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over a year ago
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I've been reading through lots of profiles recently and I noticed that most people have met up with others and I find this hard to believe considering most days I can't even get a reply to my messages, nevermind meet up with someone for a coffee or sex! Lol.
What am I doing wrong?? |
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over a year ago
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Quite a few verris on profiles are from social meets, like meeting at Chams ect.
As for you not getting meets, dunno what to suggest there dude.
Single guys ain't got a good rep on this site, so try and stand out, be polite and don't go in for the kill right away lol |
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"I've been reading through lots of profiles recently and I noticed that most people have met up with others and I find this hard to believe considering most days I can't even get a reply to my messages, nevermind meet up with someone for a coffee or sex! Lol.
What am I doing wrong?? "
There is a sure-fire way to better success on here, and it comes in three parts.
1. Go to socials.
2. Go to socials.
3. Go...seriously, have I got to type it a third time?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've been reading through lots of profiles recently and I noticed that most people have met up with others and I find this hard to believe considering most days I can't even get a reply to my messages, nevermind meet up with someone for a coffee or sex! Lol.
What am I doing wrong??
There is a sure-fire way to better success on here, and it comes in three parts.
1. Go to socials.
2. Go to socials.
3. Go...seriously, have I got to type it a third time? "
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Think about the quality of message you send out. Read a profile and put something from that in your message to prove you've read and are actually interested in that person not just what is in there pictures.
This is a swinging site not a quick fuck. People take time to build trust in a meet.
Look for the socials where you don't need a verified to attend to get yourself out there.
Patience! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Think about the quality of message you send out. Read a profile and put something from that in your message to prove you've read and are actually interested in that person not just what is in there pictures.
This is a swinging site not a quick fuck. People take time to build trust in a meet.
Look for the socials where you don't need a verified to attend to get yourself out there.
Patience!"
Yeah I do think about the messages I send.. But most don't get seen. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Think about the quality of message you send out. Read a profile and put something from that in your message to prove you've read and are actually interested in that person not just what is in there pictures.
This is a swinging site not a quick fuck. People take time to build trust in a meet.
Look for the socials where you don't need a verified to attend to get yourself out there.
Patience!
Yeah I do think about the messages I send.. But most don't get seen. "
Remember that most women will look at a profile, before opening a message. If your's doesn't stand out, the message won't get read  . Fab is a tough mistress and you have to give yourself the best shot you can. I can't give profile advice, as you haven't asked for It, but i would suggest looking there, rather than what you are doing wrong with your messages |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've been reading through lots of profiles recently and I noticed that most people have met up with others and I find this hard to believe considering most days I can't even get a reply to my messages, nevermind meet up with someone for a coffee or sex! Lol.
What am I doing wrong?? "
There is nothing about you on your profile. What do you offer?? Why should someone choose you over the 1000s of other single men here?? You need to stand out and at present you don't, sorry OP. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Your profile is your shop window, do you think yours is outstanding?"
No I don't think my profile is standing out from all the others on this site.. But then again I see some with one pic and little description and they are doing fine! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Think about the quality of message you send out. Read a profile and put something from that in your message to prove you've read and are actually interested in that person not just what is in there pictures.
This is a swinging site not a quick fuck. People take time to build trust in a meet.
Look for the socials where you don't need a verified to attend to get yourself out there.
Patience!
Yeah I do think about the messages I send.. But most don't get seen.
Remember that most women will look at a profile, before opening a message. If your's doesn't stand out, the message won't get read . Fab is a tough mistress and you have to give yourself the best shot you can. I can't give profile advice, as you haven't asked for It, but i would suggest looking there, rather than what you are doing wrong with your messages "
Well I guess my face is scaring them away then lol.
I thought a selfie would of been better than a dick pic, but maybe not on a site like this. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've been reading through lots of profiles recently and I noticed that most people have met up with others and I find this hard to believe considering most days I can't even get a reply to my messages, nevermind meet up with someone for a coffee or sex! Lol.
What am I doing wrong??
