and hope you feel better. Yes all we can do is try and be there for each other x | |||
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"Hey how we all doing today? Sending virtual hugs to anyone that needs it xx "I really need that,it's my friends funeral in an hour. | |||
"Hey how we all doing today? Sending virtual hugs to anyone that needs it xx
OK, but done my back in .
I have a friend who’s had sad covid news. I really feel for people in that situation at the moment.
Ah rest up and hope you feel better. Yes all we can do is try and be there for each other x"Diolch yn fawr i ti (that’s not rude!) Sensual Desire is far more deserving of hugs than me, so glad she saw your post. Hope it goes as well as it can this afternoon, SD. | |||
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"Hey how we all doing today? Sending virtual hugs to anyone that needs it xx
I really need that,it's my friends funeral in an hour."Big hugs from me too then xxx | |||
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"You need to honestly ask yourself why you feel lonely. It's not just because you are living alone in lockdown. You can be lonely in a crowded room. It's not always about being an introvert. The most outgoing of people can be desperately lonely. Until you accept why you feel that way, you won't know how to might be able to address it. I should imagine there are 1001 different answers to that depending on who you ask! Personally, I have felt some degree of loneliness for much of my adult life regardless of whether or not I was living on my own. Sometimes loneliness will feel exacerbated at a particular time if your resilience levels are low - such as poor mental or physical health - even if your social situation hasn't changed. And sometimes you feel lonely for a particular sort of connection regardless of having other types if that makes sense? I have lost almost all the members of my family I was close to for example and it's been a very long time since I had a close female friend which I really miss (and need). I've never found it easy to either make friends or socialise, I often find the process both bewildering and exhausting because I rarely 'click' with others and usually feel very much on the outside looking in. I don't do small talk, although of course I know the theory of it but just don't seem able to glide from that to more interesting topics as you must to get to know someone. I'm quite wary of people (which probably does me no favours) and I can be uncomfortable opening up but several past experiences of having my trust broken and being let down in different ways no doubt unfortunately contributes to that which doesn't help either. I can recognise at least some of the traits within myself that have possibly/probably led to being lonely and in ideal world I'd have had far more counselling than I ever did to try to tackle some of them and perhaps find some coping techniques but sadly that's a luxury beyond my means. Although lockdown etc hasn't altered my loneliness level too much what it has done of course is remove the things which could be a distraction *from* loneliness in normal times. Just something as simple as going for a non essential drive to somewhere different or visiting an attraction of some description. Hell, even going for a walk somewhere pleasant that's not your home town. Not that any of that solves loneliness as such but it can help you not to dwell on it quite so much. Hence I've been thinking more and more lately about being lonely which of course always seems to strike worst of all in the middle of the bloody night when the dark and the quietness makes you feel like the only person on the planet. I know I'm not alone ... I know lots are struggling with similar feelings ... but despite knowing that, ironically, I still feel lonely. Gah. It's hard because I can't even properly blame lockdown for the way I feel. " I've only just looked back in on this thread and there are quite a few comments that you have made which I can identify with, but I wouldn't post them for the world, and can't pm you. | |||
"Great idea, would love to spark up some chat with likeminded people x" So message someone from the thread? | |||
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"Bumping this thread hope everyone doing ok x" Just trying to get on with stuff and move forward some. Hope all is good with you? | |||
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"I'm not lonely I have Alexa to talk too "A friend of mine was worried about Alexa being part of a goverment Big Brother conspiracy to tap into people's private lives. I laughed, she laughed, Alexa laughed...  | |||
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"I'm not lonely I have Alexa to talk too
A friend of mine was worried about Alexa being part of a goverment Big Brother conspiracy to tap into people's private lives. I laughed, she laughed, Alexa laughed... " | |||
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"There are so many of us who are currently feeling lonely. It might be because you’re isolating or living alone. It might be that you’re surrounded by people but still feeling alone. Join this thread and get chatting to each other. Doesn’t have to be sexual, just finding out about each other and offering some mutual support.
No need to comment if you don’t have anything positive to say "What a lovely post I’d love to chat if you feel lonely or if you just want someone to make you feel good ... without blowing my own trumpet I’m the man | |||
"I'm not lonely I have Alexa to talk too "Lucky old Alexa | |||
"I'm not lonely, I just wanted to say you have a beautiful bum OP. "I second that | |||
