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over a year ago
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Really don't like doing this but I'm struggling on here and I don't know why as I get good reactions from other sites I use.
Any advice much appreciated |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Your profile write up looks good and you don't seem short of meets as you've a few varies. The only problem I can see is you've only one profile pic. I don't expect to see your face on public view but other parts of you would be most welcoming x   |
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over a year ago
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"Your profile write up looks good and you don't seem short of meets as you've a few varies. The only problem I can see is you've only one profile pic. I don't expect to see your face on public view but other parts of you would be most welcoming x "
Thank you.
My meets have been off other forums who just happen to use fab aswell. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For us showing your veris is always a bonus as then we can try figure out the type of person you are, humour etc and if we'd get on.
For others, I've noticed on other forums posts, couples and females are put off when males have the age range so open 18-99, they'll assume you have no 'standards' and fuck anything with legs.
We personally don't understand this as age is just a number and it all depends on the person's attraction and personality xx
Good luck on the site and enjoy it, another great tip Mr always tells people (we were singles on here before we met) to get yourself to socials, plenty too as word of mouth in the swingers scene is vital and if people talk good about you, you'll be snapped up |
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over a year ago
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"For us showing your veris is always a bonus as then we can try figure out the type of person you are, humour etc and if we'd get on.
For others, I've noticed on other forums posts, couples and females are put off when males have the age range so open 18-99, they'll assume you have no 'standards' and fuck anything with legs.
We personally don't understand this as age is just a number and it all depends on the person's attraction and personality xx
Good luck on the site and enjoy it, another great tip Mr always tells people (we were singles on here before we met) to get yourself to socials, plenty too as word of mouth in the swingers scene is vital and if people talk good about you, you'll be snapped up "
Some great advice there so thank you. I find it difficult to make the socials but will definitely try and make some in the future. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thank you for the advice ladies but every message today has been deleted and unresponded to. It must be my face haha
Thank you though"
That response won't have helped plus your update, maybe think about how people might read things & post accordingly. Only my opinion of course & most here will disagree, but all the best with it. Ps does it matter where you met people? A meets a meet if it goes well X |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Thank you for the advice ladies but every message today has been deleted and unresponded to. It must be my face haha
Thank you though
That response won't have helped plus your update, maybe think about how people might read things & post accordingly. Only my opinion of course & most here will disagree, but all the best with it. Ps does it matter where you met people? A meets a meet if it goes well X"
Thank you, I really do appreciate all input. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Mr here.....I think you definitely need to completely overhaul your profile....you state you’ve been on the scene over 10 years yet can only muster 3 verifications...what “scene” are you alluding to? Casual sex? Swinging? If the latter then I have to say your 10 years experience is a little dubious in my opinion. Be honest to yourself and others.
You state you like a banter and a laugh, none of this shows in your profile, show some comedy in your profile.
Finally like my better half mentioned earlier, make the effort to attend socials, they are available daytimes/midweek/weekends/Sunday evenings...your excuse of finding it difficult comes across more as a “cba” attitude which females and couples will also attribute to your bedroom skills.
Hopefully you take this reply in the right way and don’t take offence. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Mr here.....I think you definitely need to completely overhaul your profile....you state you’ve been on the scene over 10 years yet can only muster 3 verifications...what “scene” are you alluding to? Casual sex? Swinging? If the latter then I have to say your 10 years experience is a little dubious in my opinion. Be honest to yourself and others.
You state you like a banter and a laugh, none of this shows in your profile, show some comedy in your profile.
Finally like my better half mentioned earlier, make the effort to attend socials, they are available daytimes/midweek/weekends/Sunday evenings...your excuse of finding it difficult comes across more as a “cba” attitude which females and couples will also attribute to your bedroom skills.
Hopefully you take this reply in the right way and don’t take offence."
Of course. As mentioned earlier all advice is very much appreciated.
I allude to 10 years on the scene as that is the truth. Thaat doesn't include casual sex, it is directed towards swinging and this 'scene'. I've been on and off fab for around 7 years and haven't always kept the same profile hence why only the 3 veris. Many of the people I have met over the years are not on here anymore. I've been very honest about this.
I do like a laugh and banter, that usually comes from back and forth conversations, but will try and put some of my humour into my profile but it can by very dry and need I say it, sarcastic which can be misconstrued in text without context.
My finding it difficult comment is exactly what it is, there is no misconception in that comment, I put the effort in, write very thoughtout messages, don't copy and paste, try and pay attention to profiles as best I can but they get deleted. Now I appreciate that women get inundated on here, it's crazy the amount of messages they get but it does knock confidence and also puts u off even trying.
Socials have clearly become the main point of contact here so will definitely be attending some, hopefully will get to see you both there some time ??
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"it's crazy the amount of messages they get but it does knock confidence and also puts u off even trying.
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We all feel like this.
Profile looks ok but, IMHO, the start is a bit too "macho" and could be more friendly.
And finally socials, socials, socials! It's very difficult for any of us to sell ourselves effectively through a written profile, without personal contact. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"it's crazy the amount of messages they get but it does knock confidence and also puts u off even trying.
We all feel like this.
Profile looks ok but, IMHO, the start is a bit too "macho" and could be more friendly.
