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By *ealArtfulDodger OP Man over a year ago

Newcastle

Hi All

I'm meeting a gorgeous black girl for a first date tomorrow pre lockdown.

I'm not at all bothered that she's black yet its a first for me and a bit nervous all the same...

All advice welcome but don't be an Emily Blunt OK!

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By *ongueFkYouMan over a year ago

Bradford

"Hi All

I'm meeting a gorgeous black girl for a first date tomorrow pre lockdown.

I'm not at all bothered that she's black yet its a first for me and a bit nervous all the same...

All advice welcome but don't be an Emily Blunt OK!

"
don't be nervous they are absolutely stunning

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By *ealArtfulDodger OP Man over a year ago

Newcastle

Thanks

When you're a Geordie there's not many black women here, yet can I say I'm very much looking forward to my date..

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By *ongueFkYouMan over a year ago

Bradford

"Thanks

When you're a Geordie there's not many black women here, yet can I say I'm very much looking forward to my date..

"
trust me you will enjoy it! I love geordie women have you got one for me lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ok so .... You have a date tomorrow.... Awesome!!!

It's with "a human", "SHE" is a human!!

HUMAN!

She is not a 'colour'... She's a girl human!

What difference does it make what colour her skin is?? She's a girl and she's human!!!

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By *ealArtfulDodger OP Man over a year ago

Newcastle

Errm No the Geordie birds are the sexiest and dirtiest in the world... Why would we share..? Theres birds and then there's Geordie birds.. Pure Filth...

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By *ealArtfulDodger OP Man over a year ago

Newcastle

That is not at all what I said and you know that.. FFS

In Newcastle I'd guess 0.5% of girls are black women at the very most.. Lots of Asian girls who stick 100% with their own ethnicity..

I am an amazing father a true gentleman and I was looking for some help and perhaps advice... So jog on if you have a problem.. Capiche..!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"That is not at all what I said and you know that.. FFS

In Newcastle I'd guess 0.5% of girls are black women at the very most.. Lots of Asian girls who stick 100% with their own ethnicity..

I am an amazing father a true gentleman and I was looking for some help and perhaps advice... So jog on if you have a problem.. Capiche..!

"i'm not at all bothered that she's black"

Why should you be?? Why does skin colour have to come into it?? I'm Olive skinned.....does that mean I have to be categorised into 's compartment' because I'm not, say, fair, golden, pale?? Nope, I'm a human! Same make up on the inside as any other female human!! I really don't get why people have to 'compartmentalise' into colours!

Now, as Eminem stated,

“I don't care if you're black, white, straight, bisexual, gay, lesbian, short, tall, fat, skinny, rich or poor. If you're nice to me, i'll be nice to you. Simple as that!”

Let that sink in and stop going all Mafia on me with your 'Capishe' crap!! Doesn't suit you!

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By *eorgesdad69Man over a year ago

nottingham

Why nervous about her colour? It makes no difference if these is physical and mental attraction then skin colour isn’t an issue

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why nervous about her colour? It makes no difference if these is physical and mental attraction then skin colour isn’t an issue

Exactly!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hi All

I'm meeting a gorgeous black girl for a first date tomorrow pre lockdown.

I'm not at all bothered that she's black yet its a first for me and a bit nervous all the same...

All advice welcome but don't be an Emily Blunt OK!

Is she bothered that you're white?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hi All

I'm meeting a gorgeous black girl for a first date tomorrow pre lockdown.

I'm not at all bothered that she's black yet its a first for me and a bit nervous all the same...

All advice welcome but don't be an Emily Blunt OK!

Is she bothered that you're white?"

I love this reply!!! Thank you!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"That is not at all what I said and you know that.. FFS

In Newcastle I'd guess 0.5% of girls are black women at the very most.. Lots of Asian girls who stick 100% with their own ethnicity..

I am an amazing father a true gentleman and I was looking for some help and perhaps advice... So jog on if you have a problem.. Capiche..!

Advice about what?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There's as much black girls as white ones in the world. Wae are all exactly the same as each other

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By *oasted cheese sandwichMan over a year ago

Nearby

Op,

Not the most thought out opening paragraph.

