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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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As a family we have always made Christmas a magical time decorating the house going to Santa’s grotto getting the kids to write there lists to Santa etc.
Tonight I asked our children if they were excited for Santa coming and our 9yr old laughed I asked what was so funny and then came the dreaded words....
“Santa’s not real”  and I truly feel so sad!
I know children stop believing sooner or later but 9 yrs of age!
Has anyone else been through this and how did you respond what is the acceptable age?
I know there is bigger things going on in the world right now I just feel so upset like the magic has gone |
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over a year ago
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Mine are still small so very much believe but I think I was about 9 or 10 when I realised he wasn't real.
Tell them that only people believe get presents haha
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Smart kid.
Be proud.
Tell them the tooth fairy and Easter bunny are a lie too!
It's best they know now 
Lu 
Noooo Lu  haha"
There's enough real magic in the world...the kiddies will be just fine  |
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"Smart kid.
Be proud.
Tell them the tooth fairy and Easter bunny are a lie too!
It's best they know now
Lu
Noooo Lu haha
There's enough real magic in the world...the kiddies will be just fine "
Yes, keep the magic alive in other ways. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My middle child was 4 yrs old when I had to tell her santa wasn't real. The tooth fairy was never allowed in the house and Halloween was awful.
She hated and still does people in fancy dress.
I hope she gets over the fear when she has kids of her own. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My middle child was 4 yrs old when I had to tell her santa wasn't real. The tooth fairy was never allowed in the house and Halloween was awful.
She hated and still does people in fancy dress.
I hope she gets over the fear when she has kids of her own. "
Bless her!
Any idea what triggered it in the first place?
Lu |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I have a nine year age gap but my son was way older when he openly didnt believe anymore more but I took him to one side and said that the magic is in the believing but if he told his sister then mummy santa wouldn't bring him a Christmas stocking anymore and bless him he never said anything to his sister and we both had loads of fun "believing" with her and Christmas reminded magical for another decade! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Mine are still small so very much believe but I think I was about 9 or 10 when I realised he wasn't real.
Tell them that only people believe get presents haha
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haha I might try that! Believe or your getting an orange and a lump of coal |
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By *attM73Man
over a year ago
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"My middle child was 4 yrs old when I had to tell her santa wasn't real. The tooth fairy was never allowed in the house and Halloween was awful.
She hated and still does people in fancy dress.
I hope she gets over the fear when she has kids of her own. "
why did you have to tell her at that age for |
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"As a family we have always made Christmas a magical time decorating the house going to Santa’s grotto getting the kids to write there lists to Santa etc.
Tonight I asked our children if they were excited for Santa coming and our 9yr old laughed I asked what was so funny and then came the dreaded words....
“Santa’s not real” and I truly feel so sad!
I know children stop believing sooner or later but 9 yrs of age!
Has anyone else been through this and how did you respond what is the acceptable age?
I know there is bigger things going on in the world right now I just feel so upset like the magic has gone "
Oh no!! Our oldest is 9(10 in March) and still believes and I really hope she keeps believing in all the magic for a bit longer!! Can’t offer any advice but can totally understand why you feel sad. It’s another sign of them growing up and loosing that innocence. Xx |
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"I have a nine year age gap but my son was way older when he openly didnt believe anymore more but I took him to one side and said that the magic is in the believing but if he told his sister then mummy santa wouldn't bring him a Christmas stocking anymore and bless him he never said anything to his sister and we both had loads of fun "believing" with her and Christmas reminded magical for another decade! "
We have a 14.5yr gap but our 18yo lad is keeping the magic going for our 3yo  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have a nine year age gap but my son was way older when he openly didnt believe anymore more but I took him to one side and said that the magic is in the believing but if he told his sister then mummy santa wouldn't bring him a Christmas stocking anymore and bless him he never said anything to his sister and we both had loads of fun "believing" with her and Christmas reminded magical for another decade!
We have a 14.5yr gap but our 18yo lad is keeping the magic going for our 3yo "
That's absolutely beautiful! X |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"My middle child was 4 yrs old when I had to tell her santa wasn't real. The tooth fairy was never allowed in the house and Halloween was awful.
She hated and still does people in fancy dress.
