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Are some people really that shallow

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Looking through a few threads yesterday and just noticed something about forum threads and posting. I was quite stunned to see that a couple of people actually said depending on who starts a thread depends on if they will comment,even if its a topic they are interested in. I find that quite petty and sad.

If something interests me in the forums regardless of who started the thread I will comment.

Is there really not enough crap going on in the world right now?

Come on guys let's be kind. Male and female.

The forums are supposed to be for fun,laughter,opinions ok and sometimes they can get heated but let's me kind...

Do you agree? Or is it just me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m like this. If it’s someone I’ve argued with or don’t get on with, I tend to avoid their threads. No point in participating. And there is a few posters I avoid because whenever I’ve tried joining in on their threads, I get ignored.

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By *hunky GentMan over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

I try and do my bit to make the forums a nicer places.

I'm all about making others laugh and smile.

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By *VineMan over a year ago

The right place

"I’m like this. If it’s someone I’ve argued with or don’t get on with, I tend to avoid their threads. No point in participating. And there is a few posters I avoid because whenever I’ve tried joining in on their threads, I get ignored. "

Who said that!

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By *ourayloversCouple over a year ago

chesterfield

We will comment on a thread if it interests us no matter who's thread it is

Lou

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Doesn't bother me who starts the thread if I want to post I will and if people dont post on my threads that's on them xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m eating a banana

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By *luebell888Woman over a year ago

Glasgowish

I just read the heading and seldom notice who has posted.

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

I tend to post on threads that interest me, the ones that don't... unsurprisingly I don't. I think my sense of humour is slightly different to some so I'm probably less likely to post on theirs. I also know that some people only reply to certain folk and unless it's me talking to another poster (rather than the OP) I don't really engage with them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I guess if you've argued and there is friction then yes I would just not comment also..

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I try and do my bit to make the forums a nicer places.

I'm all about making others laugh and smile.

Exactly

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"We will comment on a thread if it interests us no matter who's thread it is

Lou"

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

Also, I don't think it's shallow. It makes sense - rather than post something curt/slightly barbed, post on threads where you can be civil. Makes sense to me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Doesn't bother me who starts the thread if I want to post I will and if people dont post on my threads that's on them xxx

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

I post on whatever I fancy, it doesn't bother me who started the thread.

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"Doesn't bother me who starts the thread if I want to post I will and if people dont post on my threads that's on them xxx

Xxx

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I’m like this. If it’s someone I’ve argued with or don’t get on with, I tend to avoid their threads. No point in participating."

Indeed.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I’m eating a banana"

Thanks for your input

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I just read the heading and seldom notice who has posted."

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By *otSoPoshWoman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

If it's someone I find interesting, or a friend, I'll usually post because there is likely to be something I want to say.

If it's anyone else, I'll post if I've got something to say and won't if I don't.

If it's a newer poster I'll always try and find something to post because it's nice to have a reply and when I was first here I got ignored the half dozen times I tried to get involved and it put me off (last profile) so I'll try and encourage joining in.

I don't see why people ignore threads because of the OP. If you've got something to say, say it....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Admittedly I don’t reply to one couples threads because of issues caused to me away from fab from one half of the couple. I wouldn’t piss on them if they were on fire so I certainly won’t even read their threads so If that makes me shallow so be it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I tend to post on threads that interest me, the ones that don't... unsurprisingly I don't. I think my sense of humour is slightly different to some so I'm probably less likely to post on theirs. I also know that some people only reply to certain folk and unless it's me talking to another poster (rather than the OP) I don't really engage with them. "

Ueah if it doesn't interest me I dont.But if it does I will regardless of who the OP is.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I post on whatever I fancy, it doesn't bother me who started the thread. "

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By *andyfloss2000Woman over a year ago

ashford

Yes I will allways get involved if it's a topic I'm interested in for sure

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It works the other way too - I know some ppl avoid mine because they have an opinion of me without bothering to find out or know a great deal about me. Seems silly if you've got something to contribute because we're all missing out that way....

Silence is deafening at times and unnecessary

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I’m like this. If it’s someone I’ve argued with or don’t get on with, I tend to avoid their threads. No point in participating.

Indeed."

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By *oxyvixen99Woman over a year ago

Newtownabbey

I just ramble on regardless

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I just ramble on regardless "

This also!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"If it's someone I find interesting, or a friend, I'll usually post because there is likely to be something I want to say.

If it's anyone else, I'll post if I've got something to say and won't if I don't.

I don't see why people ignore threads because of the OP. If you've got something to say, say it....

Exactly hun

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just been told. Nice cock but you are hanging. Not had any data for a couple of weeks. Came bask this morning and read that. Wow what a kick to my confidence. Thanks for that kick in the bollocks

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There's something in what you say. I notice that someone can most a thread and it gets no responses but someone else can post almost the exact same thing a few weeks later and people are all over it like a tramp on chips.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What the lady said

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'll happily comment on anyones, but conversely if I know someone is very confrontational and argumentative ill skip as its just negative energy.

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

"It works the other way too - I know some ppl avoid mine because they have an opinion of me without bothering to find out or know a great deal about me. Seems silly if you've got something to contribute because we're all missing out that way....

Silence is deafening at times and unnecessary

Agreed.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Admittedly I don’t reply to one couples threads because of issues caused to me away from fab from one half of the couple. I wouldn’t piss on them if they were on fire so I certainly won’t even read their threads so If that makes me shallow so be it. "

I believe thats slightly different as you have personal issues with them, so that doesn't make you shallow no...

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Yes I will allways get involved if it's a topic I'm interested in for sure

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If it's someone I find interesting, or a friend, I'll usually post because there is likely to be something I want to say.

If it's anyone else, I'll post if I've got something to say and won't if I don't.

I don't see why people ignore threads because of the OP. If you've got something to say, say it....

"
This

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Yes i totally agree x

Silence is deafening at times and unnecessary

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By *ensuallover1000Man over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

I’ll happily post on any thread

(Whether I stay on topic is quite another matter however....)

