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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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New to all this and it’s a pretty daunting step to try and familiarise yourself within, speaking to a female who is a regular on the swinging scene she said the people are ever so friendly if anything too friendly ... all Iv found is the rudest stuck up women Iv ever come across, probably not the right place for me I get there’s a lot of dick head men but Iv been nothing but polite, rather frustrating |
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Craig, I'm sorry this has been the case for you.
Please keep in mind that those women you've been polite to are probably frustrated too.
80% of the country is frustrated at the moment.
May I ask how they've been rude to you (don't copy actual messages or you will get a ban)
I'm curious as to an example tho |
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yes. there are. but for every stuck up rude woman there are 10 men that are worse.
bear with it and toughen up a bit. there is more than one way to skin a cat so find your level.
some know exactly what they want and dont ponce about saying it.
then again, as you say, some are just twats too.
learn to roll with the punches. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Craig, I'm sorry this has been the case for you.
Please keep in mind that those women you've been polite to are probably frustrated too.
80% of the country is frustrated at the moment.
May I ask how they've been rude to you (don't copy actual messages or you will get a ban)
I'm curious as to an example tho"
Example saying Hahahaha like I’m going to reply to someone like you. Just not called for |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"New to all this and it’s a pretty daunting step to try and familiarise yourself within, speaking to a female who is a regular on the swinging scene she said the people are ever so friendly if anything too friendly ... all Iv found is the rudest stuck up women Iv ever come across, probably not the right place for me I get there’s a lot of dick head men but Iv been nothing but polite, rather frustrating "
Some are very rude Craig and others are not. Just develop a thick skin and move on. Its like a version of real life but just not quite |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Craig, I'm sorry this has been the case for you.
Please keep in mind that those women you've been polite to are probably frustrated too.
80% of the country is frustrated at the moment.
May I ask how they've been rude to you (don't copy actual messages or you will get a ban)
I'm curious as to an example tho
Example saying Hahahaha like I’m going to reply to someone like you. Just not called for "
It was probably a guy mate. The mere fact you got a response suggests it wasn't a real woman!  |
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"Craig, I'm sorry this has been the case for you.
Please keep in mind that those women you've been polite to are probably frustrated too.
80% of the country is frustrated at the moment.
May I ask how they've been rude to you (don't copy actual messages or you will get a ban)
I'm curious as to an example tho
Example saying Hahahaha like I’m going to reply to someone like you. Just not called for "
Yeah that's shit.
I have said far worse tho to people who've blatantly not read my profile. I know, I'm not big and I'm not clever but by god it blows off some steam when I'm on my period. |
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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago
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"New to all this and it’s a pretty daunting step to try and familiarise yourself within, speaking to a female who is a regular on the swinging scene she said the people are ever so friendly if anything too friendly ... all Iv found is the rudest stuck up women Iv ever come across, probably not the right place for me I get there’s a lot of dick head men but Iv been nothing but polite, rather frustrating "
That's the world of today don't take it to heart mate |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Same as everyday life, come across people who are not so nice. Don't take it personally and move on, there are plenty of lovely people on here that make up for the bad few  |
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"Craig, I'm sorry this has been the case for you.
Please keep in mind that those women you've been polite to are probably frustrated too.
80% of the country is frustrated at the moment.
May I ask how they've been rude to you (don't copy actual messages or you will get a ban)
I'm curious as to an example tho
Example saying Hahahaha like I’m going to reply to someone like you. Just not called for "
Here, that just goes to show they ain't actually rude.... more thick. Because they DID reply. Joke's on them! |
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"All the women on fab must be related, they might have user names, but as all the men know they are all called Ms Right??"
Ms ..right, now I'm horny fuck me.
Ms...right, meet me now!
Ms...right, come ch*ke on my cock!.
Ms..right, I've been drinking and I'm sending you a disrespectful message!
You get the picture |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
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"All the women on fab must be related, they might have user names, but as all the men know they are all called Ms Right??
Ms ..right, now I'm horny fuck me.
Ms...right, meet me now!
Ms...right, come ch*ke on my cock!.
Ms..right, I've been drinking and I'm sending you a disrespectful message!
