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suggestion for gettimg rid of time wasters
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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why dont the site organisers charge a small fee of £20 per month for being on the site maybe this will get rid of timewasters and fake profiles as genuine swingers wont mind paying im sure |
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By *j_markCouple
over a year ago
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"why dont the site organisers charge a small fee of £20 per month for being on the site maybe this will get rid of timewasters and fake profiles as genuine swingers wont mind paying im sure"
Timewasters have money too.
Who is wasting your time? Perhaps if you explain what is happening others can help you out with how you go about choosing meets.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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it was just a suggestion of trying to get rid of timewasyers and fake profile especially ones who have been on the site 3 years and more with no meets and no veris  |
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"it was just a suggestion of trying to get rid of timewasyers and fake profile especially ones who have been on the site 3 years and more with no meets and no veris "
I just ignore those profiles, I think you can set filters to not recieve messages from unverified people.
This has been mentioned before and people who have belonged to paid sites say it makes no difference x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"it was just a suggestion of trying to get rid of timewasyers and fake profile especially ones who have been on the site 3 years and more with no meets and no veris
I just ignore those profiles, I think you can set filters to not recieve messages from unverified people.ok thaks for that xx
This has been mentioned before and people who have belonged to paid sites say it makes no difference x"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"it was just a suggestion of trying to get rid of timewasyers and fake profile especially ones who have been on the site 3 years and more with no meets and no veris "
If people have been here 3 years and have no veris and no meets showing.
Then maybe they just dont like to brag.
They only waste your time if you allow them to. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"it was just a suggestion of trying to get rid of timewasyers and fake profile especially ones who have been on the site 3 years and more with no meets and no veris "
no meets and no veris in 3 years. maybe they're not here to meet. its not mandatory. that doesn't mean they're wasting anyone's time. |
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By *occosboysCouple (MM)
over a year ago
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Why not charge £29 a month and then employ bots/people in developing nations to message single guys just as their subs finished! Yes that's the business model that Adult Friend Finder used after it was bought for $500m
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By *occosboysCouple (MM)
over a year ago
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The verification system works just look for more than one and then check the person who has verified them. If both only have one or two especially after some time on the site they are both probably fake....
Harder to spot are the genuine experienced swingers who lurk behind very sparse profiles because they don't like the attention. Some of our best meets have been from people like this.
Not everyone wants to be on the Most Fabbed list - they have a life outside swinging... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You see, I take offence at the remark "small fee of £20 per month". As that one crack implies the superiority of the OP and anyone else who can afford a frivolous £240 a year over those of us that are already having a hard time in the credit crunch (and yes, I work) who would simply not have that much "extra" disposable income.
It gives a sense of "long live the middle class". |
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I currently work full time on minimum wage while I'm studying with the OU. I barely have £20 a month spare to buy things like clothes and get my hair cut.
Why should I pay to rid the site of time wasters when I have never encountered one since I joined here? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I currently work full time on minimum wage while I'm studying with the OU. I barely have £20 a month spare to buy things like clothes and get my hair cut.
Why should I pay to rid the site of time wasters when I have never encountered one since I joined here?"
lucky u lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It all depends on what the profile is looking for & where they are situated.
We've been classed as time wasters in the past because we have no meets (on this site, we have had meets from another site but they don't count do they), BUT we are only looking for single Bi fems (or at least a women in a open relationship). There's a hell of a lot less of them, than couples so of course we're going to struggle.
Just like the person living in a village is going to have fewer numbers of people available to them, then say someone in London.
Don't be so quick to judge those with no meets. They may not necessarily be time wasters.