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I just ramble on regardless "

You ramble hun

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

To be fair there are a few thread starters that only start threads so people know they are still here and for the look at me factor but for me personally I will post in any thread I have half an interest in and 95% of the time my post will go un commented on which is fine.

Threads come and threads go as that’s how forums work.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"There's something in what you say. I notice that someone can most a thread and it gets no responses but someone else can post almost the exact same thing a few weeks later and people are all over it like a tramp on chips. "

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By *aomilatteCouple over a year ago

Midlands

"Looking through a few threads yesterday and just noticed something about forum threads and posting. I was quite stunned to see that a couple of people actually said depending on who starts a thread depends on if they will comment,even if its a topic they are interested in. I find that quite petty and sad.

If something interests me in the forums regardless of who started the thread I will comment.

Is there really not enough crap going on in the world right now?

Come on guys let's be kind. Male and female.

The forums are supposed to be for fun,laughter,opinions ok and sometimes they can get heated but let's me kind...

Do you agree? Or is it just me

"
Yes agreed. Watching kids play in a playground is entertaining though!... What times are our haircuts?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

" I'll happily comment on anyones, but conversely if I know someone is very confrontational and argumentative ill skip as its just negative energy."

Yes definitely

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By *uriouscouple83Couple over a year ago

Worcester

As newbies we will chip in where a thread catches our attention and aren’t too bothered if it’s ignored or not.

But then we haven’t been here long enough to have fallen out with anyone.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"If it's someone I find interesting, or a friend, I'll usually post because there is likely to be something I want to say.

If it's anyone else, I'll post if I've got something to say and won't if I don't.

I don't see why people ignore threads because of the OP. If you've got something to say, say it....

This

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I’ll happily post on any thread

(Whether I stay on topic is quite another matter however....)

Yes ive noticed lol..

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"To be fair there are a few thread starters that only start threads so people know they are still here and for the look at me factor but for me personally I will post in any thread I have half an interest in and 95% of the time my post will go un commented on which is fine.

Threads come and threads go as that’s how forums work.

Yes for sure..

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

If something interests me in the forums regardless of who started the thread I will comment.

Is there really not enough crap going on in the world right now?

Come on guys let's be kind. Male and female.

The forums are supposed to be for fun,laughter,opinions ok and sometimes they can get heated but let's me kind...

Do you agree? Or is it just me

Yes agreed. Watching kids play in a playground is entertaining though!... What times are our haircuts?

Haha...Shit it was 11 am

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"As newbies we will chip in where a thread catches our attention and aren’t too bothered if it’s ignored or not.

But then we haven’t been here long enough to have fallen out with anyone. "

Well thanks for posting on my thread and welcome

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

That's because of the off forum friendships on here (some call them Cliques). No matter what one of them post their crew will be on there to keep it chuntering along. Way of the Forum World lol

As for the OP, I post on what I want and only avoid one OPoster as he, IMNSHO, just makes threads for his own advertising or stupidity (and that is not you Nippy xxx)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm not sure if it's so much about being shallow more trying to avoid drama and conflict sometimes but depends on the context.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Silence is deafening at times and unnecessary

Agreed.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

That's because of the off forum friendships on here (some call them Cliques). No matter what one of them post their crew will be on there to keep it chuntering along. Way of the Forum World lol

As for the OP, I post on what I want and only avoid one OPoster as he, IMNSHO, just makes threads for his own advertising or stupidity (and that is not you Nippy xxx)"

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I'm not sure if it's so much about being shallow more trying to avoid drama and conflict sometimes but depends on the context.

Yes. Sometimes ignoring is the polite thing to do.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'm not sure if it's so much about being shallow more trying to avoid drama and conflict sometimes but depends on the context.

Yes i believe if there has been conflict then thats slightly different. I would stay clear..

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'm not sure if it's so much about being shallow more trying to avoid drama and conflict sometimes but depends on the context.

Yes. Sometimes ignoring is the polite thing to do."

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By *ackformore100Man over a year ago

Tin town

If something interests me in the forums regardless of who started the thread I will comment.

Is there really not enough crap going on in the world right now?

Come on guys let's be kind. Male and female.

The forums are supposed to be for fun,laughter,opinions ok and sometimes they can get heated but let's me kind...

Do you agree? Or is it just me

I make you spot on OP. Its a shame as the clique won't have anyone to play with... but hey there's worse going on in the world.

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By *lasphemouscoupleCouple over a year ago

Cambridgeshire

We post on topics that interest us

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By *parkle1974Woman over a year ago

Leeds

I'm as shallow as a puddle

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

If something interests me in the forums regardless of who started the thread I will comment.

Is there really not enough crap going on in the world right now?

Come on guys let's be kind. Male and female.

The forums are supposed to be for fun,laughter,opinions ok and sometimes they can get heated but let's me kind...

Do you agree? Or is it just me

I make you spot on OP. Its a shame as the clique won't have anyone to play with... but hey there's worse going on in the world. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"We post on topics that interest us"

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'm as shallow as a puddle

I know your not..

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By *andyfloss2000Woman over a year ago

ashford

I only started looking at forums couple weeks ago and did notice it's sometimes clicky and u get some that are bit know all lol but apart from that is ok here enjoy getting involved x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I only started looking at forums couple weeks ago and did notice it's sometimes clicky and u get some that are bit know all lol but apart from that is ok here enjoy getting involved x"

Im glad you enjoy the forums..After all we all have difference of opinions..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'll comment if It's something I can comment on. Doesn't matter who's thread it is.

I must admit I'm the shittest member at maintaining my own threads though

I just post em and womble off until later quite often!

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By *hrissielegsTV/TS over a year ago

Henfield

I completely agree with you can't message you privately but by the way you are beautiful x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I can understand why people do it to be honest.

I avoid people in real life who I don't get on with and I would do the same on here even if it is only a forum.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman over a year ago

On a mooch

Regardless of the OP creator I will comment if the topic interests me even if we don’t get on. It’s a public forum after all and everyone is entitled to their opinion, whether the OP likes you commenting or not, is not my problem

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By *andyfloss2000Woman over a year ago

ashford

"I only started looking at forums couple weeks ago and did notice it's sometimes clicky and u get some that are bit know all lol but apart from that is ok here enjoy getting involved x

Im glad you enjoy the forums..After all we all have difference of opinions..