You get the picture"
You forgot one:
Ms...right, I've got vodka and kebabs, who wants to meet now?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Do you know what... I’ve had men tell me I’m stuck up my own arse. One today did, I didn’t answer his first boring nondescript copy and past message and as he hadn’t read my simple profile I mass deleted. I then got a message 4 hours later telling me I can be added to the stuck up their own arse bitch list... sadly he blocked me before I could teach him the error of his ways... so basically it’s not always the people your approaching where the problem lies OP. Not saying the case with you, but it’s what I’m encountering at the mo |
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"Do you know what... I’ve had men tell me I’m stuck up my own arse. One today did, I didn’t answer his first boring nondescript copy and past message and as he hadn’t read my simple profile I mass deleted. I then got a message 4 hours later telling me I can be added to the stuck up their own arse bitch list... sadly he blocked me before I could teach him the error of his ways... so basically it’s not always the people your approaching where the problem lies OP. Not saying the case with you, but it’s what I’m encountering at the mo"
Last year sometime I was told I was too stuck up if I was going to ignore all men on Fab. Was news to me, I'd been messaging men on Fab all day. |
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"Craig, I'm sorry this has been the case for you.
Please keep in mind that those women you've been polite to are probably frustrated too.
80% of the country is frustrated at the moment.
May I ask how they've been rude to you (don't copy actual messages or you will get a ban)
I'm curious as to an example tho
Example saying Hahahaha like I’m going to reply to someone like you. Just not called for "
Ah! There is a certain someone (that I can't name) that posts things like this to everyone she doesn't like.
Did it to me just for looking at her profile.
People like that just don't deserve our time, so don't worry about it.
Keep smiling, keep being polite, and spend your time on the many nice people here. |
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Now I'm not judging but a quick glance at your profile and I'd like to point out that there are a few things that I personally would class as off putting. With the sheer volume of inboxes women get, being on occasion overwhelming women do often get jaded on here. Leaving us little option but to be blunt with those who dont have potential to take things further. Its easier to be this way than deal with 5 or 6 further messages asking why we wont bend over and give it up for some random unsuitable chap.
This is purely my opinion but I'd suggest taking a look at your profile from our perspective and maybe that could help you find someone more suitable?
I do agree with the point that there is no excuse for rudeness and bad manners however.
But guys on here do often make our patience run very thin so please bear with us x |
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"All the women on fab must be related, they might have user names, but as all the men know they are all called Ms Right??
Ms ..right, now I'm horny fuck me.
Ms...right, meet me now!
Ms...right, come ch*ke on my cock!.
Ms..right, I've been drinking and I'm sending you a disrespectful message!
You get the picture
You forgot one:
Ms...right, I've got vodka and kebabs, who wants to meet now?
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Chunky me darling..you kmkw the way to a girls heart x |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
Maldon and Peterborough |
"All the women on fab must be related, they might have user names, but as all the men know they are all called Ms Right??
Ms ..right, now I'm horny fuck me.
Ms...right, meet me now!
Ms...right, come ch*ke on my cock!.
Ms..right, I've been drinking and I'm sending you a disrespectful message!
You get the picture
You forgot one:
Ms...right, I've got vodka and kebabs, who wants to meet now?
Chunky me darling..you kmkw the way to a girls heart x"
Shhhhh. Im trying to play hard to get.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Craig, I'm sorry this has been the case for you.
Please keep in mind that those women you've been polite to are probably frustrated too.
80% of the country is frustrated at the moment.
May I ask how they've been rude to you (don't copy actual messages or you will get a ban)
I'm curious as to an example tho
Example saying Hahahaha like I’m going to reply to someone like you. Just not called for
It was probably a guy mate. The mere fact you got a response suggests it wasn't a real woman! "
This exactly lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its been a while since ive had an abusive message back from a woman. In recent times ive found most replies polite and kind even though most are rejection. |
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"All the women on fab must be related, they might have user names, but as all the men know they are all called Ms Right??
Ms ..right, now I'm horny fuck me.
Ms...right, meet me now!
Ms...right, come ch*ke on my cock!.
Ms..right, I've been drinking and I'm sending you a disrespectful message!
You get the picture
You forgot one:
Ms...right, I've got vodka and kebabs, who wants to meet now?
Chunky me darling..you kmkw the way to a girls heart x
Shhhhh. Im trying to play hard to get. "
I'm sure you do play 'hard'..to get |
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"Be careful about update posts OP. Ladies will see that you’re frustrated and think you can’t handle the site. We’re not all horrible, most, who’ve been on a while, are pretty nice x"
I second this. If I'd read that before I saw the thread I'd have been spikey as fuck.
For me, I feel I have every right to be upon my high horse. I have strong moral values and even though I can be a Cunty McCuntface, when I am, that shit has been earned.
I get disrespected on a daily basis, even if that disrespect is something "minor" as messaging without reading my profile, or disregarding my wishes. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why care what other people do or think.