I hope she gets over the fear when she has kids of her own. "
awww that’s such a shame yes hopefully she will be over it when she has children of her own |
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"I have a nine year age gap but my son was way older when he openly didnt believe anymore more but I took him to one side and said that the magic is in the believing but if he told his sister then mummy santa wouldn't bring him a Christmas stocking anymore and bless him he never said anything to his sister and we both had loads of fun "believing" with her and Christmas reminded magical for another decade!
We have a 14.5yr gap but our 18yo lad is keeping the magic going for our 3yo "
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"I have a nine year age gap but my son was way older when he openly didnt believe anymore more but I took him to one side and said that the magic is in the believing but if he told his sister then mummy santa wouldn't bring him a Christmas stocking anymore and bless him he never said anything to his sister and we both had loads of fun "believing" with her and Christmas reminded magical for another decade!
We have a 14.5yr gap but our 18yo lad is keeping the magic going for our 3yo
That's absolutely beautiful! X "
It's beautiful to see them together. She adores her big brother and he is absolutely brilliant with her. Super helpful to us and is willing to do anything for his sister |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have a nine year age gap but my son was way older when he openly didnt believe anymore more but I took him to one side and said that the magic is in the believing but if he told his sister then mummy santa wouldn't bring him a Christmas stocking anymore and bless him he never said anything to his sister and we both had loads of fun "believing" with her and Christmas reminded magical for another decade!
We have a 14.5yr gap but our 18yo lad is keeping the magic going for our 3yo
That's absolutely beautiful! X "
Agreed  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I have a nine year age gap but my son was way older when he openly didnt believe anymore more but I took him to one side and said that the magic is in the believing but if he told his sister then mummy santa wouldn't bring him a Christmas stocking anymore and bless him he never said anything to his sister and we both had loads of fun "believing" with her and Christmas reminded magical for another decade! "
that is so nice what a fantastic older brother |
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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago
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"I was nine and in my peer group that was late. I guess I just thought he would be older "
In the playground: that's the second biggest source of learning at school. some wrong, some useless and sadly some harmful too. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"As a family we have always made Christmas a magical time decorating the house going to Santa’s grotto getting the kids to write there lists to Santa etc.
Tonight I asked our children if they were excited for Santa coming and our 9yr old laughed I asked what was so funny and then came the dreaded words....
“Santa’s not real” and I truly feel so sad!
I know children stop believing sooner or later but 9 yrs of age!
Has anyone else been through this and how did you respond what is the acceptable age?
I know there is bigger things going on in the world right now I just feel so upset like the magic has gone
Oh no!! Our oldest is 9(10 in March) and still believes and I really hope she keeps believing in all the magic for a bit longer!! Can’t offer any advice but can totally understand why you feel sad. It’s another sign of them growing up and loosing that innocence. Xx"
exactly this I feel come next year the build up will be so different |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I have a nine year age gap but my son was way older when he openly didnt believe anymore more but I took him to one side and said that the magic is in the believing but if he told his sister then mummy santa wouldn't bring him a Christmas stocking anymore and bless him he never said anything to his sister and we both had loads of fun "believing" with her and Christmas reminded magical for another decade!
We have a 14.5yr gap but our 18yo lad is keeping the magic going for our 3yo "
that is a lovely thing for him to do |
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Mine is near his age and believes at home because he wants to believe, his friends have told him but he doesn't care, at home its a safe place where friends cannot take the mick for believing in magic, in school its hip to be like everyone else |
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By (user no longer on site)
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My youngest hated the notion, nope. He was having none of it, had trouble convincing him at the age of 2 that Santa wasn't real...He saw a Santa suit and he would have a screaming fit.
I can remember him getting really upset on Christmas eve because no way did he want a strange person in his house while he slept. And he was right, why do we endorse that throughout the year and not Christmas. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Are some of you really suggesting that we remove this simple bit of joy from kids lives? 
