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That Hotel California thing.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I often see people saying goodbye on the forums, only to be met with comments such as "You'll be back", "You can check out but you'll never leave".
I for one have left and rejoined over the years, but firmly tell myself the next time is for good.
What stops you leaving for good, and why has FAB got such a hold on you?  |
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because it's familiar.
My life is pretty dull.
Extremely dull.
Here I have a voice, albeit a small one.
Here I can share my experiences in life etc and hope that someone will be impacted positively by it.
Here I have control to a degree, a small part of the big wide world where I could so easily find myself out of control and walking a dangerous path of self loathing and destruction.
It's toxic for me here, but a familiar foe. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've hidden a few times and taken a break but I'll never delete my profile because it's just a hassle to do it all again. I have no intention of ever actually leaving, I like it here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'll probably never leave. If I want a break I'll just hide my profile. The forum is fun and an escape. It entertains me. And I like writing and coming up with threads to amuse (and not so amuse). Anything else is a bonus. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"because it's familiar.
My life is pretty dull.
Extremely dull.
Here I have a voice, albeit a small one.
Here I can share my experiences in life etc and hope that someone will be impacted positively by it.
Here I have control to a degree, a small part of the big wide world where I could so easily find myself out of control and walking a dangerous path of self loathing and destruction.
It's toxic for me here, but a familiar foe."
Oooo thats very raw and insightful. Fab is like a sticky plaster? Nothing changes unless you take steps I guess? |
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"because it's familiar.
My life is pretty dull.
Extremely dull.
Here I have a voice, albeit a small one.
Here I can share my experiences in life etc and hope that someone will be impacted positively by it.
Here I have control to a degree, a small part of the big wide world where I could so easily find myself out of control and walking a dangerous path of self loathing and destruction.
It's toxic for me here, but a familiar foe.
Oooo thats very raw and insightful. Fab is like a sticky plaster? Nothing changes unless you take steps I guess? "
I guess so. Almost like group therapy for the fucked up.
I'm hoping that I'll get back to the "high" that was the confident me, the me that had beaten the mind demons.
A roller coaster ain't it, and part of that depends on who's riding with ya. |
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It can be fun but gets irritating after 6-months it's always the same people posting the same crap but if you leave it for a bit and then come back plenty new clickbait...
The i am leaving are nothing but attention-seeking nonsense it's like that one person at work and keeps telling everyday they hate this place well just leave.. |
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"because it's familiar.
My life is pretty dull.
Extremely dull.
Here I have a voice, albeit a small one.
Here I can share my experiences in life etc and hope that someone will be impacted positively by it.
Here I have control to a degree, a small part of the big wide world where I could so easily find myself out of control and walking a dangerous path of self loathing and destruction.
It's toxic for me here, but a familiar foe.
Oooo thats very raw and insightful. Fab is like a sticky plaster? Nothing changes unless you take steps I guess?
I guess so. Almost like group therapy for the fucked up.
I'm hoping that I'll get back to the "high" that was the confident me, the me that had beaten the mind demons.
A roller coaster ain't it, and part of that depends on who's riding with ya."
My fucked upness tho, isn't "bad" or cruel.
My fucked upness is sitting high upon my moral horse. My moral compass it extreme. That's because I have been on the receiving end of much shitty behaviour, manipulation and some pure evil.
My fucked upness is less judgey but more .... I've seen the damage that comes from that shit and want no part of it.
The difference between me and many others is I own my shizzle.
People may see someone who blames their ex(s) for being this way. Not really...... They're the reason I've seen and experienced the things I have, but I am the reason I've learnt from them, and I choose not to be involved in hurting others. |
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Some of the people....saying that I speak to most of the ones I really like away from here anyway, so that's not a very good reason 
It gives me something to look at whilst on boring conference calls.
Some of the pictures are alright to perv at
Errrmmm, I'm struggling now
Seriously, I'm definitely due a break from here...I have better things coming up in my life |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I left last year and wasn't ever coming back and I meant it.
Stupid pandemic changed everything. My crap life got even worse.
I came back because the people on Fab make me laugh and they make me think outside the box. The forums got me through some really crappy times. 
Now I can see some light for the first time in nearly 2 years so not sure what next. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think that's quite annoying sometimes. I like to come and go, it suits me, but people have gotten pissed off with me for it before like it's a failure to commit to the site or a failure to stay away. I just find it a bit odd. I enjoy it in short spells, use all parts of the site lots, meet up with new people then give it up for it a bit when it gets less fun, but I've never left in a huff saying I'm not coming back. I always know I'm coming back and I'll be enthusiastic about it all again  Works for me as I don't get jaded then. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I've hidden my profile when real life takes pre_edence but I've never left nor started a thread to say I was going to - I've seen a lot of people do that over the years and then a couple of weeks later they yoyo back. 
I find myself using fab less and less at the moment, I think that those I want to interact with (on the whole) I can do so outside of here. I'm not sure fab has a hold on me - it's fun at times but not the be all and end all. |
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I've not left, yet, but have hidden my profile down a couple of times.
