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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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This university is keeping me busy this week! (I do get free cock pics for doing this though so it’s not all bad  )
Anyhoooooooo.
There seems to be a lot of dominant men on here. So my question to you men is this. Who quite likes a woman taking control and who prefers to take control themselves or needs to be in control?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"why does someone have to take control, go with the flow is our way, and most so called dom men have no idea what it means"
They don’t. I’m just interested in the answers.
And I don’t particular mean “a Dom”. I don’t know about all that stuff really. I mean taking control in the bedroom. |
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By *91kMan
over a year ago
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"This university is keeping me busy this week! (I do get free cock pics for doing this though so it’s not all bad )
Anyhoooooooo.
There seems to be a lot of dominant men on here. So my question to you men is this. Who quite likes a woman taking control and who prefers to take control themselves or needs to be in control?
Thank you "
It's fun to switch. Usually prefer to be in control but when you have a genuine connection with a partner and they know what you enjoy, sometimes it's nice to hand over the reigns  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"This university is keeping me busy this week! (I do get free cock pics for doing this though so it’s not all bad )
Anyhoooooooo.
There seems to be a lot of dominant men on here. So my question to you men is this. Who quite likes a woman taking control and who prefers to take control themselves or needs to be in control?
Thank you
It's fun to switch. Usually prefer to be in control but when you have a genuine connection with a partner and they know what you enjoy, sometimes it's nice to hand over the reigns "
Yeah i need that connection and trust |
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"This university is keeping me busy this week! (I do get free cock pics for doing this though so it’s not all bad )
Anyhoooooooo.
There seems to be a lot of dominant men on here. So my question to you men is this. Who quite likes a woman taking control and who prefers to take control themselves or needs to be in control?
Thank you "
I prefer a good give and take session, but then most times, what I want don't matter a dam, lol
I do what I'm told, |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Give and take. I'm more likely to want the woman to take control. Neither taking control though is good for mutual satisfaction.
Overall depends upon mood, woman and situation   |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"This university is keeping me busy this week! (I do get free cock pics for doing this though so it’s not all bad )
Anyhoooooooo.
There seems to be a lot of dominant men on here. So my question to you men is this. Who quite likes a woman taking control and who prefers to take control themselves or needs to be in control?
Thank you
I prefer a good give and take session, but then most times, what I want don't matter a dam, lol
I do what I'm told, "
Hahahah  x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This university is keeping me busy this week! (I do get free cock pics for doing this though so it’s not all bad )
Anyhoooooooo.
There seems to be a lot of dominant men on here. So my question to you men is this. Who quite likes a woman taking control and who prefers to take control themselves or needs to be in control?
Thank you "
I let the woman be in control |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I identify as Dom, but the thing is, if a lady is sub - she is still in total control, its my job to enact her desires take her to the edge of where she's comfortable and not one step further.
It's a pact of trust, the lady wants controlled vulnerability, she gives up control and takes it back at will. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I identify as Dom, but the thing is, if a lady is sub - she is still in total control, its my job to enact her desires take her to the edge of where she's comfortable and not one step further.
It's a pact of trust, the lady wants controlled vulnerability, she gives up control and takes it back at will. "
Yeah see that’s a whole different dynamic which to be honest I don’t know enough about to have an opinion. My understanding is you can still be dominant (or have a dominant streak) without being classified as a Dom/Domme. Am I right? Where GM when I need him?! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I like my guy in control in and out the bedroom.
What about your wifeys? 
The same!!! This princess likes to feel looked after  "
Haha. Pillow princess. I’m the opposite lets get together |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Im not really that dominating but have been told it seems like I control things a few times.
I do enjoy it when she tries to take control and fighting against it so its almost like a fuckfight as to who gets the upper hand, that point where her hands are around your throat and she is trying to ch0ke you yet you try to keep full eye contact and not pass out is incredibly sexual to me.
Biting or pinning to submission is also highly exotic and I have ended up being laid out before as ive almost blacked out and done the same in return.
Switching it around is where its at for me. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You're correct. Looking around the water on here are sometimes muddied between alpha type and dom/sub, which you are correct in pointing out. X"
I’m just talking about maybe tying a man to the bed (with hold ups not rope!) and maybe a blindfold and teasing the fuck out of him type thing. And vice versa. More that kind of thing. |
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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago
stockport |
"I like my guy in control in and out the bedroom.
What about your wifeys?
The same!!! This princess likes to feel looked after
Haha. Pillow princess. I’m the opposite lets get together "
I really am!
Match made in Heavan |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I like control, because thats who i am, its not just sex, in my life i like to take responsibility."
