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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Could you have sexual play without kissing?
I've had couples message me in the past that want sex but only kiss each other. I just don't get turned on without it so I've declined. I've also played with a few men who have done BDSM and sex with but but haven't kissed me. Makes me feel unattractive then.
What's peoples views on Sex & Kissing? x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I hate having sex without kissing. It's a must as it goes together like peas and carrots.
I been with 2 couples who enforced a no kissing rule."
I agree, kissing starts a lot of the play off for me. I love kissing in general. Even having a few sneaky kisses on coffee meets lol
No kissing then no meeting lol |
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"I hate having sex without kissing. It's a must as it goes together like peas and carrots.
I been with 2 couples who enforced a no kissing rule.
I agree, kissing starts a lot of the play off for me. I love kissing in general. Even having a few sneaky kisses on coffee meets lol
No kissing then no meeting lol"
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Ive played twice where I've not been kissed and really wanted to. I go away from that meet feeling like it wasn't complete. I even put it on my profile if they are not into kissing then I won't meet  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"No kissing, then there ain't anything else happening...  "
Im with you there 
Ive had a few couples I've had to say no too as after chatting for a few days they drop the no kissing policy on me, each to their own but it states clearly on my profile if theres no kissing there's no playing. Such a shame too x |
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By *richaMan
over a year ago
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Kissing is a must for me.
A “no kissing” rule is like a “no touching” or “no climaxing” rule. What would be the point?
It would be a very unconnected meet without kissing.
Kissing is the first thing I want to do, especially as I’m a great kisser.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Could you have sexual play without kissing?
I've had couples message me in the past that want sex but only kiss each other. I just don't get turned on without it so I've declined. I've also played with a few men who have done BDSM and sex with but but haven't kissed me. Makes me feel unattractive then.
What's peoples views on Sex & Kissing? x"
Kissing is a major sensual part of sex, I wouldn’t be able to have intimate contact without it. I’d probably keep forgetting and that would be bad for everyone. |
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"Anyone ever played without being kissed? I have a few times and its a horrible feeling. I wont play again with them thsts for sure lol"
Yeah it just didn't feel right. Couldn't relax into it at all |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You must have kissing what's the point without,meet a couple at a club started to play went to kiss her she said no,end of play for me,just not a turn on without it "
I totally agree with you, I should have stopped my play after id realized I wasnt getting kissed lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No kissing = no sex for us, we've tried it & it feels like business arrangement X
I agree, I just can't play without it. "
Same here for the both of us. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"In my experience it's normally couples enforced a no kissing rule.
I rather go out without myself"
I've played with men who haven't kissed but there's been a lot of focus on the BDSM play so not sure if that was the reason but i still didn't like it lol |
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"In my experience it's normally couples enforced a no kissing rule.
I rather go out without myself
I've played with men who haven't kissed but there's been a lot of focus on the BDSM play so not sure if that was the reason but i still didn't like it lol"
Same here. Absolutely detest the no kissing rule.
Drop me a cheeky message |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I know when hubby and i first came on fab we agreed from the off set that we would kiss other people. Its a huge importance for us both when playing with others x |
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"I know when hubby and i first came on fab we agreed from the off set that we would kiss other people. Its a huge importance for us both when playing with others x"
Hi..I'm not sure I could play and enjoy the lust and moment if I didn't kiss the wife/girlfriend. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When I was meeting, i couldn't imagine having a meet with no kissing. It's such a wonderful start to more exciting times. It was always a deal breaker for me. No kiss, no meet
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Complete deal breaker for me. If there is no kissing, there is nothing else from me if it is not intended as "just a social". Kissing for me is an integral part of intimacy. It can mean and convey a whole lot more than even sex/fucking can.
It's how connections are made.
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When we first joined the scene at a naïve age we had talked about boundaries and one of them was definitely no kissing then mid meet we decided we had to, just couldn't relax properly, its a major turn on for us.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"There's some beautiful kissers out there
Aww shucks.... Thanks .
Just messing. But we agree on one thing OP, it's not 'right' without it . "
That did make me chuckle lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When we first joined the scene at a naïve age we had talked about boundaries and one of them was definitely no kissing then mid meet we decided we had to, just couldn't relax properly, its a major turn on for us.
Mrs"
In my humble opinion, good for you! Because you then didn't have any physical barriers or physical limits, but you knew that the kiss with your partner straight away afterwards meant so much more than the ones during play with others. It's about the emotional connection you have with your partner that transcends everything else. Sex, oral, kissing, eye contact (listed in a certain order for a reason) it means more with your 'significant other' than anyone else because that emotional/spiritual/other-thing connection is what you are built on. The physical act of kissing is intimate, having sex is arguable either way of intimacy or not, being given or having an orgasm because of someone else is extremely intimate to the person or people involved, but the connection you have with your other half when you do these things with them is so much more than what you have with others.
