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By *lease300 OP Woman
over a year ago
merthyr |
I never would believe on here that this was such a big issue and for women to be seen as the 'time wasters' is rubbish as I've found out men are certainly prolific at wasting ladies time
When called out about it they block you lol |
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"It happens just got to get on with it. I'm no oil painting so got to expect it lol
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder intellectual communication is certainly more of a turn on for me"
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over a year ago
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"Should there be a 'time waster' page!
Most definitely I get my time wasted alot on here lately a lot of fake profiles don't help either."
100% agree finding it worse latey  |
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By *lease300 OP Woman
over a year ago
merthyr |
"It happens just got to get on with it. I'm no oil painting so got to expect it lol
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder intellectual communication is certainly more of a turn on for me
Good to no wish more was like you "
Thank you |
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By *iss-louWoman
over a year ago
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"I never would believe on here that this was such a big issue and for women to be seen as the 'time wasters' is rubbish as I've found out men are certainly prolific at wasting ladies time
When called out about it they block you lol "
Indeed. I cant see the point in threads like these. Just chalk it up to experience and move on.
People change their minds, they decide against a meet... thats their right |
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By *ikesfun1Man
over a year ago
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Unfortunately it’s the nature of the site
You can tell the time wasters they open a profile arrange a meet shit their pants when someone agrees then blocks people and close account
Just got to ignore them
Most men are decent on here but you can’t blame single ladies and couples for being wary of them
You just have to be polite and persevere |
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By *lease300 OP Woman
over a year ago
merthyr |
"I never would believe on here that this was such a big issue and for women to be seen as the 'time wasters' is rubbish as I've found out men are certainly prolific at wasting ladies time
When called out about it they block you lol
Indeed. I cant see the point in threads like these. Just chalk it up to experience and move on.
People change their minds, they decide against a meet... thats their right"
The 'point' of this thread is to see if it's an issue which it obviously is |
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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago
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“Please300 is a completely time waster. She agreed to meet me and my mates Kev and Jeff round the back of Morrison’s in Pontypandy and never turned up”.
So, no - not a fan of a time waster page. Horribly open to abuse. |
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Timewasting/ers is more of an issue on here than it used to be.
One way to cut down on it/them is to hit the socials, clubs and parties.
It's by no means a perfect cure, it's still possible to chat to someone, and then get strung along or ghosted afterwards, but it's much less likely if you have already met them face-to-face. |
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By *lease300 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Timewasting/ers is more of an issue on here than it used to be.
One way to cut down on it/them is to hit the socials, clubs and parties.
It's by no means a perfect cure, it's still possible to chat to someone, and then get strung along or ghosted afterwards, but it's much less likely if you have already met them face-to-face."
Thank you that's great advice x |
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"Should there be a 'time waster' page!
Most definitely I get my time wasted alot on here lately a lot of fake profiles don't help either."
What do you mean by fake profile- a guy pretending to be a woman? |
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I think there could be a page for this but not if there was a change of heart and decided not to meet for some reason, but take for instance I had arranged a meet back 8 months ago was given an address so got ready headed off to so called address to have some women answer the door and didn't have a clue wot I was on about, at that precise moment I wanted to disappear I was dressed borderline slutty, now I look back a laugh about it lol but wasn't funny at the time trying to explain I'm to meet at that address with a couple off fab  |
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By *lease300 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I think there could be a page for this but not if there was a change of heart and decided not to meet for some reason, but take for instance I had arranged a meet back 8 months ago was given an address so got ready headed off to so called address to have some women answer the door and didn't have a clue wot I was on about, at that precise moment I wanted to disappear I was dressed borderline slutty, now I look back a laugh about it lol but wasn't funny at the time trying to explain I'm to meet at that address with a couple off fab "
Awful I don't understand why folk do that and of course things 'come up' where we can't meet but I'm just getting the vibe from many here there are lots of pic collectors and folk just wanting 'sexting' x |
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"I think there could be a page for this but not if there was a change of heart and decided not to meet for some reason, but take for instance I had arranged a meet back 8 months ago was given an address so got ready headed off to so called address to have some women answer the door and didn't have a clue wot I was on about, at that precise moment I wanted to disappear I was dressed borderline slutty, now I look back a laugh about it lol but wasn't funny at the time trying to explain I'm to meet at that address with a couple off fab
Awful I don't understand why folk do that and of course things 'come up' where we can't meet but I'm just getting the vibe from many here there are lots of pic collectors and folk just wanting 'sexting' x"
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"The unverified people who been on here over 6months does my head in as most likely are fake "
Usually couples that are frequently intimidated by males and subsequently don't meet and therefore do not have verifications. |
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"The unverified people who been on here over 6months does my head in as most likely are fake
Usually couples that are frequently intimidated by males and subsequently don't meet and therefore do not have verifications."