There is nothing about you on your profile. What do you offer?? Why should someone choose you over the 1000s of other single men here?? You need to stand out and at present you don't, sorry OP."
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Honestly, make that 1st message something interesting. The 1st few words are whats seen and if they include the words "f**k, fancy some, sexy" or related, generally the message comes from someone sending out 100 messages in the hope 1 will get a response. Agree with the replies further up, read someone profile 1st and be polite with a 1st message. Introduce yourself, say a little about yourself someone might want to ask more about you in return. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Honestly, make that 1st message something interesting. The 1st few words are whats seen and if they include the words "f**k, fancy some, sexy" or related, generally the message comes from someone sending out 100 messages in the hope 1 will get a response. Agree with the replies further up, read someone profile 1st and be polite with a 1st message. Introduce yourself, say a little about yourself someone might want to ask more about you in return. "
I don't use those words but I'm beginning to think I should because being polite isn't working for me.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Havin said this one woman asked to meet up with me for a coffee and I agreed, but since then she hasn't opened my message and it's been nearly 3 weeks!
Just doesn't make much sense to me |
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Make sure they're looking for a single man in their bio. As a couple we're not, but still get men messaging so they get ignored. If they're not willing to take the time to read, then we're not going to waste our time replying! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Make sure they're looking for a single man in their bio. As a couple we're not, but still get men messaging so they get ignored. If they're not willing to take the time to read, then we're not going to waste our time replying!"
Gotcha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've been reading through lots of profiles recently and I noticed that most people have met up with others and I find this hard to believe considering most days I can't even get a reply to my messages, nevermind meet up with someone for a coffee or sex! Lol.
What am I doing wrong??
There is nothing about you on your profile. What do you offer?? Why should someone choose you over the 1000s of other single men here?? You need to stand out and at present you don't, sorry OP.
How do men stand out to you? "
Humour, intelligence, attractive, gym/rugby fit. How do you think you can make yourself appealing to those you wish to meet OP?? This is about what you are trying to achieve after all |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Havin said this one woman asked to meet up with me for a coffee and I agreed, but since then she hasn't opened my message and it's been nearly 3 weeks!
Just doesn't make much sense to me "
She changed her mind I'd say
It happens.
Delete your sent messages then you can't worry yourself by checking whether they've been read or not. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The most successful single males with us have been polite,read the profile and prove they have and finally don't start with a. Want to fuck now b. Can I breed you missus these are the two things that Piss off princess peach |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've been reading through lots of profiles recently and I noticed that most people have met up with others and I find this hard to believe considering most days I can't even get a reply to my messages, nevermind meet up with someone for a coffee or sex! Lol.
What am I doing wrong??
There is nothing about you on your profile. What do you offer?? Why should someone choose you over the 1000s of other single men here?? You need to stand out and at present you don't, sorry OP.
How do men stand out to you?
Humour, intelligence, attractive, gym/rugby fit. How do you think you can make yourself appealing to those you wish to meet OP?? This is about what you are trying to achieve after all "
Well I'm not a gym goer or a rugby player and I don't consider myself attractive.. I thought I could turn on the humour and intelligence in conversation, but the chance to chat would be a fine thing. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"The most successful single males with us have been polite,read the profile and prove they have and finally don't start with a. Want to fuck now b. Can I breed you missus these are the two things that Piss off princess peach "
I see Mario |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've been reading through lots of profiles recently and I noticed that most people have met up with others and I find this hard to believe considering most days I can't even get a reply to my messages, nevermind meet up with someone for a coffee or sex! Lol.
What am I doing wrong??
There is nothing about you on your profile. What do you offer?? Why should someone choose you over the 1000s of other single men here?? You need to stand out and at present you don't, sorry OP.
How do men stand out to you?
