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over a year ago
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"How kind are you?
Is kindness important to you when looking for a fab friend to meet? "
It is to me it just depends on what the person you are chatting to wants |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How kind are you?
Is kindness important to you when looking for a fab friend to meet? "
How kind I am is ultimitly for others to judge, but I would be disappointed if they judged me unkind. Is it important for fab meet? Yes... the meet may just be social and I wouldn't want to spend my time with unkind people, let alone share intimacy if it were to get that far. |
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Whatever I do, I do because I want to, if people see that as kindness that is their feeling not mine
As for meets, it’s more how they interact with others that shows themselves, rather than a kindness to myself. Example if I meet someone and they are rude to bar staff, or similar, act like they are above them, don’t look at them when placing an order and can’t do a simple please and thank you, that’s a no no for me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Remember it's nice to be important, but it's important to be nice. We like to think we're a very polite and respectful couple that try our best to make people feel very welcome even if they are not what we're looking for.   |
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"Whatever I do, I do because I want to, if people see that as kindness that is their feeling not mine
As for meets, it’s more how they interact with others that shows themselves, rather than a kindness to myself. Example if I meet someone and they are rude to bar staff, or similar, act like they are above them, don’t look at them when placing an order and can’t do a simple please and thank you, that’s a no no for me"
Ooh yes this for me too! It's a good 'test'. |
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"Whatever I do, I do because I want to, if people see that as kindness that is their feeling not mine
As for meets, it’s more how they interact with others that shows themselves, rather than a kindness to myself. Example if I meet someone and they are rude to bar staff, or similar, act like they are above them, don’t look at them when placing an order and can’t do a simple please and thank you, that’s a no no for me
Ooh yes this for me too! It's a good 'test'. "
Very much this  |
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"I honestly don't know. I do think I'm often kind to people when others are being very unkind. "
You are kind. I've seen more than one lovely post from you when others are having a go. Keep it up! Xx |
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"I honestly don't know. I do think I'm often kind to people when others are being very unkind.
You are kind. I've seen more than one lovely post from you when others are having a go. Keep it up! Xx"
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depends.
I'm not sure what kindness ACTUALLY looks like. I don't even think it does have a look. I think it's a feeling.
Someone can have too much of everything and look kind on the surface, have manners etc but at the same time someone can nothing, absolutely nothing apart from a kind heart.
A kind heart is beautiful.
I think kindness, above all else is a feeling you get from someone, regardless of whether they look kind on the surface with their actions. |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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If you are kind you know it, it’s a choice you make , it almost always has a cost, giving a good tip, choosing to say kind words, writing a thank you note to the hotel room cleaner , helping someone out who doesn’t deserve it. If it doesn’t cost it’s not kindness |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you are kind you know it, it’s a choice you make , it almost always has a cost, giving a good tip, choosing to say kind words, writing a thank you note to the hotel room cleaner , helping someone out who doesn’t deserve it. If it doesn’t cost it’s not kindness "
And yet so often, we hear it costs nothing |
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"If you are kind you know it, it’s a choice you make , it almost always has a cost, giving a good tip, choosing to say kind words, writing a thank you note to the hotel room cleaner , helping someone out who doesn’t deserve it. If it doesn’t cost it’s not kindness
And yet so often, we hear it costs nothing "
Nothing is without cost. Those who you give your manners and your kindness to determine whether the cost is worth it. |
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"Whatever I do, I do because I want to, if people see that as kindness that is their feeling not mine
As for meets, it’s more how they interact with others that shows themselves, rather than a kindness to myself. Example if I meet someone and they are rude to bar staff, or similar, act like they are above them, don’t look at them when placing an order and can’t do a simple please and thank you, that’s a no no for me"
I like that take
Kindness is treating another simpley as another equal human
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If it doesn’t cost it’s not kindness "
It costs nothing to:
Treat others with respect,
Say please,
Say thank you,
Not be a dick to people,
So many more... it doesn't necessarily have a monetary value. Giving somebody your time is probably the most precious thing you can give.
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Kindness is treating another simpley as another equal human
This
Is it? I don't think that's being kind. I think that's being fucking normal "
I'd say it's going out of your way, stepping outside your bubble, in order to help or lift the spirits of another human being regardless of their need. |
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"If it doesn’t cost it’s not kindness
It costs nothing to:
Treat others with respect,
Say please,
Say thank you,
Not be a dick to people,
So many more... it doesn't necessarily have a monetary value. Giving somebody your time is probably the most precious thing you can give.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Kindness is treating another simpley as another equal human
This
Is it? I don't think that's being kind. I think that's being fucking normal "
Kindness starts from being normal first and the rest follows.
You can't measure it. |
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Kindness is treating another simpley as another equal human
This
Is it? I don't think that's being kind. I think that's being fucking normal "
I think you have a great point that I feel gives further insight
I think the nuance lies
It isnt normal but it absolutely should be quite right
And as sadly treating others as equals is not the norm though it should be means when a person does it can be relatively considered kindness by many
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don't mistake my kindness for weekness, I am kind to everyone but if you're unkind to me, weekness will not be what you remember about me. "
That sounds more like a threat than kindness |
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Kindness is treating another simpley as another equal human
This
Is it? I don't think that's being kind. I think that's being fucking normal
I'd say it's going out of your way, stepping outside your bubble, in order to help or lift the spirits of another human being regardless of their need."
