FabSwingers.com > Forums > Wales > Entitlement ..
Entitlement ..
Jump to: Newest in thread
 |
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
After so, so many threads surrounding the subject and it being listed as a No No on the majority of women's profiles ..
Why oh why do I and probably every other woman and couple receive the Meet Now or words to that effect messages, so often ..
Starting to drive me a little insane ..
Am I under using my block facility? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"It drives me nuts. Even when it's stated on my profile they still choose to ignore it. I'd never meet anyone without alot of messaging and coffee. X"
The rationale is mind boggling ..
I wonder how successful they are outside of fab where women are concerned ? Get.. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Sure it is common courtesy to get to know the person first. Just because they are on this site doesn't give anyone the god given right to demand anything.
Manners will get you a long way in life. Rudeness definitely not! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"After so, so many threads surrounding the subject and it being listed as a No No on the majority of women's profiles ..
Why oh why do I and probably every other woman and couple receive the Meet Now or words to that effect messages, so often ..
Starting to drive me a little insane ..
Am I under using my block facility? "
It doesn't just come from the single guys tho either. Plenty of couples don't read profiles either |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Definitely use the block button more.
People who cannot be bothered to read a profile are going to be great at conversing.
It is strange people's reactions when we won't play without a social first, they think we are doing something wrong!
Best to ignore and enjoy the real people on here. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"We have nothing left on our profile now as we're not meeting and still get the fancy meeting now type of messages.
I'd turn all the filters on then they can't message  "
We do actually talk to people so filters will stay as they are.  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I mention this over & over again but for some reason I get slated for doing so, that sense of entitlement or of desperation is off putting & we proactively use our block button. If we don't like the look, the read, the posts of a profile we block, it's a tool developed by fab for a reason so why people get so arsey or sensitive is beyond us. Call us ignorant, call us whatever its better than having a sense of entitlement to something. Happy swinging X |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Gonna get slaughtered for this but ladies please don't tar all men with the same brush..... Obviously there are people who give others bad experiences on the site through persistent messaging, rudeness or general lack of manners/respect, but not everyone is like that,some are actually interested in taking the time to chat for a while first, you know in order to avoid the bunny boilers .
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Well that's obvious, those of us who post negatively do meet single men & have verifications to prove this. We're talking about a group of people who feel they are 'entitled' to certain things, it's not singling out only men & it doesn't mention 'everybody' X |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"Gonna get slaughtered for this but ladies please don't tar all men with the same brush..... Obviously there are people who give others bad experiences on the site through persistent messaging, rudeness or general lack of manners/respect, but not everyone is like that,some are actually interested in taking the time to chat for a while first, you know in order to avoid the bunny boilers .
"
It's not relative to everybody .. I meet single men and attend socials etc .. and have experienced first hand that not everybody acts in this way , it's tiring though and quite outputting to sift through when you get Hundreds of messages a week ..
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"It's not relative to everybody .. I meet single men and attend socials etc .. and have experienced first hand that not everybody acts in this way , it's tiring though and quite outputting to sift through when you get Hundreds of messages a week ..
"
Then to answer your question in the OP, yes, you aren't using the block button enough. Make it your best friend on here  . I have seen first hand how many messages women get and I don't know how people cope. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Gonna get slaughtered for this but ladies please don't tar all men with the same brush..... Obviously there are people who give others bad experiences on the site through persistent messaging, rudeness or general lack of manners/respect, but not everyone is like that,some are actually interested in taking the time to chat for a while first, you know in order to avoid the bunny boilers .
It's not relative to everybody .. I meet single men and attend socials etc .. and have experienced first hand that not everybody acts in this way , it's tiring though and quite outputting to sift through when you get Hundreds of messages a week ..
"
Fancy meeting now Ktkat  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"Gonna get slaughtered for this but ladies please don't tar all men with the same brush..... Obviously there are people who give others bad experiences on the site through persistent messaging, rudeness or general lack of manners/respect, but not everyone is like that,some are actually interested in taking the time to chat for a while first, you know in order to avoid the bunny boilers .
It's not relative to everybody .. I meet single men and attend socials etc .. and have experienced first hand that not everybody acts in this way , it's tiring though and quite outputting to sift through when you get Hundreds of messages a week ..
Fancy meeting now Ktkat "
Aww Max-banging.. I'll marry you one day once I've finished having my fun ! Haha .. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Entitlement is always to be condemned, but that said could the women on this thread please queue up outside my house in, say, 20 mins and could someone bring a pizza. Thanks. (by the way I might be a late myself). Xxx |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Entitlement is always to be condemned, but that said could the women on this thread please queue up outside my house in, say, 20 mins and could someone bring a pizza. Thanks. (by the way I might be a late myself). Xxx "
What toppings? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
It's this very reason I get so annoyed on here. Sick of going through messages to find the decent ones  not just guys! Couples don't bother reading our profile either. Our block list is massive xxmiss |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Ha ha ha ! An extremely rare kind of pepperoni made by shepherds on the slopes of the Pyrenees, if that's ok. I think Waitrose in Cardiff is still open. "
My fave shop, now don't hold your breath because I could be a while... |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"It's this very reason I get so annoyed on here. Sick of going through messages to find the decent ones not just guys! Couples don't bother reading our profile either. Our block list is massive xxmiss "
& single females, we had a message last week & all it said was 'face pics'. When I asked why she replied 'cos I might want to meet you'. We hadn't even looked, winked or messaged her... Blocked |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Ha ha ha ! An extremely rare kind of pepperoni made by shepherds on the slopes of the Pyrenees, if that's ok. I think Waitrose in Cardiff is still open.
My fave shop, now don't hold your breath because I could be a while... "
You are a very good sport. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Has there been a rise in the number of stupid here, such as those who insist on sending these types of messages? I get them too. Do the senders delude themselves that they have a chance, even when the profile says they'll be ignored/blocked? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"typo
Has there been a rise in the number of stupid people here, such as those who insist on sending these types of messages? I get them too. Do the senders delude themselves that they have a chance, even when the profile says they'll be ignored/blocked? "
Has there been a rise in the number of stupid here, such as those who insist on sending these types of messages? I get them too. Do the senders delude themselves that they have a chance, even when the profile says they'll be ignored/blocked?
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"After so, so many threads surrounding the subject and it being listed as a No No on the majority of women's profiles ..
Why oh why do I and probably every other woman and couple receive the Meet Now or words to that effect messages, so often ..
Starting to drive me a little insane ..
Am I under using my block facility? "
Maybe it’s not so much a sense of entitlement as arrogance or just simply trying it on? We all hear the frustrations of single guys here that it’s hard to even get someone to read messages, perhaps it’s just a ‘fuck it, I may as well’ kind of reaction. Can’t speak for these people, nor am I, like others it seems, ever likely to reply to them. I also very rarely use my block button. I find simply deleting a message without replying works fine, but I would use my block if a person became persistent or rude - it just hasn’t happened yet.
Might just get slated for this but I think it’s more often women on here with what seems to be a sense of entitlement. And I’m not saying that applies to the majority here, ive just personally felt that more often from women than single guys. Or maybe it’s an entitlement to something different, respect/admiration rather than purely sex? I don’t know, just trying to be balanced. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"After so, so many threads surrounding the subject and it being listed as a No No on the majority of women's profiles ..
Why oh why do I and probably every other woman and couple receive the Meet Now or words to that effect messages, so often ..
Starting to drive me a little insane ..
Am I under using my block facility?
Maybe it’s not so much a sense of entitlement as arrogance or just simply trying it on? We all hear the frustrations of single guys here that it’s hard to even get someone to read messages, perhaps it’s just a ‘fuck it, I may as well’ kind of reaction. Can’t speak for these people, nor am I, like others it seems, ever likely to reply to them. I also very rarely use my block button. I find simply deleting a message without replying works fine, but I would use my block if a person became persistent or rude - it just hasn’t happened yet.
Might just get slated for this but I think it’s more often women on here with what seems to be a sense of entitlement. And I’m not saying that applies to the majority here, ive just personally felt that more often from women than single guys. Or maybe it’s an entitlement to something different, respect/admiration rather than purely sex? I don’t know, just trying to be balanced. "
I would have to agree with pretty much all of what you've just wrote. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Gonna get slaughtered for this but ladies please don't tar all men with the same brush..... Obviously there are people who give others bad experiences on the site through persistent messaging, rudeness or general lack of manners/respect, but not everyone is like that,some are actually interested in taking the time to chat for a while first, you know in order to avoid the bunny boilers .