Doubt anyone on here can give u advice as no one else here knows the girl. There are billions if women, no 2 are the same.

So advice would be, u have managed to get a date , so ur doing something right. Just be urself

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By *izzabelle and well hungCouple over a year ago

Edinburgh.

"Hi All

I'm meeting a gorgeous black girl for a first date tomorrow pre lockdown.

I'm not at all bothered that she's black yet its a first for me and a bit nervous all the same...

All advice welcome but don't be an Emily Blunt OK!

Is she bothered that you're white?"

Good point. Is she on here? Thinking “WTF?”

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By *ealArtfulDodger OP Man over a year ago

Newcastle

"There's as much black girls as white ones in the world. Wae are all exactly the same as each other

OK fair point and well made

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There's as much black girls as white ones in the world. Wae are all exactly the same as each other

OK fair point and well made "

What advice do you want? Are you worried that you might say something to offend her?

Do you know her as a friend or is it like a stranger date, you met randomly and asked her out?

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By *nabelle21Woman over a year ago

B38

Hi OP... the way you put it across was that this is just about the colour of her skin.

I understand that you may not know many black people but as has been said..she is just a woman, a woman who happens to be black. There is no difference, a woman is a woman...full stop.

Chill out a bit and enjoy yourselves.

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By *arlomaleMan over a year ago

darlington

As it’s a first date I think the nerves are understandable op good luck hope it goes well

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By *agneto.Man over a year ago

Bham

Bit strange. Not sure why her skin colour should come into it or make you more nervous.

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By *ealArtfulDodger OP Man over a year ago

Newcastle

"Hi OP... the way you put it across was that this is just about the colour of her skin.

I understand that you may not know many black people but as has been said..she is just a woman, a woman who happens to be black. There is no difference, a woman is a woman...full stop.

Chill out a bit and enjoy yourselves.

OK I get your point, and I was not in any way trying to distinguish whatsoever, nor was I trying to boast or brag FFS... I was merely looking for advice and a bit of help as I really like this lady.. TOO MUCH TO ASK CLEARLY..?

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By *nabelle21Woman over a year ago

B38

"Hi OP... the way you put it across was that this is just about the colour of her skin.

I understand that you may not know many black people but as has been said..she is just a woman, a woman who happens to be black. There is no difference, a woman is a woman...full stop.

Chill out a bit and enjoy yourselves.

No not kind of advice is not to much to ask.

I'd say start by taking a deep breath!

So you really like her. O can understand you being nervous and wanting to make a good impression.

Well she has agreed to go out with you therefore she finds you attractive and wants to kmow more.

Just be yourself...it's working for you so far with her and good luck.

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By *othin 2 proveCouple over a year ago

Blackpool

What on earth are you really trying to achieve with this thread? What a wonderful guy you are? Virtue signalling? If I was the girl and was reading this I would run very quickly in the opposite direction.

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By *ealArtfulDodger OP Man over a year ago

Newcastle

"Hi OP... the way you put it across was that this is just about the colour of her skin.

I understand that you may not know many black people but as has been said..she is just a woman, a woman who happens to be black. There is no difference, a woman is a woman...full stop.

Chill out a bit and enjoy yourselves.

No not kind of advice is not to much to ask.

I'd say start by taking a deep breath!

So you really like her. O can understand you being nervous and wanting to make a good impression.

Well she has agreed to go out with you therefore she finds you attractive and wants to kmow more.

Just be yourself...it's working for you so far with her and good luck."

Thank You

That is so nice of you to say.!

I'm not a spring chicken by any means FFS yet its been a while since I dated being a single parent to a teenage boy..

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By *nabelle21Woman over a year ago

B38

"Hi OP... the way you put it across was that this is just about the colour of her skin.

I understand that you may not know many black people but as has been said..she is just a woman, a woman who happens to be black. There is no difference, a woman is a woman...full stop.

Chill out a bit and enjoy yourselves.

No not kind of advice is not to much to ask.

I'd say start by taking a deep breath!

So you really like her. O can understand you being nervous and wanting to make a good impression.

Well she has agreed to go out with you therefore she finds you attractive and wants to kmow more.

