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Why do some people think it’s ok to shout abuse at strangers in the street
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I was out shopping earlier and was walking through the town when I heard someone in a car beep their horn and shout “FATTY”. Carried on walking and he beeped and waved at me and again shouted the same word. What a complete arsehole, I wasn’t feeling good as it was but, that just made me feel worse.
Do people really think that’s acceptable. Doesn’t matter what I think of how someone looks I wouldn’t shout and abuse them because it makes me feel good. Sorry rant over x  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some people take pleasure from being mean. I've never understood it, but they're all over the place. Don't give him your energy. I'm pretty sure it comes from a place of insecurity.
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I'm so sorry they behaved that way Ang, totally fucking unnecessary and uncalled for.
I promised I wouldn't drop the C-bomb today, but they thoroughly deserve it.
It's cruel, it's shit like this that makes me embarrassed to be part of the human race.
People suck. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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assholes is why, got to just ignore the little insignificant insects.
last guy that shouted at me ended up with an unopened can of thrown at him threw the window, hit him right in the face was comedy gold 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I cannot understand the complete lack of empathy behind this behavoir. I've learnt the drive to say unkind things about others is pretty universal, the only difference between people is the degree of bad mood/anger/disgust they need to be feeling before they say unkind things. To be so unaware of another's feelings to be unkind for absolutely no reason though is pretty far along the spectrum. |
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I think you look great ..  there’s some horrible people out there that have fuck all to do with there life’s than to make other’s feel like shit ..I really wouldn’t worry about them sad pathetic twats .. |
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"I was out shopping earlier and was walking through the town when I heard someone in a car beep their horn and shout “FATTY”. Carried on walking and he beeped and waved at me and again shouted the same word. What a complete arsehole, I wasn’t feeling good as it was but, that just made me feel worse.
Do people really think that’s acceptable. Doesn’t matter what I think of how someone looks I wouldn’t shout and abuse them because it makes me feel good. Sorry rant over x "
They probably think what they said was factual and not an insult. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some sad people out there with nothing going for them in life so feel the need to insult uther to make them selfs feel better take no notice off them sad individuals and I think you look very beautiful and sexy 12 out off 10 completely stunning xx |
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"assholes is why, got to just ignore the little insignificant insects.
last guy that shouted at me ended up with an unopened can of thrown at him threw the window, hit him right in the face was comedy gold
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I can't candone violence, but I don't have much sympathy for colaface. |
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"I was out shopping earlier and was walking through the town when I heard someone in a car beep their horn and shout “FATTY”. Carried on walking and he beeped and waved at me and again shouted the same word. What a complete arsehole, I wasn’t feeling good as it was but, that just made me feel worse.
Do people really think that’s acceptable. Doesn’t matter what I think of how someone looks I wouldn’t shout and abuse them because it makes me feel good. Sorry rant over x "
That’s awful
There are plenty of idiots out there that like to be abusive for no reason
Take delight in being nasty
Just like some do on here
Probably got a small dick so don’t lose any sleep over it  |
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"I was out shopping earlier and was walking through the town when I heard someone in a car beep their horn and shout “FATTY”. Carried on walking and he beeped and waved at me and again shouted the same word. What a complete arsehole, I wasn’t feeling good as it was but, that just made me feel worse.
Do people really think that’s acceptable. Doesn’t matter what I think of how someone looks I wouldn’t shout and abuse them because it makes me feel good. Sorry rant over x
They probably think what they said was factual and not an insult. "
Holy fuckballs, you are all kinds of special |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I was out shopping earlier and was walking through the town when I heard someone in a car beep their horn and shout “FATTY”. Carried on walking and he beeped and waved at me and again shouted the same word. What a complete arsehole, I wasn’t feeling good as it was but, that just made me feel worse.
Do people really think that’s acceptable. Doesn’t matter what I think of how someone looks I wouldn’t shout and abuse them because it makes me feel good. Sorry rant over x "
They do it because they are morons,they do it for attention,they do it to try to mask their own insecurities,but mostly because they are morons |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thank you all. Yes I am aware of my size but comments like that don’t spur me on to lose weight, I do that for myself. I think the looks people gave him showed what an idiot he was x |
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So sorry that's happened to you. Big hugs lovely. Words hurt, no matter how much you try not to let them. More people are nice than there are nasty people. Unfortunately it's the nasty ones that we tend to remember x  |
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"I was out shopping earlier and was walking through the town when I heard someone in a car beep their horn and shout “FATTY”. Carried on walking and he beeped and waved at me and again shouted the same word. What a complete arsehole, I wasn’t feeling good as it was but, that just made me feel worse.