And finally socials, socials, socials! It's very difficult for any of us to sell ourselves effectively through a written profile, without personal contact."
Thank you, in truth that's the part I've always been a bit unsure of |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Feisty and flooger do wicked social in Bridgend. They are a lovely couple.
Nice bunch attend to.
Get yourself to a social "
I'm going to keep a close eye on the forum for any social. Thank you for that |
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"Feisty and flooger do wicked social in Bridgend. They are a lovely couple.
Nice bunch attend to.
Get yourself to a social
I'm going to keep a close eye on the forum for any social. Thank you for that"
If you're ever at any point in the north Wales, cheater or north west area, maybe with work or pleasure, then you'd be more than welcome to attend the Chester and N.W social evenings. These are on every 6 weeks. Have a look at the veris on the profile I have for the social. It's informative.
Cheater social nw
The amount of single males that have walked through the doors has been amazing in the short space of time it's been up and running by us. The point is that these guys have put in the time and effort to attend. Out of this they've gained verifications, phone numbers and meets. If what you're doing now doesn't work for you then change it and be more productive. At worst you'll get veris and at best you'll get meets but you're sure to make new friends. Hope this helps. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Feisty and flooger do wicked social in Bridgend. They are a lovely couple.
Nice bunch attend to.
Get yourself to a social
I'm going to keep a close eye on the forum for any social. Thank you for that
If you're ever at any point in the north Wales, cheater or north west area, maybe with work or pleasure, then you'd be more than welcome to attend the Chester and N.W social evenings. These are on every 6 weeks. Have a look at the veris on the profile I have for the social. It's informative.
Cheater social nw
The amount of single males that have walked through the doors has been amazing in the short space of time it's been up and running by us. The point is that these guys have put in the time and effort to attend. Out of this they've gained verifications, phone numbers and meets. If what you're doing now doesn't work for you then change it and be more productive. At worst you'll get veris and at best you'll get meets but you're sure to make new friends. Hope this helps. "
Very much so, it's just a shame I've changed jobs and don't travel that way any more. Thank you |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Feisty and flooger do wicked social in Bridgend. They are a lovely couple.
Nice bunch attend to.
Get yourself to a social "
Thankyou both xx
Yes pop along to our social, its next Sunday. Be lovely to meet you x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ditto here. I used to do ok on POF. For various reasons won't go back on there. Been on and off here for years. Not 1 meet. Tried face pic on profile. Tried all sorts. I only come here to wank now. But I am interested in this topic. As I wonder why I'm a pure failure here. I've plenty kids. Done something right lol. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Feisty and flooger do wicked social in Bridgend. They are a lovely couple.
Nice bunch attend to.
Get yourself to a social
Thankyou both xx
Yes pop along to our social, its next Sunday. Be lovely to meet you x"
Thanks, hopefully I can attend, not sure how I'll feel though as I'm on an all dayer in Saturday |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ditto here. I used to do ok on POF. For various reasons won't go back on there. Been on and off here for years. Not 1 meet. Tried face pic on profile. Tried all sorts. I only come here to wank now. But I am interested in this topic. As I wonder why I'm a pure failure here. I've plenty kids. Done something right lol."
It's all the same people here as on pof  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Ditto here. I used to do ok on POF. For various reasons won't go back on there. Been on and off here for years. Not 1 meet. Tried face pic on profile. Tried all sorts. I only come here to wank now. But I am interested in this topic. As I wonder why I'm a pure failure here. I've plenty kids. Done something right lol.
It's all the same people here as on pof "
And badoo, funnily enough they chat to me there lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ditto here. I used to do ok on POF. For various reasons won't go back on there. Been on and off here for years. Not 1 meet. Tried face pic on profile. Tried all sorts. I only come here to wank now. But I am interested in this topic. As I wonder why I'm a pure failure here. I've plenty kids. Done something right lol.
It's all the same people here as on pof
And badoo, funnily enough they chat to me there lol"
Oh well definitely a 'pure failure', that's the attitude that switches people off X |
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"Ditto here. I used to do ok on POF. For various reasons won't go back on there. Been on and off here for years. Not 1 meet. Tried face pic on profile. Tried all sorts. I only come here to wank now. But I am interested in this topic. As I wonder why I'm a pure failure here. I've plenty kids. Done something right lol.
It's all the same people here as on pof
And badoo, funnily enough they chat to me there lol
Oh well definitely a 'pure failure', that's the attitude that switches people off X"
I'm not sure what you mean?
I stated in my initial message I get good reactions from other sources |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This is a swingers site not pof/badoo/tinder.... different league to trying to lure the lonely hearts with false promises for a leg over.... women and couples can afford to be 10 times pickier here than any other avenue due to the volume of males so can pick and choose as they so wish. Stand out or just get stuck in the single male stereotype pile  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This is a swingers site not pof/badoo/tinder.... different league to trying to lure the lonely hearts with false promises for a leg over.... women and couples can afford to be 10 times pickier here than any other avenue due to the volume of males so can pick and choose as they so wish. Stand out or just get stuck in the single male stereotype pile "
Try luring??? Make me sound like a predator. A user. On here simply as I've discovered now in middle age. I'm not relationship material. |
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