Ah but very often it can work the opposite in the bedroom I think. |
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By *edeWoman
over a year ago
the abyss |
I prefer a man to take control in the bedroom and outwith. There is a fine line between being naturally Dominant and just being an arrogant arse though which makes my search harder  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I prefer a man to take control in the bedroom and outwith. There is a fine line between being naturally Dominant and just being an arrogant arse though which makes my search harder "
Yes. You’re right there |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You're correct. Looking around the water on here are sometimes muddied between alpha type and dom/sub, which you are correct in pointing out. X
I’m just talking about maybe tying a man to the bed (with hold ups not rope!) and maybe a blindfold and teasing the fuck out of him type thing. And vice versa. More that kind of thing. "
Get you x yeah I love that kind of sensual play. Misunderstood slightly my (ex wife and friends) were what would be classified as sub-sluts, very very different tbh. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"All the women I've been with have preferred to let me take charge 
I'm just used to it now."
I think more women do like the man to take charge than don’t. Just from what I’ve read on here anyway x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I like control, because thats who i am, its not just sex, in my life i like to take responsibility.
Ah but very often it can work the opposite in the bedroom I think. "
I agree im some cases, just speaking from me though, i feel comfortable in that position. I can understand why some people with alot of responsibility give it up in sex x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I like control, because thats who i am, its not just sex, in my life i like to take responsibility.
Ah but very often it can work the opposite in the bedroom I think.
I agree im some cases, just speaking from me though, i feel comfortable in that position. I can understand why some people with alot of responsibility give it up in sex x"
Yeah me too. I wanted people’s individual preferences though. Interested x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I’m usually calling the shots, even when I’m not how my day has gone will dictate who’s taking charge in the bedroom. "
I think it depends on the person too and how comfortable you are with them. For me it does anyway. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We all have different taste.
So long as its all mutual a nd I've party isn't pushed into something they don't want to do then its all peachy.  "
Definitely. I’ve always said that. If it’s legal and everyone consents then do what the hell you like! Other people don’t have to like it. |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
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"We all have different taste.
So long as its all mutual a nd I've party isn't pushed into something they don't want to do then its all peachy.
Definitely. I’ve always said that. If it’s legal and everyone consents then do what the hell you like! Other people don’t have to like it. "
Id hate myself I'd if someone has agreed to something they wasn't 100% happy with. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We all have different taste.
So long as its all mutual a nd I've party isn't pushed into something they don't want to do then its all peachy.
Definitely. I’ve always said that. If it’s legal and everyone consents then do what the hell you like! Other people don’t have to like it.
Id hate myself I'd if someone has agreed to something they wasn't 100% happy with. "
Yeah me too. I’d hate to think someone was just doing something to please me. I almost did that once to please someone else but I didn’t in the end. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Flexibility is the key.Depends on the mood. Role play is fun as can play either roles.
This works for me. "
Yeah again role play is a different thing I suppose. I’m shit at that. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Control does not play a part in our relationship and neither of us would want it to, between each other or if anybody joins us. "
I think I may have perhaps worded it wrongly. More taking the lead I meant. |
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"Flexibility is the key.Depends on the mood. Role play is fun as can play either roles.
This works for me.
Yeah again role play is a different thing I suppose. I’m shit at that. "
as am I
Well unless I'm asked to play an Irish husky voiced lumber jack looking dude, lol
Reckon I could pull that 1 off, |
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By *hav02Man
over a year ago
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"All the women I've been with have preferred to let me take charge
I'm just used to it now.
I think more women do like the man to take charge than don’t. Just from what I’ve read on here anyway x"
Exactly. Though, with the right woman, I'd be willing to let them take control then again, just go with the moment, as long as both having fun. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"All the women I've been with have preferred to let me take charge
I'm just used to it now.
I think more women do like the man to take charge than don’t. Just from what I’ve read on here anyway x
Exactly. Though, with the right woman, I'd be willing to let them take control then again, just go with the moment, as long as both having fun."
That’s exactly right. It depends on the person for me. Totally. |
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"Control does not play a part in our relationship and neither of us would want it to, between each other or if anybody joins us.
I think I may have perhaps worded it wrongly. More taking the lead I meant. "
If somebody says "Let's try this" then I'm all for that. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Flexibility is the key.Depends on the mood. Role play is fun as can play either roles.
This works for me.
Yeah again role play is a different thing I suppose. I’m shit at that. as am I
Well unless I'm asked to play an Irish husky voiced lumber jack looking dude, lol
Reckon I could pull that 1 off, "
Oh I say. That sounds rather sexy  |
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"This university is keeping me busy this week! (I do get free cock pics for doing this though so it’s not all bad )
Anyhoooooooo.
There seems to be a lot of dominant men on here. So my question to you men is this. Who quite likes a woman taking control and who prefers to take control themselves or needs to be in control?
Thank you "
Anyhooooo... ?
Derry Girls fan?! Lol
I quite like having a lady being in control, especially if theres a strapon, ir better still, another bi guy in the mix... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This university is keeping me busy this week! (I do get free cock pics for doing this though so it’s not all bad )
Anyhoooooooo.
There seems to be a lot of dominant men on here. So my question to you men is this. Who quite likes a woman taking control and who prefers to take control themselves or needs to be in control?