I keep coming back for the chance to talk bollocks in this forum, and judge how weird I am / how different my views are from the mainstream on here (which I can tell by whether they get picked up or not) and perve at some of the pictures
Plus Facebook gets blocked at work |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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I was here for sex.
But now I’m not so sure. My local updates show folk looking to meet for sex like nothing’s happened which I find a bit annoying and (selfishly) frustrating.
I also got recently shelved by my FWB as I won’t meet so he’s set up a couples account with someone else which I found out via local updates.
So at the moment I’m feeling a bit meh about the whole easy come, easy go mentality.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I was here for sex.
But now I’m not so sure. My local updates show folk looking to meet for sex like nothing’s happened which I find a bit annoying and (selfishly) frustrating.
I also got recently shelved by my FWB as I won’t meet so he’s set up a couples account with someone else which I found out via local updates.
So at the moment I’m feeling a bit meh about the whole easy come, easy go mentality.
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Yeah that all puts me off too. People still meeting and the easy come easy go.  |
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"why do people feel the need to make a forum announcement.
so many come and go here anyway ...attention seeking much?"
Because some might worry if their friends suddenly vanish?
I say this as someone who's never posted such a thread on any forum, btw. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"why do people feel the need to make a forum announcement.
so many come and go here anyway ...attention seeking much?
Because some might worry if their friends suddenly vanish?
I say this as someone who's never posted such a thread on any forum, btw."
But the one leaving could just PM their friends rather than announce it on the forum... |
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By *llenGTWoman
over a year ago
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"I've hidden a few times and taken a break but I'll never delete my profile because it's just a hassle to do it all again. I have no intention of ever actually leaving, I like it here. "
I too have done this. I don’t leave because people outside fab don’t have the same outlook, it’s my parallel life and I love it |
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By *hav02Man
over a year ago
Glasgow/London |
"why do people feel the need to make a forum announcement.
so many come and go here anyway ...attention seeking much?
Because some might worry if their friends suddenly vanish?
I say this as someone who's never posted such a thread on any forum, btw.
But the one leaving could just PM their friends rather than announce it on the forum..."
this 
.."friends" suddenly vanish aka. Ghosted? who'd have thought?! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"why do people feel the need to make a forum announcement.
so many come and go here anyway ...attention seeking much?"
What's so bad about attention seeking? If someone is in a bad place, a few nice comments on their leaving thread may give them a boost.
I think it's good if it makes people feel better.
I did a leaving thread last time and it was good. Some comments that cheered me up. Some made me laugh. And there was a bit of a bunfight. |
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"why do people feel the need to make a forum announcement.
so many come and go here anyway ...attention seeking much?
Because some might worry if their friends suddenly vanish?
I say this as someone who's never posted such a thread on any forum, btw.
But the one leaving could just PM their friends rather than announce it on the forum..."
*Shrug* skip threads you don't like |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"why do people feel the need to make a forum announcement.
so many come and go here anyway ...attention seeking much?
Because some might worry if their friends suddenly vanish?
I say this as someone who's never posted such a thread on any forum, btw.
But the one leaving could just PM their friends rather than announce it on the forum...
*Shrug* skip threads you don't like"
I do  |
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"why do people feel the need to make a forum announcement.
so many come and go here anyway ...attention seeking much?
Because some might worry if their friends suddenly vanish?
I say this as someone who's never posted such a thread on any forum, btw.
But the one leaving could just PM their friends rather than announce it on the forum..."
It's a community. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" I often see people saying goodbye on the forums, only to be met with comments such as "You'll be back", "You can check out but you'll never leave".
I for one have left and rejoined over the years, but firmly tell myself the next time is for good.
What stops you leaving for good, and why has FAB got such a hold on you? "
Fuck knows! It's not Facebook?! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For me its the wide variety of characters and loves and passions and Im not talking just sexy..Im talking EVERYTHING. If you re in trouble some will support...theres always someone out there, even for me and thats really saying something. Diversity and openness like nowhere else. Though don t go in virus section.its like the badlands in there lolol  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We left no thread was made no-one probably even noticed hubby would of been happy not to come back but after only 5 weeks we returned I missed the forums way more than I thought possible this place truly is addictive xx |
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By *edeWoman
over a year ago
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I've hidden my profile loads of times as it does get a bit much sometimes especially the abuse for not meeting.
I stay because I enjoy reading the forums and more recently getting properly involved - the lounge is so much more easy going than many others.
It's a break from my normal day to day life which can feel a bit dull and unfulfilling right now. |
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I'm here because it amuses me.
It's a distraction from real life.
And pre covid I had some great meets.
I've never deleted or done a flounce but like the advert says...when the fun stops I'll stop.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When I'm cheesed off with this place I hide for a while. I've come close to leaving a few times but I just seem to change my mind. If I decided to leave for good I would probably just private message people, not do a thread. I like the banter in the Forums and, ultimately, I'm here for sex meets, parties and anything else involving kink. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"why do people feel the need to make a forum announcement.
so many come and go here anyway ...attention seeking much?"