Do people really think that’s acceptable. Doesn’t matter what I think of how someone looks I wouldn’t shout and abuse them because it makes me feel good. Sorry rant over x "
Unfortuneately there has always been people like that about, no respect for others like the guy this morning who just went straight up to the co-op took a basket and went straight Inside where there is a waiting and distance system in use due to covid thou he,s not the first I,ve seen do this..  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Gosh that makes me so ANGRY. I can't stand shit like that, so fucking RUDE and they don't know the damage they can cause.
I hope you're ok! I will keep my fingers crossed the dick who gave you abuse will get kicked in the balls by a horse. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I was out shopping earlier and was walking through the town when I heard someone in a car beep their horn and shout “FATTY”. Carried on walking and he beeped and waved at me and again shouted the same word. What a complete arsehole, I wasn’t feeling good as it was but, that just made me feel worse.
Do people really think that’s acceptable. Doesn’t matter what I think of how someone looks I wouldn’t shout and abuse them because it makes me feel good. Sorry rant over x
They probably think what they said was factual and not an insult. "
I really hope you’ve just worded this badly, and this is not what you actually mean 
Op, it says everything about him, and nothing about you, but I’m so sorry this happened.
There’s no excusing it |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Gosh that makes me so ANGRY. I can't stand shit like that, so fucking RUDE and they don't know the damage they can cause.
I hope you're ok! I will keep my fingers crossed the dick who gave you abuse will get kicked in the balls by a horse. "
Thanks lemon, I’m ok just feeling fragile because I’m tired and struggling with a very anxious and autistic son. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Gosh that makes me so ANGRY. I can't stand shit like that, so fucking RUDE and they don't know the damage they can cause.
I hope you're ok! I will keep my fingers crossed the dick who gave you abuse will get kicked in the balls by a horse.
Thanks lemon, I’m ok just feeling fragile because I’m tired and struggling with a very anxious and autistic son. X "
Sending you hugs Angie. I'm genuinely feeling so angry for you. It's something you should never have to encounter, but especially when you're already dealing with a lot. Honestly, what a nasty piece of work. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Gosh that makes me so ANGRY. I can't stand shit like that, so fucking RUDE and they don't know the damage they can cause.
I hope you're ok! I will keep my fingers crossed the dick who gave you abuse will get kicked in the balls by a horse.
Thanks lemon, I’m ok just feeling fragile because I’m tired and struggling with a very anxious and autistic son. X "
I hope you’re feeling ok, this kind of thing is horrible |
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It’s not acceptable at all OP sorry you went through that
Unfortunately some think it is funny and even more so when there is no chance of a come back at them, as they yell and speed off in their car
One word for them... childish, cowardly, c*nts... ok more than one |
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"I was out shopping earlier and was walking through the town when I heard someone in a car beep their horn and shout “FATTY”. Carried on walking and he beeped and waved at me and again shouted the same word. What a complete arsehole, I wasn’t feeling good as it was but, that just made me feel worse.
Do people really think that’s acceptable. Doesn’t matter what I think of how someone looks I wouldn’t shout and abuse them because it makes me feel good. Sorry rant over x
They probably think what they said was factual and not an insult. "
Oh my |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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2 answers for people when they call you fat....
1 : everytime I fuck your wife/mum, she gives me a biscuit!
2 : ok I'm fat, but you're ugly and I can lose weight. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"2 answers for people when they call you fat....
1 : everytime I fuck your wife/mum, she gives me a biscuit!
2 : ok I'm fat, but you're ugly and I can lose weight."
Lol, well he was no oil painting x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"assholes is why, got to just ignore the little insignificant insects.
last guy that shouted at me ended up with an unopened can of thrown at him threw the window, hit him right in the face was comedy gold
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That's amazing. I would have paid to see that!! Your shot, not the abuse that led to it. |
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"I was out shopping earlier and was walking through the town when I heard someone in a car beep their horn and shout “FATTY”. Carried on walking and he beeped and waved at me and again shouted the same word. What a complete arsehole, I wasn’t feeling good as it was but, that just made me feel worse.