We've chatted to quite a few time wasters (they've certainly wasted OUR time) but have been verified & have a list of meets. |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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Doesn't matter how much the site charges, there will be people who enjoy making mischief by promising to meet then not doing so. And £20 is a lot, so I would probably be the first to leave. And with the veris I have I doubt anyone could accuse me of being a timewaster or fake.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There is nothing wrong with they systems the site has in place now, you can not expect the site to do all the leg work for you. Many "timewaswters" take advantage of peoples laziness but it does not take much work to them out. We for example dont meet unless we have spoken to the couple on cam in chat or infact anyone we might meet, by doing this we can at least see who we are thinking about meeting. We might then look at their verifications to see if the actually do meet, after that we might exchange numbers. Nothing is full proof but we havent had our time wasted yet. All it takes is a litle effort.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"why dont the site organisers charge a small fee of £20 per month for being on the site maybe this will get rid of timewasters and fake profiles as genuine swingers wont mind paying im sure"
.Cool idea and charge as well for every message sent and 20 quid to go in chat rooms,and after all that you will still get time wasters,so what is the point????????????????????/
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why not have a time limit to how long people have to get verified in person by meeting other verified people.
If the sites more serious about having a genuine swinging community than making money its one possibilty.
Making money from fake profiles could be a lucrative buisness
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"why dont the site organisers charge a small fee of £20 per month for being on the site maybe this will get rid of timewasters and fake profiles as genuine swingers wont mind paying im sure.Cool idea and charge as well for every message sent and 20 quid to go in chat rooms,and after all that you will still get time wasters,so what is the point????????????????????/ "
totally agree.I just think people are expecting fab to mother them..NOW STOP! ur too old to suck from mummies tits..
perhaps its unfair an opinion yes, but I have uised the internet for over 10years, from the infancy of textchatrooms and dialupinternet lol
easier rules to adhere to if finding things problematic are:
webcam chat(for identify if thinking fake)(dont sit around happy wanking with the meet, as some end up just using that to get cheap online thrill)
phone chat(use a cheap disposable number)
the verification system(if it shows meets is beneficial,JUST to show the people meet, not for judging sexual promise/performance)
try adding this all together and u basically have 90% of the requirements to get validity of who u are wanting to meet.
*Generally Ive never had any problems, and rarely ever webcam, and think I do well as a single man..but I most of the time will think if it is too good to be true it might just be a pile of shite windup..I lack the gullibleness to venture out the house on meets that dont do what I want on the genuinity front.If I lose out on someone real..och well..its only fucking sex.
and paying?-I tried that on other sites...barely ever had a meet. There are members who paid/pay sometimes hundreds of pounds..just pretending to be HotlipsLolita
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Heres an idea.....
Accept it happens on EVERY site and get over it!!!!
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my trainspotting group site is full of them....cant meet for the 11.25am to birmingham?-fucking timewasting cunts |
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I've been using internet swinging sites since May 2006. I started off on a pay site, and had a lot of problems with time wasters. Then I moved to another site that wasn't a paid one, but had a huge community. I use that one and this one now. I refuse to pay, why should I?
However, I don't put the lack of time wasters on here and the other site down to whether it is a paid site or not. More to my own experience of not taking any shit, and knowing what to look for.
I think those that experience a lot of time wasters need to either re-define what a time waster is, or look at their own selection process. Because there is one thing your time wasters all have in common. You. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I currently work full time on minimum wage while I'm studying with the OU. I barely have £20 a month spare to buy things like clothes and get my hair cut.
Why should I pay to rid the site of time wasters when I have never encountered one since I joined here?"
Can't agree more, this is by far the best site we are members on and the only one we will pay for as its so bloody reasonable. £5 for 2 months... Why wouldn't you? |
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"why dont the site organisers charge a small fee of £20 per month for being on the site maybe this will get rid of timewasters and fake profiles as genuine swingers wont mind paying im sure"
I'm genuine but no way am I paying £20 a month to be on here. No offence site owners  I'm just tight lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As before it really doesnt matter how much you charge timewasters will pay any amount for the thrill of winding someone up for a meet
Here's an idea though and it may sound completely mad, How about if you get messed around by a timewaster report the profile for it ?
An heres another idea for the site owners once a profile has been reported for timewasting block the I.P. address from making any more profiles.
