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over a year ago
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Right, this might sound like a dumb question, but when someone suggests a social meet, what do you have in mind?
For me a social meet is to see if there’s a physical attraction and to help decide if I want to take it further. I don’t play on social meets. But does anyone else have any other thoughts or expectations when they go on one? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We are the same as you.. coffee or a glass of wine to chat and see if we click and to see if the attraction is there.
If all was good we'd contact the other party to see if they felt the same way and go from there. |
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over a year ago
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Coffee or drink on neutral ground with no expectation to play although I have been invited to a social at somebodys home before and clothes were falling off before the kettle had even finished boiling. No more than an hour and if there's something there then wrapping it up with a snog is nice. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always like a coffee meet in a public place. If there's a connection then another meet with play can be discussed. I have been kissed at the end of a coffee meet once which was lovely,but again there has to be a connection.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The most I usually do on a social meet is a snog and a grope over the clothes. It's about seeing if there is a connection and that attraction spark "
Get your coat...you've pulled! |
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over a year ago
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Social ..... go with the flow never pushy . What a social entails depends on how fun the person is I’m taking . Something as simple a coffee but if the other person is up for something wacky let’s go and do a duel bungee jump lol |
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"Right, this might sound like a dumb question, but when someone suggests a social meet, what do you have in mind?
For me a social meet is to see if there’s a physical attraction and to help decide if I want to take it further. I don’t play on social meets. But does anyone else have any other thoughts or expectations when they go on one?"
This, get a feel for the other person in a safe environment, where they don't have time to compose their answers and you get to see if their wit is legit with limited thinking time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A social meet can be just that, coffee a chat and nothing more. Not even about fancying more. It can be just social.
Ok so I've been to social meets that were about getting to know and setting up a play meet, but it's not a requirement for me. I can just be social.
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over a year ago
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Glad I’m not the only one who thinks along these lines.
I’ve been slated this week for not being keen/showing interest on a social meet, and kind of feel that more was expected of me. I did make it clear beforehand that it was a social meet, but started to wonder if there are certain expectations that go along with such a meet.
Anyone else come across this before?
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If you'd made it clear it was just a social then there's no extra expectations on you. Some people may take that as a bit of a 'just a social, wink wink' so may go in with more expectations than you.
Spelling it out in the arranging phase is key. We've had a couple of pre-club socials with couples who we've been chatting with for a while. We already knew we got on with them from an online perspective. We'd arranged to visit a new club together on the basis that if we didn't click then we'd just enjoy the club together but not play.
That's always gone over just fine as we all knew where we stood. Same with 'just drinks' socials. |
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"Glad I’m not the only one who thinks along these lines.
I’ve been slated this week for not being keen/showing interest on a social meet, and kind of feel that more was expected of me. I did make it clear beforehand that it was a social meet, but started to wonder if there are certain expectations that go along with such a meet.
Anyone else come across this before?
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Looks like the social did its job and ed out someone unsuitable then.
I don't know how anyone can expect more from a social but I guess some people have a huge sense of entitlement.
Whatever happened to no pressure meets eh? |
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I had a social meet today. Chose a neutral venue. Met for drinks and chat to see if we got on in person and any spark. Had a blast and a great laugh then went back to the cars and the chemistry was there so we had a bit of a snog etc
Went home and contacted to say I got home safe and now we have agreed to have a proper full blown meet.
Always a social first i think
If the spark ain’t there then you can both go your separate ways with no hassle.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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They used to be coffees in a costa or the like but I was gkingbon so many it got embarrassing and plus if I didn't fancy the guy I just wanted to leave quickly. Now I'll just meet them in the car park of a Starbucks and if I fancy them then I'll get in their car or them in mine and we'll have a drive through coffee!
That being said the last guy I met for a social a few months back now was so stunning I got in his car and he said shall we just have a cuppa tea in yours and we just fucked there and then in my house. |
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As long as both parties consent a social can turn into sex BUT if one party is not happy or comfortable with the other then the choice to have a coffee/chat then message later to say thanks but no thanks applies. That way there is no awkwardness and dignity is intact.
Until you meet in person you don’t totally know the other person and a social is ideal for that.
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In my book a social is just that, a cuppa or a drink somewhere public, just to see if you click. If you do click there and then and both are happy to go for it then fair play carry on. Just don,t do it at the bar
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