Do people really think that’s acceptable. Doesn’t matter what I think of how someone looks I wouldn’t shout and abuse them because it makes me feel good. Sorry rant over x
They do it because they are morons,they do it for attention,they do it to try to mask their own insecurities,but mostly because they are morons"
Or sometimes because they tho k it's funny ? |
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I was on my own in a deserted high street one hot balmy still night eating a take away on the way home from the pub and a car of four youngsters drove past. One lad shouuted out of the window, Look! There is a fat bloke eating a kebab.. they drove off.
I actually cried with laughter all the way home. It entertained me for days... |
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By *adyx4Woman
over a year ago
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"2 answers for people when they call you fat....
1 : everytime I fuck your wife/mum, she gives me a biscuit!
2 : ok I'm fat, but you're ugly and I can lose weight.
Lol, well he was no oil painting x "
I’m sorry you’ve had to experience that today, but it says more about him than it will ever say about you. Very brave shouting out of his car - cowardly individual.
I usually find it’s the less unfortunate looking ones are the meanest!  |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
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Because they're twats who find themselves funny and don't realise how much the words of a stranger can cut deeply into a person's soul. Remember to try and hear the good as loud as the bad. I'd say louder but I know from experience that's not often possible.
So just turn up the volume when someone says something good and let it cancel out the bad. Soon you'll realise the good is coming more often than the bad.
You're doing so well sweetheart, and you're beautiful |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Because they're twats who find themselves funny and don't realise how much the words of a stranger can cut deeply into a person's soul. Remember to try and hear the good as loud as the bad. I'd say louder but I know from experience that's not often possible.
So just turn up the volume when someone says something good and let it cancel out the bad. Soon you'll realise the good is coming more often than the bad.
You're doing so well sweetheart, and you're beautiful"
Thank you x  |
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"I was out shopping earlier and was walking through the town when I heard someone in a car beep their horn and shout “FATTY”. Carried on walking and he beeped and waved at me and again shouted the same word. What a complete arsehole, I wasn’t feeling good as it was but, that just made me feel worse.
Do people really think that’s acceptable. Doesn’t matter what I think of how someone looks I wouldn’t shout and abuse them because it makes me feel good. Sorry rant over x "
You are perfectly entitled to your rant, there are a lot of nasty narrow minded people in this world.
I’m not in anyway condoling lowering ones self to another’s insulting level, however my response would have been something along the lines of.
“ I am happy within myself and even if I was not I could take steps to change it unlike your ugly face”. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some people try to put others down in an attempt to make themselves feel good. Others are just sadistic. Either way they have their own big problems and are just broadcasting the fact. Be sad for them Angie. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Some people try to put others down in an attempt to make themselves feel good. Others are just sadistic. Either way they have their own big problems and are just broadcasting the fact. Be sad for them Angie. "
x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I was on my own in a deserted high street one hot balmy still night eating a take away on the way home from the pub and a car of four youngsters drove past. One lad shouuted out of the window, Look! There is a fat bloke eating a kebab.. they drove off.
I actually cried with laughter all the way home. It entertained me for days..."
I love your reaction!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thank you all. Yes I am aware of my size but comments like that don’t spur me on to lose weight, I do that for myself. I think the looks people gave him showed what an idiot he was x "
Forget what he said and instead remember the people who were on your side. A silent crowd all rooting for you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"2 answers for people when they call you fat....
1 : everytime I fuck your wife/mum, she gives me a biscuit!
2 : ok I'm fat, but you're ugly and I can lose weight.
Lol, well he was no oil painting x "
Can we just say that there is absolutely nothing wrong with you.
These people that shame others have usually got the biggest issues, but choose to take the focus off themselves by belittling others.
Don't let them get you down |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Fat, thin;
Tall, short;
Black, white;
Man, woman;
Pretty, ugly;
At some point an idiot on the street has shouted abuse at you.
It feels personal at the time, but it isn't. |
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We have idiots shouting abuse at us on a regular basis.
Thing is, it says more about them than you. Had they not gone out of their way to notice you & make a point of having noticed you, you'd not have noticed them at all. This proves YOU are far more eye-catching & attractive than the idiots. |
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The guy's an arsehole and his actions says a lot about him.
I believe that there are far more nice people in the world than jerks like this. It is just that we remember the idiots and their spiteful acts.