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By *hom01Man over a year ago

St. Albans

"I just read the heading and seldom notice who has posted."
I'm the same - It's the subject matter not the OP that makes me read or participate in the particular forum chat.

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I only started looking at forums couple weeks ago and did notice it's sometimes clicky and u get some that are bit know all lol but apart from that is ok here enjoy getting involved x"

All forums take time to break into. Stick around

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By *elle xWoman over a year ago

Doire Theas

"I’m eating a banana"

And you never sent me a smiley pic

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I can understand why people do it to be honest.

I avoid people in real life who I don't get on with and I would do the same on here even if it is only a forum."

This also though....

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Well said O.P.

I look at the title. If it interests me OR if is looks like twoddle and I love a bit of twoddle. I join in.

I've never ignored a thread because of who started it. Tho I will admit to staying away from posts I regard as utter shite.

But no..... I'm not affected by who posted.

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By *elle xWoman over a year ago

Doire Theas

I comment on most threads I’m interested in and rarely notice the poster. I like to think I get on with most people but there are always a few that no matter how hard you try they will just never get you so I usually avoid them

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By *iewMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Angus & Findhorn

I don’t look to see who starts it, I just look at the title.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Never mind a few weeks later...... it can happen within a few posts or even the very next post...... that's why I never hold the 'community' bullshit in high regard.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"I don’t look to see who starts it, I just look at the title.

Hello young man x

Do those shoes still fit ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If something interests me in the forums regardless of who started the thread I will comment.

Is there really not enough crap going on in the world right now?

Come on guys let's be kind. Male and female.

The forums are supposed to be for fun,laughter,opinions ok and sometimes they can get heated but let's me kind...

Do you agree? Or is it just me

I’ve yet to reach double figures, but all my threads are nuanced informative and witty and yet others will fill up A thread with the title ‘ I’m Horny and bored lol’ so yes I concur

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"I only started looking at forums couple weeks ago and did notice it's sometimes clicky and u get some that are bit know all lol but apart from that is ok here enjoy getting involved x"

Well that's two negatives to start with. You'll fit in well.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS over a year ago

Cheshire

I’m guilty of not commenting, but I can count on one hand the people on these forums I truly don’t like so wouldn’t comment on their threads.

The reason is they’ve generally shown their phobic or inflammatory attitude previously and the posts they start generally are trying to justify their preferences / prejudices so I won’t give them any more ammunition.

This flies in the face of my general attitude in facing off against bigotry, but sometimes it truly isn’t worth it.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"I can understand why people do it to be honest.

I avoid people in real life who I don't get on with and I would do the same on here even if it is only a forum."

I disagree LBC .... In real life you ignore ONE person. In the forum you are ignoring everyone on the thread. The O.P. doesn't own it and far more comments will be from others.

That'd be like not going to the party cos of one person.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"I’m guilty of not commenting, but I can count on one hand the people on these forums I truly don’t like so wouldn’t comment on their threads.

This flies in the face of my general attitude in facing off against bigotry, but sometimes it truly isn’t worth it.

Good point Steph. Picking your battles is wise.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ill post if its something that I'm intrested in or have an opinion on

Dont even look to see who has posted it

I like getting involved to see everyone's opinion and getting 2 meet new ppl xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I totally agree with you OP,if I like the thread then I'd comment regardless of who posted it

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By *agneto.Man over a year ago

Bham

I really think it's a useful exercise to switch off images and use the forums. Info that every once in a while. You tend to comment on the comments rather than the poster.

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By *a LunaWoman over a year ago

South Wales

If a thread topic interests me i’ll post on it.

But then if after a brief scroll through it someone has posted what i was thinking then i’ll not bother.

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By *emini ManMan over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I'll post on anything that interests me or I feel I can contribute to (which admittedly is less and less lately), whose thread it is doesn't bother me in the slightest.

In fact I'm of the opinion that threads don't "belong" to anyone, they're posted publically and as such are "owned" and shaped by those that choose to contribute to them, and if they go off at tangents or I offer an opinion that doesn't conform to that of the OP then so be it, I don't see it as my problem.

If you don't like a different opinion being expressed, especially ones that are done with reason and balance, then perhaps you should consider whether you should have posted in the first place.

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By *aul1973HullMan over a year ago

East Hull

There are NO cliques on the fab forums

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By *acey_RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

Half the time I haven't noticed who posted it before replying unless they have a VERY distinctive profile picture or their posting style is very unique. Some regular posters I seem to regularly post on their threads, probably because we have similar interests, outlook or sense of humour so the stuff they post tends to interest me. Some regular posters I rarely comment on their threads, no deliberately but just because we are quite different people who like discussing very different things so their posts rarely interest me. Not because they're not interesting, just not my thing. Others probably have similar with my posts. My posts won't be everyone's cup of tea and some will scroll by to something more interesting to them. The world would be a boring place if we were all the same.

On the flip side, I wish some would avoid posts by people they have fallen out with if it always results in tension.

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By *reatformeatWoman over a year ago

my own bubble

If something interests me in the forums regardless of who started the thread I will comment.

Is there really not enough crap going on in the world right now?

Come on guys let's be kind. Male and female.

The forums are supposed to be for fun,laughter,opinions ok and sometimes they can get heated but let's me kind...

Do you agree? Or is it just me

Totaly agree there is a hardcore of forumites who stick together like a pack of wolves they either ignore you completely or challenge anything you have to say, then you have the white knkghts ,a hardcore of men in the forums who will back up the regular lady forumites in a vain attempt to show them how masculine they are

. The forums can be a really sad place but it doesnt take long to out the regular bunch and steer clear

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I can understand why people do it to be honest.

I avoid people in real life who I don't get on with and I would do the same on here even if it is only a forum.

I disagree LBC .... In real life you ignore ONE person. In the forum you are ignoring everyone on the thread. The O.P. doesn't own it and far more comments will be from others.

That'd be like not going to the party cos of one person. "

I know what you're saying and luckily I don't really dislike anyone on here so I haven't had to experience this.