I have reported a couple of profiles for various reasons and the profiles are still on here
Admin you keep saying if you have a problem then report it and you will take action ..... If we are keeping our side of the deal then please keep to your side of the deal and get rid of the idiot fringe in here xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Oh dear......
Nearly all IP addresses from ISP's are "Dynamic". Meaning if you switch your router off, wait a couple of minutes and turn it back on, you will have a new external IP address. Please note that the IP address you can normally see (192.168.0.1 to 192.168.0.244 or another private range) is INTERNAL and is not the address your system presents to the world.
Any way.......you didn't turn up for our meet last night! I'm reporting you to admin and getting you blocked!......Now what are you going to do?
You see it's just not that simple. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm not a time waster but couldn't pay £20 a month to be on here. So there you go, you've lost a genuine person with your 'getting rid of time wasters' idea."
That will teach me to read a thread first as I have said just the same  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You see, I take offence at the remark "small fee of £20 per month". As that one crack implies the superiority of the OP and anyone else who can afford a frivolous £240 a year over those of us that are already having a hard time in the credit crunch (and yes, I work) who would simply not have that much "extra" disposable income.
It gives a sense of "long live the middle class". "
Here here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"why dont the site organisers charge a small fee of £20 per month for being on the site maybe this will get rid of timewasters and fake profiles as genuine swingers wont mind paying im sure"
I'm not a time waster, but I'm a single parent and can't afford £20 a month, why should I be penalised and not be able to use the site but I can't financially afford too. Money won't stop time wasters, they will pay too like they do on other paid sites |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"NAME AND SHAME works when couples get to see whos fake
That Jill and Steve are forecasters I tell ta. Never show up when I arrange a meet with tbem
True or false, who is to say?? "
Maybe site could add a calendar to profiles. When two profile agree to meet they both enter date on calendar, if one doesn't show up other profile hits calendar and reports to admin. Calendar then sends automated email from admin to party not shown up to ask for reason, if admin think reason is poor they could issue a red flag that's displayed on profile for set time, if admin think reason justified and automated email could be sent to profile let down.
Red flag then tells other users potential time waster. Could even do it where red flag stays on profile until a met has taken place to prove genuine |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"NAME AND SHAME works when couples get to see whos fake
That Jill and Steve are forecasters I tell ta. Never show up when I arrange a meet with tbem
True or false, who is to say??
Maybe site could add a calendar to profiles. When two profile agree to meet they both enter date on calendar, if one doesn't show up other profile hits calendar and reports to admin. Calendar then sends automated email from admin to party not shown up to ask for reason, if admin think reason is poor they could issue a red flag that's displayed on profile for set time, if admin think reason justified and automated email could be sent to profile let down.
Red flag then tells other users potential time waster. Could even do it where red flag stays on profile until a met has taken place to prove genuine"
Why not report them yourself? When the reports start stacking up against the person in question the admin act. |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"NAME AND SHAME works when couples get to see whos fake
That Jill and Steve are forecasters I tell ta. Never show up when I arrange a meet with tbem
True or false, who is to say??
Maybe site could add a calendar to profiles. When two profile agree to meet they both enter date on calendar, if one doesn't show up other profile hits calendar and reports to admin. Calendar then sends automated email from admin to party not shown up to ask for reason, if admin think reason is poor they could issue a red flag that's displayed on profile for set time,.
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What would be a poor excuse to some is a genuine one to others.
I spoke to a woman last week on another site who had said she had reported someone for not turning up an hour after they were meant to be meeting. Turns out he was 2 hours late after getting stuck in a jam on the motorway because of an accident and did turn up after all....he had sent a text but she didn't get it until after he got there.
Things do sometimes happen that are out of peoples control.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why don't we all ask admin if they can turn up at every meet because then they will be able to see who doesn't turn up. Bingo they then can delete pesky time wasters.
Failing that I suggest people put it down to experience , check their own way of looking for meets and move the hell on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why don't we all ask admin if they can turn up at every meet because then they will be able to see who doesn't turn up. Bingo they then can delete pesky time wasters.