Maybe, but we all attention seek to a degree?
Some people leave because they have made a conscious life change choice and its all sweet. Others maybe feel dejected,and sure, reach out and express how they feel hoping others will make them feel valued? Perhaps they don't really want to.
I guess Fab isn't just about sex, its a gap filler for many, and a sounding block for many....maybe they don't have that in vanilla life. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"why do people feel the need to make a forum announcement.
so many come and go here anyway ...attention seeking much?
Maybe, but we all attention seek to a degree?
Some people leave because they have made a conscious life change choice and its all sweet. Others maybe feel dejected,and sure, reach out and express how they feel hoping others will make them feel valued? Perhaps they don't really want to.
I guess Fab isn't just about sex, its a gap filler for many, and a sounding block for many....maybe they don't have that in vanilla life."
I keep taking breaks but it is a good gap filler |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"why do people feel the need to make a forum announcement.
so many come and go here anyway ...attention seeking much?
Maybe, but we all attention seek to a degree?
Some people leave because they have made a conscious life change choice and its all sweet. Others maybe feel dejected,and sure, reach out and express how they feel hoping others will make them feel valued? Perhaps they don't really want to.
I guess Fab isn't just about sex, its a gap filler for many, and a sounding block for many....maybe they don't have that in vanilla life.
I keep taking breaks but it is a good gap filler "
Evening
True we all need breaks. Maybe fab is a little more integral to our lives than we want to admit! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"why do people feel the need to make a forum announcement.
so many come and go here anyway ...attention seeking much?
Maybe, but we all attention seek to a degree?
Some people leave because they have made a conscious life change choice and its all sweet. Others maybe feel dejected,and sure, reach out and express how they feel hoping others will make them feel valued? Perhaps they don't really want to.
I guess Fab isn't just about sex, its a gap filler for many, and a sounding block for many....maybe they don't have that in vanilla life.
I keep taking breaks but it is a good gap filler
Evening
True we all need breaks. Maybe fab is a little more integral to our lives than we want to admit!"
I ran out crayons that’s why I’ve logged in |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"why do people feel the need to make a forum announcement.
so many come and go here anyway ...attention seeking much?
Maybe, but we all attention seek to a degree?
Some people leave because they have made a conscious life change choice and its all sweet. Others maybe feel dejected,and sure, reach out and express how they feel hoping others will make them feel valued? Perhaps they don't really want to.
I guess Fab isn't just about sex, its a gap filler for many, and a sounding block for many....maybe they don't have that in vanilla life.
I keep taking breaks but it is a good gap filler
Evening
True we all need breaks. Maybe fab is a little more integral to our lives than we want to admit!
I ran out crayons that’s why I’ve logged in "
And good evening |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"why do people feel the need to make a forum announcement.
so many come and go here anyway ...attention seeking much?
Maybe, but we all attention seek to a degree?
Some people leave because they have made a conscious life change choice and its all sweet. Others maybe feel dejected,and sure, reach out and express how they feel hoping others will make them feel valued? Perhaps they don't really want to.
I guess Fab isn't just about sex, its a gap filler for many, and a sounding block for many....maybe they don't have that in vanilla life.
I keep taking breaks but it is a good gap filler
Evening
True we all need breaks. Maybe fab is a little more integral to our lives than we want to admit!
I ran out crayons that’s why I’ve logged in "
Try not to eat them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can't find couples anywhere else, not even in supermarkets.
Holding out for a club partner as well, but the whole scene has gone tits up. Probably more fetish based than a swinger at heart, but I like the forums.
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"why do people feel the need to make a forum announcement.
so many come and go here anyway ...attention seeking much?
What's so bad about attention seeking? If someone is in a bad place, a few nice comments on their leaving thread may give them a boost.
I think it's good if it makes people feel better.
I did a leaving thread last time and it was good. Some comments that cheered me up. Some made me laugh. And there was a bit of a bunfight. "
I got really fucking aggy with some cockwombling fucktard who said online friendships are meaningless and not real. I was seething! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"why do people feel the need to make a forum announcement.
so many come and go here anyway ...attention seeking much?
What's so bad about attention seeking? If someone is in a bad place, a few nice comments on their leaving thread may give them a boost.
I think it's good if it makes people feel better.
I did a leaving thread last time and it was good. Some comments that cheered me up. Some made me laugh. And there was a bit of a bunfight.
I got really fucking aggy with some cockwombling fucktard who said online friendships are meaningless and not real. I was seething! "
I saw that! |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
I used to think I'd be carried out of here in a box but just lately I'm not so sure - have spent less and less time here lately and can honestly say I've not missed it - so if and when I go it will be with no intention of coming back.
Plus I hate that bloody song...complete dirge and if I ever find myself on a long desert highway the last thing I'll be doing is looking for that hotel!! |
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