The comments here, and the support of your friends and loved ones should help realise that this guy is one in a million - thank god! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Thank you all. Yes I am aware of my size but comments like that don’t spur me on to lose weight, I do that for myself. I think the looks people gave him showed what an idiot he was x
Forget what he said and instead remember the people who were on your side. A silent crowd all rooting for you. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I was out shopping earlier and was walking through the town when I heard someone in a car beep their horn and shout “FATTY”. Carried on walking and he beeped and waved at me and again shouted the same word. What a complete arsehole, I wasn’t feeling good as it was but, that just made me feel worse.
Do people really think that’s acceptable. Doesn’t matter what I think of how someone looks I wouldn’t shout and abuse them because it makes me feel good. Sorry rant over x "
There’s a lot of people out there who’ve had bad upbringings and don’t understand compassion or respect. Sorry to hear about the abuse you received, they did it to deliberately hurt you. Don’t let them do this to you as they win. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I was out shopping earlier and was walking through the town when I heard someone in a car beep their horn and shout “FATTY”. Carried on walking and he beeped and waved at me and again shouted the same word. What a complete arsehole, I wasn’t feeling good as it was but, that just made me feel worse.
Do people really think that’s acceptable. Doesn’t matter what I think of how someone looks I wouldn’t shout and abuse them because it makes me feel good. Sorry rant over x
They probably think what they said was factual and not an insult. "
Yeah but grey hair and sunglasses. I would have expected better from an old timer.
Either you were deliberately using the forum to be offensive and I'm more than happy to report it. Or you are thicker than the wax built up on your ears.
The term fatty is offensive. Your hair is offensive. In fact the word fatty is subjective not factual in it's own sense.
Mate you're a disgusting excuse for a man.
Its not brave to date to be a bully. Phallus. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I was out shopping earlier and was walking through the town when I heard someone in a car beep their horn and shout “FATTY”. Carried on walking and he beeped and waved at me and again shouted the same word. What a complete arsehole, I wasn’t feeling good as it was but, that just made me feel worse.
Do people really think that’s acceptable. Doesn’t matter what I think of how someone looks I wouldn’t shout and abuse them because it makes me feel good. Sorry rant over x
They probably think what they said was factual and not an insult.
Yeah but grey hair and sunglasses. I would have expected better from an old timer.
Either you were deliberately using the forum to be offensive and I'm more than happy to report it. Or you are thicker than the wax built up on your ears.
The term fatty is offensive. Your hair is offensive. In fact the word fatty is subjective not factual in it's own sense.
Mate you're a disgusting excuse for a man.
Its not brave to date to be a bully. Phallus."
Thank you, I didn’t reply to the comment as it wasn’t worth validating his opinion x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I usually get slut, slag or freak, because I’ll be dressed differently to others. Made me laugh as I used to be covered head to foot, was married to the man who had taken my virginity and was faithful to him, but because it was alt gear it made me fair game apparently. Daft buggers!
It’s obviously going to upset you lovely, but try to dismiss it from your mind and give it no further thought. People who are mean tend to be insecure about aspects of their own life or appearance, and so attack others. They lack empathy and the personal insight to see their behaviour as abhorrent. They deserve pity, maybe even laughter.
Sending you big hugs xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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To the op.
Firstly remember misery loves company. Miserable people want you to be as miserable as they are. So they hurl insults.
I'm a black guy who love classical music and works on a building site. So I get so much shit. Including one guy saying I was pretending to like classical music so I can look smart.
Another black guy telling me classical music is slave music and I'm betraying my black culture.
Bounty
coconut
Oreo.
Milky black kid
Just some of the names I get called
My response was to turn it up along with my middle finger.
So ignore the advice of rising above it. Just remember you already are. And carry on being that lovely, charming sensitive you.
(Yeah I read your profile. Your a fine looking woman.)
Oh and enjoy calling out bullies whenever you get the chance. |
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Walking over a bridge the other day a guy with some younger mates was coming the other way, just as they passed he made out he was about to throw me over, he got a contemptuous stare and no other reaction, he carried on walking and looked pretty sheepish to be honest |
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By *arksxMan
over a year ago
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"I was out shopping earlier and was walking through the town when I heard someone in a car beep their horn and shout “FATTY”. Carried on walking and he beeped and waved at me and again shouted the same word. What a complete arsehole, I wasn’t feeling good as it was but, that just made me feel worse.