There's no excuse to not be verified by meet or cam after 6months |
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Where is the timewaster line though.
I’d class someone that didn’t show on the day without good reason and not before. Just because someone has engaged in conversation certainly and made an unconfirmed plan with you doesn’t mean it’s a timewaster in my opinion |
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By *lease300 OP Woman
over a year ago
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A timewaster is someone who messages for a long time many messages talks on phone then up for meeting arranges a day then day before I've had many excuses which haven't seemed honest
When asking further for reasons blocks you
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By *lease300 OP Woman
over a year ago
merthyr |
"Is it correct only a verified person can verify another unverified person
Yes it's correct. I did call soneone out on it before but she delightfully proved me wrong lol "
So that's bad as what if you only meet unverified folk |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
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"Is it correct only a verified person can verify another unverified person
Yes it's correct. I did call soneone out on it before but she delightfully proved me wrong lol
So that's bad as what if you only meet unverified folk "
But why would you do that, its not like because they are unverified they are virgins or something?
We'll give anyone the benefit of the doubt but put less energy into meeting unverified & certainly wouldn't be making travel arrangements without a lot of preamble.
There's currently a single fem profile on here, been on years, verified by meets, chatted nicely a bit yet as soon as we suggested a video chat to prove we were not talking to an ex fella whatever the conversation stopped dead.
Only one conclusion to be drawn really. Far too many fakes on here including some verified ones.
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"Is it correct only a verified person can verify another unverified person
Yes it's correct. I did call soneone out on it before but she delightfully proved me wrong lol
So that's bad as what if you only meet unverified folk "
Then you will never be meet verified, and rightly so. Two unverified people verifying each other makes a mockery of the veri system. |
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By *lease300 OP Woman
over a year ago
merthyr |
"Is it correct only a verified person can verify another unverified person
Yes it's correct. I did call soneone out on it before but she delightfully proved me wrong lol
So that's bad as what if you only meet unverified folk
Then you will never be meet verified, and rightly so. Two unverified people verifying each other makes a mockery of the veri system."
Lol why isn't that just ridiculous if you've met |
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"Is it correct only a verified person can verify another unverified person
Yes it's correct. I did call soneone out on it before but she delightfully proved me wrong lol
So that's bad as what if you only meet unverified folk
Then you will never be meet verified, and rightly so. Two unverified people verifying each other makes a mockery of the veri system.
Lol why isn't that just ridiculous if you've met"
Because you could be verifying yourself on a fake profile. If thats the case no point in having a veri system. |
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By *lease300 OP Woman
over a year ago
merthyr |
"Is it correct only a verified person can verify another unverified person
Yes it's correct. I did call soneone out on it before but she delightfully proved me wrong lol
So that's bad as what if you only meet unverified folk
Then you will never be meet verified, and rightly so. Two unverified people verifying each other makes a mockery of the veri system.
Lol why isn't that just ridiculous if you've met
Because you could be verifying yourself on a fake profile. If thats the case no point in having a veri system. "
1 profile is hard enough work lol |
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"Is it correct only a verified person can verify another unverified person
Yes it's correct. I did call soneone out on it before but she delightfully proved me wrong lol
So that's bad as what if you only meet unverified folk
Then you will never be meet verified, and rightly so. Two unverified people verifying each other makes a mockery of the veri system.
Lol why isn't that just ridiculous if you've met
Because you could be verifying yourself on a fake profile. If thats the case no point in having a veri system.
1 profile is hard enough work lol "
Yeh but fakes get a kick out of it. Sad i know. |
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By *lease300 OP Woman
over a year ago
merthyr |
"Is it correct only a verified person can verify another unverified person
Yes it's correct. I did call soneone out on it before but she delightfully proved me wrong lol
So that's bad as what if you only meet unverified folk
Then you will never be meet verified, and rightly so. Two unverified people verifying each other makes a mockery of the veri system.
Lol why isn't that just ridiculous if you've met
Because you could be verifying yourself on a fake profile. If thats the case no point in having a veri system.
1 profile is hard enough work lol
Yeh but fakes get a kick out of it. Sad i know. "
Gosh bloody minefield here |
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"Is it correct only a verified person can verify another unverified person
Yes it's correct. I did call soneone out on it before but she delightfully proved me wrong lol
So that's bad as what if you only meet unverified folk
Then you will never be meet verified, and rightly so. Two unverified people verifying each other makes a mockery of the veri system.
Lol why isn't that just ridiculous if you've met
Because you could be verifying yourself on a fake profile. If thats the case no point in having a veri system.