Humour, intelligence, attractive, gym/rugby fit. How do you think you can make yourself appealing to those you wish to meet OP?? This is about what you are trying to achieve after all
Well I'm not a gym goer or a rugby player and I don't consider myself attractive.. I thought I could turn on the humour and intelligence in conversation, but the chance to chat would be a fine thing. "
Maybe if you gave a hint of what you could offer in your profile it would be a start. If you aren't getting replies/meets, your current approach is obviously not working for you. Your profile is your shop window so to speak |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yeah I'll have to rearrange my shop window and see if I can get chat's then.
Or just go to bars lol "
If going to bars works for you OP then stick to that. A lot of guys have more success in "real life" than on Fab |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Yeah I'll have to rearrange my shop window and see if I can get chat's then.
Or just go to bars lol
If going to bars works for you OP then stick to that. A lot of guys have more success in "real life" than on Fab "
Yes but I find this site addictive so I'll stay around.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yeah I'll have to rearrange my shop window and see if I can get chat's then.
Or just go to bars lol
If going to bars works for you OP then stick to that. A lot of guys have more success in "real life" than on Fab
Yes but I find this site addictive so I'll stay around.
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Well you have had plenty of good advice so hopefully your luck will change soon. All the best OP |
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OP.... If you are struggling to get your messages noticed, let alone replied to, the only advice I can give is to get yourself along to one of the various social events that are posted on these forums. Make an effort to engage in conversation and that way you will pick up a Veri or two. From there you will begin to gain traction and people will begin to give you some credence.
Despite the fact that I am well known in the socials scene (if I do say so myself), almost none of my messages are ever read let alone replied to. The ones that are replied to are to those people I have already met and established a rapport with at these social events. Single guys are a dime a dozen squared on here. Women simply do not have the time to filter the genuine people from the chancers and fantasists.
Unless you have something specific that women want (eg toned, or gorgeous face, or big cock etc (yes I realise that not all women are this fickle) ) and you still have something that makes you stand out compared to the other guys that also have these attributes, your profile and your messages will not be noticed by the masses.
Socials will be where you can use your real life personality and face to face interactions to get you to where it seems like you feel you should be in the scene.
And, in addition to the excellent advice 'MissP69' has given you, remember that a lot of people will also form judgements fairly or otherwise on your forum posts and how you interact with others on these pages. Everything you do on this site will leave a footprint that people can form an opinion about you with. So conduct yourself as true to yourself as you can all of the time and what is meant to be will be.
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TL:DR- get to a social and start your real relationship with the community there . |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Well you have had plenty of good advice so hopefully your luck will change soon. All the best OP
MissP...! Rating your own advice! Shame on you!  (I was gonna tell you two to get a room but......  ) "
Haha |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"OP.... If you are struggling to get your messages noticed, let alone replied to, the only advice I can give is to get yourself along to one of the various social events that are posted on these forums. Make an effort to engage in conversation and that way you will pick up a Veri or two. From there you will begin to gain traction and people will begin to give you some credence.
Despite the fact that I am well known in the socials scene (if I do say so myself), almost none of my messages are ever read let alone replied to. The ones that are replied to are to those people I have already met and established a rapport with at these social events. Single guys are a dime a dozen squared on here. Women simply do not have the time to filter the genuine people from the chancers and fantasists.
Unless you have something specific that women want (eg toned, or gorgeous face, or big cock etc (yes I realise that not all women are this fickle) ) and you still have something that makes you stand out compared to the other guys that also have these attributes, your profile and your messages will not be noticed by the masses.
Socials will be where you can use your real life personality and face to face interactions to get you to where it seems like you feel you should be in the scene.
And, in addition to the excellent advice 'MissP69' has given you, remember that a lot of people will also form judgements fairly or otherwise on your forum posts and how you interact with others on these pages. Everything you do on this site will leave a footprint that people can form an opinion about you with. So conduct yourself as true to yourself as you can all of the time and what is meant to be will be.
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TL:DR- get to a social and start your real relationship with the community there . "
Socials seem to be the way forward.. Though it's all new to me and I wouldn't like to go to one of those events alone.
Maybe one day though, thanks. |
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"Socials seem to be the way forward.. Though it's all new to me and I wouldn't like to go to one of those events alone.