Failing that I suggest people put it down to experience , check their own way of looking for meets and move the hell on. "
Or maybe we should have a system where we're all microchipped - then upon arriving for a meet you could 'scan' the other part, which would feed into a complex data system recording time, date, location, height, weight, cock length, tit size, eye colour, any visible tattoos and scars - and is you subsequently scanned again at the end - would also record the length of the meet, the number of orgasms, the volume of decibels of any moans, size of cumshots and whether condoms were used or not?
Would verify any claims of 'size', 'repeater/heavy cummer/gusher/squirter' claims often seen on profiles as well as pinpointing locations via GPS to ensure 'Flossy from Finchley' isn't 'Derek from Djibouti'?
That should solve any issues re time wasters eh?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why don't we all ask admin if they can turn up at every meet because then they will be able to see who doesn't turn up. Bingo they then can delete pesky time wasters.
Failing that I suggest people put it down to experience , check their own way of looking for meets and move the hell on.
Or maybe we should have a system where we're all microchipped - then upon arriving for a meet you could 'scan' the other part, which would feed into a complex data system recording time, date, location, height, weight, cock length, tit size, eye colour, any visible tattoos and scars - and is you subsequently scanned again at the end - would also record the length of the meet, the number of orgasms, the volume of decibels of any moans, size of cumshots and whether condoms were used or not?
Would verify any claims of 'size', 'repeater/heavy cummer/gusher/squirter' claims often seen on profiles as well as pinpointing locations via GPS to ensure 'Flossy from Finchley' isn't 'Derek from Djibouti'?
That should solve any issues re time wasters eh? "
Oh I'm liking that idea lots, can I have the chip in a boob please |
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By (user no longer on site)
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As has been said above everyone's idea of what is classes as 'time waster' will be different
To some it will be arranging to meet and not turning up to others it will be ignoring a 'wanna fuck ?' message
If you use all the tools that are in place ie filters, preferences, blocking etc and add in common sense, the site works great
Just need to remind yourself sometimes that if they look and sound to good to be true - they probably, but not always, are not what they seem x |
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"NAME AND SHAME works when couples get to see whos fake
That Jill and Steve are forecasters I tell ta. Never show up when I arrange a meet with tbem
True or false, who is to say??
Maybe site could add a calendar to profiles. When two profile agree to meet they both enter date on calendar, if one doesn't show up other profile hits calendar and reports to admin. Calendar then sends automated email from admin to party not shown up to ask for reason, if admin think reason is poor they could issue a red flag that's displayed on profile for set time, if admin think reason justified and automated email could be sent to profile let down.
Red flag then tells other users potential time waster. Could even do it where red flag stays on profile until a met has taken place to prove genuine"
Maybe they could sign an official contract to a meet to??
This site is a bit of fun in free time. Sometimes your free time isn't as free as you thought it was 3 weeks ago when you Rrange a meet. If we have to start synchronizing calender entries and other admin tasks that's just gonna sap all the fun out of it!!
Pretty sure admin would relish all the extra work from the reports sent  |
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"My £'s worth'
It's all great and sexy on a Friday night to have a few glasses of wine etc, come in here feeling frisky and horny and arrange that next Monday your going to meet Mr & Mrs Soandso for fun and games at theirs...
Then, Monday morn you wake up to too much work, the washers broke, bloody car won't start and the school just phoned to say little tommy just threw up in class !...
Feel as sexy as you did Friday night ?..
Nope, didn't think so, too much on to remember your date that night ?.. No, didn't think so...
Sadly, this does happen a lot.. And sadly people do forget to tell their 'meets' and if they do then it's often taken the wrong way...
I work on the 2 strikes and fk you principal ( or not ) as the case may be !..
Just peek at people's verifications, they are there for a reason. The system will work if its used properly . That and a bit of common sense xxxxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Fakes and timewasters lurk on all sites .,they find a away if getting through ... Fee or no fee , but Wh should us genuine folk suffer ,
We just get used to spotting them play them at there own game when u sus them !!! They crap themselves and disappear !