Just be yourself...it's working for you so far with her and good luck.

Thank You

That is so nice of you to say.!

I'm not a spring chicken by any means FFS yet its been a while since I dated being a single parent to a teenage boy.. "

You will absolutely fine...it's exciting going on a date and remember she will be nervous too

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hi All

I'm meeting a gorgeous black girl for a first date tomorrow pre lockdown.

I'm not at all bothered that she's black yet its a first for me and a bit nervous all the same...

All advice welcome but don't be an Emily Blunt OK!

If you weren't bothered about her skin colour you wouldn't have mentioned it. You might not be prejudiced towards her (clearly, as you're going on a date) but the fact she is black is obviously on your mind, which is already a terrible start.

As for advice, make sure not to call her a retard if she disagrees with you on anything

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Black pussy matters

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By *ongueFkYouMan over a year ago

Bradford

"Black pussy matters

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lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ok so .... You have a date tomorrow.... Awesome!!!

It's with "a human", "SHE" is a human!!

HUMAN!

She is not a 'colour'... She's a girl human!

What difference does it make what colour her skin is?? She's a girl and she's human!!!

100%

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By *ealArtfulDodger OP Man over a year ago

Newcastle

Thanks all for the good and and bad stuff you've posted..!

Unlike most on here I'm Always true,.!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why are you nervous about meeting a black woman?

Do you think she might be different to other women?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What sort of advice are you looking for?

As you mentioned, you haven't met many black ladies, so I can completely understand why you are feeling a bit confused!

It's much easier if you just think of her as a woman, regardless of colour.

If you can manage that, you should be fine mate

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By *evaquitCouple over a year ago

Catthorpe

Train wreck of a thread

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

Honestly OP, for someone who is not at all bothered by her being black, it kinda sounds like you are.

My best advice? Don't mention it. Don't say she's the first black woman you've gone on a date with, you've never been with a black woman or anything like that. Try and treat her like a normal woman because that's what she is. And for the love of cheese, if you start discussing certain issues (actually possibly best you avoid them), don't use lexicon like solidarity.

Try and not think about her being black and enjoy yourself.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I hear if you dont get black girls home by midnight they grow an extra head and speak jive

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ok so .... You have a date tomorrow.... Awesome!!!

It's with "a human", "SHE" is a human!!

HUMAN!

She is not a 'colour'... She's a girl human!

What difference does it make what colour her skin is?? She's a girl and she's human!!!

Well said

My thoughts too

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By *laymateteeMan over a year ago

bristol

Why are you asking for advice? Would you have asked for it if you were meeting a white girl? She's just a woman and the colour of her skin shouldn't matter and black people don't need to be treated differently,just be yourself and go on the date with this WOMAN

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think we should be using our time more responsibly and talking this woman out of going on a date with this idiot

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By *laymateteeMan over a year ago

bristol

"I think we should be using our time more responsibly and talking this woman out of going on a date with this idiot "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If she's on fab and sees current profile with status, I'm sure she'd be well impressed

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By *arlomaleMan over a year ago

darlington

"I think we should be using our time more responsibly and talking this woman out of going on a date with this idiot "
why’s he as you say an idiot?

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple over a year ago

Coventry

"Honestly OP, for someone who is not at all bothered by her being black, it kinda sounds like you are.

Try and not think about her being black and enjoy yourself."

Some nice advice. I think OP is just over thinking a little and some people on here are either being harsh or just misunderstanding him. Although to be fair OP you haven't worded things well. Although I do think people often lack understanding of other peoples backgrounds and exposure to the world, which is not their fault. We don't live in a world where skin color doesn't make a difference. Unfortunately the world does see color and this can effect people's experience of the world. His experience of the world through his eye mat be very different from that of the woman he's meeting. I'm sure OP is trying to do his best to be lovely and not to make any faux pas. There really is no need to over think though just follow Meli's advice. Be yourself, open, honest and just be with the person. If it works it works, if it doesn't it doesn't like any other date.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By *arlomaleMan over a year ago

darlington

"If you really need an answer to that question, then you're also an idiot "

I was expecting that reply but as I said can you explain why he’s an idiot

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By *arlomaleMan over a year ago

darlington

"[Removed by poster at 04/11/20 06:05:32]"
why have you removed the post ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think we should be using our time more responsibly and talking this woman out of going on a date with this idiot why’s he as you say an idiot?"