500 messages a day on average and most of them are just boring mindless crap talk.Like fancy a fuck or I want to do this or that to you.
Would the same people walk up to someone at a bar and say the same thing and expect them to be impressed in anyway shape or form.
I'm not the greatest at putting words together or communicating that way but wow some on here definitely add a new dimension to writing a new Shakespeare sonnet
Then some of the ones you do say a polite no sorry too can get very angry.Ive been called up my own ass or a stupid little girl and so on but who cares it's just the internet where people grow there own egos to escape there true reality.
Just do your own thing as there is good people out there and if you stay happy and don't let it bother you then you will have fun and happiness and a good soul is as attractive as looks.
So blank the egos the odiots and the strange ones lol and just have fun |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can’t remember ever coming across anyone replying to messages who have been stuck up or rude?
Not interested maybe but that is the nature of attraction.
I mean I’m sure there are stuck up rude men/women but there must be way more nice people if I have never had a bad message |
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I don't find messages from guys interesting or challenging, but instead sycophantic and boring, with idiot questions like 'fancy a meet?'
So yes those guys are going to have their heads ripped off and blocked.
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"Be careful about update posts OP. Ladies will see that you’re frustrated and think you can’t handle the site. We’re not all horrible, most, who’ve been on a while, are pretty nice x
I second this. If I'd read that before I saw the thread I'd have been spikey as fuck.
For me, I feel I have every right to be upon my high horse. I have strong moral values and even though I can be a Cunty McCuntface, when I am, that shit has been earned.
I get disrespected on a daily basis, even if that disrespect is something "minor" as messaging without reading my profile, or disregarding my wishes."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m sending you hugs Op
No man deserves to be disrespected on Fab....
You have to remember that most of these rude stuck up people , do not get half the male attention in real life... So they come on Fab and act like they are God’s gift to men....
Complaining that they get 500 messages a day... Like in real life 500 men will flirt with them daily.....
I would suggest hanging out in the forums, because all the women on the forums are pretty cool...... and you might a new female friend....
Hugs |
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We opened our profile up to single men yesterday and now have a bit more of an understanding of what women receive message wise.
In two days we have gone from trying to answer everyone back even with a polite no thank you, to just deleting the mindless and endless Hey!! Messages. The ones with a bit more to say we would have a quick look at your profile and especially the status to see if there is anything there we don’t like. That just feels like if we met you would tell the world on your status and not very discreet.
When you receive literally hundreds of messages you don’t get long to make a first impression.
For us drop the dick pics. I’m guessing all men have one???? Wait until there is some sort of Connection and the wait until it’s asked for.
Insulting your target audience (women) my not be your best move!!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ive had three braindeads ask me to meet today
I cant work out whether they are just thick, or they dont think lockdown applies to them
Damn right I'm bloody rude to them!! |
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"Be careful about update posts OP. Ladies will see that you’re frustrated and think you can’t handle the site. We’re not all horrible, most, who’ve been on a while, are pretty nice x
I second this. If I'd read that before I saw the thread I'd have been spikey as fuck.
For me, I feel I have every right to be upon my high horse. I have strong moral values and even though I can be a Cunty McCuntface, when I am, that shit has been earned.
I get disrespected on a daily basis, even if that disrespect is something "minor" as messaging without reading my profile, or disregarding my wishes."
This exactly. I don’t often send a nasty message, but sometimes (usually after the 5th message that day from the same guy) I lose patience and they get the blowback. |
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"New to all this and it’s a pretty daunting step to try and familiarise yourself within, speaking to a female who is a regular on the swinging scene she said the people are ever so friendly if anything too friendly ... all Iv found is the rudest stuck up women Iv ever come across, probably not the right place for me I get there’s a lot of dick head men but Iv been nothing but polite, rather frustrating "
What exactly is a stuck up woman? Is it a woman who doesn’t send the reply you want? However no excuse for rudeness! |
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By *inkySeeKinkyDoWoman
over a year ago
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"I’m sending you hugs Op
No man deserves to be disrespected on Fab....
You have to remember that most of these rude stuck up people , do not get half the male attention in real life... So they come on Fab and act like they are God’s gift to men.... "
Nobody deserves to be disrespected on Fab, not just men.
Perhaps if the disrespectful men were more respectful, the women wouldnt be as 'stuck up' and thats nothing to do with off site success with the opposite sex, its about mens unrealistic expectations and misjudged sense of entitlement |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
Maldon and Peterborough |
"All the women on fab must be related, they might have user names, but as all the men know they are all called Ms Right??
Ms ..right, now I'm horny fuck me.