I guess I'm just relating to reality. I've had a huge falling out with one of my brothers. And when he starts up a conversation with people and I'm around and interested in the topic, I ignore them and don't get involved because I don't want to give him the satisfaction of him having any of my time. So, in a way I can relate that to the forum if you have had a really shitty time with someone.

Don't get me wrong, I do think it's incredibly petty if people don't get involved purely because they don't like someone who they've never even taken the time to get to know or they don't like their looks, opinions etc, but when it gets deeper than that I can see why people avoid these threads.

Sorry, I don't half waffle on sometimes!

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"There are NO cliques on the fab forums

This belongs in the fabbyday joke book.....

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By *reatformeatWoman over a year ago

my own bubble

"There are NO cliques on the fab forums

And there is no sand in the desert

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If something interests me in the forums regardless of who started the thread I will comment.

Is there really not enough crap going on in the world right now?

Come on guys let's be kind. Male and female.

The forums are supposed to be for fun,laughter,opinions ok and sometimes they can get heated but let's me kind...

Do you agree? Or is it just me

. The forums can be a really sad place but it doesnt take long to out the regular bunch and steer clear"

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By *hrista BellendWoman over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I look to see who posted and what the post is about and if I want to contribute to that thread I will do, some days I won't post much because I am busy playing in fab off the forums not because I'm avoiding threads and some people

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By *agneto.Man over a year ago

Bham

On the flip side, I wish some would avoid posts by people they have fallen out with if it always results in tension. "

Yes I don't like to see the passive aggressive comments in thread.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just been told. Nice cock but you are hanging. Not had any data for a couple of weeks. Came bask this morning and read that. Wow what a kick to my confidence. Thanks for that kick in the bollocks"

Nah ignore them. If they are so sad they had to send that they deserve your pity. Don't let it make you feel bad. X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There are NO cliques on the fab forums

And there is no sand in the desert

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If something interests me in the forums regardless of who started the thread I will comment.

Is there really not enough crap going on in the world right now?

Come on guys let's be kind. Male and female.

The forums are supposed to be for fun,laughter,opinions ok and sometimes they can get heated but let's me kind...

Do you agree? Or is it just me

I’ve yet to reach double figures, but all my threads are nuanced informative and witty and yet others will fill up A thread with the title ‘ I’m Horny and bored lol’ so yes I concur

Have you tried getting involved on the other's threads in a positive way? Asking questions? And being a little more modest....? I mean that in the most positive way....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There are NO cliques on the fab forums

This belongs in the fabbyday joke book..... "

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By *abasaurus RexMan over a year ago

Gloucestershire

Not always shallow!

Sometimes the topic of conversation combined with who posted it can change whether I’ll post or not, but it largely depends on my mood and whether I can be sensed with a serious convo at that point!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I look for a thread that grabs my attention and usually the positive happy ones

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'll post on threads that intetest me but I usually get ignored

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I can understand why people do it to be honest.

I avoid people in real life who I don't get on with and I would do the same on here even if it is only a forum.

I disagree LBC .... In real life you ignore ONE person. In the forum you are ignoring everyone on the thread. The O.P. doesn't own it and far more comments will be from others.

That'd be like not going to the party cos of one person.

I know what you're saying and luckily I don't really dislike anyone on here so I haven't had to experience this.

Sorry, I don't half waffle on sometimes! "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I do have my favourite posters, but that's because they're good at what they do and they can usually teach me something or make me laugh. I still try to nurture the newbies though because we all need fresh meat for a healthy forum and I've seen some people really come out of their shells given the chance....

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By *parkle1974Woman over a year ago

Leeds

"I'll post on threads that intetest me but I usually get ignored

Sometimes others take over a thread and take it totally off topic. I'm sure you get plenty of attention x

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"I can understand why people do it to be honest.

I avoid people in real life who I don't get on with and I would do the same on here even if it is only a forum.

I disagree LBC .... In real life you ignore ONE person. In the forum you are ignoring everyone on the thread. The O.P. doesn't own it and far more comments will be from others.

That'd be like not going to the party cos of one person.

I know what you're saying and luckily I don't really dislike anyone on here so I haven't had to experience this.

Sorry, I don't half waffle on sometimes! "

No worries. I have another candle

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I can understand why people do it to be honest.

I avoid people in real life who I don't get on with and I would do the same on here even if it is only a forum.

I disagree LBC .... In real life you ignore ONE person. In the forum you are ignoring everyone on the thread. The O.P. doesn't own it and far more comments will be from others.

That'd be like not going to the party cos of one person.

I know what you're saying and luckily I don't really dislike anyone on here so I haven't had to experience this.

Sorry, I don't half waffle on sometimes! "

To both sides of this discussion.

And I don't think it's waffle.

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By *VineMan over a year ago

The right place

For me it’s not really about who starts a thread. It’s more about what type of thread it is and the mood I’m in.

If I’m short of time and just interested in a bit of fun or flirting I’ll post on those type of threads. If I have more time and I’m feeling a bit philosophical I might post on a more serious thread.

Also if lots have people have already said pretty much what I would say, I often don’t feel I’ll add anything new to the thread and won’t bother.

I think it’s risky trying to read too much into who does or doesn’t comment on a thread.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

And a waste of life. Don't forget a waste of life.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Some really great,points and _iews.. Cheers guys. Luckily im not a confrontational person unless really pushed. So if a thread interests me I will continue to post and if there is a difference of opinion after ive stated my piece i will simply walk away as I do in person..

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By *VineMan over a year ago

The right place

"And a waste of life. Don't forget a waste of life."

True

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By *emini ManMan over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I’ve yet to reach double figures, but all my threads are nuanced informative and witty and yet others will fill up A thread with the title ‘ I’m Horny and bored lol’ so yes I concur

But here's the thing...a good and interesting thread isn't measured by the number of posts it gets or whether it runs to another thread - but the content of that thread.

I've seen interesting and brilliant threads with a handful of replies and I've seen dull and uninformative threads (IMHO) that have run and run..it's not about "completing" a thread, or a popularity contest for the OP (although some to think it is).