If you need an answer to that question, I'm afraid that you may also be an idiot

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you really need an answer to that question, then you're also an idiot

I was expecting that reply but as I said can you explain why he’s an idiot "

Because he doesn't realise that women are the same regardless of colour

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By *arlomaleMan over a year ago

darlington

"I think we should be using our time more responsibly and talking this woman out of going on a date with this idiot why’s he as you say an idiot?

If you need an answer to that question, I'm afraid that you may also be an idiot "
you already said that then took it back of so can you explain why he’s an idiot? He asked for advice what’s the problem

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By *arlomaleMan over a year ago

darlington

"If you really need an answer to that question, then you're also an idiot

I was expecting that reply but as I said can you explain why he’s an idiot

Because he doesn't realise that women are the same regardless of colour"
yes he did so in you’re mind he’s an idiot ? Perhaps it’s not him that’s an idiot

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think we should be using our time more responsibly and talking this woman out of going on a date with this idiot why’s he as you say an idiot?

If you need an answer to that question, I'm afraid that you may also be an idiot you already said that then took it back of so can you explain why he’s an idiot? He asked for advice what’s the problem "

He asked for advice about how to meet a black woman!

Can you really not understand how ridiculous a question that is?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Miss "Outspoken" will say this!

I hope to Jebus she dumps your ass for bringing her colour into it!. For your subsequent replies to people that have mentioned this, to your mails, your "wanting to bring up she's not fair skinned"!! Who cares what shade of "human" she is!! For calling people "retards" She, the no doubt gorgeous lady, she's a human!!! a bloody human!!!, not a bloody skin colour!!!! She has feelings, she's probably quite awesome, loves going shoe shopping, buying random crap to go with her Costa and Starbucks, like us girls do... Probably a lot of guys too, but hey... You have a loyalty card, I'll stick my points on it for yas"!! Collect 200 and your next cupbisbon us!!! (*terms and conditions apply* )e

For freaking sakes. I fight for people to be treated equally in my day job! Go figure!! "** capice**"

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By *laymateteeMan over a year ago

bristol

"Hi All

I'm meeting a gorgeous black girl for a first date tomorrow pre lockdown.

I'm not at all bothered that she's black yet its a first for me and a bit nervous all the same...

All advice welcome but don't be an Emily Blunt OK!

What advice are you looking for OP? Is it how to behave around a black woman? No one can advise you on that not even a black man . If you feel you need advice about meeting someone from a different race maybe it's best not to go one the date coz the colour of her skin shouldn't push you to ask for advice on here.

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By *arlomaleMan over a year ago

darlington

"I think we should be using our time more responsibly and talking this woman out of going on a date with this idiot why’s he as you say an idiot?

He asked for advice about how to meet a black woman!

Can you really not understand how ridiculous a question that is?"
no not really he’s nervous as he said it’s a first for him so that makes him an idiot? As I said can you explain why he’s an idiot and me for that matter as you called me it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Miss "Outspoken" will say this!

For freaking sakes. I fight for people to be treated equally in my day job! Go figure!! "** capice**"

we like you!

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By *oxychicWoman over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

Is going on a date with a black woman any different to going on a date with a white woman or a Chinese woman ? Just dont understand why colour came into it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I will apologise for my spelling. Been on the last one of 21 nights on call and I might be a little tired!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hope you tell her your real age

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think we should be using our time more responsibly and talking this woman out of going on a date with this idiot why’s he as you say an idiot?

He asked for advice about how to meet a black woman!

Can you really not understand how ridiculous a question that is? no not really he’s nervous as he said it’s a first for him so that makes him an idiot? As I said can you explain why he’s an idiot and me for that matter as you called me it "

Ok.

You are both bigoted fools that belong in the 1950's

You are both clearly uneducated and have obviously been brought up in an insular world where passive racism is allowed.

You think it's acceptable, he thinks it's acceptable.