Maybe one day though, thanks. "
You have been a member of this site for 8 months now. "New" is not a description that I would typically apply to your situation. I have given you the kind of advice I wish someone had given me when I was starting out. I can do no more except bite my tongue as I read the posts in the various forum threads you comment on.
Your path is your own. I wish you all the best in whatever direction it takes you . |
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"OP.... If you are struggling to get your messages noticed, let alone replied to, the only advice I can give is to get yourself along to one of the various social events that are posted on these forums. Make an effort to engage in conversation and that way you will pick up a Veri or two. From there you will begin to gain traction and people will begin to give you some credence.
As others have said do a social I attended my first social tonight and met some great friendly people
Despite the fact that I am well known in the socials scene (if I do say so myself), almost none of my messages are ever read let alone replied to. The ones that are replied to are to those people I have already met and established a rapport with at these social events. Single guys are a dime a dozen squared on here. Women simply do not have the time to filter the genuine people from the chancers and fantasists.
Unless you have something specific that women want (eg toned, or gorgeous face, or big cock etc (yes I realise that not all women are this fickle) ) and you still have something that makes you stand out compared to the other guys that also have these attributes, your profile and your messages will not be noticed by the masses.
Socials will be where you can use your real life personality and face to face interactions to get you to where it seems like you feel you should be in the scene.
And, in addition to the excellent advice 'MissP69' has given you, remember that a lot of people will also form judgements fairly or otherwise on your forum posts and how you interact with others on these pages. Everything you do on this site will leave a footprint that people can form an opinion about you with. So conduct yourself as true to yourself as you can all of the time and what is meant to be will be.
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TL:DR- get to a social and start your real relationship with the community there .
Socials seem to be the way forward.. Though it's all new to me and I wouldn't like to go to one of those events alone.
Maybe one day though, thanks. "
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The most successful single guy we know on here (he's now part of a couple on here) never sent a first message, ever.
He would reply if someone messaged him, but he never initiated a conversation.
But he became very popular, going to clubs, and parties, and having lots of fun.
So, what was his secret?
It's already been mentioned a couple of times on this thread....socials.
He attended as many as he could, made friends, went to clubs too and did the same.
He was chatty, polite, friendly, and never pushy. I hope he forgives me for saying this, but he ain't the most handsome of guys, and he doesn't have a ripped body, but he is genuine.
He did the "hard yards" at the beginning, and then got invites to parties and events.
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"The most successful single guy we know on here (he's now part of a couple on here) never sent a first message, ever.
He would reply if someone messaged him, but he never initiated a conversation.
But he became very popular, going to clubs, and parties, and having lots of fun.
So, what was his secret?
It's already been mentioned a couple of times on this thread....socials.
He attended as many as he could, made friends, went to clubs too and did the same.
He was chatty, polite, friendly, and never pushy. I hope he forgives me for saying this, but he ain't the most handsome of guys, and he doesn't have a ripped body, but he is genuine.
He did the "hard yards" at the beginning, and then got invites to parties and events.
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The problem is a lot (not all) guys join and expect to be flooded with minge. They intend on making no effort whatsoever. Except the effort to complain on the forums when things don't go their way. |
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"The most successful single guy we know on here (he's now part of a couple on here) never sent a first message, ever.
He would reply if someone messaged him, but he never initiated a conversation.
But he became very popular, going to clubs, and parties, and having lots of fun.
So, what was his secret?
It's already been mentioned a couple of times on this thread....socials.
He attended as many as he could, made friends, went to clubs too and did the same.
He was chatty, polite, friendly, and never pushy. I hope he forgives me for saying this, but he ain't the most handsome of guys, and he doesn't have a ripped body, but he is genuine.
He did the "hard yards" at the beginning, and then got invites to parties and events.
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I think I know who you are talking about. I jokingly tell him, he's like a female on here |
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"Socials seem to be the way forward.. Though it's all new to me and I wouldn't like to go to one of those events alone.