1 profile is hard enough work lol
Yeh but fakes get a kick out of it. Sad i know.
Gosh bloody minefield here "
All smoke and mirrors. |
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It goes both ways unfortunately. Although I suspect there are more men than women time wasters. I think a lot of them are just fantasists and dreamers, bored at home wondering if they got what it takes. Some then realise it's not a joke and delete (probably married) whilst some just don't have the minerals. |
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By *lease300 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"It goes both ways unfortunately. Although I suspect there are more men than women time wasters. I think a lot of them are just fantasists and dreamers, bored at home wondering if they got what it takes. Some then realise it's not a joke and delete (probably married) whilst some just don't have the minerals. "
I tend to agree |
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over a year ago
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Absolutely agree. I think men are the main protagonists. However, I can assure you there are a growing number of female profiles who can also be accused of this. |
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By *lease300 OP Woman
over a year ago
merthyr |
I'm not saying it's only men ladies too
Unfortunately I've deleted msgs and some keep sending repeat ones which results in me now just blocking if I'm not interested seems harsh but helps folk know I'm not interested.x
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By *lease300 OP Woman
over a year ago
merthyr |
"I'm not saying it's only men ladies too
Unfortunately I've deleted msgs and some keep sending repeat ones which results in me now just blocking if I'm not interested seems harsh but helps folk know I'm not interested.x
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I don't mean you scotty |
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"A timewaster is someone who messages for a long time many messages talks on phone then up for meeting arranges a day then day before I've had many excuses which haven't seemed honest
When asking further for reasons blocks you
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The thing is, asking for a meet too early and you get labelled as pushy and too long and you're a timewaster. Personally, I prefer an early meet because you get a better feel in real life if you want to take it further.
I've never stood anyone up and don't plan on it now. |
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People define "timewasting" in different ways.
I dont think you can class sending and receiving multiple messages as timewasting, but certainly arranging a meet and getting let down at the last minute could be classed as such.
We never arrange a meet "on the fly" so to speak, we take time to get to know people, and if they are new and unverifed we take steps to assure ourselves that they are "real" i.e. if its a couple or single fem, we want them to prove it.
Once we are happy that they are what they say they are, we move on to arranging a meet, but we are aware that real life can throw a bit of a spanner in the works, so we are flexible to the possibility of having to re-arrange.
We never leave the house without doing our "due dilligence"...and in over 10 years we have never been stood up once.
I dont think you can call that luck.  |
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By *lease300 OP Woman
over a year ago
merthyr |
"People define "timewasting" in different ways.
I dont think you can class sending and receiving multiple messages as timewasting, but certainly arranging a meet and getting let down at the last minute could be classed as such.
We never arrange a meet "on the fly" so to speak, we take time to get to know people, and if they are new and unverifed we take steps to assure ourselves that they are "real" i.e. if its a couple or single fem, we want them to prove it.
Once we are happy that they are what they say they are, we move on to arranging a meet, but we are aware that real life can throw a bit of a spanner in the works, so we are flexible to the possibility of having to re-arrange.
We never leave the house without doing our "due dilligence"...and in over 10 years we have never been stood up once.
I dont think you can call that luck. "
Must be my useless skill at spotting idiots story of my life lol
I do find msging for months appropriate before meeting but then to change goal posts when near the 'date' just utter time wasters |
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You will develop a bit of a "sixth sense" about profiles.
I guessing I will have mentioned this before too...socials, socials, socials lol!
Best way to network, meet people face-to-face, hear the goss about who and what, and have a bit of a giggle with new friends, is to go to the socials. |
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By *lease300 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"You will develop a bit of a "sixth sense" about profiles.
I guessing I will have mentioned this before too...socials, socials, socials lol!
Best way to network, meet people face-to-face, hear the goss about who and what, and have a bit of a giggle with new friends, is to go to the socials. "
Thank you for advice guess it's tricky when your shy and a lot of social events you have to be verified lol xx |
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By *lease300 OP Woman
over a year ago
merthyr |
"It can be open to abuse to have a page like that
If someone doesn't like another person who's to stop them posting lies..
You do get a feeling about who's real and who's fake"
I understand and agree to an extent x |
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By *arrapsMan
over a year ago
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"It can be open to abuse to have a page like that
If someone doesn't like another person who's to stop them posting lies..
You do get a feeling about who's real and who's fake
I understand and agree to an extent x"
Sadly it’s part and parcel of being on a swinging site, there are a lot of idiots who having nothing better to do, think its great to string others along .. |
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"It can be open to abuse to have a page like that
If someone doesn't like another person who's to stop them posting lies..