I'm suggesting kids know the truth "
Absolutely this. Why fill their heads with this stuff, I never influenced my kids either way, they made their own minds. One liked to believe one didn't |
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Me and my sister knew for years before spilling the beans to our parents. My sister's logic which I agreed with was that we'd get less presents if we didn't have ones from Santa. So we kept up the pretence. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Me and my sister knew for years before spilling the beans to our parents. My sister's logic which I agreed with was that we'd get less presents if we didn't have ones from Santa. So we kept up the pretence. "
haha your sister sounds very smart |
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By (user no longer on site)
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My 7 and 10 year old know it’s not real but my 13 year old still has a little glisten in his eye when he’s putting mince pies and milk out with them, he’s like will Ferrell in Elf bless him |
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"Me and my sister knew for years before spilling the beans to our parents. My sister's logic which I agreed with was that we'd get less presents if we didn't have ones from Santa. So we kept up the pretence. haha your sister sounds very smart "
She's an accountant now go figure |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Are some of you really suggesting that we remove this simple bit of joy from kids lives?
I'm suggesting kids know the truth
Absolutely this. Why fill their heads with this stuff, I never influenced my kids either way, they made their own minds. One liked to believe one didn't"
Yeah, I'm not suggesting we all tell every 3/4 year old we know that Santa isn't real just because...
But if a kid asks a question I believe they deserve the truth.
To me, it's much more magical to know my parents created such joy for us at Xmas, that they chose and wrapped our gifts with love, rather than some old dude on a hovercraft with and those poor exhausted reindeer... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My middle child was 4 yrs old when I had to tell her santa wasn't real. The tooth fairy was never allowed in the house and Halloween was awful.
She hated and still does people in fancy dress.
I hope she gets over the fear when she has kids of her own.
Bless her!
Any idea what triggered it in the first place?
Lu "
There uses to be clowns in the high street and she always cried when she saw them, then Christmas must if tipped her over the edge.
It was hard on my other 2 kids. |
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"Are some of you really suggesting that we remove this simple bit of joy from kids lives?
I'm suggesting kids know the truth
Absolutely this. Why fill their heads with this stuff, I never influenced my kids either way, they made their own minds. One liked to believe one didn't
Yeah, I'm not suggesting we all tell every 3/4 year old we know that Santa isn't real just because...
But if a kid asks a question I believe they deserve the truth.
To me, it's much more magical to know my parents created such joy for us at Xmas, that they chose and wrapped our gifts with love, rather than some old dude on a hovercraft with and those poor exhausted reindeer... "
Definitely this, I've always made sure the kids have made their own Christmas presents for family members, we have our own Christmas traditions beyond Santa, so I'm hoping the magic of Christmas is based on them getting stuff. It's about family coming together. I sound like a bloody hallmark card FFS |
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By (user no longer on site)
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My friend shared this on Facebook the other day as she had to tell her son, as he worked it out too. I think its a nice gesture.
* ATTENTION PARENTS WHO MIGHT NEED TO TELL THE TRUTH ABOUT SANTA ???? *
Son: "Dad, I think I'm old enough now. Is there a Santa Claus?"
Dad: "Okay, I agree that you're old enough. But before I tell you, I have a question for you. You see, the “truth” is a dangerous gift. Once you know something, you can't un-know it. Once you know the truth about Santa Claus, you'll never again understand and relate to him as you do now. So my question is: Are you sure you want to know?"
*Brief pause*
Son: "Yes, I want to know."
Dad: "Okay, then I'll tell you. Yes, there is a Santa Claus."
Son: "Really?"
Dad: Yes, really, but he's not an old man with a beard in a red suit. That's just what we tell kids. You see, kids are too young to understand the true nature of Santa Claus, so we explain it to them in a way that they can understand. The truth about Santa Claus is that he's not a person at all; he's an idea. Think of all those presents Santa gave you over the years. We bought those for you. We watched you open them. And did it bother us that you didn't know? Of course not! In fact it gave us great pleasure. You see, Santa Claus is THE IDEA OF GIVING FOR THE SAKE OF GIVING, without thought of thanks or acknowledgement.
When I saw that woman collapse in town last week and I called for help, I knew that she'd never know that it was me that called an ambulance. I was being Santa Claus when I did that."
Son: "Oh."
Dad: "So now that you know, you're a part of it too. You have to be Santa Claus now. That means you can never tell a young kid the secret, you have to help us select Santa presents for them, and most important, you have to look for opportunities to help other people. Got it?" ??
Look out for and help each other this Christmas???? and... always be kind ???
Hope this helps. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My middle child was 4 yrs old when I had to tell her santa wasn't real. The tooth fairy was never allowed in the house and Halloween was awful.
She hated and still does people in fancy dress.