I'm not sure it's even something that's thought about, but something that develops or happens naturally.
It's getting the bee some sugar water
It's checking the garden for hedgehogs before you light a bonfire
Instead of donating £2 a month to a charity even though you could easily afford ten times as much, it's the person who can't, but gives the orphaned kid a cuddle, and tells them they matter kinda thing.
The person who gives hope through their actions that the world isn't as cruel as it may seem
Is that not kindness?
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
"If you are kind you know it, it’s a choice you make , it almost always has a cost, giving a good tip, choosing to say kind words, writing a thank you note to the hotel room cleaner , helping someone out who doesn’t deserve it. If it doesn’t cost it’s not kindness
And yet so often, we hear it costs nothing "
Doesn’t always cost money - time, effort , risk of being called an idiot....
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Kindness is treating another simpley as another equal human
This
Is it? I don't think that's being kind. I think that's being fucking normal
I'd say it's going out of your way, stepping outside your bubble, in order to help or lift the spirits of another human being regardless of their need.
I'm not sure it's even something that's thought about, but something that develops or happens naturally.
It's getting the bee some sugar water
It's checking the garden for hedgehogs before you light a bonfire
Instead of donating £2 a month to a charity even though you could easily afford ten times as much, it's the person who can't, but gives the orphaned kid a cuddle, and tells them they matter kinda thing.
The person who gives hope through their actions that the world isn't as cruel as it may seem
Is that not kindness?
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Yes it is
Not sure it needs to be an either or though not sure one could or should try to quantify a hierarchy of kindness
A kind act is a kind act , kinda
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Kindness is treating another simpley as another equal human
This
Is it? I don't think that's being kind. I think that's being fucking normal
I'd say it's going out of your way, stepping outside your bubble, in order to help or lift the spirits of another human being regardless of their need.
I'm not sure it's even something that's thought about, but something that develops or happens naturally.
It's getting the bee some sugar water
It's checking the garden for hedgehogs before you light a bonfire
Instead of donating £2 a month to a charity even though you could easily afford ten times as much, it's the person who can't, but gives the orphaned kid a cuddle, and tells them they matter kinda thing.
The person who gives hope through their actions that the world isn't as cruel as it may seem
Is that not kindness?
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I'm not sure where i stand on animal welfare being kindness although certainly it's in the same bracket and speaks well of a persons nature.
Charity has nothing to do with kindness certainly and I'd argue it can often be selfish. The giving a kid a hug is defo what i was getting at, or kind words for a colleague in distress, helping an old lady over the road etc. It takes many forms but it's noticing and sparing a thought or action for those around you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don't mistake my kindness for weekness, I am kind to everyone but if you're unkind to me, weekness will not be what you remember about me.
That sounds more like a threat than kindness "
Pi just like the quote it's Al capone so yeah probably a threat
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By *educedWoman
over a year ago
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I am the kindest most warm hearted person I know.
I'm like a rainbow during a rain shower, a snuggly blanket when you're cold, a warm bowl of super noodles when you're hungry...
I help little old ladies (and men) cross the road, I hold doors open, keep a supply of tissues in my handbag just in case I come across someone crying...
I am also ever so sincere.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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#BeKind when people are watching and patting each other on the back in a circle jerk.
Then take the piss out of someone as all the group laugh together.
Don't think I've ever seen that on Fab. |
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Kindness is treating another simpley as another equal human
This
Is it? I don't think that's being kind. I think that's being fucking normal
I'd say it's going out of your way, stepping outside your bubble, in order to help or lift the spirits of another human being regardless of their need.
I'm not sure it's even something that's thought about, but something that develops or happens naturally.
It's getting the bee some sugar water
It's checking the garden for hedgehogs before you light a bonfire
Instead of donating £2 a month to a charity even though you could easily afford ten times as much, it's the person who can't, but gives the orphaned kid a cuddle, and tells them they matter kinda thing.
The person who gives hope through their actions that the world isn't as cruel as it may seem
Is that not kindness?
I'm not sure where i stand on animal welfare being kindness although certainly it's in the same bracket and speaks well of a persons nature.
Charity has nothing to do with kindness certainly and I'd argue it can often be selfish. The giving a kid a hug is defo what i was getting at, or kind words for a colleague in distress, helping an old lady over the road etc. It takes many forms but it's noticing and sparing a thought or action for those around you."
Thats what I meant about the charity. That's more generosity than kindness, and an awful lot of people can afford way more but don't, so I'm not sure if that's generous or not. I think it isn't. So when people say "yeah I'm kind, I support charity" but you know it means fuck all in their heart. |
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Kindness is treating another simpley as another equal human
This
Is it? I don't think that's being kind. I think that's being fucking normal
I'd say it's going out of your way, stepping outside your bubble, in order to help or lift the spirits of another human being regardless of their need.