It's not relative to everybody .. I meet single men and attend socials etc .. and have experienced first hand that not everybody acts in this way , it's tiring though and quite outputting to sift through when you get Hundreds of messages a week ..
Fancy meeting now Ktkat "
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Understood, but what’s equally annoying is when you send a polite message which gets read , deleted and no polite reply stating no thanks, the same words raise their ugly head ‘timewasters’
Not all single guys are bad ! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *FFB69Woman
over a year ago
Torfaen/Gwent |
"Understood, but what’s equally annoying is when you send a polite message which gets read , deleted and no polite reply stating no thanks, the same words raise their ugly head ‘timewasters’
Not all single guys are bad !"
This has been rehashed time and time again. Read the FAQs. Some days I have literally over 100 messages in my inbox. I don’t have time to reply to every single one. Polite or not, if I’m not interested I just delete it. Because that’s the way it is on fab.
Deleting a message is not wasting your time. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Understood, but what’s equally annoying is when you send a polite message which gets read , deleted and no polite reply stating no thanks, the same words raise their ugly head ‘timewasters’
Not all single guys are bad !"
Can't believe I'm saying this, but this could also be a form of entitlement to which nobody is due.....  . |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Definitely use the block button more.
People who cannot be bothered to read a profile are going to be great at conversing.
It is strange people's reactions when we won't play without a social first, they think we are doing something wrong!
Best to ignore and enjoy the real people on here. "
Totally this.
The block button is your best friend.
If they've not got the decency to read your profile or to put an effort in, and if you don't fancy them, blocking is the way to effectively 'delete' them from your own Fab community.
We get a lot of "I'm in a hotel. Pop around." As if!! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Understood, but what’s equally annoying is when you send a polite message which gets read , deleted and no polite reply stating no thanks, the same words raise their ugly head ‘timewasters’
Not all single guys are bad !"
On the flip side, you scroll through and decide who and who not to message right? You don’t message every single female whose profile you look at? Only the ones who you like the look of...
So perhaps you should think along the lines that the females you message, also have the same mindset.. we are “entitled” to chose who we message. Whether that person has messaged us first is totally irrelevant. Why would we start messaging every man on fab? We only message the ones who we like and are attracted to.  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Definitely use the block button more.
People who cannot be bothered to read a profile are going to be great at conversing.
It is strange people's reactions when we won't play without a social first, they think we are doing something wrong!
Best to ignore and enjoy the real people on here.
Totally this.
The block button is your best friend.
If they've not got the decency to read your profile or to put an effort in, and if you don't fancy them, blocking is the way to effectively 'delete' them from your own Fab community.
We get a lot of "I'm in a hotel. Pop around." As if!!"
So if a person had the decency to read your profile and script a nice message suited to you but you didn't fancy him you'd just block him? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Definitely use the block button more.
People who cannot be bothered to read a profile are going to be great at conversing.
It is strange people's reactions when we won't play without a social first, they think we are doing something wrong!
Best to ignore and enjoy the real people on here.
Totally this.
The block button is your best friend.
If they've not got the decency to read your profile or to put an effort in, and if you don't fancy them, blocking is the way to effectively 'delete' them from your own Fab community.
We get a lot of "I'm in a hotel. Pop around." As if!!
So if a person had the decency to read your profile and script a nice message suited to you but you didn't fancy him you'd just block him?"
I guess it is the easiest way of avoiding the risk of them not being able to take no thankyou for an answer and avoids any confusion
Saves either party wasting the others time any further, so I totally get this approach |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Definitely use the block button more.
People who cannot be bothered to read a profile are going to be great at conversing.
It is strange people's reactions when we won't play without a social first, they think we are doing something wrong!
Best to ignore and enjoy the real people on here.
Totally this.
The block button is your best friend.
If they've not got the decency to read your profile or to put an effort in, and if you don't fancy them, blocking is the way to effectively 'delete' them from your own Fab community.
We get a lot of "I'm in a hotel. Pop around." As if!!
So if a person had the decency to read your profile and script a nice message suited to you but you didn't fancy him you'd just block him?
I guess it is the easiest way of avoiding the risk of them not being able to take no thankyou for an answer and avoids any confusion
Saves either party wasting the others time any further, so I totally get this approach"
Then surly if people keep getting blanked after taking the time to write a well thought out message they'll just end up sending the 'hi type message. Then people come on the forums moaning about getting shit messages.. bit of a no win situation for them really in my humble opinion. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Definitely use the block button more.
People who cannot be bothered to read a profile are going to be great at conversing.
It is strange people's reactions when we won't play without a social first, they think we are doing something wrong!
Best to ignore and enjoy the real people on here.
Totally this.
The block button is your best friend.
If they've not got the decency to read your profile or to put an effort in, and if you don't fancy them, blocking is the way to effectively 'delete' them from your own Fab community.
We get a lot of "I'm in a hotel. Pop around." As if!!
So if a person had the decency to read your profile and script a nice message suited to you but you didn't fancy him you'd just block him?
I guess it is the easiest way of avoiding the risk of them not being able to take no thankyou for an answer and avoids any confusion
Saves either party wasting the others time any further, so I totally get this approach
Then surly if people keep getting blanked after taking the time to write a well thought out message they'll just end up sending the 'hi type message. Then people come on the forums moaning about getting shit messages.. bit of a no win situation for them really in my humble opinion. "
If they go on to resort to that type of message then I guess the correct decision was to block at the initial contact |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"Definitely use the block button more.
People who cannot be bothered to read a profile are going to be great at conversing.
It is strange people's reactions when we won't play without a social first, they think we are doing something wrong!
Best to ignore and enjoy the real people on here.
Totally this.
The block button is your best friend.
If they've not got the decency to read your profile or to put an effort in, and if you don't fancy them, blocking is the way to effectively 'delete' them from your own Fab community.
We get a lot of "I'm in a hotel. Pop around." As if!!
So if a person had the decency to read your profile and script a nice message suited to you but you didn't fancy him you'd just block him?
I guess it is the easiest way of avoiding the risk of them not being able to take no thankyou for an answer and avoids any confusion
Saves either party wasting the others time any further, so I totally get this approach
Then surly if people keep getting blanked after taking the time to write a well thought out message they'll just end up sending the 'hi type message. Then people come on the forums moaning about getting shit messages.. bit of a no win situation for them really in my humble opinion. "
What would you suggest is a better (realistic) approach ? So that all parties are happy and are not left open to abuse ?
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Think we're just rude as fuck, even the word 'decency' implies an expected response. If said person approached a single female in the street uninvited & began a conversation would it be rude to ignore & walk away? A no response or block is deemed a not interested. You know what these threads have been going on for the whole 8 years plus we've been here, why not just accept some people like to be seen to be polite & seem to have time in their lives to reply & others just don't see why they should & have other more important things to do than worry about a strangers ego X |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Definitely use the block button more.
People who cannot be bothered to read a profile are going to be great at conversing.
It is strange people's reactions when we won't play without a social first, they think we are doing something wrong!
Best to ignore and enjoy the real people on here.
Totally this.
The block button is your best friend.
If they've not got the decency to read your profile or to put an effort in, and if you don't fancy them, blocking is the way to effectively 'delete' them from your own Fab community.
We get a lot of "I'm in a hotel. Pop around." As if!!
So if a person had the decency to read your profile and script a nice message suited to you but you didn't fancy him you'd just block him?
I guess it is the easiest way of avoiding the risk of them not being able to take no thankyou for an answer and avoids any confusion
Saves either party wasting the others time any further, so I totally get this approach
Then surly if people keep getting blanked after taking the time to write a well thought out message they'll just end up sending the 'hi type message. Then people come on the forums moaning about getting shit messages.. bit of a no win situation for them really in my humble opinion.
If they go on to resort to that type of message then I guess the correct decision was to block at the initial contact "
I'd imagine if a person sent say 50 really good messages and didn't get one reply then then I can personally see why he'd give up trying. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I just don't get why people take being blocked so personally.
If I messaged someone and they blocked me it would be pretty clear they didn't want to engage any further so I would move on.
Maybe I am under thinking it ?? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Definitely use the block button more.
