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By *acey_Red OP Woman
over a year ago
Liverpool |
I was reading the kissing thread and there was a discussion about comfortable levels of intimacy and saw some comments about holding hands and it made me think. I've been known to grap the other persons hand during sex. Often in response to intense pleasure. Especially with oral sex their hand is often just there for the grabbing! It's not often a conscious thing, just an impulse and their response has usually been to interlace their fingers with mine and carry on. Now I'm wondering what people's thoughts are on this. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've had women hold my hand like that when I'm giving them oral and I'll interlace with their fingers.
I think it adds to the intimacy of what you are doing and I always imagine it's because they are losing themselves to the pleasure and just reacting without thinking.
It then adds to my pleasure. It's hot. |
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"I was reading the kissing thread and there was a discussion about comfortable levels of intimacy and saw some comments about holding hands and it made me think. I've been known to grap the other persons hand during sex. Often in response to intense pleasure. Especially with oral sex their hand is often just there for the grabbing! It's not often a conscious thing, just an impulse and their response has usually been to interlace their fingers with mine and carry on. Now I'm wondering what people's thoughts are on this. "
When swinging, it's not unusual for me & Anita to hold hands intermittently whilst having sex with other people.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I was reading the kissing thread and there was a discussion about comfortable levels of intimacy and saw some comments about holding hands and it made me think. I've been known to grap the other persons hand during sex. Often in response to intense pleasure. Especially with oral sex their hand is often just there for the grabbing! It's not often a conscious thing, just an impulse and their response has usually been to interlace their fingers with mine and carry on. Now I'm wondering what people's thoughts are on this. "
Generally happens when I'm pinning her down, but not limited to it.
Sometimes can be a "no you not gonna use your hands" thing, sometimes it's more of an affectionate thing - normally during foreplay
Either way it's perfectly fine and love it |
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I said I don't kiss or hold hands.
I think people feel intimacy in different ways and have varying limits on who they're prepared to feel that intimacy with.
I'm a very private person anyway and don't share much in the way of intimacy with many people, that includes physical and emotional intimacy. I'm happy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m pretty tactile and passionate however Hand holding and kissing i find very very intimate. I will probably only hand hold with my close FWBs or partner. Kissing - yep - love it! |
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By *acey_Red OP Woman
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"I said I don't kiss or hold hands.
I think people feel intimacy in different ways and have varying limits on who they're prepared to feel that intimacy with.
I'm a very private person anyway and don't share much in the way of intimacy with many people, that includes physical and emotional intimacy. I'm happy. "
You being happy is all that matters  . I'm probably near polar opposite though I think that's part of my attitude towards relationships as a whole and not necessarily having clear, defined lines between romantic and casual relationships and having different behaviour expectations for each. I tend to see every connection as its own thing that we can pick and and mix all the options available to suit us. People outside of them are often very confused by me  . |
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"I said I don't kiss or hold hands.
I think people feel intimacy in different ways and have varying limits on who they're prepared to feel that intimacy with.
I'm a very private person anyway and don't share much in the way of intimacy with many people, that includes physical and emotional intimacy. I'm happy.
You being happy is all that matters . I'm probably near polar opposite though I think that's part of my attitude towards relationships as a whole and not necessarily having clear, defined lines between romantic and casual relationships and having different behaviour expectations for each. I tend to see every connection as its own thing that we can pick and and mix all the options available to suit us. People outside of them are often very confused by me . "
People are often confused by me too.
I have a friend of over 20 years, we started hugging last year  |
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Hand holding and the interlocking of fingers - as simple a gesture as it may seem, adds an incredible augmentation to the level of intimacy; be it simply walking side by side or else indeed, during lovemaking.
It’s a thumbs up from me  |
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I generally feel more comfortable when this happens. You're sharing bodies, fluids, intimacy, so it's like an acknowledgement, aand recognising each other's appetite for open minded intimacy. I understand the boundaries, but for me personally it would diminish the experience if this was a no go area. Especially so in a one to one meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I love the idea of it with someone I'm close to but thinking about it, I'm not sure it's ever actually happened which is strange because I'm naturally very tactile. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yeah I’m a hand holder. Like you, sometimes it’s a reaction when receiving oral, other times it’s being pinned down by them, and sometimes if I’m feeling extra gooey I’ll hold hands while making love and it’s romantic af  |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I absolutely love it (and no one could have guessed my stance on it I'm sure).
I think hands are incredibly sensitive to touch, a gentle caress as you're kissing or a slightly firmer grip on yours as he slowly enters you for the first time - it adds a level of sensuality and intimacy that's very erotic and passionate. I like showing affection (to varying degrees) to those I'm with because, for me, it makes the experience better. Do I want to marry you because I squeezed your hand when I had a particularly intense orgasm? No. But I will remember how all of my body responded to you and that level of bliss. |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
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I definitely am a hand holder, when being intimate with someone it often just feels right.
