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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Unfortunately it seems the norm.
After being here a while you get a gut feeling."
Its mad how many are on here. I felt like a right idiot when they never turned up. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Am afraid to say its getting the norm on here.....too many people think its a good idea, then whilst sat behind the computer screen, but when it comes down to it.....nope nope nope!!!! in the past 12 months we had more no shows and lame assed excuses than meets. Most recent being today!!!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Am afraid to say its getting the norm on here.....too many people think its a good idea, then whilst sat behind the computer screen, but when it comes down to it.....nope nope nope!!!! in the past 12 months we had more no shows and lame assed excuses than meets. Most recent being today!!!
Thats a lot. Keyboard warriors
some of the people who have messed me around have had verifications.
Rant over "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Am afraid to say its getting the norm on here.....too many people think its a good idea, then whilst sat behind the computer screen, but when it comes down to it.....nope nope nope!!!! in the past 12 months we had more no shows and lame assed excuses than meets. Most recent being today!!!
Rant over "
We had the same yesterday last minute lame excuses, frustrating as fuck at the time but you've just got to move on, there are lots of genuine people here who make staying worthwhile X |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Socials are the better way to find sexual partners.
I have never been to one. Wouldn't know anyone at them
I didn't know either. But that's where I met amazing people. "
Ok thanks for the advice |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's frustrating that people waste time, there's loads of genuine blokes who'd love a meet and the ones who get 'lucky' don't turn up?!?
Report and block |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's frustrating that people waste time, there's loads of genuine blokes who'd love a meet and the ones who get 'lucky' don't turn up?!?
Report and block"
And they still try to get meets with the let downs before us |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Am afraid to say its getting the norm on here.....too many people think its a good idea, then whilst sat behind the computer screen, but when it comes down to it.....nope nope nope!!!! in the past 12 months we had more no shows and lame assed excuses than meets. Most recent being today!!!
Rant over
We had the same yesterday last minute lame excuses, frustrating as fuck at the time but you've just got to move on, there are lots of genuine people here who make staying worthwhile X"
Would be nice if we could find the genuine ones though.... just keep finding the others  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just because I'm younger than most on here I think people think I'm a time waster... other people ruining it for me. Really struggling to get meets  "
It's not your age mate. Women want what they can't have, if they think they can have you they won't want you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Am afraid to say its getting the norm on here.....too many people think its a good idea, then whilst sat behind the computer screen, but when it comes down to it.....nope nope nope!!!! in the past 12 months we had more no shows and lame assed excuses than meets. Most recent being today!!!
Rant over
We had the same yesterday last minute lame excuses, frustrating as fuck at the time but you've just got to move on, there are lots of genuine people here who make staying worthwhile X
Would be nice if we could find the genuine ones though.... just keep finding the others "
Maybe look elsewhere instead of being strict about verifified wasters |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If other women are like me, they want what they fancy not what they can't have. I can easily have average in vanilla life, yep people I can & do pull in vanilla life. I'm here looking for fantasy, wishlist stuff, young, tall, fit, furry etc & from some of the profiles I've read over the years, I'd guess single males & females are also seeking fantasy. We're all here for our own ends & that's to be respected but the site has become saturated in recent years with mostly single men, who come with an air of entitlement to sex & that does make it difficult for single women to sift through to find the genuine ones, I know when I'm looking I tend to give up within 20 minutes & rely on my vibe. And before the usual people jump all over my bow, it is only MY personal take & does not represent woman, man, couples |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hope your luck changes xx
There are good ones on here. I've been to a daytime social and at least you get to meet and chat, most importantly see who's real. You should try one |
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By *aut-eWoman
over a year ago
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"Just because I'm younger than most on here I think people think I'm a time waster... other people ruining it for me. Really struggling to get meets "
It’s not your age that is giving the impression of time waster, your profile does you no favours, personally the parts that stood out to me were the 18-99 and ‘will fill out later’, for someone who has been on site for over a year and chats on the forums you will have seen plenty of threads that advise you that this type of profile will be no help to you.