People who cannot be bothered to read a profile are going to be great at conversing.
It is strange people's reactions when we won't play without a social first, they think we are doing something wrong!
Best to ignore and enjoy the real people on here.
Totally this.
The block button is your best friend.
If they've not got the decency to read your profile or to put an effort in, and if you don't fancy them, blocking is the way to effectively 'delete' them from your own Fab community.
We get a lot of "I'm in a hotel. Pop around." As if!!
So if a person had the decency to read your profile and script a nice message suited to you but you didn't fancy him you'd just block him?
I guess it is the easiest way of avoiding the risk of them not being able to take no thankyou for an answer and avoids any confusion
Saves either party wasting the others time any further, so I totally get this approach
Then surly if people keep getting blanked after taking the time to write a well thought out message they'll just end up sending the 'hi type message. Then people come on the forums moaning about getting shit messages.. bit of a no win situation for them really in my humble opinion.
If they go on to resort to that type of message then I guess the correct decision was to block at the initial contact
I'd imagine if a person sent say 50 really good messages and didn't get one reply then then I can personally see why he'd give up trying."
The only common denominator there would be the message sender |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Think we're just rude as fuck, even the word 'decency' implies an expected response. If said person approached a single female in the street uninvited & began a conversation would it be rude to ignore & walk away? A no response or block is deemed a not interested. You know what these threads have been going on for the whole 8 years plus we've been here, why not just accept some people like to be seen to be polite & seem to have time in their lives to reply & others just don't see why they should & have other more important things to do than worry about a strangers ego X"
To be honest I personally find you very rude but in a life away from your keyboard you could be the nicest person in the world... something I have no intention of finding out. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
No need to get personal....
The irony here is laughable. A debate from all sides turns into a personal dig. Hence why some singles find it easier to just block, as entering into a conversation results in insults when the view differs.
Shame. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"No need to get personal....
The irony here is laughable. A debate from all sides turns into a personal dig. Hence why some singles find it easier to just block, as entering into a conversation results in insults when the view differs.
Shame. "
Some seem to think its fine for themselves to be rude but happy to call others out on it when they don't agree with their opinion.
They also don't like suggestion or sense of humours |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I have given up messaging women on here now. You either get a instant block or a read and deleted message!
I find myself a decent looking guy, a very good lifestyle ect. But I fail dreadfully on here. Maybe I'm to polite
I just come on here now to look at the forums. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Yes we delete and block even if the message is polite.
We don't see anything wrong with that. If wife doesn't fancy them it's dead in the water.
For us blocking isn't an aggressive statement. It's just a way of clearing the decks of people we're not interested in.
I appreciate how hard it is for singles, but at the same time we've learned that a polite no thank you giving a reason all too often leads to a follow-on message from the guy.
It happened recently. The guy was nice and his message polite, but he lived too close.
I explained this to him, only to receive another message saying "Actually I live in..." trying to make out his profile location wasn't honest.
I didn't want to debate it so I simply blocked.
You learn quick enough that a response, even to politely reject somebody, only encourages them to try and convince you otherwise. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
The fact that some of the posters here have blocked me (presumably based on my comments here) is amusing to me for the simple fact that I haven't even messaged them and yet they have made up their minds. Am I concerned? Am I bothered? No, it is entirely their decision. Do I feel the need to block back? No, in case we ever cross paths at a social without realising.
The problem is with words on a screen is that they are very easily mistaken in intention, tone, and sincerity. It's why I won't message anyone I haven't met in person previously, unless it is about a comment in a thread and directly concerns them in some way. Funnily enough those messages always get read and replied to as well, but it gets left there and nothing further is said. The thing is that women and couples get dozens, and some hundreds, of messages a day. It actually becomes a chore to process through them, so bulk deletes are inevitable. There literally are not enough hours in the day to read them all, let alone reply. It is supposed to be a website aimed towards fun, not Admin. So blocking becomes a tool in which you can stem the tide somewhat.
There are guys who see a single woman online who think "Oh, she must want some right now, let's see if I can get lucky". Why they think that, I don't know, maybe they really the sort that think a short skirt is an advert for sexual availability as well, who knows. Too many men (including those in couples) think it's Instashag on here, it isn't. Women do too but those are few and far between and I am not aware of any, but when they can literally click their fingers and have a choice of 50 guys in 3 seconds to choose from, they don't help anyone.
People are not obliged to sleep with anyone just because they happen to be members and online at the same time as you. Guys forget that in their testosterone induced hazes.
I can see everyone's opinions on here as valid, that's the thing. But what works for you doesn't necessarily work for someone else and to try and make it all about yourself is the worst form of entitlement so far.
Happy Fab'ing folks, nothing else to say on the matter now. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Yes we delete and block even if the message is polite.
We don't see anything wrong with that. If wife doesn't fancy them it's dead in the water.
For us blocking isn't an aggressive statement. It's just a way of clearing the decks of people we're not interested in.
I appreciate how hard it is for singles, but at the same time we've learned that a polite no thank you giving a reason all too often leads to a follow-on message from the guy.
It happened recently. The guy was nice and his message polite, but he lived too close.
I explained this to him, only to receive another message saying "Actually I live in..." trying to make out his profile location wasn't honest.
I didn't want to debate it so I simply blocked.
You learn quick enough that a response, even to politely reject somebody, only encourages them to try and convince you otherwise."
Thank you for the kind block, even though I have never messaged you
Touching on the message regarding location, mine is set at Swansea however I don't live in Swansea I live a few miles outside Swansea, and I use it because it's just the closest bigger City to me I guess.
Anyway as I am blocked without ever speaking I guess you won't care what I have to say!
Be safe |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"No need to get personal....
The irony here is laughable. A debate from all sides turns into a personal dig. Hence why some singles find it easier to just block, as entering into a conversation results in insults when the view differs.
Shame.
Some seem to think its fine for themselves to be rude but happy to call others out on it when they don't agree with their opinion.
They also don't like suggestion or sense of humours "
Daren't even attempt to be humorous on here these days Snow
Wouldn't want to spoil peoples' misery  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Think we're just rude as fuck, even the word 'decency' implies an expected response. If said person approached a single female in the street uninvited & began a conversation would it be rude to ignore & walk away? A no response or block is deemed a not interested. You know what these threads have been going on for the whole 8 years plus we've been here, why not just accept some people like to be seen to be polite & seem to have time in their lives to reply & others just don't see why they should & have other more important things to do than worry about a strangers ego X
To be honest I personally find you very rude but in a life away from your keyboard you could be the nicest person in the world... something I have no intention of finding out."
No, I'm the same in real life I am me I have Aspergers & that makes me what I am, I've long since learnt my social filtering is lacking but I'm consistently rudely open. A keyboard, phone, face to face those who know me know this is me. But I do try my best not to aim comments directly at a single person, but it is fucking hard so I don't take offence when it happens to me here. Luckily I have a very, very polite partner who balances my responses in the real world X |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
I think if only guys would msg who they actually take a real fancy towards be it by profile or pic instead of messaging loads just in the hope of a quick shag it may make it easier all around---just my view before the usual hate mail lol it then may stop the demanding of certain few!!!--I stick to messaging who I think may actually match me the. If no reply then move on--I do understand however when you are polite and take time to msg not even a no thanks is abit harsh maybe my above thoughts may help filter a tad----doubt it to be fair as I said on many occasions I honestly think a fem corpse would still get a ton o msgs on this crazy site pms |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
I should add...
We also use block as a way to 'collect' people we're interested in.
We regularly check who's looked at us. If they're not suitable for whatever reason, we block.
That way our 'Looked at you' list is now a list of people we like the look of.
I know we could add them to our Hotlist, but we use that for a different reason again.
It's all about good housekeeping and keeping our Fab experience organised and is not a comment on anyone we block (other than they're not what we're looking for). |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I understand what you all mean. It's crazy to see how many messages women and couples get on here and with no substance.
It's hardly an attractive thing and leaves people with a feeling of there being nothing to explore. It's shallow.
So.....anyone wanna meet now!? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I understand what you all mean. It's crazy to see how many messages women and couples get on here and with no substance.
It's hardly an attractive thing and leaves people with a feeling of there being nothing to explore. It's shallow.
So.....anyone wanna meet now!? "
I'd meet. Oh hang on we are already in the same house lol |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I just don't get why people take being blocked so personally.