I hope she gets over the fear when she has kids of her own.
Bless her!
Any idea what triggered it in the first place?
Lu
There uses to be clowns in the high street and she always cried when she saw them, then Christmas must if tipped her over the edge.
It was hard on my other 2 kids."
That's a shame...clowns always creeper me out as a kid but I have also always loved fancy dress.
Fingers crossed she overcomes it! |
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"My friend shared this on Facebook the other day as she had to tell her son, as he worked it out too. I think its a nice gesture.
* ATTENTION PARENTS WHO MIGHT NEED TO TELL THE TRUTH ABOUT SANTA ???? *
Son: "Dad, I think I'm old enough now. Is there a Santa Claus?"
Dad: "Okay, I agree that you're old enough. But before I tell you, I have a question for you. You see, the “truth” is a dangerous gift. Once you know something, you can't un-know it. Once you know the truth about Santa Claus, you'll never again understand and relate to him as you do now. So my question is: Are you sure you want to know?"
*Brief pause*
Son: "Yes, I want to know."
Dad: "Okay, then I'll tell you. Yes, there is a Santa Claus."
Son: "Really?"
Dad: Yes, really, but he's not an old man with a beard in a red suit. That's just what we tell kids. You see, kids are too young to understand the true nature of Santa Claus, so we explain it to them in a way that they can understand. The truth about Santa Claus is that he's not a person at all; he's an idea. Think of all those presents Santa gave you over the years. We bought those for you. We watched you open them. And did it bother us that you didn't know? Of course not! In fact it gave us great pleasure. You see, Santa Claus is THE IDEA OF GIVING FOR THE SAKE OF GIVING, without thought of thanks or acknowledgement.
When I saw that woman collapse in town last week and I called for help, I knew that she'd never know that it was me that called an ambulance. I was being Santa Claus when I did that."
Son: "Oh."
Dad: "So now that you know, you're a part of it too. You have to be Santa Claus now. That means you can never tell a young kid the secret, you have to help us select Santa presents for them, and most important, you have to look for opportunities to help other people. Got it?" ??
Look out for and help each other this Christmas???? and... always be kind ???
Hope this helps."
Oh I absolutely love this!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Are some of you really suggesting that we remove this simple bit of joy from kids lives?
I'm suggesting kids know the truth
Absolutely this. Why fill their heads with this stuff, I never influenced my kids either way, they made their own minds. One liked to believe one didn't
Yeah, I'm not suggesting we all tell every 3/4 year old we know that Santa isn't real just because...
But if a kid asks a question I believe they deserve the truth.
To me, it's much more magical to know my parents created such joy for us at Xmas, that they chose and wrapped our gifts with love, rather than some old dude on a hovercraft with and those poor exhausted reindeer...
Definitely this, I've always made sure the kids have made their own Christmas presents for family members, we have our own Christmas traditions beyond Santa, so I'm hoping the magic of Christmas is based on them getting stuff. It's about family coming together. I sound like a bloody hallmark card FFS "
Hate Xmas, love this! |
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"My friend shared this on Facebook the other day as she had to tell her son, as he worked it out too. I think its a nice gesture.
* ATTENTION PARENTS WHO MIGHT NEED TO TELL THE TRUTH ABOUT SANTA ???? *
Son: "Dad, I think I'm old enough now. Is there a Santa Claus?"
Dad: "Okay, I agree that you're old enough. But before I tell you, I have a question for you. You see, the “truth” is a dangerous gift. Once you know something, you can't un-know it. Once you know the truth about Santa Claus, you'll never again understand and relate to him as you do now. So my question is: Are you sure you want to know?"
*Brief pause*
Son: "Yes, I want to know."
Dad: "Okay, then I'll tell you. Yes, there is a Santa Claus."
Son: "Really?"
Dad: Yes, really, but he's not an old man with a beard in a red suit. That's just what we tell kids. You see, kids are too young to understand the true nature of Santa Claus, so we explain it to them in a way that they can understand. The truth about Santa Claus is that he's not a person at all; he's an idea. Think of all those presents Santa gave you over the years. We bought those for you. We watched you open them. And did it bother us that you didn't know? Of course not! In fact it gave us great pleasure. You see, Santa Claus is THE IDEA OF GIVING FOR THE SAKE OF GIVING, without thought of thanks or acknowledgement.