Read the replies to his question.

Most people don't think it's acceptable.

You want to argue the point, but have a hidden profile (very brave and confident I assume)

If you cannot see what the majority of the people on here think is ignorant and unacceptable, then I'm afraid that you are an idiot

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think we should be using our time more responsibly and talking this woman out of going on a date with this idiot why’s he as you say an idiot?

He asked for advice about how to meet a black woman!

Ok.

You are both bigoted fools that belong in the 1950's

You are both clearly uneducated and have obviously been brought up in an insular world where passive racism is allowed.

You think it's acceptable, he thinks it's acceptable.

Read the replies to his question.

Most people don't think it's acceptable.

You want to argue the point, but have a hidden profile (very brave and confident I assume)

If you cannot see what the majority of the people on here think is ignorant and unacceptable, then I'm afraid that you are an idiot "

You just made it on our hotlist. That was hot!

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By *laymateteeMan over a year ago

bristol

"Miss "Outspoken" will say this!

For freaking sakes. I fight for people to be treated equally in my day job! Go figure!! "** capice**"

Well said

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By *arlomaleMan over a year ago

darlington

"I think we should be using our time more responsibly and talking this woman out of going on a date with this idiot why’s he as you say an idiot?

He asked for advice about how to meet a black woman!

Ok.

You are both bigoted fools that belong in the 1950's

You are both clearly uneducated and have obviously been brought up in an insular world where passive racism is allowed.

You think it's acceptable, he thinks it's acceptable.

Read the replies to his question.

Most people don't think it's acceptable.

You want to argue the point, but have a hidden profile (very brave and confident I assume)

If you cannot see what the majority of the people on here think is ignorant and unacceptable, then I'm afraid that you are an idiot "
I think I’ll stick to my own opinion and not go with the masses still you can’t answer my original post as to why he’s an idiot and as for the stuck in the 1950s drivel what’s that all about ? Perhaps it’s not me that’s uneducated it could be you that needs educating

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think we should be using our time more responsibly and talking this woman out of going on a date with this idiot why’s he as you say an idiot?

He asked for advice about how to meet a black woman!

Ok.

You are both bigoted fools that belong in the 1950's

You are both clearly uneducated and have obviously been brought up in an insular world where passive racism is allowed.

You think it's acceptable, he thinks it's acceptable.

Read the replies to his question.

Most people don't think it's acceptable.

You want to argue the point, but have a hidden profile (very brave and confident I assume)

If you cannot see what the majority of the people on here think is ignorant and unacceptable, then I'm afraid that you are an idiot I think I’ll stick to my own opinion and not go with the masses still you can’t answer my original post as to why he’s an idiot and as for the stuck in the 1950s drivel what’s that all about ? Perhaps it’s not me that’s uneducated it could be you that needs educating "

Go to bed mate, it's obviously past your bedtime, and i can tell that you're getting tired.

I've answered the questions and when you've had a little sleep, you can read the thread again!

Hopefully you'll manage to make more sense of the replies.

Get your mummy to tuck you in, and we'll chat more when you're not such a tired little boy!

Sweet dreams

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By *arlomaleMan over a year ago

darlington

"I think we should be using our time more responsibly and talking this woman out of going on a date with this idiot why’s he as you say an idiot?

He asked for advice about how to meet a black woman!

Ok.

You are both bigoted fools that belong in the 1950's

You are both clearly uneducated and have obviously been brought up in an insular world where passive racism is allowed.

You think it's acceptable, he thinks it's acceptable.

Read the replies to his question.

Most people don't think it's acceptable.

You want to argue the point, but have a hidden profile (very brave and confident I assume)

Go to bed mate, it's obviously past your bedtime, and i can tell that you're getting tired.

I've answered the questions and when you've had a little sleep, you can read the thread again!

Hopefully you'll manage to make more sense of the replies.

Get your mummy to tuck you in, and we'll chat more when you're not such a tired little boy!

Sweet dreams "
as predicted resorts to childish insults

what a plonker btw I’ve noticed you have blocked me what was it you said about me being hidden ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think we should be using our time more responsibly and talking this woman out of going on a date with this idiot why’s he as you say an idiot?