On the rare occasions I start a thread I do so not to see how many posts it can get, nor do I feel the need, necessarily, to keep going back and posting on it, but because the topic I've posted interests me and I think it might interest others - if it does then great, if it doesn't then equally great, I leave it to die gracefully.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If something interests me in the forums regardless of who started the thread I will comment.

Is there really not enough crap going on in the world right now?

Come on guys let's be kind. Male and female.

The forums are supposed to be for fun,laughter,opinions ok and sometimes they can get heated but let's me kind...

Do you agree? Or is it just me

Unfortunately a very real forum clique exists on Fab.

Rather ironically some have replied here - perhaps they feel guilty having recognised their embarrassing behaviour and felt the need to justify themselves lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I’ve yet to reach double figures, but all my threads are nuanced informative and witty and yet others will fill up A thread with the title ‘ I’m Horny and bored lol’ so yes I concur

But here's the thing...a good and interesting thread isn't measured by the number of posts it gets or whether it runs to another thread - but the content of that thread.

Great point. X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I see it slightly differently OP. Fab is a part of the real world as we’re real people on it. Therefore as real people we will all have our own personalities which will be reflected in fora posts. It’s all well and good saying be kind and most of us try, but it’s not possible all the time. It’s better to say that if you’re in a shite mood, don’t come in the forum!

Same with groups. It’s natural to be drawn to people you like and have banter with them, although I do agree that it’s annoying when people take over a thread

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If something interests me in the forums regardless of who started the thread I will comment.

Is there really not enough crap going on in the world right now?

Come on guys let's be kind. Male and female.

The forums are supposed to be for fun,laughter,opinions ok and sometimes they can get heated but let's me kind...

Do you agree? Or is it just me

. The forums can be a really sad place but it doesnt take long to out the regular bunch and steer clear"

This times a million.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I see it slightly differently OP. Fab is a part of the real world as we’re real people on it. Therefore as real people we will all have our own personalities which will be reflected in fora posts. It’s all well and good saying be kind and most of us try, but it’s not possible all the time. It’s better to say that if you’re in a shite mood, don’t come in the forum!

Same with groups. It’s natural to be drawn to people you like and have banter with them, although I do agree that it’s annoying when people take over a thread

Yeah I get that hun. We do have a bit more in common with some than others and not everyone likes everyone.. As ive read thats why lots of people will avoid there threads rather than get ignored or end up falling out over difference of opinions...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If something interests me in the forums regardless of who started the thread I will comment.

Is there really not enough crap going on in the world right now?

Come on guys let's be kind. Male and female.

The forums are supposed to be for fun,laughter,opinions ok and sometimes they can get heated but let's me kind...

Do you agree? Or is it just me

"
yeah i tend to stick the fun flirty threads really because other can get abit feisty haha p.s op on my hot list

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By *hunky GentMan over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

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By *hunky GentMan over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

I must admit that a do tend to stay away from threads started from a couple of people that i don't get along with.

Mainly because I'm not interested in what they have to say - not necessarily the subject matter, just that it's them that said it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Doesn't bother me who starts the thread if I want to post I will and if people dont post on my threads that's on them xxx

^^This^^

If a thread interests me I will post on it. If it gets a reply great if not so what (just because it has no replies doesn't mean it isn't read).

And I'll keep starting threads whether anyone posts on them or not.

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By *innie The MinxWoman over a year ago

Under the Duvet

"Doesn't bother me who starts the thread if I want to post I will and if people dont post on my threads that's on them xxx

Same here, if a thread catches my attention I'll comment. If people want to comment on my (mostly) daft threads that's great,and if they don't then hey ho ,I'll live

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well everyone here didn’t need to avoid this thread now

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This definitely happens lol fab has a forum clique for sure. I saw a fella post a thread, barely anyone commented. One of the clique started the exact same thread and it was full lol ahh well, it’s only fun and games

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By *tephTV67TV/TS over a year ago

Cheshire

Just a question for the clique on here, how do you join, do you have a funny handshake or show your knees in ceremonies ? but mainly...am I in the club ? if I am, why didn’t you tell me

????

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I will comment on any thread if it’s interesting.....

But the Mods seem to shut down the good threads too quickly.....

I like a bit of drama

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By *gnitemybodyWoman over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

It's a bit silly isn't it,but I understand. If someones popular and it's their turn to be Fab famous for a while then they'll get more comments,rather than someone that isn't well known.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"I will comment on any thread if it’s interesting.....

But the Mods seem to shut down the good threads too quickly.....

I like a bit of drama "

Yeah same I can't be doing with everything being to nicey nicey all the time.

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By *icearmsMan over a year ago

KIDLINGTON

Is there a clique.. or is it just that some people gravitate more towards some than they do others..

There is an element of thread hijacking that goes on. But it will do in any public forum.

I tend to look at the thread and then comment if I think I have something worthy to add. I have decided at the moment that staying away from the how popular can I be threads is the way to go.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I post on all threads I find interesting and also on threads that dont have any replys so they get more replys and as well interact with newbies, but yes I tend to avoid few and dont reply to avoid the drama as you know it will go on for ages lol.

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Just a question for the clique on here, how do you join, do you have a funny handshake or show your knees in ceremonies ? but mainly...am I in the club ? if I am, why didn’t you tell me

????"

I think your letter comes after a certain number of dummy spits that you're in the clique.

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By *reatformeatWoman over a year ago

my own bubble

"Is there a clique.. or is it just that some people gravitate more towards some than they do others..

There is an element of thread hijacking that goes on. But it will do in any public forum.

I tend to look at the thread and then comment if I think I have something worthy to add. I have decided at the moment that staying away from the how popular can I be threads is the way to go.

Its a clique , someone will post something like " im having tea and cake what cake would you like" then you get all the white knights replying "choclate sponge for me" etc etc then the rest of the clique joins in and before you know there all talking crap about cakes, then someone post a thread about something important happening in the world and gets the odd reply or one of the clique gives em grief and cue the white knights again

it does amuse me though to be fair

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Is there a clique.. or is it just that some people gravitate more towards some than they do others..