If I messaged someone and they blocked me it would be pretty clear they didn't want to engage any further so I would move on.
Maybe I am under thinking it ??"
I couldn’t agree more with this, I block people daily who aren’t my type as past experiences of replying to them mostly ended in abuse, or asking why they aren’t our type! I shouldn’t have to explain why I’m not interested I’m just bloody not xx |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I just don't get why people take being blocked so personally.
If I messaged someone and they blocked me it would be pretty clear they didn't want to engage any further so I would move on.
Maybe I am under thinking it ??
I couldn’t agree more with this, I block people daily who aren’t my type as past experiences of replying to them mostly ended in abuse, or asking why they aren’t our type! I shouldn’t have to explain why I’m not interested I’m just bloody not xx"
Don't just get it on here either. Why I don't always reply anymore.
Only Monday I had a barrel of abuse off a guy of pof after saying sorry not my type. What's laughable is they're the ones that approach you yet you become the cunt for having the audacity to say No!! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I just don't get why people take being blocked so personally.
If I messaged someone and they blocked me it would be pretty clear they didn't want to engage any further so I would move on.
Maybe I am under thinking it ??
I couldn’t agree more with this, I block people daily who aren’t my type as past experiences of replying to them mostly ended in abuse, or asking why they aren’t our type! I shouldn’t have to explain why I’m not interested I’m just bloody not xx
Don't just get it on here either. Why I don't always reply anymore.
Only Monday I had a barrel of abuse off a guy of pof after saying sorry not my type. What's laughable is they're the ones that approach you yet you become the cunt for having the audacity to say No!! "
Well it sounds like you had a lucky escape. Nobody wants to date or have fun with someone abusive. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I just don't get why people take being blocked so personally.
If I messaged someone and they blocked me it would be pretty clear they didn't want to engage any further so I would move on.
Maybe I am under thinking it ??
I couldn’t agree more with this, I block people daily who aren’t my type as past experiences of replying to them mostly ended in abuse, or asking why they aren’t our type! I shouldn’t have to explain why I’m not interested I’m just bloody not xx
Don't just get it on here either. Why I don't always reply anymore.
Only Monday I had a barrel of abuse off a guy of pof after saying sorry not my type. What's laughable is they're the ones that approach you yet you become the cunt for having the audacity to say No!! "
Yes I. Know I did see that it’s awful why are people just ass holes lol this is why I’ve always said I’m not a people person and I’m far from a. Lover of the human race! Animals are so much more kind and loyal xx |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I just don't get why people take being blocked so personally.
If I messaged someone and they blocked me it would be pretty clear they didn't want to engage any further so I would move on.
Maybe I am under thinking it ??
I couldn’t agree more with this, I block people daily who aren’t my type as past experiences of replying to them mostly ended in abuse, or asking why they aren’t our type! I shouldn’t have to explain why I’m not interested I’m just bloody not xx
Don't just get it on here either. Why I don't always reply anymore.
Only Monday I had a barrel of abuse off a guy of pof after saying sorry not my type. What's laughable is they're the ones that approach you yet you become the cunt for having the audacity to say No!!
Yes I. Know I did see that it’s awful why are people just ass holes lol this is why I’ve always said I’m not a people person and I’m far from a. Lover of the human race! Animals are so much more kind and loyal xx"
You've obviously not met my pet Nile crocodile |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I just don't get why people take being blocked so personally.
If I messaged someone and they blocked me it would be pretty clear they didn't want to engage any further so I would move on.
Maybe I am under thinking it ??
I couldn’t agree more with this, I block people daily who aren’t my type as past experiences of replying to them mostly ended in abuse, or asking why they aren’t our type! I shouldn’t have to explain why I’m not interested I’m just bloody not xx
Don't just get it on here either. Why I don't always reply anymore.
Only Monday I had a barrel of abuse off a guy of pof after saying sorry not my type. What's laughable is they're the ones that approach you yet you become the cunt for having the audacity to say No!!
Yes I. Know I did see that it’s awful why are people just ass holes lol this is why I’ve always said I’m not a people person and I’m far from a. Lover of the human race! Animals are so much more kind and loyal xx
You've obviously not met my pet Nile crocodile"
Can I lend him to feed the ass holes in fab to? He would b full pretty quick tho |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I think if only guys would msg who they actually take a real fancy towards be it by profile or pic instead of messaging loads just in the hope of a quick shag it may make it easier all around---just my view before the usual hate mail lol it then may stop the demanding of certain few!!!--I stick to messaging who I think may actually match me the. If no reply then move on--I do understand however when you are polite and take time to msg not even a no thanks is abit harsh maybe my above thoughts may help filter a tad----doubt it to be fair as I said on many occasions I honestly think a fem corpse would still get a ton o msgs on this crazy site pms "
A well know female friend on here have tried a variety of profiles over the years as a joke, they all attract exactly the same people X |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I think if only guys would msg who they actually take a real fancy towards be it by profile or pic instead of messaging loads just in the hope of a quick shag it may make it easier all around---just my view before the usual hate mail lol it then may stop the demanding of certain few!!!--I stick to messaging who I think may actually match me the. If no reply then move on--I do understand however when you are polite and take time to msg not even a no thanks is abit harsh maybe my above thoughts may help filter a tad----doubt it to be fair as I said on many occasions I honestly think a fem corpse would still get a ton o msgs on this crazy site pms
A well know female friend on here have tried a variety of profiles over the years as a joke, they all attract exactly the same people X"
You always will ...They are called "desperados" unfortunately a lot of us single men get caught up in the ratio,but you know what it's like always a bloke, asking the same questions knowing the same response, We know and you know as women how many messages you women get so why ask the obvious allll the time. I do think if you have met certain people at a social and you could both verify each other that fab should have some sort of chat facility between each other's friends list so as a single male your message doesn't get lost with the weirdos. It's is sometimes for guys a lost cause unless you get to socials. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I think if only guys would msg who they actually take a real fancy towards be it by profile or pic instead of messaging loads just in the hope of a quick shag it may make it easier all around---just my view before the usual hate mail lol it then may stop the demanding of certain few!!!--I stick to messaging who I think may actually match me the. If no reply then move on--I do understand however when you are polite and take time to msg not even a no thanks is abit harsh maybe my above thoughts may help filter a tad----doubt it to be fair as I said on many occasions I honestly think a fem corpse would still get a ton o msgs on this crazy site pms
A well know female friend on here have tried a variety of profiles over the years as a joke, they all attract exactly the same people X
You always will ...They are called "desperados" unfortunately a lot of us single men get caught up in the ratio,but you know what it's like always a bloke, asking the same questions knowing the same response, We know and you know as women how many messages you women get so why ask the obvious allll the time. I do think if you have met certain people at a social and you could both verify each other that fab should have some sort of chat facility between each other's friends list so as a single male your message doesn't get lost with the weirdos. It's is sometimes for guys a lost cause unless you get to socials. "
I we agree, good guys get lost in the dross X |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I think if only guys would msg who they actually take a real fancy towards be it by profile or pic instead of messaging loads just in the hope of a quick shag it may make it easier all around---just my view before the usual hate mail lol it then may stop the demanding of certain few!!!--I stick to messaging who I think may actually match me the. If no reply then move on--I do understand however when you are polite and take time to msg not even a no thanks is abit harsh maybe my above thoughts may help filter a tad----doubt it to be fair as I said on many occasions I honestly think a fem corpse would still get a ton o msgs on this crazy site pms
A well know female friend on here have tried a variety of profiles over the years as a joke, they all attract exactly the same people X
You always will ...They are called "desperados" unfortunately a lot of us single men get caught up in the ratio,but you know what it's like always a bloke, asking the same questions knowing the same response, We know and you know as women how many messages you women get so why ask the obvious allll the time. I do think if you have met certain people at a social and you could both verify each other that fab should have some sort of chat facility between each other's friends list so as a single male your message doesn't get lost with the weirdos. It's is sometimes for guys a lost cause unless you get to socials.