Ms...right, meet me now!
Ms...right, come ch*ke on my cock!.
Ms..right, I've been drinking and I'm sending you a disrespectful message!
You get the picture
You forgot one:
Ms...right, I've got vodka and kebabs, who wants to meet now?
Chunky me darling..you kmkw the way to a girls heart x
Shhhhh. Im trying to play hard to get.
I'm sure you do play 'hard'..to get "
after this bloody awful scenario you may find out how hard i can get.   |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’m sending you hugs Op
No man deserves to be disrespected on Fab....
You have to remember that most of these rude stuck up people , do not get half the male attention in real life... So they come on Fab and act like they are God’s gift to men....
Nobody deserves to be disrespected on Fab, not just men.
Perhaps if the disrespectful men were more respectful, the women wouldnt be as 'stuck up' and thats nothing to do with off site success with the opposite sex, its about mens unrealistic expectations and misjudged sense of entitlement"
So please explain to me , how a brand new male user is supposed to know that other men on Fab have been sending women/couples abusive messages or unwanted messages?
When a new male user signs up , he believes “ Hello , how are you doing “ is a appropriate message.....
When in reality that is a dull and boring message to seasoned users on Fab....
When he sends out 20 of these messages and they are all deleted with no reply.....
What he supposed to think?
These are nice people......
He will think all these women/couples are rude and up their own ass.....
Hence why we are in this thread......
So try to be nice to all the new male users... they are not all bad guys ..... |
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By *inkySeeKinkyDoWoman
over a year ago
'tween PontyCarlo & CasVegas in West Yorks |
"I’m sending you hugs Op
No man deserves to be disrespected on Fab....
You have to remember that most of these rude stuck up people , do not get half the male attention in real life... So they come on Fab and act like they are God’s gift to men....
Nobody deserves to be disrespected on Fab, not just men.
Perhaps if the disrespectful men were more respectful, the women wouldnt be as 'stuck up' and thats nothing to do with off site success with the opposite sex, its about mens unrealistic expectations and misjudged sense of entitlement
So please explain to me , how a brand new male user is supposed to know that other men on Fab have been sending women/couples abusive messages or unwanted messages?
When a new male user signs up , he believes “ Hello , how are you doing “ is a appropriate message.....
When in reality that is a dull and boring message to seasoned users on Fab....
When he sends out 20 of these messages and they are all deleted with no reply.....
What he supposed to think?
These are nice people......
He will think all these women/couples are rude and up their own ass.....
Hence why we are in this thread......
So try to be nice to all the new male users... they are not all bad guys ....."
As with all new users, they should read the FAQs and adjust their ecpectations accordingly.
By the same thinking should a new female have to put up with the barrage of messages she will receive after first joining, most of which are coarse, and thats before shes even uploaded any pics. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To be fair there are so many dickheads on here a new guy has to be patient and make a real effort
99% of women here are lovely from my experience. Even those who dont want to chat to me.
Forums are a great way to get to know ppl who wouldnt normally chat in messages. |
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As a single man here, you can only do well and retain your well-being if you manage your expectations appropriately. It's really tough for you here.
And during 2020 most people have not been able to meet for sex here. You're here at a bad time.
Due to inbox levels, most requesting fast meets, many are barely able to cope with a tiny fraction of guys messaging. No reply = not taking interest any further, because of this.
You have to learn how to manage it and yourself here. It's not for everyone all of the time |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’m sending you hugs Op
No man deserves to be disrespected on Fab....
You have to remember that most of these rude stuck up people , do not get half the male attention in real life... So they come on Fab and act like they are God’s gift to men....
Nobody deserves to be disrespected on Fab, not just men.
Perhaps if the disrespectful men were more respectful, the women wouldnt be as 'stuck up' and thats nothing to do with off site success with the opposite sex, its about mens unrealistic expectations and misjudged sense of entitlement
So please explain to me , how a brand new male user is supposed to know that other men on Fab have been sending women/couples abusive messages or unwanted messages?
When a new male user signs up , he believes “ Hello , how are you doing “ is a appropriate message.....
When in reality that is a dull and boring message to seasoned users on Fab....
When he sends out 20 of these messages and they are all deleted with no reply.....
What he supposed to think?
These are nice people......
He will think all these women/couples are rude and up their own ass.....
Hence why we are in this thread......
So try to be nice to all the new male users... they are not all bad guys .....
As with all new users, they should read the FAQs and adjust their ecpectations accordingly.
By the same thinking should a new female have to put up with the barrage of messages she will receive after first joining, most of which are coarse, and thats before shes even uploaded any pics."