There is an element of thread hijacking that goes on. But it will do in any public forum.

I tend to look at the thread and then comment if I think I have something worthy to add. I have decided at the moment that staying away from the how popular can I be threads is the way to go.

it does amuse me though to be fair

I always thought the clique was something else, a little darker and controlling, rather than just friends posting and replying as they wanted about cake or whatever.....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Is there a clique.. or is it just that some people gravitate more towards some than they do others..

There is an element of thread hijacking that goes on. But it will do in any public forum.

I tend to look at the thread and then comment if I think I have something worthy to add. I have decided at the moment that staying away from the how popular can I be threads is the way to go.

it does amuse me though to be fair

I always thought the clique was something else, a little darker and controlling, rather than just friends posting and replying as they wanted about cake or whatever.....

Probs a white knight if you don't know me^

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'll just answer anything

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By *oldyoudown41Man over a year ago

caledonian

It’s all a bit shallow

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We can call it the cool kids club if clique upsets people lol everyone else is just trying to push their way in like the nerds we are

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We can call it the cool kids club if clique upsets people lol everyone else is just trying to push their way in like the nerds we are

This really^

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By *reatformeatWoman over a year ago

my own bubble

"Is there a clique.. or is it just that some people gravitate more towards some than they do others..

There is an element of thread hijacking that goes on. But it will do in any public forum.

I tend to look at the thread and then comment if I think I have something worthy to add. I have decided at the moment that staying away from the how popular can I be threads is the way to go.

it does amuse me though to be fair

I always thought the clique was something else, a little darker and controlling, rather than just friends posting and replying as they wanted about cake or whatever.....

They are dark and controling they think they control the forums

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Is there a clique.. or is it just that some people gravitate more towards some than they do others..

There is an element of thread hijacking that goes on. But it will do in any public forum.

I tend to look at the thread and then comment if I think I have something worthy to add. I have decided at the moment that staying away from the how popular can I be threads is the way to go.

it does amuse me though to be fair

I always thought the clique was something else, a little darker and controlling, rather than just friends posting and replying as they wanted about cake or whatever.....

They are dark and controling they think they control the forums

No, I mean more subterranean.....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If something interests me in the forums regardless of who started the thread I will comment.

Is there really not enough crap going on in the world right now?

Come on guys let's be kind. Male and female.

The forums are supposed to be for fun,laughter,opinions ok and sometimes they can get heated but let's me kind...

Do you agree? Or is it just me

I’m not bothered who posts what, I will contribute to a thread when interested or in a teasing mood. But also will add that sometimes forget to respond to everyone when I’m the OP. It’s just one of those things that happens and isn’t intentional.

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By *reatformeatWoman over a year ago

my own bubble

"Is there a clique.. or is it just that some people gravitate more towards some than they do others..

There is an element of thread hijacking that goes on. But it will do in any public forum.

I tend to look at the thread and then comment if I think I have something worthy to add. I have decided at the moment that staying away from the how popular can I be threads is the way to go.

it does amuse me though to be fair

I always thought the clique was something else, a little darker and controlling, rather than just friends posting and replying as they wanted about cake or whatever.....

They are dark and controling they think they control the forums

No, I mean more subterranean....."

enjoy your cake

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By *emorefridaCouple over a year ago

La la land

"Is there a clique.. or is it just that some people gravitate more towards some than they do others..

There is an element of thread hijacking that goes on. But it will do in any public forum.

I tend to look at the thread and then comment if I think I have something worthy to add. I have decided at the moment that staying away from the how popular can I be threads is the way to go.

it does amuse me though to be fair

I always thought the clique was something else, a little darker and controlling, rather than just friends posting and replying as they wanted about cake or whatever.....

They are dark and controling they think they control the forums

No, I mean more subterranean....."

What like the ninja turtles?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The only way to infiltrate the “clique” is just get involved. Talk to people get yourself out there. They’re all a bit mental sometimes but I wouldn’t have them any other way.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Is there a clique.. or is it just that some people gravitate more towards some than they do others..

There is an element of thread hijacking that goes on. But it will do in any public forum.

I tend to look at the thread and then comment if I think I have something worthy to add. I have decided at the moment that staying away from the how popular can I be threads is the way to go.

it does amuse me though to be fair

I always thought the clique was something else, a little darker and controlling, rather than just friends posting and replying as they wanted about cake or whatever.....

They are dark and controling they think they control the forums

No, I mean more subterranean.....

enjoy your cake

Charming, you obv haven't read me, I'm always asking them what they mean with the cake stuff....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Is there a clique.. or is it just that some people gravitate more towards some than they do others..

There is an element of thread hijacking that goes on. But it will do in any public forum.

I tend to look at the thread and then comment if I think I have something worthy to add. I have decided at the moment that staying away from the how popular can I be threads is the way to go.

it does amuse me though to be fair

I always thought the clique was something else, a little darker and controlling, rather than just friends posting and replying as they wanted about cake or whatever.....

They are dark and controling they think they control the forums

No, I mean more subterranean.....

What like the ninja turtles? "

Yeah, otherwise it's just ppl doing what they enjoy in public. I thought clique was more the secret Kik groups and backroom chat and bitching....?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Is there a clique.. or is it just that some people gravitate more towards some than they do others..

There is an element of thread hijacking that goes on. But it will do in any public forum.

I tend to look at the thread and then comment if I think I have something worthy to add. I have decided at the moment that staying away from the how popular can I be threads is the way to go.

it does amuse me though to be fair

I always thought the clique was something else, a little darker and controlling, rather than just friends posting and replying as they wanted about cake or whatever.....

They are dark and controling they think they control the forums

No, I mean more subterranean.....

What like the ninja turtles?

Yeah, otherwise it's just ppl doing what they enjoy in public. I thought clique was more the secret Kik groups and backroom chat and bitching....? "

Lol. We all know this happens though.

