Does anyone do anything to prevent it ? Like does getting a mobile number or something make it less likely ?
I dressed up all nice this morning to meet a guy and he messaged me saying he was on way. Then last minute cancels due to "car trouble"
It's just frustrating |
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over a year ago
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You could swap numbers but theres no guarantee they will answer phone or return a text. It is frustrating. For what its worth he is an idiot for not meeting you |
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I arranged a meet once took nearly two hours getting ready drove to cardiff knocked on the door and some women answered and didn't have a clue wot I was on about I was all dressed up and just wanted the ground to open and swallow me up, it was so embarrassing |
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"I have had a few people arrange a meet and then cancel within the last hour or simply just go silent.
Is that the norm here or am I being used ?! "
Were they verified?
I've been very lucky. I've never been let down and I've never not shown either.
It's basic human decency. |
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over a year ago
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We arranged a meeting here a couple weeks ago.
Guy never showed, messaged him here, no reply.
Five days later, he messaged us...said he received a better offer earlier that day!
Also said we were his ‘last resort’, if nothing else turned up....thanks. A great way to make a couple feel great. |
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I’ve had a few last minute cancellations, which were frustrating, but never been stood up before, nor have I ever done it to anyone.
Sometimes timings don’t work out and rearrangements are required, which is completely understandable, but there’s no excuse for not showing at all. However, I know people it’s happened to, and the most plausible reason is that they’re either fake (maybe using someone else’s pictures) or they just got too nervous. |
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Have had a few that arrange a meet and dont show
One particularly bad one was a seemingly nice couple, fairly local, good veris from males and couples
Drove to their post code.. text said.. nice car.. now get out and proove you have brought rubbers.. like an idiot, waved a box above my head..
Then nothing. Blocked on Fab and a dead line when calling them!
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"Have had a few that arrange a meet and dont show
One particularly bad one was a seemingly nice couple, fairly local, good veris from males and couples
Drove to their post code.. text said.. nice car.. now get out and proove you have brought rubbers.. like an idiot, waved a box above my head..
Then nothing. Blocked on Fab and a dead line when calling them!
Odd lol x
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By (user no longer on site)
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I had a verified couple arrange to meet me at a country pub, about an hours journey from my house, they chatted until I was on my way and then went silent. They definitely messed me about on purpose as I gave them every chance to change their mind before I left. Some people are just dicks, but what can you do. Don't understand what people get out of it, if you arrange a meet, just bloody show up, if you want to back out do that too, what's the worst someone can call you for changing your mind. |
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Sadly it’s par for the course. I tend to see it coming now. Had a meet arranged for Friday and despite being verified he’s known to be a time waster. He let me down less than an hour before the meet. I was so confident he would let me down I hadn’t even bothered getting ready. Neither did I let it bother me. But it’s more common now than it was a year ago. |
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"Sadly it’s par for the course. I tend to see it coming now. Had a meet arranged for Friday and despite being verified he’s known to be a time waster. He let me down less than an hour before the meet. I was so confident he would let me down I hadn’t even bothered getting ready. Neither did I let it bother me. But it’s more common now than it was a year ago. "
How did you know that he is he known to be a time waster?x |
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I have had a few no shows, one as at the pub and over later nothing from the couple and then blocked me, how very rude lol.
If I arrange to meet will always turn up on time and always dress smart |
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"I have had a few no shows, one as at the pub and over later nothing from the couple and then blocked me, how very rude lol.
If I arrange to meet will always turn up on time and always dress smart"
Not all are the same unfortunately x |
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Yeah twice I’ve had people cancel. One just didn’t say anything until the next day and the other let me know in advance so all was well.
I’ve had to re arrange once too so I totally understand it can happen!
Reading some of these perhaps we should open a forum name and shame section ! |
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"Does anyone do anything to prevent it ? Like does getting a mobile number or something make it less likely ?
I dressed up all nice this morning to meet a guy and he messaged me saying he was on way. Then last minute cancels due to "car trouble"
Sadly an all too frequent occurrence. I've been stood up many times over the years. Their loss has often been someone else's gain though right?
Car trouble typically being the excuse. Or..."my friend just arrived"
It's just frustrating"
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We think that after being here for a few years you can start to get a feel for people whilst messaging them.. the second we feel something isn't right we politely tell them and move on.
Touch wood we have been lucky and gut instinct has worked well for us. |
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Lost count of the amount of meets I arranged as a single female where they either didn't show for me or another friend. Often they had arranged with more than one of us. I don't meet her as a single female anymore haven't found anyone worth the head space tbh X |
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I was let down 3 times in 1 week a while back. I’ve started to only arrange meets with people I’ve met at events and socials now. I do make the odd exception though.
There’s seems to be a pattern.... newbies, those who can’t accommodate and little or no verifications. |
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Over the years we've been left hanging more times than we can remember. For us it has been couples that are the worst, no veri's or various good vari's there's no guarantee. As others have said, you do get a bit of a nose for BS, and we have on a few occasions not bothered getting ready because we knew they wouldn't show. Thankfully the good outweigh the bad. |
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That is extremely annoying and what is nearly as bad is messaging back and forth and then they suddenly go dark. I always say that if we meet up and we really don't feel it then just have a drink and peel off. No harm done. I also find that people are so different in their profiles to RL and you can only gauge a person properly in RL. I won't stand someone up because it's bad manners irrespective of whether you know them well or not. |
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By *mar0709Couple
over a year ago
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We had arranged two members of this site for a Bukkake last weekend, gave mobile numbers and location and YEP you guessed it "motorbike broke down" and "work came up" heard it all before and always report in honesty as we put so many guys off... thankfully two showed who were genuine  |
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Think I've been lucky I've had one cancell due to work but we met up 2 days later .have had some lovely socials and some not so good ones but that's part of being on here and that's why I have a social first x |
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I drove over twenty miles to meet a lady in a dump of a pub in Bristol where I waited for over an hour,gave up & drove twenty miles back home. Apparantly her other half wanted to chat & she got to the pub just after I left. Wasn't happy ! |
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Nice to see a good long thread in this forum shame it’s because of time wasters on Fab tho!!
I keep it simple I actually read people’s profiles, veris and then from my point of view if I say I’m going to meet I ensure I don’t let them down, so far so good as as people have said on here you can see newbies, unverified married etc etc so do your homework lol! |
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