To me that represents a different kind of maturity and emotional development and is so difficult to find in people these days. Relating it back to you and your situation back then, good on you both! And to those couples who have said similar, good!
Singletons have it very difficult in the swinging game but I would like to think that we all want to deliver the best experience for everyone involved. A singleton wants to feel special and unique even if it is for all of 2 minutes 34 seconds....... But for the couple they also want to feel a different kind of special, to each other. So when couples get together with other couples, anything should go (within healthy circumstances obviously), because that very first time after when they kiss or touch or lock eyes, it's that which means most to them.
Kissing. So under rated but so God damned invaluable! |
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Sorry but definitely have to kiss. Think it would as the male be the end of the meet without it as I simply could not perform. Kissing is definitely what turns me on and even makes me climax. Although it is hard to find somebody who kisses the same as yourself only met a few but luckily the lady really knows how to kiss so can step in lol xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm quite surprised no by has commented who won't kiss  "
Stems from feeling like you are in the minority, which without a lot of courage is difficult to do. Nobody should feel like they should do something just because it's "what everyone else does". This whole lifestyle is about what you want, either as a single or as a couple, that works for you. To stand up and say "I won't/We won't" when it appears to be against the majority opinion takes an awful lot of gumption.
It can be assigned to using a condom during penetrative sex, to anal sex, to swallowing during oral or kissing your play partners. You will struggle to find anyone who stands up for themselves when they are going to be at odds with the majority in a thread like this. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm quite surprised no by has commented who won't kiss
Stems from feeling like you are in the minority, which without a lot of courage is difficult to do. Nobody should feel like they should do something just because it's "what everyone else does". This whole lifestyle is about what you want, either as a single or as a couple, that works for you. To stand up and say "I won't/We won't" when it appears to be against the majority opinion takes an awful lot of gumption.
It can be assigned to using a condom during penetrative sex, to anal sex, to swallowing during oral or kissing your play partners. You will struggle to find anyone who stands up for themselves when they are going to be at odds with the majority in a thread like this. "
I wouldn't ever disrespect peoples beliefs or lifestyle choices. I just choose not to play with anyone who doesn't wish to kiss me. It is interesting to hear peoples different views. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I wouldn't ever disrespect peoples beliefs or lifestyle choices. I just choose not to play with anyone who doesn't wish to kiss me. It is interesting to hear peoples different views."
Hey, I already said we ae on the same page. I was just answering a previous comment (the one I quoted in it) that queried a different point of view. This whole thread has been people commenting that kissing is what they want. And that's just fine completely. But the post I quoted asked why we don't hear the other side of the story so I replied from my idea of a Devil's Advocate point of view.
OP We have no issues at all, I was just trying to answer the post I quoted about why this thread isn't hearing from people who choose not to kiss during meets.
To everyone else: And btw, the people who choose not to kiss are neither right nor wrong for what works for them in the mainstream. They are always right because it is what they want from their experience at the time. End of. Nobody can judge. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I was only trying to state that anyone who did say on here they are not into kissing wouldn't be judged by me. I didnt create the post for that. Its great to hear both sides.
I only play with people I'm attracted too and it would drive me nuts not kissing lol. Think I'd rather kiss than anything else if given the choice. I'd sacrifice the sex lol
'Did I Just say that pmsl'  |
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For us, we are absolutely guilty of the no kissing rule.
While I totally understand that kissing is a part of foreplay, it's intimacy for me often feels under rated. I have no desire for closeness on this level with anyone other than the mister.
When we meet (very rare may I add), I am not looking for the connection that kissing brings. I already have this in my life. The rest is an added bonus
Having said all of the above, a cheeky kiss with the ladies is always welcome... Maybe hypocritical. I don't know.
We do make this clear before any meet, to avoid any embarrassment or awkwardness.
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By *3xymamaWoman
over a year ago
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"For us, we are absolutely guilty of the no kissing rule.
While I totally understand that kissing is a part of foreplay, it's intimacy for me often feels under rated. I have no desire for closeness on this level with anyone other than the mister.
When we meet (very rare may I add), I am not looking for the connection that kissing brings. I already have this in my life. The rest is an added bonus
Having said all of the above, a cheeky kiss with the ladies is always welcome... Maybe hypocritical. I don't know.
We do make this clear before any meet, to avoid any embarrassment or awkwardness.
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Good for you if that is your boundaries with your partner. I'm sure the people you meet are aware of that and are happy with it...
As others have said though I wouldn't meet anyone if there was no kissing |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"For us, we are absolutely guilty of the no kissing rule.