He asked for advice about how to meet a black woman!

Ok.

You are both bigoted fools that belong in the 1950's

You are both clearly uneducated and have obviously been brought up in an insular world where passive racism is allowed.

You think it's acceptable, he thinks it's acceptable.

Read the replies to his question.

Most people don't think it's acceptable.

You want to argue the point, but have a hidden profile (very brave and confident I assume)

Go to bed mate, it's obviously past your bedtime, and i can tell that you're getting tired.

I've answered the questions and when you've had a little sleep, you can read the thread again!

Hopefully you'll manage to make more sense of the replies.

Get your mummy to tuck you in, and we'll chat more when you're not such a tired little boy!

Sweet dreams as predicted resorts to childish insults

what a plonker btw I’ve noticed you have blocked me what was it you said about me being hidden ?

I haven't blocked you!!

Your profile is hidden!

I'd love to see your profile

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ok so .... You have a date tomorrow.... Awesome!!!

It's with "a human", "SHE" is a human!!

HUMAN!

She is not a 'colour'... She's a girl human!

What difference does it make what colour her skin is?? She's a girl and she's human!!!

Exactly

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think we should be using our time more responsibly and talking this woman out of going on a date with this idiot why’s he as you say an idiot?

He asked for advice about how to meet a black woman!

Ok.

You are both bigoted fools that belong in the 1950's

You are both clearly uneducated and have obviously been brought up in an insular world where passive racism is allowed.

You think it's acceptable, he thinks it's acceptable.

Read the replies to his question.

Most people don't think it's acceptable.

You want to argue the point, but have a hidden profile (very brave and confident I assume)

Go to bed mate, it's obviously past your bedtime, and i can tell that you're getting tired.

I've answered the questions and when you've had a little sleep, you can read the thread again!

Hopefully you'll manage to make more sense of the replies.

Get your mummy to tuck you in, and we'll chat more when you're not such a tired little boy!

Sweet dreams as predicted resorts to childish insults

what a plonker btw I’ve noticed you have blocked me what was it you said about me being hidden ?

I haven't blocked you!!

Your profile is hidden!

I'd love to see your profile

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By *arlomaleMan over a year ago

darlington

"I think we should be using our time more responsibly and talking this woman out of going on a date with this idiot why’s he as you say an idiot?

He asked for advice about how to meet a black woman!

Ok.

You are both bigoted fools that belong in the 1950's

You are both clearly uneducated and have obviously been brought up in an insular world where passive racism is allowed.

You think it's acceptable, he thinks it's acceptable.

Read the replies to his question.

Most people don't think it's acceptable.

You want to argue the point, but have a hidden profile (very brave and confident I assume)

Go to bed mate, it's obviously past your bedtime, and i can tell that you're getting tired.

I've answered the questions and when you've had a little sleep, you can read the thread again!

Hopefully you'll manage to make more sense of the replies.

Get your mummy to tuck you in, and we'll chat more when you're not such a tired little boy!

Sweet dreams as predicted resorts to childish insults

what a plonker btw I’ve noticed you have blocked me what was it you said about me being hidden ?

I haven't blocked you!!

Your profile is hidden!

I'd love to see your profile "
why would you love to see my profile?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Because I've always wanted to see a proper dick

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By *arlomaleMan over a year ago

darlington

"Because I've always wanted to see a proper dick"
again childish insults says a lot about an individual who has to resort to name calling and I’m the one that needs education if I was you I’d be very careful in the insults as it can often end up in a time out

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Because I've always wanted to see a proper dick again childish insults says a lot about an individual who has to resort to name calling and I’m the one that needs education if I was you I’d be very careful in the insults as it can often end up in a time out

I agree, But, if you are going to mention education, it's probably best if you use punctuation when talking about it!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I agree, But, if you are going to mention education, it's probably best if you use punctuation when talking about it!"

Punctuation is so sexy!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I agree, But, if you are going to mention education, it's probably best if you use punctuation when talking about it!

Punctuation is so sexy! "

It's just a shame that people don't use it!