I'm not sure it's even something that's thought about, but something that develops or happens naturally.
It's getting the bee some sugar water
It's checking the garden for hedgehogs before you light a bonfire
Instead of donating £2 a month to a charity even though you could easily afford ten times as much, it's the person who can't, but gives the orphaned kid a cuddle, and tells them they matter kinda thing.
The person who gives hope through their actions that the world isn't as cruel as it may seem
Is that not kindness?
I'm not sure where i stand on animal welfare being kindness although certainly it's in the same bracket and speaks well of a persons nature.
Charity has nothing to do with kindness certainly and I'd argue it can often be selfish. The giving a kid a hug is defo what i was getting at, or kind words for a colleague in distress, helping an old lady over the road etc. It takes many forms but it's noticing and sparing a thought or action for those around you.
Thats what I meant about the charity. That's more generosity than kindness, and an awful lot of people can afford way more but don't, so I'm not sure if that's generous or not. I think it isn't. So when people say "yeah I'm kind, I support charity" but you know it means fuck all in their heart."
Agreed wholeheartedly, if you have to let others know you give to charity then it's because you want others to know how good you are, selfish. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If she doesn't say thank you when I gave her an orgasm I won't see her again. "
I always say thank you even though you may not realise I've had an orgasm  |
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Kindness is treating another simpley as another equal human
This
Is it? I don't think that's being kind. I think that's being fucking normal
I'd say it's going out of your way, stepping outside your bubble, in order to help or lift the spirits of another human being regardless of their need.
I'm not sure it's even something that's thought about, but something that develops or happens naturally.
It's getting the bee some sugar water
It's checking the garden for hedgehogs before you light a bonfire
Instead of donating £2 a month to a charity even though you could easily afford ten times as much, it's the person who can't, but gives the orphaned kid a cuddle, and tells them they matter kinda thing.
The person who gives hope through their actions that the world isn't as cruel as it may seem
Is that not kindness?
I'm not sure where i stand on animal welfare being kindness although certainly it's in the same bracket and speaks well of a persons nature.
Charity has nothing to do with kindness certainly and I'd argue it can often be selfish. The giving a kid a hug is defo what i was getting at, or kind words for a colleague in distress, helping an old lady over the road etc. It takes many forms but it's noticing and sparing a thought or action for those around you.
Thats what I meant about the charity. That's more generosity than kindness, and an awful lot of people can afford way more but don't, so I'm not sure if that's generous or not. I think it isn't. So when people say "yeah I'm kind, I support charity" but you know it means fuck all in their heart."
I think I know what you mean, Rich suit attends a £1000 a plate charity function, Joe Bloggs puts his last 50p in the charity collection tin, I'd say Joe was the kindest as he gave everything he had and put the needs of others before his own. |
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Kindness is treating another simpley as another equal human
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Is it? I don't think that's being kind. I think that's being fucking normal
I'd say it's going out of your way, stepping outside your bubble, in order to help or lift the spirits of another human being regardless of their need.
I'm not sure it's even something that's thought about, but something that develops or happens naturally.
It's getting the bee some sugar water
It's checking the garden for hedgehogs before you light a bonfire
Instead of donating £2 a month to a charity even though you could easily afford ten times as much, it's the person who can't, but gives the orphaned kid a cuddle, and tells them they matter kinda thing.
The person who gives hope through their actions that the world isn't as cruel as it may seem
Is that not kindness?
I'm not sure where i stand on animal welfare being kindness although certainly it's in the same bracket and speaks well of a persons nature.
Charity has nothing to do with kindness certainly and I'd argue it can often be selfish. The giving a kid a hug is defo what i was getting at, or kind words for a colleague in distress, helping an old lady over the road etc. It takes many forms but it's noticing and sparing a thought or action for those around you.
Thats what I meant about the charity. That's more generosity than kindness, and an awful lot of people can afford way more but don't, so I'm not sure if that's generous or not. I think it isn't. So when people say "yeah I'm kind, I support charity" but you know it means fuck all in their heart.
I think I know what you mean, Rich suit attends a £1000 a plate charity function, Joe Bloggs puts his last 50p in the charity collection tin, I'd say Joe was the kindest as he gave everything he had and put the needs of others before his own."
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"Absolutely
I see a little trend forming that I'm more attracted to men who have dogs
Kinda demonstrates a caring streak I guess?
Jo x "
Ah but what about the guy who wants a dog but decides it would be cruel to leave alone at home for over 8hrs everyday and so does not give in to a selfish desire? |
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"Absolutely
I see a little trend forming that I'm more attracted to men who have dogs
Kinda demonstrates a caring streak I guess?
Jo x
Ah but what about the guy who wants a dog but decides it would be cruel to leave alone at home for over 8hrs everyday and so does not give in to a selfish desire?"
I'll consider him too
The thought was there
There are a myriad or dog walking businesses mind you
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