When I saw that woman collapse in town last week and I called for help, I knew that she'd never know that it was me that called an ambulance. I was being Santa Claus when I did that."
Son: "Oh."
Dad: "So now that you know, you're a part of it too. You have to be Santa Claus now. That means you can never tell a young kid the secret, you have to help us select Santa presents for them, and most important, you have to look for opportunities to help other people. Got it?" ??
Look out for and help each other this Christmas???? and... always be kind ???
Hope this helps."
That's lovely! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Oh gosh, we have interactive tooth fairies, garden fairies, elf door (Not elf on the shelf) etc. Mine are 10 and 7. When they learn it's not real, fair enough. But for now it's cute and exciting and magical |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"My friend shared this on Facebook the other day as she had to tell her son, as he worked it out too. I think its a nice gesture.
* ATTENTION PARENTS WHO MIGHT NEED TO TELL THE TRUTH ABOUT SANTA ???? *
Son: "Dad, I think I'm old enough now. Is there a Santa Claus?"
Dad: "Okay, I agree that you're old enough. But before I tell you, I have a question for you. You see, the “truth” is a dangerous gift. Once you know something, you can't un-know it. Once you know the truth about Santa Claus, you'll never again understand and relate to him as you do now. So my question is: Are you sure you want to know?"
*Brief pause*
Son: "Yes, I want to know."
Dad: "Okay, then I'll tell you. Yes, there is a Santa Claus."
Son: "Really?"
Dad: Yes, really, but he's not an old man with a beard in a red suit. That's just what we tell kids. You see, kids are too young to understand the true nature of Santa Claus, so we explain it to them in a way that they can understand. The truth about Santa Claus is that he's not a person at all; he's an idea. Think of all those presents Santa gave you over the years. We bought those for you. We watched you open them. And did it bother us that you didn't know? Of course not! In fact it gave us great pleasure. You see, Santa Claus is THE IDEA OF GIVING FOR THE SAKE OF GIVING, without thought of thanks or acknowledgement.
When I saw that woman collapse in town last week and I called for help, I knew that she'd never know that it was me that called an ambulance. I was being Santa Claus when I did that."
Son: "Oh."
Dad: "So now that you know, you're a part of it too. You have to be Santa Claus now. That means you can never tell a young kid the secret, you have to help us select Santa presents for them, and most important, you have to look for opportunities to help other people. Got it?" ??
Look out for and help each other this Christmas???? and... always be kind ???
Hope this helps."
ohh this is wonderful thank you so much for sharing I think we will sit him down and try to explain it like this |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Are some of you really suggesting that we remove this simple bit of joy from kids lives?
I'm suggesting kids know the truth
Absolutely this. Why fill their heads with this stuff, I never influenced my kids either way, they made their own minds. One liked to believe one didn't
Yeah, I'm not suggesting we all tell every 3/4 year old we know that Santa isn't real just because...
But if a kid asks a question I believe they deserve the truth.
To me, it's much more magical to know my parents created such joy for us at Xmas, that they chose and wrapped our gifts with love, rather than some old dude on a hovercraft with and those poor exhausted reindeer... "
The kids know that we buy most of the presents but santa gets them one really special one. It just seemed like a happy medium |
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"Are some of you really suggesting that we remove this simple bit of joy from kids lives?
I'm suggesting kids know the truth
Absolutely this. Why fill their heads with this stuff, I never influenced my kids either way, they made their own minds. One liked to believe one didn't
Yeah, I'm not suggesting we all tell every 3/4 year old we know that Santa isn't real just because...
But if a kid asks a question I believe they deserve the truth.
To me, it's much more magical to know my parents created such joy for us at Xmas, that they chose and wrapped our gifts with love, rather than some old dude on a hovercraft with and those poor exhausted reindeer...
Definitely this, I've always made sure the kids have made their own Christmas presents for family members, we have our own Christmas traditions beyond Santa, so I'm hoping the magic of Christmas is based on them getting stuff. It's about family coming together. I sound like a bloody hallmark card FFS
Hate Xmas, love this! "
Hate Christmas too to be honest, I now tolerate it for the kids. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Mine are still small so very much believe but I think I was about 9 or 10 when I realised he wasn't real.