Thank you "
I prefer to be in control.
However, with that said.... some aspect of being IN control is to rrlinquish control to your partner.
(Of course, with the ability to take back the control whenever I like or desire to)
Does that make sense?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This university is keeping me busy this week! (I do get free cock pics for doing this though so it’s not all bad )
Anyhoooooooo.
There seems to be a lot of dominant men on here. So my question to you men is this. Who quite likes a woman taking control
I prefer to be in control.
However, with that said.... some aspect of being IN control is to rrlinquish control to your partner.
(Of course, with the ability to take back the control whenever I like or desire to)
Does that make sense?
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*Relinquish- bloody phone |
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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago
harrow |
"This university is keeping me busy this week! (I do get free cock pics for doing this though so it’s not all bad )
Anyhoooooooo.
There seems to be a lot of dominant men on here. So my question to you men is this. Who quite likes a woman taking control and who prefers to take control themselves or needs to be in control?
Thank you "
For me it can depend, someone recently was being dominating when I was in a collar and I was being bratty and would not do what she wanted
But then later with some else I was being dom
For me it just go with the flow |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m alpha ... sooo ... i need someone that can tame me
Interesting so what is your definition of alpha? x "
someone who takes total control in seduction x |
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"This university is keeping me busy this week! (I do get free cock pics for doing this though so it’s not all bad )
Anyhoooooooo.
There seems to be a lot of dominant men on here. So my question to you men is this. Who quite likes a woman taking control and who prefers to take control themselves or needs to be in control?
Thank you "
Yes |
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By *xmfrvnMan
over a year ago
Stoke-on-Trent |
Just seems to happen naturally that I tend to be the dominant one. I do like partners to be more active though - passive submissives who just want to lie there & be used are less interesting to me.
I don't think I've actually been with a dominant woman, open to it though. |
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I generally just go with the flow - I do tend to be attracted to men with strong personalities though, so I'm usually happy for them to take the lead. Although I will often surprise him by suddenly taking control at some point  |
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"You're correct. Looking around the water on here are sometimes muddied between alpha type and dom/sub, which you are correct in pointing out. X
I’m just talking about maybe tying a man to the bed (with hold ups not rope!) and maybe a blindfold and teasing the fuck out of him type thing. And vice versa. More that kind of thing. "
That I can relate to - I also like not being allowed to cum ...not in a 'slave' type scenario, but just in a 'saving it up' kind of way. It's liberating in some ways. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You're correct. Looking around the water on here are sometimes muddied between alpha type and dom/sub, which you are correct in pointing out. X
I’m just talking about maybe tying a man to the bed (with hold ups not rope!) and maybe a blindfold and teasing the fuck out of him type thing. And vice versa. More that kind of thing.
That I can relate to - I also like not being allowed to cum ...not in a 'slave' type scenario, but just in a 'saving it up' kind of way. It's liberating in some ways."
And fun |
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"I’m just talking about maybe tying a man to the bed (with hold ups not rope!) and maybe a blindfold and teasing the fuck out of him type thing. And vice versa. More that kind of thing. "
That sounds perfect, yes please |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I prefer a good give and take session, but then most times, what I want don't matter a dam, lol
I do what I'm told, "
I find some men, who are very dominant, can also be some of the most delicious switches, once with the right woman. |
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Sorry to sit on the fence but it's both for me. I enjoy being used as a woman's plaything as much as I enjoy having a woman take it (esp from behind). I think it's better to experience the full spectrum of pleasure but everyone's wired differently. |
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I prefer an equal; a sparing partner. I’m not inclined to be ‘controlled’ but I will con_ede to letting him think he is for a long as I chose to do so
Likewise I have no desire to control him; I do however ramp up the tease so he is putty in my hands! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I prefer an equal; a sparing partner. I’m not inclined to be ‘controlled’ but I will con_ede to letting him think he is for a long as I chose to do so
Likewise I have no desire to control him; I do however ramp up the tease so he is putty in my hands! "
Yes. Well put! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I generally just go with the flow - I do tend to be attracted to men with strong personalities though, so I'm usually happy for them to take the lead. Although I will often surprise him by suddenly taking control at some point "
This |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think my favourite thing is Dominant guys and seeing how far I can reverse the tables and what I can get away with. Through trust and cuteness, not in a bratty way. |
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By *poddyMan
over a year ago
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"I think my favourite thing is Dominant guys and seeing how far I can reverse the tables and what I can get away with. Through trust and cuteness, not in a bratty way. "
This
For me personally, if some one can pull my primal side out then even better.
They might think they are being cute, smart,whitty and some times even a damn good brat will do it correctly.
Bring out the primal and the dominance is overwhelming but some of the best play sessions I've had in the past, are a power struggle and exchange between two dominants. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
Naturally submissive and can't do the whole Dom taking control thing - but can be assertive in the right moment and with the right person on an equal level and have quite the spanking hand if I do say so myself |
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