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By *emorefridaCouple over a year ago

La la land

But to answer the OP, the forum is difficult sometimes. For example, I posted on one of your threads yesterday, I didn't get a reply. Now I posted my own threads and appreciate you miss people out occasionally, for someone who hasn't this could have been a slight. Done another time a month or so later. Well you can see why people presume why someone doesn't like them. Me personally I'll post where I want sometimes it's thoughtful, sometimes it's nonsense. The forum is for everyone and you've got to be in it to win it so to speak

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By *emorefridaCouple over a year ago

La la land

"Is there a clique.. or is it just that some people gravitate more towards some than they do others..

There is an element of thread hijacking that goes on. But it will do in any public forum.

I tend to look at the thread and then comment if I think I have something worthy to add. I have decided at the moment that staying away from the how popular can I be threads is the way to go.

it does amuse me though to be fair

I always thought the clique was something else, a little darker and controlling, rather than just friends posting and replying as they wanted about cake or whatever.....

They are dark and controling they think they control the forums

No, I mean more subterranean.....

What like the ninja turtles?

Yeah, otherwise it's just ppl doing what they enjoy in public. I thought clique was more the secret Kik groups and backroom chat and bitching....? "

That's what I took it to mean to be honest. But what do I know

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'll just answer anything"

Good to know

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yeah, otherwise it's just ppl doing what they enjoy in public. I thought clique was more the secret Kik groups and backroom chat and bitching....?

That's what I took it to mean to be honest. But what do I know "

Is it like the Illuminati? Or just the cool kids smoking behind the bike sheds?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"But to answer the OP, the forum is difficult sometimes. For example, I posted on one of your threads yesterday, I didn't get a reply. Now I posted my own threads and appreciate you miss people out occasionally, for someone who hasn't this could have been a slight. Done another time a month or so later. Well you can see why people presume why someone doesn't like them. Me personally I'll post where I want sometimes it's thoughtful, sometimes it's nonsense. The forum is for everyone and you've got to be in it to win it so to speak

I think my advice is just do it your way. I've seen folk telling others how to run a thread - as if there's even a right way???? I get told off for replying to all in my threads because I'm dominating them but then if I don't then folk will complain equally that I'm leaving them out. Everyone should just be less uptight and do what brings them joy, or not......

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By *emorefridaCouple over a year ago

La la land

Yeah, otherwise it's just ppl doing what they enjoy in public. I thought clique was more the secret Kik groups and backroom chat and bitching....?

That's what I took it to mean to be honest. But what do I know

Is it like the Illuminati? Or just the cool kids smoking behind the bike sheds?

Goodness know, I've never been cool enough always a nerdy geek

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By *emorefridaCouple over a year ago

La la land

True true Nip, just be yourself whatever that maybe. Someone will appreciate your own kind of weirdness I've found

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yeah, otherwise it's just ppl doing what they enjoy in public. I thought clique was more the secret Kik groups and backroom chat and bitching....?

That's what I took it to mean to be honest. But what do I know

Is it like the Illuminati? Or just the cool kids smoking behind the bike sheds?

I wish I could joke, but there are some proper nasties lurking on fab and wasting far too much energy to discredit others just for being themselves.... .....seems silly to me....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yeah, otherwise it's just ppl doing what they enjoy in public. I thought clique was more the secret Kik groups and backroom chat and bitching....?

That's what I took it to mean to be honest. But what do I know

Is it like the Illuminati? Or just the cool kids smoking behind the bike sheds?

Goodness know, I've never been cool enough always a nerdy geek

But the nerdy geeks are the cool kids now

I'm more the lone wolf nerdy geek - I'll smoke while fixing your PC

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yeah, otherwise it's just ppl doing what they enjoy in public. I thought clique was more the secret Kik groups and backroom chat and bitching....?

That's what I took it to mean to be honest. But what do I know

Is it like the Illuminati? Or just the cool kids smoking behind the bike sheds?

I wish I could joke, but there are some proper nasties lurking on fab and wasting far too much energy to discredit others just for being themselves.... .....seems silly to me....

This..

Just be nice ... simples

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yeah, otherwise it's just ppl doing what they enjoy in public. I thought clique was more the secret Kik groups and backroom chat and bitching....?

That's what I took it to mean to be honest. But what do I know

Is it like the Illuminati? Or just the cool kids smoking behind the bike sheds?

I wish I could joke, but there are some proper nasties lurking on fab and wasting far too much energy to discredit others just for being themselves.... .....seems silly to me....

This..

Just be nice ... simples "

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By *orny PTMan over a year ago

Peterborough

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By *orny PTMan over a year ago

Peterborough

Diplomacy at its simplest, Queenie...If you've got nothing good to say, then say nowt. As somebody's mum was supposed to have said.

(Typo)

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By *emorefridaCouple over a year ago

La la land

Yeah, otherwise it's just ppl doing what they enjoy in public. I thought clique was more the secret Kik groups and backroom chat and bitching....?

That's what I took it to mean to be honest. But what do I know

Is it like the Illuminati? Or just the cool kids smoking behind the bike sheds?

I wish I could joke, but there are some proper nasties lurking on fab and wasting far too much energy to discredit others just for being themselves.... .....seems silly to me....

Hit the nail on the head there, I just choose to ignore it. They remind me of school bullies to be honest

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By *otSoPoshWoman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

I think when talking about a clique or a cool kids club or a gang people should remember that the people they are talking about have feelings too and more often than not are here on the forum to enjoy themselves and have fun with their friends.

I take great offense at having been recently accused of being in a gang, and of being in a clique, because I'm just me, bimbling around doing my best to make people smile and include everyone.

Yes, I've got friends on here, and yes, there are occasions we have taken over threads with playing and comments. That sometimes happens on an open forum. But (I'm not going to speak for my friends as they have voices) I will play with and flirt with anyone on the forum and do so regularly. Anyone can join in our "banter" - hate that word - and people often do.

Yes, there are people who don't do what I try and do, and that's up to them. And sometimes we don't manage to answer everyone, and that can feel personal. Use the forum how you like, or don't use it. But just because people are friends doesn't mean they're not inclusive.

I have no idea if any of the people referring to a clique or a gang or whatever are referring to me, but I'm upset to think y'all might be, as I'd never even considered it until after recent vicious attack messages I've had on the subject.