Xx Beth |
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By *av1970Man
over a year ago
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been on other sites that charge ridiculous monthly fees (that I no longer pay) and all you hear are people moaning about timewasters and fakes.
Payment makes no difference to the amount of fakes and timewasters. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Also one site where men only pay they act as if they should get sex because they have paid for it
Feels more like you are being chosen off a menu than on here where at least you know you are all equal
Mind you some on here seem to expect sex just cus they have a profile lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why not have a time limit to how long people have to get verified in person by meeting other verified people.
If the sites more serious about having a genuine swinging community than making money its one possibilty.
Making money from fake profiles could be a lucrative buisness
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On that basis I would be banished for not being verified for meeting anyone off here, despite advertising for meets in my time here? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"it was just a suggestion of trying to get rid of timewasyers and fake profile especially ones who have been on the site 3 years and more with no meets and no veris "
You answer your own question then. Someone like that contacts you - block them. They can't waste YOUR time anymore. The reason this site is so good and so popular is precisely because it IS free. |
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Regardless of which site, pay or not pay, adult site or dating site. You will still get the sad time wasters that have nothing better to do. You will learn after a time to suss them out. But there are far more genuine nice people out there. If you don't like some one...block them...if they don't turn up don't waste your time with them again....you never know they may have a valid reason for blobbing........prob not but you never know....... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why don't we all ask admin if they can turn up at every meet because then they will be able to see who doesn't turn up. Bingo they then can delete pesky time wasters.
Failing that I suggest people put it down to experience , check their own way of looking for meets and move the hell on.
Or maybe we should have a system where we're all microchipped - then upon arriving for a meet you could 'scan' the other part, which would feed into a complex data system recording time, date, location, height, weight, cock length, tit size, eye colour, any visible tattoos and scars - and is you subsequently scanned again at the end - would also record the length of the meet, the number of orgasms, the volume of decibels of any moans, size of cumshots and whether condoms were used or not?
Would verify any claims of 'size', 'repeater/heavy cummer/gusher/squirter' claims often seen on profiles as well as pinpointing locations via GPS to ensure 'Flossy from Finchley' isn't 'Derek from Djibouti'?
That should solve any issues re time wasters eh? "
Hahahaha too funny |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why don't we all ask admin if they can turn up at every meet because then they will be able to see who doesn't turn up. Bingo they then can delete pesky time wasters.
Failing that I suggest people put it down to experience , check their own way of looking for meets and move the hell on.
Or maybe we should have a system where we're all microchipped - then upon arriving for a meet you could 'scan' the other part, which would feed into a complex data system recording time, date, location, height, weight, cock length, tit size, eye colour, any visible tattoos and scars - and is you subsequently scanned again at the end - would also record the length of the meet, the number of orgasms, the volume of decibels of any moans, size of cumshots and whether condoms were used or not?
Would verify any claims of 'size', 'repeater/heavy cummer/gusher/squirter' claims often seen on profiles as well as pinpointing locations via GPS to ensure 'Flossy from Finchley' isn't 'Derek from Djibouti'?
That should solve any issues re time wasters eh?
Hahahaha too funny "
watch out think stephen fry the gaget man has this if not frank it may be worth cash lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Problem withy verifications is that you only see the good ones that they choose to publish. We've had people with a few verifications mess us around big time.
I was thinking that members could get a certain number of tokens. When you agree a meet you both put a token in a virtual "pot". If the meet goes ahead you get your token back. If one body cancels or doeasn't show up they lose their token, and eventually have none left.
Tokens would then be visible like a star system on each profile.
Complicated. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Think getting way too bogged down with the whole issue ! .... We don't need systems ...
All we want is fun ... Sex is it so difficult ! Lol
I think we all have our ways of spotting them and dealing with them ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i have a radical idea......why dont people just accept that it happens on EVERY site, dating, swinging, dogging etc and get on with their lives????? "
So true x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"NAME AND SHAME works when couples get to see whos fake
That Jill and Steve are forecasters I tell ta. Never show up when I arrange a meet with tbem
True or false, who is to say??