Do people really think that’s acceptable. Doesn’t matter what I think of how someone looks I wouldn’t shout and abuse them because it makes me feel good. Sorry rant over x "
And I thought people online where abusive.
What a prat...I'm sure if anyone was around they thought he was the idiot.
And not feel the need to join in his definite display of hurling abuse and then driving off as quickly as he can...what a big man |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"To the op.
Firstly remember misery loves company. Miserable people want you to be as miserable as they are. So they hurl insults.
I'm a black guy who love classical music and works on a building site. So I get so much shit. Including one guy saying I was pretending to like classical music so I can look smart.
Another black guy telling me classical music is slave music and I'm betraying my black culture.
Bounty
coconut
Oreo.
Milky black kid
Just some of the names I get called
My response was to turn it up along with my middle finger.
So ignore the advice of rising above it. Just remember you already are. And carry on being that lovely, charming sensitive you.
(Yeah I read your profile. Your a fine looking woman.)
Oh and enjoy calling out bullies whenever you get the chance. "
Thank you, and you too x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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His a vile individual let’s hope he dies of a horrible death! We can only hope! Karma might just give you that!
Anyway take no notice of him because he has the problem not you! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I usually get slut, slag or freak, because I’ll be dressed differently to others. Made me laugh as I used to be covered head to foot, was married to the man who had taken my virginity and was faithful to him, but because it was alt gear it made me fair game apparently. Daft buggers!"
It took me a while to realise that slut was meant as an insult, I thought: sexy confident woman, who doesn't love that?  |
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"I was out shopping earlier and was walking through the town when I heard someone in a car beep their horn and shout “FATTY”. Carried on walking and he beeped and waved at me and again shouted the same word. What a complete arsehole, I wasn’t feeling good as it was but, that just made me feel worse.
Do people really think that’s acceptable. Doesn’t matter what I think of how someone looks I wouldn’t shout and abuse them because it makes me feel good. Sorry rant over x "
The Karma police will surly catch them |
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"To the op.
Firstly remember misery loves company. Miserable people want you to be as miserable as they are. So they hurl insults.
I'm a black guy who love classical music and works on a building site. So I get so much shit. Including one guy saying I was pretending to like classical music so I can look smart.
Another black guy telling me classical music is slave music and I'm betraying my black culture.
Bounty
coconut
Oreo.
Milky black kid
Just some of the names I get called
My response was to turn it up along with my middle finger.
So ignore the advice of rising above it. Just remember you already are. And carry on being that lovely, charming sensitive you.
(Yeah I read your profile. Your a fine looking woman.)
Oh and enjoy calling out bullies whenever you get the chance. "
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"I usually get slut, slag or freak, because I’ll be dressed differently to others. Made me laugh as I used to be covered head to foot, was married to the man who had taken my virginity and was faithful to him, but because it was alt gear it made me fair game apparently. Daft buggers!
It took me a while to realise that slut was meant as an insult, I thought: sexy confident woman, who doesn't love that? "
Doesn’t bother me the name calling, it was when they’d shove into me that it bothered me. Just because I wasn’t dressed like them. Women were the worst. Men called names, women would get physical- always in gangs though, noticed that.
Got told what did I expect, I was dressed weird, haha, that was my ex husband. Bless him.
I suspect that if I had dressed like them then I wouldn’t have been called the names, as my confidence would have been one that was acceptable, but their problem, not mine. People deflect their own issues on to others, always have, always will xx |
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"I usually get slut, slag or freak, because I’ll be dressed differently to others. Made me laugh as I used to be covered head to foot, was married to the man who had taken my virginity and was faithful to him, but because it was alt gear it made me fair game apparently. Daft buggers!
It took me a while to realise that slut was meant as an insult, I thought: sexy confident woman, who doesn't love that?
Doesn’t bother me the name calling, it was when they’d shove into me that it bothered me. Just because I wasn’t dressed like them. Women were the worst. Men called names, women would get physical- always in gangs though, noticed that.
Got told what did I expect, I was dressed weird, haha, that was my ex husband. Bless him.