Honestly men don’t read the FAQ when signing up to a sex/swinging site.... We uploaded our best pics and start swiping or sending messages......
I can’t feel the pain of a new female user on Fab because I have never walked in their shoes...
But in my mind , receiving 500 messages before I uploaded a pic would be a good thing.... I’d be like a kid in a candy shop and my ego would be massive..... |
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By *inkySeeKinkyDoWoman
over a year ago
'tween PontyCarlo & CasVegas in West Yorks |
"I’m sending you hugs Op
No man deserves to be disrespected on Fab....
You have to remember that most of these rude stuck up people , do not get half the male attention in real life... So they come on Fab and act like they are God’s gift to men....
Nobody deserves to be disrespected on Fab, not just men.
Perhaps if the disrespectful men were more respectful, the women wouldnt be as 'stuck up' and thats nothing to do with off site success with the opposite sex, its about mens unrealistic expectations and misjudged sense of entitlement
So please explain to me , how a brand new male user is supposed to know that other men on Fab have been sending women/couples abusive messages or unwanted messages?
When a new male user signs up , he believes “ Hello , how are you doing “ is a appropriate message.....
When in reality that is a dull and boring message to seasoned users on Fab....
When he sends out 20 of these messages and they are all deleted with no reply.....
What he supposed to think?
These are nice people......
He will think all these women/couples are rude and up their own ass.....
Hence why we are in this thread......
So try to be nice to all the new male users... they are not all bad guys .....
As with all new users, they should read the FAQs and adjust their ecpectations accordingly.
By the same thinking should a new female have to put up with the barrage of messages she will receive after first joining, most of which are coarse, and thats before shes even uploaded any pics.
Honestly men don’t read the FAQ when signing up to a sex/swinging site.... We uploaded our best pics and start swiping or sending messages......
I can’t feel the pain of a new female user on Fab because I have never walked in their shoes...
But in my mind , receiving 500 messages before I uploaded a pic would be a good thing.... I’d be like a kid in a candy shop and my ego would be massive....."
...and thats the problem...the not reading bit...be it the FAQs, the profiles, the forum advice... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nobody likes rejection OP but got to accept that not everyone you message wants to talk to you, and if they do reply doesn’t mean they want to jump into ur bed.
Fab is a funny place filled with lots of characters and being a single man you will really have to stand out to get a woman’s attention. Given the volume of messages any woman gets
Advice I’d give is chill out with dave and the right one will come along one day |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"New to all this and it’s a pretty daunting step to try and familiarise yourself within, speaking to a female who is a regular on the swinging scene she said the people are ever so friendly if anything too friendly ... all Iv found is the rudest stuck up women Iv ever come across, probably not the right place for me I get there’s a lot of dick head men but Iv been nothing but polite, rather frustrating "
And some are patronising aswell. And some also think, that they are above you aswell. |
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As with all new users, they should read the FAQs and adjust their ecpectations accordingly.
By the same thinking should a new female have to put up with the barrage of messages she will receive after first joining, most of which are coarse, and thats before shes even uploaded any pics.
Honestly men don’t read the FAQ when signing up to a sex/swinging site.... We uploaded our best pics and start swiping or sending messages......
I can’t feel the pain of a new female user on Fab because I have never walked in their shoes...
But in my mind , receiving 500 messages before I uploaded a pic would be a good thing.... I’d be like a kid in a candy shop and my ego would be massive....."
It’s not a good thing. It’s a scary and overwhelming thing. It isn’t flattering, how is it flattering to be told you’re beautiful when they don’t even know what you look like? It’s a blatant lie that they think will get them into your knickers. “I want to get you pregnant” “come and meet me in my truck” “would you have sex with an older man for money” “I’m going to tie you up and do what I want to you” and on and on and on - those and many more as bad or worse were all in my first few hours on here. Stop acting like it’s great for women, it’s not. I didn’t even have time to get familiar with the site and with filters etc because of the constant, endless messages. |
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As with all new users, they should read the FAQs and adjust their ecpectations accordingly.
By the same thinking should a new female have to put up with the barrage of messages she will receive after first joining, most of which are coarse, and thats before shes even uploaded any pics.
Honestly men don’t read the FAQ when signing up to a sex/swinging site.... We uploaded our best pics and start swiping or sending messages......
I can’t feel the pain of a new female user on Fab because I have never walked in their shoes...
But in my mind , receiving 500 messages before I uploaded a pic would be a good thing.... I’d be like a kid in a candy shop and my ego would be massive.....