OP you can’t dwell on time wasters, I can only speak from my experiences and there have been plenty of no shows. At first it knocks you and feels like someone is having a laugh at your expense because you have taken the time to talk, then arranged a time to meet then got ready for the meet, all time wasted, now though I have a back up plan which is usually the cinema, I’m still annoyed that I’ve had a no show, even hide my profile for a few hours thinking ef this, however I have made some genuine friends on this site, all I can say is be patient and try not to take take it personally, us genuine folk are out there  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Just because I'm younger than most on here I think people think I'm a time waster... other people ruining it for me. Really struggling to get meets
It’s not your age that is giving the impression of time waster, your profile does you no favours, personally the parts that stood out to me were the 18-99 and ‘will fill out later’, for someone who has been on site for over a year and chats on the forums you will have seen plenty of threads that advise you that this type of profile will be no help to you.
OP you can’t dwell on time wasters, I can only speak from my experiences and there have been plenty of no shows. At first it knocks you and feels like someone is having a laugh at your expense because you have taken the time to talk, then arranged a time to meet then got ready for the meet, all time wasted, now though I have a back up plan which is usually the cinema, I’m still annoyed that I’ve had a no show, even hide my profile for a few hours thinking ef this, however I have made some genuine friends on this site, all I can say is be patient and try not to take take it personally, us genuine folk are out there "
Wow thank you for the advice much appriciated |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We tend to avoid time wasters by either playing in clubs or if were looking for a meet from this site we ask to Skype chat with the person were interested in, if they don't want to Skype etc then fine we'll carry on looking it's no problem to us. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We tend to avoid time wasters by either playing in clubs or if were looking for a meet from this site we ask to Skype chat with the person were interested in, if they don't want to Skype etc then fine we'll carry on looking it's no problem to us."
Some of the women who have wasted my time, have chatted on watts app video chat. And have had a lot of verifications. But thanks for the input |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just because I'm younger than most on here I think people think I'm a time waster... other people ruining it for me. Really struggling to get meets It's not your age mate. Women want what they can't have, if they think they can have you they won't want you"
No they don't
I know what I want and I have it as and when I want it
Stop speaking on behalf of the women on this site  |
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By *taffswenchCouple
over a year ago
South Wales/South West England |
"If other women are like me, they want what they fancy not what they can't have. I can easily have average in vanilla life, yep people I can & do pull in vanilla life. I'm here looking for fantasy, wishlist stuff, young, tall, fit, furry etc & from some of the profiles I've read over the years, I'd guess single males & females are also seeking fantasy. We're all here for our own ends & that's to be respected but the site has become saturated in recent years with mostly single men, who come with an air of entitlement to sex & that does make it difficult for single women to sift through to find the genuine ones, I know when I'm looking I tend to give up within 20 minutes & rely on my vibe. And before the usual people jump all over my bow, it is only MY personal take & does not represent woman, man, couples"
Having been to our first club experience Saturday. I can honestly say it was only the single men spoiling things.
But having said that. I'm not sure sure one experience is enough to be valid yet. But skulking around pulling their cocks out as soon as they see a set of tits is just sad not sexy. |
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By *taffswenchCouple
over a year ago
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Our first attempt at a meeting was a no show. We hadn't travelled far so weren't really that bothered as we had a great night together anyway. But I can imagine that will be a very different feeling with a meet we have lined up for November in Oxford. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If other women are like me, they want what they fancy not what they can't have. I can easily have average in vanilla life, yep people I can & do pull in vanilla life. I'm here looking for fantasy, wishlist stuff, young, tall, fit, furry etc & from some of the profiles I've read over the years, I'd guess single males & females are also seeking fantasy. We're all here for our own ends & that's to be respected but the site has become saturated in recent years with mostly single men, who come with an air of entitlement to sex & that does make it difficult for single women to sift through to find the genuine ones, I know when I'm looking I tend to give up within 20 minutes & rely on my vibe. And before the usual people jump all over my bow, it is only MY personal take & does not represent woman, man, couples
Having been to our first club experience Saturday. I can honestly say it was only the single men spoiling things.
But having said that. I'm not sure sure one experience is enough to be valid yet. But skulking around pulling their cocks out as soon as they see a set of tits is just sad not sexy. "
That's why I no longer have fun at Newport & why, as a couple we only attend couple nights at Chams. We enjoy a single guy joining but the desperation is so off putting my mojo disappears  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If other women are like me, they want what they fancy not what they can't have. I can easily have average in vanilla life, yep people I can & do pull in vanilla life. I'm here looking for fantasy, wishlist stuff, young, tall, fit, furry etc & from some of the profiles I've read over the years, I'd guess single males & females are also seeking fantasy. We're all here for our own ends & that's to be respected but the site has become saturated in recent years with mostly single men, who come with an air of entitlement to sex & that does make it difficult for single women to sift through to find the genuine ones, I know when I'm looking I tend to give up within 20 minutes & rely on my vibe. And before the usual people jump all over my bow, it is only MY personal take & does not represent woman, man, couples
Having been to our first club experience Saturday. I can honestly say it was only the single men spoiling things.