Tell them that only people believe get presents haha
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If you dint believe.....you wont receive
They might be at the cross over age where they like to act cool about Santa and know it cant be true.....how can he possibly carry everyones presents in his sleigh.....billions of presents.....but the child in them still believes .... |
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"Are some of you really suggesting that we remove this simple bit of joy from kids lives?
I'm suggesting kids know the truth
Absolutely this. Why fill their heads with this stuff, I never influenced my kids either way, they made their own minds. One liked to believe one didn't"
Are you saying you never played along with the whole Santa idea? |
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By *ankie303Woman
over a year ago
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Sadly my 7 year olds dad side are jehovah witnesses and as soon as her dad moved back in to his parents home, when she was 1, they started trashing things like Christmas for her.....she at least still believes in the tooth fairy  |
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"My friend shared this on Facebook the other day as she had to tell her son, as he worked it out too. I think its a nice gesture.
* ATTENTION PARENTS WHO MIGHT NEED TO TELL THE TRUTH ABOUT SANTA ???? *
Son: "Dad, I think I'm old enough now. Is there a Santa Claus?"
Dad: "Okay, I agree that you're old enough. But before I tell you, I have a question for you. You see, the “truth” is a dangerous gift. Once you know something, you can't un-know it. Once you know the truth about Santa Claus, you'll never again understand and relate to him as you do now. So my question is: Are you sure you want to know?"
*Brief pause*
Son: "Yes, I want to know."
Dad: "Okay, then I'll tell you. Yes, there is a Santa Claus."
Son: "Really?"
Dad: Yes, really, but he's not an old man with a beard in a red suit. That's just what we tell kids. You see, kids are too young to understand the true nature of Santa Claus, so we explain it to them in a way that they can understand. The truth about Santa Claus is that he's not a person at all; he's an idea. Think of all those presents Santa gave you over the years. We bought those for you. We watched you open them. And did it bother us that you didn't know? Of course not! In fact it gave us great pleasure. You see, Santa Claus is THE IDEA OF GIVING FOR THE SAKE OF GIVING, without thought of thanks or acknowledgement.
When I saw that woman collapse in town last week and I called for help, I knew that she'd never know that it was me that called an ambulance. I was being Santa Claus when I did that."
Son: "Oh."
Dad: "So now that you know, you're a part of it too. You have to be Santa Claus now. That means you can never tell a young kid the secret, you have to help us select Santa presents for them, and most important, you have to look for opportunities to help other people. Got it?" ??
Look out for and help each other this Christmas???? and... always be kind ???
Hope this helps."
Your friend has watched far too many Christmas films . But then again so have I....... Love it |
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Mine understand it's the experience of santa claus. Not necessarily the person. I do Christmas in a big way but don't force it on them now. My daughter loves it my son enjoys the free beer on Christmas day. Merry Christmas fabbers. |
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"What do you mean Santa doesn't exist???
Santa is real, still every year I post my wish list up the chimney and every year he keeps coming down the chimney and fucking my wife."
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over a year ago
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"My friend shared this on Facebook the other day as she had to tell her son, as he worked it out too. I think its a nice gesture.
* ATTENTION PARENTS WHO MIGHT NEED TO TELL THE TRUTH ABOUT SANTA ???? *
Son: "Dad, I think I'm old enough now. Is there a Santa Claus?"
Dad: "Okay, I agree that you're old enough. But before I tell you, I have a question for you. You see, the “truth” is a dangerous gift. Once you know something, you can't un-know it. Once you know the truth about Santa Claus, you'll never again understand and relate to him as you do now. So my question is: Are you sure you want to know?"
*Brief pause*
Son: "Yes, I want to know."
Dad: "Okay, then I'll tell you. Yes, there is a Santa Claus."
Son: "Really?"
Dad: Yes, really, but he's not an old man with a beard in a red suit. That's just what we tell kids. You see, kids are too young to understand the true nature of Santa Claus, so we explain it to them in a way that they can understand. The truth about Santa Claus is that he's not a person at all; he's an idea. Think of all those presents Santa gave you over the years. We bought those for you. We watched you open them. And did it bother us that you didn't know? Of course not! In fact it gave us great pleasure. You see, Santa Claus is THE IDEA OF GIVING FOR THE SAKE OF GIVING, without thought of thanks or acknowledgement.