It’s not a good thing. It’s a scary and overwhelming thing. It isn’t flattering, how is it flattering to be told you’re beautiful when they don’t even know what you look like? It’s a blatant lie that they think will get them into your knickers. “I want to get you pregnant” “come and meet me in my truck” “would you have sex with an older man for money” “I’m going to tie you up and do what I want to you” and on and on and on - those and many more as bad or worse were all in my first few hours on here. Stop acting like it’s great for women, it’s not. I didn’t even have time to get familiar with the site and with filters etc because of the constant, endless messages."
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you HAVE to remember that the women of FAB must be INUNDATED with messages, winks etc etc.
Couple of rude people out there but it goes both ways tbh!
I find that u have to take your time and not just message every woman you find attractive. Read profiles and only give your time to people who seem your type.
I think as men we see this as a sex site and think every woman on there wants sex with you... unfortunately not the case.
Just be yourself and the right type of fab profiles will come to you |
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"New to all this and it’s a pretty daunting step to try and familiarise yourself within, speaking to a female who is a regular on the swinging scene she said the people are ever so friendly if anything too friendly ... all Iv found is the rudest stuck up women Iv ever come across, probably not the right place for me I get there’s a lot of dick head men but Iv been nothing but polite, rather frustrating "
Well Craig......... hello.
You've called men dick heads and you've called women rude and stuck up......
Where abouts on the line from Zero to Hero do we place you ? |
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"New to all this and it’s a pretty daunting step to try and familiarise yourself within, speaking to a female who is a regular on the swinging scene she said the people are ever so friendly if anything too friendly ... all Iv found is the rudest stuck up women Iv ever come across, probably not the right place for me I get there’s a lot of dick head men but Iv been nothing but polite, rather frustrating
And some are patronising aswell. And some also think, that they are above you aswell."
There , there , there.... I am. |
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"New to all this and it’s a pretty daunting step to try and familiarise yourself within, speaking to a female who is a regular on the swinging scene she said the people are ever so friendly if anything too friendly ... all Iv found is the rudest stuck up women Iv ever come across, probably not the right place for me I get there’s a lot of dick head men but Iv been nothing but polite, rather frustrating "
The irony of calling women ‘stuck up’ and men ‘dickheads’ while calling yourself ‘polite’ in the same sentence is impressive. |
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"New to all this and it’s a pretty daunting step to try and familiarise yourself within, speaking to a female who is a regular on the swinging scene she said the people are ever so friendly if anything too friendly ... all Iv found is the rudest stuck up women Iv ever come across, probably not the right place for me I get there’s a lot of dick head men but Iv been nothing but polite, rather frustrating
The irony of calling women ‘stuck up’ and men ‘dickheads’ while calling yourself ‘polite’ in the same sentence is impressive. "
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I have not found anyone stuck up. I suppose the closest is when people describe themselves as professional. That seems to get some people's goat..
I find a handful of forumites annoying as I am sure others find me annoying. I respect every persons right not to reply or block. The only ones who annoy are often men: the white knights, the virtue signallers, the clique and the snowflakes, |
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I must say, I haven't met any rude ladies here despite my handicap of being in most of their undesirable list.
Perhaps you can simply accept that not everyone wishes to be spoken to and pick your moments or a better approach?
I know what this site is supposed to be but what it isn't is Tinder, despite appearances. |
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I'm not suggesting that you are using it as a Tinder. I'm just saying treat it like a party that you're at. If they're rude, you simply say goodbye politely and continue to circulate. |
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"Craig, I'm sorry this has been the case for you.
Please keep in mind that those women you've been polite to are probably frustrated too.
80% of the country is frustrated at the moment.
May I ask how they've been rude to you (don't copy actual messages or you will get a ban)
I'm curious as to an example tho
Example saying Hahahaha like I’m going to reply to someone like you. Just not called for "
The men outnumber the women by a lot, so some women tend to think they are better than they are. Some men think they are gods gift to women, so you might find you catch the odd person in the end of a string of one line messages who is less than responsive to yours.
Saying that though, there are some fantastic women out there. I have messaged quite a few to pay a compliment, ended to stoll talking to them the months afterwards. |
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"New to all this and it’s a pretty daunting step to try and familiarise yourself within, speaking to a female who is a regular on the swinging scene she said the people are ever so friendly if anything too friendly ... all Iv found is the rudest stuck up women Iv ever come across, probably not the right place for me I get there’s a lot of dick head men but Iv been nothing but polite, rather frustrating "
Are you sure she didn’t mean “Too friendly” as in “I don’t want friends to chat too, I want people to have sex with! too friendly?