Maybe site could add a calendar to profiles. When two profile agree to meet they both enter date on calendar, if one doesn't show up other profile hits calendar and reports to admin. Calendar then sends automated email from admin to party not shown up to ask for reason, if admin think reason is poor they could issue a red flag that's displayed on profile for set time,.
What would be a poor excuse to some is a genuine one to others.
I spoke to a woman last week on another site who had said she had reported someone for not turning up an hour after they were meant to be meeting. Turns out he was 2 hours late after getting stuck in a jam on the motorway because of an accident and did turn up after all....he had sent a text but she didn't get it until after he got there.
Things do sometimes happen that are out of peoples control.
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then maybe he should have called rather than texted to make sure she got the message.
And to the previous poster I have reported those that haven't shown up, nothing happens, their profiles still online, so in all honesty reporting seems pretty pointless. And for record I had messages on here from said guy who claimed ten minutes away, yet never showed up, turns out was in chat room all night and had no intention of turning up, reported via message he sent claiming on way and reportedwasin chat room duration of night, guess what, his profile still on line, nothing happened to him . If red flag system was introduced, and flag given if sufficient proof, ie, messages saying on way etc, then that would help those when making a selection. The guy that failed to show had verifications on his account, so seems being verified means nothing either |
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By *habsMan
over a year ago
Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex |
As far as timewasters go, I work on this simple approach, assuming its someone I've known for a while (been chatting maybe 1 - 6 months) AND they are within reasonable commuting distance, say 1 hour or so):
"So lets talk logistics - which month, your place or mine?"
And if I get:
"Oh I don't know, I'm really busy and got loads on - not enough time to play so can't plan ahead really"
In the mean time ... there's one meet 2 days later.. andother 3 days later.. another the next day... and carries on for the next 6 weeks.
A crude example. Now I'm not saying the person is a time waster, but I likewise won;t let the person waste my time while I'm supposedly kept on the back-burner till they remember I'm possibly still hanging about waiting. I've moved on.
Now I never rush in - but I think 6 months is more than enough time for someone to decide if they want to meet or not, especially if they;re only an hour away (which covers most of the M25)
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I agree with you dragoncatcher, I'm a genuine respectful single guy and a single dad of 2 young teenagers, I'm suck of the majority of idiotic single guys that spoil it for its genuine ones, free would make it difficult not just for then but for others such as myself that as kids to support!!. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As a single guy with no veris its hard to get that first meet. As soon as I signed up I was probably put into the "waste of time single guy" category. So you can't judge people on veris alone. And also, cant you choose to hide them anyway?
And 20 to 30 a month is a joke. You'll loose more people who are interested in swinging then anything else.
I'm just living by the rule that all the time wasters will let them selves be known and through the power of elimination, I will get that first meet |
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By *quirrelMan
over a year ago
East Manchester |
Nice idea, for those that can afford to effectively write off £240 per year.
As there are quite a few single guys on the site and it is accurate estimate to say that 95% of then do not want single guys getting in touch with them so they will drop out immediately.
So if a fee is levied to join what do you want extra for your money? because if the site is giving you everything for free now, it should be able to give you something extra for the cash it collects from you.
Of course there is a down side, there may be mass desertion to other sites who will still be free and the numbers on here will be so low and probably be out of your area that you do not get the number or quality of meets you expected. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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some genuine people might not have extra money, i.e. may be on benefits or a tight budget. why dont you just meet site supporters then, they pay for extras. surely timewasters wouldnt |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I do feel sorry for people that put up a fake profiles as these people sit a home on their own with no friends and have nothing better to do with their lives. We have as much chance of winning the Nigeria lottery as getting rid of them, so we just have to live with it |
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By *coobysMan
over a year ago
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The fakes unfortunately are those who get a kick out of the site, they may even get off on arranging a meet. A £20 fee would not rid us of them, my guess is many of the fakes are married and on here on the sly. You can spot most by there verifications and by checking people who have verified them, a lot of messing I know but it does save going to a meet that wont take place. The best place for meets really is a club, that way if they don't turn up there is still a chance of having some fun, therefore not a total wasted meet. Just my opinions though I cant stand timewasters many clubs get people to advertise through the meets section, unfortunately we have to get on with it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"it was just a suggestion of trying to get rid of timewasyers and fake profile especially ones who have been on the site 3 years and more with no meets and no veris
I just ignore those profiles, I think you can set filters to not recieve messages from unverified people.
