Through messages on here although I appreciate that's harder for a guy. (Off forum discussions, not anything else)
Made some connections through online hobbies
Talking to existing friends online and on the phone |
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Thanks for the reply. 
Yes it is harder for a guy, messages just disappear in to the ether. Also it’s hard to convey all of your personality in opening messages.
You mention hobbies, could you elaborate on this point? |
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"Thanks for the reply.
Yes it is harder for a guy, messages just disappear in to the ether. Also it’s hard to convey all of your personality in opening messages.
You mention hobbies, could you elaborate on this point? "
I've been doing language exchange, for example. There are also chat groups for pretty much anything on places like Reddit |
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"Through messages on here although I appreciate that's harder for a guy. (Off forum discussions, not anything else)
Made some connections through online hobbies
Talking to existing friends online and on the phone"
I think we are due a make up and beauty tips thread  |
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I think lots of people are looking to chat on more of an open platform like the forum threads than 1-1 messages.
Forum chit-chat has zero pressure or expectation placed on you.
For me personally I'm all over the place emotion wise with everything that's going on and I really don't want to add extra pressure to myself by getting into convos that I really don't have the emotional capacity to keep up with regularly.
That also comes at a cost to the other person at times and can leave them wondering "what did I say wrong?" when they've not received a reply but can see you're online .... but the truthful answer is nothing. They've done nothing wrong, they've said nothing wrong, the other person (or me in this case) is simply too mentally/emotionally drained to give the attention span |
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"I think lots of people are looking to chat on more of an open platform like the forum threads than 1-1 messages.
Forum chit-chat has zero pressure or expectation placed on you.
For me personally I'm all over the place emotion wise with everything that's going on and I really don't want to add extra pressure to myself by getting into convos that I really don't have the emotional capacity to keep up with regularly.
That also comes at a cost to the other person at times and can leave them wondering "what did I say wrong?" when they've not received a reply but can see you're online .... but the truthful answer is nothing. They've done nothing wrong, they've said nothing wrong, the other person (or me in this case) is simply too mentally/emotionally drained to give the attention span "
Very well said and I can totally relate! I think a lot of people want no pressure distractions right now. |
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"I think lots of people are looking to chat on more of an open platform like the forum threads than 1-1 messages.
Forum chit-chat has zero pressure or expectation placed on you.
For me personally I'm all over the place emotion wise with everything that's going on and I really don't want to add extra pressure to myself by getting into convos that I really don't have the emotional capacity to keep up with regularly.
That also comes at a cost to the other person at times and can leave them wondering "what did I say wrong?" when they've not received a reply but can see you're online .... but the truthful answer is nothing. They've done nothing wrong, they've said nothing wrong, the other person (or me in this case) is simply too mentally/emotionally drained to give the attention span
Very well said and I can totally relate! I think a lot of people want no pressure distractions right now. "
Absolutely. Nobody notices if you don't reply on a thread for whatever the reason (fallen asleep, gone to work, having a wank, crying into your crunchy nut cornflakes, brain turned ro mush) yet people DO notice if you don't respond to a personal message, even if it's for the same and very valid reason.
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I love chatting in the forums...met some lovely people in here.
Some of the posts are bonkers
Like tonight's thread 'Went to order a chinese' wtf.... But people laugh and joke and it raises spirits!!! |
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"Through messages on here although I appreciate that's harder for a guy. (Off forum discussions, not anything else)
Made some connections through online hobbies
Talking to existing friends online and on the phone
I think we are due a make up and beauty tips thread "
Having a break from it at the moment, sorry. |
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"I think lots of people are looking to chat on more of an open platform like the forum threads than 1-1 messages.
Forum chit-chat has zero pressure or expectation placed on you.
For me personally I'm all over the place emotion wise with everything that's going on and I really don't want to add extra pressure to myself by getting into convos that I really don't have the emotional capacity to keep up with regularly.
That also comes at a cost to the other person at times and can leave them wondering "what did I say wrong?" when they've not received a reply but can see you're online .... but the truthful answer is nothing. They've done nothing wrong, they've said nothing wrong, the other person (or me in this case) is simply too mentally/emotionally drained to give the attention span "
I can relate to this xxx you explained it much better than I could have xx |
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