Finding friends if you want to on here is easy, finding people that want to go to bed with you, not so much.
We’ve found that invariably the rude single female profiles are either not women, not regular users & not usually on here long before disappearing.
Although there are always exceptions.
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As with all new users, they should read the FAQs and adjust their ecpectations accordingly.
By the same thinking should a new female have to put up with the barrage of messages she will receive after first joining, most of which are coarse, and thats before shes even uploaded any pics.
Honestly men don’t read the FAQ when signing up to a sex/swinging site.... We uploaded our best pics and start swiping or sending messages......
I can’t feel the pain of a new female user on Fab because I have never walked in their shoes...
But in my mind , receiving 500 messages before I uploaded a pic would be a good thing.... I’d be like a kid in a candy shop and my ego would be massive.....
It’s not a good thing. It’s a scary and overwhelming thing. It isn’t flattering, how is it flattering to be told you’re beautiful when they don’t even know what you look like? It’s a blatant lie that they think will get them into your knickers. “I want to get you pregnant” “come and meet me in my truck” “would you have sex with an older man for money” “I’m going to tie you up and do what I want to you” and on and on and on - those and many more as bad or worse were all in my first few hours on here. Stop acting like it’s great for women, it’s not. I didn’t even have time to get familiar with the site and with filters etc because of the constant, endless messages."
Point taken.... All I’m saying is it is better to get lots of messages than all your mail deleted....
I would hope out of all the messages.... There would be a few nice ones...... |
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"I have not found anyone stuck up. I suppose the closest is when people describe themselves as professional. That seems to get some people's goat..
I find a handful of forumites annoying as I am sure others find me annoying. I respect every persons right not to reply or block. The only ones who annoy are often men: the white knights, the virtue signallers, the clique and the snowflakes, "
So, pretty much every guy who posts on the forum? |
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It’s not a good thing. It’s a scary and overwhelming thing. It isn’t flattering, how is it flattering to be told you’re beautiful when they don’t even know what you look like? It’s a blatant lie that they think will get them into your knickers. “I want to get you pregnant” “come and meet me in my truck” “would you have sex with an older man for money” “I’m going to tie you up and do what I want to you” and on and on and on - those and many more as bad or worse were all in my first few hours on here. Stop acting like it’s great for women, it’s not. I didn’t even have time to get familiar with the site and with filters etc because of the constant, endless messages.
Point taken.... All I’m saying is it is better to get lots of messages than all your mail deleted....
I would hope out of all the messages.... There would be a few nice ones......"
Only two of the messages I had in the first week (out of probably about 700) led to meets. One of those is now my FWB, the other I still talk to and will see again post-Covid. I nearly missed the one from my now-FWB because of the sheer volume of messages, which would have been awful. I don’t know what percentage 2 from 700 is, but it’s not a good strike rate. |
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It’s not a good thing. It’s a scary and overwhelming thing. It isn’t flattering, how is it flattering to be told you’re beautiful when they don’t even know what you look like? It’s a blatant lie that they think will get them into your knickers. “I want to get you pregnant” “come and meet me in my truck” “would you have sex with an older man for money” “I’m going to tie you up and do what I want to you” and on and on and on - those and many more as bad or worse were all in my first few hours on here. Stop acting like it’s great for women, it’s not. I didn’t even have time to get familiar with the site and with filters etc because of the constant, endless messages.
Point taken.... All I’m saying is it is better to get lots of messages than all your mail deleted....
I would hope out of all the messages.... There would be a few nice ones......
Only two of the messages I had in the first week (out of probably about 700) led to meets. One of those is now my FWB, the other I still talk to and will see again post-Covid. I nearly missed the one from my now-FWB because of the sheer volume of messages, which would have been awful. I don’t know what percentage 2 from 700 is, but it’s not a good strike rate."
That is about average for meeting people online |
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It’s not a good thing. It’s a scary and overwhelming thing. It isn’t flattering, how is it flattering to be told you’re beautiful when they don’t even know what you look like? It’s a blatant lie that they think will get them into your knickers. “I want to get you pregnant” “come and meet me in my truck” “would you have sex with an older man for money” “I’m going to tie you up and do what I want to you” and on and on and on - those and many more as bad or worse were all in my first few hours on here. Stop acting like it’s great for women, it’s not. I didn’t even have time to get familiar with the site and with filters etc because of the constant, endless messages.
Point taken.... All I’m saying is it is better to get lots of messages than all your mail deleted....
I would hope out of all the messages.... There would be a few nice ones......