But having said that. I'm not sure sure one experience is enough to be valid yet. But skulking around pulling their cocks out as soon as they see a set of tits is just sad not sexy. "
I wouldn't go around flashing my cock.
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"Just because I'm younger than most on here I think people think I'm a time waster... other people ruining it for me. Really struggling to get meets
It’s not your age that is giving the impression of time waster, your profile does you no favours, personally the parts that stood out to me were the 18-99 and ‘will fill out later’, for someone who has been on site for over a year and chats on the forums you will have seen plenty of threads that advise you that this type of profile will be no help to you.
OP you can’t dwell on time wasters, I can only speak from my experiences and there have been plenty of no shows. At first it knocks you and feels like someone is having a laugh at your expense because you have taken the time to talk, then arranged a time to meet then got ready for the meet, all time wasted, now though I have a back up plan which is usually the cinema, I’m still annoyed that I’ve had a no show, even hide my profile for a few hours thinking ef this, however I have made some genuine friends on this site, all I can say is be patient and try not to take take it personally, us genuine folk are out there "
Spot on about lazy profiles. We don't even bother investigating further if the bloke can't be bothered to make the effort. We tend to assume it's just another married man perving behind his wife's back with no real intention of ever taking it real-world. |
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By *taffswenchCouple
over a year ago
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I wouldn't go around flashing my cock.
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In fairness they weren't all doing it. But unfortunately it just wasn't good form.
At least let a couple get going and into the situation first.
One bloke literally just walked straight in behind us, got it out and started tugging away. We were fully dressed and only having a snog.
Was nothing to get excited about trust me. |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
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I wouldn't go around flashing my cock.
In fairness they weren't all doing it. But unfortunately it just wasn't good form.
At least let a couple get going and into the situation first.
One bloke literally just walked straight in behind us, got it out and started tugging away. We were fully dressed and only having a snog.
Was nothing to get excited about trust me. "
That's quite pathetic actually. Do these people even realize just how foolish and desperate that looks? |
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By *taffswenchCouple
over a year ago
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I wouldn't go around flashing my cock.
In fairness they weren't all doing it. But unfortunately it just wasn't good form.
At least let a couple get going and into the situation first.
One bloke literally just walked straight in behind us, got it out and started tugging away. We were fully dressed and only having a snog.
Was nothing to get excited about trust me.
That's quite pathetic actually. Do these people even realize just how foolish and desperate that looks?"
Hence first club night we played alone.
The rest of the coupes seemed really cool tho. No pressure from anyone else at all.
In fact we only had a few chats. Probably looked like a couple of scared beginners holding onto each other in the corner! Lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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yes there are more timewasters on here as so many people have commented on .
But when i give reasons why this happens I get bombarded with "each to their own" "we all have a right to be here " etc
Its all to easy to create another profile if you are a complete wanker.
and so many are here to get turned on by the naughty messaging .
less and less people are meeting new people now because the "new people" are fakes a lot of the time. and in general people are getting more rude!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've never had a time waster on here. 5/5 meets over 2 profiles in about a year. So all good. I've had loads nearly fucks whitch are future fucks. But something comes up there end type thing.But at mo I got a Horny as fuck $ugar milf off pof sorting out. Haha step up your levels. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"yes there are more timewasters on here as so many people have commented on .
But when i give reasons why this happens I get bombarded with "each to their own" "we all have a right to be here " etc
Its all to easy to create another profile if you are a complete wanker.
and so many are here to get turned on by the naughty messaging .
less and less people are meeting new people now because the "new people" are fakes a lot of the time. and in general people are getting more rude!
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Well said. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ooooo. Someone can spell. Sorry didn't go brainwash camp aka school. Just as well. Could of been a victim of the curriculum system. Another person with no vision lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Back on subject if a message cost money that would reduce timewasting a lot this used to be the way before the internet was popular by paying to forward a letter to a other person through a contact mag.
it would make people read messages to make sure they were contacting the right cpl or person and make them think twice before saying "hi how are you"
Also I thought the IP Address could be used to stop people just starting a new profile .