I suspect that if I had dressed like them then I wouldn’t have been called the names, as my confidence would have been one that was acceptable, but their problem, not mine. People deflect their own issues on to others, always have, always will xx"
If I get it now I just laugh. Damn right I am! A happily owned one, and if they like me that way, then who am I to object if others sense my inner magic, haha xx |
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"I usually get slut, slag or freak, because I’ll be dressed differently to others. Made me laugh as I used to be covered head to foot, was married to the man who had taken my virginity and was faithful to him, but because it was alt gear it made me fair game apparently. Daft buggers!
It took me a while to realise that slut was meant as an insult, I thought: sexy confident woman, who doesn't love that?
Doesn’t bother me the name calling, it was when they’d shove into me that it bothered me. Just because I wasn’t dressed like them. Women were the worst. Men called names, women would get physical- always in gangs though, noticed that.
Got told what did I expect, I was dressed weird, haha, that was my ex husband. Bless him.
I suspect that if I had dressed like them then I wouldn’t have been called the names, as my confidence would have been one that was acceptable, but their problem, not mine. People deflect their own issues on to others, always have, always will xx"
I really don't understand people.
They call you a slut, but I bet they be first in line of there was a chance to spend the night with you.
Definitely is they own issues and not the recipient of their abuse's. |
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"I was out shopping earlier and was walking through the town when I heard someone in a car beep their horn and shout “FATTY”. Carried on walking and he beeped and waved at me and again shouted the same word. What a complete arsehole, I wasn’t feeling good as it was but, that just made me feel worse.
Do people really think that’s acceptable. Doesn’t matter what I think of how someone looks I wouldn’t shout and abuse them because it makes me feel good. Sorry rant over x
They probably think what they said was factual and not an insult. "
Why would a man feel the need to shout and embarrass a woman ? Totally wrong |
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"I really don't understand people.
They call you a slut, but I bet they be first in line of there was a chance to spend the night with you.
Definitely is they own issues and not the recipient of their abuse's. "
That's it though isn't it, nothing worse than someone who likes to sleep around but doesn't want to sleep with you |
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"I don't why some people go dashing around being so mean spirited. It says more about them than it does you."
This^
They're trying to shake off some of their own internal ugliness on you. Brush it off and smile back...  |
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Someone trying to make themselves feel better by trying to put someone else down.
My Turkish mate always used to say "Ah bless you, darling" if anyone tried to insult her, it totally confused them
Walk tall Angie, they're idiots. |
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"Someone trying to make themselves feel better by trying to put someone else down.
My Turkish mate always used to say "Ah bless you, darling" if anyone tried to insult her, it totally confused them
Walk tall Angie, they're idiots."
Thanks Minnie x |
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I know this kind of thing is really hard to ignore, especially if it taps into your insecurities. But you're both beautiful inside and out those idiots are ugly on the inside, they're not worth it |
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Oh Angie, what a complete fuckwit. Imagine having such a sad little life that you could only find respite from your misery by trying to drag other people down.
I know it's easier said than done, but try to let it go, you'll never know why and he doesn't deserve any more of your attention.
In the area I used to live a girl had a flat above a shop I used to walk past every day. She took to hanging out of her window to shout "FAT SLAAAG" as I walked past. Every single day, most times twice a day.
I realised if I didn't react at all then there was no attention on me, everyone was too busy looking to see who was doing all the shouting (when I didn't react she got louder and more shrill).
It got me to the point where it really made me smile, knowing my lack of reaction bothered her far more than her screeching bothered me.
I've still no idea what prompted it though, to the best of my knowledge we'd never met or spoken until she decided to start shouting! Some people are just human wasps I guess, lacking real purpose and stinging at random. |
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"Oh Angie, what a complete fuckwit. Imagine having such a sad little life that you could only find respite from your misery by trying to drag other people down.
I know it's easier said than done, but try to let it go, you'll never know why and he doesn't deserve any more of your attention.
In the area I used to live a girl had a flat above a shop I used to walk past every day. She took to hanging out of her window to shout "FAT SLAAAG" as I walked past. Every single day, most times twice a day.
I realised if I didn't react at all then there was no attention on me, everyone was too busy looking to see who was doing all the shouting (when I didn't react she got louder and more shrill).
It got me to the point where it really made me smile, knowing my lack of reaction bothered her far more than her screeching bothered me.
I've still no idea what prompted it though, to the best of my knowledge we'd never met or spoken until she decided to start shouting! Some people are just human wasps I guess, lacking real purpose and stinging at random."