This has been mentioned before and people who have belonged to paid sites say it makes no difference x"
It's been mentioned before - on here? No way? Time wasters? I don't believe you |
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We chat to people on site ,if we find them interesting we will ask if they want to meet u. At a club for fun ,if they don't turn up there are plenty of couples or single guys we can play with and the odd single. Fem that will join in with couples,we get a few party invites too.if I am horny during the day I may look on site for fun,if I get time waisters on there its only affects me and not wife ,so I ignore and move on |
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It seems fairly simple to me. Although it will not stop folk from timewasting, why not only allow a period of time to get photo verified and after that period say a couple of weeks stop them from messaging.
I am sure this would cut down the number considerably |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It seems fairly simple to me. Although it will not stop folk from timewasting, why not only allow a period of time to get photo verified and after that period say a couple of weeks stop them from messaging.
I am sure this would cut down the number considerably"
More likely increase the 'user no longer on site' incidences and subsequently an equal number of new profiles!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It all depends on what the profile is looking for & where they are situated.
We've been classed as time wasters in the past because we have no meets (on this site, we have had meets from another site but they don't count do they), BUT we are only looking for single Bi fems (or at least a women in a open relationship). There's a hell of a lot less of them, than couples so of course we're going to struggle.
Just like the person living in a village is going to have fewer numbers of people available to them, then say someone in London.
Don't be so quick to judge those with no meets. They may not necessarily be time wasters.
We've chatted to quite a few time wasters (they've certainly wasted OUR time) but have been verified & have a list of meets."
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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago
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"It seems fairly simple to me. Although it will not stop folk from timewasting, why not only allow a period of time to get photo verified and after that period say a couple of weeks stop them from messaging.
I am sure this would cut down the number considerably"
We are not photo verified and do not intend to be...
Are we time wasters? (See the verifications on our profile before you answer that) |
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£ 20 a month !! Guess where I won't be if that ever happens, and at the risk of sounding big headed, I could afford it, but wouldn't pay it.
Fab is NOT perfect, but it is as CLOSE to perfect as you are ever realistically likely to find in the world on internet sex contact sites |
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"i agree anyone here longer than six months should have at least two valadations or else deleated"
I have met several individuals and couples who refuse to verify and be verified, privacy is all for some people, and some people have nothing to prove to others, nor care what others think |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"it was just a suggestion of trying to get rid of timewasyers and fake profile especially ones who have been on the site 3 years and more with no meets and no veris "
Verification does not happen when people refuse to meet you not that you have refused to meet! I've been looking to meet for so long now and haven't been successful... Does that make me a timewaster then? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i agree anyone here longer than six months should have at least two "validations" or else "deleted""
...even when you are a single guy and live in Norwich? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I do feel sorry for people that put up a fake profiles as these people sit a home on their own with no friends and have nothing better to do with their lives. We have as much chance of winning the Nigeria lottery as getting rid of them, so we just have to live with it"
I won Nigeria lottery! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have had a few meets and not verified, you dont have to tell the world what fun you have had, many couples choose not to broadcast meeting a bi man
I guess its always good to chat a while before you arrange a meet
Hope eveyone is having fun x |
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Firstly I do not to wish to pay £20.00 a month to use this site. The fee currently for Silver or Gold membership is totally fair and doesn't leave me feeling remissed.