While I totally understand that kissing is a part of foreplay, it's intimacy for me often feels under rated. I have no desire for closeness on this level with anyone other than the mister.
When we meet (very rare may I add), I am not looking for the connection that kissing brings. I already have this in my life. The rest is an added bonus
Having said all of the above, a cheeky kiss with the ladies is always welcome... Maybe hypocritical. I don't know.
We do make this clear before any meet, to avoid any embarrassment or awkwardness.
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It is good you make it clear before meets. Ive met some that haven't mentioned it till the meets actually happening, its not a nice feeling then. I come away feeling unsatisfied. |
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This post got me thinking.... I have just realise that on our last meet, we met a man who sat in the back of our car and I sucked his cock, I didnt kiss him. I just sucked him and then he left. It wasnt intentional though, Was that bad of me? Like would he of though it was a rubbish meet? I've only just thought and now I'm questioning if he thought it was a crap meet lol. Xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"This post got me thinking.... I have just realise that on our last meet, we met a man who sat in the back of our car and I sucked his cock, I didnt kiss him. I just sucked him and then he left. It wasnt intentional though, Was that bad of me? Like would he of though it was a rubbish meet? I've only just thought and now I'm questioning if he thought it was a crap meet lol. Xx"
I imagine he had an amazing time tbh |
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"This post got me thinking.... I have just realise that on our last meet, we met a man who sat in the back of our car and I sucked his cock, I didnt kiss him. I just sucked him and then he left. It wasnt intentional though, Was that bad of me? Like would he of though it was a rubbish meet? I've only just thought and now I'm questioning if he thought it was a crap meet lol. Xx"
Sounds like a dogging meet. Which normally you don't see any kissing so don't worry lol |
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By *aydee65Man
over a year ago
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"Could you have sexual play without kissing?
I've had couples message me in the past that want sex but only kiss each other. I just don't get turned on without it so I've declined. I've also played with a few men who have done BDSM and sex with but but haven't kissed me. Makes me feel unattractive then.
What's peoples views on Sex & Kissing? x"
It's a must for me. Just not the same without it. Too cold and clinical. |
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Kissing is our foreplay and seeing Mandy passionately kissing a woman wow
Mandy is submissive and a bit of a pain slut but we also start with kissing.
We also play separately and ask each other if our partner was a passionate kisser. |
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Can totally agree with this thread that kissing can turn a vanilla sessions into a better quality of sexual experience having said that, kissing were on the cards for the Mrs as the Mr most definitely doesn't kiss men and it does not rock his boat.
Maybe our kiss is so in tune with each other that no one can really compare. Don't mean to be fussy however it's not too dry, nor too wet and just enough tounge to drive one another wild..
Thus said, shes not into kissing other guys as the wrong kind of kiss can be off putting and does not stimulate the mood so we now prefer to kiss each other rather than risk a good time into a bad flop..
Thinking about it, Mrs might have a kiss at the end of a social to further decide if kissing would be involved within the meet.. |
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"Can totally agree with this thread that kissing can turn a vanilla sessions into a better quality of sexual experience having said that, kissing were on the cards for the Mrs as the Mr most definitely doesn't kiss men and it does not rock his boat.
Maybe our kiss is so in tune with each other that no one can really compare. Don't mean to be fussy however it's not too dry, nor too wet and just enough tounge to drive one another wild..
Thus said, shes not into kissing other guys as the wrong kind of kiss can be off putting and does not stimulate the mood so we now prefer to kiss each other rather than risk a good time into a bad flop..
Thinking about it, Mrs might have a kiss at the end of a social to further decide if kissing would be involved within the meet.. "
Sex with out kissing is just a cold fuck and know one wants that,
Kissing is part of foreplay and all through the fun, its a must for us, no kissing no nothing, we met a couple ages ago and said they only kiss each other, ok thanx we'er off, so they went off had a chat and said ok only once, they loved it and we all jad a great nigh, hence, kissing works the parts other stuff cant reach lol, x, KEEP KISSING,. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Kissing is intimate to me, and only something I want to do with someone close.
There are a couple of things that I keep close, and this is one of them.
That said, I prefer kink play and enjoy the impersonal aspect of objectification, so it wouldn't be my thing anyway. |
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That made me giggle louder than I should have.
I love kissing but the odd preplanned sleazy meet can be good but I find I have to build a rapport and connection 1st. So the kissing has often already happened in previous meets. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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100% got to be lot's of kissing involved for me. I would hate to be doing something without it. Kissing from the toes to the ear's I love it. Fuck the no kissing policy that sounds shit |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I definitely find with a kiss u can find out so much and tell if everything else is going to be great or not. no kiss, no play I say lol I loves a good snog sesh it's the best!! |
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