I we agree, good guys get lost in the dross X"
x |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I think if only guys would msg who they actually take a real fancy towards be it by profile or pic instead of messaging loads just in the hope of a quick shag it may make it easier all around---just my view before the usual hate mail lol it then may stop the demanding of certain few!!!--I stick to messaging who I think may actually match me the. If no reply then move on--I do understand however when you are polite and take time to msg not even a no thanks is abit harsh maybe my above thoughts may help filter a tad----doubt it to be fair as I said on many occasions I honestly think a fem corpse would still get a ton o msgs on this crazy site pms
A well know female friend on here have tried a variety of profiles over the years as a joke, they all attract exactly the same people X
You always will ...They are called "desperados" unfortunately a lot of us single men get caught up in the ratio,but you know what it's like always a bloke, asking the same questions knowing the same response, We know and you know as women how many messages you women get so why ask the obvious allll the time. I do think if you have met certain people at a social and you could both verify each other that fab should have some sort of chat facility between each other's friends list so as a single male your message doesn't get lost with the weirdos. It's is sometimes for guys a lost cause unless you get to socials.
I we agree, good guys get lost in the dross X"
Very true |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
So here comes a marmite answer(much like myself)
the while things a lottery, women are bombarded with so many messages daily the odds of them reading yours is slim
Got my to socials and clubs improves your chances a little
But again because women are bombarded there’s a chance they’ll miss your message due to them having so many or a bulk delete due to having so many
Personally I find that women have a massive sense of entitlement on here too, because women can have their pick of any man from here they can be much more selective and often meet men that possibly in the real world may not meet Them but cos if it’s just sex some men are happy to meet women they wouldn’t normally meet with in vanilla life
(Sits back an awaits the hate ) |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
No idea about others but I've pulled better in real life than on here, another reason I rarely meet here. But I do agree to a point that some people do develop a skewed view of self X |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Personally I think it’s the “single Male” that’s either married or has a gf and they’ve managed to get away for an hour unexpectedly taking a chance this also applies for the couples accounts again could be a married man on here without his wife knowing trying to get laid. Don’t know this for sure but it’s where my guess is going |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"So here comes a marmite answer(much like myself)
the while things a lottery, women are bombarded with so many messages daily the odds of them reading yours is slim
Got my to socials and clubs improves your chances a little
But again because women are bombarded there’s a chance they’ll miss your message due to them having so many or a bulk delete due to having so many
Personally I find that women have a massive sense of entitlement on here too, because women can have their pick of any man from here they can be much more selective and often meet men that possibly in the real world may not meet Them but cos if it’s just sex some men are happy to meet women they wouldn’t normally meet with in vanilla life
(Sits back an awaits the hate )"
100% true
Many deluded females on here who seem unable to seperate Fab from "real life"
But then again, if men didn't lower their standards purely to empty their balls, would we have that problem? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"So here comes a marmite answer(much like myself)
the while things a lottery, women are bombarded with so many messages daily the odds of them reading yours is slim
Got my to socials and clubs improves your chances a little
But again because women are bombarded there’s a chance they’ll miss your message due to them having so many or a bulk delete due to having so many
Personally I find that women have a massive sense of entitlement on here too, because women can have their pick of any man from here they can be much more selective and often meet men that possibly in the real world may not meet Them but cos if it’s just sex some men are happy to meet women they wouldn’t normally meet with in vanilla life
(Sits back an awaits the hate )
100% true
Many deluded females on here who seem unable to seperate Fab from "real life"
But then again, if men didn't lower their standards purely to empty their balls, would we have that problem? "
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I think if only guys would msg who they actually take a real fancy towards be it by profile or pic instead of messaging loads just in the hope of a quick shag it may make it easier all around---just my view before the usual hate mail lol it then may stop the demanding of certain few!!!--I stick to messaging who I think may actually match me the. If no reply then move on--I do understand however when you are polite and take time to msg not even a no thanks is abit harsh maybe my above thoughts may help filter a tad----doubt it to be fair as I said on many occasions I honestly think a fem corpse would still get a ton o msgs on this crazy site pms
A well know female friend on here have tried a variety of profiles over the years as a joke, they all attract exactly the same people X"
Well there's the point answered and itl never change--I just read a post by a guy who made a great n valid post--so many women here honestly believe having 100s of msgs makes them special--us who av been here a while know not the case---in real life no doubt most of the gutz wouldn't bother yet a quick legover here is what they're after!!!--personally I keep this place as a small add on to real life and only ever msg the ones I honestly think may suit--crazy site but I luvs it |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I think if only guys would msg who they actually take a real fancy towards be it by profile or pic instead of messaging loads just in the hope of a quick shag it may make it easier all around---just my view before the usual hate mail lol it then may stop the demanding of certain few!!!--I stick to messaging who I think may actually match me the. If no reply then move on--I do understand however when you are polite and take time to msg not even a no thanks is abit harsh maybe my above thoughts may help filter a tad----doubt it to be fair as I said on many occasions I honestly think a fem corpse would still get a ton o msgs on this crazy site pms
A well know female friend on here have tried a variety of profiles over the years as a joke, they all attract exactly the same people X
Well there's the point answered and itl never change--I just read a post by a guy who made a great n valid post--so many women here honestly believe having 100s of msgs makes them special--us who av been here a while know not the case---in real life no doubt most of the gutz wouldn't bother yet a quick legover here is what they're after!!!--personally I keep this place as a small add on to real life and only ever msg the ones I honestly think may suit--crazy site but I luvs it "
100s of messages a day is the norm for a single female on here.... it's certainly nothing special.
I just find it flabbergasting that men can actually have sex with someone they find unattractive purely for the purpose of emptying their balls.
Are there any women on here who would have sex with a man they didn't find attractive purely for the purpose of an orgasm? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I think if only guys would msg who they actually take a real fancy towards be it by profile or pic instead of messaging loads just in the hope of a quick shag it may make it easier all around---just my view before the usual hate mail lol it then may stop the demanding of certain few!!!--I stick to messaging who I think may actually match me the. If no reply then move on--I do understand however when you are polite and take time to msg not even a no thanks is abit harsh maybe my above thoughts may help filter a tad----doubt it to be fair as I said on many occasions I honestly think a fem corpse would still get a ton o msgs on this crazy site pms
A well know female friend on here have tried a variety of profiles over the years as a joke, they all attract exactly the same people X
Well there's the point answered and itl never change--I just read a post by a guy who made a great n valid post--so many women here honestly believe having 100s of msgs makes them special--us who av been here a while know not the case---in real life no doubt most of the gutz wouldn't bother yet a quick legover here is what they're after!!!--personally I keep this place as a small add on to real life and only ever msg the ones I honestly think may suit--crazy site but I luvs it
100s of messages a day is the norm for a single female on here.... it's certainly nothing special.
I just find it flabbergasting that men can actually have sex with someone they find unattractive purely for the purpose of emptying their balls.
Are there any women on here who would have sex with a man they didn't find attractive purely for the purpose of an orgasm?"
Well here's a high 5 for being relatively normal on fab miss p lol |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I think if only guys would msg who they actually take a real fancy towards be it by profile or pic instead of messaging loads just in the hope of a quick shag it may make it easier all around---just my view before the usual hate mail lol it then may stop the demanding of certain few!!!--I stick to messaging who I think may actually match me the. If no reply then move on--I do understand however when you are polite and take time to msg not even a no thanks is abit harsh maybe my above thoughts may help filter a tad----doubt it to be fair as I said on many occasions I honestly think a fem corpse would still get a ton o msgs on this crazy site pms
A well know female friend on here have tried a variety of profiles over the years as a joke, they all attract exactly the same people X
Well there's the point answered and itl never change--I just read a post by a guy who made a great n valid post--so many women here honestly believe having 100s of msgs makes them special--us who av been here a while know not the case---in real life no doubt most of the gutz wouldn't bother yet a quick legover here is what they're after!!!--personally I keep this place as a small add on to real life and only ever msg the ones I honestly think may suit--crazy site but I luvs it "
We all know those women because they don't use filters, they beg for pic fabbing & they get upset if the message quota isn't met. & in answer to your question P, I won't meet any old man just because the gush tank is full, I'll drain it myself if needs be  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"After so, so many threads surrounding the subject and it being listed as a No No on the majority of women's profiles ..
Why oh why do I and probably every other woman and couple receive the Meet Now or words to that effect messages, so often ..
Starting to drive me a little insane ..
Am I under using my block facility? "
There is a simple solution to your problem, block everyone from mailing you.
Then you mail the profiles that take your fancy. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"After so, so many threads surrounding the subject and it being listed as a No No on the majority of women's profiles ..