Maybe one day though, thanks.
You have been a member of this site for 8 months now. "New" is not a description that I would
typically apply to your situation.
I have given you the kind of advice I wish someone had given me when I was starting out. I can do no more except bite my tongue as I read the posts in the various
forum threads you comment on.
Your path is your own. I wish you all the best in whatever direction it takes you . "
I've only been using this since the middle of January.. Before then I signed in but didn't use it until I came back on the 14th of Jan this year.
I decided to try it again after a woman told me about fab and when I came back to it I was surprised to see I have been here before, because I completely forgot about it. |
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"The most successful single guy we know on here (he's now part of a couple on here) never sent a first message, ever.
He would reply if someone messaged him, but he never initiated a conversation.
But he became very popular, going to clubs, and parties, and having lots of fun.
So, what was his secret?
It's already been mentioned a couple of times on this thread....socials.
He attended as many as he could, made friends, went to clubs too and did the same.
He was chatty, polite, friendly, and never pushy. I hope he forgives me for saying this, but he ain't the most handsome of guys, and he doesn't have a ripped body, but he is genuine.
He did the "hard yards" at the beginning, and then got invites to parties and events.
I think I know who you are talking about. I jokingly tell him, he's like a female on here "
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"The most successful single guy we know on here (he's now part of a couple on here) never sent a first message, ever.
He would reply if someone messaged him, but he never initiated a conversation.
But he became very popular, going to clubs, and parties, and having lots of fun.
So, what was his secret?
It's already been mentioned a couple of times on this thread....socials.
He attended as many as he could, made friends, went to clubs too and did the same.
He was chatty, polite, friendly, and never pushy. I hope he forgives me for saying this, but he ain't the most handsome of guys, and he doesn't have a ripped body, but he is genuine.
He did the "hard yards" at the beginning, and then got invites to parties and events.
I think I know who you are talking about. I jokingly tell him, he's like a female on here
Your too kind "
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"When I said its all new to me I meant socials and parties. I didn't realise they were so common and I'm not ignoring the advice, MissP69"
It's new to everyone at the beginning. If you look on other Welsh threads, you'll see quite a few socials and not all expect verifications. If you explain its your first time going to one, they will happily introduce you to a few people when you are there. They are a friendly bunch |
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"Il have to find out more about it because I'm not sure if I want to go to anything like that yet or if I ever would.
I've seen pics of socials or swinging clubs or whatever they're called with groups of naked men standing together along the bar and that's not for me.
I guess it's not all like this but I need time to get my head around it all."
It's a social. It's a place where people meet in a pub and get to know each other over drinks. Or there's bowling socials. Any form of naughtiness is not allowed and everybody is fully dressed at all times. You are confusing socials with swinging clubs. |
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Il have to find out more about it because I'm not sure if I want to go to anything like that yet or if I ever would.
I've seen pics of socials or swinging clubs or whatever they're called with groups of naked men standing together along the bar and that's not for me.
I also saw a video of people having unprotected sex and using the same condom on different women and I wouldn't want to associate with those kind of people
I guess it's not all like this but I need time to get my head around it all. |
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"Il have to find out more about it because I'm not sure if I want to go to anything like that yet or if I ever would.
I've seen pics of socials or swinging clubs or whatever they're called with groups of naked men standing together along the bar and that's not for me.
I also saw a video of people having unprotected sex and using the same condom on different women and I wouldn't want to associate with those kind of people
I guess it's not all like this but I need time to get my head around it all."
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"Il have to find out more about it because I'm not sure if I want to go to anything like that yet or if I ever would.
I've seen pics of socials or swinging clubs or whatever they're called with groups of naked men standing together along the bar and that's not for me.
I guess it's not all like this but I need time to get my head around it all.
It's a social. It's a place where people meet in a pub and get to know each other over drinks. Or there's bowling socials. Any form of naughtiness is not allowed and everybody is fully dressed at all times. You are confusing socials with swinging clubs. "
Ah, okay il see further into it when I have time |
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