One woman on here does it almost every day. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I agree, I've seen a dozen or so people keep coming and going too. They Use the same photos though? Like we can't tell who you are?
Not sure if they get kicked off or just leave every few weeks |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I agree, I've seen a dozen or so people keep coming and going too. They Use the same photos though? Like we can't tell who you are?
Not sure if they get kicked off or just leave every few weeks "
The woman I'm on about used to get kicked off but now seems to preempt it so changes her profile , sometime 3 times a week.
I struggle to see how Fab allows the ip address to be used so many times. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Par for the course in afraid
Happens to us a lot, so we go out with the intention of having a good time anyway regardless
Last let down was a night out in Newport with someone who decided to not show, so we decided to go check out cams
Night definitely improved from there  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Most men message every women on here. Obviously you going get let down from time to time. Just go back to spending your days refreshing your sent box. Desperate as fuck men all over this site. They think just because they on here. All the women want to fuck them.. time wastes is all part of it. Obviously someone beet you to it. No game. |
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"Back on subject if a message cost money that would reduce timewasting a lot this used to be the way before the internet was popular by paying to forward a letter to a other person through a contact mag.
it would make people read messages to make sure they were contacting the right cpl or person and make them think twice before saying "hi how are you"
Also I thought the IP Address could be used to stop people just starting a new profile .
One woman on here does it almost every day."
My Internet supplier provides me with rolling OP addresses, and it's not that uncommon, so unfortunately it's not always a guarantee |
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By (user no longer on site)
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My thoughts for what its worth.
the internet attracts dreamers and bullshitters .. sometimes its hard to tell the difference. lots will like the idea of something .. reality is another fucking thing all together.
there are just as many single fem / male / couple timewasters as each other...
socials - ive been ti one a long time ago... i agree they can help .. BUT i wouldnt shag someone just coz theyve been to one...
also not everyones life / work / kids / wife or husband fits around the socials ..
(that said props to those that put the effort in to organise - a thankless task)
vanilla - if people thin timewasting / leading on / not putting out / telling lies.. / being mental id exclusive to fab .. just think how many times youve been out in the real world and ended up going home alone with a bang of chips for a cry wank???
finally
i have a life and muy time is precious ... so i always turn up.
those that waste my time get blocked.. basic but it works |
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We're so fed up of timewasters contacting us and winking at us when they haven't even read our profile that we have become brutal with the block button.
Seems to make sense. If somebody isn't suitable or doesn't flick your switch, simply block them and they're no longer a problem.
We got tired of politely replying to every message with "Thanks for getting in touch, but you're not what we're looking for sorry" only to be deluged with messages trying to convince us otherwise. |
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Everyone here makes valid points.
For couples in particular I think there is one further point. If we are arranging a meet with guys, we want someone who is prepared to build up to it and give her a good experience. Too many of the single guys are looking for a quick 'shag'.
Sorry not what we are into so we are finding we like having a laugh with like minded couples more. Alternatively going to a club where at least you can 'shop' around is a safer bet than the timewasting that can go on with meets. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Everyone here makes valid points.
For couples in particular I think there is one further point. If we are arranging a meet with guys, we want someone who is prepared to build up to it and give her a good experience. Too many of the single guys are looking for a quick 'shag'.
Sorry not what we are into so we are finding we like having a laugh with like minded couples more. Alternatively going to a club where at least you can 'shop' around is a safer bet than the timewasting that can go on with meets."
Agree 100% about clubs, if no one takes your fancy or no one clicks with you then as a couple you have each other to enjoy the facilities with, we have done this before and had great nights.. |
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"Why do i attract timewasters?"
OP, you have had some good reply's, you are not alone with no shows as a couple we had a few, now we arrange the first meet somewhere that if it turns into a no show our time is not wasted, socials meets are the way for us. good luck and keep trying sure you will meet someone some.  |
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"Why do i attract timewasters?
OP, you have had some good reply's, you are not alone with no shows as a couple we had a few, now we arrange the first meet somewhere that if it turns into a no show our time is not wasted, socials meets are the way for us. good luck and keep trying sure you will meet someone some. "
Awww thank you for the advice |
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