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By *arlomaleMan over a year ago

darlington

I agree, But, if you are going to mention education, it's probably best if you use punctuation when talking about it!"
can you point out my punctuation it’s something I struggle with tbh I always have and I’m so glad that people like you pull me up on it

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By *arlomaleMan over a year ago

darlington

"Because I've always wanted to see a proper dick"
you forgot to put a full stop in

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I agree, But, if you are going to mention education, it's probably best if you use punctuation when talking about it! can you point out my punctuation it’s something I struggle with tbh I always have and I’m so glad that people like you pull me up on it

Honestly, you have so many more issues that you should be concerned about, I think you should give yourself a break and try not to worry about your punctuation errors.

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By *arlomaleMan over a year ago

darlington

Honestly, you have so many more issues that you should be concerned about, I think you should give yourself a break and try not to worry about your punctuation errors."
I don’t worry about my punctuation I never have but as you pointed it out I just thought I’d point yours out

as I said watch the insults as you could end up with a time out

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Advice - do NOT tell her that you're not bothered that she's black!! (Where is the face palm emoji?)

Advice - listen to Mystik

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Honestly, you have so many more issues that you should be concerned about, I think you should give yourself a break and try not to worry about your punctuation errors. I don’t worry about my punctuation I never have but as you pointed it out I just thought I’d point yours out

as I said watch the insults as you could end up with a time out

Have a good day mate, I've got to go to work. I enjoyed our chat!

All the best mate

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By *arlomaleMan over a year ago

darlington

as I said watch the insults as you could end up with a time out

Have a good day mate, I've got to go to work. I enjoyed our chat!

All the best mate "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Would love my wife to try a bbc or two.

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By *irginieWoman over a year ago

Near Marlborough

So, you’re meeting a woman and you’re nervous which is totally normal. Fail to see why her colour makes any difference.

V x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hi All

I'm meeting a gorgeous black girl for a first date tomorrow pre lockdown.

I'm not at all bothered that she's black yet its a first for me and a bit nervous all the same...

All advice welcome but don't be an Emily Blunt OK!

Unless you stop defining her. by the colour of her skin, which is racist, and see her as a person, you are in deep trouble. Examine your definitions of person before you meet and good luck

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By *elshsunsWoman over a year ago

Flintshire

Hope the poor woman hasn’t seen this thread

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By *ookMan over a year ago

london

....That’s ok she can sleep in your coal bunker as long as she doesn’t eat your wife! ( Mr chumley Warner)

Enjoy your date but think carefully about words as they are powerful

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By * and M lookingCouple over a year ago

Worcester

Sorry but isn’t there some kind of pandemic thing going around at the moment.

Is she from your bubble then?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I dated a female with ginger hair when younger. Turned out she was the same as females with black, brown, brunette and even blonde hair.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well this thread turned out well!

I understand first date nerves. We all have them, so in that regard OP just be cool, relax. Remember to smile, make eye contact and be kind.

The mention of colour i would avoid its already a given youse look different and will have different cultural backgrounds, why make it a thing? If i was on a date with someone not the same colour as me and they felt the need to make cringey comments about colour on a first date i’d be leaving pdq. Good luck op

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By *ny1localMan over a year ago

READING

"Would love my wife to try a bbc or two."
after reading these posts, I hope she doesn't ask for advice about meeting a bbc.

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By *ookMan over a year ago

london

Perhaps just change the op title ‘first black date’ to ‘ first cilla black blind date’ ... this would then add a new dimension and introduce a nostalgic and fun slant to a thread that’s going bad.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I pity the women ,and as for saying that all geordie women are filthy just show s what kind of guy you are

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By *itsAndTangentsCouple over a year ago

Plymouth

From the very first opening comment I knew this thread was going to be popcorn worthy. Thank you for not dissapointing

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I pity the women ,and as for saying that all geordie women are filthy just show s what kind of guy you are"

What a car crash of a post...I've just re-read the first 4 messages with hornymoe...oh dear is all I can say.

Literally, can't for the life of me figure about what made him press post!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

All I know is that her life matters.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"From the very first opening comment I knew this thread was going to be popcorn worthy. Thank you for not dissapointing "

Wow, it took you till the first comment?