Secondly where are all these 'Time Wasters' everyone talks about. Surely they don't identify themselves as such. Use common sense... if they aren't site verified, web cam or meet verified then be cautious. Be weary of giving out your telephone number to quickly. Correspond with them via email get a sense of the person(s) you are speaking to.
Thirdly getting people who are genuine to pay more will only cause more grief. Paying more isn't going to get rid of the people on here who copy others profiles and photos, or guys who pretend to be women, or guys who pretend to be part of a couple. All they need is to create a new email and they are up in running again with a new profile. Fake profiles will always exist... check how long they have been on the site... a year you say and no site verification or meet verification... i just don't even bother.
Use the verification system (which is the by far the best i have ever seen on any site like this)... be weary of anyone that seems to good to be true. I've been on here 3 years - and other then occasional stupid emails and grudges from other users i really can't say i've had my time wasted. If i have: it's because i didn't take head of the verification (or lack of) or because i didn't use common sense and listen to my 'Spidey Senses'...etc.
I'm happy with the current fee for membership... i still don't know where all these 'timewasters' are hiding and why everyone has the need to talk about them all the time. Surely more time is expended talking about them then interacting with them i.e. choose not to. |
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"Why don't we all ask admin if they can turn up at every meet because then they will be able to see who doesn't turn up. Bingo they then can delete pesky time wasters.
Failing that I suggest people put it down to experience , check their own way of looking for meets and move the hell on. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As before it really doesnt matter how much you charge timewasters will pay any amount for the thrill of winding someone up for a meet
Here's an idea though and it may sound completely mad, How about if you get messed around by a timewaster report the profile for it ?
An heres another idea for the site owners once a profile has been reported for timewasting block the I.P. address from making any more profiles.
I have reported a couple of profiles for various reasons and the profiles are still on here
Admin you keep saying if you have a problem then report it and you will take action ..... If we are keeping our side of the deal then please keep to your side of the deal and get rid of the idiot fringe in here xx "
Blocking IP addresses is not that simple these days. Many people have their routers set to a floating IP address which basically randomly changes several times per day, therefore your IP addy changes. I think the best thing you can do is to basically ignore the timewasters. You can privately inform your friends of personal experiences of timewasters and eventually word will get round. It is annoying I know, but no matter what you do, they will always be here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"why dont the site organisers charge a small fee of £20 per month for being on the site maybe this will get rid of timewasters and fake profiles as genuine swingers wont mind paying im sure"
would not pay it. but you are so right this site will in a year maybe two stop working as a swingers site.
will just be a site for people to wank over webcams and talk dirty .
sad really, seen it before |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It seems fairly simple to me. Although it will not stop folk from timewasting, why not only allow a period of time to get photo verified and after that period say a couple of weeks stop them from messaging.
I am sure this would cut down the number considerably"
photo verified LOL |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You see, I take offence at the remark "small fee of £20 per month". As that one crack implies the superiority of the OP and anyone else who can afford a frivolous £240 a year over those of us that are already having a hard time in the credit crunch (and yes, I work) who would simply not have that much "extra" disposable income.
It gives a sense of "long live the middle class".
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Lol!!
When i rule fabswingers....
1. No admin veri within 6 weeks - account suspended.
2. No activity on account for four months - account removed. (less on search option)
3. Automated fem response button, 'thanks but no thanks'
The rest is common sense when looking for potential meets. |
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"You see, I take offence at the remark "small fee of £20 per month". As that one crack implies the superiority of the OP and anyone else who can afford a frivolous £240 a year over those of us that are already having a hard time in the credit crunch (and yes, I work) who would simply not have that much "extra" disposable income.
It gives a sense of "long live the middle class".
Lol!!
When i rule fabswingers....
1. No admin veri within 6 weeks - account suspended.
2. No activity on account for four months - account removed. (less on search option)
3. Automated fem response button, 'thanks but no thanks'
The rest is common sense when looking for potential meets. "
Agree with all except 3 why just a fem automated response we are all equal why treat fems as special case. Yes i know they will proportionately get more messages but to treat as special case i cannot agree with. |
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