That said, it's not all the time and not everyone. Sometimes my hands are busy  |
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I love this and in a few scenarios too;
• If I'm on top, I enjoy grabbing hands and pinning them down.
• If I'm on the bottom, I love them grabbing my hands and restraining me.
• When they're "down on me" much like you (the OP) says. Interlocking fingers, passion, oooft.
This has got me a bit flustered thinking about it xx
Lou x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m a very tactile person, I like sensual, passionate and intense sex so handholding is something that generally happens without me giving it much thought but I definitely like the intimacy. |
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again I think it adds to the "connection"
An extra layer of touch and becoming one.
As part of a couple when we did meet, I didn't have the urge to hold the hand of the person that I was engaging with, it was my ex who's hand I would be reaching for.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I was reading the kissing thread and there was a discussion about comfortable levels of intimacy and saw some comments about holding hands and it made me think. I've been known to grap the other persons hand during sex. Often in response to intense pleasure. Especially with oral sex their hand is often just there for the grabbing! It's not often a conscious thing, just an impulse and their response has usually been to interlace their fingers with mine and carry on. Now I'm wondering what people's thoughts are on this. "
This sounds very sensual and it's something I like to do too. It's just another form of sharing closeness with someone during play and it shouldn't be taboo considering what else is going on during play |
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It’s just something that happens naturally, whether it be walking down the street or sat in a pub, it’s the simple I know you are there.
During sex again it is instinctive and I find myself interlocking hands a lot of the time and you can feel the intensity of each other. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I was reading the kissing thread and there was a discussion about comfortable levels of intimacy and saw some comments about holding hands and it made me think. I've been known to grap the other persons hand during sex. Often in response to intense pleasure. Especially with oral sex their hand is often just there for the grabbing! It's not often a conscious thing, just an impulse and their response has usually been to interlace their fingers with mine and carry on. Now I'm wondering what people's thoughts are on this. "
Love it. Also during most sex positions that allow it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I love this and in a few scenarios too;
• If I'm on top, I enjoy grabbing hands and pinning them down.
• If I'm on the bottom, I love them grabbing my hands and restraining me.
• When they're "down on me" much like you (the OP) says. Interlocking fingers, passion, oooft.
This has got me a bit flustered thinking about it xx
Lou x"
This, especially like doing it on top, then lesning down and pushing my boobs in their face!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Oh yeah! I’m a hand holder. I’m a big fan of hands in general anyway.
Hands grasped in pleasure, hands caressing, kissing and sucking fingers, holding hands afterwards and talking... ahh! I’m getting all hot and bothered thinking about it!  |
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By *acey_Red OP Woman
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"Oh and while being on top! My fingers laced with theirs as I ride them... grrr!!!
Ok... I’ll be in the corner sorting myself out  "
Such a simple thread topic seems to have had quite an effect on a few people |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I was reading the kissing thread and there was a discussion about comfortable levels of intimacy and saw some comments about holding hands and it made me think. I've been known to grap the other persons hand during sex. Often in response to intense pleasure. Especially with oral sex their hand is often just there for the grabbing! It's not often a conscious thing, just an impulse and their response has usually been to interlace their fingers with mine and carry on. Now I'm wondering what people's thoughts are on this. "
I must say I do like that x
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Met a lovely lady recently, and spent the day together.
Early on, when it felt right to me, I reached to take her hand in mine. It was a slightly awkward reach, and when her hand responded, and matched my hand, and together they interlocked made for an incredible moment. That first touch, that knowing, once that connection is made. I don't think we let go for the rest of the day. Proper good that was.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Each to their own but i like it when the feeling and timing is right. You are both sharing emotions as well as each other bodies. Mind you sometimes you fuck with the devil in your eyes and a bit of hair pulling and ass spanking is more L'Ordre du jour |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I was reading the kissing thread and there was a discussion about comfortable levels of intimacy and saw some comments about holding hands and it made me think. I've been known to grap the other persons hand during sex. Often in response to intense pleasure. Especially with oral sex their hand is often just there for the grabbing! It's not often a conscious thing, just an impulse and their response has usually been to interlace their fingers with mine and carry on. Now I'm wondering what people's thoughts are on this. "
I do this too. I've never really thought about it before |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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Definitely a fan of hand holding both in and out of the bedroom - as P said further up it's a further sign of connection and togetherness between two people - whether that be just casually holding hands walking down the street, or seeking each others hands out during more intimate moments, clasping them and becoming one |
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Either D or me being on top then linking hands to use each others strength and grip to have the most intense close orgasm. 