The post title did it for me!

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By *adja_lazloCouple over a year ago

Solihull

"What on earth are you really trying to achieve with this thread? What a wonderful guy you are? Virtue signalling? If I was the girl and was reading this I would run very quickly in the opposite direction.

indeed

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By *hom01Man over a year ago

St. Albans

"Train wreck of a thread

"
Lol !!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I pity the women ,and as for saying that all geordie women are filthy just show s what kind of guy you are

What a car crash of a post...I've just re-read the first 4 messages with hornymoe...oh dear is all I can say.

Literally, can't for the life of me figure about what made him press post!"

Same here ,I'd avoid him like the plague

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By *itsAndTangentsCouple over a year ago

Plymouth

"From the very first opening comment I knew this thread was going to be popcorn worthy. Thank you for not dissapointing

Wow, it took you till the first comment?

The post title did it for me!"

Touché

I'm happy to admit I'm a little slow in the mornings

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"From the very first opening comment I knew this thread was going to be popcorn worthy. Thank you for not dissapointing

Wow, it took you till the first comment?

The post title did it for me!

Touché

I'm happy to admit I'm a little slow in the mornings

Well it's not even 8 o'clock yet so I'll let you off

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The initial post made me instantly uncomfortable

Objectification much?

I thought it was (hopefully) just a badly worded post, but the implied aggression in some of the OP's responses did nothing to allay my thoughts and win me round

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"Ok so .... You have a date tomorrow.... Awesome!!!

It's with "a human", "SHE" is a human!!

HUMAN!

She is not a 'colour'... She's a girl human!

What difference does it make what colour her skin is?? She's a girl and she's human!!!

Thank you! I read the op and some of the following comments and cringed. I also felt sorry for this black woman.

My son-in-law is 34 and white. He was born in Berkshire and didn't know any black people. He was in the navy at the time and going back to his ship in Portsmouth. My daughter had recently moved to Portsmouth for work and was heading home. My son-in-law said the most beautiful woman he'd seen got into his carriage and he said to himself if she got off at his stop he'd talk to her. He saw a beautiful woman, not a black woman.

I met my other half here seven years ago. Ben is Dutch, used to dating leggy Scandinavian blonde types, he'd never spoken to a black woman. We weren't a match, he just impressed by my profile and made a funny quip and I responded in kind. We decided to meet for a coffee...and be still brings me coffee.

Ben is 59.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"From the very first opening comment I knew this thread was going to be popcorn worthy. Thank you for not dissapointing "

Hahahaha

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Really? Really OP? You’re nervous because of her skin colour? Oh dear.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hi All

I'm meeting a gorgeous black girl for a first date tomorrow pre lockdown.

I'm not at all bothered that she's black yet its a first for me and a bit nervous all the same...

All advice welcome but don't be an Emily Blunt OK!

I guess the problem here is it’s really difficult to work out what you’re asking advice for, it’s just come across badly! Without getting into all of it, as I think that’s been covered already, I would say treat it exactly the same as if you were going on a date with a white girl, as there is no difference whatsoever...... the nervousness is normal but it shouldn’t be because she’s black

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By *oxyvixen99Woman over a year ago

Newtownabbey

"Ok so .... You have a date tomorrow.... Awesome!!!

It's with "a human", "SHE" is a human!!

HUMAN!

She is not a 'colour'... She's a girl human!

What difference does it make what colour her skin is?? She's a girl and she's human!!!

Thank you! I read the op and some of the following comments and cringed. I also felt sorry for this black woman.

Ben is 59.

Love this

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What could possibly go wrong with this thread....

Oh, wait...

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By *ayden69Man over a year ago

London

"Ok so .... You have a date tomorrow.... Awesome!!!

It's with "a human", "SHE" is a human!!

HUMAN!

She is not a 'colour'... She's a girl human!

Couldn’t agree more!!

What difference does it make what colour her skin is?? She's a girl and she's human!!!

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By *2000ManMan over a year ago

Worthing

Nothing to say or advise on. Just enjoy the date!

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman over a year ago
Forum Mod

My Own Little World

Closing this.

Let's try not insulting people please.

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