When I saw that woman collapse in town last week and I called for help, I knew that she'd never know that it was me that called an ambulance. I was being Santa Claus when I did that."
Son: "Oh."
Dad: "So now that you know, you're a part of it too. You have to be Santa Claus now. That means you can never tell a young kid the secret, you have to help us select Santa presents for them, and most important, you have to look for opportunities to help other people. Got it?" ??
Look out for and help each other this Christmas???? and... always be kind ???
Hope this helps.
Oh I absolutely love this!! "
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"Are some of you really suggesting that we remove this simple bit of joy from kids lives?
I'm suggesting kids know the truth
Absolutely this. Why fill their heads with this stuff, I never influenced my kids either way, they made their own minds. One liked to believe one didn't
Are you saying you never played along with the whole Santa idea?"
No I'm saying I allowed my kids to make up their own minds about whether they believed, one wanted to believe it great, I wasn't going to shatter that for him, the other didn't want to believe; great, his choice.
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"I (Luke) was never really brought up to believe in Father Christmas so I haven't felt any loss when my kids stopped believing. "
When you say never really...does that mean Santa never came to you? |
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I think its by the last year of primary school you get all the magic knocked out of you
We still do all the santa stuff here even though they know its not santa doing it. The magic flips and the kids humour the parents belief instead |
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My oldest is 9
She asked me was santa real this year
A few days later her wobbly tooth fell out, and she told me that she knew about the tooth fairy
So I'm guessing this is her last Christmas to believe,,
Way 2 young for that,
Its terrible |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
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"As a family we have always made Christmas a magical time decorating the house going to Santa’s grotto getting the kids to write there lists to Santa etc.
Tonight I asked our children if they were excited for Santa coming and our 9yr old laughed I asked what was so funny and then came the dreaded words....
“Santa’s not real” and I truly feel so sad!
I know children stop believing sooner or later but 9 yrs of age!
Has anyone else been through this and how did you respond what is the acceptable age?
I know there is bigger things going on in the world right now I just feel so upset like the magic has gone "
Ours is eight and plays the Santa card.
Basically she’ll put a bunch of reasonable stuff on a list & one stupidly expensive one. Then when I say “Yeah righto you can forget that one!” She’ll say “That’s ok, I know it’s a lot so Santa can bring that one!”
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I put most of it down to social media and today's technology for them finding out he's not real at an earlier age.
It's a shame when that magic goes OP, but you might get it again with grandchildren one day. |
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"My oldest is 9
She asked me was santa real this year
A few days later her wobbly tooth fell out, and she told me that she knew about the tooth fairy
So I'm guessing this is her last Christmas to believe,,
Way 2 young for that,
Its terrible"
I know it’s such a horrible feeling |
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"As a family we have always made Christmas a magical time decorating the house going to Santa’s grotto getting the kids to write there lists to Santa etc.
Tonight I asked our children if they were excited for Santa coming and our 9yr old laughed I asked what was so funny and then came the dreaded words....
“Santa’s not real” and I truly feel so sad!
I know children stop believing sooner or later but 9 yrs of age!
Has anyone else been through this and how did you respond what is the acceptable age?
I know there is bigger things going on in the world right now I just feel so upset like the magic has gone
Ours is eight and plays the Santa card.
Basically she’ll put a bunch of reasonable stuff on a list & one stupidly expensive one. Then when I say “Yeah righto you can forget that one!” She’ll say “That’s ok, I know it’s a lot so Santa can bring that one!”
S"
hahaha clever very clever |
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"I put most of it down to social media and today's technology for them finding out he's not real at an earlier age.
It's a shame when that magic goes OP, but you might get it again with grandchildren one day. "
yeah very true plus the school play ground has a lot to answer for |
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I don't remember when I was still young enough to really believe in Father Christmas (Santa is American to me). I kept up the pretence for my sister until she figured it out at about 7/8.
Mine figured it out quite young, stepson was probably 12/13 - has learning difficulties and went to a special school so believed longer than most.
In generally think it's important children know the truth before secondary school, so they aren't teased or bullied about it. |
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Everybody I guess, however I watch every Christmas film, clench my fist and hope that the fat lazy fooker will take over and give my bank account a rest. Festive hide and seek champion he is! |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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Awwwww, it's a bit of a moment when you get to that stage. I don't remember what age mine were, I just told them it was more fun to believe.