Any one of the threads I start or I'm a part of starting I will do my best to make sure everyone who posts gets included. And I always have. And my inbox is open to anyone who would like to chat, and anyone who would like to abuse me. Go ahead. Better you make me feel like crap than someone else.

I'm sorry about my rambling rant and love and joy to all of you, because we all need love and joy in our lives.

Also, if you didn't mean me, I'm glad because of all of what I've said. And if you did, this is no guilty self reflection, this is genuine pissiness because I don't think I've done anything wrong. Feel free to pm me to discuss.

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By *icearmsMan over a year ago

KIDLINGTON

"Is there a clique.. or is it just that some people gravitate more towards some than they do others..

There is an element of thread hijacking that goes on. But it will do in any public forum.

I tend to look at the thread and then comment if I think I have something worthy to add. I have decided at the moment that staying away from the how popular can I be threads is the way to go.

it does amuse me though to be fair

I always thought the clique was something else, a little darker and controlling, rather than just friends posting and replying as they wanted about cake or whatever.....

They are dark and controling they think they control the forums

No, I mean more subterranean.....

What like the ninja turtles?

Yeah, otherwise it's just ppl doing what they enjoy in public. I thought clique was more the secret Kik groups and backroom chat and bitching....?

That's what I took it to mean to be honest. But what do I know "

Crikey! Didn't mean to stir a hornets nest up there!. Clearly there is some tension between people.

As a relatively new person back in the forums after a long absence, I just try to stay neutral.

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By *emorefridaCouple over a year ago

La la land

I bloody love you posh, you are one of the nicest people here. Anyone accusing of that kind of thing needs to give their own head a wobble, and grow up and act like an adult. I'm sorry you've endured this, much love Frida x

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By *ily WhiteWoman over a year ago

The only threads that really interest me tend to be the more serious or thought provoking ones, and if I have something to add to the discussion I'll comment, regardless of who the OP is.

My participation in the more banal threads depends entirely on my boredom levels (so many boring conference calls at the moment

) But again, who the OP is doesn't make any difference to whether I post on them or not.

One thing that does make me chuckle is people that obviously have some sort of issue with me even though we've never even chatted...my comments will be ignored whilst every other post is replied to. It doesn't upset me in the slightest, but I do find it amusing in it's childishness.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think when talking about a clique or a cool kids club or a gang people should remember that the people they are talking about have feelings too and more often than not are here on the forum to enjoy themselves and have fun with their friends.

I take great offense at having been recently accused of being in a gang, and of being in a clique, because I'm just me, bimbling around doing my best to make people smile and include everyone.

I'm sorry about my rambling rant and love and joy to all of you, because we all need love and joy in our lives.

I second this. I was warned off a few of the forumites when I first joined and warned of the “clique” it does appear that way at first but you’ve just got to Chuck yourself in the deep end and you’ll be welcomed. I have.

I was told about yourself NSP and how wrong they were! I had the opinion you were “queen bee” however I’ll eat humble pie here ...You’re lovely genuinely one of the nicest girls I’ve met here and you’re a women of your word as our 3am conversations prove.

I think what people need to remember is this is a causal sex/swinging site at the end of the day not everyone’s intentions are genuine and not all the friendships are “real” but don’t judge others on the basis of their friendships with others.

My parting words is this “be kind”. You never know what someone is going through and if people like Caroline flack have taught us anything is that trolls take up too much of our lives.

Always here for anyone if they need it even if it makes me a mug.

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By *abasaurus RexMan over a year ago

Gloucestershire

"Lily’s post has been ignored "

I think my boredom levels play a huge part in which threads I engage in.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just thought I’d clear the air after posh’s post. In no way am I attacking anyone

life’s too short for that game. I was only pointing out that there are more ‘popular’ people shall we say. Sorry for causing offence, it wasn’t intended

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If I'm interested in the theme of the post and I have something to add then I will. Half the time I have no idea who started it as I don't tend to look at that bit.

I've found everyone to be welcoming and willing to chat on this profile and the one we had before.

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By *HaRiFMan over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

I am quite shallow

but in general I only read the threads that come to the top of each forum list because I’m lazy, so I’m more likely to reply on these if any.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've been on and off the forums for years. What I can tell you is that the cliques and gangs come and go. They're really not worth getting upset over.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If I'm interested in the theme of the post and I have something to add then I will. Half the time I have no idea who started it as I don't tend to look at that bit.

I've found everyone to be welcoming and willing to chat on this profile and the one we had before. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Yes you do miss people out occasionally, especially if you leave a thread and then try to pick it back up. I do try to reply to ones that need or want a reply. I never ignore anyone intentionally.

As with this thread I started reply to each and all but then it got too big.. And i apologise if you thought I was ignoring your comment. Certainly wasn't. Thanks for your input...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I take great offense at having been recently accused of being in a gang, and of being in a clique, because I'm just me, bimbling around doing my best to make people smile and include everyone.

I'm sorry about my rambling rant and love and joy to all of you, because we all need love and joy in our lives.

I haven't seen any of this at all. What I see is some groups of people that are clearly friends. Now these people have never made me feel unwelcome at all and I believe it's up to me to try and get involved where I want to and not for them to pull me in if that makes sense.

It's the same as in the real world. I wouldnt see a group a friend's and expect them to join their 'group' if you will but if I wanted to be and we had similar tastes I would introduce myself and try to find the common grounds. It's how all friendships work. You can't just expect to be accepted anywhere right off the bat.

So yeah that's my two pennies worth, I think people are pretty lovely in here.

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By *otSoPoshWoman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

I'd like to apologise to Sassymrs for hijacking with my rant.

It's too easy to judge others and their intentions on a forum and we all do it to some degree or another. I wasn't having a go at anyone here personally and I'm sorry if it came out that way.

I let my personal crap spill onto here and I'm sorry for that as well.

Please just remember that words on a screen can destroy people, whether you mean them to or not, and no matter whether you think they're "popular" or not, and remember that this is meant to be fun.

And if you feel like someone is hijacking your thread and don't like it, why not message them and say so? At the time, of course. They might stop.

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