Why oh why do I and probably every other woman and couple receive the Meet Now or words to that effect messages, so often ..
Starting to drive me a little insane ..
Am I under using my block facility?
There is a simple solution to your problem, block everyone from mailing you.
Then you mail the profiles that take your fancy."
But would they be able to reply if everyone was blocked?
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"But would they be able to reply if everyone was blocked?
"
Yes at it let's them get around the general block. If they piss you off then you can then individually block them and put an end to it. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"But would they be able to reply if everyone was blocked?
Yes at it let's them get around the general block. If they piss you off then you can then individually block them and put an end to it. "
Cheers for the info. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"I think if only guys would msg who they actually take a real fancy towards be it by profile or pic instead of messaging loads just in the hope of a quick shag it may make it easier all around---just my view before the usual hate mail lol it then may stop the demanding of certain few!!!--I stick to messaging who I think may actually match me the. If no reply then move on--I do understand however when you are polite and take time to msg not even a no thanks is abit harsh maybe my above thoughts may help filter a tad----doubt it to be fair as I said on many occasions I honestly think a fem corpse would still get a ton o msgs on this crazy site pms
A well know female friend on here have tried a variety of profiles over the years as a joke, they all attract exactly the same people X
Well there's the point answered and itl never change--I just read a post by a guy who made a great n valid post--so many women here honestly believe having 100s of msgs makes them special--us who av been here a while know not the case---in real life no doubt most of the gutz wouldn't bother yet a quick legover here is what they're after!!!--personally I keep this place as a small add on to real life and only ever msg the ones I honestly think may suit--crazy site but I luvs it
100s of messages a day is the norm for a single female on here.... it's certainly nothing special.
I just find it flabbergasting that men can actually have sex with someone they find unattractive purely for the purpose of emptying their balls.
Are there any women on here who would have sex with a man they didn't find attractive purely for the purpose of an orgasm?"
It certainly isn't something special, I agree, it's plainly the gender ratio..
If your adult enough to realise this and not become delusional, it really actually isn't a nice feeling at all. I wouldn't meet anybody that I would not approach outside of fab , as I would not meet somebody I thought may not meet approach myself outside of fab .. even though there are no strings.
Having standards and expecting respect does not equate to entitlement x |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I think if only guys would msg who they actually take a real fancy towards be it by profile or pic instead of messaging loads just in the hope of a quick shag it may make it easier all around---just my view before the usual hate mail lol it then may stop the demanding of certain few!!!--I stick to messaging who I think may actually match me the. If no reply then move on--I do understand however when you are polite and take time to msg not even a no thanks is abit harsh maybe my above thoughts may help filter a tad----doubt it to be fair as I said on many occasions I honestly think a fem corpse would still get a ton o msgs on this crazy site pms
A well know female friend on here have tried a variety of profiles over the years as a joke, they all attract exactly the same people X
You always will ...They are called "desperados" unfortunately a lot of us single men get caught up in the ratio,but you know what it's like always a bloke, asking the same questions knowing the same response, We know and you know as women how many messages you women get so why ask the obvious allll the time. I do think if you have met certain people at a social and you could both verify each other that fab should have some sort of chat facility between each other's friends list so as a single male your message doesn't get lost with the weirdos. It's is sometimes for guys a lost cause unless you get to socials.
I we agree, good guys get lost in the dross X"
I kinda disagree.
I think the good guys stand out and tick along nicely. Yes there's a load of white noise from the desperados, but it's not that difficult to spot and find the cool dudes. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I think if only guys would msg who they actually take a real fancy towards be it by profile or pic instead of messaging loads just in the hope of a quick shag it may make it easier all around---just my view before the usual hate mail lol it then may stop the demanding of certain few!!!--I stick to messaging who I think may actually match me the. If no reply then move on--I do understand however when you are polite and take time to msg not even a no thanks is abit harsh maybe my above thoughts may help filter a tad----doubt it to be fair as I said on many occasions I honestly think a fem corpse would still get a ton o msgs on this crazy site pms
A well know female friend on here have tried a variety of profiles over the years as a joke, they all attract exactly the same people X
Well there's the point answered and itl never change--I just read a post by a guy who made a great n valid post--so many women here honestly believe having 100s of msgs makes them special--us who av been here a while know not the case---in real life no doubt most of the gutz wouldn't bother yet a quick legover here is what they're after!!!--personally I keep this place as a small add on to real life and only ever msg the ones I honestly think may suit--crazy site but I luvs it
100s of messages a day is the norm for a single female on here.... it's certainly nothing special.
I just find it flabbergasting that men can actually have sex with someone they find unattractive purely for the purpose of emptying their balls.
Are there any women on here who would have sex with a man they didn't find attractive purely for the purpose of an orgasm?"
It's a fair question.
But can women actually orgasm from sex with somebody they don't find attractive? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *FFB69Woman
over a year ago
Torfaen/Gwent |
"I think if only guys would msg who they actually take a real fancy towards be it by profile or pic instead of messaging loads just in the hope of a quick shag it may make it easier all around---just my view before the usual hate mail lol it then may stop the demanding of certain few!!!--I stick to messaging who I think may actually match me the. If no reply then move on--I do understand however when you are polite and take time to msg not even a no thanks is abit harsh maybe my above thoughts may help filter a tad----doubt it to be fair as I said on many occasions I honestly think a fem corpse would still get a ton o msgs on this crazy site pms
A well know female friend on here have tried a variety of profiles over the years as a joke, they all attract exactly the same people X
Well there's the point answered and itl never change--I just read a post by a guy who made a great n valid post--so many women here honestly believe having 100s of msgs makes them special--us who av been here a while know not the case---in real life no doubt most of the gutz wouldn't bother yet a quick legover here is what they're after!!!--personally I keep this place as a small add on to real life and only ever msg the ones I honestly think may suit--crazy site but I luvs it
100s of messages a day is the norm for a single female on here.... it's certainly nothing special.
I just find it flabbergasting that men can actually have sex with someone they find unattractive purely for the purpose of emptying their balls.
Are there any women on here who would have sex with a man they didn't find attractive purely for the purpose of an orgasm?
It's a fair question.
But can women actually orgasm from sex with somebody they don't find attractive?"
Yes. They can. There have been cases where a women being assaulted have had orgasms. It’s a bodies natural response and while yes attraction can play a part in women achieving orgasm, it’s not actually necessary. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I think if only guys would msg who they actually take a real fancy towards be it by profile or pic instead of messaging loads just in the hope of a quick shag it may make it easier all around---just my view before the usual hate mail lol it then may stop the demanding of certain few!!!--I stick to messaging who I think may actually match me the. If no reply then move on--I do understand however when you are polite and take time to msg not even a no thanks is abit harsh maybe my above thoughts may help filter a tad----doubt it to be fair as I said on many occasions I honestly think a fem corpse would still get a ton o msgs on this crazy site pms
A well know female friend on here have tried a variety of profiles over the years as a joke, they all attract exactly the same people X
Well there's the point answered and itl never change--I just read a post by a guy who made a great n valid post--so many women here honestly believe having 100s of msgs makes them special--us who av been here a while know not the case---in real life no doubt most of the gutz wouldn't bother yet a quick legover here is what they're after!!!--personally I keep this place as a small add on to real life and only ever msg the ones I honestly think may suit--crazy site but I luvs it
100s of messages a day is the norm for a single female on here.... it's certainly nothing special.
I just find it flabbergasting that men can actually have sex with someone they find unattractive purely for the purpose of emptying their balls.
Are there any women on here who would have sex with a man they didn't find attractive purely for the purpose of an orgasm?
It's a fair question.
But can women actually orgasm from sex with somebody they don't find attractive?