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"I was out shopping earlier and was walking through the town when I heard someone in a car beep their horn and shout “FATTY”. Carried on walking and he beeped and waved at me and again shouted the same word. What a complete arsehole, I wasn’t feeling good as it was but, that just made me feel worse.
Do people really think that’s acceptable. Doesn’t matter what I think of how someone looks I wouldn’t shout and abuse them because it makes me feel good. Sorry rant over x "
Im so sorry that happened. Just awful cunty people out there Youre beautiful! |
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Some people are just nasty shits.
I was out running with a female friend a couple of years ago when someone chucked a football at us from a moving car and hit her square in the face. Apart from the shock and pain, it drove home to us what utter cunts some people are. |
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People are vile, disgusting. I used to run, I’ve never been sporty and took a lot of courage to get out there and eventually I’m places that I can be seen. One of the few times I ran in a village some guys shouting fat bitch from their car. I was devastated, sat in my car for ages and cried. I’ve not ran since; felt like the school bullies all over again. |
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"People are vile, disgusting. I used to run, I’ve never been sporty and took a lot of courage to get out there and eventually I’m places that I can be seen. One of the few times I ran in a village some guys shouting fat bitch from their car. I was devastated, sat in my car for ages and cried. I’ve not ran since; felt like the school bullies all over again."
Aww I’m sorry to hear that. It does remind me of that, but you survived and can do again. Don’t let one idiot put you off doing something you enjoy. X |
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"People are vile, disgusting. I used to run, I’ve never been sporty and took a lot of courage to get out there and eventually I’m places that I can be seen. One of the few times I ran in a village some guys shouting fat bitch from their car. I was devastated, sat in my car for ages and cried. I’ve not ran since; felt like the school bullies all over again."
I bet they'd be drooling if they could see your pics on here now  |
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"I was out shopping earlier and was walking through the town when I heard someone in a car beep their horn and shout “FATTY”. Carried on walking and he beeped and waved at me and again shouted the same word. What a complete arsehole, I wasn’t feeling good as it was but, that just made me feel worse.
Do people really think that’s acceptable. Doesn’t matter what I think of how someone looks I wouldn’t shout and abuse them because it makes me feel good. Sorry rant over x
They probably think what they said was factual and not an insult.
Yeah but grey hair and sunglasses. I would have expected better from an old timer.
Either you were deliberately using the forum to be offensive and I'm more than happy to report it. Or you are thicker than the wax built up on your ears.
The term fatty is offensive. Your hair is offensive. In fact the word fatty is subjective not factual in it's own sense.
Mate you're a disgusting excuse for a man.
Its not brave to date to be a bully. Phallus."
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"People are vile, disgusting. I used to run, I’ve never been sporty and took a lot of courage to get out there and eventually I’m places that I can be seen. One of the few times I ran in a village some guys shouting fat bitch from their car. I was devastated, sat in my car for ages and cried. I’ve not ran since; felt like the school bullies all over again."
Really it's not you. Twats, usually in white vans, are always shouting at runners. It could have been anyone running and they would have shouted. They are just sad little men. |
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Firstly, I think you look delicious.
I understand how unpleasant this is ,when I go shopping "dressed" im very self contiose .
These people have no thought for others and are not worthy of your time.
Sending my hugs sweety x |
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"Firstly, I think you look delicious.
I understand how unpleasant this is ,when I go shopping "dressed" im very self contiose .
These people have no thought for others and are not worthy of your time.
Sending my hugs sweety x "
Thanks Chloe x |
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"Firstly, I think you look delicious."
This might be a weird question. Has anyone else got Marvin Gaye's "Sexual Healing" playing in their heads while thinking about the women on this thread?
...ok, I'll leave now then 
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Some individuals try to feel happy by making someone else feel shit. Their temporary feelings of superiority numb their chronic feeling of worthlessness. They loathe themselves so much that they project that self loathing onto others. I often wonder what has happened in their life for them to hate themselves so much that they feel that by denigrating, criticising, insulting and hurting others, will make them feel better. The reality is it doesn’t as it just adds to their repressed feelings and self-loathing. |
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I hope you feel empowered by the displays of love and support in this thread.
I can't offer insight into why people behave so but it is a tiny proportion of people luckily.