To be honest it saved us a lot of time ie no more fannying about sprinkling glitter on the garden in the dead of night and all that! |
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It is lovely to see the faces of little one's light up when they do believe.
My grandson is 8 and I think that we are just about getting away with the wonderful Father Christmas tale!
There's very little chance he'll be a believer next year.
My 4 Yr old granddaughter was intently writing her letter to Father Christmas.
When asked what she wanted she said...."everything!"
We've narrowed it down a bit now otherwise it'd be to much for Santa to carry |
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"I put most of it down to social media and today's technology for them finding out he's not real at an earlier age.
It's a shame when that magic goes OP, but you might get it again with grandchildren one day. yeah very true plus the school play ground has a lot to answer for "
Yes I forgot about that one! |
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"It is lovely to see the faces of little one's light up when they do believe.
My grandson is 8 and I think that we are just about getting away with the wonderful Father Christmas tale!
There's very little chance he'll be a believer next year.
My 4 Yr old granddaughter was intently writing her letter to Father Christmas.
When asked what she wanted she said...."everything!"
We've narrowed it down a bit now otherwise it'd be to much for Santa to carry "
hahaha aww bless her I remember when we were kids we just circled everything in the argos book |
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I had this at the age of 10. I asked him how do you know he doesn’t exist ‘because my friends said so’.
Come Christmas Eve he potters off to bed saying ‘I’m looking forward to the morning’, ‘why?’ I ask, ‘because it’s Christmas and there will be presents’. ‘But you didn’t write a letter to him and you’ve said you don’t believe, so where are the presents coming from?’.... this bit he couldn’t answer. 30 minutes later he comes back, can we do a Santa plate and I’ve written him a letter he case he does pop by, saying I’m sorry I didn’t believe.
I backed that up with photos of Santa in our house, sleeping on the sofa, crouching by the tree and sneaking into his room to do his stocking.
All of that made for a magical morning and a renewed belief.
Now he is nearly 13 there is no Santa but he is just as excited, albeit frustrated, as delivery boxes are in the corner of the room and he has no idea of what is in them.
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"It is lovely to see the faces of little one's light up when they do believe.
My grandson is 8 and I think that we are just about getting away with the wonderful Father Christmas tale!
There's very little chance he'll be a believer next year.
My 4 Yr old granddaughter was intently writing her letter to Father Christmas.
When asked what she wanted she said...."everything!"
We've narrowed it down a bit now otherwise it'd be to much for Santa to carry hahaha aww bless her I remember when we were kids we just circled everything in the argos book "
Im my day there was the Littlewoods catalogue
Circling, Keeps them kids amused for ages. |
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"I had this at the age of 10. I asked him how do you know he doesn’t exist ‘because my friends said so’.
Come Christmas Eve he potters off to bed saying ‘I’m looking forward to the morning’, ‘why?’ I ask, ‘because it’s Christmas and there will be presents’. ‘But you didn’t write a letter to him and you’ve said you don’t believe, so where are the presents coming from?’.... this bit he couldn’t answer. 30 minutes later he comes back, can we do a Santa plate and I’ve written him a letter he case he does pop by, saying I’m sorry I didn’t believe.
I backed that up with photos of Santa in our house, sleeping on the sofa, crouching by the tree and sneaking into his room to do his stocking.
All of that made for a magical morning and a renewed belief.
Now he is nearly 13 there is no Santa but he is just as excited, albeit frustrated, as delivery boxes are in the corner of the room and he has no idea of what is in them.
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Aww bless him! We'll keep it going for as long as we can...there's plenty of time for the realities of life to reach them! |
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Nine! Blimey I had several copies of Mayfair stashed in the woods and as for Santa.
You know they can't be children for ever right and at some point peers take over.
Just satisfy yourself that if you've raised them right they are on the way to being adults you'd be proud of.
Who could ask for more |
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"My middle child was 4 yrs old when I had to tell her santa wasn't real. The tooth fairy was never allowed in the house and Halloween was awful.
She hated and still does people in fancy dress.
I hope she gets over the fear when she has kids of her own. "
My neice insisted on a 'Santa, please stop here!' sign outside her bedroom door. She wanted presents but didn't want him in her bedroom while she was sleeping. Smart kid! |
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