Yes. They can. There have been cases where a women being assaulted have had orgasms. It’s a bodies natural response and while yes attraction can play a part in women achieving orgasm, it’s not actually necessary. "
Well that wouldn't work for me, you could rub and tug all day long if I didn't fancy someone I wouldn't get hard or cum. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *FFB69Woman
over a year ago
Torfaen/Gwent |
"I think if only guys would msg who they actually take a real fancy towards be it by profile or pic instead of messaging loads just in the hope of a quick shag it may make it easier all around---just my view before the usual hate mail lol it then may stop the demanding of certain few!!!--I stick to messaging who I think may actually match me the. If no reply then move on--I do understand however when you are polite and take time to msg not even a no thanks is abit harsh maybe my above thoughts may help filter a tad----doubt it to be fair as I said on many occasions I honestly think a fem corpse would still get a ton o msgs on this crazy site pms
A well know female friend on here have tried a variety of profiles over the years as a joke, they all attract exactly the same people X
Well there's the point answered and itl never change--I just read a post by a guy who made a great n valid post--so many women here honestly believe having 100s of msgs makes them special--us who av been here a while know not the case---in real life no doubt most of the gutz wouldn't bother yet a quick legover here is what they're after!!!--personally I keep this place as a small add on to real life and only ever msg the ones I honestly think may suit--crazy site but I luvs it
100s of messages a day is the norm for a single female on here.... it's certainly nothing special.
I just find it flabbergasting that men can actually have sex with someone they find unattractive purely for the purpose of emptying their balls.
Are there any women on here who would have sex with a man they didn't find attractive purely for the purpose of an orgasm?
It's a fair question.
But can women actually orgasm from sex with somebody they don't find attractive?
Yes. They can. There have been cases where a women being assaulted have had orgasms. It’s a bodies natural response and while yes attraction can play a part in women achieving orgasm, it’s not actually necessary.
Well that wouldn't work for me, you could rub and tug all day long if I didn't fancy someone I wouldn't get hard or cum."
Unless you’ve been in that situation you can’t really say. Men get assaulted by women as well as other men. The whole “he must have enjoyed it because he got hard” argument comes from guys who think they wouldn’t get hard or cum if they weren’t in the mood or “attracted” to the person.
But that’s taking this thread miles away from its intended subject. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I think if only guys would msg who they actually take a real fancy towards be it by profile or pic instead of messaging loads just in the hope of a quick shag it may make it easier all around---just my view before the usual hate mail lol it then may stop the demanding of certain few!!!--I stick to messaging who I think may actually match me the. If no reply then move on--I do understand however when you are polite and take time to msg not even a no thanks is abit harsh maybe my above thoughts may help filter a tad----doubt it to be fair as I said on many occasions I honestly think a fem corpse would still get a ton o msgs on this crazy site pms
A well know female friend on here have tried a variety of profiles over the years as a joke, they all attract exactly the same people X
Well there's the point answered and itl never change--I just read a post by a guy who made a great n valid post--so many women here honestly believe having 100s of msgs makes them special--us who av been here a while know not the case---in real life no doubt most of the gutz wouldn't bother yet a quick legover here is what they're after!!!--personally I keep this place as a small add on to real life and only ever msg the ones I honestly think may suit--crazy site but I luvs it
100s of messages a day is the norm for a single female on here.... it's certainly nothing special.
I just find it flabbergasting that men can actually have sex with someone they find unattractive purely for the purpose of emptying their balls.
Are there any women on here who would have sex with a man they didn't find attractive purely for the purpose of an orgasm?
It's a fair question.
But can women actually orgasm from sex with somebody they don't find attractive?
Yes. They can. There have been cases where a women being assaulted have had orgasms. It’s a bodies natural response and while yes attraction can play a part in women achieving orgasm, it’s not actually necessary. "
I don't even think I want to know where you got your evidence from. I wasn't referring to r*pe, I meant in a consensual situation |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I think if only guys would msg who they actually take a real fancy towards be it by profile or pic instead of messaging loads just in the hope of a quick shag it may make it easier all around---just my view before the usual hate mail lol it then may stop the demanding of certain few!!!--I stick to messaging who I think may actually match me the. If no reply then move on--I do understand however when you are polite and take time to msg not even a no thanks is abit harsh maybe my above thoughts may help filter a tad----doubt it to be fair as I said on many occasions I honestly think a fem corpse would still get a ton o msgs on this crazy site pms
A well know female friend on here have tried a variety of profiles over the years as a joke, they all attract exactly the same people X
Well there's the point answered and itl never change--I just read a post by a guy who made a great n valid post--so many women here honestly believe having 100s of msgs makes them special--us who av been here a while know not the case---in real life no doubt most of the gutz wouldn't bother yet a quick legover here is what they're after!!!--personally I keep this place as a small add on to real life and only ever msg the ones I honestly think may suit--crazy site but I luvs it
100s of messages a day is the norm for a single female on here.... it's certainly nothing special.
I just find it flabbergasting that men can actually have sex with someone they find unattractive purely for the purpose of emptying their balls.
Are there any women on here who would have sex with a man they didn't find attractive purely for the purpose of an orgasm?
It's a fair question.
But can women actually orgasm from sex with somebody they don't find attractive?
Yes. They can. There have been cases where a women being assaulted have had orgasms. It’s a bodies natural response and while yes attraction can play a part in women achieving orgasm, it’s not actually necessary.
I don't even think I want to know where you got your evidence from. I wasn't referring to r*pe, I meant in a consensual situation "
Oh dear god---not a good discussion--I can't even watch that shit in a movie---I'm outta here  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I think if only guys would msg who they actually take a real fancy towards be it by profile or pic instead of messaging loads just in the hope of a quick shag it may make it easier all around---just my view before the usual hate mail lol it then may stop the demanding of certain few!!!--I stick to messaging who I think may actually match me the. If no reply then move on--I do understand however when you are polite and take time to msg not even a no thanks is abit harsh maybe my above thoughts may help filter a tad----doubt it to be fair as I said on many occasions I honestly think a fem corpse would still get a ton o msgs on this crazy site pms
A well know female friend on here have tried a variety of profiles over the years as a joke, they all attract exactly the same people X
Well there's the point answered and itl never change--I just read a post by a guy who made a great n valid post--so many women here honestly believe having 100s of msgs makes them special--us who av been here a while know not the case---in real life no doubt most of the gutz wouldn't bother yet a quick legover here is what they're after!!!--personally I keep this place as a small add on to real life and only ever msg the ones I honestly think may suit--crazy site but I luvs it
100s of messages a day is the norm for a single female on here.... it's certainly nothing special.
I just find it flabbergasting that men can actually have sex with someone they find unattractive purely for the purpose of emptying their balls.
Are there any women on here who would have sex with a man they didn't find attractive purely for the purpose of an orgasm?
It's a fair question.
But can women actually orgasm from sex with somebody they don't find attractive?
Yes. They can. There have been cases where a women being assaulted have had orgasms. It’s a bodies natural response and while yes attraction can play a part in women achieving orgasm, it’s not actually necessary.
Well that wouldn't work for me, you could rub and tug all day long if I didn't fancy someone I wouldn't get hard or cum.
Unless you’ve been in that situation you can’t really say. Men get assaulted by women as well as other men. The whole “he must have enjoyed it because he got hard” argument comes from guys who think they wouldn’t get hard or cum if they weren’t in the mood or “attracted” to the person.
But that’s taking this thread miles away from its intended subject. "
Good point, I hadn't even thought of that. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I think if only guys would msg who they actually take a real fancy towards be it by profile or pic instead of messaging loads just in the hope of a quick shag it may make it easier all around---just my view before the usual hate mail lol it then may stop the demanding of certain few!!!--I stick to messaging who I think may actually match me the. If no reply then move on--I do understand however when you are polite and take time to msg not even a no thanks is abit harsh maybe my above thoughts may help filter a tad----doubt it to be fair as I said on many occasions I honestly think a fem corpse would still get a ton o msgs on this crazy site pms
A well know female friend on here have tried a variety of profiles over the years as a joke, they all attract exactly the same people X
Well there's the point answered and itl never change--I just read a post by a guy who made a great n valid post--so many women here honestly believe having 100s of msgs makes them special--us who av been here a while know not the case---in real life no doubt most of the gutz wouldn't bother yet a quick legover here is what they're after!!!--personally I keep this place as a small add on to real life and only ever msg the ones I honestly think may suit--crazy site but I luvs it
100s of messages a day is the norm for a single female on here.... it's certainly nothing special.
I just find it flabbergasting that men can actually have sex with someone they find unattractive purely for the purpose of emptying their balls.
Are there any women on here who would have sex with a man they didn't find attractive purely for the purpose of an orgasm?
It's a fair question.
But can women actually orgasm from sex with somebody they don't find attractive?