Please don't dwell on this experience xx |
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I dint know why we get upset by total strangers spewing insults at us but we do. Anything that makes you look different to the next person seems to warrant this behaviour atm. Big man drives past in car and shouts something. Just remember, they don’t know you and pity them. Keep being the person you are. |
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I think you nailed it OP!.
'What a complete arsehole'
I just don't why people think they have the right to behave this way!
Don't let them get you down...in the grand scheme they are nothing!
I hope you feel better about things soon xx |
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"I hope you feel empowered by the displays of love and support in this thread.
I can't offer insight into why people behave so but it is a tiny proportion of people luckily.
Please don't dwell on this experience xx"
Thanks Mac, yes it’s nice to see the vast majority of people don’t condone the behaviour of the sad individual.
I’m feeling much better today, helped by a delivery of some beautiful flowers for my birthday tomorrow x |
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Totally unacceptable Angie x ignorant swine x most decent guys would never do anything like that xx don't let idiots like that get you down x your a lovely person who has got manners and your good looking too xx |
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"I was out shopping earlier and was walking through the town when I heard someone in a car beep their horn and shout “FATTY”. Carried on walking and he beeped and waved at me and again shouted the same word. What a complete arsehole, I wasn’t feeling good as it was but, that just made me feel worse.
Do people really think that’s acceptable. Doesn’t matter what I think of how someone looks I wouldn’t shout and abuse them because it makes me feel good. Sorry rant over x "
In no way is such behaviour acceptable in fact it reprehensible. You should have noted the number plate and reported the idiot. If nothing more the law could warn him that future conduct could land him in trouble.
Beggars belief? |
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"I was out shopping earlier and was walking through the town when I heard someone in a car beep their horn and shout “FATTY”. Carried on walking and he beeped and waved at me and again shouted the same word. What a complete arsehole, I wasn’t feeling good as it was but, that just made me feel worse.
Do people really think that’s acceptable. Doesn’t matter what I think of how someone looks I wouldn’t shout and abuse them because it makes me feel good. Sorry rant over x
They probably think what they said was factual and not an insult.
Why would a man feel the need to shout and embarrass a woman ? Totally wrong"
because he is a cunt |
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"People are vile, disgusting. I used to run, I’ve never been sporty and took a lot of courage to get out there and eventually I’m places that I can be seen. One of the few times I ran in a village some guys shouting fat bitch from their car. I was devastated, sat in my car for ages and cried. I’ve not ran since; felt like the school bullies all over again."
My dad used to say don't run, walk. But walk tall.
A little secret share. One of my friends at school was bullied to death. When he died. I hardened and vowed I would never be bullied again. That vow has changed my life so much. Because I'm free. I'm free to do what I want when I want without fear.
You should do the same. If you want to run. Run, but run free. Don't be stopped by mere words.
If you want to walk. But walk free
If you want to roar. Roar like a lion but roar free.
Because you want to, because you choose to.
You write your story. They don't.
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"People are vile, disgusting. I used to run, I’ve never been sporty and took a lot of courage to get out there and eventually I’m places that I can be seen. One of the few times I ran in a village some guys shouting fat bitch from their car. I was devastated, sat in my car for ages and cried. I’ve not ran since; felt like the school bullies all over again.
My dad used to say don't run, walk. But walk tall.
A little secret share. One of my friends at school was bullied to death. When he died. I hardened and vowed I would never be bullied again. That vow has changed my life so much. Because I'm free. I'm free to do what I want when I want without fear.
You should do the same. If you want to run. Run, but run free. Don't be stopped by mere words.
If you want to walk. But walk free
If you want to roar. Roar like a lion but roar free.
Because you want to, because you choose to.
You write your story. They don't.
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How though? How do you stop their words getting to you? How bullies in life get to you? |
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If there was an answer there wouldn't be bullies I guess, it has to be a state of mind really.
Hope the OP will feel better, a random attack will play on the mind but hopefully she will put it out of her mind as soon as possible |
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"My dad used to say don't run, walk. But walk tall."
When people would shout abuse at me, I would walk a little faster to get away from them.
I became more fearful.
Now when they shout at me, I walk a little slower.
I don't care what they think. |
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"assholes is why, got to just ignore the little insignificant insects.
last guy that shouted at me ended up with an unopened can of thrown at him threw the window, hit him right in the face was comedy gold
Ha I am a pretty accurate throw. Cricket league served me well.
That's amazing. I would have paid to see that!! Your shot, not the abuse that led to it. "
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