Only two of the messages I had in the first week (out of probably about 700) led to meets. One of those is now my FWB, the other I still talk to and will see again post-Covid. I nearly missed the one from my now-FWB because of the sheer volume of messages, which would have been awful. I don’t know what percentage 2 from 700 is, but it’s not a good strike rate.
That is about average for meeting people online"
It might be average for a man to send 700 messages and only get two meets, but to have to wade through 700 messages in one week and only find 2 that are worthwhile is a different thing, and you’ve already said you have no idea what it’s really like for women. You said you would hope out of all the messages there would be a few nice ones, I answered truthfully, and you’ve brushed it off. Tell me, how long would it take for a single man on here to get 700 messages? |
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"Craig, I'm sorry this has been the case for you.
Please keep in mind that those women you've been polite to are probably frustrated too.
80% of the country is frustrated at the moment.
May I ask how they've been rude to you (don't copy actual messages or you will get a ban)
I'm curious as to an example tho
Example saying Hahahaha like I’m going to reply to someone like you. Just not called for
It was probably a guy mate. The mere fact you got a response suggests it wasn't a real woman! "
especially if they reply quickly to messages |
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It’s not a good thing. It’s a scary and overwhelming thing. It isn’t flattering, how is it flattering to be told you’re beautiful when they don’t even know what you look like? It’s a blatant lie that they think will get them into your knickers. “I want to get you pregnant” “come and meet me in my truck” “would you have sex with an older man for money” “I’m going to tie you up and do what I want to you” and on and on and on - those and many more as bad or worse were all in my first few hours on here. Stop acting like it’s great for women, it’s not. I didn’t even have time to get familiar with the site and with filters etc because of the constant, endless messages.
Point taken.... All I’m saying is it is better to get lots of messages than all your mail deleted....
I would hope out of all the messages.... There would be a few nice ones......
Only two of the messages I had in the first week (out of probably about 700) led to meets. One of those is now my FWB, the other I still talk to and will see again post-Covid. I nearly missed the one from my now-FWB because of the sheer volume of messages, which would have been awful. I don’t know what percentage 2 from 700 is, but it’s not a good strike rate.
That is about average for meeting people online
It might be average for a man to send 700 messages and only get two meets, but to have to wade through 700 messages in one week and only find 2 that are worthwhile is a different thing, and you’ve already said you have no idea what it’s really like for women. You said you would hope out of all the messages there would be a few nice ones, I answered truthfully, and you’ve brushed it off. Tell me, how long would it take for a single man on here to get 700 messages?"
Hmm it depends on what you consider a message......
I usually get 2 males emailing a week....
3 hate mail a week for something I said in the forums..,.,
And 5 from people outside of my travel radius.....
So that’s 10 per week x 52 weeks = 520 per year. So a single male will get 700 messages in 1.5 years.....
A woman gets that on her first day with no pictures posted......
I want to die a comeback a female...the first thing I’ll do is set up a profile on Fab.... |
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"New to all this and it’s a pretty daunting step to try and familiarise yourself within, speaking to a female who is a regular on the swinging scene she said the people are ever so friendly if anything too friendly ... all Iv found is the rudest stuck up women Iv ever come across, probably not the right place for me I get there’s a lot of dick head men but Iv been nothing but polite, rather frustrating "
Without sounding awkward mate, women have the upper hand and unless you have something special to offer, good luck. It’s also a swinging site. |
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"Do you know what... I’ve had men tell me I’m stuck up my own arse. One today did, I didn’t answer his first boring nondescript copy and past message and as he hadn’t read my simple profile I mass deleted. I then got a message 4 hours later telling me I can be added to the stuck up their own arse bitch list... sadly he blocked me before I could teach him the error of his ways... so basically it’s not always the people your approaching where the problem lies OP. Not saying the case with you, but it’s what I’m encountering at the mo
Last year sometime I was told I was too stuck up if I was going to ignore all men on Fab. Was news to me, I'd been messaging men on Fab all day."
You’re most certainly not stuck up!!! |
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"New to all this and it’s a pretty daunting step to try and familiarise yourself within, speaking to a female who is a regular on the swinging scene she said the people are ever so friendly if anything too friendly ... all Iv found is the rudest stuck up women Iv ever come across, probably not the right place for me I get there’s a lot of dick head men but Iv been nothing but polite, rather frustrating
Without sounding awkward mate, women have the upper hand and unless you have something special to offer, good luck. It’s also a swinging site."
Women do not have the upper hand on here....
We are all equal, and not every man on here is grateful for attention from women/couples....
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