Yes. They can. There have been cases where a women being assaulted have had orgasms. It’s a bodies natural response and while yes attraction can play a part in women achieving orgasm, it’s not actually necessary. "
disagree, if my mind isn’t engaged I don’t orgasm. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I think if only guys would msg who they actually take a real fancy towards be it by profile or pic instead of messaging loads just in the hope of a quick shag it may make it easier all around---just my view before the usual hate mail lol it then may stop the demanding of certain few!!!--I stick to messaging who I think may actually match me the. If no reply then move on--I do understand however when you are polite and take time to msg not even a no thanks is abit harsh maybe my above thoughts may help filter a tad----doubt it to be fair as I said on many occasions I honestly think a fem corpse would still get a ton o msgs on this crazy site pms
A well know female friend on here have tried a variety of profiles over the years as a joke, they all attract exactly the same people X
Well there's the point answered and itl never change--I just read a post by a guy who made a great n valid post--so many women here honestly believe having 100s of msgs makes them special--us who av been here a while know not the case---in real life no doubt most of the gutz wouldn't bother yet a quick legover here is what they're after!!!--personally I keep this place as a small add on to real life and only ever msg the ones I honestly think may suit--crazy site but I luvs it
100s of messages a day is the norm for a single female on here.... it's certainly nothing special.
I just find it flabbergasting that men can actually have sex with someone they find unattractive purely for the purpose of emptying their balls.
Are there any women on here who would have sex with a man they didn't find attractive purely for the purpose of an orgasm?
It's a fair question.
But can women actually orgasm from sex with somebody they don't find attractive?
Yes. They can. There have been cases where a women being assaulted have had orgasms. It’s a bodies natural response and while yes attraction can play a part in women achieving orgasm, it’s not actually necessary. disagree, if my mind isn’t engaged I don’t orgasm. "
Same here I couldn't either if I wasn't attracted and had chemisry with the guy |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *FFB69Woman
over a year ago
Torfaen/Gwent |
"I think if only guys would msg who they actually take a real fancy towards be it by profile or pic instead of messaging loads just in the hope of a quick shag it may make it easier all around---just my view before the usual hate mail lol it then may stop the demanding of certain few!!!--I stick to messaging who I think may actually match me the. If no reply then move on--I do understand however when you are polite and take time to msg not even a no thanks is abit harsh maybe my above thoughts may help filter a tad----doubt it to be fair as I said on many occasions I honestly think a fem corpse would still get a ton o msgs on this crazy site pms
A well know female friend on here have tried a variety of profiles over the years as a joke, they all attract exactly the same people X
Well there's the point answered and itl never change--I just read a post by a guy who made a great n valid post--so many women here honestly believe having 100s of msgs makes them special--us who av been here a while know not the case---in real life no doubt most of the gutz wouldn't bother yet a quick legover here is what they're after!!!--personally I keep this place as a small add on to real life and only ever msg the ones I honestly think may suit--crazy site but I luvs it
100s of messages a day is the norm for a single female on here.... it's certainly nothing special.
I just find it flabbergasting that men can actually have sex with someone they find unattractive purely for the purpose of emptying their balls.
Are there any women on here who would have sex with a man they didn't find attractive purely for the purpose of an orgasm?
It's a fair question.
But can women actually orgasm from sex with somebody they don't find attractive?
Yes. They can. There have been cases where a women being assaulted have had orgasms. It’s a bodies natural response and while yes attraction can play a part in women achieving orgasm, it’s not actually necessary.
I don't even think I want to know where you got your evidence from. I wasn't referring to r*pe, I meant in a consensual situation "
I was replying to the person who asked if a woman can orgasm with someone they’re not attracted too.
And “evidence”? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *FFB69Woman
over a year ago
Torfaen/Gwent |
"I think if only guys would msg who they actually take a real fancy towards be it by profile or pic instead of messaging loads just in the hope of a quick shag it may make it easier all around---just my view before the usual hate mail lol it then may stop the demanding of certain few!!!--I stick to messaging who I think may actually match me the. If no reply then move on--I do understand however when you are polite and take time to msg not even a no thanks is abit harsh maybe my above thoughts may help filter a tad----doubt it to be fair as I said on many occasions I honestly think a fem corpse would still get a ton o msgs on this crazy site pms
A well know female friend on here have tried a variety of profiles over the years as a joke, they all attract exactly the same people X
Well there's the point answered and itl never change--I just read a post by a guy who made a great n valid post--so many women here honestly believe having 100s of msgs makes them special--us who av been here a while know not the case---in real life no doubt most of the gutz wouldn't bother yet a quick legover here is what they're after!!!--personally I keep this place as a small add on to real life and only ever msg the ones I honestly think may suit--crazy site but I luvs it
100s of messages a day is the norm for a single female on here.... it's certainly nothing special.
I just find it flabbergasting that men can actually have sex with someone they find unattractive purely for the purpose of emptying their balls.
Are there any women on here who would have sex with a man they didn't find attractive purely for the purpose of an orgasm?
It's a fair question.
But can women actually orgasm from sex with somebody they don't find attractive?
Yes. They can. There have been cases where a women being assaulted have had orgasms. It’s a bodies natural response and while yes attraction can play a part in women achieving orgasm, it’s not actually necessary. disagree, if my mind isn’t engaged I don’t orgasm. "
Not really sure how you can “disagree” with my comment tbh. It’s a (I thought) we’ll know scientific fact that some women and men orgasm during assault.
http://www.rebelcircus.com/blog/orgasm-sexual-assault-science-behind-sexual-arousal-rape/
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
As a scientist. This is not scientifically proven. And that's not a scientific study ..
But I have no doubt it could happen on the rare occasion
I think this thread has wandered very far from the original point I was trying to make ..
I think I may just utilise my block button |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *FFB69Woman
over a year ago
Torfaen/Gwent |
"As a scientist. This is not scientifically proven. And that's not a scientific study ..
But I have no doubt it could happen on the rare occasion
I think this thread has wandered very far from the original point I was trying to make ..
I think I may just utilise my block button "
It’s been proven time and time again, I didn’t say it was a study
I also stated in an earlier comment that it was moving away from the topic. I’m simply replying to comments.
And just FYI, this will come across bitchy but isn’t, it’s not Facebook. Blocking people doesn’t stop them commenting on threads or seeing what you post. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
I don't mean to come across bitchy either (though it may also seem that way)
However , for something to be proven , it must be peer reviewed and published by a reliable source.. classified as scientific study .. I will happily retract my comment if somebody can find one relative to the issue
Know it's not Facebook.. though, my original issue was being bombarded with expectation without establishing attraction/ connection .. something I find rather rude (entitled)
Like I said , I don't think expecting respect is too much to ask..
And though those people who continually send these types of messages will indeed be able to see my forum posts - and message those who do not block , they won't be able to message myself |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *FFB69Woman
over a year ago
Torfaen/Gwent |
"I don't mean to come across bitchy either (though it may also seem that way)
However , for something to be proven , it must be peer reviewed and published by a reliable source.. classified as scientific study .. I will happily retract my comment if somebody can find one relative to the issue
Know it's not Facebook.. though, my original issue was being bombarded with expectation without establishing attraction/ connection .. something I find rather rude (entitled)
Like I said , I don't think expecting respect is too much to ask..
And though those people who continually send these types of messages will indeed be able to see my forum posts - and message those who do not block , they won't be able to message myself "
Oh it’s not too much to expect but it seems too much for many (not all though I’m sure I’ll get a “not all men” response) Men on here.
I don’t meet couples or fems so wouldn’t know about them though I do get a few “meet me on my own” messages from men in couples.
No should be enough but no always gets “why?” Or “what’s your type then?” Or “I’m the best you’d ever get you fat c*nt you should be grateful” (yes actual message I’ve received)
So I definitely just delete or block or both. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"As a scientist. This is not scientifically proven. And that's not a scientific study ..
But I have no doubt it could happen on the rare occasion
I think this thread has wandered very far from the original point I was trying to make ..
I think I may just utilise my block button "
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"
It certainly isn't something special, I agree, it's plainly the gender ratio..
If your adult enough to realise this and not become delusional, it really actually isn't a nice feeling at all. I wouldn't meet anybody that I would not approach outside of fab , as I would not meet somebody I thought may not meet approach myself outside of fab .. even though there are no strings.
Having standards and expecting respect does not equate to entitlement x"
Well said, I very much agree! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
» Add a new message to this topic