You do get a feeling about who's real and who's fake"
IN REALITY there are people who specifically trash members postings to a degree that the OP is obviously visible these individuals make frequent statements as they think that they now more than anyone else.
Unfortunately this stops other members posting.
All in all their chosen desire to do this is definitely equivalent to naming and shaming. |
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"You will develop a bit of a "sixth sense" about profiles.
I guessing I will have mentioned this before too...socials, socials, socials lol!
Best way to network, meet people face-to-face, hear the goss about who and what, and have a bit of a giggle with new friends, is to go to the socials.
Thank you for advice guess it's tricky when your shy and a lot of social events you have to be verified lol xx"
There are smaller socials that dont require veries.
This doesnt help with the shyness, but with less people involved I'm guessing it might be less daunting.
We were all newbies once...and, I'll let you into a little secret...we still get nervous now too lol!  |
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By *lease300 OP Woman
over a year ago
merthyr |
"It can be open to abuse to have a page like that
If someone doesn't like another person who's to stop them posting lies..
You do get a feeling about who's real and who's fake
IN REALITY there are people who specifically trash members postings to a degree that the OP is obviously visible these individuals make frequent statements as they think that they now more than anyone else.
Unfortunately this stops other members posting.
All in all their chosen desire to do this is definitely equivalent to naming and shaming."
Don't understand sorry lol |
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By *lease300 OP Woman
over a year ago
merthyr |
"You will develop a bit of a "sixth sense" about profiles.
I guessing I will have mentioned this before too...socials, socials, socials lol!
Best way to network, meet people face-to-face, hear the goss about who and what, and have a bit of a giggle with new friends, is to go to the socials.
Thank you for advice guess it's tricky when your shy and a lot of social events you have to be verified lol xx
There are smaller socials that dont require veries.
This doesnt help with the shyness, but with less people involved I'm guessing it might be less daunting.
We were all newbies once...and, I'll let you into a little secret...we still get nervous now too lol! "
Ahhh thank you that's kind xx |
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over a year ago
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I have been called a time waster recently and then blocked. I literally went to work and didn't respond to her last message as speedily as she may have liked. What defines a time waster on hear? I would suggest its arranging to meet someone and not turning up and or dragging out with someone with no intention to meet. Not being busy! |
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In my relatively short time here I’ve been let down 9 times for socials meets. Each time I was dressed and ready to leave the house or en route...one time I was actually sat in the venue. I block instantly. Also had a social meet with someone and arranged to meet again 2 days later but was then ghosted.... now that’s a time waster!
If you’re just chatting to people and not arranged a meet, that’s a different story if they loose contact for whatever reason.
I’ve had to cancel a social once or twice due to family issues but I give plenty of notice. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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All I get is time wasters. I've had 2 women in the last month give me there mobile number and we've talked and agreed a meet but a day or two before meeting they just stopped messaging. Guess they got a better offer lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I swear there are hoards of blokes on hear pretending to be wives. I figure they have some kind of network of fake accounts which they use for verification. You often see certain images be recycled on an almost daily basis. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Seems to be getting worse lately. There should be a method to report and if more than 3 people report then they get timed out for a while or something. I don’t know how to get around it being abused but a system like that may work.
It’s frustrating when you’re busy and fitting people in for them to not have the respect to even message. |
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By *ima7893Man
over a year ago
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Agreed. There needs to be a better governance system. I just want to have fun.....simple.......but so many folk on here want to make it nasty and complicated! And that, is not swinging! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve messaged ladies & couples, they've read & not replied?
Does that make them timewasters?
Or simply not interested in meeting me?
I think it’s the latter, I’m not offended, just the way the site is like, many others! |
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"I’ve messaged ladies & couples, they've read & not replied?
Does that make them timewasters?
Or simply not interested in meeting me?
I think it’s the latter, I’m not offended, just the way the site is like, many others! "
Not replying is quite simply not interested or no time at present or whatever other reason. But striking a conversation, showing interest, arranging a meet and then no longer replying or whatever is what’s annoying and time wasting.
I get that life is first. But if you’ve arranged something’s just say you can’t anymore lol.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To me a time waster is either someone stringing you along with no intention of meeting, or who arranges a meet they will not go to.
If you change your mind, there's nothing wrong with that as long as you communicate.
Just don't leave people hanging. |
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"To me a time waster is either someone stringing you along with no intention of meeting, or who arranges a meet they will not go to.
If you change your mind, there's nothing wrong with that as long as you communicate.
Just don't leave people hanging."
Spot on |
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"Looking at your profile if you ever want a meet I would shot myself if I wasted your time, not that I'd waste your time lol x"
Oh I have to agree .
Who in there right mind would miss out on this lovely lady 
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